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No interest in sex

Posted by Ria, 22 Feb

Sometimes people – women especially – reach this age when they get tired and just plain NOT interested in sex.

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Well there is this woman who has been married for over 20 years and much as sex wasn’t a top priority in their marriage, it’s pretty much off the list for her now. Well she definitely worries about her starved hubby.

Is it ok to delete sex from your to-do list? Any suggestions for the starving party?

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  1.   jonny says:
    Posted: 07 Aug 10

    Here's another option, Ive been having sex with my sleeping wife now practically every night for the past 18 years. She went off sex soon after we were married, She has not felt the feeling of sex now for many years as when it takes place she is in deep sleep, She says she does not miss sex at all and has no problem with me stimulating away the stresses of the day for an hour or so in her sleeping body. We find this situation to be the best for both of us, she does not knowingly have to give me any sex and I can use her sweet wet cunt as a reciprocal for my sperm every night.

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  2.   brownspot says:
    Posted: 04 Aug 10

    man and woman cant stay without sex because it's essential to our health,but there is no good relationship without good sex,wether she is bbw or slim what matters is what's inside of that person.

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  3.   jonny says:
    Posted: 04 Aug 10

    A woman without sex is like a broken pencil... pointless.

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  4.   Girlstar7 says:
    Posted: 31 May 09

    To Jewel65: I just read your comment that was june 2008 and I really had a good laugh. Women can loose interest for those reasons and if he can't kiss and has bad breath (lol). I really had a good laugh, if you ever read this I 'd love your feed back.

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  5.   reecey says:
    Posted: 31 May 09

    I am a woman who has been married for 33yrs, I was a teenage bride, my husband even as a young man was not that interested in sex, I feel I have to make the first move all the time, this makes me feel unloved, un-attractive, and destroys my confidence. Lately he has lost all interest completely, I am a christian so would never look else where, I am still only 52 so the thought of no loving relationship for the rest of my life fills me with dread, we do not get on in other areas either. I feel the strain is taking it's toll and affecting other areas of the marriage also. He has been the only person in my life in that way. so you see it can be the other way too, the man with no interest.

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  6.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 09 Mar 09

    Before I would leave one establishment to Dine at another / I would be Kind enough to pay my Bill in Full and Place a Health Tip for services Rendered . Use the restroom to wash my hands and whatever else needed to be done . Then close the Door on the way out , as I have Grown to Realize that The way I treat others in Life / Is how they will treat Me in return . Bye make King another Happy in a Sexual Relationship / They in Return will make You Happy . My advice is for Y'All to Grow - up and take time to stop to smell the Roses , Love Les

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  7.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 08 Mar 09

    Yes , March has 31 Days , Life without Make King Love is just Life . Failure to Consummate / Grounds for absolutory Separation of a contract of MARRIAGE on grounds of undue stressful lack of Sexual Needs and Desires for a Healthy Heart functioning .

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  8.   cntryrob says:
    Posted: 18 Feb 09

    well it sounds like this woman is very selfish,she doesn't really consider the needs of her husband,like someone said,get some help to find out why she isn't interested,you can't expect him to just become a monk for no real reason,it isn't fair to him.sex is a great beautiful way to express the love you feel for your companion.

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  9.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 22 Jan 09

    Yes you are correct in your thinking , indeed some months have 31 days .

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  10.   jewel65 says:
    Posted: 26 Jun 08

    3 reasons why women lose interest in sex: -fat men -ugly men -loud macho bossy career men enough said, big daddy!

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  11.   Morningflower says:
    Posted: 26 Jun 08

    wow! there ought to be a law against deleting sex from a marriage/relationship? - seriously! there has to be! - Why would anyone do that? I don't get it. I just don't..like cocokisses said "he will be dining somewhere else for sure"!

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  12.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 25 Mar 08

    Fala, good girl, or ice queen

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  13.   JstByourself says:
    Posted: 24 Mar 08

    3 reasons why men lose interest in sex -fat women -ugly women -loud feminist bossy career women enough said

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  14.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 12 Mar 08

    Haha Fala!! mossimo.....sex fiend within a monogamous relationship..HA!

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  15.   Jeff says:
    Posted: 11 Mar 08

    My experience is that sex is best when these are present: (1) Trust (2) Affection (3) Meeting of the minds-mutual goals and plans for the relationship. Fran42, your plan seems very good as well. I'll be pursuing the same with a 20 year old version of Janet Jackson. Our wardrobes will totally malfunction.

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  16.   soulmate2u says:
    Posted: 10 Mar 08

    This has actually happened to me and it has destroyed my marriage. It(not ever having sex) created even more problems in the marriage. When it first started happening, I was angry and hurt by it. Over the years, however, I have learned to let it go and forgive my wife for her lack of intimacy and physical love. I have learned to understand that this type of thing just happens to some women (it's much more common than many believe), and mine just happened to be one of them. Right now I am ending my marriage and my divorce should be final by the summmer of '08. Obviously I agree that sex is a very important and wonderful part of any loving marriage. In the end I feel sorry for my wife because she has given up something very beautiful and has lost my true love and her marriage. I feel bad for her that she will lose much more than just her sex drive. So, even though this seems like a funny thing to casually discuss, it does create a great deal of hurt and pain in any loving realtionship. And the real sad part is that in many instances the woman just does not know what to do; so, she does nothing, and that makes it worse.

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  17.   jewel65 says:
    Posted: 06 Mar 08

    Ha ha! I agree with mossimo. Obviously if you're not getting it at home, go out and get it! Sex is a basic human requirement, like breathing and eating, and no-one can expect someone to do without it, that's just cruel. In my opinion, there is no point in being in a relationship if there is no sex, what's the point, you're better off on your own. If you don't want sex, then go to flower-arrangement classes or something. But don't make life miserable for your husband or wife and expect them to stick around, that's inexcusable.

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  18.   jewel65 says:
    Posted: 06 Mar 08

    I agree with mossimo. Obviously if you're not getting it at home, go out and get it! Sex is a basic human requirement, like breathing and eating, and no-one can expect someone to do without it, that's just cruel. In my opinion, there is no point in being in a relationship if there is no sex, what's the point, you're better off on your own. If you don't want sex, then go to flower-arrangement classes or something. But don't make life miserable for your husband or wife and expect them to stick around, that's inexcusable.

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  19.   fala says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 08

    Mossimo: nice guy or sex fiend?

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  20.   mossimo says:
    Posted: 01 Mar 08

    Gotta have some kinda sex...this woman should be worried. You can't expect to be in a monogamous relationship then take the sex away.

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  21.   Fkoi says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 08

    What if it isn't physical? What if it isn't mental? What if it isn't being tired of the same old same old? That doesn't mean that "this woman" should give up on life. Hard as it is to believe (and I don't think I intended a pun there), sex is not the be all and end all to life. There are folks who just are not that interested. There is probably a guy out there who would be perfect for this gal. It just isn't me and I'm grateful that I'm not her husband. I would hate to have to make that kind of choice.

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  22.   HereIamBaby says:
    Posted: 25 Feb 08

    Don't give up on sex...it's so great for the mind and body! Smiles, Sharon

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  23.   43andrew says:
    Posted: 25 Feb 08

    i think you should talk to you husband about it openly....accept any and all things that come up...no pun intended...and your doctor too...and if you don't get genuine interest and involvement with your doctor ...get a new one...sex is sex...but it is also more than sex...you should consider all aspects of how this plays out...even if your husband is ok with becomming a monk for the next 40 years...seriously...what else could you be missing....i would ask also this question ..and you may not be able to answer it objectively...you'd be surprised...are you experiencing depression???....how are your hormone levels...you don't need to get into costly pharmaceuticals to effect real difference in these areas...are you active physically??/do you have food sensitivities...there's a lot to consider...including setting aside a couple hundred dollars for an assessment by a reputable chinese medicine practitioner....bite the bullet ..it may be the best thing you've ever done for yourself...and your marriage.

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  24.   ethereal99 says:
    Posted: 24 Feb 08

    Bad idea to delete sex, you gotta find a way to recycle the sex & make it interesting.

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  25.   fala says:
    Posted: 24 Feb 08

    Sounds like a plan to me Fran!

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  26.   Fran42 says:
    Posted: 24 Feb 08

    delete sex? who really thinks they can get away with that and have a real loving relationship hmmmmm I plan on wanting sex until I die from a massive organism at a very ripe old age with a 20'something year old stud.

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  27.   misslady1970 says:
    Posted: 23 Feb 08

    Hello everyone.To me it's not normal to just not want sex.But, at the same time, Sex, has to be special to both parties. They have to crave each other,and have that non stop chemistry... Some times,it might take certain people to get into there zone....and just explore each other, and take it to the next level...

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  28.   HereIamBaby says:
    Posted: 23 Feb 08

    Hello everyone... This had pretty much happened to me. I had lettle to no sex drive...then I came across Mona Vie...it changed my whole way of thinking...it has this berry in it that comes from the rainforest...the tribe members there give it to their women after they give birth and let me tell you it works! My girl friend and I call it MONA VETRA! LOL It does the same thing for men too! They start sleeping on their side...if you catch my drift!

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  29.   cocokisses says:
    Posted: 23 Feb 08

    It's not okay unless you don't mind your man dining elsewhere...

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  30.   Rivax says:
    Posted: 23 Feb 08

    It is alright to delete sex on menu... but it is quite impossible to delete sex on the mind...

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  31.   HereIamBaby says:
    Posted: 23 Feb 08

    I am coming back to comment on this one! Smiles, Sharon

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  32.   polyglot says:
    Posted: 23 Feb 08

    Wow! I don't agree with a person deleting sex from the menu. Thankfully, I'm not at that age, and hope I'm never at the age where a healthy sex life is non-existent. I think the woman who isn't interested should meet with her doctor to talk about her low sex drive and what options are available to her. To be completely without sexual urges is NOT normal. Neither the husband nor wife should accept it as such. We are sexual beings, and if a husband is seeking physical affection from his wife, she should be able to meet his need, within reason. (I have to throw in that within reason for some of the high sex drive people) I hope, starving party, that your spouse understands the importance the sexual relationship plays in the marriage and agrees to take the necessary steps to improve this problem.

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  33.   fala says:
    Posted: 23 Feb 08

    If you delete sex from the menu, you should expect him or her to look for it somewhere else.

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