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Marriage and society

Posted by Ria, 11 Feb

Do social surroundings have anything to do with who you end up marrying (same race/interracial)? How so?

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  1.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 29 May 09

    In more ways than one , Hehe .

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  2.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 29 May 09

    Traveled 48 States and Canada , had to come home to rest / Found this site in my daily computer journeys around the world and a Beautiful Ladie who said " Yes " when I asked for her hand in marriage over two years ago . As socially I have lived over half my life on the North side of R.R. Tracks and locals I knew close to home all lived on the Wrong side of the Tracks .

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  3.   ethereal99 says:
    Posted: 29 Feb 08

    I don't know, Abu, PMMS is one letter away from PMS, = negative vibes, man. Aw, heck what was that number again? ok - back to the question, as long as social conditions in your location are not too extreme, then people will find who they like regardless of race. I can see areas of the world where your choice of mate is not available, in that case, you have sites such as this & can always relocate. I have been in relationships varying widely in age difference, size, weight, financial status & of course race. It's never been a problem, yeah, people will look when you go out to dinner or shopping but who cares. If anyone voices their dislike then they will get it back from both of us !

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  4.   jewel65 says:
    Posted: 16 Feb 08

    Where I live, London, it is not uncommon to marry someone so they may get permanent residency in the UK. This is either done as a no-physical-contact business transaction for large amounts of money, or as a result of dating an immigrant and not wanting to lose them. Because of the fear of deportation, many people will do anything to marry a resident, including duping one in to marriage whilst still having a relationship with someone who is not able to offer them marriage. There is only a limited amount of time to convince someone to marry you until your student visa runs out. I married my Japanese husband so he could stay here, and our marriage was very happy for 10 years, with two children to show for it. My long-term boyfriend (West Indian) boyfriend married his (West Indian with British residency) wife so he could stay here, while we were still in a relationship. This has caused all manner of problems. So, yes, society definately influences who marries whom, and as long there are foreigners who wish to reside in the UK, there will be many marriages which otherwise would not happen. This can be both a good and a bad thing.

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  5.   crystied says:
    Posted: 15 Feb 08

    I have to agree with Tigerlillies, she wrote: "I guess the younger you are the less those things matter. Or if you're just an average person, not high society or in a prominent job. I think that you probably see it more then. Getting better, but still…" While I don't date only outside of my race...As a black woman in middlemanagemet in a VERY conservative industry... I have found there ARE certain expectations (maybe it is more so for women)and those include mixing it up professionally but showing up to company social gatherings with someone of the same race...It can be uncomfortable, for my date... If I go alone people seem to be more comfortable... show up with a white man... people are dismayed it seems.... And forget about leaving him alone, he'll be cornered and questioned to death ! Funny in a sad way... But I notice the same strange look on faces when peope come to my office for the first time and see the photo on my desk (from my graduation) of me and an white woman old enough to be my mother... A look a the photo, then to me ,back at the hoto... a tiltling of the head... It never fails to happen. I have the photo there becuase it's important to me and provides me with the reminder I sometimes need to leave other people with their thoughts on race... I know a lot about the woman I am today because of the woman in the photo...and like she is family or any other loved one I keep her picture. "PC" keeps the peace sometimes, I know pople want to know if that's my mother...but they dare not ask ! She is not... but when I'm with my mother I can't even count how many times strangers have asked if we are related ! ( we are not "matchy" enough for some it seems... My point is there some are people who are just not happy unless we are all "matchy-matchy" and "stick to our own". I'm sticking to tthose already in my life that I vare about and the man that a may choose to be with, without regard to race... I'll leave the required "matchy-matchy" to the bigots !

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  6.   cocokisses says:
    Posted: 15 Feb 08

    I think that's where they will find Osama...

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  7.   fala says:
    Posted: 14 Feb 08

    PMMS - What a great name for a dating site! I'm heading there now. LOL

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  8.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 13 Feb 08

    I cannot believe he placed an ad here...nothing is sacred anymore! They really should remove that...

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  9.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 13 Feb 08

    Guess I should check out the Muslim Singles site since I answered yes to all those

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  10.   Abu says:
    Posted: 13 Feb 08

    Are you a practicing Muslim seeking to complete half your deen? Have you been unable to find a suitable partner by conventional means? Do marriage events leave you disappointed and out of pocket? Are you tired of trawling so-called 'Muslim marriage websites'? Disillusioned and frustrated by the jaahil and insincere people who frequent these places? If you have answered YES to any of the above then the Practising Muslims Marriage Service is here for you! The PMMS is a marriage facility and knowledge base that has been created to cater for the needs of practicing Muslims. As a consequence of our changing societies and the influx of reverts to Islam, many Muslims today do not have access to the traditional means of finding a life partner. The PMMS has been created to fill this gap and facilitate the coming together of like-minded Muslims in an environment free of the dangers of existing Muslim matrimonial websites and marriage events. For more information or to register please visit our website Muslim Marriage, Muslim Singles

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  11.   sockey says:
    Posted: 13 Feb 08

    I'm 18 I can say that nothing would ever change my feelings for the man in my life right now. I come from a city who is 5% black to a city that is about 45%black. When i took my boyfriend back home for the holiday everyone looked at me like is she stupid but you know what they can feel and put whatever feelings they have towards me on that because no matter what anyone has to say about it im not leaving him. MY friends dont like him my parents dont like him there is no subjecct that could change the outcome of this relationship which is soon to be marriage.

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  12.   nfl24 says:
    Posted: 12 Feb 08

    It shouldn't matter but society has us brain wash in believing that we need to stay around your own area. It's a shame that society does this. For the people that don't and have an open mind will get more out of life.

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  13.   tigerlilies says:
    Posted: 12 Feb 08

    I guess the younger you are the less those things matter. Or if you're just an average person, not high society or in a prominent job. I think that you probably see it more then. Getting better, but still... :-|

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  14.   HereIamBaby says:
    Posted: 11 Feb 08

    If you are in Italy...the chances that you will marry an Italian are better then if you lived in South Dakota Black Hills area! Of courseit makes a difference. I can remember not long ago that there was no racial lines crossed...now that is not so. Good luck in your search. Southern smiles and world peace, Sharon

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