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My King…My Queen

Posted by Ria, 27 Aug

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Have you ever been given the royalty treatment by a spouse? Has someone ever said to you ‘Hon… how about a foot massage’ after you worked out? What about breakfast in bed … something so scrumptious; the smell just makes you open your sleepy eyes? How about those cards that say little yet enough to send you to tears? Or perhaps a gift that made you gasp?

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It’s so amazing to be loved, appreciated, and honored. Thing is for most of us, such things don’t come easy … and when they do, it’s probably short-lived.

So what can you do to change all that … have him or her treating you like royalty? Simple…

Treat your partner like royalty every single day.

I am sure you are like … yeah right. What would that accomplish? How will that possibly make my partner as thoughtful and generous as moi? Well… it can.

There was this amazingly beautiful chick that had trouble keeping men … NO SUCCESS in that arena. When asked what she does for a guy on a date that makes him want to see her again, she went "I don't know. They're just lucky they get to have my company." Then she giggled. "I don't mean it like that. But let's face it: every man wants to be in the company of a beautiful woman."

True dat. But besides her looks, what was she bringing to the table? "I'm intelligent, hardworking, and successful. I come from a good family, I'm spiritual, and I'm a loyal friend," she said. But big Q is: how does that benefit your date?

Thing is being an amazing person don’t really matter. What matters is how you treat him. Imagine the kind of work a guy puts on the date: make plans, pick you up, open doors, compliment your looks, ask you questions, show his attraction to you, indicate his long-term interest, grab the check. What exactly do us women for guys on dates? Do we really make them feel special? Do we even smile broadly and look him in the eye when they speak? Do we bother to ask about their career?

You may know exactly how you want to be treated by your partner but do you put any thought into how to treat your partner? It's not about doing what you'd expect someone to do for you; it's about doing MORE. It’s about giving without a care. It’s about thinking about how to be MORE thoughtful, MORE generous, MORE complimentary … MORE! And when you set the bar this high, your spouse will have no choice but to jump it. I mean, it's hard not to give when you receive so much.

Your generosity, your loving, your kindness will rub on to them and make them better spouses. It’s possible to change other people just by being kinder and more respectful to them. And this works universally … on dates, in business and even with those unruly family members every family wishes away.

So if you want to be treated like a princess, start treating your dates and spouses like kings and vice versa. You hold the key to your own castle. Royal treatment starts with you my lord … or lady.

Best wishes …

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  1.   Bellara says:
    Posted: 28 Apr 10

    preach! a lot of men stop paying compliments, picking up after themselves, surprising their other half, calling or things of that nature the moment they "nail" the girl. some of them feel like when you are just dating, you have to give it your all to impress the girl, but once you get her (either in a relationship, committment or so) there is no more need to try to impress her, after all she's all yours now so why bother? same goes for girls. if your man met you as a sexy chick, you dont wanna stop those sexy dress ups or sexy voicemails you used to leave on his phone just because you are now together. telling him how he's impacted your life positively won't hurt either. this doesn't mean that relationship is all about the physical, its much more than that! but a combination of words and action will take you far. some people pros are professing their affection (i love you w/all my heart, my soul, my life...blah!) and some are pros at showing affection (they buy you everything that makes you smile). the problem remains the same>you gotta combine action and words to create something powerful. I want to SEE how much you care! I want to HEAR how much you care, that way i'll be able to FEEL it!

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  2.   smiletellsit says:
    Posted: 02 Nov 09

    @17Tigers, Thank you for your great words. You summed it up perfectly. Someone who you naturally want to do for, a best friend, open and honest. I agree. That makes the choice really easy. A natural coming together. I've taken huge risks and just opened my heart, but now, I must admit I am wiser, I agree that it is just a natural happening that you can't force, push, cajole, encourage or manage. It just happens. Thanks again for sharing your words. All the best to you and your sweetie!!!

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  3.   SnazzyBella says:
    Posted: 30 Oct 09

    I have always been treated like a queen in any relationship that I have had. I do not go into demanding it rather I go into it being myself. Apparently, just being me deserves to be treated like a queen. Personally, I think that is the way to go. Just be yourself.

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  4.   dawnmarie123 says:
    Posted: 07 Sep 08

    Well i hope there are people out there who would do that for the person that they were with otherwise like myself i have never experienced the anything quite that true, it doesnt come easy. Be be appreciated,honoured and loved would definately be haven of peace and happiness as it is what each and everyone one of us deserve whatever the race.

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  5.   morninflower says:
    Posted: 06 Sep 08

    I would hope this would be a no brainer for anyone that is genuinely out to find true love or has found true love and therefore treating your lady or your man like a king/queen should be effortless. It is so to do that..it really is. It could be anything from noticing a new haircut or simply taking the time to listen and really hearing what your girl/guy has to say. It really doesn't take much. Unfortunately, some people will take acts of kindness as signs of weakness and take advantage - such is life - I think we have all encountered takers in our lives; the "ME..ME..ME's" as I like to call them - it's sad! BUT! thank goodness there is someone crazy enough to put up with each of us.. we just need to find them uh? - on that note - Congratulation 17Tigers! I wish you guys all the best! @Ulynn – I hear that you are saying and can relate on many levels but – I choose to look at the past hurt, disappointments as just that – “The Past”; that does not mean that I am naïve or blinded by the existence of selfish, calculating and manipulative people – No.. I have room for them too-but only to propel me to the arms of my prince charming. You are such a great looking girl! And with a heart like that, trust me – there is someone out there that will appreciate you for the superwoman that you are! All the best to you! Great article Ria!

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  6.   ButterBee says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 08

    Guys, in life we have got to be givers,This is for both sides the man and woman ,if we do not give to each other then nothing will ever work out.Giving is part of communication and its a two way thing so if its only the man giving then it doesnt make any sence. But it turns out beautiful when both give ,it builds the relationship, Thanks for this article is amazing.

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  7.   MsGsmiles says:
    Posted: 01 Sep 08

    I have to say I enjoyed your article. Some things you said were on point but there are times when you are with someone who has no clue as to what they want or respects how you are trying to allow them to be the king. It is a wonderful feeling when you can smile broadly letting that man know he is the one for you and he appreciates the things you do for him unconditionaly, just because you enjoy doing them. There are a lot of people that only think of themselves and what they can get, not cool

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  8.   17Tigers says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 08

    I think it is really about respecting your partner and your partner respecting you. I met my girl on this site and we both genuinely want to do for each other. It is in both of our natures to romance the one we love so that is partially how we get our own pleasure. It took me until now to find that person who just wanted to be in love, be my best friend, and come at me open and honest. I too have tried to deal with high maintanence types, selfish types, pple who don't know who they are, pple who don't want what you want and broken pple. Broken pple will do you wrong no matter what you try and or do for them. If being nice to pple and treating them with kindness was all there was to it the world would be a much easier place to live. Kindness is important but so is intelligence and the ability to converse about all the things couples have to do when things get serious. Finances, real estate, travel, the types of pple you each hang with, politics, religion and living styles. Compromise and the places where each of you will compromise without sacrificing who you are as a person is an important forever together concept. For me I was willing to be hurt and take a risk. That being said I had a good idea of the kind of woman I was looking for and lucky for me she crossed my path here on this site and I seized the moment. Ironically I missed one thing in her profile that would have closed the door on contacting her... I am so carefull about details and there is no way I would have missed such a thing either. Grand design? I have no other explanation. So if you pair yourself with the wrong person, no matter what you do, it will not last. It is not supposed to. It tells you to look harder for the one you naturallly want to do for and that naturally wants to do for you.

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  9.   latrelle says:
    Posted: 30 Aug 08

    It always amazes me how the solutions to problems with relationships between two adults (male and female) always seem to require women to do most of the work. Why should we be the ones to initiate or accommodate any form of kindness or sweet gestures of affection? Why can't men do that as well? Do they have some inherent flaw that prevents them from doing so? Has chivalry indeed died? Many of us ladies have given repeatedly of themselves, and yet there are members of the opposite sex who seem to have this expectation of being catered to continually. It's almost as if their actions (or lack thereof) stems from a Master-Slave mentality. As I recall, God created us all "equal". In my last relationship with a "sweetarte", I was the Giver and he, unfortunately, took selfishly. How does that spell RECIPROCATION? Let's face it: some men are, and will continue to be, Takers... no matter what. I've now made the choice to live and love my single life... simply because I realize I don't *need* a man to fulfil who it is that I am. I simply refuse to cast my precious pearls before swine (or dogs, as the case may be)...

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  10.   Ulynn says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 08

    I found this fascinating, but my question is, what if you continue to treat you partner like a king/queen and that person is just a taker, when is enough, enough? I’ve been single for 4 years because I have been in taking relationships. I’ve been the loyal and caring woman and believe me, it didn’t work for me. I was looked at as being soft....I'm anything but soft.

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  11.   Emailme says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 08

    I usually don't read these, I don't know why I don't. However, I would say that what a person would be doing to some extent is "game playing." If the propose to do manipulate your partner into "treating you like a queen" as a response to you "treating him like a king" then that's game playing and should not be a part of a loving relationship. Please let me explain. I love my children, when they were young I gave them baths, haired their hair, cooked and served them food, hugged them rubbed oil on them after a bath and even changed their diapers. LOL. But I NEVER asked for anything in return. I never expected ANYTHING in return. That's the difference. If I showed my man love and effection and pampered him it's because I want him to know just how much I love him. If I'm doing it to get something, I'm not showing love I'm expecting a reward or pay and that's not love. If he does the same for me then he is showing me that same love. But if he doesn't I can't be disappointed or it was all a game. So for me I do show appreciation for my man and if I want it in return and he is not, I come straight out and tell him, I don't expect for him to read my mind as I can't his. "Baby I would love for you to hold me, or give me a message or rub my feet or legs". Then if he has a problem I know there's something wrong with our relationship. But if I demonstate my love for him everyday and he does the same automatically then great, if he doesn't and I ask and he does, super and we didn't do it with "game playing" and "manipulation". We did it for love. Sometimes the greatest love is the result of common sense and unselfish caring.

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  12.   FireStorm says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 08

    Not necessarily true! So many times, unfortunately, the person you are so giving towards, doesn't give anything in return, and worse yet, comes to expect it all the time, thinking he is entitled to it...plain & simple, he takes advantage of your love and kindness.

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  13.   Pia65 says:
    Posted: 28 Aug 08

    Wonderful article! I agree and was amazed at how well my late hubby treated me when I treated him like a king. Nowadays when I go out on a date I get a weird look.......like "what do you want"? from the guy....as though I've got an agenda! I just think that anyone you are with should be treated well.....OR...(It makes me wonder)...Maybe they've got the adgenda.

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  14.   SpeckledDove says:
    Posted: 27 Aug 08

    This is so true!Everyone deserves to be treated in a special way with true royalty.Everyday we must give more.We need to give even when there's nothing in it for us.To love our partners,even when we may not feel loved by them for if we have chosen to love them, then we must give them love, make sacrifices for them, compliment them, and surround them with happiness.Our company should be a haven of peace, joy and love!This much they deserve.

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