Well, I am sure you have heard of that. I am also sure that some people have had interracial relationships for this reason only. Why do people believe that if an interracial couple has children that they will instantly produce beautiful babies?
Is getting into an interracial relationship for the sole reason of getting ‘beautiful babies’ the right reason to date interracially?
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Comment by Jade74 on 19 March 2008:
WOW!!! You said it all that I was thinking Tiger….
Will come back and comment later…..
Comment by girlsixdiva on 19 March 2008:
It’s sad but true that a lot of people, usually women (of all races) will date a man of another color just because of the color of the children that will be produced. And it’s also evident on TV. Most of the movies and tv shows that have a black girl as a main character will cast the girl as a really light skinned girl with long hair, or a hispanic girl. It all goes back to that slavery mentality with the lighter skinned slaves getting the better treatment.
Comment by Skyprincess1 on 19 March 2008:
I am a mixed race child and so is my son. We are often categorized as black or african american…whatever you prefer. My parents didn’t get together because they wanted to mass produce light skinned children with green eyes because they are better looking and I didn’t marry my ex, who is Irish, in order to continue the legacy. There are unattractive people in every race regardless of how much you water down the skintone. So using that as an excuse to marry is asinine. That slavery mentality that girlsixdiva mentioned is still very much alive in our culture and a lot of dark skinned black women will snub a lighter skinned black woman only because of her skin color, hair, eyes, etc. I’ve had it happen many times by complete strangers and it does hurt your feelings, however, I’m at an age now where I’m not going to lose sleep over it. If you don’t care to meet the person that skin is covering then don’t assume anything about me. Our society has a lot of racial issues that have not and probably will never be addressed but perhaps with this next generation which is overrun with bi-racial children things will change. Until then, quit feeding the fire, most interracial couples marry because they love one another not because they want to play Russian roulette with the gene pool.
Comment by cat lady on 19 March 2008:
Interacial dating and marriage is wrong. one thing brought up was a dog was a dog. Yes they are, but they do not mix with a cow or a cat do they. The kids produced are not treated well and the bible teaches if any of you read it that mixing is not of God. He created the tower of bable to separate the people and he punished Moses for marring the Ethopian, so if it was wrong for Moses, it wrong for everyone else. Also it does not always produce light skinned nice looking kids. Some of these kids are terrible looking, you should think of what the kids will go through and marry your own or date your own kind. The ones that marry do not love each other, they don’t know what real love is.
Comment by girlsixdiva on 19 March 2008:
“Cat lady” you are an idiot and a troll.
Comment by pinkmagic on 19 March 2008:
To Cat Lady - not only are your comments offensive but your remarks about the bible are out right lies. Moses was never punished for marrying Zippora (aka the Ethiopian); his sister Miriam was however struck with leprosy for speaking against Moses’ marriage. And the tower of babel had absolutely nothing to do with race; it was a message sent to man about the dangers of one vs the many. The tower of babel was reinforcing the idea that the many should carry and support a very select few. Because there is enough for all of us, there shouldn’t be a small entitled group at the top. Anyways imbecelics like you are so apt to read the bible and interpret it in the most unsofisticated manner. Your mind is crude and you’re an embarrassment. Besides there isn’t a person alive who isn’t a half breed of one style or another. You, catlady, are half your mother and half your father. Race is an imaginary system that is meant to make you focus on all the things that separate us. Last thought - if you’re really against interacial relationships how the heck did you find this website? You’re apparently a fat hypocrite too, go back to your stupid cats.
Comment by JoJo20 on 19 March 2008:
cat lady, you are absolutly retarded. For one, I’m of mixed race, my moms white and my dads black, and I didnt go through anything. I love the skin tone I am, I often get complements from both white and black races that they wish they had my skin tone, because its like a perfect tan. An second, why are you an an interaccial site? Personally I think your jealous
Comment by Morningflower on 19 March 2008:
Oh man.. I love this website! because we are “forced” in a way to really express how we feel and do so honestly.. or atleast.. I will! — SAD BAD TRUE…I was on one of those kids that wanted to be mixed SO BADLY! I wanted the light complexion, I wanted the easy to manage hair.. I wanted the cute eyes! — ha! ha! especially the hair!!… I was so jealous! but in a good way! well.. I grew up and realized that I was fabulous.. just the way I am and the rest is history.
AS FOR CAT.. OUT OF RESPECT FOR THIS FORUM I WILL NOT USE ANY OF THE REAL EXPLICITS I WOULD LIKE TO USE ON YOU.. But I will say this.. You must be one sad and miserable person to think the way you do. I really do feel terribly sorry for you.. Tell you what? why don’t you.. crawl back under the rock you came from and leave the rest of us to spread the positive energy and spirit on this site? uh? cammon.. slither away..
Comment by Morningflower on 19 March 2008:
Oh man.. I love this website! because we are “forced” in a way to really express how we feel and do so honestly.. or atleast.. I will! — SAD BAD TRUE…I was on one of those kids that wanted to be mixed so badly! I wanted the light complexion, I wanted the easy to manage hair.. I wanted the cute eyes! — ha! ha! especially the hair!!… I was so jealous! but in a good way! well.. I grew up and realized that I was fabulous.. just the way I am and the rest is history.
as for cat -out of respect for this forum I wil not use any of the real explicitys I would like to use on you..but I will say this.. You must be one sad and miserable person to think the way you do. I really do feel terribly sorry for you.. Tell you what? why don’t you.. crawl back under the rock you came from and leave the rest of us to spread the positive energy and spirit on this site? uh? cammon.. slither away..
Comment by dega7008 on 19 March 2008:
Something tells me that CatLady married someone outside her race.
By the way, interracial breeding is not like cats and dogs getting together because those are two different animals. People of all races are the same……. we are all people, and also we are all created by God. As for the cats and dogs analogy, It’d be more accurate if you compared different breeds of dogs(or any other animal) mingling together because they are of the same species.
One thing I must say about CatLady is that God made a commandment about judging others, and in my opinion she has committed the greater offense than what she claims Moses did.
Comment by dega7008 on 19 March 2008:
By the way, for her to say how “terrible looking” bi-racial kids are is actually an insult to the very God that created Cat Lady because it was God who created these “terrible looking” children. She talks as though she knows what “real love” is, but yet she has shown by her example what “real love” isn’t. So who is she to say what real love is when she has no love in her own heart, and I know for a fact that God would love all of us, and not just people like Cat Lady who bring much emptiness and ugliness into the world with such cruel thoughts or behaviors.
Comment by tattoodiva on 19 March 2008:
Well I certainly did not marry outside of my race because I wanted to have mixed children. I think it is crazy that people would do that. There really is no telling what kids will turn out like anyway. I have seen beautiful people of all races that have had some really not good looking kids. I have also seen some ugly people with really beautiful kids. However I may be biased but my daughter who is mixed is the most beautiful girl in the world! People tell her about it everywhere we go too.
Comment by mossimo36 on 19 March 2008:
Cat lady?? Is that Eartha Kitt or Julie Newmar? Dang that interracial mingling
Comment by skyprincess1 on 19 March 2008:
Cat Lady it’s people like you that keep the fires of ignorance burning. I hope you enjoy snuggling up to your Siamese, Persian or whatever cats..ohhhh wait….isn’t that an interracial thing?????
Comment by Darklicious on 19 March 2008:
I don’t know who comes up with these topics but I personally find them ignorant and offensive. There is no such thing as interracial children looking better than pure black children or pure white children, besides to me all children are beautiful. My sister told me a few years ago that I see all children as beautiful and if I had to be remembered for something that would be it. The most beautiful person or child in the world doesn’t necessary mean that it’s a happy child, so a happy child is far more important than his looks. Just because this is a interracial site, doesn’t mean that everything has to be about color, at times I feel like I am in slavery time or the 1960’s when the color of black people’s skin had to be very light and this has put a wedge between our race of blacks, so don’t start a new problem with interracial children because they have always exsisted, only difference was that black women were forced to have their master’s babies so stop making it seem like it just started. One more thing you can only speak and feel this way because whites are doing it and it is acceptable where it wasn’t in slavery times. Please stop bringing some of these crazy topics to us.
Comment by Loydah on 19 March 2008:
Cat Lady, although this is the 21st century, your thinking is still behind two hundred years. Get familiar with the most recent publications on genetics, so could learn what science is discovering about ethnic groups. You must hope that you will never need an organ transplant from a black/or a non white person, since you show such prejudice.
The Bible that I read tells about mercy , compassion and love towards all, maybe you are reading a very different version.
As far as mixed children- looking so-so, beautiful people come in all colors, just like a garden must have variety and several shades.
Comment by blondguy96 on 19 March 2008:
God created the Tower of Babel and Moses was punished for marrying an Ethiopian (Midianite more specifically)? If people are going to be racist idiots and try to use the Bible to back it up you’d think they’d at least do enough study to get their story kinda right. You, cat lady, are not in the ballpark with your interpretation. Not in the same league. Not even in the same sport.
It’s fascinating how one can take a biblical viewpoint against racism and somehow forget that based on that view people of all colors were generated from two individuals.
Comment by Sxybrwnsuga on 20 March 2008:
To answer the question which I find really stupid in the first place…NO!!!!!I’ve seen many mixed race kids and adults that were not attractive. Being of mixed race does not automatically make you a better looking person. Onething I know about ugly it doesn’t discriminate.
Comment by Babelle on 20 March 2008:
Oh my GOD!!!! Cat lady, it looks like you are a Satan worshipper…. and you ve red your bible in the wrong way.
Sometimes is better to keep quiet when you dont have anything really important to say. It will save you to look stupid, idiot and crazy, because i think you are….
The most important thing is to find love whatsoever the person is black, white, red or yellow.We all have the same red blood color in our veins, and at the end of the day, we are all dust. And i dont think black dust is different from the white’one. So Cat lady, stop talking rubbish.
Comment by Kagwiria on 20 March 2008:
Bottom line, a good set of kids, healthy and obedient loving contributing members of society is all that one needs! Multi racial kids are cute though, for me not so much because of their physical appearance, but more so what they stand for…that two people saw the humanity in each other and encapsulated that love to create something so beautiful that transcends all prejudices….it is a thing of beauty that I can only hope to be a part!
Comment by love on 20 March 2008:
if you asked that same question in britain/london people would laugh. multiculturalism is celebrated here AND ALL CHILDREN ARE CUTE. i
Comment by MsLovely83 on 20 March 2008:
These topic(S) are extremely outdated. I really don’t believe America in that behind on interracial/ multiculturalism. (I assume and hope ur not)
Of course there will be a few out there that do think this, but there are a few out there that believe for example….( you can fill the gap with something ridiculous like pigs can fly)lol. It really doesn’t need to be discussed, especially when it clearly is not a real issue to the majority. ( i think i should just paste this is on most topics on this site lol)
all babies/children are all so adorably beautiful and cute.
I think if you were to ask this question in the UK adults/teenagers - even children would either look at you like your crazy, and most would think your really ignorant to ask the questions in the first place. I went to a girls school, and there were a number of Multiracial girls who thought they were ugly, this idea of multiracial = beauty in reality really isn’t true. People of all ethnicities think there beautiful, ugly, average etc for all sorts of reason. – ( I know I stating the obvious)
Surely, parents/ parent tobe would be more concerned about other IMPORTANT things like the Health of their children, bringing their children up to be intelligent, confident etc.
There are SO MUCH MORE topics/issues, current affairs/News, culture, travel business, even politics, media, music, anything but these topics would be more interesting on reading other peoples’ opinions from different backgrounds.
(Happy Easter everyone - please don’t even think about having a topic/question about which type chocolate is better lol(“,)
Comment by Zion77 on 20 March 2008:
Okay, I stopped reading at Catlady. First of all if you are going to quote the Bible, get it right. And don’t mistake one instance of something as doctrine. I take the Word of God very seriously. I’m not going to get into a big debate about it, but I wish people would actually THINK before they speak. Besides, if God was really against mixed races, why would He put Ruth, a Moabitess with Boaz, a Jew- who became the grandparents of Jesse, who was the father of David, who is an ancestor of Jesus Christ? Are you saying that God thinks His own Son’s lineage is wrong? How stupid is that?
I’m so mad I forgot the topic!
Oh, yeah. I’m one of those people who finds ALL races beautiful. I haven’t dated any Asians, but their delicate features and athletic, slender frames are beautiful. Europeans are gifted with a rainbow of eye and hair colors, Africans( that includes us from the States!) are gifted with a rainbow of skin colors…as well as the most fabulous backsides on the planet! LOL! Hispanics and Latins have beautiful hair, skin, and eyes, and voices. It’s time to APPRECIATE and CELEBRATE what makes each of us beautiful. And leave it at that. And stop putting YOUR hang ups on God!!
Comment by Rendy548 on 20 March 2008:
Catlady,
Your comments are stupid and coming from an atheist, they are also very un-Christian for someone who quotes the Bible as you do. Furthermore why are you on this site if you are opposed to interracial unions?
Comment by Rendy_548 on 20 March 2008:
Catlady,
Your comments are stupid and coming from an atheist, they are also very un-Christian for someone who quotes the Bible as you do. Furthermore why are you on this site if you are opposed to interracial unions? Get a life!
Comment by Rendy_548 on 20 March 2008:
My cousin has a mixed race little boy. Cute as can be but bad as he**. Honestly, I as well as several others believe she had this child by a younger white man so that she could have a fair skinned child. I always knew she never really liked the company much of her darker skinned relatives who were children but adored the fair skinned ones. The sad part is that she allows this child to run wild and thinks it’s okay because he is cute. What concerns me is that the world will not be as easy or shallow with him as she.
Comment by MsLovely83 on 20 March 2008:
@ cATLADY I THOUGHT EVERYONE KNOWS THAT compared to many other animals, human genes are remarkably homogeneous HENCE THE TERM Homo sapiens. Furthermore, every human has this thing called Melanin. Try and educated yourself, rather than embarrassed yourself, after all that how Humans develop.
Comment by mossimo36 on 20 March 2008:
Some hillbillies look like they need some mixing. The dang family tree has no branches. The question is…who wants them
Comment by BailaMorena on 20 March 2008:
My kids are both Black boys. My exhusband and I are both black but like most black people, he got indian in his family (ahahaha yall know what i’m talking about) so he got the curly jet black hair. My sons look like the both of us but my youngest took on more of his traits while the oldest has mine. I think both of my kids are GORGEOUS but the youngest one gets all the attention. It’s so easy for him to make friends and everyone wants to talk to him. I see the difference in attitudes both of my sons have. The youngest is extremely outgoing and easy to talk to. The oldest has that swagger that makes him mysterious. He keeps to himself and people are drawn to him but in my opinion, it’s on more of a deeper level. He’s real quiet but when he speaks, people listen. Both are great kids and their dad and I treat them equally and love them the same. I think (know) they don’t even see the differences in their looks because we don’t bring it up and when someone else brings it up, I let them know that it’s unacceptable and not to say anything like that about my children. But skin does play a lot in how others see us. I see it in my own household with 2 black kids of different skin tones. That’s why I believe no matter what race your child is, teach them early what’s really important, then the world won’t matter because they’ll have a strong background and knowledge of self. When my children are grown and they start dating, I want them to find a woman like their mother…yes ME. I think that’s every mother’s wish. And yes, I do mean I want them to date/marry a strong, independent, Black woman. BUT, as long as she loves him and treats him with respect and honors him…she could be purple with 3 legs…ummmm let me re-think that one.
Comment by Country81 on 21 March 2008:
Like Zion77, I stopped reading at cat lady. If i could say everything that is going through my mind right now to u cat lady, I would be scrubbing my mouth for years. I have a mixed child and u know the sad thing is i have to put up with retarded people like u on a daily basis do to the fact that my daughter has her father’s white skin and ocean blue eyes. The criticism is not towards my daughter, it’s towards me. My child is living a very blessed life with both of her parents in it, even though her father & I divorced. I wasn’t with her father because i wanted a mixed child. I was with her father because i loved him. Personally, I think you have a problem with guys that are not of your race because not only is your personality ugly but you probably are as well. I was thought to value the things that God has given me in life and not take anything for granted and to not hate those who don’t know any better. You are one of those people who don’t know any better, but it is not in my nature to hate you. Like i do with every negative that i meet like you, I go home and at the end of the night i pray for you. So, I’m going to pray for you and let your mistakes be judged by God.
Comment by alyosha on 21 March 2008:
Here’s my contribution. My what a lot of tightarsed religious literalist nutters there are out there. The bible is a series of fairy stories written by ignorant storytellers in a pre-scientific age. Give yourselves an education and read chapter 15 of Gibbons History of the Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire. Fact: once upon a time about one hundred thousand years ago we were all Africans. I am a white guy and I find on the whole that black girls are more attractive, more elegant, sexier and better behaved than white girls. Some men are only attracted to blondes. So what? The name of the game in life is getting your genes safely into the next generation. If I am lucky enough to have mixed race children they are likely to be healthier because of the good mixture of genes. If you are not convinced about the dangers of breeding too close to home, take a good look at Prince Charles! Besides, in the context of climate change, my mixed race kids will be better protected against getting skin cancer than if they were white.
Comment by mysteek on 21 March 2008:
I found the comments on here very interesting, how people always understand one simple question as a topic of racism when it comes to skin color.
My daughter is of mixed race as well and I look at her as a beautiful woman, because of the person that she is…not only her skin tone.
I believe everyone is looking for the right mate to have a child with and looks do matter, because no one would go out there and chose someone ugly to say yessss I want to have his baby. But since we all have a different opinion on what is beautiful or good looking to us… maybe what I find beautiful the next person finds ugly. So in the end we only have to satisfy ourselfs and be happy with what we are doing.
What I find sad though is that this funny topic seems to be so offensive to some, that they feel personally attacted. Even this catwoman makes me laugh because I can not take comments like that serious. There will always be ignorant people in this world and we just have to accept it….just like they have to accept there are people who don´t give a damn about their opinion lol
Comment by gemini143 on 21 March 2008:
I feel that solid kids are just as beautiful as the mix kids.
Comment by Sxybrwnsuga on 21 March 2008:
I agree with Gemini143. I feel that kids whether they are all “black” or all “white” are beautiful children. Being mixed with both races does not automatically make you better looking. I’ve seen kids that were mixed that didn’t look mix. I also agree with BailaMorena that Black Children are beautiful. I think anyone who purposefully have mixed children have a lot of self hate.
Comment by skyprincess1 on 21 March 2008:
What difference does it make what color anyone is? There is beauty in everyone if you care to look. This whole thing about mixed kids being better looking is what causes so much division between races. Those kids could care less about their heritage until YOU make them aware of it. If you want to do something productive, try educating those with narrow minds as well as our children about the ignorance of racism and let’s move forward.
Comment by Curious57 on 21 March 2008:
Maybe I am the opposite Black African American girl. I always thought that dark skin was much more beautiful when I was a child. This was not told to me by my family, but it was what I perceived as beauty. I would look at dark skinned women of all races (except white because I never met a really dark skinned white person) and wish I could have their complexion. It just looked so pure and graceful. Now that I am older I see beauty comes in all colors, but HELL NO. I never thought interracial babies are light skin is much prettier. I think we all are beautiful and yes I am sick of people making the light ones (I used to be really light when I was younger, but I got a bit darker) think they are prettier. They are not prettier, but they are pretty just like any other skin tone.
Comment by cm0008 on 21 March 2008:
Wow.. great comments(except satan lady) to such a very ignorant question. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and regardless of skin tone or race, there are very unattractive people as well as cute people. I find the ‘child’ aspect of the question highly offensive.
Comment by EVA on 22 March 2008:
WOW…..I AM A MIXED RACR YOUNG WOMAN AND I DONT AGREE WITH CAT LADY AT ALL,BECAUSE LOVE DOSN’T CARE OF ANY RACE IT IS IN OUR HEARTS .
Comment by tcom007 on 22 March 2008:
Initially a silly question without a right or wrong answer. All children are beautiful as they are regardless of colour, race or gender.
To get into a mixed realtionship because you think it will produce more beautiful children is a naive and backward way of thinking, after all you never know what you’ll get till it arrives. When it does accept it for the beautiful thing it is.
Comment by Freedom on 22 March 2008:
Well I hate to disagree with so many posters on this topic thread, but I know of more than one white person who has specifically said to me that he wanted to have inter-racial kids because he thinks they are the most beautiful kids.
Within the black community when I was growing up the light-skinned look of inter-racial kids or black kids who just happened to come out light-skinned was definitely idealized. While black men and women might not choose white partners, they definitely did seem to openly prefer light-skinned partners. Some of it was their own direct attraction without a thought of the kids to be produced, but I do recall at least one occasion where a dark-skinned teenage girl told me she wanted a light-skinned black husband so her kids would come out lighter. That’s not so different from wanting a white man for the same reason.
So clearly it’s not a ridiculous question, though good to see so many people think it is.
Comment by Freedom on 22 March 2008:
P.S. Please ignore CatLady. It’s just a troll. Trolls write stuff on blogs/message boards just to raise people’s hackles. If your blood is boiling, no matter what you write, you gave CatLady what she was after. In fact, the more you try to refute her utterly nonsensical rantings with logical arguments, the more you establish that you actually think them worthy of refutation, when they aren’t even worthy of consideration.
Comment by leesah on 22 March 2008:
My comment is for the blogger named CATLADY, I’m kinda confussed, you are contradicting yourself.you are against mixing races, but yet here you are on a interracial web site. you do realize that dont you. move on no one asked you to log on here.people like you need to go live in a cave. and leave the real people alone. you just want some attention. you know you want to try it. you know once you go black you dont go back. and i think that’s what you are afraid of…
Comment by leesah on 22 March 2008:
My comment is for the blogger named CATLADY, I’m kinda confussed, you are contradicting yourself.you are against mixing races, but yet here you are on a interracial web site. you do realize that dont you. move on no one asked you to log on here.people like you need to go live in a cave. and leave the real people alone. you just want some attention. you know you want to try it. you know once you go black you dont go back. and i think that’s what you are afraid of… and another thing you are probably one of those people who dont like black skin but yet you tan yourself to get the darker colour. go figure.
Comment by cutie on 23 March 2008:
well in the commercial little girls are usually multiracial rather than a real African dark skinned black. Also some people of colour have had terrible experience being pick on treated badly, maybe they just don’t want their own kids to go through what they did. Any maybe they see going with someone light is the only real option. i can understand that most parent would want their kids to have the most enjoyable childhood. However, this is just not a strong enough reason to have children with someone light. Having a enjoyable childhood includes others things so having a multiracial experience particular in the c21st is no better or worst than any other skin colour. Come on people, there are people starving in 3rd world countries and in war and we still discussing skin colour..
Comment by ramola on 24 March 2008:
Thats a tough one, but true. my kids are all mixed up they are multiracial and every where they go people are all over them. my son is like a superstar he’s 2 and we took him to a few countries and peopled are always asking to take pictures with him.
When u mix together,makes the world look beautiful. And maybe it’s not good to say different races because it’s we are the same race ( human race)
And I think thats beautiful! Interracial romance becomes popular now and there are many ways to meet people outside of your own race, i met my husband via a mixed racial dating site, we are happy!
Comment by cocokisses on 24 March 2008:
Catlady is sitting there playing with herself while she is having black fantasies! Why else would she be on this site for interracial couples? She clearly has an itch that needs to be scratched, and its not by those fleas she has from her cats. God made a race of Humans, and in case you haven’t noticed, it doesn’t matter what color we are, we all FIT in all the right places. Your ignorance is showing…go educate yourself for goodness sake!
Comment by ethereal99 on 24 March 2008:
Is getting into an interracial relationship for the sole reason of getting ‘beautiful babies’ the right reason to date interracially?
Ok, I cut & pasted the question. In my opinion: of course by only wanting a good looking child is not the right reason to date interacially or otherwise. We all know that there are some people who do think that way though. This shows little consideration as they are using there partner as a tool. Right on to Coco & many of you folks who can see past the ignorance. Tiger, I agree this is a dumb question & the constant race issue questions are tiring, but you did write an interesting, intelligent reponse. In the end, these type of questions will always get a reaction, lot’s of responses & in the end, entertainment for many which keeps the site going.
Comment by fkoi on 24 March 2008:
Having a baby of any description is never a good reason to get into a relationship. That’s one reason why there are so many unwanted babies and babies being raised by folks who don’t have a clue. Even having a baby as an expression of a wonderful loving relationship doesn’t always work out for the best for the child but at least it is a good start.
Anyone foolish enough to try to engineer skin tone of offspring through mating is ignorant of genetics. Especially with all of the genetic mixing that has gone on over the ages, intentional and on the q.t.
Hitler thought the perfect babies were blonde and blue-eyed. Others say those are the traits of the white devil. Making decisions based on skin colour and/or tone has always been ignorant and wrong. This is no different. So if you are planning to make a baby, interracial or otherwise, for that reason, or any equally shallow reasons, do the human race a favor and be sure to use birth control.
Comment by fala on 24 March 2008:
LMAO@G6 - I love the troll comment! Hey, I like the new pic too.
Comment by mossimo36 on 25 March 2008:
Don’t feed the trolls!
Comment by cutie2008 on 25 March 2008:
I HAVE A BEAUTIFUL AFRICAN/AFRICAN AMERICAN DAUGHTER WITH MY EX HUSBAND!
ALL I GOT TO SAY IS! IT’S NOT ABOUT RACE!
IT’S ABOUT YOU AND THE PERSON THAT YOU PROCREATE WITH! THAT WILL DETERMINE THE BEAUTY OF YOUR CHILD!
Comment by choco-malaca on 26 March 2008:
well well, some of those kids do turn out to be full dark…..despite the mixed race….or they can turn to be a good mix….. away all kids are cute when born LOL…….So Cat-lady i think u should sit back and review ur culture, race and the bible that u read cause that ain’t right before even the lord u worship ……. That’s all and anyway it take’s 2 to tango….. anyone can make perfect good looking kiddo’s despite the race!!!!!!!
Comment by Twiggyrich on 26 March 2008:
There are sooo many beauitful skin tones and hues, from darkest of dark to lightes of light, God has made no mistake about it. To have a healthy child is a beauitful thing, a child can reach back and get his skin tone and physical appearances from another realitive such as a grandparent. I would date a white man for the same reasons I would date a black man, for love only and not because I want fair completion children. Let’s not give catlady anymore attention.
Twiggyrich
Comment by jojolove on 27 March 2008:
Catlady wrote what she wrote to get a reply and to start trouble especially with this site being an interracial site, so I will not give her the satisfaction of replying….
anyway if you are having babies with someone of another race because you want your child to be “beautiful” what are u saying about your own race. Are you saying that your race is not able to produce beauty with out the help of another race?
Im not biracial and Im beautiful. To have a biracial child for looks says one thing about you IGNORANT. I teach school and lots of beautiful bircaial children but their parents are so ignorant they are more worried about how their kids’ physcial appearance not their education. Yes they are cute but they cant read cant write dont have basic knowledege that is not cute at all.
Geesh I thought people had children to express love for one another. I got nappy hair dark skin full lips and I love it but If i feel the need to change it up the I take my ass to the nearset beauty store and buy me some weave.
If you dont love your self dont expect someone of another race to love you. If anything they are laughing at you because you deny yourself and who you are.
Comment by victor32 on 27 March 2008:
I have three wonderful biracial and i love them very much. they are gods gift to me and i feel lucky that they are in my life. Everyday they surprise me and what they are capable of and how each of them depend on me. They do come in contact with ignorant people sometimes who stare and whisper ( white and black) and i tell then that they do not know any better an do not hate them. Be proud of who you are and where you come from. To the people out there that do not understand, we do not have the problem you do and as soon as you realize it, the sooner you can address it. And by the way jojolove you a very attractive lady
Comment by sean01 on 29 March 2008:
tiger is cute
Comment by faithful1946 on 4 April 2008:
To Catlady,
I am White, my husbands were Black and I have 2 beautiful girls, 3 grandkids, and 1 great grandchild.
I love them all and wouldn’t trade them for the world. My daughters have the best of both worlds and they love it. My grandkids also have the best of both worlds. They are very smart and excel in school.
One of these days, there will be no different races, as all will be mixed. I lived in Phoenx, AZ, CA, and other places and that is all you see nowdays.
I agree with fala, What are you doing on this site.
Comment by mossimo36 on 5 April 2008:
Catlady posted one time 16 days ago and we are still feeding the troll, lol
Comment by kandypistola on 5 April 2008:
I think wow says it all. First and foremost the sheer baseness oft the question. Do people really date to have pretty babies? That seems pretty reductive, juvenile and quite pathological to me and lastly it goes to shoe just what a hot button issue race still is in the black community and how people feel the need to defend or propagate inane rhetoric over and over again to suit some insatiable need to prove that we are worthy for having the feelings or issues, as they may be, that we have. Why can’t we just be…regardless of our “preferences”? It seems such a shallow question in a world where black women look in the mirror and hate what they see…wish their weave was longer, or hair was less kinkier or nose were smaller or butt was less bouncy, or we wish our hair was more kinkier our skin were a bit more dark and luscious, our features were more ethnic. Why do we have to continue to define humanity by race. yes, i’m black, yes i’m a woman and yes I may even be a bit flawed with insecurities and idiosyncrasies that I’m not proud of…but seriously…to seek out a mate for pretty babies? Just seems sad.
We (black women) have rich and varied experiences in our lives, we are doctors, lawyers, homemakers, tv producers, artists, lovers fighters and more. We are all special because of our rich and varied experiences and our ethnic make-up should only enhance that experience, I just weep for our culture and societies stranglehold on it. I hope that one day we can all see past our own issues with color and identity.
Comment by concerned citizen on 8 April 2008:
Puuleaseeee…. I have seen some ugly babies, and im sure ya’ll have too. Especially if its with an anglo looking white guy. On the other hand a goodlooking baby would be made with an italian man like myself.
Now on the other hand whne you see a black guy with a white womans baby, the hair on the baby girl is all out of control, the whitewoman doesnt manage the hair and the kid looks ridiculous.
Thats why italian men with black women make good looking kids.
BLACKLIMOCAR@YAHOO.COM
Comment by neciereaves on 8 April 2008:
Well, my children are very beautiful. I just so happen to be mixed with a whole bunch of things. I am medium to dark skinned and my children are light skinned. People (mainly black) always admire my children’s hair and tell me “Oh, your kids are so beautiful! Is their father WHITE?” I can’t help but to be very annoyed by this question. Their father is not white. He is just as dark as I am. The brats just don’t go outside and play in the sun without sunscreen like I did as a child. Their hair is fine and losely curled like mine. Is their light complexion and fine hair what makes them beautiful to other people? I just don’t get it. I mean, I appreciate the compliment about them being beautiful and all but come on! Does it really matter WHAT color their father is? Beautiful children are beautiful children!
I’ve seen all shapes and colors and shades of some ugly behind people INCLUDING interracial children. I have a neice and nephew - their mother is white and father is black. They’re not as cute as my kids. LOL!!! There may be a little bias in that last statement. :o)
What’s so beautiful about interracial children? The fact that their parents came together and loved each other in spite of their difference. That is beautiful!
Necie
Comment by Cloe27 on 8 April 2008:
Concerned citizen, you are out of control! But I like it.LOL Listen, I don’t care if the parents are green and orange if they’re pulling from a half way decent gene pool chances are they’re gonna have a looker. On the other hand, if one or both are fugly mofos….well, you all get my point. It’s all a roll of the dice if you ask me. If your child’s looks are your main concern rather than 10 fingers and 10 toes, you’re setting your kid up to have a pretty lousy parent.
Comment by neciereaves on 8 April 2008:
Cloe27: Your comments were funny! “fugly mofos” come in all flavors. I’ve seen two beautiful people with outright MUGLY children! It’s a real role of the dice.
Comment by cnoter on 9 April 2008:
Looks like catlady cant read.
Some people belive whatever they cant read, AKA:Someone who cant read and belives the one that can read and fills your mind with S%#T.A FOLLOWER.
Catlady Sounds like backwoods phycho bable to me.
Opp’s did I say bable….Ya just a bunch of noise.For us that can read…in context.
But in all fairness…We forgive your IGNORANCE!!!
My son is mixed and he’s VERY Good looking.I hope he dont break too many hearts when he gets older.LOL.
Comment by HereIamBaby on 9 April 2008:
Blah blah blah blah blah…I have never seen a child that was of two races that was not beautiful…They have the best of two worlds, both genes from both sides…AND why is it that you see a beautiful child with lighter skin…when I see a beautiful child with darker skin!
White pasty pale skin does not do it for me.
Once again it boils down to what our preferences are.
Some people like white chocolate or milk chocolate…me, I prefer DARK choclate with rashberry filling!
Southern smiles and world peace,
Sharon
Comment by mossimo36 on 9 April 2008:
Of course people date to have pretty babies. Think of the reverse. Have u ever heard a woman say, dang that man is ugly and I want some ugly babies. Its a natural thing. I guess the question has offended some folks, but hey not everyone has the same standards of beauty. I am sure there are white women out there who, consciously or not, choose a man who will give them a blonde haired, blue eyed baby.
Comment by ethereal99 on 10 April 2008:
It’s feels more natural to concentrate on the person you are dating. Do you have THAT feeling about them? Hopefully, you know what I mean. The way you think about them when you’re apart & the great times when you’re together. If you have time to dissect the relationship by worrying if your children will be beautiful looking enough to please others, then I feel sorry for you.
Comment by Nadira on 10 April 2008:
the post is sad, but in reality is true.
Comment by pedro on 11 April 2008:
I’m sure most here will agree that there should be more interracial dating interaction in general, because the US is way behind in that department. This attitude is just not healthy for the perpetually trumped up ‘troubled race relations’. Enough artificial segregation, enough racial pride, enough race cards, enough Aff. Action… It is clear, to me at least, that eventually mixed people will become the norm. So can we end this debate and agree there will both ugly and attractive people for all time from all races? Thank you.
Comment by fala on 11 April 2008:
Uh, no comment.
Comment by lilo4love on 12 April 2008:
Lol agreed Pedro.
I think the Sudanese are the most beautiful people in the world. Really, their dark skin and strong features are like wow. Alek Wek is proof of that. I would never marry interracial because i wanted “beautiful kids.”
Comment by BillyMedley on 17 April 2008:
I’ll talk about what I know the most about. Half Thai and Half white children. Which I have two, a boy and a girl. They are beautiful. When my Ex was in the grocery store (in Thailand)people would come up and say how beautiful the children were. As a teacher I would see a lot of children and when we got a new student I could tell quickly if they were half.
Would this be a reason to have interracial children? No, that should be for love.
Comment by Be@TiFuLsOuL!! on 24 April 2008:
I personally love people of all races. I grew up in Manhattan and have gotten used to the fact that there are physically beautiful people in every race. But just because you have an attractive face does not mean that your personality is at all attractive.
My mom is very light skinned and my dad is dark skinned. I have 3 sisters and we are all different complexions. My older sister is very light-skinned, another is dark skinned, and me and my other sister are right in the middle. Growing up people would say that my family was a direct reflection of the beauty of the black race. We didnt have to be mixed to be “beautiful”. One of my sisters is currently married to an Italian and i couldnt be more happy for her. She is very happy and they are not worried about having children anytime soon. I myself have dated many races and it was about the how I felt being with them, not about our possible children.
Comment by lilywhite62 on 26 April 2008:
The question here is whether getting into an interracial relationship SOLELY to produce “beautiful” babies is wrong…my answer to that is a resounding YES!!! A relationship should be based on mutual attraction for the other person….that attraction cannot be purely physical, or it will not last. It cannot be based on only one common trait, no matter what that is. There must be mutual respect, common interests, a genuine sense of like for that other person. I believe a baby born of true love and friendship is the most beautiful baby, because that child will reflect the love and caring that he/she is born into..
Comment by Ladybug111373 on 26 April 2008:
To marry or date a person of a different color to have a “pretty baby” is wrong! Whatever happened to loving someone for who they are regardless of their outer shell??
So many of you said we bleed the same, and I agree completely. There is no difference between you or I except our skin tone may be lighter or darker than then next. Big deal…we are all still beautiful people right?
My husband is black, and I am white. When we met, I saw a man who made me laugh. When I fell in love with him, I saw a man who loved me and I loved him. Not because I am white and he is black, but because we respect and honor one another completely. At what point will we start looking at the inside, instead of the out?
A few people mentioned ugly people…we have to remember…there is someone for everyone. The person you may find unattractive, may be the finest looking thing to the next person.
We need to stop letting the media posion our minds with their views of whats what. Live for yourself, and your desires. If you like it, I love it!
As for catlady…get a life. You own cats because you are miserable, and no one wants you. Your ignorace omits from the rubbish you type. A God fearing woman would accept all that life has to offer, and nor misquote the bible to make yourself into something your not. A god fearing man or woman would truly accept any and all persons for who they are…not the what they are!
On a final note…I have 4 beautiful multiracial children. While my skin is white, and their dad is black they are a wonderful mixture of German, French, Austrian, African American, Irish, and Indian. It doesn’t matter the color of their skin, or the texture of their hair…all that matters, is they are loved completely…just for being them!
Comment by Starthai on 9 May 2008:
CatLady your trying to weed out your competition, just love yourself and you’ll be fine
Comment by Starthai on 9 May 2008:
Skyprincess1 said: “That slavery mentality that girlsixdiva mentioned is still very much alive in our culture and a lot of dark skinned black women will snub a lighter skinned black woman only because of her skin color, hair, eyes, etc.”
Keep in mind it is vice versa. Coming from a dark-skinned women I know for a fact dark-skinned women are not jealous of light-skinned women. You will find that many of us love our chocholate skin tones. I think what so many of us have observed is the colorism in the community and media, etc; and how you do find many light-skinned women who up play on the advantages, which I don’t blame, but also you will find a lot that try and play on a dark-skinned womans self-esteem for many reasons. So, it is probably not jealousy at all it’s other things that have been observed. I know I’m speaking for a lot of the beautiful dark-skinned women when I say we love our skin tones, I sometimes wish I was a shade darker, yet I can’t emphasize enough I love my Hershey bar skin tone.
Maybe oneday people will stop endeavoring to attack the dark-skinned women, because of their own surreptitious insecurities
Comment by xeltron on 15 May 2008:
now THIS is a stupid post! I love my girls, they just happen to be mixed(and quite beautiful).
Comment by jluchini on 17 May 2008:
I don’t think its ok to have an interracial relationship just to see what your kids turn out looking like.
Comment by MissJamaica on 18 May 2008:
I agree with a few of the points in here. Yes MANY people want mixed children. I have a darkskin exboyfriend that is dying to be with a mixed-looking girl (lightskin, slim, with the spanish-y or indian type of hair) because he feels (even though he makes good money and has a couple college degrees) that life is easier and certain circles easier to gain entrance to when you are not dark like him. I got my hair relaxed at one point after a long period of growing it out and he decided because it looked so nice day after day (as opposed to hair that looks nice the day or two after the stylist does it and then like hell after) that i must be mixed with something…noooooo it’s not only mixed people that can have healthy hair that grows out of their scalp, not bought in a store. I was surprised to hear a successful black man talking like that. But he doesn’t date white (yet) because he doesn’t feel he has anything in common with them. So he is stuck between a rock and a hard place. Good luck to him on that one.
So yes that is alive and well. Black and white women alike lose their minds over light skinned black men (although i will say the MEN have easier time getting sex and relations even when dark because the so-called mystery appeal of dark skin works for men, but not for women).
But also, i have read and heard of many dark skin black women saying WHITE men treat them better than black men. It is very hard for a dark skin black woman to get notice with the same level of effort as a brown skin or light skin woman. I didn’t realize how hard til i heard my friend (dark skin woman) say she has to make sure she is on point and giving off an air that makes guys 1. stop and take a second look and realize she does actually look good since she’s dark, and 2. bring their A game because she does not deal with bums and bullsh*t.
I never had to think in terms of that. And yes, she has found white men treat her great. She’s married to a black man from an African country though.
One thing she did say that threw me for a loop was that a white guy wanted babies off her because he thought she would make beautiful brown babies. But she already had a son that was dark skin, and said she was not going to have her son being the only dark skin child, she wanted them all her colour. I wondered if she thought the lightskin children would grow up feeling like they are better than her because of the treatment lightskin mix kids get in america…
Now I have a black son (with american indian in him from his father, so his hair has some curl to it), and a mixed daughter who’s hair has the thick heavy curls of the white-skin indian boys…she does have an extremely pretty face, but my son gets lots of compliments unless they are both together…then i notice complete strangers go out of their way to talk to her…white, black, whatever…it’s like she’s a little celebrity. I am a little concerned as to how it will affect my son…but even he says if she has on a certain outfit or a little toddler church dress “mommy she looks SO PRETTY, isn’t she pretty mommy”…if even he is caught up in her prettiness, what to say, you know? I try to say yes she is,and you’re very cute too, both my kids are real cute! But one day he will notice. Lucky for me they are not both boys, i think it’s easier for a guy to accept his sister getting more attention on the road than him, you know?
I do think people mate and have sexual attraction based on potential for healthy AND GOOD LOOKING children. Even grandparents will make their little comments that are funny yet serious about having cute grandchildren and not making their grandkids with some dude lacking in either looks, brains, or character. So it’s not limited to just racial looks. It’s natural to want good looking children. Mixed children in my opinion either come out looking really good or really WEIRD. Personality also determines a lot. HOwever I have noticed (esp. with black people) that folks tend to over scrutinize the mixed and it’s like they can’t have a bad day like everyone else…if they are not smiling and trying to basically make people feel comfortable and NOT threatened by their mixedness or their perceived status in society, it’s “oh he/she think she cute, acting like his/her sh*t don’t stink, like he/she better than everybody else”…you keep acting like that around a person, eventually they will think so. It’s less about them believing they are above you, than about you believing they are above you.
I have seen light skin mixed guys who don’t actually look good get attention and develop some really misplaced conceit because some hood rat chicks think they are the best thing since slice bread JUST because he’s red. Once I realized that I may have been ingrained with the pre-tendency to decide a lightskin guy automatically looks good, i made a point to pay attention to whether their face actually looks good to me or not (and actually i tend to assume mixed guys are washed out and less in bed somehow, so my bias to overcome here is to actually give them a chance if they really look good). I automatically get turned on by dark skin men with smooth even skin tone (as does half the world, it seems), so i try to stop stereotyping in that direction too…but that’s something weird with me and I don’t know what it means…anybody care to tell me what this means about me?
>>>I tend to be most attracted to jet black men or straight white (not black acting, not mixed, just white) men…what does that mean since they are so opposite? Mixed guys always seem nice to look at but i don’t get the same instant reaction to most of them…even when reading profiles it’s only a few mixed ones that grab me off the bat…
All that said, fine to want good looking kids, not fine to decide to base your marriage on that and sexual attraction. I know I am not even trying to have any more children so that’s definitely not a motivation for me. I just want to open my dating pool without wearing out a bunch of outfits and using up my gas. Internet costs nothing extra for me to meet/weed out potential guys, so here I am!
Comment by TurnoffJewtube on 19 May 2008:
The Jewish Plan for Genocide of USA Whites
ISRAEL COHEN (1912)
“We must realize that our party’s most powerful weapon is racial tensions. By propounding into the consciousness of the dark races that for centuries they have been oppressed by whites, we can mold them to the program of the Communist Party. In America we will aim for subtle victory. While inflaming the Negro minority against the whites, we will endeavor to instill in the whites a guilt complex for their exploitation of the Negros. We will aid the Negroes to rise in prominence in every walk of life, in the professions and in the world of sports and entertainment. With this prestige, the Negro will be able to intermarry with the whites and begin a process which will deliver America to our cause.”
Israel Cohen, A Racial Program for the Twentieth Century, 1912. Also in the Congressional Record, Vol. 103, p. 8559, June 7, 1957 top of page
Comment by l3wilso on 20 May 2008:
TurnoffJewtube, I recommend that you do more reading (research)in regards to your “copy & paste” of information. There is much more that relates to that idealogy.
I also recommend that you grasp a better understanding of what you read before you “copy & paste”.
Just a thought……..
Comment by Medgurl86 on 22 May 2008:
I am mixed with black and white. Most people confuse me with being spanish. What upset me the most when I was young , me and mother would be shopping and people would just stare. Typically older caucasions. My mother is dark skin I guess thats why they would do this.Rude people!! The most annoying thing, was when I would talk to guys or go to the beauty salon; the first thing they always asked, are you mixed? So aggravated I would always say, “nope..
Comment by turnoffjewtube on 22 May 2008:
More “Cut and Paste” for all:
“We will openly reveal our identity with the races of Asia and Africa. I can state with assurance that the last generation of white children is now being born. Our Control Commissions will, in the interests of peace, and wiping out inter-racial tensions, forbid the whites to mate with whites. The white women must cohabit with members of the dark races, the white men with black women. Thus the white race will disappear, for mixing the dark with the white means the end of the white man, and our most dangerous enemy will become only a memory. We shall embark upon an era of ten thousand years of peace and plenty, the Pax Judaica, and our race will rule undisputed over the world. Our superior intelligence will easily enable us to retain mastery over a world of dark peoples.”
“A speech of Rabbi Emanuel Rabinovich before a special meeting of the Emergency Council of European Rabbis in Budapest, Hungary, January 12, 1952
Comment by www.sortitout.com on 26 May 2008:
Oh my gosh!. What is a mum to be to do??. I know ignore ignorant comments, and be the best mum i can be to my child. Also the father to be is a faithful,great individual.I thought the health of your children was more important than anything else.Speaking to my partner,he said,”I WAS HOPING TO FALL IN LOVE SOMEDAY,I JUST THOUGHT YOU WOULD BE DARKER”. WE ALL HAVE OUR IDEAL PARTNER IN OUR MINDS,BUT IT DOESN’T ALWAYS AGREE WITH WHATS INSIDE OUR HEARTS.Julia
Comment by salsera77 on 29 May 2008:
Ria, Ria, where do I submit my suggestions for topics?
I’m serious. Would you consider them?
Comment by latrelle on 30 May 2008:
Yes Ria. I agree with salsera77 that we need new topics worthy of a good discussion. This topic’s outdated, and as such should be left in the past and treated as just that: history. Let’s not keep beating that dead Race horse, shall we?
I have a much better topic to suggest for your column:- “Men Who Can’t Love” (based on a book written by Steven Carter, a man whose own life parallels the title). Great insight on the commitmentphobe!
If that doen’t work, how about “Passive-Aggressive Behavior in Men” (and sometimes women, but research has shown it’s primarily a male issue).
Okay, that’s my two-cents or ha’ penny. I’m done here….
Comment by salsera77 on 30 May 2008:
Ria, I’ve seen your new topics recently. Good Job.
Other Suggestions:
Top ten best and worst US cities for dating interracially and why.
(I know that Philadelphia, Pa. is NOT one of them)
(NY, San Francisco, San Diego, & Los Angeles I’ve heard are some of the best)
The reticence of white men to approach and date black women. (Yes, I know black men are bolder and it’s also about where I live….nevertheless)
Comment by salsera77 on 30 May 2008:
Oh and one more I forgot….
Are interracial relationships more fragile and more conducive to breakups than same race relationships.
Who (man or woman) is ready to break it off at the first sign of a (small or large) disagreement and at what point in the relationship does that happen (the beginning, 2 months into it?).
Comment by bella on 11 June 2008:
I don’t know why people have so many hang-up’s on skin color in general…….. Also I was not aware that there was such a thing as a “real african black”…… From what I know african’s come in diffrent shades not just dark skin……. who’s to say that the brown skin girl with long curly hair that we see in a commercial is mixed……. people always assume that if they see a brown skin girl with soft hair that she is mixed when in general we are all just one race the human race and the only diffrence is our skin tones, hair texture ect and an african is not just someone who is dark skin with nappy hair and a wide nose…….
Comment by Becky on 12 June 2008:
Anyone who would ask such a silly question, “Are mixed children better looking?” Is not looking past the skin and into the heart. God said, only man looks at man’s outer, God looks at man’s heart.
Catlady, God was tribal not racial. I think you have missed the point of Scripture and Biblical teaching.
I happen to mixed race, Italian, Ameri-Indian, Chinese and Black and I love people whether they came half and half or completely whole. People are beautful giving glory to God.
Comment by ethereal99 on 13 June 2008:
Salsera77, nice ideas to improve the site. Did you say reticence? Haven’t heard that word in a while. I’m glad to see people thinking & trying, rather than bashing & negativity. You go girl !!!!!!!!!
Comment by Muziklicious on 14 June 2008:
To Tiger…..you really said it all.My english isn’t so great that I could find the right words to explain how I think and feel.But it is good enough to tell catlady that she is a dumb, ignorant,still living in 1826 idiot!I’ve been dating black guys for the last 15 years and I’m not gonna change that.I’m simply more attracted to black guys and I like the way of living, culture and mentality!I had bad relationships and people told me to find a german guy.”They” are no good.I asked them…hey if I had 5 bad relationships with white guys,would you tell me to find a black man??What can I say…they couldn’t answer me.So I don’t date black guys to have a mixed baby,I don’t even know if I want kids but I think they are beautiful….inside and outside!Just don’t look at skin color…think of what stands behind it.Love without prejudice or fear.
Comment by fass on 14 June 2008:
First thing everyone is entitled to do as they please as long as they are not hurting anyone else, with everything else that going on in the world like war hunger and poverty. The most you can write about is negative things. If a black woman want mix babies that up to her. Nothing to do with you or anyone else.
LIVE YOUR LIFE! PEOPLE BREATH!
Comment by fass on 14 June 2008:
GET A LIFE!
Anyone is free to do what they like as long as they can take care of their children.
BYE!
Comment by MissJamaica on 14 June 2008:
Medgurl saying you are not mixed when you clearly are and being annoyed by a simple question that was not said with rude intentions is the kind of uncalled for attitude that will make people think mixed people are stuck up and conceited…what was so hard about saying yes I am? Or “Yeah black and white.” What would have been rude of them is if they start asking if your father is this or that, or if your mother is this or that, because they don’t need to know all that.It’s like me having an accent and people because of it asking where I am from…and me catching an attitude for no good reason and saying “I’m not from anywhere” or “I’m american”…they were just curious so what’s the point of me being annoyed and rude?
Comment by MochaPearl on 15 June 2008:
I’ve just recently found this site and I am glad it exists. As a 44 yo black woman I have dated across racial lines all my dating years, and this is how it should be. We met and marry that person we are attracted to mentally, physically and emotionally. And we have children. If we have children based on how they will look, who would have a child with a man with big ears or went bald at 20! We have children because they are an extension of ourselves, of our hope and our future. An child born to parents of different races is express a hope for the world. It is not an intentional doing. I did not have children to save the world, but to express the love for my then husband and to share our love with a child.
I have three bi/multiracial children. They all have different skin coloring and they are all beautiful. You see, we have beautiful people on both sides of the family! They get darker with the sun and paler in the winter; one is darker, one medium and one lighter…lighter than what…I’m not sure. In any case I do not believe and more importantly, I pray that when we have children we are motivated by love and a promise of a future; not whether we have trouble combing our daughter’s hair or letting our son grow dreds.
Lets all be blessed
Comment by Bratx on 26 June 2008:
Im of mixed race and my skin is brown not lite. I never wanted to be lighter because my hair is very thick curly and wavy…gud hair, and i have european/indian features. I dont think that all lite skinned kids, men, women or whatever look betterthan darker skinned ones. everyones attractive from all races. and all races have somme ugly azz people….. The End
Comment by Bristol on 8 July 2008:
Concerned Citizen (Italain Stallion Not!) Not all mixed race children with white mothers have ‘ridiculous’ hair because white women can’t manage it!
What an ignorant comment to make!
Comment by redprincess on 12 July 2008:
in my opinion mixed raced people are the best looking and they have the best of both worlds, i am black and i actively seek men of other races i.e iranian,asian,white and mixed race,firstly because i really admire their skin tone and hair and always wanted a fair skin child with nice hair, i am not happy with my colour or hair or even culture, if i had a choice i would be mixed race
Comment by ebonedoll on 12 July 2008:
How sad that people can’t be happy with who they are! Doesn’t matter. You can’t change it!
Parents should feel truely disappointed in the fact that they did not instill more of a sense of pride in their children. They have humanbeings that will roam this life wanting to be something they will never be.
All my children are mixed race. My 2 daughters are 1/2 Mexican American, my three youngest are 1/2 white.
I tell my children they need to be leary of anyone that wants to be bothered with them because of how they look. Men that say crap like” You’re not really black”. Or “You’re fine cuz you got that good hair”.
I am always amused that black women in particular act like don’t know better.
Just because you have a child by another race doesn’t mean anything. That child can be the spitting image of them and the only way that anyone knows they are mixed is if they tell the tale.
I’ve had white mothers let their biracial daughters hair break off to the extent that it has to be cut off and regrown just because they didn’t care enough to learn to do it. They thought it wouldn’t be “nappy”.
Can you imagine the child has to be raised by such a disappointed parent? Parents that have issues they are passing on to their children.
2 black parents don’t have a guarantee of skin or eye color.
Comment by tallncurve on 16 July 2008:
To cat lady. i think you should be ashamed for your comments. What is wrong with you our kind your kind. We all humans, and if u peel the skin of ore turn the light of, there is no difference. Since when is a with person a cow ore a black person a dog.
And how do u know, if people are in love ore not?
I really hope you will fall in love with a person that has s different color than you do.
lets talk about it again than.
Comment by vt33 on 18 July 2008:
HMM…still chewing the fat with this whole color thing I see. I’m gonna tell you all this, read a book Cane River, by Lalita Tademy, then read the follow up book Red River by Lalita Tademy. You will get the hint in Cane River, why Philomene kept on keepin on with Narcisse and the effects it had on one of own.
This should put a end to this nonsense about children born to parents of different colors, and if women are picking differnt races to create “purrty babies”. MEDIA, plays a role in everything. Lets be real, half of you in here blogging have kicked me in the sides when I made comments about behavior that subliminal you have done. It isn’t no big secret, truth of the matter is, people are attracted to pretty people, but when you are a quarter pound black, and a half pound philippino, or chinese, or white, or indian, east indian, or hispanic, you are deemed “PRETTY”, and doors will open for you.
Lets cut the sh**t, pull out the white baby doll and the black baby doll and see what a child will prefer. It’s not big secret that I am in love with Wentworth, am I attracted to his skin..hell to the naw, its those smoldering eyes, and those lips, and that walk…mmmmm!
Is it because he is a mixed hell naw. It was that back with that Henna art that sent me and the rest of the package.
Lets be real if Colin Powell would have ran for president you would have voted for him, you know why, don’t cha. Obama, I’m on the bandwagon for now, because I don’t want no McCain nor did I want another 8 years of Clintondom, but lets face it, if he didn’t look the way he does, you think he would have the momentum he has today. Heres the secret folks, now move in close…IF BLACK FOLKS WOULD STOP TRYING TO CHANGE THEMSELVES AND BE THEMSELVES IT WOULDN’T ALWAYS APPEAR WE TRYING TO FILTER OUR BLOOD AND MAKE IT LIGHT AND BRIGHT. Try bring back the slogans that stood strong in the seventies:
1. BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL (isn’t it thou)
2. BLACK AND I’M PROUD (proud of every moment in my history)
Teach That!
Yet Again no Jibberish Jabs people this is just a thought!
I’m Out!
Comment by CantExplain on 21 July 2008:
Well i dunno everyone seems to have their opinion. I know its bad to generalise but i have to admit in the areas of the world where there were alot of colonisation by many different countries and cultures such as Northern india, brazil, sri lanka and south africa the people are stronger and larger and in most cases can be PERCIEVED to be more attractive. Now im not saying everyone in those countries is hot but a good proportion are good looking or seemingly larger. But with strength and size thats truly genetic, hybrid vigour. Its NOT the same, but on similar lines to what farmers use to make better trait holding plants and animals. Some races of people seem to be naturally biger than others we are all different even thoguh we are one speices because of the environments our races developed in. Hence people like me are darker becasue we had more heat and sun in our environmnet, its evolution.
Mixing between races i think is great but hsoudlnt be CHASED for just to make a product child. IF it happens then thats awesome. The mroe genetically different a two people are when they make a child the better, less recessive bad genes will be expressed. Thats y u cant and shouldnt do it with ur sister or u get a retarded child in nearly all cases. Physical Factors that usually arent found in a particular race, like i sed due to the environment; which can include musculature and size, can be introduced to a newborn if they are mixed depeding on where the geneflow came from.
As for appearance, well its really down to what people think is good looking but with people who are mixed they have certain features, particualrly facial features, that make them more so unique to the poeple around and really make them stand out. For example indians typically have thick hair but nearly all have black or dark brown eyes. Up northern india due to mixing from europe there are some with blue eyesand it really makes for a change in appearance. NOw its not jsut eye colour, subtle things are different nose shape lip shape. Not all mixed people look good as someone sed above but when the right features are mixed together it looks nice.
Comment by CantExplain on 21 July 2008:
Also i forgot to add, lots of poeple here seem to think that colour is related to beauty. THats really jsut a personal taste. And its a right people have. BUT, BY NO MEANS IS IT AN EXCUSE FOR ANY FOR OF RACISM AND DESCRIMINATION. and for me i think beauty isnt really in the colour, i mean sure i have views on what I like and i would never express them openly as someone would get offended and lets face it we all kno what we are looking for and what we’d like in a partner, beauty is in the features i think and that again can differ based on taste everyone is diverse, different people different priorities in what they look for.
Comment by PointofAfrica on 5 August 2008:
Being a born and bred African there is one thing that I have come to realise. The blood that runs through my veins is like a road map. The more I delve deeper into my past and heritage, the more I understand and accept myself. I am of mixed descent and married to a black man (originally from Cameroon). My children, funnily enough look Hindu. I know that my grandmother was Hindu but one thing is for sure, when we went to Cameroon and visited his family, we were treated as though we were gift from God himself. There is so much colour in Cameroon! Yes colour! You cannot actually distinguished which person is mixed or who is black! That is absolutely wonderful! My point is, why worry about the colour of your skin when life has so much promise. Everyday that comes brings new opportunities, new joy and new life. I look at my children and I think how wonderul their lives are - they know where they come from and they have both parents to guide them through life. That is what’s important, not colour!
Comment by rae56 on 9 August 2008:
Can’t we all just get along…
Comment by Soulmate2U on 9 August 2008:
On Rae56’s short but profound comment : AMEN
Comment by Baby Red on 10 August 2008:
I think most people have forgotten that beauty on the inside is way more important than the outside. It doesn’t matter how light or dark your skin color is. What should be important is a strong and sensible mind, followed by a big and caring heart. For the remark about a white person and black person cant be in true love. I am white and was married to a white man for 8 years. He was abuse and just plain ignorant. Love has nothing to do with the color of your skin.
Comment by Pia65 on 12 September 2008:
I do know a few people that think they will have better looking children if they have a interracial relationship…….and that I think is really sad.
Thankfully most of my friends don’t think that way.
I would hope that the majority of people believe that the foundation of any relationship is built on Love, Respect, etc.
Love like any emotion does not have a color, but it carries a deep emotional connection.
That emotion can lead to creating children…beautiful children from that wonderful relationship.
Comment by thickgapeach on 29 September 2008:
I believe that all children are beautiful and hopefully they will be born to two loving parents, race notwithstanding. Trying to manipulate the gene pool by hooking up with someone of another race can backfire-esp. if one partner is black. Genetics is a funny thing and involves the DNA of everyone in your line. I think that is much more practical to pray for a healthy baby.
Comment by wow... on 12 October 2008:
i think mutliracial kids get more respect actually. because they have parents from both races and both races respect them. and i never knew the light-skinned, black-skinned racism ever existed, until high school. but race shouldn’t matter anymore. this is the america and the 21st century, i bet anyone in next hundred or thousands of years, EVERYONE will be multiracial.
Comment by Linda254 on 13 October 2008:
i just can not stop laughing……lol
Comment by Hells Angels m-c on 18 October 2008:
well im gonna say this being white in america is just like being black in the 60’s and 50’s we are treated like shit by everyone and im tierd of the stereotypes white people do have big dicks and we can fight really good i aint talkin about these little pretty boy bitches u see on tv and shit go to the streets
Comment by PointofAfrica on 19 October 2008:
And the rhetoric goes on and on! Before even mentioning stereotypes and other blah blah blah’s, you have to realise one thing. As an example, my country is a newborn to democracy, a mere twelve years. I walk the streets of racism, biase and ill-gotten supremacy everyday. You haven’t understood racism, sterotypes etc until you have been told you are free and then shackles made of poverty and invisible stumble blocks are placed in front of you to make you fail. How does that famous gospel hymn go….The potter wants to put you back together again! Maybe that is what we all need. To be put back together again. It is not about how big whatever is but what we are and what we stand for! Why waste our lives contemplating colour and supremacy when life is so short and time is too precious to waste!
Comment by WHURR on 21 October 2008:
I’m scribbling down notes from MIxedGuy’s comments. I will carry this with me when looking for a wife…thanks MixedGuy!
Comment by SnazzyBella on 21 October 2008:
Come on! Ugly is ugly! We all know someone with ugly kids and color has nothing to do with ugliness. ITs the parents
Comment by rae56 on 21 October 2008:
All I can say is, “Lord’a mercy!
Comment by lala2qz on 22 October 2008:
Morningflower, nice that you’re honest, but im mixed and I can tell you that you dont automatically get easy to manage hair, might look like it is easier because the curls are so pretty, but just as much of a hassle as any if you want it straight.. but then again this is coming from me, I’ve always wanted hassle free straight hair even though i do love my own.
catlady’s comment is humurous, laughable, I couldnt get past that enough to be offended because she sounds far too ignorant, poor her.
and mixed guy, i’ll call you on that because being black doesnt make your dad big, which “surprise!” wouldnt make you big. Geeeez, you’d think that another mixed person might be beyond stereotypes. lol. but your comment is really funny,
white= dirty??, black=big?? white=freak??,
which in turn makes mixed=tight??.
hmmm… but if you combine black and white, shouldnt that equal big dirty freak??
lol. you’re funny.
(0_o)???!???
Comment by PointofAfrica on 22 October 2008:
Mixed Guy you must have a lot of regrets…….
Comment by chichalola on 5 November 2008:
this whole conversation is ignorant…….
who cares,,
Comment by rae56 on 5 November 2008:
What’s ignorant is societal views on the topic, not the topic itself. I’m sure there are many who are considered to look “too ethnic” and don’t live up to the American standard of beauty who care a great deal about this conversation. Even those who supposedly are enlightened tend to have ignorant views. I had a coworker, caucasian, who is married to an African-American. When thier first grandchild was due to be born, she told me that she hoped the baby would be lighter and take more after her blond/blue side of the family rather than her husbands dark skinned family so that she would be pretty… That boggles the mind! One would think that she found something attractive about her husband, after all, she married him…
Comment by hamanim on 23 November 2008:
“Comment by blondguy96 on 19 March 2008:
God created the Tower of Babel and Moses was punished for marrying an Ethiopian (Midianite more specifically)? If people are going to be racist idiots and try to use the Bible to back it up you’d think they’d at least do enough study to get their story kinda right. You, cat lady, are not in the ballpark with your interpretation. Not in the same league. Not even in the same sport.
It’s fascinating how one can take a biblical viewpoint against racism and somehow forget that based on that view people of all colors were generated from two individuals.”
Actually I think you might find that he did not get punished for marrying a Midianite women read it properly.
G-D told Israel (the people ) not to marry outside of Israel because they would lead them astray. Many of the Israel people came as a result of marrying outside of Israel so long as it does not impede your belief then who cares.
I am mixed race and I have a mixed race daughter. When we start being narrow minded and generalising then issues occur.
Comment by Chosen519 on 8 December 2008:
I find beauty in all races. Yes, a mixed child, especially if it’s Black with another race could very well produce an interesting complexion. This complexion doesn’t make one child better than the other. Find happiness within yourself. Peace and God Bless.
Comment by lala2qz on 9 December 2008:
if only everyone could be as enlightened as tigerlillies. (^_^)
Comment by babe_4_u on 22 December 2008:
Isn’t life interesting? If only we all tried to look at things the way God looks at them…what a happy people we would be! At the same time I would say that God is the greatest artist and entertainer…if we have people like Catlady…..it makes some of us look very intelligent…Catlady…keep on sharing your ignorance with us…I love a good laugh especially so if its at someone else’s lame comments…Back to the topic..I think all children are cute..mine is mixed race….and he is really cute……though still at the end of the day beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder….
Comment by cla81 on 29 December 2008:
Hi,i am not american(as a lot of person on htis site)and i can speack only about my country(italy)about interracial babies.
Here there isn’t a real interest about interracial kids because mixed couples are really a little number(especially old men with young african women).
Generally they are not really seen good by others persons and the discrimination is so hight not only versus mixed family e mìxed babies but versus all blacks(better the situation versus asian BUT only because a lot of persons have the philippinian nanny and they see asians more familiar).
Unfortunately this is the situation in Italy…
On the other hand chatting with usa citizens about this argoument i have know a “new world” really different respect the stereotip of racism seen in television and cinema about Usa.
The situation told me to these persons was similar to the situations fold by others members, a lot of interest to make mixed babies by white persons(this was the trend chatting with usa persons and one of them said to me that there are a lot of white COUPLES that breeding mixed babies using the help of tecnologies(but i don’t know how was seriosus this person for this if anyone know more please respond to me if it’s really occur in USa or if it is false)).
In final i want say that,in my opinion, the wish that move a person to date outside him/her race can’t to be considered only the phisical attraction for others races(if you find a beautiful person and he/she is an idiot … there isn’t race thet can move you to date him/her…)but i think that the wish that can to move to KNOW a person different respect us is initially the apparence(i am not shy to admit that i prefer date a black woman respect to a white woman because i find her more attractive )and after all aspects of her culture finishing with the prospective about to have mixed babies obviously as the conseguence of marriege or relationship.
Sorry for my english
Comment by KME on 14 January 2009:
Missed baby bring a part of both parents to the table.
Comment by Iris77 on 15 January 2009:
Hey, I am mixed race baby and I am happy!
Comment by Chaz in the truck on 14 February 2009:
I visited one of my cyber BFF a xouple of yearsd ago. She has three wonderful daughters, grom a WM/BF marraige. Being a puny white guy, when we went on a couple of outings? It was all good. We looked like we had been married a long time, and that the kids were ours. If anybody noticed or gave any bad eye, I didn’t notice and would not have cared.Never having had any biological children myself, I enjoyed being “a family man” even if only for a short while. The biggest concern was keeping an eye on the kids for safety! I never knew kids were so keen on being unsafe! Giggle. I don’t remember ever being so crazy in public, but maybe the operative words are “don’t remember”?
Comment by im a jojo on 9 March 2009:
Ok so im a mixed race child, second generation… my mom is white, my dad is half black half white.I appear white infact people mostly think im White Italian… I have been attracted to black women since day one but had a daughter with a a white girl whom now (my daughter) is having a baby with a black man… she has been attracted to black men her whole life… I grew up in a white neighborhood and always felt looked down upon being as I was always tan. So heres one for you all to ponder over, me the white looking guy with some black blood who grew up in a white neighborhood who without going into detail felt looked upon as a lesser… sad fn world we live in…
Comment by Grace on 11 March 2009:
I’m white & my husbands Filipino. I plan to have children with him soon & I do hope they look like him. I’m not having children with him just so they look like that, I hope they look like him because I love the way he looks. If they don’t, it’s fine with me. I’ll love them as my kids no matter what they look life.
Comment by poliwagincite on 22 April 2009:
Ignorance is ignorance which isn’t exclusive to a particular race or “color” of ones skin. I’ve just learned of my daughter’s pregnancy (she’s 19). The breeder (and I call him that because he’s a loser and please realize losers come in ALL colors…) changed his phone number within an hour of finding out about her pregancy and he happens to be black. I’m livid! I’m not angry that she is bearing a mixed race baby, I’m livid because my daughter and my grandchild will have to deal with people like Catlady. I don’t want my grandchild catagorized by color - that scares me big time. I want my grandchild catagorized by his/her actions. I don’t care which race my grandbaby favors as long as he/she doesn’t look like my ex-husband LOL!
Comment by homesteader on 22 April 2009:
May your grandbaby be Healthy , My grandmother was my Best friend growing up .
Comment by blackstorm69 on 17 May 2009:
There is beauty in everyrace, no race can be said to be better looking , beauty then will lie in the eye of the beholder.
Comment by John on 23 May 2009:
I’m 42, mixed race (Anglo-Caribbean) and was born, schooled and raised in the UK. I suppose I’m considered to be attractive.
Despite much of the two-faced, cowardly white society in which I was raised being quietly bigoted as I grew up, I consider myself English and am proud to do so.
I don’t consider myself to be a “black” stereotype, according to the pigeonholes that are scheduled for me in advance by many sections of society, and am a strong, educated and independent person with a good historical knowledge and a penchant for speaking my mind.
I also find many black people as bigoted, too- although as I said, most people of any colour with such views are reluctant to be so overtly nasty with a tough six-footer who can take care of himself, if ever verbal/physical violence is called upon.
Comment by Westy on 6 June 2009:
I think interacial breeding destroys racial diversity.
Comment by morning star on 1 July 2009:
Ok, I really don’t know how to start this because I have so many things to say. First of all We are humans, all of one, Some of us if you research your family you are not of one decent. I am made of German, Scots Irish, and 2 different Indian tribes. I am not white, or Caucasian. You are Caucasian if you are from the Caucasus mountains or plains. The only reason “blacks” have a different skin tone is because of there territory. There skin had to be darker to with stand the sun because of them being closer to the equator. Didn’t you guys learn that in science. I did.
Ok as for the morbid cat lady, this is for you. Don’t bring ancient times into modern times. We live today, in our century, our times. There is no law that says you can;t love someone because of the color of there skin. Bible also teachers LOVE SEES NO COLOR. Go to school to learn to read the bible. its not just a book to pick up and read, and you have to know how to read it when you do. Talk to your pastor, minister, or father on how to do it if you are going to try to defend yourself on this matter.
Moving on, I married a man that has light skin. His grandmother was the daughter of a master and a slave. You can’t tell. She was loved by many and still is.
Which brings me to this, I love my children unconditionally and all 3 of them have different color skin and 2 of them are by my light complected husband. He often wonders about our daughter because she is so light. Which is what brought me to this site int he beginning, but once I got started reading the entries, I got so beside myself in the disbelief and horror that I was reading I got off track. To those of you who know no good, learn it look around you times have changed and we do not, and I repeat do not live in the olden days, we live today, in a free country where we can love whom ever we want. Gods says, deny me, I deny you. So by you denying someone because of there skin complexion you are denying God, because he made that person. So you will be cast into eternal hell. Have a good Life and I hope everything I have said made sense.
Comment by homesteader on 2 July 2009:
morning star ;
All people are different , that is what makes Life so much Fun to live .
Children are the Greatest Gift God can give . To Love them is Our only real purpose in Life .
Indeed times are changing daily / for a More Possitive World . Keep looking to the Future as We see Marvelous days ahead .
Two years married and counting many more Happy times together .
Life is to Enjoy , We do . Hope you do also .
Comment by missthang100 on 4 July 2009:
To catlady, this is an interracial dating site. If you don’t like the personal choices of grown adults, then don’t be on this website. Keep your negativity to yourself. You state about being with your own kind. Then that applys to catholic being catholics, protestants being with protestants, Irish with Irish, British with British, Russians with Russians, Polish with Polish, Africans with Africans, and so on, which is so insane and doesn’t make any sense. I can’t stand when a person tries to use the Bible for the basis of their own self-hate. You are a sad individual who needs prayer. Everyone has the right to love who they want. Children are beautiful no matter what their skin tone is.
Comment by AP on 7 July 2009:
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1)
Since mention was made of the topic of the
‘chattel-slavery’ era — I just wanted to note
that this false concept that so many people have
– that the lighter-complexioned chattel slaves
“had it easier” or “thought they were better”
than the darker-complexioned slaves -– and
/ or largely “relaxed in the big house” while
the darker-complexioned slaves “suffered
in the fields” — is very much (just like the
infamous ‘Willie Lynch Letter’ Hoax) all VERY
MUCH AN URBAN MYTH (and, is one which,
in nearly every way that’s possible, completely
defies the true historical recorded account).
The historical record shows that
those enslaved people who were of a
lighter-complexion (i.e. mulatto-lineage)
and that were found on the continental
United States during the antebellum
(chattel-slavery) era were actually treated
MUCH WORSE than were those enslaved
people who were of a darker-complexion.
In fact, the record shows that most of the White
people (especially the White women) tended
to look upon the lighter-complexioned slaves
as being mere ‘mongrels of miscegenation’
(resulting largely from the rapes caused by the
plantation ‘Overseers’); in their disgust at the
sight of these slaves — insisted that they
be “banished to the fields”; and also then
purposefully reserved most of the ‘big house’
positions (ex. mammy, cook, driver, etc.) for
the darker-complexioned slaves — who most of
the White people had perceived as being “more loyal,
more docile, less competitive, etc.”, and, even more
important, they were also of a skin tone which
could never cause them to be seen as being
any part-’white’ (and even worse, perceived as
“possibly” also being “a member of the family”
–as it were– of a given plantation ‘Owner’).
And this maltreatment was generally even much
more so the case if the lighter-complexioned
enslaved person was even remotely ’suspected’
(by, say, a wife, sister or daughter — who ran
“the big house”, while a ‘male’ family member
ran “the plantation”) of possibly being the
offspring of a given plantation ‘Owner’ (or his
son, or father, or brother, or any other male
found in the plantation ‘Owners’ White family).
In addition, the few lighter-complexioned enslaved
people that were actually permitted to do any work
in the “big house” were (as a punishment for having
the lowly status of “mongrel” and in order to make
sure that they did not become “too uppity”) kept
under a much more severe work supervision (by both
the White women who ran the plantation household
and also by the darker-complexioned enslaved people
who had been placed over the lighter-complexioned
enslaved people and given various “rewards” in an
exchange for the promise to ‘keep an eye on’ them)
than were most of the (more trusted and seemingly
endeared) darker-complexioned enslaved people.
Books by Deborah Gray White; Paula Giddings; bell
hooks; J. California Cooper; William Wells Brown;
etc. expose the truth about the urban-myth and
show that the lighter-complexioned enslaved
people received NO special treatment and were,
instead (due to being seen as mere “mongrels of
miscegenation”) usually treated much worse than
were most darker-complexioned enslaved people.
The hatred, fear and mistrust that many of
the antebellum and post-antebellum era White
southerners felt toward the people who were
both of a light-complexion (mulatto-lineage)
and were also chattel-slaves, is very strongly
presented in the ‘D.W. Griffith’ racist film
‘Birth of a Nation’– where pretty much all the
trouble, tragedy and dangers found experienced
by White southern families in the film
is falsely presented as being caused by
“uppity” Mulattoes who ‘needed to be
taught “their place” among White people’.
(i.e. they “needed” to be beaten, raped, lynched,
etc. by the “proud” White people who had been
reared to make it clear that they felt
“no connection” to any non-White person).
2)
Also — it is often a surprise for people to
learn that, in reality, there is actually No
Such Thing As a “Light Skinned Black” person.
The term “Light Skinned Black” is really nothing
more than a racist oxymoron that was created
by White Supremacists in an effort to forcibly
deny those Mixed-Race individuals, who are of a
Multi-Generational Multiracially-Mixed (MGM-Mixed)
Lineage, the right to fully embrace and to also
received public support in choosing to acknowledge
the truth regarding their full ancestral heritage.
The people who have been slapped with the false
label and oxymoronic misnomer of “Light Skinned
Black” person are simply Mixed-Race individuals
– whose family have been continually Mixed-Race
throughout their multiple generations.
3)
Anyone who would like any additional information
on this topic can feel free to contact me directly.
Hope this information is helpful
& that everyone has a great day.
– AP
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Comment by fkoi on 8 July 2009:
AP, quite a dissertation on this topic and very welcome. I wish there were a link to contact you for more information.
Comment by FearlessCrusader on 8 July 2009:
AP, it must have REALLY been a surprise for you “to learn that, in reality, there is actually No Such Thing As a ‘Light Skinned Black’ person” immediately after you wrote at length about “lighter-complexioned enslaved people”!
Comment by Mel81 on 12 July 2009:
Like everyone else, I’ll put in my “two cents.” I really don’t like how (some) people think it’s wrong to be in a mixed relationship or have mixed/multi-ethnic children. People should love who they love and I’m not “saying” this to be “PC.” I can’t stand “PC” people.
I’m “saying” this because it’s GENETICALLY HEALTHIER to have mixed children. Ofcourse, that is not ALWAYS the case, but in GENERAL it is. Do some research and you’ll see various studies done that show (or attempt to show) that having multi-ethnic and/or mixed children is healthier than having those who are one “race.” For example: Let’s look at canines. There have been studies done that show canines are HEALTHIER when they are muts (mixed dogs,) and that “pure bred” dogs usually have more genetic problems and defects. I know we’re not dogs but still… this should “say” something to people. It’s usually healthier to be mixed than “pure bred.” 
Comment by onlinebabe on 13 July 2009:
TO ANSWER THE QUESTION -we can all be diplomatic and say ‘as long as my children are healthy thats all that matters’ or ‘we didnt fall in love for color we fell in love because of the spark’ BUT THE FACT IS alot of people do go into realtionships with another race to have ‘beautiful’ mixed children-
looks do count in almost everything we do- the first thing you see about a person is their look you do not know the persons personality at that point that is what would be the fisrt thing you may or may not find appealing and people are judged by their looks all the time and thier color
‘the all american girl’ depicts blonde hair and blue eyes- blonde hair as opposed to brown hair and brown eyes and say green eyes is seen as beauty - diplomatically speaking all children are beautiful but mixed race children do more often then not come out as socially appealing in terms of what is accepted by society and going back to the slave trade where if they had more ‘whiter’ finer features they were more ‘passable’- having the golden or caramel complexion, straighter nose and flowy hair
the fact is society and the media ARE RASICT as they too share this ideolgy by having the lighter complexioned blacks or mixed-race people on adverts, bill-boards magazines etc as oppsed to darker skinned people- in this instance white people dont come into it as it is a white exhistance we live in and so they are already accepted and in most cases always will be- mixed -race children are mostly goodlooking because they are often stunning and have that ‘EXOTIC’ look about them
Comment by chinoy girl on 14 July 2009:
hello. I am a mixed chinese filipino. My dad’s chinese and my mom is filipino but has mexican ancestry. It is quite true that mixed race children are better looking. Although pure raced children can be goodlooking too. I have received many comments from people saying that i am exotic looking which is very attractive. But, there are disadvantages however. Anyway, nobody is perfect so it doesnt matter
Anzrylina Janine
Comment by aliekatt2 on 22 July 2009:
A lot of these posts I don’t understand. Why is this even being contemplated. OMG! Babies are beautiful regardless, the spirit, innocence, and purity of a child is there regardless of color. And posts like this cause the riff between mulata`s and darker skinned people. There are beautiful people in every race! Because I’d take Djimon Hounsou any fricken day. You go Kimora ex Simmons lol.
Comment by ezrhino2001 on 10 August 2009:
Yes they are !
Comment by SAM on 12 August 2009:
yes i believed mixed races is far good looking than any other but i am quite sure thre are also other that are pure in blood race that has a very good looking anyway everyone is a unique individual…
Comment by Caribgirl on 12 August 2009:
well,well, well
being from the West Indies,I do not even understand the term “African- American” this seems to be the new term for Black.Why because something is wrong with the word black. In my country almost everyone is mixed. My father as far as I can go back has always been black,however my Mother is part hispanic,part black and part chinese.what the hell does that make me.wait a minute!! my ex- husband has a mother that is part Indian,part black and part hispanic and a Father that is part black part white. What on earth does that make my children? at the same time I always wonder why am I forced to consider myself African by most blacks, when I believe that my race is West Indian. you see we here in the west Indies we suffer a whole separate set of issues being almost always mixed.
Ps. I am in love with a Korean man,I wonder what our kids would look like? but i would not try. I am too old.
Comment by eamg on 10 September 2009:
People are people. There is beauty in all of us. I believe that God made us different for our own enjoyment; so just enjoy the variety!
Comment by MissJamaica on 12 September 2009:
Why is this still going?
And I spot hypocrites in here. One lady said she wanted to be mixed but no more…but check her profile and her hair is a curly mixed-girl-looking weave.
And she is only open to white men, which is fine, but still follows the trend. She is definitely trying to have the kids she couldn’t be if you ask me.
If the question asked fits your mentality and you don’t want anyone to know it, just don’t answer the question. Let some things pass you. Cause many believe this but feel forced to come out and speak out against it. Sheesh.
Comment by nic281 on 2 October 2009:
So correct the USA is behind in interracial dating and so maybe some hick ville person wanted to prove that she still can keep the dumb ass ideas alive and people if you answer her you feed into her hick ideas, when people like that post such kkk ideas just don’t respond and it will go away.
Comment by just me on 4 October 2009:
i don’t agree with that comment leesah made “once you go black you never go back” i have seen many white men and women who dated outside their race and most definately decided to go back.. how come it can’t be the other way around when describing a white person…once you go white.._______ you know you’re right? I don’t know… but either way.. those sayings are so retarded. People can choose who they want to date. That’s just saying black people are better lovers. Can you say biased? And this post is supposed to be how love or beauty is in the eye of the beholder!! We need to stop saying one race is better this or that…lovers or better looking than others… all races are beautiful.. racism ends when the feeling of your race being dominant ends
Comment by homesteader on 4 October 2009:
just me ;
My favorite saying is ” Nothing ventured - nothing gained ”
Life is to Enjoy / I have never met anyone who was not Beautiful in their own way .
Comment by homesteader on 5 October 2009:
As Red Skeleton once said ” I married Miss. Right / I did not know her first name was - Always .”
My question wood be ; You in their correct mind would ever want to marry someone with Always Wrong / for their name ?
Comment by homesteader on 5 October 2009:
The End .
Comment by Kaios on 3 November 2009:
To be Mixed race is a gift. Coming from and young proud mixed race man. Interacial mixing is a fact of life! Wether you like it or not different races will mix now and in the future, this is the natural order of things. The idea of having a pure race is impossible unless you can accept incest. A pure race would have to envolve inter family breeding, first cousins ext. The product of this can be found in plan view in various parts of the Pakistani community where birth defects are common!
Being Mixed race is both a blessing and in some quaters a curse. Looking at the negatives, i have personaly been told that i am to black to be white and to white to be black! So where does this leave me?? Stuck in the middle and largely rejectd by both sides,to black to be white and to white to be black. A struggle to be socially accepted….. Maybe 20 or even 10 years ago but not now. Things have changed due to the high increase of inter race relations, so much so that it is ALMOST the norm.
Now looking at the positives. Genetically mixed race people are extrodinary. In brazil (The world largest Gene mixng pool) you will find that in the richer parts 95% of the population are White. In the flavelas the poorest parts of Brazil 100% of the population are Mixed in some way. Studies showed that the Mixed population of the Slums where far less likely to surcome to mental illness then the white populaton of the richer areas. FACT!!!
My parents are italian and Cuban, i live in great britain. Only 2% of britains population are mixed, oddly 30% of Englands national soccer team are mixed race. Faster, stronger and more athletic. This can only be good for the future of civilization.
Comment by whitey on 6 November 2009:
All I know is Morningflower is smoking hot