Some Honest Dating Tips for Men from a Woman's Perspective

Posted by Ria, 21 Nov

In a relationship utopia for singles, the dating pool would be like lounging on a unicorn floatie. But, in reality, the dating pool is more like a vast ocean, where tidal waves constantly crash up against hopeful romantic pursuits. Calm waters feel more like loneliness, and sharks lurk ready to bite you with rejection.

Yes, there are plenty of fish in the sea, but finding the right catch can be quite the voyage, maiden or otherwise.Trying to navigate your dating adventures but getting a bit lost? Check out the following tips (from a woman's perspective!) to help you chart toward greater potential success.

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Turn Your Online Profile into a Magnet for Women

  1. Post a photo with your dog: Like 6'2" height and a witty one-liner, a photo with your beloved pet is bound to get you endless matches on various dating sites and apps. In one of the surveys conducted, 27 percent of women indicated they're attracted to online dating profiles that feature a photo of you and man's best friend. Don't have a pet? Volunteer with your local animal shelter or adopt a dog in the name of finding love.
  2. Show some masculinity: Women tend to love a charming personality and great sense of humor. Then again, a touch of rugged masculinity goes a long way. Now, this doesn't mean you have to resemble Thor or join a fight club. Instead, showcase something unique about yourself that shows off some manliness. Perhaps it's sharing your love for off-roading and outfitting your truck with upgrades like durable, all-terrain tires. Or, maybe it's taking the lead by initiating a date, being a decision-maker and knowing what you want.
  3. Be thoughtful with your opening line: When it comes to opening lines, don't try too hard or over-compliment your date. Attempts at over-the-top wittiness or uniqueness can come off as ridiculous or creepy. John McDermott, a staff writer at MEL magazine and an admittedly clueless singleton, received this advice from a panel of women: Find something interesting in a photo (preferably not her main profile pic) or in their profile to show you're interested and paying attention. Compliment or find a way to relate to it and follow up by asking a question or revealing something similar or unique about yourself.

Don't Sink on the First Date

Plan a low-key meetup at a local coffee shop or stroll around a city landmark, like a park or your city's historic district. (It's a good idea to not have too much planned out the first time you meet.) Introduce yourself with a warm smile, and follow these do's and don'ts to prevent a shipwreck of a first date.

DOS:

  • Act confident, maintain eye contact, and be true to who you are.
  • Start a conversation with what intrigued you about her.
  • Offer to pay for the first coffee or drink.
  • Offer your own opinions (without being argumentative).
  • Be a gentleman; open the door, walk on the portion of the sidewalk nearest to the road, and let her order first.

DON'TS:

  • Brag or try too hard to impress
  • Look at your phone
  • Compare your date to other women
  • Judge right away
  • Give up if it's bad, lackluster or not what you expected; be respectful and see it through!

Ultimately, closure is an important part of a first date. It's OK to clearly communicate your level of interest, albeit whether you're already looking forward to the next date or can't wait to find your next match on Tinder. If you truly want to keep talking, don't be shy about expressing that sentiment by following up and not playing any games.

Already forgot her name? Don't lead a gal on or give her any mixed signals. Gently and honestly say you didn't feel a connection or see a future together and that you appreciated the date. Then, it's time to plunge back into the open waters.

13 responses to "Some Honest Dating Tips for Men from a Woman's Perspective"

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  1.   elcamino67 says:
    Posted: 15 Dec 17

    I actually thought it was a nice article with some good advice and/or tips for those who are a bit "unimformed" about the some things that could be deal breakers or turn offs to the opposite sex. Even the doggy stuff. And yes I do have a doggy pic in my profile for those who are inquisitive. For the fellas out there with negative comments below - some of which are good and some nit picky, I can say this: we ALL know that MANY women can be overly judgemental on things we see no sense in such as height. I would simply say that a guy or guys should simply get out an article thats named SOME HONEST DATING TIPS FOR WOMEN FROM A MAN'S PERSPECTIVE. That way we can even up the "playing field" and let the women know there's quite a bit they can do to improve themselves also because MANY of them are quite SELF ABSORBED AND CLUELESS too.

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  2.   ShellyAnn_ says:
    Posted: 08 Dec 17

    Wow.. I find the first hellos like I am a teenager again, Supwe awkward. Anyone else??

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  3.   DC- says:
    Posted: 02 Dec 17

    The 5th advice for "Do" is a big one for me. Nothing more annoying than to have a man NOT open doors for a woman he's dating.

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  4.   Rubenesque says:
    Posted: 02 Dec 17

    These are simply poor examples of how to make your profile more appealing, and not to be taken literally. Posting a photo of yourself with a dog, if you don't have one, is misleading and dishonest. It's the equivalent of "clickbait" and a great way to show that you're shady or deceitful. This is ironic to include in an article entitled, "Honest Dating Tips for Men..." This is not the first impression you want to give, if you manage to get someone's attention. I have a question for the magazine that conducted the survey. What's the percentage of women who indicate their attraction to a profile with a photo of a man who smiles? I don't mean a "Pennywise" smile or a creepy, predatory smile. A smile that says, "my buddy just paid up on a bet he lost." That smile...it's authentic, not overly eager and doesn't look like he just had a prostate exam. Smile guys. It's okay.

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  5.   Paganinifan says:
    Posted: 30 Nov 17

    Funny how this article tells men the “Don’ts” and the dont’s include; “Don’t JUDGE right away” Yeah, because only WOMEN can do that, right? Right @blackbelle01 ?

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  6. Posted: 26 Nov 17

    Jaggers, I agree with you. I am a dog lover also and they are a lot of work. They are just like having a child. I think that was bad vice also.

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  7.   jaggers1 says:
    Posted: 26 Nov 17

    Only thing I can say is do NOT adopt a dog in the name of finding love like it says to do. I am a dog lover and I will say they are a good bit of work. Don't buy an animal just so a woman likes you, you should buy one because you want one and the responsibilities that come with owning a pet. A dog or pet is not just some piece of materialistic matter like a car, they are more like children that depend on you constantly food, water , vet visits, exercise, ect. Sorry don't mean to sound bitter but I think it's the wrong advice unless you are ready for a pet and not to just a woman who likes you because if it.

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  8. Posted: 24 Nov 17

    Pagninifan-you must be a short guy or something because your post always reek of bitterness.

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  9.   Paganinifan says:
    Posted: 24 Nov 17

    Typo. I meant to say contradicting* slogans. Eh, you get the gist.

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  10.   Paganinifan says:
    Posted: 24 Nov 17

    "Turn Your Online Profile into a Magnet for Women Post a photo with your dog: Like 6'2" height and a witty one-liner," Newsflash! Not all men are 6'2" tall and not all men want to date short women either. Since there's a rash of liberal leftist nonsense lately with their never ending contracting slogans of "No hate! No discrimination! Equality and acceptance for all!" then how about WOMEN stop the HATE and DISCRIMINATION about a man's height? We could start there with "dating advice", eh? SMH

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