My ethnicity is | Black/East Indian/Mixed/Other |
Height | 5'3" (160 cm) |
Status | Divorced |
Seeking | Friends/Penpal/Long-term/Dating |
Body type | Average build |
Have children | No children |
Smoking | Hate smoking |
Drinking | Drink socially |
Nickname | Jazzyjuds, Woman, 55 |
Location | Toronto, Ontario, Canada |
Looking for a | Man, aged 27 - 40, Any Ethnicity |
My ethnicity is | Black/East Indian/Mixed/Other |
Height | 5'3" (160 cm) |
Status | Divorced |
Seeking | Friends/Penpal/Long-term/Dating |
Body type | Average build |
Have children | No children |
Smoking | Hate smoking |
Drinking | Drink socially |
How would you describe yourself?
Bonjour! Still wondering if I will singing Etta's "At Last" anytime soon :) I am very patient :) So, let's see-where do I begin? I relocated back to Toronto from Princeton NJ, a year or so ago. Still unpacking and getting settled-mind you :) How I have missed Toronto!! Must be the skycrapers, the vibrant diversity and the best restaurants really. Travelled to many places and Toronto always gets an edge. Uber cool city. Now that Grad school among other things are over (:- and I am also wiser, smarter, more centered, and grounded, I am now ready to start yet another exciting chapter of my life. I am petite, very well-mannered, well-travelled, down-to earth, I adapt quite easily, I am romantic, sensual, passionate & very educated. I considerate, honest, and have a profound respect and appreciation for all cultures. I believe that as a society, we could benefit from more open-mindedness, and tolerance for everyone... Regardless of age, gender, racial and ethnic background, religion, sexual orientation, fashion-sense, socio-economic status etc.. Just one of many reasons j'adore Canada!!
No exact category for me.- I like that-I hate categories and boxes! I hail from a very rich tapestry: Jamaican, East Indian, Syrian, Irish, and Scottish. I have travelled and dated 'globally', and my circle of friends and colleagues is indicative of the United Nations! (:- I am drawn to those I connect with on a karmic/spiritual/holistic/humane level. If you care about superficialities--Then, for me you would just be counter-productive. We absolutely would not get along, so let's not waste our time-shall we? I crave always for that which is deeper and more profound. To that end, I will only surround myself with positive people, who are accepting and tolerant, and I will not settle for less than-in an intimate or platonic relationship. I despise stereotypes. Such a wasteful way of thinking eh? Rather, I demand a higher level of thinking, depth and understanding. Here's a tip.. Never assume... Get to know people who are not like you, you'd be surprised actually to discover you have more in common than you do not. Not to mention the wealth of knowledge you stand to gain.
Premise of this rant? I really do not 'mesh' well at all with those who are close-minded, ignorant, and lack such tolerance and respect for others. This applies to everyone including my family and friends! I treat the rich, the poor, the homeless, the janitor in the office, the CEO, my colleagues, in the same manner: With respect, fairness, dignity, equality and humanity... Get the point? I try to-be the change I want to see in the world... Instead of waiting for that change, I try always to initiate that change and make that difference! I know what struggles are. I have had my share of struggles, I have also worked my bum off in every way... So I have had the best of both worlds. That's a bonus! I can survive wherever I land... And nothing superficial or materialistic defines me. While I can and do appreciate the finer things in life, but I never forget where I am coming from, where I have been, and this is quite humbling, and important to me ALWAYS! That said, I am defintely not a princess. I do hate bad clothes, (on me, that is.. I am not trying to be judgemental of anyone here), I also hate bad food, bad coffee, bad wines and I dislike bad people! My idea of a fun date would include: A quiet romantic candle-lit dinner with a bottle of Merlot, or drinks at an upscale jazz lounge, attending a theatrical production, (play/ballet/opera), visiting a museum, wine-tasting, or anywhere that is conducive to conversations. I like to talk about: How I can make a difference in the world and 'pay it forward'.. (however miniscule), human pain and suffering esp. In 3rd world and oppressed countries, social, medical and public health issues, anthropological and sexual issues, fitness, the true meaning of life, travel and cultures.
My friends would describe me as: Vivacious, loyal, a lover of life, a sapiophile, bibliophile, an anthropologist/scientist, who loves people, is smart, avant-garde, stylish, a loyal and amazing friend, extremely passionate, intense and driven, regarding everything she does, a great hostess, a horse-lover, who loves and cares deeply and sincerely, who is friendly, warm, kind, hospitable, conscientious, spiritual, elegant, sophisticated, a social butterfly.. Who is definitely not loud, but exubes a special 'je ne sais quoi'.. A 'joie de vivre'... Who one could refer to as that 'quiet storm' in a room. (:- This quiet storm, is uber selfless, tres compassionate, and is also tired of being told 'you cannot save the world".. To which she replies.."Baby I was born this way." Any Lady Gaga fans? (:-Love her.. No haters please.. (:- remember that word 'tolerance' ?:) Perhaps you will be able to see past outward appearances and be led to some amazing finds-like the super raw talents of Lady G-who is just a mobile voice/art gallery-Also-RIP Amy(Winehouse)-Check out her raw, improvised "Valerie"-One word: WOW! Can you do that? My interests include: reading, dancing, dining out, ethnic cuisines, quaint cafes, listening to music(esp. Jazz), fashion, (have a thing for menswear)-No silly, not on me of course :) Other passions include-public/health/medicine, research, epidemiology, volunteering, poetry, horses, jazz, golf, tennis, long trails/trekking in fresh, 'virginal' snow... I Love the snow.. My name is Jolie and I am a snow bunny! Ha! Shameless!:) I really enjoy wineries/wine-tasting. A bit of a connosieur I'd say for many years. I enjoy long, leisurely walks, running, mountain climbing, skiing, snowboarding/Snowmobiling, working out, Badminton, Cricket, Horseback riding, Polo, Figure skating, Hockey, Olympic sports, Tennis, Golf (really bad at this-terrible swing)!:), Soccer, Squash and Racquetball.
Entertainment: (the arts and theatre). Concerts, Cultural events, Hosting/attending Dinner parties, charity events, fashion events, Fine dining, Music - Jazz, (Love George Benson, Diana Krall, Peter Smith, Nina Simone, Steely Dan, Aerosmith(well ok... Steven)-Ha!!-Coltrane, Ella, Etta, Fourplay, Candy Dulfer) to name a few.. I also love International 'world music' (in every/any language).. Music simply transports me to wherever it is that I would rather be at the moment.. A different part of the world.. Love Brazilian Samba and Bossa Nova... Caipirinhas too! (:- Poetry, Reading, board games, foreign films, black and white movies and photos, Biographies, Educational world news-BBC, Wine tasting (love red wine.. Esp. Merlots) and, Dancing. I love Flamenco, Argentinian tango and the very rare techno dance music. I love Tapas, ethnic cuisines esp. Indian, Thai, Italian, French, Caribbean, Greek, and Moroccan-and I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, Mussels & Salmon!
I am looking for
I am not interested in serial dating -I am simply looking for JUST ONE... A special someone I can share the many pleasures of life with. If you are funny, witty.. Not corny, but will make me laugh... That's a plus... I adore... Actually- I am in love with Jon Stewart and Jimmy Fallon.. They fill me up... Simply infectious and highly contagious! Sorry Ryan, you are just sweet, talented and cute (:- JF is my 'go to remedy' over chicken soup for when I am sick or just 'down'... Humor is important. I am also a huge advocate of multiculturalism, cultural sensitivity and cultural competence. Romance is a major plus-flowers, cards, surprises, etc., for no reason will never be taken for granted-and is always reciprocated. I would like to meet a gentleman who will (not complete), but complement me. He should be confident, open-minded, established, sincere, very or somewhat spiritual, active, centered, articulate, socially aware and conscious, educated, cultured, well-mannered, fun-loving, open-minded, romantic, passionate, caring and, considerate. Long list I know.. I am no longer 20.. I KNOW what I want.. We are all adults yes? Why 'beat around the bush'? Speaking of which..
May I suggest you take a look at one of my fave French musicians(this is in English).. CORNEILLE'S video of "too much of everything" I am not allowed to say the name of the site for obvious reasons.. However, where else? Think just a little..
By far this is the most intense, sexually charged, sweet, romantic and pleasurable to watch.. This is the type of chemistry I like.. (that's his wife in real life BTW).. Is that sexy or what? J'adore! The sexual tension is simply profound, yet understated.. As you want them to kiss so badly, and the suspense is just too much.. Because they don't pucker up.. But the coyish, romantic gestures and nuances are simply orgasmic! I lose my mind everytime I watch it, which is more often than you would care to know.. I honestly love to watch it.. And then I just can't take it! Ha! C'est Magnifique!
A man who loves his Mum and/or has a good relationship with her and one who if he has kids(big if) is a super caring respectful Dad.. And not as the term goes 'a dead-beat' Dad, could perhaps count for brownie points. Additionally, he should be clean... Super clean is ok too (:-(not OCD-esque). Should possess a flair for fashion, and should take pride in his appearance? Tres important! I am truly not interested if you are terribly insecure or insanely-jealous(a bit.. Can be healthy and is normal).. I am also NOT interested in the fact that you have to be at the gym 24-7... Just that you are health-conscious, and your lifestyle choices includes 'clean' and 'healthy.' I will also NOT be in the least interested or inspired by cocky, disrespect to/of anyone, and PRETTY PLEASE... Save the arrogance for another belle! I am DEATHLY ALLERGIC! This organism thrives better in environments with loads of compassion.. And frankly, said organism finds a quiet confidence, extremely SEXY.. So dare me... Dare yourself.. Dare the world and be yourself.. Be who you are!
While I have my standards, and will not settle.. I try to not 'limit' myself in too many ways. For example-age is a state of mind.. A bunch of numbers.. You are as old or as young as you feel. I have dated very young men who were more mature than older men, and older men who were more fun in every way than their much younger counterparts.
Therefore, I am never too 'bent out of shape' about this. Also, obscure, strategically-placed piercings and tattoos(not on your neck or lower arms) are ok... Honesty, chilvary, respect, communication, passion, a penchant for travel and cultures, and an allure and zest for life are more important to me.
I love Tebow--(you know who that is correct)? I am not a major football fan.. I prefer Soccer.. But thanks to Tebow.. I can pretend.. Ha! Now aside from his good looks of course... I love the fact that he has a sense of religion.. And is god-fearing. This obviously keeps him grounded, and fuels his penchant for philantrophy and volunteerism... Very sexy too!! This is important.
I am not a religious/cultish-fanatic.. Not even close. However, a man who thinks of the less fortunate/the 'under dogs', and one who is not afraid to introduce the world to his convictions proves my point... I am attracted to leaders not followers. To that end, I would also like to meet someone who dances to the beat of his own drum as I do, and someone who is/will be in tuned with his feelings as well as mine. This of course will be reciprocated. This person believes in 'giving back', and 'paying it forward.'
I am not looking for Mr. Perfect.. I never have. We are not suppose to be perfect, nor am I interested... Perfection is boring it simply is just 'chasing rainbows'... I would rather chase Butterflies! (:-
A man should not strive to eliminate his complexes but to get into accord with them: they are legitimately what directs his conduct in the world-Freud
A minor confession/clarification.. I do not smoke, however, I like the odd stogie.. Once in a 'pink' moon--(so it's a hobby not a habit.. I can share too).. Ha! This is the only type of smoking I can truly tolerate.. At the risk of sounding close-minded and judgemental (not my intentions please know this).. However, cigarette smoking is just not an option for me. My background is in health care, infectious diseases, disease prevention and health promotion.
To this end, like yourself, I am very aware of the ramifications/consequences of nicotine addiction and cigarette smoking. It is very addictive, it smells and it kills! I would also be quite hypocritical.. And untrue to my personal and health convictions, not to mention my career. Worst of all, 'watching someone I love and care about' self-destruct, would just not be possible. I just would not be able to enable and watch this slow destruction(de rien les hommes)!
Speaking of scents.. I absolutely love the smell of 'rich' musky.. Subtle, woodsy, earthy cologne on a man.. Another Major turn on.. I really cannot stand overpowering anything.. I cannot explain this.. Fetish.. I suppose? Possibly! Ha!.. Also, my Mum once told me.."pay attention to the way a man treats his Mum and pay attention to his shoes". All I can say is that My Mum was always right..
(Je T'aime Maman, RIP- Toujours Jamais).
I am not a girl with an agenda, and I am so not looking for someone to 'complete me'... Never have, never will. I can do that just fine. This is only possible through me.. I am truly a happy person for most part. This is important and makes way for a solid foundation, a true friendship, great communication, and who knows? Perhaps chemistry, romance, love... And all that jazz! The possibilities are endless.. The endings could be happy ones!
I am diplomatically communicative, I can be a bit 'sassy'/feisty, (in a respectful, good-funny-and cute manner I have been told).. Ha!! When I was 12 My Nana told my Dad in front of all my friends that I was getting too 'fresh' with her, and too big for my knickers'! I still crack up when I remember that.. Ha!! I Miss my Nana! I am verbal, but I hate confrontations-I prefer constructive communication. More of my style--anything that is ugly, and too dramatic I will not be getting front row or box office seats for anytime soon.
Woodstock/Marley's motto is a-ok-for me.. One love, one heart.. (well two)(;- peace and harmony. I am simply looking for a partner, a friend, a travel companion, and someone I can have intellectual stimulating discussions with, spend quality time, share 'deafening silence' just reading, and someone to share the arts and theatre, great dining experiences, great wines with and to see where this leads... Perhaps Paris, Austria, Milan, Bali, Rome or Napa..? Who knows..?
I skip to the beat of my own drum... I am loyal, trust-worthy, committed, and honest, but I am a free-spirit.. Somewhat of a 'social butterfly'-I am happiest doing what I want, when I want to, and at MY own pace... I need to always be growing.. A curbed, controlled environment, stunts my growth and happiness, and you too will endure the consequences (:- Smothering is just not my forte. Mutual trust and respect however are very important. The key really.
Having said that, not to worry, you will always hear these 5 words: What do you think babe?.. I am aware how powerful this one little question, with its 5 little words tied together works to impart mutual respect. I believe it is one of the best, if not the best, question we can ask each other. Your reasonable insecurities, concerns, opinions, feelings and desires will never be ignored (:-
I love and treasure my girlfriends.. I believe it is quite healthy and necessary in a relationship to take blissful vacations together. At the same time, I am all about healthy 'bromances', guys night out, girls night out, spa get-aways, retreats, and vacationing with just the girls.
I have not spent my years waiting around hoping to 'reel something' (someone (:- ) in... Waiting to set up that white picket fence. If a man wants to be with me, he will always let me know... A woman should never have to 'remind' a man, give him ultimatums, or coerce him. A bit gauche and desperate..! It simply tarnishes the whole idea and meaning, and is just way too much pressure... I say -'have fun and live in the moment'... And let nature takes her course.
I have spent many years in academia (perhaps too many).. Not regrettably at all. I have been intensely driven and focused, and confident enough to explore-rather than 'sit around and wait for such things to happen.'(They usually happen when I least expect them to, and for most part.. The timing was right. Other times, when I felt uncertain, the forces were misaligned or just not ready.. They did not).
Life is/can be too short to have agendas.. The 'now' is important. Now.. Personal achievements and goals-beyond relationships? Very different. At this point in my life, I am better equipped to rise to a plethora of ocassions(:-
While I have my alternative anthropological ideas... I still do believe in romance, monogamy and commitment with the right person. When it's right you just know. If we meet and the chemistry is simply not mutual;-lets not waste each others time... I have enough friends, and I am sure you do as well-That said, who knows? The sky's the limit! For now, sans major expectations--Let's talk over a bottle of Merlot, some Sicilian olives & great cheese... Yum! Can you cook? Yes?? Bonus! Surprise me, will you?
Summer is almost here.. Lots to do in this great city-the jazz Fest is one my many faves-If you enjoy a good Port after dinner? Hhhmn--I know where the best Ports are... And no not Portugal.. I will tell you when we meet. Maybe we'll 'bump' into each other there eh? (:- Hold that thought... I meant those thoughts.. (:- Take care-Ne me quitte pas et a' Bientot mes amis! Enchante(Pleasure to meet you)!
~(J).
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