Most people give lots of reasons when it comes to dating preferences. And with online dating at its peak these days, it comes as no surprise. Most people who prefer online dating give reasons like:
- It’s easier to filter candidates
- It saves time and effort
- Online dating acts as a barrier – as in, you get to meet your date in person only when you are dating
Question is: Is online dating better that real dating?
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Comment by HereIamBaby on 3 March 2008:
I think that both systems work. But, I prefer the internet…it is a good filter…and you get to know the person before you meet them.
Southern smiles,
Sharon
Comment by nemo on 3 March 2008:
I wish that online dating was more like the real world, but it is so unrealistic I have a hard time with online dating. I have heard of this new site my friend told me about virtulove.com he says that it is virtual reality and its going to be very much like real dating and mingleing has anybody heard about it or know anything about it. If so I would like to know!!
Comment by earat8d on 3 March 2008:
Not at all, speaking from my own experiences with online dating, I have only met dysfunctional head cases and scam artists. Could be why they’re hiding behind a keyboard, video and mouse.
Comment by outpass35 on 4 March 2008:
I like the internet better when you work a lot and don’t have time this is a good way to meet people and take your time and get to know then.
Comment by LGand2gh on 4 March 2008:
I think it sucks.Whatever happened to old fashioned dating,I know it’s a new century,I have been disappointed,too much emphasis on libido, they are interrested,then not,are toxic.I agree,toxic and scam artists.So far I have been lucky,I went thru this w/ someone I met in person,and now he is on this site,go figure,it’s his M.O.I wish I could warn you ladies on who it is.PLEASE BE CAREFUL,especially of foreigners.
Comment by kimelodi on 4 March 2008:
I believe that people are the same whether they are are online or not. A dishonest person will be dishonest no matter what. With that being said, I feel that it’s a little easier for people to be dishonest on the net, after all, you’re not face to face with them. I continue to hope that because I’m involved in an online dating site, that there are others like me who are honest, attractive and looking for friendship who out there as well using various means to achieve the same result. I wouldn’t close myself off to either online or dating in person. I like online dating because you can get to know more about someone before you meet them face to face. Each means of dating has it’s pros and cons. I wish everyone the best.
Comment by jade74 on 4 March 2008:
Very good comments about dating online and offline LGand2gh and Kimeloi.
Comment by Hmm on 4 March 2008:
I had dated a guy once who I first met on the internet. We had lasted 3 months, but I stopped dating him because he didn’t ask many questions. Although some may say it was too early to get too deep, he should have been a bit more curious about my family and friends. I mean we were really close. We were with each other like 3 days out of the week. He lived an 1 1/2 away from me in another city, but we were really liking each other. I think it could have worked if he tried a bit harder to want to get to know my past.
Comment by mossimo36 on 4 March 2008:
I think the internet is a good filter, but too many people hide behind the keyboard and just waste one’s time. A combination of both is good.
Comment by KAOS2007 on 4 March 2008:
What sucks is the ratio of REAL people to the liars, fakes, phonies, etc. who seem to get some sense of happiness out of playing with other people’s emotions.
Comment by lele75 on 4 March 2008:
I think that it’s actually easier to be honest and say exactly what you are looking for online. You also get to meet….and screen more people in a short period of time. With a few emails, you can tell alot about a person’s personality…which is where any relationship starts. If he’s a jerk online, you don’t have to waste the time of meeting.
Comment by shabtr813 on 4 March 2008:
It’s like a coin toss. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. Either way it is hard. Yes you get to screen people prior to meeting them; it can make rejection a little easier to take since it is not face to face; I think you have to try just a little bit harder online to sell yourself…without making yourself seem to vulnerable. I’ve tried lots of different methods… singles clubs, matchmakers, even the old fashion way. I can’t say that one is definately better than the other.
Comment by kathugga on 5 March 2008:
I don’t go out to clubs (I look like a beheaded chicken when I dance, I think), or to bars very often. The ratio of black people to white in my city is, umm, pretty small (last census there are about 2500 black people in a city of about 90000 people), so the chance of my meeting an available woman of the race I prefer are pretty slim. There is one black lady at my church so maybe there is a possibility there. My best chance is to meet people online. yes, it doesn’t always work, especially if you want someone local. But, I prefer to chat with people for a while anyway, talk on the phone, and somewhere down the road possibly meet. It depends on how things go with chatting and all. Sometimes you find that you really don’t have much in common at all, and sometimes you realize that you are much better off being friends. I’ve had both happen, and those who have become friends, I consider good friends, albeit some hundreds of miles away.
So, really, it depends on your own situation as to whether online dating is good or not. For people like me, it’s great :)! for those who aren’t, it’s not so great.
Comment by pedalforlife on 6 March 2008:
On line dating has provided a way for me to meet people with similar interests and values that I would not have had the chance to meet otherwise. I don’t drink, I’m not into the bar scene, and between taking care of my kids, work, and church, I don’t have a lot of free time. So I must use the time I do have carefully, and having the opportunity to chat via e mail, and view people’s profiles, is very helpful. In my experience, the women that I’ve met in person through on line dating have been honest and I’ve met some really fine women.
I wouldn’t say on line dating is better or worse than real dating, for me it is all part of the process of getting to know someone. Hopefully someday I will find a person that I can inspire and be inspired by, and we can share our lives in a positive and supportive way.
Comment by Salsera77 on 6 March 2008:
Well if you long to date interracially, in particular the black women/white men connection you’ll increase your chances if you go online. If you’ll don’t go online for that, what you’ll definitely have is a mexican standoff!!!!
Comment by sleepliznbk on 12 March 2008:
Research conducted by many universities has consistently shown that people who pay for memberships on Internet dating sites have a much higher probability of paying for sex with a prostitute. To each their own. Also, it was recently discovered that many of the top-rank online dating sites have used “fake” profiles to further entice people to join. It’s no wonder, therefore, that people who pay for memberships to such sites in many cases “pay” into a scam artist or con’s game.
Comment by 2ute4u on 12 March 2008:
I personally do not believe the internet dating is all that it sets out to be…there are positives, i n that yo u get to filter people; however,one may seeminly get along with someone ,but it’s not until one actually meets the other person up close then one can actaully assess if there is real chemistry between parties. There are people misrepresenting themselves all the time whether it is in their occupation or their body weight. This kind of duplitious behaviour should be illegal…but such is human nature-right?
Comment by salsera77 on 14 March 2008:
Omg… that university study comment is soooooo way off the mark I’m rOTfL…and I’ve not had the misfortune of running into fake profiles, thank goodness. Use good judgement.
Comment by lovemyjeans on 30 March 2008:
Online dating provides more opportunity. I meet more people online, than I could ever physically hope to meet in “real” life. That’s basically its purpose. Now, is it better??? It’s a toss up. There are some real nut cases in both realms. And if you meet someone online, and it does not transcend to “real life” you basically have a chat buddy. So use online dating as a tool.
Comment by mossimo36 on 5 April 2008:
I can certainly believe that there are fake profiles. Especially from a new site to entice people to join. The comment about membership and prostitution is way off base. Sounds like a troll to me
Comment by lilo4love on 12 April 2008:
I think both a great. Online dating however has one benefit over ‘real’ dating.
You know everyone (well almost) is actually looking to meet someone and you can immediately look at their profiles and see the i like and totally don’t like. And yes it is easier to take things slower and not succumb to the throes of passion.
Really dating on the other hand you find out things that you cannot compromise on much later because you took a number of steps too quickly (giving him your phone number, hanging out too much, getting to first second possible third base).
Comment by alexander on 19 April 2008:
Online dating :
Even when Internet dating was in its infancy, I understood the advantage and disadvantages of the computer as cupid - in a word, dramatically increasing the pool of potential dates, as well as offering options, which is never a bad thing. It gives people an opportunity to “meet” people from different social circles, creating the delightful sense that somebody wonderful is just around the corner (as long as one is able to resist endless corner peering). Then as now, it’s important to online date for a minimum amount of time before going in-life. My basic rule of thumb is that you should have no more than a couple of e-mail chats and phone calls over a couple of weeks before you meet somebody face to face.
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Comment by blkbeauty31 on 22 April 2008:
I think on-line dating has made things more complicated rather than simple. The worst things is that most people I’m interested in live much to far to be taken seriously.
Comment by mossimo36 on 22 April 2008:
I think its great to date outside one’s neighborhood, village, or tribe, if you will. Even today some tribal groups are prohibited from marrying within the tribe, so its only natural to me that people date from outside their village.
Comment by morningflower on 6 July 2008:
Although relatively new to the online dating scene, I can say that it has been pretty dissapointing but that doesn’t mean that the potential to meet great guys is not there. Main thing I have encountered is the lack of honesty. You can be anyone you want to be behind a keyboard and a mouse but again that is filed away under “lessons learned”.
I also agree with blkbeauty31 - distance can be a bit of an issue but even that can be overcome if the two parties are committed. (easier said than done) but I am enjoying the flexibility of being able to decide who is serious and who is out to play games. The upside is that I have met some incredibly, wonderful people that I would not have otherwise met at my local starbucks
Comment by Esmayali on 21 February 2009:
I recently joined this dating service. Like anything in life there’s going to be risks involved. On this site I have met a few people with great potentials to be considered friends on the long run. On any dating site you are going to find men or women that just want to “hook up”. Statistic shows that the best way to meet a man for a woman is through friends. Online men will tell you anything to gain advantage. They will tell you that they are music producers, singes, bankers, movie stars, Donald Trump’s nephew, etc. They will tell you that they have houses in places they never visited and live in 5 different countries at the same time. However, try to get an address. The truth is that many of them are liars. You will also notice, that these are the same people who joined the website several years ago, has had countless encounters with women, men or both and still can’t find “that special one” So, as with anything else use lots of caution.
Comment by VA_SongBird on 22 February 2009:
I think there are advantages and disadvantages to various forms of dating. I think online dating has provided the means for me to meet a variety of people from all walks of life, that traditional dating would have never permitted.
I think online dating is great for screening people. Also, I’ve learned a great deal about myself through online dating due to the fact, I had the opportunity to meet alot of different people. I was better able to define specifically what I was looking for.
Yes.. I’ve met some not so honest people and I’ve also met some great people. That’s life and the risk you to take to find love.
Comment by homesteader on 2 March 2009:
Rainbows only happen when it’s raining , We were Lucky at Afro because Our Dreams were the same . Early today ,I received a message from someone in the Big Apple . Who knew my wifes first name , We also have two daughters with the same first name . We married till death do us part and personally , I have gotten way too old to go thru all the tease that I experienced in the past . Some of my new friends here . Have found the time to consult me with things that I never learned in the past . For sure it rains alot here in the semi-tropic zone and We hope to see many Rainbows together . Between the Hurricanes , that We have Enjoyed Laughing through . Life goes on forever if you can Learn to Enjoy even the Harder times Together .
Comment by fidelis on 31 March 2009:
am a young man of thrity years of age, i like to meet a good and lovely woman.hw will love me and care for me.
Comment by ogo2k5 on 12 June 2009:
is a good thing known well that,online dating is one of the greatest thing that can ever happeen to anyone,it all depend on the man or the woman,but the important thing is that,you have meet someone,ever human known what he or she wants,if want good you see one,if is the other of it then you also fine one,undrerstand onething,life is all about risk,if you must leave life,you must take risk,that is the meaning of love.
Comment by CupidMarket on 2 October 2009:
Once we eliminated these barriers, the real work of having a serious relationship began, and our future unfolded before us. Now she proudly announces that we are back as a couple, and wants us to be that way for the rest of her life.