Swirling with Christelyn Karazin

The art of attraction isn't just about colour or creed, it's about chemistry and a whole bunch of other things. Swirling author Christelyn Karazon discusses.

Video: Why You Keep Striking Out with Black Women

Posted by Christelyn, 20 Apr

Last week I had a conversation with a young white man who has recently directed his romantic interest towards black women he is meeting online. He told me that every single time he arranges for a date the woman flakes.

Well, I did some further investigation, I discovered what might be the issue.

Your perfect partner could be online right now...

What are you looking for?

Take a look and listen and let me know what you think.

Christelyn Karazin is the co-author of Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed. She also operates the popular blog, Beyond Black & White, and operate the first forum dedicated to black women interested and/or involved in interracial relationships.

5 responses to "Video: Why You Keep Striking Out with Black Women"

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  1. Posted: 04 Feb 20

    It appears that those women really just weren't interested in the guy. Rather than set-up a date and not keep it, barring some unforeseen circumstances, I would have kindly made him aware, in the beginning, that I just didn't think that we would be a good match.

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  2.   NubianQnNJ says:
    Posted: 13 May 18

    It’s interesting how the white media asks infantile questions such as “why you keep striking out with black Women” whilst depicting a photo of a biracial in appearance black woman. Most people do not understand the concept of ascribed status that places darkskinned short nappy hair black Women at the end of the social totem. Ascribed status is very real, cannot be changed and is based on your gender and skin color in this country. That is why American men tend to chase after white Women. Because they cannot deal with the social ills that comes with dating a black Woman. It is too much for them to handle!

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  3.   Rospooh says:
    Posted: 01 May 18

    She never was into you.

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  4.   dodgethis2k says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 18

    Starting about two years ago, every woman I've 'site messaged' (where the messages were long going both ways, indicating there was some chemistry) has insisted on going straight to a meeting, which I won't do without at least one phone call first. I've even explained that via iPhone or Android you can block you number and call me (test it with a friend or relative first...it works, I will NOT see your number). They won't budge, and neither will I (for me it is a matter of distance, and the only women who contact me or respond to my messages are always an hour or more away; I have no idea why local women don't reply...'tis a mystery). I'm very comfortable speaking on the phone, having worked in a call center in my past. I can tell from a phone call of 15 minutes or more if someone is worth a drive to meet. Consequently I haven't been on a date is approximately 2 years. However I also haven't wasted my time driving to a distant date that went nowhere in approximately 2 years. So it's all good!

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    • brownclown says:
      Posted: 11 Jun 18

      There is nothing wrong with insisting on a phone conversation before meeting in person at least in my opinion. But what does that have to do with white men striking out with black women?

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