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SimplyDena, Age 26, Virginia

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Are There Any Normal People Left?
Nickname:  Hegemone
Location:  United States, Illinois, Chicago
Age:  43
I am a:  Woman
Looking for a:  Man, aged 35 - 50
Relationship seeking:  Long Term Relationship, Short Term Relationship, Friends, Pen Pal
Eye color:  Brown
Hair color:  Dark Brown
Height:  5'2"-5'6" (157cm-169cm)
Body Type:  Slim/Slender
My ethnicity is:  Black / African descent
Religion:  Spiritual, but not religious
Education:  Graduate degree
Smoking behavior:  Hate smoking
Drinking behavior:  Drink Socially
Relationship Status:  Single
Have children:  No
Want children:  Undecided
Languages:  Japanese, English
Occupation:  Other
When it comes to relocation:  I would relocate anywhere in the world
Starsign:  Leo
My Personality
Ideally I'd live in a: 
In the city, House in the suburbs, Property in the country, Cabin in the mountains
My fashion sense is: 
Dress according to the occasion, Love designer wear, Wear the latest trends
My sense of humor is: 
Witty - I have a razor-sharp tongue, Sarcastic - Dennis Miller is a cream puff compared to me
When I go to parties: 
I go with the flow
On a day off, I enjoy: 
A cultural outing such as museum or gallery, Curling up with a good book, Napping, Lunch with a friend, Catching up on household chores, Doing absolutely nothing, Playing with my pet, Shopping, Watching TV or a movie
I attend religious services: 
Rarely
When it comes to work: 
I keep a standard 40-hour work week
Who Am I?
How would you describe yourself?: 
Down to earth, funny, and sincere with a twinkle of mystery. Friends and family are an important part of my life. I love animals and you should too. I'm often silly, quite imaginative, heady- sometimes to a fault, responsible, honest, warm, admittedly eccentric (well occasionally), hopefully witty, usually a good judge of character.

My political beliefs lean conservative in other words I am a Republican. If you are a liberal Democrat I welcome your companionship but this does not mean I want a permanent political debate sparring partner. My beliefs are strong constitutionalists, and I am not going to change. Sorry if that deflates your idea of an ideal African American woman but I am what I am. I have had a few ruined first meetings over this issue; mostly stemming from the man making an attempt to change my views/ making the date more of a contest then something pleasurable. Once they see that I am pretty well versed in political matters, we either agree to disagree or someone goes away burned. (Hint: and it usually is not me)

Now that we have that out of the way...

I exercise when I can by riding my bicycle and ballet dancing. I am 5'5" 127 lbs. 34-27-38.
I like horror films, dark comedies and foreign movies. My musical tastes are a mix of Brazilian and jazz. Dave Matthews is a favorite along with Steely Dan and Michael Franks. Dining out to me means places where you do not have to look up at the menu.

Traveling and walking through the city neighborhoods are my favorite things. I'm an optimist and love to laugh. I am learning to paint and enjoy writing and reading poetry. Stimulating conversation and cooking at home would be a ideal night for me. I enjoy walking along the beach in the summer, book festivals, ice-skating, cruising deserted streets after a snowstorm (Silent Snow, Secret Snow) and hearing the silence of nature, sitting under a tree and reading a book. Human interest stories, history and travel adventures. Ethnic food and candle light dinners. Looking at old family albums and exchanging travel experiences. The moment of realization when you know you have something in common with someone. Life's moments.

I'm excitable and willing to try things. If I don't know how to do something, I learn to figure it out. If I don't know the answer to a question--I ask. I like talking about serious issues of the day but also have a playful, outgoing character.

My favorite foods are sushi (especially uni), pizza, lavender ice cream, goat cheese, Kettle Chips, corned beef sandwiches, and lasagna.
What Am I Looking For?
I am looking for: 
Hmmm, that is tough. Let's begin with what I am NOT looking for.

DO NOT CONTACT ME IF YOU ARE A SMOKER. PERIOD. THIS INCLUDES PEOPLE WHO ARE THINKING OF QUITTING.

I am fine with men who have children as long as they have time for someone in their lives to date and develop a relationship with.


I believe that there is a person who complements each of us. If you are interested in the world, like to travel, and are passionate about life---we probably have something in common. Compassion, sincerity, a sense of humor and intellect are attractive to me. Anger, control freaks and emotional baggage handlers are not.

Please do not approach me using adjectives like chocolate mamma, caramel, Nubian Queen, fudge hottie or any food related terms to describe African American women. I am looking for a man, not a vanilla milk shake. Also I am not spicy ghetto, so if you want a Shanay nay, I am far from it. I do not date "wiggers" aka Eminem types.

I am looking for normal men who are well mannered, polite and clean. Someone that is not clingy because I have a career. No mouse potato types that sit at the computer all day- just a nice normal professional person who does not come on too strong or hound me because I have not emailed in less than 4 hours.

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