The first date representative
I've come to the sad realization that when you first meet someone, you are meeting not really that person but a representative. A rep who is careful, moderate, genteel, more or less continually self-monitoring. A sales rep is more like it.
After having met enough of these sales reps only to realize that the product is actually faulty after committing myself, I say a relationship should begin with a few of life's more terrifying moments before graduating to the more pleasant – and not the other way round. This is the only way to weed out a plethora of candidates to find those truly fit for the challenge of sharing life with another person over time.
I present adversity dating!
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What do you think the first date should be like? An evening of going through your taxes to a soundtrack of children squabbling in the bath? Or an outing where they receive a call in the middle of the night summoning them to calm a fretful child?
The thing is when it comes to dating, we have to ask ourselves if we are really going about it in the right way. Might there be another way of determining whether that ‘representative’ you are sharing that first, candlelight meal could also be the person who will hold the bowl for you when you are sick?
Should we continue having candlelit dinners and walks on the beach under the sunset knowing well that both of you are just putting on a show for the moment? I mean, who could be boorish in a walk on the beach?
May be we should try a walk under the scotching sun … may be this will be a test of character. And this is why we should bring to dating a ruthlessness of war: Nothing works like adversity to thin out the ranks. Forget to carry money on your first date then tell me if you got a second one. You need to know if in times of crushing boredom, he can cook up the right amount of mischief to keep you laughing. And as much as I am for the beach walks, for the sake of separating the sales rep from the real person, then I am for adversity dating.
Anyway what do you think the first, second and third dates of this adversity dating scheme should be like? And would it really work?
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