When kids are involved, divorce always boils down to one painful struggle - custody. But what should one do when the other party was a cheat? Should they be punished for their evil deeds and be denied custody or should they be allowed custody because they are the parents . What kind of message will we be conveying by granting or denying them custody?
Well for me, if the other woman wasn’t as good looking, dude apologized and is financially generous, I would let it slide. 
Shallow? Oh yes. But you don’t cheat on me and expect me to bear the whole burden of raising the kids. Anyway that’s just my sick take on things. What’s yours?
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Comment by bigfine1966 on 14 July 2008:
Well both parents should be responsible for raising the children but what type of message does that send to a child that is old enough to understand why the parents are divorcing? And when it is a girl what message does that say if it was the daddy cheating that yeah baby this is how men are suppose to treat you so when you are old enough go out and get you a man just like your daddy. Or if it is the women what does it say to the son? If mommy do this to daddy then hey i can do it to someone or someone can do it to me and it is or is’nt right you never no what little thing that is your business can scar a child for life.
Comment by Molly on 15 July 2008:
My best friends kelly told me she met a black guy at a club–where many black and white singles how like sports there. I’m a white girl, can I meet my black guy there? Single guys, will you find your girl there?
Comment by Morningflower on 17 July 2008:
Infidelity is the lowest form of betrayal - With that said… a cheating bastard should not be kept away from his/her children. That is just cruel…
Easier said than done, but it’s the responsibility of each party to act in a civil manner and protect the children from having to endure the graphic details of mommy’s escapades with the pool boy and daddy’s love for the teenage babysitter. -You just don’t expose your children to junk like that.
Unfortunately, some bitter spouses do tend to put their emotions ahead of the best interest of the child, it is human nature - anger, hurt, betrayal can lead us to do some crazy things - but It would be wise to stop for a second and remember that “this is the mother of my children� or “this is the father of my children� before making some decisions that could eventually scar a child for life.
Comment by raina_kc1 on 18 July 2008:
although infidelity is wrong, it should not be the tool used to keep a child from their parent.
a parent could be a lousy spouse but a great mom or dad. and children deserve both - especially when both want to be there for them.
Comment by 17tigers on 23 July 2008:
Cheating tells something about ones character. If you are out cheating instead of communicating to your partner that means you don’t know how to express yourself. I am sure kids have a lot to benefit from someone like that. Sure teach them how to be self indulgent and pass it on that it is okay to lie to further your own agenda… Divorce happens sometimes pple just cant get through to each other and communication breaks down. But do it the right way, especially if children are involved. What you do has an effect on them for life.
Comment by kenyanito on 1 September 2008:
i tend to have my own opinion that whoever cheated didn’t cheat on the kids but on the other spouse so why deny the children their right to be happy.You may feel offended as the agrieved party but children see wither the mom or dad differently..I think let them decide not us
Comment by kruka on 24 October 2008:
I found out two week ao that has been cheating on me off and on for 3 years. He meet one of the girls at work and had 2 month affair. He then told me on other day that a year ago he had 3 1 night stand.He then told me that 3 month ago he had sex with other women.
the total 5 women in three years
had sex total 9 time.
I have three great kids that make this make it sad,
katie