Are Black women and Asian men being sidelined?

Posted by Ria, 09 Sep 07

I'm always blogging about how White guys are getting the hot Asian women… but lets not forget Black guys dating White women.

Black woman-Asian man couples are like considered rare in the US… sometimes even ridiculed as poor matches by whites, blacks and Asians alike. Is this combo freakish as some people who have never seen such a couple put it?

One thing that made me sit and think for a moment is… "Are there fewer white men that are willing to date black women… and even fewer white women willing to date Asian men?" It’s like Black women and Asian men are being left on the sideline when it comes to the interracial dating game. So why is this?

Following what most people say, would I be right to conclude that most Black women and Asian men probably aren’t interested in dating outside of their own race?

I believe when people finally get over their rigidity and put a human face to black woman-Asian man relationships eventually they will respect this combo as much as most Americans accept and even laud some other types of interracial unions.

Well I think this would be one viable option to consider in interracial dating… Black women and Asian men should start dating each other more. What do you make of it?

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  1.   Eam60 says:
    Posted: 09 Jun

    When i was in college and med school, i met many Asian men and went on many dates with them...it was enjoyable and relaxed. What I found out is that the Asian men are on the shy side because of their culture and up-bringing...I realized that if you are the aggressor they are more than willing to get to know you and date you.

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  2.   MrRight4u2 says:
    Posted: 30 May

    i don't think its intentional, in general BW & AM are just not as glamorized in the media as others

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  3.   NickiLovely says:
    Posted: 26 May

    In the island of Jamaica, this is not unusual. I have two cousins married to Jamaicans who are "asian". I have other cousins whose great grandmother is from Hong Kong. If anyone saw the Voice, one of the winners is Jamaican with an "asian" Jamaican father.

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  4.   Cory0533 says:
    Posted: 27 Oct 13

    I would love to date an asian man. Korean or Japanese preferably or even Taiwanese. I have had friends who are asian and they've asked me out but I turn them down because they are my friends and I don;t date my friends. But then living here in Hawaii the races mix often. I have seen Asian men and black women several times and it gives me hope that maybe I can date an asian man too.

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  5.   Nairobi28 says:
    Posted: 25 Jun 12

    I receive many winks and msgs from Asian men north and south east on Match.Com, however, I have no intrest in dating AM. Good luck to those who are attracted to Asians :). Don't give up! Asians are attracted to black women.

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  6. Posted: 11 Jun 12

    Well I myself being a BF do like AM but I cant seem to find any Asian men interested in me or they dont let on that they are interested but I LOVE Asian men. I have dated two and have loved the experience so if anyone out there knows of any Asian men whom love Buxom black women please let me know...

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  7.   shyone78 says:
    Posted: 19 Dec 11

    I've seen some AM/BF relationships and it's always a pleasant surprise. If you go to a certain website and type in AM/BF you'll see quite a bit of Asian men are interested in black women. True as one video blogger said he's under a lot of family pressure. And the older generation is not really going for it. So I think the men lose big time.

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  8.   SAM7167 says:
    Posted: 16 Dec 11

    I would love to date an Asian man, particularly a Korean man, but they all seem to look at white women or stay in their race. I know it has something to do with tradition and misconceptions towards the other races. Anyway, that sucks when you can't date the person that you want, because of your race. It happens to way too often and not only towards Asian men! The only race that I see is the HUMAN RACE: is that so wrong?

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  9.   Essence94 says:
    Posted: 16 Dec 11

    It's not often seen but possible, Asians most often stay within their race. My grandfather was also a Chinese man who married my grandmother who was Haitian. I'm not married so I carry the Chinese last name and people often expect to see a full blooded asian or I would be asked if I'm married to an asian man.

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    • nika23 says:
      Posted: 15 Jun 12

      Oh I've had that problem too, especially with job interviews. They expect an Asian woman and a black woman walks in. It proves how racist this country is because sometimes I have even been turned away from the job I was to be interviewed for and some have tried to give me a lower paying job when they see I'm not Asian.

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  10.   AuroraIN says:
    Posted: 11 Sep 11

    This is a great topic! Some friends and I had this conversation. We were a diverse group of African Americans, a woman from the Caribbean, a European couple, a Korean couple and a European American couple. Other than the Korean couple themselves, I (an African American female) was the only one in the room who had dated an Asian. We came to the conclusion that BF-AM couplings rare because of a few prejudices on the parts of both parties (BF-AM). Asians statistically are the ethnic group least likely to marry outside of their ethnic group in the US (percentage-wsie). It is expected that AFs marry a successful man and that he is Asian, but a WM would be acceptable in a traditional Asian family, though perhaps, not preferred. We have seen in previous comments in other blogs and we have observed in life in the US, African American women are least likely to marry outside their ethnic group. There is much debate if that's because they choose African American males exclusively or if they are rejected by others, but unfortunately, that's our reality and Asian men share that reality. Asian men are in a double bind: they both suffer from some form of racism that portrays them as less masculine and less appealing and may be limited by their own preferences/prejudices about what ethnic group's women provide them the most suitable match for marriage. I believe it is more likely a combination of cultural taboos and a conscious choice that keeps BF-AM couples very rare in the US. To this day, the only married BF-AM couple I know is my cousin and her 2nd-generation Chinese husband. They married over 25 years ago and are still happily wed. I have no problem with dating men of any ethnic group; I choose my matches by what ideologies we hold in common and I sincerely believe if BF-AMs could enjoy each other's company if they would look for their similarities instead of focusing on their differences and perhaps societal perspectives of their relationships and choices for mates.

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    • Reese says:
      Posted: 22 Dec 11

      Asian men maybe. But Asian women are part of the largest ir group with white men making up almost 48% AA women involved in IR couples.

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      • nika23 says:
        Posted: 15 Jun 12

        Yes I agree, 75% of ALL interracial couples are Asian women and white men. The other 25% are interracial pairings of ALL OTHER races and sexes. Asian men like black women are less likely to date out of their race, but like black women, they too have recently begun exploring interracial dating. I have dated a Korean and a Chinese guy and I see it much more often than I did just 5 years ago. I've been a member of several AMBW sites (some dating sites and some supporting AMBW relationships) and it's always good when the whole group gets together to hang out for an event. Whether AMBW get together or date other races I think it's good because waiting around for the opposite sex within our racial group would be a waste of time.

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  11.   Divagal275 says:
    Posted: 27 Apr 11

    I would say the AM-BF couple has been uncommon in the Caribbean island, and Guyana, and Suriname. My grandfather was Chinese + my grandmother Black.

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    • Divagal275 says:
      Posted: 27 Apr 11

      Sorry, I meant not uncommon.

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      • nika23 says:
        Posted: 15 Jun 12

        I agree, my grandfather is also Chinese and my grandmother is black. It was odd for me to see an AWBM couple because I'm much more used to AMBW couples. It's not only in my family, but a common thing in Trinidad and other Caribbean countries like Guyana. The AMBW couple is also becoming popular in Africa with the Chinese men working in Africa now. There aren't enough Chinese women around due to the one child policy anyway, so many of the Chinese men working in Africa are marrying African women. Some are moving back to China with their African wives and some may stay in Africa. A few years ago there was the first African newsanchor (female) on a Chinese channel (I believe CCTV). It was really cool to see, especially since since she had her hair in braids which is so frowned upon in the US as being unprofressional and sometimes ghetto.

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        • Peachez916 says:
          Posted: 07 Jul 12

          @nika23 and Divagal275 I love both comments..and to continue the flow I am in aggreement with you both, in that due to the fact of migration of asian males, not limited to Chinese there has been a lot of interracial interaction between the two. But it stems further back in our history (American) that is, Originally, the Chinese came to this country to work on the Railroads...cheap labor and they made enough money to survive and to send money home to their families, (fathers and mothers and siblings)..Now becasue there weren't that many Chinese females, depending on where they were working. Chinese men starting interacting with black women and took them as wives. I myself have some asian ancestory by marriage....great aunt married to a Japanese male, my uncle Tinaki...who I adore. At present, they are living in Vegas, originally they met and worked with each other while living in Chicago...according to him it was love at first sight...awesome! They relocated due to his developing major respiratory problems asthma - needed a drier climate..and Vegas was it for them...btw they both are investment brokers...Now what I want to relate is that here in the US the coupling of AM/BW is not so unique as you think...While in the past, they were considered the bottom of the relationship totum pole (socially) attitudes have definitely changed. So much so that these relationships have blossomed tremendiously. In fact, there are several sites that are dedicated to the relationships of AM&BM one being; (BlackWomenAsianMenUnited). It was created by a young man who has gathered together more than 6 to 8 thousand members...and those numbers are climbing...When you get the time check it out...It's not a dating site per say, but AM & BW connect on all levels there. Socially they get together for meetups and support, there are so many variety of men from every asian ethnic background, Maylasian, Chinese, Japanese, Filipino, Korean, Somoan, Vietnamese, Tangalese, etc. Although any and everyone is welcomed to join is definitely is a place were BW and AM connect. Members consists of a few Authors, Bankers, Students pursuing their PhD's, Stock Brokers, Physicians, Teachers, etc, people from every walk of life..and it's not limited to one area...it all over the United States...so if you're interested please go to the site and check it out for yourself I'm more than sure you won't be disappointed ok! Also, Crunchyroll boast photos of Many AMBW couples, They also blown up on Youtube and there a Facebook page as well...BWAW. Here's the link for Crunchyroll photos of AMBW..just to give you an idea of how popular these relationships are. http://www.crunchyroll.com/user/merlose/photos?album_id=6112407 Also, most recently there is a new site in that its only been up for about a year and a half, most recent one; called BlackandYellow.com...you guys will definitely love it there...these are just a few to let everyone know that this is the time for AMBW, as well as all interracial relationships to grow...Hmmmm...do you think it has anything to do with our President...I'm just saying...since he's been in the white house...interracial realtionships have been in the forefront so much more than in the past, wouldn't you agree? It's my opinion that this phenom it definitely trending upward..."smoochez"

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  12. Posted: 15 Apr 11

    Hmmm...not really attracted to Asian men.

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  13.   mazc says:
    Posted: 18 Mar 11

    People can date or chose to be with who ever they want. A real person knows what they want and what they like and wouldn't care for anyone's disapproval. I determine my happiness.

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  14.   EarthAngel3 says:
    Posted: 15 Mar 11

    @KuuroOnna88 u r beautiful, each day recite in the mirror at least 3xdaily "I am beautiful" and your actions will follow to bring to light your beauty for all to see.

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  15.   bsuga4wsuga says:
    Posted: 05 Mar 11

    Prior to giving birth to me my mother an BF was married to an AM (1970's NYC). I tell lots of people and that and they belive that its very rare. Even more so siblings of the AM that my mother married all married out side of their race, 3 with black, 1 indian, the other white. I must say that its common in NYC to see people mixed with Jamaican (sometimes other carribean groups) and Asian.

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  16.   KuroOnna88 says:
    Posted: 22 Feb 11

    I feel that in the end, people have their own decisions to make. To generalize anything about one group of people on anything is shortsighted, especially when it's assumptions based off of past prejudices. I am a Black woman, and I listen to Metal (among other types of music), plan on more piercings, and I'm not model material. In fact, most men would turn their nose up at me, because I am not their ideal woman from first sight. Sure, it hurts. But then I remember all of those failed relationships that were started on physical attraction, and think, that perhaps I'm better off. Because I am that nice person. Because I know what I'm like, and don't have to justify it to satisfy someone else's beliefs. I may be on the 'sidelines' but you can learn a lot from being left out than being included. It's lonely, and sometimes hard to deal with, but I'm learning from all the mistakes that everyone else is making. I'm 22 years old, almost 23, and I've never had a boyfriend before. I find Asian men highly attractive. I get laughed at, ridiculed, called a traitor, all kinds of things. It doesn't bother me like it used to, but it's just what I like. Do I have to be put on some kind of totem pole as to my worth for someone else based on things that I had no control over? I didn't ask to be born Black. None of us asked to be born how we are. We just are....and we're being made to suffer for some stupid sense of pride and ethnic segregation, that was started and perpetrated by people who are long dead. Can someone help me? Can they help me understand just what it is I have to do to be even given a chance? I feel like the rotten piece of fruit that people's eyes skim over, and they never even touch. I would not wish this feeling upon my worst enemy.

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  17.   bluemnm says:
    Posted: 21 Feb 11

    I am a half white/half black woman who has always wanted to date an Asian guy but have been too shy to ever approach one, strictly because of the stereotypes that Asian men don't date brown women! I find them incredibly sexy and exotic. After reading the posts on here, I feel much more confident that maybe, just maybe, I'll date an Asian guy sometime soon and then I can post my own success story!

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    • Eam60 says:
      Posted: 31 Mar

      Did you know a lot of so called Asian people are brown and dark brown. My daughter who is of mixed raced grew up with a girl from Cambodia and this girl was so jealous of my daughters' light complexion and curly hair until she did everything she could to get curly hair and light skin.....so brown skin they are.

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  18.   coolgal211 says:
    Posted: 19 Feb 11

    Let me tell you a story. One weekend a couple of my friends went out. What they didn't tell me is that they were going out with some guys. There were two Korean guys and one Dominican guy. First thing we did was go to a Korean restaurant and then a Korean bar. Never been to both in my life but it was interesting. At the bar we were singing karaoke (on the stage). One of the Korean guys were staring at me but I didn't realize he was staring. I thought he was looking at his reflection. So, I really didn't pay him any attention. I thought that he was conceited but that was the first time I ever thought that a Asian man thought that I was attractive. We really had a good time. Ever since then I really wanted to date an Asian guy. I don't think that I am ugly or any thing like that but I would like to experience it one time. I mean I am pursuing two associate degrees and studying to get my certifications in various areas. Also, I am self-employed. So, why am I not a catch to an Asian guy. I would love for a guy to come up to me and ask me out. You don't have to be shy just be confident. You never know if I will say yes but I do want to know one thing is Asian men more loyal because of their culture or is it a stereotype.

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  19.   Afrosiren says:
    Posted: 05 Feb 11

    I find beauty in all cultures. And have been interested in dating Asian men. However, I have yet to find a dating site that had mature Asian men. Any ideas?!

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  20.   Beezy04 says:
    Posted: 31 Jan 11

    Well im new to the site and one of the reasons I joined because I've always been attracked to asian men,but like alot of you've said I didnt ever try to talk one before because of assumptions.But it's nice to see that I'm not the only one who feels this way and hope with the help of this site I'll have my own success story to tell :)

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  21.   Squozen says:
    Posted: 21 Dec 10

    I am a black Latina and I have dated a few Asian men. In fact I absolutely love Asian men. I don't think it's an issue that Asian men don't want to date black women or vice versa. I believe that because of assumptions both think the other has no interest. I've heard more than once "Oh wow, I just didn't think you'd be interested in me because I'm Asian." Asian men are sexy, beautiful and super sweet. And despite some comments above I know that I am sexy, feminine and gentle... Once the stereotypes start breaking down you will see more and more Asian men with black women whether there are a few or lot people should be OK with everyone either way.

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  22.   Aniiko says:
    Posted: 13 Dec 10

    Hi, I have been with many ethnicities... Turkish, Morrocon, Latinos, Caucasions, one black guy, and two Asians (both Korean). Can I be honest... Korean Guy treated me better than any of the others ... He did not profile me, he did not generalize me, he just approached me as a female. On top of that, HE ASKED what my heritage was later.... Its kinda sad, we had to break up, but whats really cool about it, is that i learned that there are men out there, that will let a girl sit back and breath.... I actually was able to let go of the steering wheel. Complete faith in someone is a cool thing. Try it! Anyhow, I will date Asians, and with out the beautiful concept of no racial boundaries, I would not exist. So F society and F external pressures. There is a bigger picture people... the human race.

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  23.   ForeLone says:
    Posted: 12 Dec 10

    I am a Chinese man living in NY,NY -- USA, and have a family with a beautiful black women with locks. That's right, locks and not straight hair. First and foremost, I did not read all the entries... I got half way down and was tired. I just want to tell my story and say my two cents. Before I met my wife, I didn't really think much about BFs, heck I didn't even think nor they cross my mind. All I know is that i would like to be happy with my own family. When I was with my parents, I was living in Chinatown. Occasionally I would see Black, White, Hispanic around; either living there or close by or maybe here to get a discount. After I met my wife, whole new look at things and the world. It is like now the world is in color. When people say, I don't see many AM with BW; I answer, because you are not really looking for them. When your mind is opened, then you will see there are many AM/BW couples out there. The AM might not be physically there sometimes, but you can tell if a BW is caring for a Asian looking baby/child with curly hair -- Blasians! In my most honest opinion, to battle ignorance, you must use education. Education is the one true key to freeing ones mind. If one has an open mind, they will see things that they will not usually see. I am speaking of in color and even 3D. Forums like this does help. When people come together and discuss a topic of choose, and others give in put and or write there own experiences, this is what I refer to as education.

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    • NickiLovely says:
      Posted: 26 May

      Forelone,thank you for sharing your story. I agree education is the key. In the island of Jamaica where people think the nation is predominately just black people, many would be surprised to learn how mixed the people are. The only true pure "africans" are the Maroons and my dad shared even they are mixing. If you know a Jamaican ask them are there are any Indians, European and/or Asians mixtures in thier family tree, and they would say yes. The mixture is not that far back either, it could thier father, mother, grandmother etc.The motto of the nation is out of many one people. If you ever met a Jamaican, you would find we do not see ourselves as different from any other ethnicity cause that would be hypocritical. We are human and as a result attraction is not limited to one ethnicity and neither is love.

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  25.   nicknack83 says:
    Posted: 11 Oct 10

    I think Asian men are the most handsome men on Earth.

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  27.   Chriss89 says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 10

    People spend more time looking at the surface of what that relationship IS (Asian person and black person) and not what it could be (loving, caring, ordinary). Let's just take society out of the picture and imagine these two people together as people and not race for just ONE moment. I think that this pairing doesn't happen often because both people are more concerned with the outward appearance of their relationship, and feeling like they have to come equipped with some special kind of "armor" that will ensure the relationship will work. It will work if you do everything any other person would if they cared about their significant other: respect, cherish, and treat them right. It will work even better if you throw out the race factor.

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  28.   Cynamyn82 says:
    Posted: 16 Sep 10

    Asian men are very attractive. I can't resist staring into his almond-shaped yes. Whether he is Pinoy, Japanese, Korean, Thai, Cambodian, or etc., I have plenty of love for Asian men, also. I thank God, that I am not the type to fall for silly stereotypes when it comes to anybody. If so, I will be missing out on a lot.

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  30.   avellana says:
    Posted: 15 Aug 10

    @ Back-at-cha You sound irritated by the issue of AM/BF relationships, why is this? You may not find black women attractive and that is absolutely fine, no one is saying you or other Asian men should go out with Black women and the reverse is true. I think the fact that you've decided to interpret this debate in this way points to some issue within yourself. As does the fact that you felt the need to criticise bbincali (March 11 2010) for doing some research into what Asian men think about AM/BF relationships. Again, your issues led you to warp the focus of this research into what Asian men think of Black women :rolleyes: Secondly, just because you have a certain opinion of black women doesn't mean that all Asian men have the same one. Have you actually read some of the glowing compliments that Asian men have made about Black women on this page? And vice versa? Or of the people that are/have been in loving BF/AM relationships? Far from this being a stupid subject not worth writing about, I see it as an interesting exploration into a social phenomenon. While it's true that some Asian men don't tend to find Black women attractive (with the reverse being true) or "feminine" as you put it, to say this completely answers the question of why BF/AM couples aren't seen all that often if at all is extremely narrow-minded, lacking in depth and quite frankly, smacks of more than a touch of racism (And this is true of IndoPak boy's views too). And if the stereotype of "femininity" is the one I think you mean, then your views could be seen as being pretty sexist too. I happen to be drawn to men of all ethnic groups and think that qualities such as kindness, open-mindedness, sincerity and warmth are far more important than skin colour, height, muscle mass, machismo, etc. It feels so much freer to be this way. I wish you luck...

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    • serenity33 says:
      Posted: 15 Nov 10

      I think they go great together and I am white!! One of the most beautiful women I ever saw was an Asian mixture with black. And she was dating a fine black man who was handsome and doing quite well financially and was a great catch!! He wanted to marry her but she wasnt sure she wanted to settle down yet being as she was so pretty and had last dated a white doctor who cheater on her. I spent the evening out with them dining and after talking to him mostly since I had already talked to her a lot online, I told her that she had better marry this guy before someone snatches him up because he was a fantastic catch!! I hope she took my advice.:-)

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  31.   rhi says:
    Posted: 10 Aug 10

    I'd do Bruce Lee

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  32.   Rai-Bread says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 10

    I've been with my girlfriend for quite some time now and it's going great so far. I am Chinese and she's a mixture of Black/Mexican/Irish/Cherokee. When we go places, people always stare at us and it used to bother me so much in the beginning. After a while, I begin to accept the fact that, we're just different and out of the norm I'd say since EVERYBODY in the area dates their own or what's used to being seen: African-American men with European-White/Asian/Latin women; Caucasian men with European-White/Asian/Latin/African-American women; etc., but you wouldn't really see an Asian man, especially myself, being a Chinese man with an African-American woman. She is mixed but clearly when viewed from near or far, you can tell we're quite the different couple. Despite who thinks what or who says what, I've always been devoted to my baby and I've always been in this warmth I get whenever I'm around her. She's a wonderful person, shy at times, kind, loving, sweet, bubbly and soo much of my other half I lack in too long. I love her...always have, always will. We plan on having kids one day, and furthermore to adopt a child or two. I will marry her one day, that's if she doesn't catch up to me first! :) haha..I love it. Once I dated my baby..I've never looked back and that's just how it's going to be..together forever always.

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  33.   sue says:
    Posted: 17 Jul 10

    well i have seen all the comment posted here and i agree with a few of them.i am a black girl well mixe hispanic/african. and i am crazy with asian guys and asian dramas and movies and their are a few korean actors who are so freaking hot. take kim nam gill he played in queen seon deok and now his newest drama bad guy.their are allot of atractive asian man out there that are so hot that you can,t stop looking ad them ho an other quetion why is it that some of the most hotest korean man allways look like a girl i whas watching a few dramas and lol this guys look so like an asian girl that i think the co star that play with them should feel a little bit intimidaded.it to bad that people would think an asian guy and i black woman can be together i think they would look good together. if i can find an korean man i won,t let him leave ever.

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  35.   ChinaDoll18 says:
    Posted: 10 Jul 10

    Wow! I actually think this website is re-awsome. I feel that the matter of the fact is rather we like it, or not we are defined by race. Rather we define or not soicety has put it out there. Even though it's there we can't allow that to be. All we can do is what is right, and follow are hearts. If that may be being in love with in asian,white, and or black men/women so be it. Who's the judge God as long as he apporves thats all what matter's.

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  36.   Jelava says:
    Posted: 09 Jul 10

    @BBINKALI Just because you think black women are not as feminine doesn't make it a bad thing. Just as long as your attracted to them or think they're sexy,beautiful,smart,loyal,honest,and respectful there shouldn't be a problem right?

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    Posted: 05 Jul 10

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  38.   Back-at-cha says:
    Posted: 05 Jul 10

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    • Randerson101 says:
      Posted: 28 Dec 13

      Back-at-cha, no offense but I am very feminine and come from a family of very feminine women. I also have friends who are beautiful and extremely feminine that are black. Now don't get me wrong, I do know a lot of black women who are strong in personality but I've seen just as many on the opposite side of the spectrum. Trust me, if an asian man went to the right places there are a ton of black women out there that would be soft and feminine. We have just got to stop grouping everyone in the same category. Also many of us are not soo devoted to black men as you may think.

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  39. Posted: 25 May 10

    Well I don't care what no one says I love Asian guys I think there sweet kind and loving and if people want to stare and say bad things well they can kiss ma black a** lol there not hurting me ther hurting themselfs any way am 17 and hoping oneday to go to japan and marry a hot Japanese guy domo arigato gozimasu

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  40.   miZblakgirl says:
    Posted: 22 May 10

    Hey I would just like to point out 1 thing on this topic. Black men don't go for black women because we have boundries and self respect not being racist or anything but they go for white women because their easier to get and are more avalible then black women are thats why black men go for white women. To be honest i'm sick of black men because most the ones ive dated have been cheaters and I'm generalizing but thats just me...

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    • Reese says:
      Posted: 22 Dec 11

      Not talking about black men and white in this article. Does it really matter why they go after white women. We are talking about exploring other options with other races(Asians in paticular). Some black women are so hung up on everything black men are doing. LIve your life. This concern is one sided they don't care who we are dating.

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  41.   BodaciousBe says:
    Posted: 20 May 10

    @mohangany.I happened to enjoy that movie as well. However, the male Asian lead, Rain , was a very attractive Korean man and Naomi Harris, a very good looking BF was the lead. However, the same bias and mistake that was made in Romeo Must Die, with Jet-Li and Aaliyah, was once again duplicated. I felt that there should have been some sort of physical contact , sex scene, that should have occurred in this movie. I'm not saying that it would have made the movie go over better at the box office, however it would have brought to light, the issue of AM/BW attraction. In RMD, it was rumored that a kissing scene was filmed but not used due to disapproving BMs on the set. So the kissing scene at the end didn't fly and we (the audience) was left with just a hug. As for Ninja assassin, Clearly there was sexual tension and attraction was evident here, but once again they fell flat.I was disappointed that no real affection was displayed. it's quite obvious Hollywood, nor society is ready to embrace the pairing of AM/BF. it's a sad.

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  42.   mahogany says:
    Posted: 16 May 10

    I recently saw the movie Ninja Assassin with Korean pop star Rain...who by the way is extremely attractive. I was elated to see the leading female role (and potential interest) was played by a woman of African descent.

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  43.   Member says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    I am Asian-American and my wife is African-American. It has not been easy just loving each other in the face of so many others, which i think is sad. Thankfully, we now love in a multicultural neighborhood, full of white, black, hispanic, eastern Asian, southern Asian, and Middle-Eastern. My children's "cliques" look like something out of a commercial. Every color, with no prejudice. It is amazing, considering that I was born here, but got picked on my entire life by whites, for the simple fact of "not being white". I agree.

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  44.   Member says:
    Posted: 07 May 10

    If you're worried about what your "people" will say, you are a coward and we don't want you. Don't date outside your race. Enjoy cowardice and don't experience life as it should be, but rather as it is. However, if you wish to contribute to the future of the American Race, then to hell with the other cowards and join us multiracials in the conquering of the future! We are taking over one day at a time, whether you like it or not. Eventually your fearful past will expire, never to be missed. -Triracial parent of quadracial beauties

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  45.   jenna says:
    Posted: 28 Apr 10

    I have to say that I always had a thing for Asian guys,but due to their cultural preference for lighter skinned females, nothing ever materialized in terms of dating and or relationship. In the Asian culture as far as I see it,worship of lighter skinned people are prominent. However I still like my Jet Li, Kim Dong Wang,Jimmy Lin and the lot! To each his own!

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  46. Posted: 26 Apr 10

    to my black sisters and brothers i can say that we have beautiful black women in our culture but the only probelm we have somtimes is lack of commuation when i approach a black woman by speaking or simply just saying hi some have thrown their noses up at me but the main probelm that most of my black sisters have is a nasty mouth and that goes for some of the brothers as well.but the reason for a black man to find that certin black woman its always expitations between us or in other cases we the men are accussed of the crimes that the last man commited and that bothers a lot of brothers.the sisters should keep the d word out of their mouths and the brothers should keep the b word out of their mouths.you would think that would solve part of the probelm wrong again from now until the end of time for some silly reason we keep looking down on each other especially the black stars in acting and music really avoid the black community now with a black president hates comes from everywhere.anyway this is america and what type of men that sister wants in her life and the woman that brother wants in his life just be happy because color has nothing to do with it this is 2010 not 1910 goodbye readers

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  47. Posted: 06 Apr 10

    @ kiki. Not to discount your feelings. Not to make this seem like a lecture to you. But, your father has more experience when it comes to life, people, and its consequences from making a single decision, than you or your friends do, at this time. You're under his care and he wants the best for you, whether you agree with him or not. He's more aware of the mind-set and problems with in the cultural differences, as well as, the aftermath effects of an emotional and physical relationship that you have not encountered at this time. So, why not take a moment to sit down, again with your father. Open your mind, listen quietly, and ask him to explain to you the reason for his view points. Also, ask him to give you some examples of experiences. Whether his or someone elses. It's not to say that you'll experience the same; it's to help you to have better judgement when a situation is going in an unfavorable direction. You won't be lost at what to do. Also, parents are aware that they can't keep their children from all of life's experiences, yet they will do everything in their power to prepare them to make sound decisions. Regarding, just go with your heart. A person is never led by their heart alone. The mind is always an active participant in giving directions. People just ignore what they don't want to see or accept. Besides that, it's foolish and dangerous (even more so for a female) to ignore any sound reasoning. Especially, your own, once you know how valuable you are as a young woman and human being. Why not major on that aspect first, then, get a minor when it comes to dating. I hope this is helpful to you.

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  48.   kiki says:
    Posted: 04 Apr 10

    I am a 15 year old african american girl and i live in southern cali. i have been attracted to asian(mostly filipino) boys since third grade. Some of them seemed to have liked me back, and others didnt really notice me. my friends are very supportive of my preferences, but my father is not. i just wish that people could set aside stereotypes and differences and just go with their heart. i've been wanting to approach a filipino, but i dont know how. SOMEONE PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  49.   t-ara says:
    Posted: 31 Mar 10

    I'm an a girl of Caribbean descent. I suddenly developed a huge crush on this Korean guy my senior year in high school and since then have been very attracted to Asian guys. BW/AM couples are a rarity, but I have seen a few in person. People say Asian males aren't into black women, but in my experience that's totally not true. I was "talking" to a Filipino guy for a couple of weeks, but had to let him go because he was more into me than I was him. I've been hit on my Korean dudes, Vietnamese dudes, Chinese dudes, Hapa dudes and a few East Indian ones. Black girls, if you are into Asian guys, don't let the "statistics" or the nay-sayers discourage you. Experience things for yourself. Other people's experiences (or non-experiences) with the AM/BW pairing will not necessarily be your own!!

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    • PrncsRapture says:
      Posted: 02 Jan 11

      Filipino's, although considered, are not Asian to me. Chinese, Korean, Vietnamese, and Japanese seem more Asian. I've worked with Filipino's for years and they are so different. Facial features are more like an African's features mixed with Eskimo. (Just my silly thoughts) Wow an Asian male with a Black female; That's like two rams butting heads. Two strong minded individuals together. Great business partners, but terrible lovers, unless the female turns submissive. Personally I've always found Asian men attractive, especially tall ones, yeah I've seen them.

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      • reese says:
        Posted: 27 Dec 11

        There are black women who are submissive and everything in between. Asian men who are compromising.

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  50.   maxhb says:
    Posted: 31 Mar 10

    I get one your issues with this young man is age difference. Let me say this, my first marriage wasn't interracial, but she was 48 and I was 30. That was 2 generations difference. her born 1933 and me 1951. She was beautiful and still is and I curse the day we split. We had that incredible connection. Laughed, worked and loved passionately. Today whenever we talk I am transported if by magic to how I felt then 28 years ago. IF YOU HAVE A CONNECTION like this, where you finish each other's sentences, cant keep from touching...are inexorably drawn, go for it. I would recommend you do a course such as Landmark Forum and get a good sense of possibilities and great tools for communication and dealing with upsets. They will be issues in all communications and with age difference it cuts through the illusions an machinations that separates who we are as Human beings engaged in living. I envy you being so close to this . Get over the age thing. Get in touch with and don't deny your gut level feelings. Appreciate this moment in your life. I am a Lucy Lu fan and can't see any problem with any race, just individuals at times.

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