Menu

Interracial couple fighting – How do people react?

Posted by Ria, 31 May

“What would you do” is the name of ABC News series. And in this particular study, they decided to not only feature how people react to “angry boyfriends verbally abusing their girlfriends in a park”, but also how people would react if the couple was interracial. Their main aim: trying to find out if it would be a race issue.

Do watch...

Find your soulmate on AfroRomance

Join Free

Clearly, it seems women stepped right in … especially in the case of an abusive Caucasian boyfriend and an African-American victim. On the other hand, when the abusive boyfriend was African-American, they intervened, yes; but from a distance. Its like there was some fear.

Beth Perlman, one of the women had this to say: "I definitely think I was weighing in my mind my fear and what was the right thing to do." And the other woman Adrianne Meisler said, "We just knew we had to stay there until the police arrived. That was enough to do in the situation to ensure her safety."

Some men intervened too … a few men. Its like men were afraid that their intervention would somehow fuel a fight.

“Over two days of shooting, we noticed that women seemed less inclined to intervene when the abusive boyfriend was African-American and the victim white,” ABC News reported. This was probably so because stereotypically, African-American men are assumed to be more violent. In this case, race is somehow a factor.

So would the racial composition of the interracial couple influence your intervention?

Related Stories

More Advice Articles

70 responses to "Interracial couple fighting – How do people react?"

Leave a reply

You must be logged in to post a comment.

  1.   Kissime says:
    Posted: 02 Jul 10

    NOPLAYER & Jungle, my heart is content because of your understandings. Forgiveness is a powerful privilege. I say privilege because I believe not all of us can identify this powerful yet fragile gift implanted in us by the almighty. It's amazing how forgiveness can make you or break you. Isn't it ironic this one little action can make such a major difference in our lives? Some of us hold on to hatred. We sometime mistake pain as power. We walk around with so much anger thinking it's strength. We refuse to see the truth, we don't even realize the poison slowly being released in our soul-eating us and oozing through our pores--the deadliest stench of all. I agree at time anger will keep us alive (temporarily), after a while it becomes defense mechanism. But how often do we enjoy the company of an angry person or group of people? If we keep such company we begin to drown in their misery as it manifest itself into us. We either start to waste or find a way to grow; and the latter my friends, is the challenging part. Forgiveness should be so easy, right? Why not? If this gift was graciously implanted in us by the almighty we should all be able to acknowledge it- and put it into effect, right?...wrong. Not all of us are strong enough. And for this reason NOPLAYER (also because of the grief & terror of this unfortunate event), I can understand why tears escaped your eyes. I would like to think I could forgive such a monster. But I know if the opportunity of meeting him ever presented-- he would had been killed by my hands. I can not comprehend her existence after losing her children. My anger would had kept me alive and therefore, my action would had been justified in my mind. All race have done wrong to their own and to other races. It was not righteous then, and it is not righteous now. At time we all need to understand wounds may be fresh for some, especially if their experiences are constantly relived. We all need to understand sometime it may be our insecurities scrutinizing us. Our defense mechanisms at time may peak it's little head too soon. Not everyone is out to get us(speaking for all race.) And when someone shows their ugly side it's best to be the better person, and, walk away. Hatred is never good for the heart and soul...it is toxic. let us all try to be aware of our behaviors. We are not perfect, but it's okay to be kind. I'm far from perfect. I've cracked a few whips. Anger is a part of us, it is a necessary emotion. But try not to let it control us-it becomes a weakness when it consumes our lives. The child of a person who's done wrong to me should not suffer. I too shed tears. Happy 4th of July to all. Please celebrate safely. Do Not get behind the wheel drunk, you may kill someone. And I believe that's premeditated murder. Declaration of Independence on July 4th,1776, from the Kingdom of Great Britain.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  2.   NOPLAYER says:
    Posted: 01 Jul 10

    @ Glock You have the right to your opinion just as I have the right to mine. As a BM that was grown up in the inner city (the hood), there are certain realities that myself and "MOST BM that have also grown up in the inner city understand at face value. I know that all BM have not grown up in the hood but there are still certain realities that just come with the territory. Glock you stated: You may very well have experienced many of the things you mentioned, but so have I in my experience with dating black women. You have the luxury of getting to call it racism and draw sympathy from those you tell your experiences to. I on the other hand am told “It’s not racism” or am told of some other possibility other than what it truely was, racism from blacks, usually black men. Man aint nobody said nothing about being mistreated by BM or WM for dating women from their group. I listed some examples of how I felt that American society places a higher value on the lives of white people and you go off into BM acting racist towards you for dating BW ?????? Now if you wish to present something to counter my statement then cool but to get off into your not so pleasant incounters with BM for dating BW is something else! If it'll make you feel better I'll admit, yeah there are BM that will give you a bunch of flack for dating BW and that goes both ways. To be truthful the things that I described, IMO are not about people hating other people, I see it as people exercising their power. I don't have the typical view of racism as some people. To me racism is and will always be about POWER, a group's ability to get it, maintain it and use it as a means of dominating over other people, if they wish to. It's not about hating someone's skin color, culture, or religion, that's bigotry, now if you have power and you use it to control and dominate other people as a means of elavating your RACE at the exspense of others, now that's RACISM. I don't think one man by himself can be a racist because racism is a team sport, it requires, group effort, the pooling of resourse, strategic and tactical planning and no man by himself is capable of that, he'll need alot of help if he plans to dominate and control a race of people. I don't consider it a luxury to be able to point out the ways in which another man exercises his dominance over me. As far as the BM that have given you a hard time over dating BW, in what way do they prevent you from doing as you please in life? Basically the only power they have is to talk sh&t and be mad! Glock, I'd consider it a blessing to only have to deal with a bunch of mad folks who can do no more than talk trash because that's the extent of THEIR POWER!

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  3.   Glock says:
    Posted: 29 Jun 10

    @NOPLAYER, you are inconsistant at best. You say you refer to your own experiences but then again revert back to "most BM" as if you are speaking for them. You also make statements such as "I don't just say that, the "facts" say so". Really? How so? Who says "society" places a higher value on WW than BW? Are you not a part of society? Are those your feelings? They are not mine. Further, when a black women come up missing they are reported on the news here just the same as the white girls. Are you suggesting the black girls are missing just as much as white girls in equal numbers? I personally have no idea who is missing. What I can tell you is when a perpretrator of a crime is black, they won't give the race, just height and weight, when the bad guy is white, they make damn sure everyone knows he's white. Yes you can have your opinions and I'll have mine. You can criticize mine, I'll criticize yours if I disagree. You may very well have experienced many of the things you mentioned, but so have I in my experience with dating black women. You have the luxury of getting to call it racism and draw sympathy from those you tell your experiences to. I on the other hand am told "It's not racism" or am told of some other possibility other than what it truely was, racism from blacks, usually black men.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  4.   Jungle says:
    Posted: 24 Jun 10

    greatly said Kissme, requardless to the numbers or accoutability, only takes one immature death to wake a thousand sleepers. I think that Kissme really hit the nail on the head.Kissme you are definately not alone when comes to how people view interracial relationships. Wether just or injust everycouple that I ever knew of always has neighbors watching.Meaning is who the couple is and not nessarly who else is watching.Every couple has their hard times....doesn't mean to get abusive. The reason why the couple are a couple is for mutual attration the wanting to be by eachother

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  5.   NOPLAYER says:
    Posted: 23 Jun 10

    @ kissime I saw an documentry on the Rwandan Genocide and they were showing how the country allow the tribal courts to deal with offenders. This court gave the offenders a chance to own up to their evil and they had to go and stand before the family or families of their victoms and confess and then ask for mercy but most of all forgiveness. This man that lived next door to this woman and had killed her husband and 3 of her children and he had to go to the graves here they had the bodies of her loved ones and he had to dig up the remains and wash the bones for a proper burial. This bought me to tears because I'd never seen an act of forgiveness so deep. This woman even fixed this man a plate of food and served him in her home while the interview was going on, I couldn't believe it. They ask this lady how could she feed this man after all he'd done and she said that forgiveness is deeply rooted in their culture and that hatred is poison to the soul. In a world filled with so much bloodshed and evil I learned that day that beauty can be found even after the ugliest deeds.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  6.   Kissime says:
    Posted: 23 Jun 10

    The Rwandan Genocide was the 1994 mass killing of an estimated 800,000 people over the course of approximately 100 days. -In the ongoing genocide, African farmers and others in Darfur are being systematically displaced and murdered. The genocide in Darfur has claimed 400,000 lives and displaced over 2,500,000 people. More than one hundred people continue to die each day; five thousand die every month. -The Holocaust: Adolf Hitler became chancellor of Germany, to May 8, 1945 when the war in Europe ended. During this time, Jews in Europe were subjected to progressively harsh persecution that ultimately led to the murder of 6,000,000 Jews (1.5 million of these being children)The Jews who died were not casualties of the fighting that ravaged Europe during World War II. Rather, they were the victims of Germany's deliberate and systematic attempt to annihilate the entire Jewish population of Europe, a plan Hitler called the “Final Solution” ~If we follow God's guidance we will be better human beings~ -Yes, we've come a long way. -We have a long way to go -Because of our voices and democracy we will succeed

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  7.   Kissime says:
    Posted: 23 Jun 10

    No Player, I understand. I'm A Black Woman and I'm not blind...I know. Glock, I don't think you need testosterone injections. I feel your energy just by reading your statements ;)

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  8.   Glock says:
    Posted: 21 Jun 10

    Kissime, when can I collect on that testosterone injection??? LOL Actually, I have no beef with anyone here. You are absolutely right in your last sentence, everything is not black and white! This "report" is a prime example of that.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  9.   NOPLAYER says:
    Posted: 21 Jun 10

    @ Kissime You're right, everything is not blk & wht. I'm very good at being able to RESPECTFUlLY disagree because people have different points of view based on their interpretation of their own life's experiences, the key word is THEIR OWN. Like others on this board, I can only speak from my own experiences and observations and it's expected that not all will agree and that's fine. When I made my comment about most BM knowing better than to put their hands on a WW, some saw that as a generalization where as myself and most BM see that as the GOSPEL TRUTH. To most BM men that's common knowledge, it's as common as not going in the housing projects after dark if you don't live there! LMAO That's reality as some of us see it and have lived it, while someone else may have a different outlook. I myself and many other BM are well aware of that society places a higher regard on white life than black life, particulary wht females, not because I say so, because the facts say so. When WW or wht girls come up missing it's all over the news, can you say the same about BW? Look at the number of death sentences handed out for the murder of WW over the murder of BW. When you look at the history of racial cleansings (opps, did I let the cat out of the bag) in the U.S. how many were over the alleged assult, rape or murder of WW and how many were over BW. I remember years ago they found this WW's body in an alley in a drug infested neighborhood. This lady was a known drug addict and had been in the area for a few years. She'd been arrested for stealing and prostitution more than a few times. She OD'ed on herione, they did an autopsy and found out she'd been given rat poison and before you could blink, the detectives swarmed that area and they tried to track down the person who had sold or giving her the heroine laced with rat poison. Out of all the BW they'd found dead in vacant houses and allies OD-ing, I'd never heard of an autospy being performed, their deaths were ruled accordingly and the cases was closed. When one of the black detectives stopped in the school yard where we played softball and started asking us questions, I asked him since when did they start investigating the deaths of dope addicts and he replied," normally we don't but this was a WW and somebody has to go down for this!" It was well known that when dealers wanted to get rid of a snitch or a thief they'd lace the dope with rat poison. I used this to show how these events have shaped my opinion and outlook on certain issues pertaining to race in this country. That detective in the schoolyard only reinforced the validity of those "unwritten laws" that I mentioned in my second posting on this topic. I'm sure I'm not the only one that got "the briefing" back in the day before I would leave to drive down south from St. Louis, you know the: stay on the highway, do 5 mph under the speed limit, only stop to get gas, if you get stopped it's strictly yes sir and no sir and be on the highway back to home as soon as you eat breakfast. This is a reality for most BM, regardless of right or wrong, Obama being president, interracial dating and the rest of that good stuff, it is what it is! You're right we do have more in common than not but it's also possible for people to look at the same thing and see something different and that's all right with me. Best Wishes!

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  10.   Kissime says:
    Posted: 20 Jun 10

    Glock & Noplayer...make-nice nice (Alpha male?) No need for testosterone injections. I must admit,I do enjoy giving them...right in the derrière ;) Personally, I would intervene by calling the police immediately(race does not matter)A young man I went to school with was shot to death on the train when he tried to stop a man from beating his girlfriend. (He was biracial- black & white)That night, someone's son, brother, grandson, a friend & humanitarian died. What a tragedy. We are human being. Regardless of the hatreds mentality, I believe change starts with making a choice. Change for a better world is good-believe that. We all have more in common than not...and that's the truth. As a mother of a 4 year old son. My daily thoughts: My son's safety, his health, food, positive mentality, positive influences,college tuition, and the type of man I am raising...a great citizen of the world. Every sane parent's dream- I hope 100 % is similar. Let's agree to disagree- everything is not black & white

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  11.   naturaleblk1 says:
    Posted: 20 Jun 10

    I never look or read these blogs but I could not help watching the video. Yes this is general, but as Chris Rock said, if you're American, you will be general in most context(not exact quote of course)To me it was basically underscoring what they said at the end, men vs women's reactions. I've personally observed women being more involved in that regard so I cannot disagree with these scenarios presented. I would have loved to see the one where the women are the abusive ones and what reactions would come from that. Interesting. I just hope I am a good citizen and act neighborly to anyone in distress, male or female.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  12.   Donitta says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 10

    Go Tina3219!! You are bold. I would have looked and kept my mouth shut. If it got out of hand, I would have called the store manager. That's all.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  13.   tina3219 says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 10

    I was shopping in a store and the couple both white were in my aisle, then went to the counter. He was steadily berating her at the counter. You are fat nothing you buy is going to look right he said. I spoke up and said I didn't want to hear that shit take it outside. And I would do it again. I do not regret what I said. If you do not want anyone in your business then keep it to yourself and do not talk loudly for all to hear.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  14.   Jungle says:
    Posted: 15 Jun 10

    You not only see it happen with interracial couples. It happens with any couple who is emotionaly dependant on the spouse or her to her husband. I feel that an abusive couple are not really in a relationship. A Real realtionship envovles to people who want to be together by attraction, not by dominance. Finding who you are ment to be with doesn't emply that feeling complete means that you are empowered over who you are ment to be with. Yes even the best of any relationships have hardtimes. None of them are abusive. Cause the best of a relationship means that you care enough about the other to ensure the others best interests to make them feel complete. Even in hardtimes, reguardless. I am thinking wether the people in the video really were in a relationship at all. None of the other should have to put up or be an emotional punching bag. Or maybe they just thought they would be good together as a dependant???. Talkintall I hope you aren't ever in a relationship like the video either.Plz don't think or take this video as a stereotype for interrcail couples. Rayne, I have no idea how to reply to your comment. I do feel that with thearpy, and being in the right relationship you will get a better look on couples.You always were a fireyone lol. It isn't what anybody gets out of a relationship. Is what both of you put into a relationship that makes a great couple.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  15.   Glock says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 10

    @ Trysomtony, the only thing is, NOPLAYER said he wasn't talking about 'white' police but police in general. You may be from the deep south and things may happen down there from white cops, but you don't see every incident down there between black males and white cops just the same as black cops and white males. Yes Jenna, very good point. America is a very very race conscious country. Everything seemingly revolves around race, at least when something controversial arrises. Incidents like the fabrications seen in this story is the great divide. Generally speaking, people go to their seperate tents on these issues, rarely looking at the objective evidence and discussing it in a rational manner, instead resorting to hyperbole and sweeping generalizations.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  16.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 10

    If I hurt anyones feelings / Many Apoligy . In the beginning of Our relationship / we saw Ignorance in a Few . In the past 3 + years / many have changed the way they veiw us . There are so Many people who go out of their way to talk with Us now / it seems Most people Enjoy seeing Us together . Change is Abundant and I veiw problems with very little concern now . Think it may be the type of places couples frequent that make unpleasant situations occur . Life is Marvelous for us , Hehe .

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  17.   WHURR says:
    Posted: 11 Jun 10

    @SnazzyBella Cha-Cha-Cha-Chia

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  18.   Jenna says:
    Posted: 09 Jun 10

    Why is race such a big issue for Americans? I am not saying that it isn't for other countries,but it is like religion for you guys! What is the big deal,people are people,we date,we procreate,we eat, we sleep we live and we die! Geez lighten up on the negatives and just live! May the blessings be!

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  19.   TrySumTony says:
    Posted: 09 Jun 10

    Well I will have to say the video of the scenarios was entertaining to say the least but one thing we should remimber is that in diffent parts of the country things could have got a whole nother way then a suburban park like that. Guys i'm from the deep south an i feel first hand what NOPLAYER was aiming at and sad but true he is right about the hitting of a white female and the retaliation from white police and the judictional system as a whole at least in the south! I don't believe in hitting a woman and in my belief only a coward would do so!I think in a sence we all could get sumthing from this an what those few woman did which is always do our best to help one another black or white, man or woman whenever we can!

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  20.   Teetee1117 says:
    Posted: 09 Jun 10

    Well I just watch the clip and it's very sad that most people can just walk away and watch someone else being hurt or about to be. No matter what color they happen to be.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  21.   Snazzybella says:
    Posted: 08 Jun 10

    @whurr zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  22.   Glock says:
    Posted: 07 Jun 10

    @NOPLAYER Interesting observations. As far as the DA's, judges etc. yes I have heard that and read that in many sources. As far as the black cops beating black males more zealously than the white males do, hmmm for some reason I have not heard anyone say that.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  23.   bellara says:
    Posted: 07 Jun 10

    preach on NOPLAYER

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  24.   NOPLAYER says:
    Posted: 07 Jun 10

    Ladies, just try your best not to get caught up in a situation like this and hopefully no one will have to rescue you from NO MAN! 1) Make your first date a trip to the gun range and show him just how deadly your marksmanship skills are. 2) Be sure to take him to meet all of your male relatives at the cookout to serve as a reminder of who he'll have to deal with should he ever put his hands on you. 3) Last but not least, know that verbal abuse is closely related to physical abuse and if he'll curse you out, he'll knock you out! Protect yourself so nobody else will have to risk getting hurt to protect you!

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  25.   BrownB09 says:
    Posted: 06 Jun 10

    Im no mindreader, all I can do is look and give my general perception of what I see. In any case, black, white hispanic, asian, indian... if I see someone getting abused....I will do my best to intervene. It is upsetting when people use race as a reason not to be bothered when it clearly shows someone is in distress. Ive gotta say, if it was for example.... MY neighborhood an all black noeghborhood and there was a couple fighting, a majority of the spectators would have sat there and not did a damn thing!!!!! I see it too many times....my point is lets not assume that we know whats going in the minds of others.....brings more tension and angst in my opinion. if we worry about what others think or feel,it surely wont help make the situation better. Indeed the video was quite interesting.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  26.   ojpj says:
    Posted: 06 Jun 10

    color should not be an issue preception is also a question no one want to get hurt trying to help soo my deal is fear of being hurt helping a stranger is common reaction. There are a lot of hero's that will put them selves in harms way to save some one color should not be an issue

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  27.   ojpj says:
    Posted: 06 Jun 10

    This is a tuff one I was in an abusive relationship where people thought it was entertaining my point is Hell at least call the police if you are to afraid to help. Thank God I am free of that

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  28.   shotgun007 says:
    Posted: 06 Jun 10

    Glock I hear you loud and clear and I fully understand the point that your making. shotgun

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  29.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 06 Jun 10

    Ria ; This is a very successful site for matching inter-racial couples / it worked for us and many others . Yet your Blog Topics continue to single out People Racially / Motivation in Possitive thoughts may constitute change . We changed from Single to Married due to meeting online with Afro-Romance introducing us , Thank you

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  30.   Jenna says:
    Posted: 05 Jun 10

    @Whurr Omg, I would so love to see your proposed scenarios play out!LOL

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  31.   NOPLAYER says:
    Posted: 05 Jun 10

    @ Glock Being from a large city where the police force is mixed and not exclusively white, I would have been wrong to say; "the white police will beat a BM ass for putting his hands on a WW!" If the police force was all white then I could come out and say "them white cops" because they would make up the entire force but thats not the case. As far as black cops taking a part in that beating there's no doubt in my mind that they'd (black cops)take part in it. It's sad but true, I've seen black cops beat other BM more worst than white cops and I've known black district attorneys and judges to slam black offenders way harder than white ones, so I cant exclusively paint all white law officals with an evil stroke because I know better and thats why I wouldn't single out white cops! @ homesteader Why must you personally attack me instead of attacking my points, as an intelligent person would. If you disagree then come out and state your reason for disagreement and attack from there but you have to resort to name calling and thats cheap. Peace

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  32.   RayneDelay says:
    Posted: 05 Jun 10

    So what's the point of this story if in both senario's someone came to the defense of each "victim?" Just to remind us that people fear Black men? There is no great revelation there.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  33.   bellara says:
    Posted: 05 Jun 10

    from personal observation when people see interracial couple fighting man(black)woman(white or non-black): the man is labeled a thug, woman beater, con man (white)woman(black): the lady is labeled a ho and deserving of such treatment if the woman is good looking, dressed a little risque or not conservative enough: she's a slut who must have done something to receive such treatment (which the man is apparently giving to her) if she's not so good looking or conservatively dressed: the crowd might show a little sympathy (keyword: might)

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  34.   Glock says:
    Posted: 05 Jun 10

    @ NOPLAYER, the ethnicity of the police doesn't matter, however when you make a statement saying that "As black males most of us know that "unwritten" law...there will be hell to pay". What I was attempting to do (very unsuccessfully I might add) was ask you to clarify if you are saying that when a black male goes down to the police station, after having assaulted a white woman, would black police officers ( I can't believe I have to spell this out for you!) take part in a beating of the black man who was brought into the station.....OR....would the beating take place by only the white officers? Since you did in fact say "police" I must assume that you meant ALL officers of all races. So black police would also engage in the beating of the black male involved in the assault of the white woman... To be honest NOPLAYER, I believe I know exactly what you meant. My opinion of what you were trying to say (but still avoid saying) is that the white police were going to give him a beating, that being your "we know as black men". Since you didn't say that, your statement as I understand it is that ALL officers will be the black man back at the station. @gjones66216, I'm not sure if you're referring to me since I did not think the "report" was a conclusive report. ABC said the taped for 2 days, (which in my opinion still falls WAY short for a scientific analysis) then condensed it into barely 4 minutes, showing barely :30 seconds of the BM/WW fight. Yes I agree, I saw the tape, but the tape tells us NOTHING! It wasn't even worth the effort to put it on TV since it gives misleading information. Wouldn't it be interesting to see the whole two days tape just to see what else happened. Wouldn't be the first time a network withheld video because it would portray the situation differently than it wanted to represent to the public.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  35.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 04 Jun 10

    Of course I could be incorrect / depending on what " BM " and " WW " stand for in your comments , Noplayer . Maybe you are refering to Bowel Movements and World Wars .

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  36.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 04 Jun 10

    As a Gentleman ; My belief would be that if a Boy lays a hand on a Ladie in anger / May the Police beat the living Shit out of him . Just my opinion / who cares what color they are ? Noplayer ; I have seen your Bigotry opinions for years now / Lighten up .

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  37.   gjones66216 says:
    Posted: 04 Jun 10

    What do you mean 'not accurate'? You see it on the tape. The conclusion may not be accurate, but there is no refuting what we see in the video. I've been a bouncer. At 6'0", 275lbs, I do set an imposing figure to many (especially my daughter's suitors). I would stand there to inhibit any further physical abuse while calling the police on my handy dandy cell phone. If either party handles the other, I'll likely intervene to break it up.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  38.   whurr says:
    Posted: 04 Jun 10

    In order to be more realistic, they need to broaden the horizon with a multitude of combinational stereotypes. The whole black-white issue = BORING!! They should have tried the following: Chinese man beating a Cherokee female. A clown with balloons kicking a midget. (Might be bad because we all smile when a midget enters the room) An Eskimo attempting to burn a penguin. A serial killer slicing a child molester. Finally....... An Obama supporter throwing rocks at an Ann Coulter fan.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  39.   NOPLAYER says:
    Posted: 04 Jun 10

    @ Glock Why does the ethnicity of the police matter? My original point was "THE POLICE" and I'll leave it at that. Trust me Glock, I'd have no problem naming a particular ethnic grouup if that was my aim but it wasn't. I hope I clarified myself.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  40.   Glock says:
    Posted: 03 Jun 10

    @ NOPLAYER, you should re-read your post then and clarify (your 4th paragraph). Yes I did mention race, but I was asking a question, which you didn't answer. I will again ask the question, are you saying then black males will get a "beating" back at the station from "the police" (your words) OR, the white police (my words). Also, I want you to clarify, are you insinuating that BM understand they will get a beating by both black & white police, or only white police? If this is the case, it certainly would have been very interesting journalism to let the black man, white woman senario play out longer than just 30 seconds to SEE what the police would have done. I think when you make sweeping generalizations like you did, clarification isn't unreasonable to ask for.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  41.   NOPLAYER says:
    Posted: 02 Jun 10

    @ Glock I said "the police", I never mentioned ethnicity, you did! I said "once they got him down to the station", the police know better than to do their dirty work out in the open. I don't think that EVERY cop is just iching for the chance beat a BM should he attack a WW but as black males most of us know of that "unwritten" law that says; "don't put your hands on a WW and if you do you'll pay a hell of a price!" Right or wrong, this is a reality that most BM understand, regardless if this women lives on Park Ave (NY) or a park bench, she's still a WW and you'd have to be a nut to put your hands on her. You should never put your hands on any woman but we know as a BM you'll pay a greater price for putting your hands on a WW.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  42.   shotgun007 says:
    Posted: 02 Jun 10

    Well, I did intervene when I was walking through the parking lot, getting off from work. I witnessed a guy and a lady fighting each other (co-workers), clearly the man was over-powering the woman at the time. As I saw my other male co-worker reach out to grab the guy and pull him away from this lady, I grabbed the lady. And yes between all of the cuss words,fist flying, kicking.... I got hit as well. As far as the study goes, ...I would question the validity of this entire clip. Seems a little desperate to sway viewer opinions to me. Shotgun

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  43.   Glock says:
    Posted: 02 Jun 10

    NOPLAYER, what if the cops that are responding are black? Or are you assuming that the cops are going to be white? And with all the cameras around anymore, they would have to be fools. They would make the BM a rich man. I trust cops about as much as the next person, very little, but come on, not every cop is looking to beat a black man because he assaulted a white woman.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  44.   ElGringo says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 10

    They should have done a scenario with the women physically attacking the men. I guarentee no one would intervene. Most likely the outside spectators would have found it entertaining and humurous.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  45.   Ria says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 10

    @Glock, Great analysis and points you got there!

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  46.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 10

    called ; Disturbing the Peace

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  47.   takinitall says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 10

    This is so funny! I'm sure no black person intervened. I feel so bad saying that I wouldn;t get involved. Why? She's not going to leave, I could get hurt and worse she will take his side. I have friends who are in abusive relationships, that i've had to end communication with. Ithurts like hell to see someone you love get hurt and there is noothing you can do to help them. I pray God doesn't send me a abusive partner.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  48.   NOPLAYER says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 10

    Would the racial make up of the couple influence my decision to intervine. No, not at all. If the woman is fighting to get away from the man; she's throwing punches, kicking and screaming then I'll go out of my way to assist the woman because I know she's trying to get away and she's trying to defend herself. I try to help those who try to help themselves first. It's dangerous to get into lover's quarrels because I've personally experienced where the woman ended up helping the guy jump on me. I've known cases where women defended her man once the police arrived or they ended up back with him, so it's a no win situation as far as I'm concerned. I couldn't see no BM with any kind of sense in his head, getting aggressively physical with a WW in a public park because he knows the police would never get finished beating the hell out of him once they got him down to the station. I think 99.9 % of BM know better abd if not they'd learn real quick! LMAO The best thing to do in that situation would be to stand back and tell the guy, "I'm calling the police, they're in the area on bikes and smile mutha fu*ker you're on camera" and more than likely he'll back off. If the woman aint fighting like hell to get away from the guy, it cant be all that serious.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  49.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 31 May 10

    Verbal abuse by a boyfriend in Public Domain / Shows what kind of Ass he is . Staying in sight for support - using cell phone to call authorities . Media attension of other peoples business / Shows that they have nothing better to do than interfer with peoples lives . If no physical contact is made / Better to mind your own business / The third person who gets involved is the one who gets caught and incarcerated .

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment
  50.   Glock says:
    Posted: 31 May 10

    What does this "report" show anyway? First of all a "report" of 4 minutes and 11 seconds proves and demonstrates nothing except that ABC is trying to persaude us to a particular opinion. From my observation they showed the white guy/ black women senario from :39 seconds to the 2:54 minute mark. Well over two minutes of that senario. They showed the black guy/ white woman senario from the 2:54 minute to the 3:22 minute mark, barely :30 seconds!! Of the people who intervened how many were black? Infact I didn't see anyone black there except for the black actor! As the story indicates above: "Over two days of shooting, we noticed that women seemed less inclined to intervene when the abusive boyfriend was African-American and the victim white...This was "PROBABLY" so because "STEREOTYPICALL", African-American men are assumed to be more violent." Ok, then were is the "two days" of shooting?? If this is so relevant why only barely :30 seconds of air time? Also, I'm sorry but in research that is trying to be "scientific" you can't say "probably". There are a hundred "probably's" that we can assume here. They "probably" intervened with the white man because they didn't perceive him as much as a "threat" in that senario. They "probably" didn't perceive the level of violence at that same degree from the white man at the same level of violence as the black man. To me, the black man was much bigger, and much more aggresive. Where was the video from the reactions from black passersby? The video was only from white people that happened by... The women who stpped in may have been in abusive relationships in the past or knew someone who had and wished someone had stepped in for them at some point, and this was their chance. There are to many "what if's". This report was set out to have a conclusion that was based on race. They got what they wanted, it's just not accurate.

    Like or Dislike: or 0 (0)
    Reply to this comment

Advice

Find your soulmate on AfroRomance

Join Free

Coaching Testimonial

"My online love inspiration angel"

Submitted by: Patricia, USA, 21

To be honest, in the beginning, I thought it would be a waste of time. But since I've never seen a similar service in any other dating site, I decided to give it a try.

I always "thought" my profile was on point and I did not need any help to correct my page. I always had in my profile if someone is not attracted to my profile, then that's "their" loss.

BOY WAS I WRONG!!

I will never forget my first time using the Coaching Service I was introduced to my personal Dating Coach. Let me put it this way, if it was not for her I would have given up long time ago (even though I'm a new member).

She taught me so many things and gave me good advice, I did not want to stop chatting with her at all.

She opened my eyes to many possibilities when finding love. She is definitely an inspiration and I appreciate a whole lot. She is more than a Dating Coach to me; she is more of a close friend/guide to me. She is definitely my "online love-inspiration angel".

Find out more

Most Popular

Your Comments

Site links