Woman, Aged 44 in USA, New York, New York
Looking for a: Man, Aged 35 - 55, Any Ethnicity

"Letting my membership expire."

  • My ethnicity isBlack
  • Height5'2"-5'6"
  • StatusDivorced
  • SeekingFriends/Long-term/Short-term
  • Body typeSlim build
  • Have childrenNo children
  • SmokingHate smoking
  • DrinkingDrink socially
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"It Can Happen!!!"

We are crazy in love. I met him after talking for a few days and knew from the start he was it. He brings joy and love to my son's and my life. It took over a year and several unsuccessful meetings to find him. Patience paid off!!!! Don't get frustrated and keep looking IT CAN HAPPEN!!! read more

Georgia, United States

How would you describe yourself?


Down to earth, funny, and sincere with a twinkle of mystery. Friends and family are an important part of my life. I love animals and you should too. I'm often silly, quite imaginative, heady- sometimes to a fault, responsible, honest, warm, admittedly eccentric (well occasionally), hopefully witty, usually a good judge of character.

My political beliefs lean conservative in other words I am a Republican. If you are a liberal Democrat I welcome your companionship but this does not mean I want a permanent political debate sparring partner. My beliefs are strong constitutionalists, and I am not going to change. Sorry if that deflates your idea of an ideal African American woman but I am what I am. I have had a few ruined first meetings over this issue; mostly stemming from the man making an attempt to change my views/ making the date more of a contest then something pleasurable. Once they see that I am pretty well versed in political matters, we either agree to disagree or someone goes away burned. (Hint: and it usually is not me)

Now that we have that out of the way...

I exercise when I can by riding my bicycle and ballet dancing. I am 5'5" 127 lbs. 34-27-38.
I like horror films, dark comedies and foreign movies. My musical tastes are a mix of Brazilian and jazz. Dave Matthews is a favorite along with Steely Dan and Michael Franks. Dining out to me means places where you do not have to look up at the menu.

Traveling and walking through the city neighborhoods are my favorite things. I'm an optimist and love to laugh. I am learning to paint and enjoy writing and reading poetry. Stimulating conversation and cooking at home would be a ideal night for me. I enjoy walking along the beach in the summer, book festivals, ice-skating, cruising deserted streets after a snowstorm (Silent Snow, Secret Snow) and hearing the silence of nature, sitting under a tree and reading a book. Human interest stories, history and travel adventures. Ethnic food and candle light dinners. Looking at old family albums and exchanging travel experiences. The moment of realization when you know you have something in common with someone. Life's moments.

I'm excitable and willing to try things. If I don't know how to do something, I learn to figure it out. If I don't know the answer to a question--I ask. I like talking about serious issues of the day but also have a playful, outgoing character.

My favorite foods are sushi (especially uni), pizza, lavender ice cream, goat cheese, Kettle Chips, corned beef sandwiches, and lasagna.

I am looking for...

Hmmm, that is tough. Let's begin with what I am NOT looking for.


DO NOT CONTACT ME IF YOU ARE A "CAPTAIN SAVE A HO' ". I know, I know your ex would have been your soulmate if only she did not sleep with your group counselor, poison your pet ferret and have that tiny cocaine issue but alas, I will never compare to her. In other words if you are emotionally unavailable and feel the need to treat the nice women you encounter like turtle poop because of what another woman did to you, PLEASE MOVE ON.

I am on here to date and meet nice men; not have a texting buddy or gmail pal. If you do not want to date and you are cautious to the point that it takes you the gestation period of an elephant to ask me out on a date, please move on.

If you do not live in New York City, it does not exclude you but it does mean you should at least come here more often than the solar eclipse. This goes especially for guys who live in New Jersey, Connecticut, or Philly.

I am fine with men who have children as long as they have time for someone in their lives to date and develop a relationship with. I understand that your children come first but I also do not want to be last in your life or someone you only think of when you look at that bottle of lotion on your nightstand.

I believe that there is a person who complements each of us. If you are interested in the world, like to travel, and are passionate about life---we probably have something in common. Compassion, sincerity, a sense of humor and intellect are attractive to me. Angry grouches, control freaks and emotional baggage handlers are not.

Please do not approach me using adjectives like chocolate mamma, caramel, Nubian Queen, fudge hottie or any food related terms to describe African American women. I am looking for a man, not a vanilla milk shake. Also I am not spicy ghetto, so if you want a Shanay nay, I am far from it. I do not date "wiggers" aka Eminem types.

I am looking for normal men who are well mannered, polite and clean. Someone that is not clingy because I have a career. No mouse potato types that sit at the computer all day- just a nice normal professional person who does not come on too strong or hound me because I have not emailed in less than 4 hours.

As I said, I do like to be active and do things with the person I like. If you are someone that is constantly needing your space then please find your space far, far away from me.

Things I I find to be huge red or yellow flags in men:

1. A man who is not man enough to admit he is wrong or made a mistake.
2. A man who is narcissistic and looks in the mirror more than Snow White's stepmom
3. A man who tells me up front that he may hurt or disappoint me because he was hurt by someone else.
4. A man who talks about himself and never asks me questions.
5. Men who take selfies in bathrooms or ugly kitchens
6. Men who are not happy with their age and feel the need to be young again by buying huge cars or homes just to impress. The younger you pretend you are, the older you will look.
7. Men who call women names, especially their mom.
8. Men who never ask for my input on a date.
9. Men who are jealous of women who make a lot of money.
10. Men who drink too much.

About Her

  • StarsignLeo
  • Want childrenDon't want children
  • Eye colorBrown
  • Hair colorDark Brown
  • ReligionSpiritual
  • OccupationOther
  • EducationGraduate degree
  • LanguagesEnglish/Japanese
  • RelocationI'd relocate anywhere in the world
  • Ideally I'd live in aIn the City/House in the suburbs/Property in the country/Cabin in the mountains
  • My fashion sense isDress according to the occasion/Love designer wear/Wear the latest trends
  • My sense of humor isWitty - I have a razor-sharp tongue/Sarcastic - Dripping with it!
  • When I go to partiesI go with the flow
  • On a day off, I enjoyA cultural outing such as museum or gallery/Curling up with a good book/Napping/Lunch with a friend...
  • I attend religious servicesNever
  • When it comes to workI keep a standard 40-hour work week


Message Flirt Favorite IM

"It Can Happen!!!"

We are crazy in love. I met him after talking for a few days and knew from the start he was it. He brings joy and love to my son's and my life. It took over a year and several unsuccessful meetings to find him. Patience paid off!!!! Don't get frustrated and keep looking IT CAN HAPPEN!!! read more

Georgia, United States