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Hooking up or dating?

Posted by Ria, 15 Jul

Have you encountered more hooking up than actual dating?

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Hooking up is a common thing among most singles… especially those who have been single a little too long… meeting someone at the bar or a friends party and suddenly you are just make out – JUST.

During the post-divorce/post-relationship era, most people find it quite difficult to dip their toes into the dating pond. And with the post-divorce baggage dragging you down, you may find yourself not going on a lot of dates. Not ready. But when you meet someone, maybe at a party, you end up kissing and making out.

For most singles, a hookup is a lot simpler compared to dating (which can be a little exhausting at times). You go on dates if there is potential for the both of you developing a deeper relationship. But when you are looking for just a hookup, some harmless fooling around, then all you need is the hookup. For most, hookups are a substitute to dating especially when you are not really interested in someone as a long-term option.

Does this mean that hooking up has replaced actual dating? Much as most of us would prefer taking this short cut to getting laid, there are those who still date. I guess its all about what you are looking to achieve. So if you feel you are not ready to date, get a hook up once in a while when you feel those hormones raving. Am sure in time, you will bump into someone who might change your mind about dating.

Anyone wanna hookup with moi ;-)

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  1.   bellara says:
    Posted: 05 May 10

    totally, hooking up is replacing dating in so many ways. you talk to someone and ask: how many people are you dating, response: like 4 or 5 question: how many of them have you had sexual relations with (hooking up)? response: like 4 or 5 its almost like dating is the new conservative way of saying hooking up~! word hookup sounds kinda promiscuous (in our society) so dating is the best way to put it (sad but true) some people are yet to understand that dating and hooking up are two different things. dating is exactly what it sounds like>you go on dates with the hopes of building some kind of LTR or STR from there. to each his own -_-

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  2.   cowtoyz says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 08

    free openminded to all lets see the beauty

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  3.   chriso72 says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 07

    Hook ups will cloud your judgement are a waste of time and could leave alot of skeletons that may ruin you later when you have met the right partner.

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  4.   Sammy says:
    Posted: 28 Jul 07

    Sorry but hookups are for those who have no respect for themselfs-and alot of men and women if they know you will do one niters or whatever just for a quick fix won't have anything to do with that person-so i agree with reyne-i'm not gonna settle for less than what i want. I"m not a dog that will sniff anything and everything-and would never trust a woman that did hookups as you call them--here it's just called friends-when they say that around me -i'm gone. I can do bad all by myself!I don't need no help. lol

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  5.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 25 Jul 07

    Welcome to the party, pal!!

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  6.   RayneDelay says:
    Posted: 24 Jul 07

    I am loving that photo of the two kids kissing. LOL

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  7.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 24 Jul 07

    Jade!!! About time you joined the party!!

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  8.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 23 Jul 07

    Oh my! Cocokisses,Fala,& Mossimo a 3some in a tree.LOL

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  9.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 23 Jul 07

    Mossimo and Fala sitting in a tree....hang on a sec, I shouldn't be making fun of myself. Coco??

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  10.   fala says:
    Posted: 23 Jul 07

    Mmmmmmmmmm BBQ sounds great!

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  11.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 22 Jul 07

    On my way Fala!! Ready for a BBQ???

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  12.   fala says:
    Posted: 22 Jul 07

    You know where to find me Mossimo!

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  13.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 21 Jul 07

    Appreciate the help Coco!! Always welcome!! FALA!!! where are you???

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  14.   spaced1969 says:
    Posted: 20 Jul 07

    well its been sooo long since ive had interatial sex....i`l settle for a hook up.....but would prefer regular partner..sex always better after you know wat each other likes..........but NEED BOOTY...lol

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  15.   ladylight says:
    Posted: 20 Jul 07

    When you like someone a lot, on a hookup or a date, you usually end up making out anyway. So how can you tell the difference if its a hookup or a date? Hookin up is a good way to date, you can imediatly tell if the person is good in bed. Cuz what if you wait for 6 dates, end up in bed and it is dissapointing, is this still going to be the person you spend your life with and have dissapointing sex for the rest of your life? It is all in perceptive, hookin up and dating, are you makin a true-false thing out of it?

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  16.   fala says:
    Posted: 20 Jul 07

    Coco - you playing matchmaker again?

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  17.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 19 Jul 07

    Okay you two...don't make me tell y'all to get a room! LOL! You two need to HOOK UP!

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  18.   fala says:
    Posted: 19 Jul 07

    Awwwwww Mossimo - you charmer you! ;-)

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  19.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 18 Jul 07

    See Fala? Moss only has eyes for you :)

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  20.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 18 Jul 07

    How can I resist you Fala?? With ur gorgeous self!!

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  21.   Jabali says:
    Posted: 18 Jul 07

    Making out or dating? This sounds suspiciously like a trick question!

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  22.   fala says:
    Posted: 18 Jul 07

    Come on Coco, who could resist Mossimo??? ;-)

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  23.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 17 Jul 07

    Dang, I need the male contraceptive pill now. ;)

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  24.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 17 Jul 07

    I wouldn't recognize him now! Never checked out his profile...didn't want you mad at me...LOL!

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  25.   RayneDelay says:
    Posted: 17 Jul 07

    Hook ups are a complete bore and disappointment. Waste of time. DON'T DO IT! Go after what you want and don't settle for less. Then you won't have to hook up.

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  26.   fala says:
    Posted: 17 Jul 07

    Coco you mean to tell me you wouldn't recognize Mossimo the morning after????

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  27.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 17 Jul 07

    Interracial hookups?

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  28.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 07

    No hook-ups for me...I like to recognize the person I wake up with the next morning...LOL!

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  29.   fala says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 07

    Hook ups are good once in a while. I wouldn't make a regular habit out of it, but they can be fun every now and then - no strings attached, no complications. And sometimes they even lead to something longer lasting.

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  30.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 07

    Great response Laugh Sailor...there are tons of women looking for a guy like you :)

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  31.   laugh_sailor says:
    Posted: 15 Jul 07

    *Sigh.* Thanks, Ria for the invitation but the things I like about you are mainly intelllectual and are the things I look for in dating. I'd love to be able to have a sexual buddy but I don't think it's possible for me because it's the connection to the person I'm making love with that's most important for me.

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