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Posted by Leticia, December 26th 2010
64 Responses to “How To Get Off The Bench”
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I have always wanted to date outside my race. What can i do to get a fresh start i have been out of the dating game for 4 yrs, raising my baby. Im ready to get out into the dating scene.
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I was not over but it went to fast. …
I rehurse : ur message… is quite touching. Indeed there is allways time to live and to love. Indeed 4 years is maybe the period needed to free the first second for ur own being, after giving it all to baby.
Well if U are interested to meet some other hum&an being just like You, it would be my pleasure;
But be informed, I am not the kind of Caucasion running the US streets. I am a one of the old continent Europe, conservative and allways wearing suits and ties brtween 8 AM and 20 PM actually.
If not wish you a lot of happiness.
Lucas
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AH
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i will just said that you, have to taking easy in life
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NOT BAD
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hello,i would like to be your friend.
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and I would like 2 b ur friend!!
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l thing you are missing something that’s why you want to get out of the dating scene
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Money to spend in natural behavior
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hello,
i would like to be your friend
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I classify myself to be the one
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Hi Msvette, I have been where u r @. I met my man (we r interracial cpl) by just watching him 4 a little while then I got the balls 1 day and met him @ the mail box and asked him if he would like 2 take a walk…that was 5 yrs age, so just go for it girl…good luck!!
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Love have no color
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As a caucasian man, experienced the best between man and woman, when i begin seeking interracial connections, almost to be reborn and renewed my belief in the dating scene once more. The sky is bluer earth seems cleaner and life is an adventure, almost like my first date as a teen
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love is just a feelings, i don’t think that u can hurt sm body who u love much.
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@cwirry abusers do it all the time.
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i love their edutainment videos they crack me up:)
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I need a nice girl to date,and I think lov is like gift from God
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hi l hope am still in the game
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rusry212, i just had a look at your text and u look well fine to me, its just ashame you live in the usa, i just recently have come back from there i was in NY for 4 weeks too, i could have met u as u seem such a nice person, i wish u all the best in finding somebody. trisha
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i am tring to get back in the game i find it a lil difficult to find woman outside my race intrested in me but will keep trying
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Interracially or same race dating is tough, especially when your starting over. Real love takes time and patience. Maybe I’m wrong but that’s what I’ve experienced.
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I think to get off the bench I guess I will have to mail a picture of me to show those beautiful women what a special guy I look like this is the first time I hever use a interracial site I am looking for a beautiful black female I think this would be a very new experience that would change my look of life.
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sure love has no bound,coulor,race,age,class,
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true love is not about the race,colour and distance is all bout the bond between to people (faithfulness,trust,love and care) all pray for is a faithful man full of affection.
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i am deffinetly in need of a true love but somehow dont get through especcially when a cute chick comes al9ong. anyone to get me moving
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Would someone PLEASE tell me WHY these on-line services, and society, in general, INSIST that women must be the VICTIMS, and that men must, always, be the abuser/perpetrator/criminal/etc?
I can name PLENTY of women, who use, abuse, then cast MEN aside, just for the pleasure of saying “Yes! I did it! And I am PROUD of it!”
Why arent men more aggressive, nowadays? Lets see:
1) Date “rape” – Yes, if a woman does not like a mans performance, she “gets even”, by charging him with raping her. He goes to jail, and she has a huge laugh!
2) Sexual “harrassment” – In the work-place, and in society, in general, women are allowed to act, and DO, as they please, while men are required to conform to new laws, which state that, if a man “offends” a woman, HE goes to jail.
On the other hand, IF a woman insults a man, even by PUBLICLY screaming in his face “You’re NOT a man! You dont deserve a woman!”, society says this is “womans perogative”.
Now, do you understand why so many men stay “On the bench”, and DONT, actively, try for dates.
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@writer1259 Well to me a real man does’t even need anything called rape it sounds noh sense not at all and da hole issue off all dis black and white is all caused by racialism and dere is nothing anybody can do about it cus it has been dere from day 1 all we need is to put a bite love in our hear and see other’s like your self Simply&shor am always straight and honest with my word we all noh da fact so what’s da need of trying to keep silences over it??? I have got my mouth and I have got to say it out cus it is da truth about da matter if we can only be realistic. THANK U PEACE BE WITH YOU ALL.
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hi there, I must say that, having read through your points of arguement, there is not one positive word, comment, or sentence. Kharma bequeths Kharma, or what you say that iwha you’ll get. It’s a Universal spiritual law, no matter your creed, colour or sex. Change your attitude by the very words that you speak and smile instead of frowning. Happiness is a frame of mind, so is sadness, we choose these frames or allow others to steal or frames, some for a moment, a time , a day a lifetime. It’s up to us to make lfe work, take back your frame of mind and be happy again, smile, change your outlook, Stopblaming the world, look within, And then see thdifference it makes with woman, she’ll see a happy, smiling confident guy, not some nut busting, jaw grinding idiot.
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after a long time off the dating scene i see how hard it is for a black guy like myself to get his interracial princess.what is there for a really nice ,respectful guy have to to to get meet his future bride . someone who is not looking for something short but long term and a life time commitment
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Av been off the dating world for a period of 1 year 11months may be this has seriously affected ma dating techniques
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I sometimes get a kick about how hesitant some people are who have not yet dated interracially.
The first girl I ever fell in love with was a pretty black girl.
We were in our teens and, what was between us just came on all by itself.
That’s the best kind no matter whether it’s interracial or not.
My teens were a long time ago and, I have had and will forever have an affinity for black women.
I feel fortunate that I was able to be a part of this in my teens and to be a part of it today.
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They say that Love is like give and Take….if we can apply this words, then we can build strong relationship.
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this reply is to writer1259, well for me woman are to be handled with care, but most men this day just feel they can miss handle women and just walk away like that, so if women are giving more attention based on care or low in the society then its worth it, at least we hardly hear that female rape male, but its always the male….so we should be protected……
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sure babe any guy that treats his babe’s mama anyhow is a beast
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Hellow PETTYTD?
UR LOOKING SO MWAAA.
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Love is natural. I believe some body will appreciate me more than the way i am feeling. Happiness they say is the source of wealth.
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It’s hard to find someone whom you truly love, much less to find someone who loves you as much. When the chance comes, never let go.
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These videos are hilarious! SImon Carson’s accent is very good. It just slips every now and then, most notably when he says “date whisperer” and his native American twang kicks in.
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how do i meet people here i hope i’m in the place where they make things happen for real
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I am glad I am warming up to meet some Asian or Indian lady with an inner beauty for a gentleman who who trusts gender equality plus equity and mutual respect between the husbands and wives.This is my cup of tea or coffee.May God bless the lucky lady.Amen.
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What is colour, Where beauty is skin deep. As some guys expressed that you go to jail for fallen off the bench but the main thing is the chemical interaction between two people which should not be taken for granted by anybody irrespective of their gender.
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i am such a charming young man,tall, handsome,cool,romantic man and i will upload my photo soon to get you attracted.i hope to find a tall,slim,curvy hipped and pretty young woman in this site.if you are one such a humble and beautiful woman,send me amessage please.
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well,may be I should get off the bench too. I need a good,loving,caring,and God-fearing woman in my life for a serious relationship,to start with.
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Where do yu come from
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I think getting off the Bench is fantastic. Hmmm.I too need that caring, God fearing loving and serious one. are you there?
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please suggest me i needa kenya girl to marry how it will be success
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what i belive in this life is that every man or woman have is owen life to live,but before that
u must think about ur future,what u will do to active ur future,and soulmate.
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hello, how are you today? I am Power1. May i please know more about you?
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Iam looking for a men who fear god i will be happy to get yu i will love yu for ever god bless yu
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True love or real love is not based on wealth, fame,money power, colour, race. It is a natural gift starts within a inmost of a person. It takes some quality time to refine itself to venture through the confusing world of love.
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I would rather like to receive from God fearing women The fear of athe Lord is the beginning of wisdom
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l really need a true love some one who can heal my broken heart
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I really would like to meet true and sincere love through this super powerful dating site.
race is not important to me at all and all that matters is understanding and compatibility.
i know this site will make things happen in my life soon.
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there are still true love in this world and sure i will meet her soon.love me for who i am,i promise you even moreeeeeee.
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Istill believe in true love ,and am hoping to get my love from this site.
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yes am also of d same vision and i believe we can meet and do something better.am interested in u.
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am sure life is of all love, n if love ain’t meant then your living ain’t worth life n love am sure if you love guys from Kenya here is me willing to love to sastifaction.
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MY FRIEND TILL NOW I GOT MORE SAME MESSAGE FROM YOUR COUNTRY BUT WHEN I WILL SEND REPLY BUT TILL NOW THEY DONOT MESSAGE Me AGAIN & NEVER COMMUNICTE WITH ME.
BUT IF U WANTS TO MAKE FRIENDSHIP/ MERRIAGE/CLOSE RELATIONSHIP
AS U WANTS I<M READY BUT MUST BE NEED HONESTLY.
BECAUSE I DONOT LIKE A LIAR/CHEATTER.
I THINK U R A GOOD PERSON , I WANTS TO SEE U FROM YOUR WEB CAM & WANTS TO CHAT/TALK WITH U BUT IF U R AGREE WITH ME MY FRIEND.
WAITING YOUR NEXT LOVELY MESSAGE.
GOD/ALLAH BLESS U .
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I never guessed that I’d be looking for a date online, but this seems like the latest and greatest way to meet people, so I guess that’s why I find myself here giving things a try. I am new on this site and i was searching through…I guess you suit my kind of woman judging from your profile any
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Any way the truth must be said at this juncture. A waman should be treated just like a baby coz that’s natural and has to be done. Pamper them, some times may not only to giving tham every nthing on eath, i am not saying we should not but while doing that you have to apply that of the natural which is care , love , romantic, sincerity which is important, by so doing this you will see that the bad side of her will be gradually cured by you, lol…
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very well said power1
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Wow! Any woman that come accros you must know that she has met her kina of man cos naturally i know what a woman need from a man…
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Hi power1,am glad that yo here..u seem to knw wat love is,am so pleased by your words,am in need of love bt its nt easy to get it..lets keep each other company till we find our soulmates.
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