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Husbands – Super-powers countries?

Posted by Ria, 28 Mar

Are husbands like Super-power countries?

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I was listening to some radio show the other day. And the topic was about husbands who hit their wives. Well some guy called and said he hits his wife as a way of disciplining her. So just to get it all right, this woman calls and asks what women should do to men who misbehave. Well, she didn’t expect the answer that was about to come her way …

Some guy called up and asked if third world countries usually have a say when the US slaps sanctions on them. Better yet, he asked if any of the third world countries slaps sanctions on the super-power countries when they blunder. To him husbands are like the Super-power countries and wives are third word countries.

Question: Does having men as the head of the household mean relegating women to second class citizenship?

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  1.   VA_SongBird says:
    Posted: 19 Jan 09

    I'm with the majority here. There's no justifiable reason for any one to be hitting their spouse. Although the focus is on men. There are documented instances of women abusing their husbands. I think sanctions should continue to be placed on countries which are known for blatant human rights violations which include spousal abuse.

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  2.   coppertop says:
    Posted: 27 Aug 08

    There's no reason for violence in a relationship. If there is, the man or woman inflicting the violence needs counseling. If that doesn't work there is no reason for a relationship period. And while everyone would agree that violence against women is wrong I'd like to add that its wrong the other way around. What radio show was this?

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  3.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 27 Apr 08

    Ok, I think I will be the Soviet Union circa 1962. Any ladies want to play?

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  4.   Nandi says:
    Posted: 20 Apr 08

    fkoi, I agree not much intellect in the "third country vs. super power angle" or even this blog.... Head of household? It is just an out-dated title not an required submission of servitude.. However, I feel for women in domestic violence relationships, because those judging and blaming them have no ideal why they are still trapped in them.. In Texas with those compound people, alot of women/mothers are dishing out the physical abuse to these girls.... the men are just reaping the submission of those physical beatings..This starts at an young age complete with preganancies as early as 11 years old..It doesn't take an einstein to figure out why these young girls to young women do not leave... When the fact remains...Men may have been historically more brutal than women, women have been far more vicious by far...And if a little girls doesn't have atleast one nurturing and strong parent...She too is more than likely to fall into an abusive relationship..Or these mothers on that compound would be turning in all those child molesting men? They would have tried to get themselves and daughters out...So far these women just want them back on that compound. Not justice, not even get out of town ticket with your children... Who really no why a person is physically and emotionally abuse to their partners...I believe they think it is a show of strength, when in fact it is a show of weakness of the mind....

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  5.   fkoi says:
    Posted: 18 Apr 08

    My brother used to say that the difference between the human animal and all others is the ability to rationalize. I can't be "disobedient" to significant other. I could never be with someone who expected obedience from me, especially if physical punishment was threatened (well, okay there may be some circumstances where I would agree to that ;-). Unless they are protecting themselves or others, no one has the right to put their hands violently on another human, male or female (children included). Any one who compares another human to a third world country is probably a third rate intellect and is one I would avoid if at all possible.

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  6.   DEESource says:
    Posted: 02 Apr 08

    LGand2gh I am proud of you. No, I have not walked in the same shoes as physically abused women and will never, BUT... You stood up and will probably continue standing up for yourself. That is wonderful and I am very sorry you had to go through what you did before you gained the strength to confront the "bullies." You should feel great. You also stopped another prospective bully right in his muddy tracks. Stay strong and continue believing that you can stop misbehaving people before they try to use you (for whatever reason) as their physical and emotional "punching bag." You are also correct, men (other species too) send "representatives" as you called it to MISrepresent who they are...in my neighborhood we call them PERPS. Usually they begin with emotional abuse and sit back to wait to see how you react and then they intensify. I know about emotional abusers. I just happened to be a rough and tumble girl and that helped men realize I would not be a candidate for physical abuse, BUT...they did try the emotional thing and that hurts bad too. So...again, I am proud of you. Don't take any of that abusive behavior...physical or verbal. You are a warrior now too now, Sister. DEE

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  7.   LGand2gh says:
    Posted: 02 Apr 08

    We have not walked in this womans shoes.From my experience w/ abuse,it is not some thing that is apparent in the beginning of a relationship,I met his REPRESENTATIVE,and all was well,little by little the facade faded and his true identity came thru.He was very evil,manipulative,lied,stole and cheated.,he said I embarrassed him,I ask myself why,men who abuse are very good at what they do,mind control.I kicked him to the curb,he would come back,he was not stalking,he would find an excuse to be in my life,UNTIL the money ran out.This person is on this online dating service. I have 1 word to say to you ladies.POLAND..Everyday I pray that he gets his.Vengence is mine sayeth the LORD,and he will get his one day.I actually want to thank him for what he did,cause I am stronger,I am a woman of value and worth,and I immediately confront any red flags.I was disrepected by a very very very wealthy man last week at my job,well I kindly let him know I did not appreciate what he said.He was taken aback,and nervous,now when he comes into the store,he is so respectful of me,and a gentleman.He knew he was wrong,he just wanted to see if I would tolerate his ignorance and his attitude towards women.I am not going to give my power away ever again.You know what,it felt great.I am so proud of me.I am 47 and I am just now getting the hang of things,there are things my Mom did not teach me,she was busy w/ her own issues.So I refuse to follow the same path as her.

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  8.   DesertRose09 says:
    Posted: 01 Apr 08

    i do not think that women should be considered second class anywhere. we are the ones that do so much to help men produce families, and run the house because we want to. i personally have always had an aversion to seeing women as second class. i think we are as equal as men, but thats just me

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  9.   Kandy123 says:
    Posted: 31 Mar 08

    As Ms Lady said, Let that man hunt for his teeth on the floor. Well, I dont think that's the only thing he SHOULD be looking for there. Apparently his self esteem and respect of others, whether big or small, is right there on the floor. Personally, the man who thinks to rais his hand to me gonna find that hand on the floor, and if I were ever weak minded enough to let him get away with the first try, you know that a** would try again. I dont wanna say it, but Id have to try some "discipline" my self, and guess what he would find on the floor next, lol. But aside from all the speculating, real men just dont do that sh**. No matter where you from , all of us have had some type of issue stemming from our childhood that have marked us even as adults. Be a man, dammit. Take care of your issues. GET THERAPY. Or go knock urself off. Where do you get off, knocking someone around just because they're smaller and a woman? Pick on a REAL man who's around your size nuh! As far as the abused woman issue goes, I wont say I blame the woman, however, we are ALL adults. If you want to sit in an abusive relationship, your choice. I cannot imagine what the kids in that relationship go thru. I DO know that there are ways to overcome and get out. So again, adults=choices to make for the betterment of your self, and your kids. Ok I'll get off the soapbox, Y'all have a great day Kandy

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  10.   HereIamBaby says:
    Posted: 31 Mar 08

    Countries or bullies.........it's wrong. I think it is alot like being a bigot...it makes you/them feel better then someone else... Women and men should be equal yoked. Someone earlier said that they weren't a child...I don't think big people should hit little people either. It is all out of the question! Southern smiles and world peace, Sharon

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  11.   honey2spare says:
    Posted: 29 Mar 08

    I agree with you sister... if hitting makes one feel all big and all powerful - go to the gym or boxing ring or just find someone your size and gender - controlling or disciplining another adult is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. Only those who are insecure will fall on that excuse, even children deserve better. Just because someone mistreated you is not reason to mistreat others. I do not condone violence of any sort but one should defend and protect oneself and anyone else who is incapable of protecting themselves (children, elderly) from bullies. Peace! Honey

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  12.   DeSource says:
    Posted: 28 Mar 08

    I just have little patience for these issues since I have little patience for people who abuse in general. Women are not children and I never agreed with the head of household concept and never will...that is a setup for trouble, especially for weak minded females. If a man wants to hunt for his teeth on the floor, then let him try any physical abuse on me. Everyone who knows me well knows that it is difficult for me to relate to abused women (even though I feel real bad for them) since I don't fear men...if I feared any it would end up worse for them then it would ever for me. Life is just too hard for all involved. Anyone who makes it harder on another with physical abuse needs a taste of their on medicine (as an adult)...I realize many were abused as children or witnessed. The third world concept would only make sense if you accept that "lower" caste or subordinate place. When you are unable or unwilling to put somebody in place when they hurt you...you will always feel out of place. Not blaming the victim...not at all. If you can't help yourself get someone (strength in numbers) or something (police, restraining order, etc) to help, because the person deserves to be checked. Usually if a person does not fear your uprising, they will always be a threat. All I am saying is that people will do as much as you allow them to do...especially people who are dysfunctional and or just plain mean. If no one is helping or unwilling, please find the strength some where to STOP it...STOP them. Nip that sh@@ right in the bud, you are an adult now...NEVER EVER let anyone physically or emotionally hurt you at will. NEVER...Ya gotta be more like warriors ladies. Life is tough, people are tougher and you must be toughest to survive. Yo---

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  13.   black044 says:
    Posted: 28 Mar 08

    a real man does not hit a woman.he sohuld tke the lead and dispay love and understanding to solve issues

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  14.   ethereal99 says:
    Posted: 28 Mar 08

    Of course hitting is wrong, always, no matter who is doing it. That's just common sense for humans, bible law or not. Men who are so-called head of household still have to respect their partner. I'm sure there are couples who get off on controlling or being controlled. If both parties agree then it's their personal business.

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  15.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 28 Mar 08

    No!! Because the Bible says you should love your wife as you love the church. How could you hit her under that pretense?

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