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Women's tears of sadness are a chemical turnoff for men

Posted by Ria, 22 Jan

woman cryingRecently, I read some “woman bible” that claims men like seeing the softer side of their spouses and much as they may tease us a little when we get all emotional, it’s good to have a cry in front of your man. Apparently, our tears arouse and awaken their own tenderness. And just as I was busy working on my tears manufacturing skills, I bumped into this article that claims to have Scientific proof of how women’s emotional crying is a major turnoff for men. And it’s got nothing to do with how ugly we look while at it. :roll:

According to this study… a woman’s tears of sadness momentarily lowers a man’s testosterone level. And get this: when he’s offering that shoulder to cry on and sniffs at the unnoticeable odor of tears, they send some chemical signal and just like that… TURNOFF!

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When men sniffed actual tears, they found women in some photographs less sexually attractive. And the men weren't empathetic either. (What happened to tears arousing a man’s tenderness?)

Anyway, this doesn’t mean that this chemical signal is unique to women’s tears. As per Weizmann neurobiologist Noam Sobel (also author of this study), "It's hard to get men to volunteer to cry" in a lab. So they just had to do the study on women first.

Sobel’s interpretation of the findings is that "the signal is serving to time sexual behavior. It is a signal that allows its user to say, 'Now is not the right time.' I predict there are other signals that say, 'Now it is.'"

Wonder if a man’s emotional tears would have a similar effect on a woman. Well, good thing Sobel has found a good man crier so we just have to wait and find out.

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  1.   nikkihill70 says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 11

    woman up thats just what men want us to do..detail later

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  2.   EDDYREADY/BIGTEN says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 11

    @Kissime Thank you,Dr.Kissime.That was some good advice.Yes the guys need to always remain standing,hint,hint,for the ladies.I guess you knew the crying lady was me x wife,and no it was not menopause,she was only 23 years old.Maybe in was menopause in reverse,womenopause! I tried,i really did! Chow! EddyReady/BigTen cares!

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    • kissime says:
      Posted: 25 Jan 11

      Dr ?....Nah. Just trying to help. Please you all get Prostate screening & Mammogram/breast exam yearly. Your physicians wants your acquaintance .

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      • kissime says:
        Posted: 25 Jan 11

        Oh, sorry, I know you all are getting tired of me. But gynecological exams are needed as instructed by your gynecologist. Hypertension is the silent killer. Diabetes is not kind. Okay, all please take care, if not for yourselves, for your children & family and friends. Take care

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  3.   NOPLAYER says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 11

    @kissime You made a valid point and I wish more men would read it. I want to scream from the mountain top " Boys are not little men, they are children! I agree, a mans lack of sympathy for a woman crying could be a result of jealousy or resentment burried within the soul because as liitle boys they'd seen little girls comforted, kissed and hugged when they cried only for them to be told, " shut-up all that damn whinning" or "quit being a sissy", when they wanted and needed the same comforting. It's really sad that the only emotion men feel comfortable expressing is excitement over a home run or violent anger. I think boys who are allowed and encourage to cry when they're hurt or sad are more emotionally balanced as men and they have a greater sensitivity and understanding of other people's feelings. IMO this behavior is not some chemical response but it's the result of arretsed emotional developement in the man. I love when a woman feels comfortable enough with me to cry on my shoulder it shows there's a level of trust there, so cry all you want, I'm here!

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    • kissime says:
      Posted: 25 Jan 11

      NOPLAYER WOW!!! I so love your answer- I think you're so right. It's all so buried in their soul & they have no idea...so sad. I believe that little boys being forced to grow so fast, and not embraced when needed most lives on lost (emotionally to a degree) until the end. You made it so clear. thank you, NOPLAYER.

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  4.   kissime says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 11

    EDDYREADY/BIGTEN, She may have been menopausal, that may also caused emotional symptoms. To All: Just be aware menopause is a normal part of life. However, treatment of symptoms is possible if they are severe. I think a lot of relationships can be salvage with patience, love and empathy. I believe as human beings we go through so many stages in our lives that are at times challenging. And at times we may feel it is easier to move forward without the one we love base on frustration of facts unknown. But with knowledge or at least concern, we can stand right beside the love of our life and just be there. Advise from a woman, if a man choose to leave his lady or wife for another because she is going through menopause, I have bad news for you; all women, eventually go through menopause-You just can't escape it...sorry guys :( But with treatment (Hormone therapy) , the symptoms are controllable. Ladies, if you're going through changes-please consult with your physicians. You may leave her for a younger woman--that will eventually go through menopause & get frustrated with having to take care of you as if you're a baby (I've met many) Let's be honest, as we get older we regress. And I think it's best to just stay with your wife or husband of around the same age. Just my opinion. Gentlemen, sooner or later you may need Testosterone Therapy. As men gets older they may become lethargic, problems with focus and concentration....and get this your sex drive is down and you may not EVER get an erection....NOOOOOOOOOO! (I know it scares me too) It's called, Andropause (male menopause). A gradual physical and psychological changes that men generally go through, and they get severely depressed. Fortunately for men it comes on slowly. Most men often accommodate to the symptoms and do not realize how much they have lost. If you're having a hard time rising to the occasion, don't contact me (I'm Joking-no hate mail please) So, to all of the men please do talk to your physician especially if you're experiencing low libido or loss of sexual desire. 'cause, frankly, I'm tired of looking @ your saggy booties while injecting you with an 18 gage needle (joking :/ ) Seriously, just be proactive because it just gets worst if you ignore the symptoms because you may think it's just the "manly thing to do" Remember, one of the main thing that defines your manhood is your penis--and I'm sure you do not want to carry dead weight (I'm just trying to motivate you. Is it working? :) ) I Love Men & I just want you to Stand up Like Soldiers (Damage Control)

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  5.   kissime says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 11

    EDDYREADY/BIGTEN, too funny... I needed that laugh....thank you. Did she end up in a mental institution? She sounds a little Chemically Imbalance. You should had said "Baby girl, please don't cry, it makes my knees hurt"

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    • EDDYREADY/BIGTEN says:
      Posted: 24 Jan 11

      @Kissime Yes she was there for a couple of days,then they kicked her out ! Last i heard she was working on her thrid husband.Poor fellows ! Check you later.EddyReady/BigTen cares!

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  6.   kissime says:
    Posted: 22 Jan 11

    Maybe it's because for the most part, boys and girls are treated differently. Boys are treated to be strong, not to cry, and to assert themselves- that may create a certain mindset as adults. Boys especially, are treated to be 'men' and to keep their feelings inside so as not to show weakness around others from a very early stage in their lives. I've read as a result of such teachings the tear ducts within the eyes of adult males have begun to shrink making it harder to cry when they want to...that's sad to me. I think crying helps us move forward. When I've held on to anger, I did not cry, and the pain held on to me. Those emotions may be very confusing because at time anger may be misunderstood as strength. So crying for me, has always been sort of refreshing--crying relives my burdens. Having a little boy I'm very conscious of this, because I don't think it's healthy to teach a child not to cry...throwing tantrums, however, is not tolerated. I believe as we reach adulthood, men & women, their is a time, place (when controllable & not yet overwhelmed) and situation for which crying is essential.

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    • EDDYREADY/BIGTEN says:
      Posted: 23 Jan 11

      @Kissime Kissime,I do belive you are right that men do not cry as often as women do.As a man i am not ashame to admit that i cry sometimes but it is not very often.I do try to stay far away from it.I was with a lady years ago,she was a classic.She could cry at will over anything.How are you doing today,cry! Here's a $100.00 go out and buy you something nice,Cry! Why because she wanted $200.00.You look nice today honey,like your dress and the way you have your hair fixed,cry! Why,because i didn't say anything about her shoes.I always told her she needed to be in the movies,they need good people that can cry at will.Cry! Most of the time we were together she stayed dehydrated from crying so much! I really don't like to cry because for me if i cry it mostly will be out of anger.People that really know me well know if they see a little tear start to fall it is either time to try to calm me down or run for the hills.I'm a peacefull man,i can't cry very often! Stay safe! eddyready cares!

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