Have you ever been discriminated against or ridiculed for being an interracial couple?
What was your reaction to your haters? Do you think people will ever get over the “Eeew!” looks they give interracial couples?
Well take our poll today at the right hand column and let us know how Americans are treating interracial couples in this century.
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Comment by Cloe27 on 7 April 2008:
Here’s my piece of the pie as far as this is concerned. Once (in my early years) I feel in love with a puerto rican young man. By most people’s standards our relationship wasn’t interracial at all considering that we are both non-whites. Anyways, he started as a friend and it blossomed into something very dear and beautiful. One day while we were out shopping, holding hands (the things that lovers do) we were about to pass the storefront of a very popular men’s store. Before I realized what I was doing I dropped his hand. It was a self-conscience thing, I would have never in a million year thought I was ashamed of us. The fact that we were a couple was no secret. However, as I was approaching a store full of black men, who no doubt would have flaunted their white women before me without a care, I acted out of…panic? I don’t know what came over me but in that moment I think I hurt my man more from that little act of betrayal than stepping out on him. I’m ashamed not only because he was the man I loved but more importantly because he was my friend.
In essence, to wrap up my venting, sometimes we are our own worst enemies when it comes to loving who we love. We let the opinions of strangers get in the way of beautiful, loving relationships.
Comment by Member on 7 April 2008:
I am a 30 yr old , fine white man, and i never had any ridicule problems being on dates with black women. I am confident and hold my head up high, and I really dont care if there is ridicule. I just ignore it. There has been ridicule when I was with white women too. So you cant say its just interracially. That is stupid.
Also one other thing I would like to share that may upset some black men is that,
Black men date white women for a status symbol or conquer effect. They think it will get them automatic respect in the heirarchy business world. And more yet as a trophy .On the other hand …White men purely date black women for attraction.
Comment by Member on 7 April 2008:
I am a 30 yr old , fine white man, and i never had any ridicule problems being on dates with black women. I am confident and hold my head up high, and I really dont care if there is ridicule. I just ignore it. There has been ridicule when I was with white women too. So you cant say its just interracially. That is stupid.
Also one other thing I would like to share that may upset some black men is that,
Black men date white women for a status symbol or conquer effect. They think it will get them automatic respect in the heirarchy business world. And more yet as a trophy .On the other hand …White men purely date black women for attraction.
Blacklimocar@yahoo.com comments?
Comment by girlsixdiva on 7 April 2008:
From my experience it’s usually black women who get picked on and harrassed the most for dating men of other races.
Comment by LGand2gh on 7 April 2008:
There are always going to be those who believe races should stay w/ their own.As well as those who believe blacks should go back to Africa.We did come here on holiday cruise,as a matter of fact our own people played a part in our COMING TO AMERICA.The Native people were here first.And if those who ridicule interracial relationships look up their family tree,I am sure somewhere there is a man or woman of color in their history.There is no longer a pure race.I myself have mixed blood lines.Ever since men and women have walked,boated,horsebacked,driven and flew across this planet there has been procreation and there has been and always will be mixed races.That is what God intended,for us to LOVE each other.For those who abhore interracial,I feel sorry for your closed mindedness.I fear those,cause no telling what else in regards to race they disapprove of deep w/in their cold hearts.Hows that?
Comment by Sxybrwnsuga on 7 April 2008:
I can honestly say I have never been ridiculed about dating interracially. If I was I was unaware of it.
Comment by neciereaves on 8 April 2008:
My high school sweetheart was a young Italian man from Brooklyn, NY. We were deeply in love. His parents loved me until they actually met me. It was two years into our relationship before I met his father. I always wondered why he never brought me to his house while his parents were home. His father was so angry that he basically disowned his son. Our relationship carried a heavy strain after that and about 6 months later, it was over. I just couldn’t deal with the fact that his parents disliked me over something that I had no control over.
My sweetheart and I were always getting dirty looks from the black men in our area. I never cared and neither did he. I could have dealt with dirty looks from strangers for a lifetime. His family’s disapproval was a completely different story in my book.
Comment by mossimo36 on 8 April 2008:
Personally, I don’t pay the haters any mind. A few people look, but have never had any direct comments. The funniest thing to me is the reactions of a few black men who think if they stare at my date enough somehow she will come to them.
Comment by Mrs white on 8 April 2008:
to tell you the truth I never dated outside my race and woulded mined to and if anyone didn.t like it tuff for them………..kat
Comment by erica34 on 8 April 2008:
I have dated 99% of the time outside of my race. My ex of 11 years, is Italian. Many people have ridiculed “us”, may it be from my race or his race. I have had questions like “what u doing with him? You don’t belong with him! Sometimes people look at us with scorn. In the past, if I am with “him” and we are having a conversation with someone that happened to be white, they tried to to talk only to “him” and ignore me. Black guys also, somehow get offended.
In my opinion, people should date whoever they feel like, we are all the same, skin color does not make us any different; we all hurt and bleed the same way. The looks, the comments, the whatever, does not bother me. I was not raised to be prejudice, so therefore I do not think prejudice. Life is too short, to each is own. Do what makes you happy. To hell with the rest.
Comment by cnoter on 9 April 2008:
Iv’e dealt with the glares,stares and comments.
Outright or under there breath.
Even to the point of getting physical in public.
If ya know what ya like/love ,stick with it.
Dont change up cuz its easy or popular.
Sometimes interracial love is like a game of rock ,paper and scissors.
Difficult at times ,but fun to WIN.LOL.
When it’s Good …it’s REAL Good.
So who gives a F#$k what anyone thinks….they aint sleepin in my bed.
If your ashamed of your mate…..Look in the mirror.. the shame is on YOU.
Maybe you should be alone.
GROW up ,STEP up.
I’ll shut up.
Comment by Salsera77 on 9 April 2008:
A few times I noticed people (I leave out the kind) staring straight at me like they wanted to say what the &@#*% are you doing with him. Mind you, this was while we had our arms around each other while waiting in a line or while he had his arms around me at an establishment. I just glanced away but didn’t move my head. No one dared to actually say anything.
Comment by kingforever on 10 April 2008:
I have not noticed any ewwww comments or looks since I started dating black men. Maybe because I am proud of who I am with. If they dont’ accept him then don’t accept me. My grown children are fine with it and they are the only ones that really matter. I find black men very attractive and repressed that feeling for years. I was married to an Italian who was very predudice along with his family. I can just imagine how they feel but that is no concern of theirs.
Comment by cocobeauty70 on 10 April 2008:
I think ridicule from others is the difficult part of interracial dating. When you are one on one at your house or his it’s all good. It’s when you go out in public that your love is put on trial. I don’t care what anyone thinks of my choice of mate the thing is both people in the relationship have to feel the same way.
I think that any relationship that doesn’t withstand “other people’s disapproval” isn’t worth dealing with. So everyone should examine their own heart and make their decisions based on that not on “acceptance” from other people.
Comment by lenee on 11 April 2008:
Where I live all I ever saw was interracial dating. I saw so much of it, it was as if I was invisible to black men here. It use to really hurt me, I felt the white men here wasn’t as open as thier white woman dating outside their race.
So I finally got the guts and started doing what I saw black men doing. My so call girlfriends was not supported of this choice. I’m a free thinker it was mix with other races of men or be lonely like a lot of my girlfriends.It was hard at first, I didn’t know whether I would be accepted or desired because I am a woman of color.
I met a very nice white guy we dated for 2 years then we later married and stayed that way for serval years.Sad to say we are nolonger together.. My sister in-laws and brothers and laws we got alone just fine. My ex-mother in-law still talk and go out to dinner every summer she come here.As for my ex-after he relized or should I say excepted the fact that him and I wouldn’t reunite he packed up in moved to Arizona. He stops by to say hi and remind me how he still loves me every summer.
when we would go out we did get stares from other white folks.
As long as I knew how he felt about me his woman I didn’t care what outside folks had to say or thoght about us.They didn’t know him or me. So I would say to the question: It really doesn’t matter what other think as long as you know the real deal between you and your man. Let the the truth be told what a boring world this would be without music, kids, and colors?
Comment by lilbitofcoco on 11 April 2008:
I recently was engaged to a biracial (african american and white) man whom everyone thought was hispanic. Our relationship was full of commentary. We met in NC and attempted to have a relationship there. After he nearly lost his job over our public displays of affection (kissing) and I got tired of hispanic men coming up to him speaking in Spanish and giving me sideways glances we decided to move to the NorthWest where people are more accepting. Out here, many of his associates (co-workers and some friends) didnt even know about me because they were open bigots. One night he actually fought in a bar over racial comments about african americans. Funny thing is they apologized to him “because they didnt know he was black”.. I wasnt there with him.
After a while I just stopped wanting to do things with him, because he got treated better when I wasnt there… He purchased my car without me, rented our apartment without me, and bought our house without me… The apartment complex actually refused to allow me to live there once they met me in person even though they had already rented the apartment to my fiance.
The one time the two of us went out to the club, as we walked down the street holding hands a black man walks by me and whispers under his breath.. “whats the matter sister? Had to get with the amigo??”
I dont know how much of it were signs of a doomed relationship, and how much of it was because we looked different. He was my first ‘interracial’ relationship (even though he did not consider it so) I am really afraid of going through the drama we went through again.
Comment by jazzloverOH on 11 April 2008:
The only negative reactions I have ever seen are from black men and I don’t care to speculate why. I sincerely believe white men are jealous of me, but the black men seem to have a very hard time with it.
Comment by lilo4love on 12 April 2008:
We once went to this restaurant for dinner and when my date went to the washroom this elderly waiter came by and gave me a really disapproving look.
It happens some people just feel that people should not date those from other races. We live in a global world. In time they will learn to be more accepting of diversity.
Comment by nesha86 on 12 April 2008:
It’s really sad to say, but people always stop and stare when I’m out with a man who is not black and those who are bold enough will make a rude comment about how I should be with someone who’s black. It’s funny how people don’t seem to have the same reaction when a black man steps out with a woman who’s not black.
Comment by Glock on 13 April 2008:
We always hear how whites are so “racist” in this country, so you would think that this forum would be FILLED with stories about how whites have treated interracial couple very horrible. Yet, I see just the opposite. Undoubtedly there have been incidents where whites have ridiculed black and white couples. However all my experiences with “the looks”, and negative comments have come from black men. I remember 2 times where I knew and worked with the black men, 1 who behind my back, spoke to the woman I was dating and basically screamed his venom to her when he saw her drive my car. The other, while in a room that happened to be occupied by several black men and my girlfriend said, ” Blacks should stay with their own…these black women keep chasing after these white boys”. The comment was directed to my girlfriend.
Comment by HereIamBaby on 13 April 2008:
Isn’t it funny how people never worry over the millions of people in the world who go to bed hungry every night and worry more about what color people skins are.
The only people I can think of that I hate right off the bat are bullies, child molesters and animal abusers.
The hatred is still out there…I was dished by a Latino [Peruvian] for dating blacks, just last month…life goes on…!
Southern smiles,
Sharon
Comment by Black Diamond on 14 April 2008:
I do notice that when black women date interracially,people take issue with it.However,nobody has a problem when a black man does it.Typical.People always say they are cool with interracial dating,but if a black woman is in the ir relationship,then they have a problem with it.Go figure.
Comment by www.afroromance.com on 18 April 2008:
Hm-m-m-m-m! I can understand what someone is saying when they state that they are treated differently especially when an interracial relationship is introduced to the public. It can be a hard experience at times but what one feels for his/her partner is more important. True…the physical appearence is real but as long as the “heart attraction” is real…one can go through much. From my home experience I have known stares, rejection by some family members but love prevailed in all situations. Personally, I have to act on what makes me real. If feeling for another race is strong…go for it. There will always be adverse reactions and statements made about most anything…especially when what you believe in is considered “out of the normal”!
I really appreciate all the comments that I’ve read on this subject because I makes me feel free to know that others are dealing with the same issue. I also say…be of good courage because love is all that matters. Negative reactions only indicate what was always hidden and I know some have experienced negations from loved ones or those who were considered to be so very close. But…the truth will hurt at times but it’s still truth.
Comment by photoguy on 23 April 2008:
I guess it’s something that has been ingrained into certain people for so long that sadly it will be with us for a very long time to come. As long as some people still have the belief that it is wrong to date outside their race then they will pass it on to their children and so on. I live in the hope that one day we will all be able to date who we want regardless of race, creed, colour, age etc and no one will batter an eyelid.
Sadly it is still something that raises its ugly head every so often in today’s society, I have dated outside my race for the past ten years and during that time I have experienced all manor of behaviour from people. Not really what I would call ridicule, more negative comment or reaction.
The thing that has surprised me however is the comments have come from all kinds of people from the two old Jamaican women at the bus stop who sucked their teeth at us and called me girlfriend ‘Bounty’ to the numerous black guys that have approached the woman I am with as if I was not there to ask what she was doing with a white man! I have also experienced reaction from young black women, white women have made comments to me about dating black women, but I guess the strongest reaction I have ever had was when I was sitting with my arm around my ex on the tube in London, a white guy got up to leave the carriage and as he’s passed us he shouted with anger ‘interracial bastards’ at us.
However none of this has ever bothered me because I was happy and proud to be with the person I was with at the time. When it all comes down to it the only person it was bothering was the one who was making the comment. If my being with someone of a different race bothers them so much then if anything I feel sorry for them for being so shallow and one-dimensional that other people’s choices and actions have such a negative effect on their own narrow-minded and limited lives.
Darren
Comment by mossimo36 on 24 April 2008:
Perhaps if we took our interracial dates to a country bar in some rural area white people’s reactions would be different.
Comment by Holdmyheart on 24 April 2008:
My experiences in dating out of race were all not pleasent. I dated a young lady in which her parents did not like the idea. They would always leave the room and turn up their noses when I would visit. After dating their daughter for a few years and showing them that I had nothing but their daughter’s best interest in mind, they finally accepted me.
Comment by Holdmyheart on 24 April 2008:
My experiences in dating out of race were all fantastic, with the exception of one.
I dated a young lady in which her parents did not like the idea. They would always leave the room and turn up their noses when I would visit. After dating their daughter for a few years and showing them that I had nothing but their daughter’s best interest in mind, they finally accepted me.
Comment by fkoi on 24 April 2008:
I have never for sure been ridiculed for dating interracially. I have heard comments which may have been directed toward us and probably were. I dated one woman who was sure that she was getting ugly looks from other Black women and probably was. One friend told me her family said, “Your dating a White man and he’s not even rich? What is wrong with you?”
Now my family has their eccentricities, but racism is gladly not one of them. I have no friends who are racist. I couldn’t. As for everybody else, there are more horses’ asses than there are horses.
Comment by blkbeauty31 on 26 April 2008:
My experience has been that interracial dating/marriage ridicule depends on where you are or live.
Comment by lioness on 28 April 2008:
As long as im happy i dont care what other people think.its the fear of the unknown and their small mindedness and ignorance coupled with racism, and thats thier problem not mine.everyone is entitled to thier own opinions and preferences. In my opinion those who descriminate interratial marriage are small minded and they need to get out more. THIS IS THE 21ST CENTURY. SLAVE TRADE IS OVER.
Comment by ethereal99 on 28 April 2008:
Yeah, we get stared at, commented at & discriminated against. And trust me, we give it right back. Now, can I enjoy these pancakes?
Comment by cocokisses on 29 April 2008:
Glock, why are your comments always against Blacks? You can’t even read the boards without doing this.
Please do us all a favor…DON’T DATE OUTSIDE YOUR RACE! YOUR PREJUDICE IS SHOWING!
Comment by ethereal99 on 30 April 2008:
If you get around enough, you’ll find there are whites who discriminate, blacks who discriminate, Asians, Hispanics, & on & on, a microcosm of the real world. Some people just blame a particular race due to their own limited experiences. I agree: “As long as I am happy, I don’t care what other people think”, well spoken & how true !!!!
Comment by jade74 on 30 April 2008:
Welcome back Cocokisses………
Comment by mossimo36 on 2 May 2008:
Bienvenidos Cocokisses and Jade!
Comment by Glock on 4 May 2008:
Cocokisses, maybe you should check yourself then! I have talked about incidents that I have personally experienced. Should I be quiet then because YOU don’t approve of my comments? Or is criticism only allowed if it’s about whites? Are you the PC police now Cocokisses?? Your comment is so typical of today, we want to talk about “racial issues” and discuss injustice and generally speak about race, but when it gets right down to it, people like YOU Cocokisses want to have carte blanche about where the discussion goes. In your world, no criticism of blacks is allowed at all!!
I will definately not date someone like YOU Cocokisses!! That is for sure! But you can do us all a favor and pull your head out of the sand, racism and negativity comes from all racial groups, not JUST whites!!
Comment by Glock on 4 May 2008:
In fact Cocokisses, after having read some of your posts from the past I found it quite amazing that you dated interracially. It sounded as though you hated white based on some of your comments.
Comment by Obama on 6 May 2008:
Nothing says ‘trailer park STD ridden slut’ more than a white woman who dates a nigger. Certainly no different than standing on a street corner giving it up for crack or the logical next step, sleeping with farm animals. Hence the stares.
Comment by Nandi on 8 May 2008:
I am with you Sharon, racism is condition that is not going to change and racism in itself have no resolve…But we as human beings and Americans have surpassed the darkest plight of it…..So why should anyone care that much if someone disapproves of who they are with for any reasons..Why give anyone that much power over you…and a total stranger? Please!!
Personally, I never noticed it to really have a comment on…Because even if it were to happen for me to take notice…I still wouldn’t care…..
It is kinda of pathetic, in the whole scheme of life to be obessed with who’s doing who…LOL
I say laugh at them!
Comment by Sharon on 10 May 2008:
Don’t accept hate…ignore it when possible.
Southern smiles, Sharon
Comment by SHAY1182 on 12 May 2008:
I have dated outside my race many of times and the dirty looks, whispers and sly comments doesn’t bother me at all. What surprises me the most is that all of it doesn’t come from the majority of black men that I come across, but the black females .
Comment by xeltron on 15 May 2008:
Honestly, who cares what others think? and Member, that generalization about ALL black men was ignorant and ridiculous!!!! ……..and probably a bit racist……..
Comment by xeltron on 15 May 2008:
To Glock, Bravo! Free Speech is allowed in MY country!
Comment by Debbie 56 on 17 May 2008:
Its actually where you are at the time, if you are in a large city shopping there does not seem to be the same looks-stares, as in a small village.
My recent experience was while at a hot dog stand in Germany, my then man was trying to order a hotdog and fries they just ignored him, because they had heard him speak to me in Englishand also being black. So they turned to me and spoke to me in German, I speak a little German but no where near as fluent as my then man, I ignored them and let him talk, and they where not impressed, and in fact did repeat everything he said like he was not speaking the language properly… had we not be starving… hungry we would have walked away… but just shows how ignorant some people are with people in small towns..
Comment by mossimo36 on 17 May 2008:
Another troll…this post by Obama should be removed.
Comment by dale4you on 18 May 2008:
black woman are very caring and loving
Comment by frenchyboo on 19 May 2008:
very interesting…wish i can find a way to post soe of the clips of the movie i was in that cae out last february…called
interracial dating in america..it was an honor to part of this film..
you cn view some of y clups on youtube, under interracial dating in america..
check it out..but yeah, unfortunately i was so so ridiculed and talked to in such a disrespectful manner for dating outside my race since my teeens…
check it out let me know what you think about it..great topics there..totally amazing as to some peoples thoughts and reasons why we date outside our race..when there is but one answer,,, because that is what appeals to us, period….
Comment by frenchyboo on 19 May 2008:
very interesting…wish i can find a way to post some of the clips of the movie i was in that came out last february…called
interracial dating in america..it was an honor to part of this film..
you cn view some of y clups on youtube, under interracial dating in america..
check it out..but yeah, unfortunately i was so so ridiculed and talked to in such a disrespectful manner for dating outside my race since my teeens…
check it out let me know what you think about it..great topics there..totally amazing as to some peoples thoughts and reasons why we date outside our race..when there is but one answer,,, because that is what appeals to us, period….
Comment by sydnee on 25 May 2008:
I have ridiculed and like Glock, all of my negative experiences have come from black men.
As a black woman I am fed up with the lack of respect, and consideration, that I deserve from black men as it relates to my preference for a mate. For some reason black men feel that they have more than enough justification to be filled with rage when they find out that a black woman dates white men.
I am not into stereotyping, I have never been hostile or angry toward black men about their choice of a mate, and I just want the same respect. Yet somehow that seems to be too much to ask.
Every woman should feel she is worthy of having a good man. I believe that most men, black, white, or other want a good, strong woman who can add to their lives. As a woman, I believe that every woman should strive to be happy and independent. Then a good man will come into your life.
Everyone woman should be proud of who they are. I am a good black woman with a unique and beautiful strength. I have just as much to offer to any man regardless of color. Yet for the life of me, I don’t understand why black men are so hard on me for dating outside my race, as they so put it. What is my race? If I choose to be politically correct, you will find that I am of a multi mixed race with Black, Mexican, Native American and Irish. To society, I am black, and very proud of each and every nationality that runs through my veins.
I have to say that I find that real hypocrisy surfaces when black men on an interracial dating site continue to display hostility and anger toward me for listing my preference for dating as White/European.
I have dated both black men and white men. I never try to compare the two. White men are totally different than Black men, and Black men are totally different than White men. Because I choose to love the white man, does not mean that white are better than black man. NO, it just means that we all have choices and my choice is a white man.
Racism has got to go. People pull out your history books. Read how far back race mixing has gone on and you will find that there is no such thing as a pure race.
If you are black, brown, yellow, or white and have a problem with my dating preference. GET OVER IT because it is what it is, I date white and nothing you say will change that.
Comment by christyice on 2 June 2008:
Well I have no problem dating outside my race, however I have been redicule from alot of people that I know. Like for instance about two years ago I dated a mixed guy, he was mixed with white and hispanic. It was an attraction right away with him. I thought he was realy sexy and he felt the same way about me, up until we bagan going out in public alot is when things changed. We often ran into alot of my old classmates who apparently had crushes on me, but never revealed. They would say things to me like” What are you do with him, ya;ll can’t be serious, what you don’t like black men anymore, and even my own uncle told me that I was dating outside my race because I thought I was better than most people and I acted white myself. Well all the drama from all the negative opinions eventually caused us to break up. He began to feel very insecure and started to bother me also. So I eventually start dating my ex boyfriend from highschool, who is a black man and as usual he did not appreciate me, and I felt as if I let a good thing go for something that could not match up with my previous relationship. So my opinion now about redicule is that people are going to make comments about you regardless, that is just human nature. It can be out of jealousy, butterness, or whatever. If you allow their criticism to get in the way of your happiness: you only allowed them to win anyway. We as people are who we are with because that is the person that we have feeling for. Love is not a color, but rather an attraction. I have always been attracted to white and hispanic men, and probably be that way until I die, noone can change that, that is me, “so love who you want and be happy”, that is my quote! Happiness is what everyone wants, they just do not allow their heat to go after what they want, but instead use their brains!
Comment by an Irish Man's Lover on 3 June 2008:
I cannot tell you how many times in my young age I have been discriminated against for the color of mine, and my lover’s skin. He’s true Irish (last name starts with O, has blue/green eyes and red hair with freckles) and though his parents love me and my parents love him (my dad is remarried to a white woman so it’s nothing to him) we can even hold hands in public before people stop and stare. One black guy even asked my lover if I was just his friend and if I was single! How rude can people be?
I think what makes me so mad is because it is still a little uncommon to see a black woman with a white man. While it’s perfectly normal for a black guy to be with a white girl, people still gawk with crazy eyes when they see couples like me and my lover in the mall or something.
I was recently doing a self-project for interracial love and all I see are pictures of black men and white women. Anything related to my kind of interracial love is all PORN! I kid you not, or it will be the same 4 pictures on every search engine site. Is there ANYTHING out there that is beautiful and totally not derogatory??
Comment by aaronpresley on 5 June 2008:
I just don’t live my life for the approval of a bunch of rednecks.
Comment by Glock on 5 June 2008:
I would just like to say to Glock that i agree with both your comments and i feel that from my observation while i am in the street that your right about what you said, and i would also like to say that its wrong on both sides and if you really want to be with that sister and you love her just stand up for her and go on with your life unfortunatly we will always have people black and white who have no clue what it means to be alive and to be in love with a person and it matters not what color they are!, and to my sisters i have dated women of all cultures and when i see you with a white man i want so much to come over and give you a compliment on your stringht but just like with any other relationship it would be out of place to do so, but i am happy for you and i want you to know that all my sisters. i know who i am as a black man and i have not forgtten about my people or my culture its just so crazy to dismiss a person because they may be different than you are. just be happy if u can,i know that its hard but we must be who we are and maybe though our pioneering of this idea we can make it a none-issue one day, but if we do nothing and continue to allow others through ignorance or hatred dictate to us what we do and who we love then i guess we deserve it because we showed no character and no committment to what we believed in.Oh! and yes if my daughter brought home a white man he would be welcome in my home and in her life as long as he loved and respected her! Glock! i think you are real dude! and i like your honesty, and thats the kind of stringht we need and believe me if you keep putting it out there and challenge us to be real the real brothers will come around! peace!
Comment by Nandi on 6 June 2008:
aaronpresley…adding on to your comment..I refuse to live my life my anyones approval or disapproval other than my own…We give these people to much power…I say ignore them and perhaps they will go away of shut-up.
Comment by Nandi on 6 June 2008:
Glock & Glock…you guys have the same screen names…
But why does white Glock have to prove anything to “real brothers” or anyone else…
I would think a “real brother” would have already realized it is none of his business first and foremost…
Comment by Glock on 6 June 2008:
Didn’t realize I was trying to “prove” anything. I was relaying my personal life experiences in dating black women and the problems that I have encountered. And…what is a “real brother”?
Comment by Sydnee on 9 June 2008:
I don’t believe that Glock is trying to prove anything. I believe that he is just reminding everyone that racism is alive and people everyday have a racist comment to make toward someone.
In my own personal experiences, I have found that the greatest criticism of racism directed toward me, has come from black men themselves.
Black men feel that white man HAVE to respect black women, but black men don’t.
As long as we live and breathe, someone will have something to say about us. I was taught by my father that if I give power to people’s hateful words and racist remarks, that I give them the power to win.
When he taught me to take the power out of their racist, mean, ugly and hateful words, he taught me to live the life that best fit me and not the life that others see for me.
For the ignorant people that choose to direct racist remarks toward me or anyone else. I am convinced that they are making judgments based the color of our skin and not our character.
It is up to us to let them know that there is no power in their WORDS of ugliness.
Comment by maccabee on 11 June 2008:
It is completely ridiculous that there are actually sub humans out there that are trying to stamp out interracial dating assuming that it’s some kind of new problem that was unheard of till now. What they don’t realize is that an entire African country consists of 2 mixed races. It’s called Ethiopia. Can anyone name those 2 races?
Comment by dlangel80 on 16 June 2008:
I haven’t gotten a lot of stares or comments really. Either that or I don’t notice them. What I have issues with is when a man doesn’t want to be seen with me or to truly be in a relationship with me and I sense it has to do with race. It IS embarassing when someone doesn’t want to show any affection to you in public because they’re afraid of what people will think. If you chose to date IR, do it because you are going to love who you’re going to love, regardless of what people say or do.
The one thing I had trouble with recently is a black woman that I work with said that when she sees a white woman with a black man, she feels physically sick and angry. It bothered me because I respected her before she said that- and it also bothered me because it’s like acting as if an entire population of men are owned by you. Even though white men date other races, it’s not my right to be pissed that (insert race here) is stealing our men. The only time another person is “stealing” your man is when you’re married to or dating that person, the lady/man knows it, and then tries to pursue your significant other anyways. I do not do that. Single men only.
I wish people respected each other more.
Comment by WHITEneedingBLACK on 22 June 2008:
I live in a small town, that in its self should tell you how mixed dating is seen. But, even after the rude looks and pointing the relationship is still rocky because of the black men in this area seems to think of themself as a “gods gift” kind of thing. I have dated 8 blackmen and they all have this attitude. You not only are socially unacceptable but,you look STUPID for putting up with it all. I feel as if I have lived through a nitemare with a moral to it.
Comment by carribean delight on 25 June 2008:
I come from a small carribean island, both my parents are mixed, me and my siblings came out all different colors, we grew up feeling very secure and very proud to be mixed, but coming to the USA
we had to say we were black, i dont get it, its as if you had to choose sides, or you would not be accepted. I have 2 sons their father is hispanic,
I look more indian than black, my children, one is dark as i am the other very light like his father, tell me should my children also go around telling people they are only black or mixed to accomodate whom?
Comment by tallncurve on 15 July 2008:
my worse experience with racism was:
When i was with this black guy we wanted to move together, so i found an apartment and singed the contract.
Later, my landlord, asked me to come to her office and told me, that i would have never gotten the apartment if she had known, that my boyfriend was black.
I was so shocked, i couldn’t even replay to that and i did not tell him.
I was ashamed of my people. I’m from Germany and he is American.
Well we stayed three years in that apartment and in the end that old lady was sad we moved out.
So maybe we have changed her mined a little bit, but maybe that is a very naive way of seeing things.
Comment by animuluv on 21 August 2008:
there are gonna be some closed minded ppl no matter where you go in life.as for me i always stick up for and fully support the relationship im in.a beautiful witty black woman is a beautiful luvely person to see and talk to in our cruel world of today.if you are happy with whom you are with,then dont worry what the nay sayers are thinking.if two ppl are truely happy with each other n themselves,then THEY are doin something right.