Why do they marry the person they date after you break up?
Ever found yourself in a situation where your ex gets married to the person they date right after you? Well its never an easy thing to deal with. Now imagine this happening to all your exes... And not just twice or thrice. Try seven times!
The lady this kept happening to says “…I've been the girlfriend before the girlfriend who becomes the wife… It's like I'm prepping guys for marriage to someone else… I put in lots of hard work, and then someone else steps in right before the money shot...I mean, the wedding scene. Ha.”
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The question is: What could this girl be doing to have driven seven men into the arms of other women? Is she only good enough for getting the men she dates ready for marriage … but sadly not ready enough to marry her?
Much as I don’t like buying into the idea that some people are not marriage material, I tend to think maybe some people just ooze the vibe that they are not ready for marriage. Or maybe, just maybe, she should consider herself lucky to have been spared the agony of being married to someone who wasn’t right for her.
Why do you think this keeps happening to her? Lets hope she finally lands the money shot.
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Hutch says:Posted: 07 Jan 11Normally when you date someone you find all of the flaws and bad traits. We all have them men and women. You have to find a level that you can deal with. Maybe her numbers are just way too high. If a man doesn't know what he wants. It's easy to know what you don't want.
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tont says:Posted: 01 Jan 11Just because someone married the next person doesnt mean you were not good enough. some of those marriages end up not lasting because the men start missing the strong woman they were running away from. Its easy for them to move own coz you are still single and winning about the breakup. As soon as you find you own strong man, they will try and come back for you, even if they are married. Grass may look greener on the other side, but its still has to be mowed.
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Edna says:Posted: 27 Dec 10
@ Kissime Thanks sister .:-)
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kissime says:Posted: 28 Dec 10You're very welcome, Edna. You wrote the truth :)
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kissime says:Posted: 27 Dec 10
Edna, I understand & agree with your perception. Not everything is black & white...yet everything falls into place on it's own time.
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Edna says:Posted: 25 Dec 10
I have seeing a lot of couples who are deeply in love, still the relationship never lead to marriage. They will make a sincere promise not to leave each other, yet on a very good or bad day they will still break up. A stranger is a stranger. And an owner is an owner. No matter how much entertainment we will entertain a stranger, he/she will still stand up and go to his/her own house. Unfortunately for her she is the last stranger for her exs to meet befor their life partner arrives in their life. And soon or later she her self will meet her own life partner, and get married too.
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himone says:Posted: 24 Dec 10i hate to say it but if the next girlfriend gets the ring and you dont then you was not what he was looking for in a wife. you had some of the qualities but not the type of woman he would say "i do" too. i as a rule will date you cause we have something in common, she not over the top high maintenance, she see her self as the woman and not the man and most important she have rational and logical thoughts. now if she had one of these things i wont date her. if she had two of these traits i would date her but have thoughts in my mind like is she the one. if she have three of them i would totally have her in my life to see she is going to grow with me but she still wont be the wife. so if she is looking for mr right i would like her to be ms perfect for me. so if i was her man and we broke up i am going to look for a woman just like her but with the other quality trait i seek. if i find her then wedding bells will be ringing for i found my ms perfect. so why is this happening to her? for she is not growing in the relationship she was in and not in any of the relationship she have been in and is stagnant in the content of "accept me as i am" catergory. that is not good enough for her mr right for he see her as not ms perfect. so yes she will be the woman who let another one get away.
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