Gory details… well, if you are a man, never make the mistake of being near two women discussing it coz trust me, you may never have sex for the rest of your life! Whenever I hear a friend complain that a man got to the finish line before she registered a tingle, it got me thinking… are we being punished… the final payback for what we put men through back in our high school days? Back then, they would have one major hard on, almost tearing a hole through their jeans and we wouldn’t even give them a hand.
So are the tables turned now? Did we girls mind leaving the poor boys with aching equipment that were just about to explode?
Of course now we mind. It’s freaking frustrating, it’s uncomfortable, its disappointing… I could go on… and on. Well I guess now we know. And contrary to what people believe, women don’t have sex just for the sake of some freaking intimacy. We just tolerate sex with no orgasm because, well, we take deep breaths, let the feeling pass and hope against hope that next time we will get to the finish line together. At least older women take it better than the boys did. And as long as you don’t come too soon too often, we try to deal with it. 
One thing we might do, is complain about it to the girls. But we definitely won’t daydream about doing Tyrese or Taye Diggs for days on end. Wait – we do daydream about them 
but trust me, its got nothing to do with a man’s sexual longevity.
But women, do you understand men who won’t offer their fingers to finish the job after enjoying their burst of orgasm? Would it not be proper etiquette in this particular situation? Well maybe the assumption is that the partner will push the hand away and opt for cuddling, but most likely, she will writhe against it in ecstasy.
Well if you go that extra mile just for the sake of fully satisfying your woman guys, you may just benefit in future from your gesture. Don’t they say scratch my itch, I’ll scratch yours? Think about it.
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Comment by Cocokisses on 12 September 2007:
FALA! OH NO YOU DIDN’T! ROFLMAO!!!
Comment by angellx on 13 September 2007:
a girls gotta do watta girls gotta do…..lets be truthful here, its all about pleasing the female …. from were pleased an content we will rock a brothers world……or become a bunny boiler … mmmm. coz ain’t no one else gonna get a piece of dat..can i get an amen!!
Comment by Jeff2555 on 13 September 2007:
I would think…that the odds of both coming at precisely the same moment are very slight-so one comes first one time-another the next and when the stars line up it’s mutual timing.
But when it’s the same partner c.m.n.g first all the time, then some adjustments are in order.
Comment by Randy on 13 September 2007:
quite simple really, when she is happy, your happy, when she is unhappy well,,, you get the picture
Comment by Cocokisses on 13 September 2007:
Now you guys know that when the guy comes first, we girls are left hanging
That’s why you give us ours first…this way when you come too quick, some of us don’t care 
Comment by Tracy on 13 September 2007:
I agree withyou cockisses… The guy should let the girl come first that way they will both be happy at the end… But if he happens to come first then he should either give her some oral, use a toy or use his hand until she has reached her stars…
Comment by angellx on 13 September 2007:
guys r not always able to hold out as long as us girly’s …… maybe it should be a compliment to us that we r able to turn him on so quicky, some men still nearly come b4 even entering…if he really wants to please you he will make an encore pretty quickly if hes really not interested he will roll over an go to sleep….then u know that he is purely selfish…
Comment by Starthai on 13 September 2007:
Has anyone seen the finally of Big Brother 8. I’m pissed why does all the wrong people get the luck.
Comment by fala on 13 September 2007:
I say Amen Angellx!!!
Comment by Cocokisses on 14 September 2007:
HEY TRACY…THANKS BUT PLEASE…THAT NAME…IS COCOKISSES, NOT THE OTHER NAME YOU CALLED ME…LOL!
Comment by Summer on 14 September 2007:
Sometimes lady you may have to look at your performance in bed….sometimes your performance can bring a guy to climax,sometimes your performance can be terrible and we also climax quick so we can get the hell out of there…prolonged foreplay,anticipation,bad breath,hygiene, plays a roll in climaxing early….I dont have a problem with stamina,but my rule of thumb is to make her cum twice even before penetration,whether it be by oral or toy or fingers…NEVER LEAVE A WOMAN UNTIL SHE IS SATISFIED….
Comment by angellx on 14 September 2007:
hey Sunmmer…if a girl/guy has bad breath/hygiene or bad performance problems dont either bother with foreplay/oral let alone penetration…….theyz jus plain Naaaaaaaaaaaaaaasty!! kick em to the kerb baby …x Like the never leave her till she’s satisfied bit tho…..sounds good to me babe….
Comment by angellx on 14 September 2007:
lol to tracy with cocokisses nickname….im sure it was just a typo but sure is funny……….;-)
Comment by angellx on 14 September 2007:
still laughing……………………….xx
Comment by Summer on 14 September 2007:
Angellx,I thought that last statement may sound good to ya….and rightfully so because if theres a short coming on the man part it should be a LONG coming on the man part to get you where you need to be… thats in exctasy.
Comment by iceburger on 14 September 2007:
Fala Fala Fala…. I believe its something for all to worry about…rabbits or not….lol
Comment by Kevin on 14 September 2007:
Cocokisses as a man I have to say I REALLY like your new nickname
Comment by fala on 14 September 2007:
lmao@cockisses! that is priceless!!!!
Come on Coco, you know you laughed too!!!!!
Comment by Jeff2555 on 15 September 2007:
When he comes too soon, you should sit around in the dark until he leaves and answer the door when he returns at the expected time. Is this what we’re talking about?
-Jeff
Comment by Jeff on 15 September 2007:
When he comes too soon, you should sit around in the dark until he leaves and answer the door when he returns at the expected time. Is this what we’re talking about?
-Jeff
Comment by TriChique on 15 September 2007:
uhhh Jeff,
how about re-reading the article.
I guess you never have the problem
Comment by angellx on 15 September 2007:
hail……………to Jeff….:-)
Comment by Jade74 on 15 September 2007:
If I’m not back in 10 minutes start without me.
Comment by fala on 15 September 2007:
Lmao@Jade!
Comment by Darklicious on 15 September 2007:
I was involved with this man for about 10 years and he is 10 years older than me. I wasn’t prepared for what this man could put on me but boy was I thankful. when I was younger and married my husband always would come too soon and I was always left hanging.This was very frustrating for me as he was the only man that taught me about sex and getting yours, the guys use to say that which meant coming.I was 41 years old when I met this guy and that made him 51 but he didn’t make love like a 51 year old and this continued up until he was 61 and I 51 and he is still hanging in there but not with me because he stated to drink too much.
Comment by TriChique on 16 September 2007:
Darklicious,
Very frustrating…indeed.
Sorry your sweet honey-bunny went sour due to the liquor. Glad you got a chance to experience what others only dream about.
Comment by laugh_sailor on 16 September 2007:
*Sigh.* Another facet of immaturity. If you have this problem, ladies, stop dating jerks! It’s really that simple. Jerks are initially exciting for a number of surface qualities but even skin-deep, as we’ve seen here, they can get old, really fast. If you look for a man who is fundamentlally sensual, passionate, giving, open-minded, honest and mature, you’ll find a great lover. I’ve found the best lovers are those who are focused on creatively, joyfully pleasing their mate and are quite open about discussing any aspect of sex. You ladies are supposed to excel at choosing a man for qualities other than looks, so apply those skills to choosing him as a lover!
Comment by Cocokisses on 16 September 2007:
Y’ALL KNOW YOU ARE NOT RIGHT! I did laugh tho…LOL! What’s life if you can’t laugh at yourself
I do think a name change is in order… HA HA HA HA HA!
Comment by Cocokisses on 16 September 2007:
Oh yeah…you can stop laughing now Angel!
Comment by Jade74 on 16 September 2007:
Well said Laugh_Sailor.Thanks for point out what most of us ladies miss in choosing a lover.
Comment by fala on 16 September 2007:
Sorry Laugh_Sailor but premature ejaculation has nothing to do with the quality of the man. It happens to most men at one time or another. At least us girls can laugh about it and not write the guy off as a loser.
Comment by laugh_sailor on 17 September 2007:
You’re right, Fala and that’s not the point - Please re-read the last two paragraphs Ria wrote. Play and laughter rock, too.
Comment by angellx on 17 September 2007:
coco……dont change your name babe…..xx
Laugh_Sailor an Forest…..life is like a box of chocolates …….and thats all i got to say about that!!!!
Comment by fala on 17 September 2007:
Good point Angellx.
Comment by Jeff on 18 September 2007:
In our ultra competitive and aggressive (American) culture it could be advantagous to overcome (no pun intended) potential views of sex as a performance effort and more so as an expression of affection, regarding its application in committed relationships. Fine if the idea is just getting laid-less so if emotional involvement is present. Still, ya want ta make her ‘appy, thar yew studs.
Comment by Jeff on 18 September 2007:
In the midnight hour, she cried more…more…more!
With a rebel yell, she cried more…more…more!
Comment by Starthai on 18 September 2007:
lol@Jeff that is my favorite song.
Comment by Jimmy on 19 September 2007:
Interesting subject… as a young man just entering my teens, i had experienced this problem myself. i personally believe the problem comes from lack of experience. as i got older, and began to travel around and have more encounters (especially with older, more experienced women), eventually i learned to control the stimulation and sensations in my cock. i also came to realize that when i would bringing my partner to orgasm, it was a HUGE turn on for me! to hear, see, and feel a woman in the throws of extacy only made my orgasm more intense, and in turn, made it more satisfying for us both. and let me tell you, if i left my woman happy, i learned pretty quickly, that translated to a happy me in more places than just the bedroom (or wherever…)! i love being in control during love making, toying, teasing, and then bringing her to to “the finish line” as it’s been stated here… but here’s where another problem (that might be better discussed on another blog) sometimes rears it’s ugly head… i’ve actually experienced women who can (or only want to) come once… nothing’s worse than having to “do it for yourself” while a woman lays there waiting for you to finish. and i agree that it’s sometimes hard to time your orgasms to happen together (the same control that prolongs you can also leave you limp if you’re not on your game), so i have come to seek out and appreciate women who come quickly, easily, and often.
Comment by fala on 19 September 2007:
I guess I missed something Laugh_Sailor.
Comment by mossimo on 20 September 2007:
Looks like I came too late. This party is already over….
Comment by Cocokisses on 20 September 2007:
Moss, better to come late than not at all
Comment by Jade74 on 20 September 2007:
Moss, the party not over yet.Come on and join in.
Comment by TriChique on 20 September 2007:
Yah Jeff I too like that song.
Comment by angellx on 21 September 2007:
Can one of u guys (male) …..call me on 0999 0911 … its an emergency……..an i prefer….. coz wheh i get that feeling i want sexual healing, sexual healing is something thats good for me…..and its so good for me an its so good for me my baby just take control…an grab a hold of my body an mind…oh my darling, oh we do it fine…something, something,open up an let me in,i can’t wait for you to operate, get up, get up,get up, get up,lets make luv tonite, get up, get up,get up, get up……coz u do it right….an baby i think im capsizing, the waves r rising inside of me…an baby i can’t wait much longer….its getting stronger inside of me……i supose this is the part where he prematurely ejaculates an that just f@@king well pisses me right off….;-)…xx
Comment by paul on 23 September 2007:
hi peeps its true ou get better with age you can control your pc muscles better with practice .you get more matured ie like a vintage wine as you get older lol. every man has expereinced premature ej if they say they havent they are lying . ive learned over the years to come at the same time as my partner theres know better orgasm than that start of shallow then near orgasm full penatration then the crescendo .ps my last partner was 10 years younger she just prefered the older guy coz they new wht they were doing.
Comment by TriChique on 23 September 2007:
I am going to read Listeners post over and over again - yaaahoooo!
Comment by DiAnteMama on 26 April 2009:
LOL. This was a great article. But in all fairness.. Its so much easier for women to have multiple “tingles” lmao. Men only get one and speaking for myself.. I make sure I get at least one.. Most the time more.. HAHA