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Premarital counseling: Is it necessary?

Posted by Ria, 22 Dec

Whether or not to attend premarital counseling is what most couples planning a wedding have to decide. Most people I know do it; I kinda assume it’s a prerequisite for all couples intending to tie the knot.

Janet – soon to be married – asked her fiancé Trevon where he thinks they should take theirs. “Is it a must?” he asked. “I don’t think people value premarital counseling as you think. It’s just another way of someone forcing their opinions on you. Remember the movie ‘License to Wed’? God forbid if we encounter a counselor like that minister.”

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Before Janet protested, he had a comeback already: “Do you want us to be robots like Veronica and Michael? Honey, I don’t want you to judge me by the dos and don’ts given in those counseling sessions. Let’s just be real. ”

Well, there are so many things that are taught in these counseling sessions … from financial management, communication, to sex. Most people enter marriage for different reasons ranging from genuine love to reaching the sell-by date. These are some of the things that are tackled and some people even decide not to go ahead with the marriage after the counseling.

Do you think premarital counseling is necessary? Can this save a marriage from going down the divorce trend?

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  1.   dupunottene says:
    Posted: 30 Apr 10

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  2.   Jason says:
    Posted: 10 Feb 09

    When my girlfriend wanted to tie the knot..I was pretty skeptical about it. As I thought I was not mentally prepared enough to handle marriage. It was then that my friend suggested me to visit New Day Counseling and go for premarital counseling. And it worked like magic...trust me! Today I feel marriage is the best thing that could ever happen to me.

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  3.   Samantha says:
    Posted: 06 Feb 09

    When my fiance had proposed marriage to me,I was elated and at the same time so nervous that I couldn't sleep for two weeks straight. I discussed it with my hubby-to-be and he suggested we go in for pre-marital counseling. Hesitant at first, it has helped a lott; not only before but also after our walk down the aisle.

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  4.   VA_SongBird says:
    Posted: 19 Jan 09

    I really think it depends on the ages of the individuals marrying and whether they've been married before. Premarital counseling definitely can't hurt. My general rule is one should spend more time and energy getting to know each other than planning an elaborate wedding which will end in a few hours.

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  5.   VA_SongBird says:
    Posted: 19 Jan 09

    I really think it depends of the age of the individuals marrying and whether they've been married before. Premarital counseling definitely can't hurt. My general rule is one should spend more time and energy getting to know each other than planning an elaborate wedding which will end in a few hours.

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  6.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 27 Dec 08

    P.S. When Love becomes a business , please remember to take a # , Thank you .

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  7.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 27 Dec 08

    Marriage counseling , 800 # on canned goods and my favorite the local church which the preacher told me that if I wanted to visit with them on Sunday . That I had to help pay the electric bill , needless to say they only gave me a free ride once . Alas they came bye our house twice since offering a ride to services and never showed to pick us up . I enjoy the fact that being a citizen of the U.S.A. gives me freedom of choice in personal matters . And I sure nuff feel that if it is not possible to make my own choices who I decide to marry bye myself , that it is just another freedom that will be regulated . I lived alone for 9 years , before meeting my wife of 21 months here on this site . I talked to many here that had their own choices , they had me crying many lonely nights . I have not laid in bed and cried myself to sleep since my Ladie first got off the Big Dog Express and Hugged and Kissed me for the first time . I was able to survive alone and to do all the daily affairs that we all have to do to stay alive by myself for many years . I awoke one morning in the summer time 38 years ago and left the cold and snow country where at this time it is below zero and @ 11:19 , it is 71 degrees her in Creekmore Village , Texas . So I know that my decisions can't be all bad . I graduated high school in 1966 with 23 credits all a time when 16 was all that was require to do so , Earned a degree for Auto Mechanic with the State of N.Y. - Earned a degree to drive Tractor-trailer with the State of Texas educational system . I Retired at the age of 52 with a gov't pension for life and Homesteaded in 1981 a home surrounded bye " The Big Thicket National Preserve " all without counseling . I have lead a life Legally , Honestly and am proud of my three daughters who I helped raise to be on their own and now I am sure that all those non-fiction books that I have read enabled me to be intelligent enough to allow me to pick my own wife . I learned alot here from many prospects , I am Happy in my Lifestyle and when I told my wife how Marvelous X-mas dinner tasted , she told me that I could also cook Magnificently . I feel that there are somethings in life a man just has to do for himself and the one that is most important to me is who I fall asleep beside at night , counselor or knot . Love Les

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  8.   Glock says:
    Posted: 26 Dec 08

    I think it is important to have pre-marital counseling as well. To have someone asking those questions that couples may be thinking about but to scared to ask their prospective spouse, is a good idea.

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  9.   Nevahafta says:
    Posted: 23 Dec 08

    Pre marital counseling is essential to a relationship. It allows each person to be exposed to the questions and answers they would not have normally expored.

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  10.   honeybee324 says:
    Posted: 22 Dec 08

    I think couples should be very clear on their intentions and expectations before getting married. Having a third party ask those difficult questions can help a couple talk it out, to really see what the other person thinks and where each is coming from. Marriages are not that different from running a business. Marriage vows are essentially a partnership agreement; each person commits to putting in time and resources, maintaining responsibility, and being accountable. Divorce would probably happen less if people went into marriage knowing they were on the same page, going back for counseling over the years to make sure they're still in sync and growing together.

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