You have been using the online dating service to find love. You finally find what you are looking for… the man or woman of your dreams… your better half. But even after having settled on this particular person, you still find your self logging onto an array of dating sites… every chance you get. Could you be addicted to online dating?
Well you may see it as some harmless fun and games. What’s wrong with a little flirting anyway? Well that is how all forms of addictions start… not being able to gauge how much is too much… how far is too far… not being able to STOP!!!
Most of us get online with noble intentions… finding love. Then once online, we get hooked to the sexy men and women we find online, then the enticing and leading on conversations that lead to arousal, and before you know it, you are masturbating while being online. With the presence of webcams… Do I have to spell it out for you?
Ever logged on to a dating site, seriously looking for love and then some ‘pervert’ IMs you with the sole purpose of seeing arousal from you? Well one thing that makes internet dating so addictive for most people is that it’s arousing and it provides needed attention. And when the need for arousal becomes habit forming, addiction gets born.
It all boils down to one thing… How far are you willing to go to find this special person? Will you go as far as arousing the other person just to seek their attention? With as many fish as there are in dating pond, when you cast your net, will you arouse every other person you are interested in? Well that is how most of us cross that line. ‘The longer you stay on-line the more likely you are going to become desensitized and eventually cross the line from loving intentions to lustful temptations.’
Once you have found that special person, don’t you think its time to just let it go? If you found your spouse busy chatting and jerking off of online dating sites, would you consider this as some betrayal or cheating to be precise?
If you are addicted, reconsider your initial intentions and get back on track. Always be in control of your online dating before it takes control of you and lose out on what you were seeking to find… Love… NOT Lust.
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Comment by fala on 6 April 2007:
I think meeting people online is a great way to make friends, but you really shouldn’t get too serious about someone till you actually meet face to face and get to know each other. That’s the only way you can truly know a person.
Comment by Tarah on 7 April 2007:
OMG!!!
Comment by Well on 7 April 2007:
It is definitely addicting. Years ago I would just have one woman at a time. Now, it is almost getting to the point the more the better.
Comment by mayank on 9 April 2007:
i amin search of girlfriend from india (bangalore)
Comment by fala on 9 April 2007:
At least Well is honest.
Comment by fala on 10 April 2007:
Good luck with that Mayank.
Comment by mossimo on 12 April 2007:
I think I was addiced for a while but took steps to slowly back away from the computer. I can see how it can happen though
Comment by justknowingu on 12 April 2007:
informative article..I agree with fala….things can really change for the better or worse when u finally meet someone face to face….!!
Comment by Phil on 13 April 2007:
Absolutely it is addicting. But then again, so is love & friendship & butter.
Comment by love20mumy on 16 April 2007:
Hello!!!
My name is lorita,i saw your profile today and became intrested in you,i will also like to know you the more,and i want you to send an email to my email address so i can give you my picture for you to know whom i am.Here is my email address (lorita4realgarba@yahoo.com) believe we can move from here!I am waiting for your mail to my email address above.(Remeber the distance, colour or language does not matter but love matters alot in life.
Comment by Thomas on 19 April 2007:
I just looking for friends here and everyone can read by checking my profile. But I agree that poeple have to meet personally to find out if they love each other, regardless of wether one is black and the other white.
Comment by Thomas on 24 April 2007:
You can find friends but if you looking for love you have to meet face by face. Years ago I met a penpal and we realized in a very short time that we can not be a couple.
Comment by mossimo on 29 April 2007:
Face to face is the only way to ever tell if you are compatible. The chemisty has to be there
Comment by Thomas on 14 May 2007:
yes masimo, but that means that you have to travel over a long distance if the girl, you know from afroromance, lives in an other continent.
Comment by Thomas on 4 June 2007:
hello @ all