Have you noticed a recent surge in Asian men and white women being together lately? Bruce Lee and Linda Lee Caldwell were one of Hollywood’s first Asian man/Caucasian women celebrity couples … and that was in the 60s! So what’s changed?
The question is, why is this interracial combo not as widespread as other interracial combos?
There is definitely a higher percentage of Asian women with white men than ever before. Why?
The above video was taken by video crew who asked random and predominantly Asian guys and girls “Why Asian girls are attracted to white guys”. Stereotype… stereotype and more stereotype!
According to this video, most respondents described Asian men as being too shy or unassertive. The woman also stated Asian men were too effeminate and even too short! Apparently this is turning Asian women away and they are beginning to look elsewhere.
Asian stereotypes have been created by society in general. Enough articles have been written about what I would like to call stereotypical racism in the Asian community – for instance, how Caucasian men actively seek an Asian woman because of their exotic looks and supposed submissivenes?. How many have this so called Asian fetish or yellow fever?
Asian females, on the other hand, have constantly been disgraced and labeled “white-washed” women busy trying to climb the social ladder by their own communities and are finding more acceptance with races other than their own.
So what about the rise of interracial relationships between the Asian man and Caucasian woman? Is it that Asian men are fed up with their female counterparts and that they take revenge by dating Caucasian women? (just a thought) Or just that there are fewer Asian females in their dating pool so they are expanding their own horizons?
My conclusion is that maybe it’s not that at all. I think people should be intelligent enough not to allow trivial stereotypes to conform to their preferences on who to date. Why do you think there is a rise in the Asian man-Caucasian woman interracial combo?
Tags: interracial dating, asian women white men, black white dating
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Comment by cocokisses on 18 October 2007:
Good for them. Shouldn’t matter what color they are, as long as they are happy. Sometimes you have to look beyond everything you know, to find exactly what you want.
Comment by fala on 18 October 2007:
Can’t we all just get along????
Comment by TriChique on 20 October 2007:
Apparently not, fala - lol
Comment by vt33 on 20 October 2007:
Hmm..I am back from the server not letting me in..lol
Funny how this topic comes up on the blog. I have seen a rash of white guy, asian girl relationships over the past month and a half.
To say, that the girls in the video make statements that the “asian guy aren’t assertive’. I don’t know really. I think the reason why the surge has happaned, you have more asian people who are born in the USA and they are stepping away from the tradition of Asian culture. Americanized if you will.
Years ago you never saw overweight asian people, now you do, how many times in the past 20 years have you seen a bulging asian dude at the gym and you were ready to get in on the goods, now you do. Years ago you never really saw white men dating asian women, you saw a few, vietnames and white unions, same as black and phillipino unions.
Truth, I think they are embracing the newfound culture that they are being raised in, and with anything, the old traditional ways are being pushed more to the back then standing out as it has been done by their forefathers. The girls said they want taller, men more assertive asian men. That will happan as generations start to evolve. It is the cycle of life.
Its the same as black women and white men getting hitched up. Many years ago it was unheard of to do such a thing. Only documented case was the Love case in Virginia which went up against a racial supreme court at that time. Yet I must say, now white men anbd black women are getting married, the culture is shifting, for the better some might say, and others will say for the worse.
Folks don’t read so much into this. It’s just a classic case of generation evolving. Don’t feel threatend by it, no need to. At some point, a Asian dude might be attractive to you, and he may be the six feet tall, he might can give you good “sexy”, maybe even mind blowing. Look at the Asians dudes in the militiary, heck, they damn near, dating every color out of the rainbow. Just evolving and learning other people.
damn over did it on my return blog! Till the next episode!
Comment by fala on 21 October 2007:
Glad to have you back Vt.
Comment by hoganfan on 27 October 2007:
Asian women seem to wamt the world! I want a woman that loves the world…..
Comment by mossimo on 27 October 2007:
I have seen plenty of these relationships lately. Of course, overall, there seems to be more interracial dating these days, so perhaps the trend is a rising tide lifting all boats so to speak.
Comment by ziyou on 27 October 2007:
It’s true, you do see more Asian men/ white women couples now. A good thing. Shows more equal mixing for everybody. I do think some white men have this fantasy of the “doormat” — but sexy - Asian woman, and I’ve seen some marriages like this crumble — you can’t base a successful marriage on stereotypes. But several of my friends and neighbors are now Caucasian-women-and-Asian-men, and they their marriages are doing well. Also I’ve noticed the caucasian women tend to make more of an effort in the marriage — my best friend is Irish ancestry, and she learned Japanese just so she could talk with her in-laws. I don’t know any Caucasian men married to Asian women who have done this.
Comment by Nick Carter on 30 October 2007:
I hadn’t really noticed an influx of Caucasian (Isn’t there a better term that doesn’t classify all people of a fairer hue? Even on this site, “White-European descent” places everyone who chooses that classification in the same trick bag. Look at the picture. Is a woman of Greek heritage so much like a woman from Ireland? Is a Frenchman a copy of a cat from Moscow? But I digress…) with Asian women or visa versa. Maybe I’m just not looking with the right bias.
There are obstacles and prejudices to any bi-cultural relationship. Couples of different religions are sometimes frowned upon by their respectives. Certainly when I am out with a woman of color (Black-Non-African descent as it were), we sometimes encounter evil looks and even outright ugliness. But the times they are a changin’. Not too long ago almost the only mixed couples you would see in the U.S. were in hot-beds like Greenwich Village, Venice Beach or parts of San Francisco. Now it is not uncommon or at least unheard of any where I go.
Then too, a generation ago, Asians were the folks the U.S. was at war with, first in WWII, then Korea and through the Cold War with China. Add to that the frightening prejudice with which Asians have been held throughout our history, it’s a wonder that an Asian would want to date a Caucasian.
Fortunately, however slowly, that is changing. Instead of reducing it to a cultural phenomenon, we should be applauding the change. Sure,for some, the “Yellow Fever” mentality is a reality, just as it is in crossing any cultural line. However, at the risk of sounding like I spent too much time in California, folks are folks and beauty is beauty and attraction is attraction. Let’s let go. Why can’t we all just get along?
Comment by Meme on 30 October 2007:
Yeah there is definately an explosion of white men and asian women. For some this is alarming but to me it is just progress. As for white women and asian men, rarely do I see this pairing I live in new york city and you see just about everything here too!
Also there is another thing I would like to mention and this is off topic but still has to do with interracial dating. There are some black women here wearing buttons that say “I LIKE VANILLA” it is there way of letting white men know they are receptive toward interracial dating. Many black men here have actually spat at these women and cursed a few out after they asked them what it meant. I think it is good they are wearing those buttons, as it could also have white women who were not even thinking about interracial dating with black men might want to give it a shot.
Comment by mossimo on 31 October 2007:
Spitting on a woman for daring to wear a button? What is the world coming to…..
Comment by docomo on 3 November 2007:
I’m asian guy who grew up in Asia. I was super- shocked at the video. These ABCs havo idea what they’re talking about!! Seems they’ve been infected with that constrictive ala George Bush worldview of stereotypes.
Pity them.
I’ve dated both chinese and white girls. Only reason they didn’t work out was personality/pursuit conflicts. No cultural clashes at all.
I think westerners need to look beyond their OWN culture borders now.
Comment by lisa on 8 November 2007:
Meme,
A blogger named Evia came up with the idea of the “I Like Vanilla” buttons. I do not care for that idea simply because of what you have previously stated. Also, the men should wear a button stating, “I Like Chocolate”? Evia stated that men wearing that button may encounter problems…well, what about the females?
Comment by everyone on 9 November 2007:
Tiny penises.
Comment by Won C Hwang on 11 November 2007:
I wish that Asian males not only dating whites, but also blacks and latinas.
Comment by lisa on 12 November 2007:
To the writer everyone:
If you cannot work “it” with your penis then work “it” with your TONGUE. Yes, I said it.
Comment by mossimo on 13 November 2007:
LOL@Lisa….we had to go there, didn’t we
Comment by Halie on 6 December 2007:
I am a Phillipino, and many guys in my high school called me ugly. I hated it, all through my school years, I was made fun of for my asian features. Many people thought I was Hispanic, and would approach me, asking if I could speak Spanish. I never had any boyfriends, and I tried my hardest to look like an American. I died my hair brown, I wanted to have a nose that wasn’t wide, and I wanted my eyes to be pretty and full. I cried myself to sleep each night because I was never asked out. Seriously, I don’t know what you are talking about when you say that American men like Asian girls.
Comment by Todster on 7 December 2007:
I think it is about success rate for guys. I am an Chinese American who speaks perfect English, Mandarin, and Tawanese. I am 5′11” 200 pounds and I can dance so I definitely don’t come across as what the stereotype says I should be. I don’t go out with girls as much as I like to but I definitely would say I have a better success rate with Asian girls over non Asian. Many of my male friends agree with me on the success rate thoery as well. I think the reason you see a lot of white guys with Asian women is because the white guys know his chances are better with an Asian woman. I don’t want to get into why that is but all I am saying is having confidence and all that is one thing but when a guy goes after a girl some calculation is involved, and the odds really favors the white boys when they are after Asian women.
Comment by Jake Lee on 13 December 2007:
The bottom line is - If you’re a good looking asian guy, and you’ve got the personality that goes along with it… You can get any girl you want be it white, black, asian, hispanic, etc.
GEEEEZ. And as a Chinese-Canadian I never thought my six incher was small?
-jake
Comment by josey on 13 December 2007:
LOL…Jake Lee, talk about honesty.
Comment by Charlie on 14 December 2007:
Hey, lucky Todster, you must be a charming guy.
There are not many Asian girls around me but I really like long black hair and bright black eyes.My friends recommended me to join some dating sites,like asianfriendfiner and cncupidc dot com/photo/romance. You know,I am welcomed in real life.But it doesn’t work online.I believe I am also a charming guy.(I am not blowing my own horn)Maybe I don’t quite understand Asian girls with their traditions and cultures.
Comment by Charlie on 14 December 2007:
My friends recommended me to join some dating sites,like asianfriendfiner and cncupid dot com/photo/romance. You know,I am welcomed in real life.But it doesn’t work online.I believe I am also a charming guy.(I am not blowing my own horn)Maybe I don’t quite understand Asian girls with their traditions and cultures.
Comment by lol on 18 December 2007:
lol, forget asian women the charlie, nothin special.
Comment by Deangelo on 20 December 2007:
I think it’s just a matter of time before you see just about every type of interracial dating. Hollywood and the media in general have always in a racist way stereotyped Asians, especially Asian men. Come on, when was the last time you saw an Asian man portrayed in a masculine sexy way in a movie, commercial, or ads. The American media, which is really the most powerful entity on earth (simply because they have the medium to influence social thoughts and attitude) have created this racist image of Asian men as being “too this or too that.” Always depicting asian men in really one of 4 roles. Either as some liquor store owner, computer geek, kung fu master or some weak and foreign geek. Almost never as an AMERICAN who speaks proper engRish like everyone else. If you are the public and you see these negative images over and over again, trust me it will affect how you view and perceive Asian men. You will never see women who live in Korea or Japan, talk about Asian men as being too short or too domineering or too unassertive. Are you trying to say that all Asian men are short, unassertive and not as masculine? It would be like saying all white men are child molesters or drunkards who go bald and look like 55 by the time they are 30, etc, etc. Or like saying all Latino men are lazy and beat their wives, or never have any money. Or like saying all black men are criminals and aren’t as intelligent as other men. Now if you saw these negative racist stereotypes of black men or white men or latino men over and over and over again in the media, don’t you think it would affect how you perceive them? Of course it would and there is no denying it. And as a matter of fact, the American media did consistently stereotype black men and women a while back as well (remember those “black exploitation films”). And it did have a huge impact on how blacks were perceived. But over the past 20 years or so if you’ve noticed, a lot of that has changed and hollywood along with other media entities have certainly improved the image of black people and it has definitely changed American attitudes and beliefs about black folks in general. Which is obviously the right thing to do. Asian Americans need an NAACP of their own to right the wrongs in American media racist culture and demand/protest against the constant & consistent negative racist depictions of Asian men. Just “google” or search for “Attractive Korean, Japanese, Chinese male actors” and see what you come up with. Or go visit Korea, Japan, Hong Kong, Taiwan or China. And see what you find. If you just predominantly watched attractive korean or japanese male actors over and over again, I guarantee you it would influence how you think of asian men. Just in the same way the American media does with white men and portray them as the sex symbol (i.e. Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise). Look up guys like “Won Bin” (korean actor) and “Seven” (Korean musician) and many more.
Comment by Karen on 20 December 2007:
lol……….this you tube video is a joke. if you go out on a project to try to find a few girls who prefer to date other races and ask them the question, “why do you prefer white guys” of course you’re going to get negative feedback of asian guys!! HELLO! if i was to do a project and go out filming and edit my films to only include haters of white guys on my video, i can find em in just about every race!! for example, if i was video tape and to a 1000 interviews and only edit and show those who had negative stereotypes of white guys, i’m sure i can do a whole feature on it! also, it’s so funny how that one fat ugly girl says she probably wouldn’t date an asian guy. lol…….maybe an asian guy would never ask her out? maybe that’s why she has turned to white guys, because some white guys (not all) have this fetish for asian girls. And when you see a white guy and asian girl couple, its usually because the white guy pursued her and not the other way around. asian girls arent that bold for her to do the aggressive pursuing. i myself have been hit on so many times by white guys, it gets tiring. and i am not attracted to white men because they are too fat, too pasty lookin, too hairy, too egotistic, too lazy, too boring, too shallow, too unmotivated to succeed and much, much more……. ya see how absurd that sounds but these are stereotypes of white men.
Comment by Yap on 21 December 2007:
Setting the record, I don’t agree with the videos. I know many many of my Asian peers including myself have long tools. The thing is that ours are small when not using (easy to upkeep) and very long when in operation. So if any white girls out there thinks that the small is a problem, worry not because you will enjoy as much.
Personal experience, when I was in uni, I had few relationships with white girls and they were all amused with what I can do.
However we did not work out as I was brought up to ensure that I will look out for my parents. My white girlfriends wanted independence and does not like the idea of living with my folks. It was at that time that I happen to find another girl after I broke off and it happens that my Asian girlfriend (now my wife) accepts such a notion. In terms of family life that I have now- I have harmony. To be honest that was 15 years ago… and being in Singapore, it was also not easy to find Asian women who would like to live with folks.
Beside there were not many white girls around and most of my ex= left for home…
I am sure I would have found the right white girl if given the right time and situation.
Now Singapore is different, white, Asian or black does not matter- everyone has similar thinking and we widely accepts all cultures. I doubt I will find any lady who would be willing to live with my folks if I were to date at this current times.
Suppose this is the right time and age to have more inter racial integration, more understanding of each other, loving each other - regardless of race, language or religion.
I don’t know about the US or the rest of the world, at least in Singapore- we are trying to do that.
By the way the SIngapore pledge is:
We the citizen of Singapore, pledge ourselves as one united people, regardless of race, language or religion, to build a democratic society based on justice and equality so as achieve prosperity and happiness for our society.
So I like to welcome all inter-racial couples or couples to be to consider coming to live in Singapore. You will enjoy our diversity and acceptance with opportunity to feel and understand all types of cultures and religion.
Just to quote a famous man:
don’t care if it is a white or black cat, as long as it can catch mice, it is a good cat.
The man who says this happens to be Asian.
Same to men and women:
Don’t bother it is a white, Asian or black man or women, as long as he’ she can F and have children, takes care of family, lots of cash, caring responsible accountable and healthy- he/she is a good man/ woman.
Comment by mossimo on 22 December 2007:
Interesting comments one and all….
Comment by vtchick on 25 December 2007:
I’m interested in Asian guys. I find them to be attractive because they are generally well dressed, clean cut, friendly, real, funny, and respectful. What more could a girl want?
I’m seeing a chinese guy now but I have dated mostly korean men before because I lived there for 3 years. I never had an interest in asian guys before then because i always thought they were too shy and not outgoing enough. After being surrounded by asians and being immersed in the culture i realized this was a bit of a generalization. Although in america i still see a lot of asian guys who fit this stereotype. I don’t like any guys who take a defeatest, i’m a victim of society attitude. I reckon indian guys have a much harder time getting dates here.
Comment by idicus on 25 December 2007:
Ya’ll need to come to Texas, we have a large Asian population here!….and you will see Every race mixture dating in Austin,tx.
Ive dated 2 asian women ive meet and had one small relationship(1 year)….one was ALL about family and house…..the other? completely americanized…i notice with BOTH of them 1 thing
Comment by deeann on 26 December 2007:
idicus…what was the 1 thing?
Comment by M on 2 January 2008:
In response to vtchick-I’m an asian male, and it’s interesting you’re dating an asian man because of your experiences living in Asia, but I’m wondering, did you develop a fetish towards asian men? Do you feel like you have to date an asian man now since you were surrounded by them living in Asia? No offense but this sounds like an excuse to date an asian man. It is said that an individual can be easily attracted to someone because of their personality, common interest, proximity to each other, sharing responsibilities and respect towards one another, etc…and NOT just because of their race.
You’re right I’m sure there are asian guys that have a defeatist attitude, and guys from different ethnic backgrounds (like Indian guys you mentioned) finding difficult time getting dates. The problem is there are very few (if at all any) asian males in the western pop cultures where you see an asian man portrayed in a positive way (and the ones you see are usually shown in negative stereotypes). Shanghai Kiss film is one movie that I saw recently where the asian man actually has a lead role in an American movie, and yes he gets the girl….a white girl.
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Comment by vt33 on 5 January 2008:
Take not to the comment above folks this is what happans when you don’t complete 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th, 8th, 9th, 10, 11th, 12th grades.
Stay in school, because be stuiped is not cool!
Comment by mossimo on 5 January 2008:
This thread sure has wings
Comment by cruisins on 5 February 2008:
sorry but non-asian girls don’t have any interest towards asian guys. I see more asian girls now adays literally throwing themselves at toward white and even black guys
Comment by ethereal99 on 5 February 2008:
This is a tough one. actually, since the last blog, I’ve been having sex with a robot. Man, do we get stares at the Waffle House !!!!
Comment by David Tsai on 5 February 2008:
I’m Asian and dating a very attractiive brown girl, and this is what me, my GF and other asian men and non asins dating asian men have to say.
In the article it quotes asian women saying, Asian Men are not assertive? Too short?
lLet me tell you if we are assertive then we get called “angry asian men”.
Too short? well Yao Ming = one of the tallest NBA players, heck I’m only 5′9 and I’m taller than most white, brown, black people I know.
There is no winning but lets look at it this way…
Evey time me and my girl walk pass Asian girls, they get so jealious, looks like the tables have turned!
Comment by vt33 on 6 February 2008:
Finally found someone to do the spell check and the writing part of the blogs for you? Thats great, now lets see if we can work on the language and the etiquette part. Maybe they will let you enroll in Community College or perhaps a Online college.
Keep in mind, pimps like Hugh Heffener does it better. Cash ,Class and Ass, you have neither.
I don’t get how some of this stuff gets on the blog, yet more jibberish to dispose of..lol
Comment by vt33 on 7 February 2008:
to funny…lol
Comment by Glock on 7 February 2008:
I pitty whoever “dates” “THE REALIST”. To flaunt the fact that he values communication in this particular fasion is sad.
Comment by LH on 12 February 2008:
In Response to Yap:
Your response sounds like a Republic of
SINGAPOH government sponsored advertisement-an
excuse to parade the achievements of Singapore.
It totally goes off tangent towards the latter
half.
Comment by Tan on 12 February 2008:
In Response to Yap:
Your response sounds like a Republic of
SINGAPOH government sponsored advertisement-an
excuse to parade the achievements of Singapore.
It totally goes off tangent towards the latter
half.
Comment by mossimo on 12 February 2008:
Lol@ethereal….some of these topics are a little far out
Comment by be honest on 14 February 2008:
if you’re going to call him out on here & he turns around and kills you both like what a man does when he stomps on two cockroaches.. then at least have the decency to delete ALL of his comments.. we noticed how you only left his first one however, you got rid of his unprecedented & remarkable comebacks.. its understood evidently because you two girls couldn’t beat him fair & square.. at least have some kind of integrity when you approach The Real Deal.. HA!.. What a shame you two little pansies are!!! We should go tell your Mom how pathetic you two homos have been playing!!!
Comment by T-bone on 26 February 2008:
As a Chinese-American man married to a Jewish girl(Israeli no less), I’ll be the first to tell you that Asian men are generally not desirable by women, especially women of non-Asian race. These women who wrote how they are attracted to Asian men. Good for you but you are a minority.
My wife and I live in New York City, and we get stares all the time. People just assume we are not together or maybe just friends. Some will even go as far as avoid talking to me and speak her only. Let me tell you, I’ve seen it all. From neighbours to waiters…Very rarely I’ve encounter people who don’t approach us with some type of reaction.
Sometimes I see a fellow Asian men with a non-Asian woman, I feel like going over there to give him a high five. But I have even more respect for the woman. Because deep down I know, it takes an open-minded, mature and kind woman of non Asian background to go out with an Asian men.
I can’t say the same for Non-Asian men who go out with Asian woman. Sorry guys, it just doesn’t work this way.
Comment by SonicForge on 27 February 2008:
OK, now your guys are generalizing. This may be true in some cases but I think there is more to it then that. Anyways if you guys think that all Caucasian men date Asian women for the same reasons you are sadly mistaken. You know have you ever thought that maybe the culture itself or society has something to do with it. I don’t think it is so much as why Asian girls go for Caucasian guys.
I think it is why white guys have lost interest in white women. It has nothing to do with Asian women being more submissive as some people think as well.
It is more about respect and admiration for each other. Trust and companionship as well as being ones equal. I feel for some time now there has been a disconnect with Caucasian women. It always seems to be more about them then about each other. It is almost like they feel we owe them something. It is our responsibility to keep her happy and win her love. Why is it always the women’s feelings and never the feelings of the man.
I think Asian women tend to be more respectful and not as demanding. Not care as much about appearance as well as making the perfect man, enzyte anyone! Accepting him as he is!! Now I am not saying this is of all Caucasian women but I think there is a very large majority that do think this way. Society is somewhat to blame for this although. Men are supposed to be, well a MAN! We don’t have feelings and should just take it. We are all are just testosterone after all right? What possibility can a man have what a women can’t provide? This has typically been an American thing I think though as through my travels I didn’t find this to be the case as much elsewhere.
Anyways just because you see a Asian women with a Caucasian man don’t assume you know the reasons behind it. It would like be saying seeing a black guy with a white girl or a latin girl with a white guy. The ratio is really not all the different then other mixed relationships. Although we do tend to focus on that for various reasons. I have been dating an Asian girl for like 6 years now. You might find it surprising that we have never been in a fight and against popular belief she is HER OWN WOMEN!
Now you can call me yellow all you want. I have gone down the other path, believe me. I had spent over the last 31 years of my life doing so. I have dated many Caucasian women but none had worked out. Why is that that everyone automatically thinks that: Oh you are with an Asian girl! What’s wrong with you? What, we aren’t good enough for you? Hey, does she do your laundry? What does she have that I don’t, etc etc. They automatically get on the defensive without knowing the story behind it. We have demoralized so much as a society that nothing is treasured anymore. Reality TV clogging the airways. Polluting our minds and tearing apart everything that we were taught to respect. Yea, you can say it is only TV but is it?
The point is I don’t judge people by who they date or by first appearances. If someone is fat I don’t assume was because of overeating. If you are a nerd doesn’t mean your wear glasses and are unattractive. I am better then you just because I am rich. I will stab you in the back just because I can and misguide and disrespect you. If you give me enough money I will divorce my wife and take all the money!! Family is not important and I will make sure everyone else knows this as well. I can go on all day with this. This is Reality TV not reality.
So in closing in this first part. Whatever peoples reasons are for not accepting mixed relationships doesn’t really matter. Racism, indifference, acceptance, tolerance,tradition, religion, experience etc. Whatever you reasons may be not everything is in Black & White. Yea, so maybe i do date a Asian women and so what! I can’t think of a time I have been happier or enjoyed life so much. We respect each other and accept our differences. If the world is ever gonna chance for the better. We are going to need to get over our stupid differences. Otherwise the future likely won’t be a good one.
In part 2 I will cover what my experiences has been while living in Japan. This might partly explain why Asians go for Caucasian men at least from a foreign perspective. I look forward to it and I hope you guys don’t mind as it will make for an interesting read. I can’t really speak for Asian American women but likely are some similarities. ^_^
Comment by SonicForge on 27 February 2008:
Sorry for the long post I likely will just do in sections next time as will be easier to follow. Sorry bout that!
Comment by Anonymous on 29 February 2008:
I think the tide is changing due to increased media presence- offline (more asians in Survivor, Heroes, Lost, etc.) and online (Youtube- kevjumba, lipsynching chinese boys, winekone, etc.) of smart, funny, attractive, sexy, popular, successful Asian boys.
Comment by mary on 1 March 2008:
I’m all in favor of interracial dating, being a product of a healthy and happy multicultural home I consider diversity in relationships a good thing. I hope that both Asian men and women are finding partners who are right for them, regardless of race. The only thing that does give me pause is that there’s this tendency for minorities in all cultures to buy into the aesthetic ideal of the population amongst whom they live. I sincerely hope that this is not what’s happening and causing this phenomenon.
Comment by mary on 1 March 2008:
I meant to also add that I’ve met Asian men that I’m extremely attracted to. I don’t have racial preferences because I genuinely do look for what’s inside. The Asian men I’ve encountered have been extremely bright, well educated and well brought up. What’s not to like with that.
Comment by she is fly too on 11 March 2008:
if you all knew how fly The Realest was you guys wouldn’t talk mess about him period. a Legendary guy! A bit cocky but, theres just something special about him and his entire crew!
Comment by sheisflytoo on 11 March 2008:
if you all knew how fly The Realest was you guys wouldn’t talk mess about him period. a Legendary guy! A bit cocky but, theres just something special about him and his entire crew!
Comment by eastcoastgal on 16 March 2008:
I was beginning to give up on dating until a sweet young mediclal resident convinced me to go out with him. He is Asian and I am an Italian/white girl. At first, I have to admit I had reservations. However, he certainly seems to have his act together. I hope things work out, he seems like someone I would like in my life. He is well dressed, well mannered and has an excellent work ethic. Good luck finding that these days. Esp when you are dating in your early 40’s.
Comment by mossimo36 on 16 March 2008:
I just want to come out and admit the I am pro-interracial dating. Just for the record
Comment by harmony on 20 March 2008:
I am also a white american girl dating an asian man. Just as eastcoastgal posted - so many reasons why I hope this works out. He is more “together”, respectful, romantic, well dressed, and with an excellent work ethic… more than ANY American I have dated. It just seems that I have found a very rare amount of character that I have had such a hard time finding before. We do get a lot of looks. It is not pleasant. I hope people will get over differences and just look at how great it is that two people found love. And btw- He is very sexy - inside and out. Shy, short, etc… not my man.
Comment by RedRose on 21 March 2008:
I must say I hadn’t noticed any Asian male/White
female combinations rather a lot of White male/Asian
female combos. Guess that’s the way of the world -
is it important ?
Comment by onthethruway on 22 March 2008:
I am a wf married to a wm. The funny thing is, he is very attracted to Asian women and I am very attracted to Asian men! I’ve dated a few Asian men. They were very handsome, very nice and all together great to be with. My husband and I are very open to all people and all cultures. I have a Masters Degree in Asian Studies, speak some Chinese and Japanese and I have worked at a Korean company. My husband has studied various Asian martial arts and loves to read tradition Chinese and Japanese literature. What is my point? That we are all human beings. We need to grow up, get rid of our stereotypical views and get on with our lives. Who cares where you are from and what you look like. If things had become serious between me and the Korean guy I dated, I would have married him if he asked me. And believe me, lots of white guys I dated just wanted to date and not get married because of religious differences. I’ve never said “I won’t date a guy because he’s black, hispanic, etc.” That is an ignorant attitude that too many people have.
Good luck to everyone. I hope everybody finds their true love, no matter who they are.
Comment by Asian on 26 March 2008:
I am an east Asian. Let me say something that is very true, and that many Asians may not want to say.
Most Asians (excluding most Indians and Muslims) treat whites much better than they treat their own folks in their own countries. They have inferior complexity. They generally look down at blacks. They want their skin whiter. If given a choice, they would wish to be born white. Being white is a status to them.
A lot of those are carried over into America.
What I just said is the single most important cause of so many Asian females improportionally dating or being married to whites (but not to others).
Back in China, tens of thousands of Shanghai females have married to whites, even though the Chinese men there are much educated, civil, and less traditional (or less demanding on women to be more specifically). Shanghai people are the most westernized in China. Their foods have great influence from European cooking because of its semi-colonial history. In old times, many Shanghai people tended to use broken English to show off how much better they were than other Chinese. Many Asians just don’t love their own kinds (or even themselves) very much.
On the other hand, the West had viewed China (and most of Asia) as very backward. And much of the West’s racist or colonial history still has some significant effects in the western societies. Take US for an example, it was still a racist country officially 50 years ago. It wouldn’t be too hard for a white guy to sexually posses a female slave, 250 years ago. It wouldn’t be too hard for a white guy to have sexual contacts with black women. Then it wouldn’t be too hard for a white guy to get Asian girls. But if you switch the positions of white and the non-whites, it would be almost impossible even 40 years ago, in most places in US. Even today, many places are still very much racist or racially polarized. In many other places, racism can be more veiled.
Both sides decide the very unbalanced situations or outcomes.
So, I personally think that female whites who are married to non-whites are generally more respectable than many (if not most of) Asian females who are married to whites.
Comment by midnight shadow on 27 March 2008:
asian guys are not that short. they are pretty tall, if not as tall as northern european. it is so untrue that all white guys are tall. look at the greek, italian, spanish, etc. they are not tall.
asian guys are getting taller and taller due to better access to healthcare and nutrition. look at those chinese guys in shanghai and beijing. they are tall. some of them as taller than white american guys. i was in china, japan, thailand, india, and pakistan and i see tall asian guys everywhere. they are more moderninze nowaday. in the past, asian guys usually paid attention more into education and economic success and less on physical appearance. however, all these are changing today. they are more into good body fitnesse today. if you go to asia today, you will see nice and sexy muscular asian guys everywhere.
asian guys are not tall. the average height for japanese is 5′8″ and for chinese guys is 5′10″,. the average height for american is only 5′10″ which is the same as chinese. if we look at all the facts, we will see that there in nothing much in difference between asian guys and white guys.
in the future, i believe asian guys will get taller and bigger due to better access to healthcare, nutrition, and environmental changes.
Comment by midnight shadow on 27 March 2008:
this is in response to those asian girls who think asian guys are less masculine. i have to tell you that white guys in europe are alot more feminine than asian guys. they carry pauses and wear sissy clothing color. go to europe and you will find out the true. america is the only place on earth where guys try to be “macho man.” white guys in europe are just as feminine as asian guys from many parts of asia. don’t generalize every thing when you don’t know the truth. for example, guys in barcelona, spain, and berlin, germany are just as feminine as everybody else.
Comment by Janie on 27 March 2008:
What an interesting debate. I myself am the product, in a way, of a mixed-race family. My grandparents were Hispano/British, and when my grandmother came to live in Britain after the 2nd World War she was a rarity as a Spanish woman in England. Thankfully times have changed and hopefully happy and successful relationships can occur between any race. The world is becoming smaller! For the record I think what’s on the inside counts, but I don’t see why Asian men should be at a disadvantage, or that women of any race should prefer Caucasian men.
Comment by el on 3 April 2008:
bottom line-asian females see “white men” “running things”, so asian women have a burning desire to be with “those” who are running thing.
asian men SHOULD be upset.
all these asian females that date and marry white men are displaying just what whores they really are.
asian females should really be ashamed.
asian women are like the modern day “bed wench” for white men.
just sad.
Comment by Elearis on 7 April 2008:
I think the most important thing in any relationship is for two people to like each other. Perspectives differ from individual to individual depending on experience.
Personally, being a chinese guy, I was surprised at how I was first received by non-asian girls: Europeans and Americans, that is to say, many times better than how I have always been received by my “own-kind”. I dare say that I’m not ugly, and am fairly good looking. I’ve never met any whites aside from my relatives (yes, my family is happily married to western and northern Europeans, whose marriages/families seem to be doing better than my family married to locals) Whether this was mere coincidence or not, it’s true that there are jerks and nice people everywhere.
But then again, while there are asian girls (I will and can only speak about chinese Southeast Asian girls) who are happily married to white men (who in turn have settled down in Asia), most local girls prefer to date local, chinese men. IMO, it is a matter of culture - and differing ideals - that determine attraction. Physical appearances only play a secondary role when it comes to real relationships. In fact most of these whites men/asian women couples I’ve seen are short being physically attractive by any standard. Don’t get me wrong I’d take a pretty girl over an ugly one if I could help it! XD
Also IMO, the West tends to hold onto ideals that is traditionally perceived as illogical and/or impractical by Asians. Someone in this thread makes a point that Asian girls are more respectful and are more willing to “accept the man for who he is”. Which is true - because they respect the man who can provide for them and their families, as well as sexual contentment. About 90% of the males I know here expect their girls to be completely submissive to them. I’ve heard many remarks that reinforces this “ideal”: girls having too much freedom in the west, girls being both intellectually and physically inferior to men (and thus they should submit to the man by natural order), women-drivers being dangerous because of incompetence, women who speak their minds as being rude, how all men should have the right to have a wife and mistress(es), etc, etc… Atypical anti-machismo, contrary to the Youtube comments regarding their assertiveness
Whatever the case, if things continue the way it is, sadly the only happy outcome of my life in sight for me is to find, date and eventually marry a white girl. It’s not that I don’t want an Asian [Chinese] girlfriend, but only if they gave me a chance. The idea of inter-racial marriage, like trade, opens up opportunities and commodities to the world in hope that we find what suits us best.
Comment by kcrash on 24 April 2008:
I’m a Caucasian girl and am currently dating an Asian(Taiwanese) guy. The reason I’m dating him has nothing to do with his race. It’s his personality, his humor, his heart and our compatablity that makes me like him as much as I do. So far my boyfriend is the only guy I’ve ever met that has even come remotely close to the standards I set. I didn’t even think about the racial difference between us until about a month after we started dating. I guess I just don’t get why anybody would make a deal out of race.
The two people I get along with best, the two people that I have the most in common with are my best friend and my boyfriend. My best friend is African American and my boyfriend is Asian. It’s a mixture of races and until someone pointed it out to me, I didn’t even realize that it is an unusual mixture. It never even occurred to me that our race could be a problem or annoyance to anyone. I was just enjoying my time with two wonderful and diverse individuals who happen to bring a lot of knowledge, intelligence, culture and fun into my life. I think I would be very unhappy and at a serious loss if I had cut them out of my life based solely on their race. I learn a lot from both of them every day and would regret never having the opportunity to know them. I just don’t get why race is such a big deal with anyone.
Comment by 2ute4u on 24 April 2008:
kcrash, i absolutely adore you for not seeing color, but you must realize that America and some of Europe had enslaved African people for their free labour in order to make America what it is today;it was called “The Peculiar Institution” for a no. of reasons: black folks were relegated to chattel status,the women were raped and bred for their off springs, when they tried to escape, a medical term was coined for them, etc. it is peculiar because of the inherent contradictions in the system.American racism is unique because it is always purporting differences based on superficiality, because when a black and white person get together, a beautiful human comes out of the union, now say if two different cats get together and mate ,like a lion and a tiger, which actually did happen not too long ago,still produced a cat/feline. My point is at the heart of it all, the offspring is still a feline,with 50/50 DNA of each parent.Please remember too that the so called RACE/RACISM is a profitable commodity.IT garners a lot of moment the media resurrects it. If you can shirk off what the outside world thinks ,you’ll be okay,and when you close your door at night ,remember ,it isn’t anyone of them you are coming home to,but the one whose opinion matters to you the most. One last thing, when we die our bodies all return to dust,the same color. I hope this will help ,I know it was too long.
Comment by kcrash on 25 April 2008:
I do realize that there was slavery and there are a no. of reasons for racism, I’m not an idiot. I do understand why racism exists and why some people can’t look past the looks or culture of an individual. I’m just saying, “Can’t we all just get along?” I know it’s not possible and with the given histories of the world we live in, race is still and will be a major issue for years if not centuries to come. I’m just saying I personally don’t have a problem with it, and I wish other people would be the same. It would make the world a much better place if they could.
Comment by AA Patriot on 3 May 2008:
Growing up in an immigrant East Asian family, I agree with Asian’s comment dated March 26: “Most Asians (excluding most Indians and Muslims) treat whites much better than they treat their own folks in their own countries. They have inferior complexity. They generally look down at blacks. They want their skin whiter. If given a choice, they would wish to be born white. Being white is a status to them.”
I think most children of non-white, non-European immigrant parents can relate to this. For example, how do their parents typically refer to white folks? They call them “Americans” and they call their own ethnicities per the country of origin (i.e. Chinese, Indian, etc.), implying they are foreigners…it’s very subtle. This holds true even after they’ve lived here for decades! For many of these US immigrants, “America” is synonymous with the ideal life and white folks (caucasians) are synonymous with “America.” Therefore, to these immigrants, they subconsciously draw the conclusion that American whiteness embodies the ideal that they should strive to achieve.
Yes, many immigrant Asians do have an inferiority complex. What’s sad is that they do not take political and cultural ownership of their newly adopted homelands as non-whites, which becomes their right as American citizens, and work to define a new America. And it’s really the first and second generation children that suffer. In the home, these children grow up with the message that they’re [fill in the blank] ethnicity, inferior to white society. All the while they’re developing a very American identity outside the home. Let this simmer into early adulthood and you end up with an identity crisis or conflict once that person enters the world as an independent adult.
Some come to terms with it and move on with life. Unfortunately, there are also others who won’t acknowledge this internal conflict and never find peace. They continue seeing their non-white skin color as a curse and go through life seeking this false idyllic vision of the perfect life embodied in the fictional/idealized/romanticized white America, and Hollywood. (I’m not implying that associating with caucasians means self-loathing.)
Anyway, I hope this sheds some light on 1, 1.5, and 2 generation AA psychology.
If an AF married a WM for his character/personality/intelligence/etc., that’s fine. But I think it would be VERY naive to think race is never a factor in these arrangements. I think many of these AF have unresolved identity issues as mentioned above.
I find it amusing when young Asian and Asian AMERICAN females flock to and fawn over an average WM with an average education, average looks, is slightly overweight, etc. Especially when there are highly educated, handsome, athletic, assertive, successful, kind, considerate, and MASCULINE (not American hyper macho) AA men they won’t even give the time of day to associate with.
Maybe one reason you’re seeing more AMs marrying outside their own ethnicity is because they’re being shunned by AFs. And the lack of available AFs since so many are marrying WMs.
I think intelligent and educated black men and women have it worse, though.
A little background on me. Immigrant Asian parents, spent early years here in near poverty, grew up in a black neighborhood, went to a prestigious military academy, commissioned as an officer, served/continue to serve in the US military with several overseas tours including Iraq, two master’s degrees and a good job. Experienced prejudice and discrimination during my assignments outside California but mostly in the civilian communities and not the military. Dealt with stupid questions like “Are you in the Chinese military?” when my uniform is in English with a big U.S. on it and being asked by my military co-workers when I was going “home” to Asia. Some of the best people I’ve served with in the military were black.
One of the women I had the most respect for was white. She came from a poor family but was very hard working. And she had inner beauty in addition to being physically beautiful. She died in a car accident. I have met few women in life like her, regardless of ethnicity. Yes, I would consider marrying a white woman like her.
Comment by josh on 3 May 2008:
I’m Asian, and I only date Asian women. White women are unstable, and immature. I’ve been with three good-looking white women, and now that I look back at it, I wish I hadn’t.
Comment by elearis on 3 May 2008:
kcrash: You read my mind. Unfortunately simple logic seems to be the most perplexing thing to understand in the universe lol.
Comment by thatchinaboi on 6 May 2008:
For me, physical attraction at the most basic level comes down to genetic selection and dna pairings. Naturally, people tend to be less attracted to people that look like they could be their brother or sister! At another level, attraction is ruled by culture and society. Asian men in America have always gotten the shortest end of the stick, so-to-speak. From prejudices, to laws, to media; we have been beaten down and belittled. For instance, the very popular myth about Asian men having small penises. If you believe this blindly, you are truely ignorant, ’nuff said.
Comment by Nick on 14 May 2008:
I’m a Japanese Filipino guy and I’m 5′9″ 19 years old and I am not a push over at all. Though I do have troubles finding a girl and I am almost definitely sure it is because of two things: I can’t pull the courage to ask a girl out and I’m usually with a group of friends, making it harder for me to approach women and vice versa. I see all my asian friends, all of which have different personalities and physical features, and how they are in relationships and in all honesty I believe they make excellent boyfriends. They take their girlfriends out, spend lots of time with them, they are intimate with them. Their girlfriends, who are of various races, are happy with them. I am in no way saying that Caucasians or African Americans or Hispanic men treat their partner with disrespect or with negligence, all I am saying is that Asian men aren’t always the cold hearted and timid people that they are said to be.
Also you can’t just say that women don’t like us because we all have small penises because I know that it would be extremely dumb for women to assume that we are small and instantly reject us riiiiiight??? Unless women have x-ray vision how would they know? I mean if they slept with over ten asian guys every year and measured them all and they all came up short then I would understand. Also I have a 7.25 inch penis and I never thought it was small just got upset when people would assume that it was small.
In the end, I just say that some women like asians, some don’t… It’s not wrong for them to choose who they like better. But maybe we should show them that we are worth the time huh? Screw the nervousness crap and go out there and find someone because a lot of women like men with initiative. We can do both right? Be kind but take initiative and if you don’t succeed try and try again because once we find the person we love and we sit and talk with them or do anything with them, they don’t see us as just a stereotype, but as the one they love back. And no matter what race, if they are happy, then so can anyone else because there are far too many people in the world to all follow a trend.
I don’t believe race has a whole lot to do with it; however, it might be personality, we all should ignore all the negative things being said and not let it affect our confidence.
Comment by DK on 27 May 2008:
this is such bullshit
i am asian, specifically korean
i’m not trying to be cocky, i’m just stating the facts
first of all, i’m 6′1” and i’m 16
and i have broad shoulders (not to forget my pecks and abs), even to compared
to my black, white, hispanic classmates
i play varsity football, hockey, and baseball
and lastly, i have a 7 inch dick, no lie
basically i contradict everything that the
fat ass ugly asian bitch (there’s only one in the vid) said about asian men.
and you know what, there are more and more asians
who are considered big and tall nowadays (6′0” +)
the stereotype that asians are small used to be true not only because of genetics, but also because of
nutrition and habits (such as playing sports)
and what’s more is as much as there are small asian
penises, there are as many small white penises
the averages of white men and asian men are actually similar; however, asian men don’t diverge from the average that much as white men do.
Actually i don’t have a problem with any of the things the other girls in the vid said, but what the only ugly fatass bitch really pissed me off,
because before she makes such statements, i personally think she could reflect on herself and her standards in relation to herself, because i really don’t think any man of any race
would consider her attractive.
long story short, i may be asian but i’m a boss because i get girls of any race, whether they be white, black, hispanic, or asian.
Comment by jewel65 on 28 May 2008:
I’m a English wf and my husband is Japanese. We were physically attracted to each other and we got on really well, like best friends. I learnt Japanese, so I could speak with his family, and understand more of the whole culture which I knew nothing about before. We had great sex nearly every night, (the stereotype of Asian men being small down there is bullshit!) We had two beautiful intelligent mixed-race children, and I put all my effort in to being a great wife, lover and mother. And then, after 10 very happy years, he left me for some other white bitch who happened to have a lot more money than me. This just goes to show that race has absolutely nothing to do with anything, all humans have the potential to fall in love, fall out of love, betray the person closest to them.
In the words of Paul Robeson, “Beneath the accident of race and culture lies the soul of man”….
Comment by Pebbles on 9 June 2008:
I an dating a Asian-American guy and I am a white female. We’re together because of how very compatible we are, and I love him for being such a wonderful person. We’re better for each other than anyone else I’ve ever dated. It’s hard sometimes not fitting in with his family like I’d like to- not being a part of their Chinese culture and standing out in family photos- but we’re working on that together. Being white, I’ve never had to deal with race on a personal level until now. Sometimes I detect stares and disapproval, or just mild curiosity that’s still hard to deal with sometimes. Now I understand better what minorities deal with in American society. When I see another interracial couple walk by, I feel accepted and want to give them a high five. Thinking about race and being conscious of it is a real head trip for me. It’s hard being so aware of it and I wish I could be as strong about ignoring it as some of the other people in this forum seem to be. I’m trying to learn how. I worry that our kids will struggle more than they would if they could easily fit into a category, but I’m hoping we could give them the kind of foundation they’d need so that they wouldn’t be bothered. He’s an incredible man and treats me better than anyone else ever has, and I’m sure every Asian girl with any smarts secretly thinks he shouldn’t be with me but with an Asian girl. Heck, I think most girls would wish they could be with him, race aside. There’s no way I could ever stereotype him. He breaks all molds. He deals with race like a pro, but I’m more of a novice. Don’t hate me for my “white privilege” of not having to deal with race much until now… just being honest.
Comment by mossimo36 on 10 June 2008:
Interesting thread so far.
Comment by Nandi on 10 June 2008:
Wow, too funny to take seriously or honestly…However, I think Asian women do not think or wish it at all….Afterall, they tend to date and marry outside their race moreso than their male counterparts..
Perhaps it is something else….
Comment by King on 11 June 2008:
this is all rubbish i think that asain woman are hot and easy to pull whereas asian males are too busy practising ther kung foo i have a dream that one day we will all get along
Comment by George Chell on 23 June 2008:
You people might like these stories…
http://newsblogs.chicagotribune.com/race/2008/06/interracial-mar.html
http://www.canada.com/vancouversun/news/story.html?id=82eef069-9da1-4953-943a-a51c6613d0aa
Strange most of the white women/Asian men couples seem to have only daughters…and many of them tend to be super smart!
Comment by John on 26 June 2008:
I can’t speak for every asian race, but I know that in Korean society, Korean women look for money. Since I live in New York, where many investment bankers and lawyers live, many Korean girls date these men. I’ve seen many facets of Korean women. They go out with a guy for the money and cheat on him with some other guy she’s interested in. I have many Caucasian friends to which this has happened. Also, there are a huge amount of Korean women who work in the escort service industry in New York. Since they refuse to “service” a Korean guy, which can be easily seen by the last name of the caller, they end up meeting mostly Caucasian men. I frequent bars and clubs, both Korean and American, and recognize that a vast majority of the Korean women who hang out there are “room salon” girls. Room Salon girls are not prostitutes but they are subjected to being handled and fondled by their clients. They shy away from the Korean community because they are afraid that someone will recognize them as such and don’t want to be involved in the Korean scene.
Also, there is an unwritten prejudice against Asian men in the night life scene in New York. They let Asian women into the clubs and lounges but unless the asian man is willing to buy a table for around $1000-$2000 they are denied access. I’m lucky since I know many promoters in the scene so I can get into these clubs but I still get hassled by hosts and bouncers with the announcement of the private party routine, even if I’m with 2-4 girls and I’m the only guy with them. I even had a friend who knows a big party promoter at one the hottest spots in Manhattan and the guy told my friend (who later told me), next time don’t bring the asian guy or send him home now and you can get in.
Because of these types of situations asian men don’t have the same opportunities of meeting caucasian women unless it’s at the local bar. Since asian women are admitted readily into these types of places, obviously they meet all caucasian men and the odd 1 or 2 asian man. But since these asian men come with women, it’s hard for them to venture out and meet other women in these clubs. Try going to a New York club as 2 or more asian men and you’d most likely be denied entry unless you are willing to cough up that grand or two.
Comment by Ramen on 14 July 2008:
I am an east Asian. Let me say something that is very true, and that many Asians may not want to say.
Most Asians (excluding most Indians and Muslims) treat whites much better than they treat their own folks in their own countries. They have inferior complexity.
Please,speak for yourself. Maybe this is true in Chinese culture but certainly NOT true in Korean culture. Among Asians Koreans are perhaps most nationalistic.
We don’t hold whites on a pedestal. Japanese are famous for that.No offense but most self loathing Asians tends to be Chinese. I’ve come across more ChineseAmericans with such low self esteem here.
Most Korean parents wouldn’t want their sons to marry non Korean girls. But this is changing as well. I’ve noticed more Asian American men dating and married to white women here on the east coast (New York, Philly,DC)I tend to pay attention to such things since I’ve been married.
Matter of fact, at one point in a small park in Philly my wife and I counted no less than three couples like us with kids. I was really surprised,usually its WM/AF couple.
I think more and more younger Asian American guys realize they shouldn’t be bound by their cultural traditions anymore.
Comment by kazy on 27 July 2008:
Im a asian dude living in nyc and let me tell you alot of white chix check me out.. its obvious they do double takes and smile at me and all that but honestly i only date asian women.. i have big azz eyes and chizled face and nice nose.. sometimes people say i look mixed but im 100% taiwanese.. i guess my point is if you look like a fob you aint gonna get no attention from non-asians.. and dont grow your hear out.. clean cut that thing…
Comment by Patti on 31 July 2008:
I happened upon this site researching a related topic and found the comments interesting. I gather that I am WAY older than most of you so I can say with ease that I’ve “been there and done that” long before many of you were born.
I have never thought that the color of one’s skin determined the way of the heart .. and in saying that if you truly love someone you make it work — I have for 29 years and counting! Love (and in my case) does conquer all — and trust me I’ve been on the receiving end of some nasty racist comments in the early years of our marriage (I’m White and my husband is Filipino).
As a point of interest, if you aren’t familiar with the story of Mr. & Mrs. Loving perhaps you might enjoy this link:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loving_v._Virginia
Comment by Nandi on 31 July 2008:
Patti…Great Post!!!, and you are right in a nutshell you can make anything work, if the love and commitment to each other is there…You can become an example, rather than a failed statistic or giving into racism of any kind..Much like the Lovings, who certainly had more issues to deal with than any interracial couple of today will ever face.
Thanks for your post!!
Comment by Patti on 2 August 2008:
Thanks Nandi!
It was 1967 (the “summer of love”) when the Supreme Court ruled that the Miscegenation Laws (which were instituted in the 1600’s) were unconstitutional .. 12 years later when my husband and I married it was still a subject that enraged many.
Time revolves s-l-o-w-l-y and, more often than not, it takes years to come to terms with change. Worldwide, however, interracial relationships (other than the main topic of this blog) have quite a long history. Prior to Loving v. Virginia (1967) there was Pace v. Alabama (1893) and McLaughlin v. Florida (1964). In another part of the world, miscegenation was just one of several charges leveled against Jose P. Rizal which ultimately led to his execution in 1896 in the Philippines (re: Josephine Bracken). Other interracial relationships predominate in history include the marriage of John Rolfe to Pocahontas, Thomas Jefferson and Sally Hemmings, and, centuries before them, the relationship between Caesar, Cleopatra and Mark Antony just to name a few!
Comment by Asianman on 24 August 2008:
I am an Asian guy, and I find that stereotypes fuel the interracial disparity more often so from the Asian girl-white guy side.
I’ve met Asian guys dating white girls and they actually talk like normal people. But when I meet Asian girls dating white guys, seems like 80% of the time the Asian girl is putting on some kind of front. like they can’t just chill.
I find talking to both American Asian and white girls different than talking to European girls. Often talking to girls in the US, I find that you can get the “nice conversation” with white and Asian girls in the US, but often it’s as far as you’ll get. However, in Europe, I find the girls a lot warmer to Asian guys in general because there are no prejudices there. Plus, European women are a lot more fit. So, if you Asian guys aren’t happy with your dating life in the US/Canada/anglophone country, try the rest of Europe. Avoid Portugal, Spain and Greece, girls don’t dig us there much.
Try France, Germany, Eastern Europe and you’ll be amazed.
Comment by Another P*ssd off Asian man on 24 August 2008:
I am from Europe! No way man! As you can tell i am a asian male living in the UK! I can tell you there is no mixing go on in the UK! Buts its the same story with White men and Asian women! Too many and it never stops! They like you because you are an American which is exotic to european, even english women have a Americanphile fetish! If you lived in Europe or in the UK long enough the local whites stay away from the asian population or BBC(British Born Chinese) males population!! If i moved to America with a British accent, do you think i have a better chance of success! Its because i wud be exotic!
Comment by The Olympic Games: Postive Media Representation on 24 August 2008:
Postive Media of Asian/Chinese People in the Olympics, which can have a added benefit to both portral of both sexes and all asian races. Moreover, an additional reason may be that there has been predication that in the forseeable future of china being the next economic and miltary superpower highlighted in the media, which means more attention have been paid to the imminent threat of the yellow perils by whites, and its ability to match that or even destroy America.
Comment by Real Deal on 27 August 2008:
It is the media and entertainment industry. Years ago Jewish men were considered to be very ugly, but they keep trying to paint themselves in a very good light (such as pairing guys like Adam Sandler, Woody Allen, and Jerry Seinfeld with good looking women). This then influences the public.
Comment by Its all gravy on 31 August 2008:
Hey Real Deal,
Jews been running Hollywood since its birth. Who founded these movie studios in Hollywood,such as, Warner Bros, Goldwyn Meyer,Fox, etc. How else can you explain such dorky swarmy actors like Adam Sandler and Ben Stiller becoming leading actors?? Of course, they’re going to paint themselves in very positive light while sterotying minorities. Hollywood has the greatest impact around the world than any other external factor when shaping ones’ perception. Unfortunately, many self loathing Asian women believe these sterotypes as well they cling on to any white guy they see. These women can’t stand the sight of their reflection staring right back at them. Sadly these women tend to be nocturnal and rid of themselves with any mirror in their homes as well
Thus, in order to deflect their “asianess” they chim in on Asian male bashing as well, in their delusion minds that way they’ll be more accepted by their Asianphile white admirers.
So I think we Asian American brethen should look more and more outside of our race or ethnicities to find quality life partners,as I did. LOL!
I myself, a son of an old fashion Korean parents, have always marched to a different drum so I never had any problems dating women of different races as more Asian American men are doing as well. According to 2006 US Census, 40% Korean American men either born or raised in US since early age are married to white women. And they say we can’t get laid :p Its usually the recent immigrants who don’t date out.
And availability of European women as someone mentioned, moi being a social butterfly and globtrotting (on a budget) single male, used to dated many European women ,here and abroad, in general I find European women to be more cultured and less materialistic compared to their American counterparts. If you’re an Asian guy in Europe born or raised and can’t hook up, you’re hopeless and should consider mail order brides.
Bon chance.
Comment by lord of the flies on 4 September 2008:
Asia? thats a big continent, you people have left out the interesting
cultures of the north, like Turkey, Kazakh, Mongolia.which have asian white mixed people from hundreds of yrs ago, since Genghis Khan,or further back! NOT NEW CONCEPT “THIS WHITE ASIAN THING” MOST TRIBE FROM FROM COLUMBIA AND NORTH AMERICAN INDIAN ARE KNOWN TO HAVE MONGOLIAN GENES.
Comment by pathfound on 22 September 2008:
Chinese men are sexy…
I’m married to one (and he’s from China too). He’s dynamic and he’s a firecracker.
I’m caucasian.
It’s beautiful.
And he’ll be a great father– I know.
and btw, Chinese men don’t have tiny penises. Why do non-Chinese men always say that? I’d like to ask them one question:
How do you know?
Comment by drew on 27 September 2008:
This is normally taboo but there are practical reasons why “some” asians marry white males. To have a more better lookings kids. Some filipinos do that, to have that meztiso look. It is rather superficial. Of course nobody wants to admit it. But luckily for asian men, not all are supercificially picky. I do admire mostly Latinas dont stoop down like this. There is nothing wrong with hooking up with white men. I don’t blame them, but I blame directly when a filipina strictly say to herself I only want a white guy, and no other race, that is very close minded in this century, ( u know who u are ), I dated a white woman, black, asian, latin coz there is a reason nature created different races, for variety. And it must be welcomed.
Comment by Latina on 29 September 2008:
I’m latin, not mexican but from South America.
I’ve heard caucasian men dates Asians because they are obedient….is that true? I also heard caucasian men date Latinas because we take crap that caucasian women don’t.
I’m not putting anyone down….I just want to know if this is how you guys really feel?
Comment by crutin on 10 October 2008:
CRUISINS WATCHING TOO MANY HOLLYWOOD MOVIES. KARATE KID IS FICTION GET OVER IT. ASIAN WOMEN PREFER ASIAN MEN LOL.
I think Latina is correct. In various internet sites, Latinas and Asian women are advertised as meek.
Comment by lazy on 11 October 2008:
since when did the word asian mean “yellow?” lol did the asian continent get hit by a jaundice epidemic that i missed? good thing i didn’t get infected otherwise i’d be “yellow” too. whew.. the question asked was: why are asian men & white women couples more common lately. the answer simply is the ppl’s increased sex drives or ppl being more horny now than ever(to simplify for the wannabe gangstas here.) with the invention of the interweb and the proliferation of affordable high-speed online services and the ubiquitous porn materials it’s inevitable. we all know that even kids as young as 7 or 8yrs old can watch porn w/o much effort if left unsupervised nowadays. when ppl get horny they wanna hook up w/more women no matter their race to satisfy their urges: simple as that. i go out w/white chix coz they’re around, many of them whom i’ve met, @least where i live and work, fit my standard of beauty and fitness and i just wanna have sex some more. i don’t care if they’re dumb or not funny or any of that crap like most ppl who try to project a false sense of humanistic character trait or to be politically correct bullshite like that. i don’t do that crap. i go out w/women if they’re attractive and not fat w/o regards to their character and intellect coz i wanna have sex w/them. it’s that simple. that’s just to give a different perspective on why another non-”yellow” asian guy like me going out w/a white chic. if i have to use the word prefer then i’d prefer to go out w/an asian chic preferable not “yellow” but if she happens to be one then hopefully she tans easily, maintains the tan for a long time and doesn’t peel when they lose the tan. oh ya she has to be no less than 5′4 w/an appropriate BMI, no less than a B cup, have light brown or even pinkish hued nipples, non-roast beef looking vag, not flat footed, don’t have webbed feet/hands, narrow and tiny navel, no paunch, have a good waistline, no tats, no xtra piercings besides the ears, short jet-black-shiny-good bodied hair, no unibrow, porcelain complexion (meaning impervious to pimples, zits & acnes coz i’ll take care of that part haha), not buck-toothed fairly even white teeth, soft skinned, multi-orgasmic, can squirt or willing to be able to do so, can match my horniness, doesn’t talke like a valley girl or a wannabe gansta yo, and of course rich–preferably filthy rich but just rich would be good enough. btw b4 ye call bullshite on me, my ex whom i parted with 3mos ago is a gorgeous blonde who’s dad is a highly respected brain surgeon in beverly hills who also gave her a porsche carrera gt when she got accepted into stanford med school. so bullshite on me, a lazy non-”yellow” asian bum who drives a beat up pick-up truck and wear flip flops all the time that i got a damn thong tan lines on my feet fool. fob all the way i always say. i guess there’s no inferiority complex here or maybe there’s too much that women like my ex became disoriented and took pity on me trying to make me into a human @least americanized; or maybe she wants to make herself feel better by thinking that she’s doing something good for some1 else besides herself. i digress…
gotdamn insomnia. made me waste time getting carpal tunnel for this shite. fooken eh
Comment by yo on 14 October 2008:
I think it all has to do with how you perceive in the world. If you grew up with a lot of mixed races, you will be comfortable dating someone outside your race. Unfortunately, there are still some places in the U.S. where racial prejudice is very high!
Comment by ansitruda on 18 October 2008:
I am a white woman, and I have always had a soft spot in my heart for men from the Far East (China, Japan, Korea). I love the smooth skin, jet black hair, the dark, almond eyes the high cheek bones and those beautiful, full lips….it is sad that my white co-workers think I’m crazy. I don’t like working for haters and bigots, but it pays the bills. I just wish the rest of the world would wake up and smell the coffee. We are all humans. Sometimes we forget that.
Comment by harold on 30 October 2008:
I’ve dated, white, black, Hispanics, and middle easterners. I don’t date asian women because I’ve heard men who are married to asian women have higher risks of heart attack/stroke by 20%. Have you heard an asian woman scream, finding out how you bought an engagement ring from Wal-Mart? I can imagine it sounds something like a pig burning alive in rubber tires being drowned under water at the same time.
peace out.
Comment by Buddie on 4 November 2008:
Yeah… it does not matter how the couples should look like and we are live in the modern world now. The racism period had gone. We should live in peace. Anyone can be with anyone! Black with White, White with Black, Asian with Black, Black with Asian, Brown with Black, Brown with Asian, who cares???
all i know it is the look of love
Comment by April Ann on 6 November 2008:
It would be hard if my one of my Parents married an American man or women. It’s hard for me to be mixed race but I don’t look Spanish Chinese Filipino. I should be proud of my heritage even though I don’t have an American Mother.
Comment by Beo on 12 November 2008:
white dudes end up with ugly asian women that asian men don’t want. that’s the true!
Comment by Beo on 12 November 2008:
white dudes end up with ugly asian women that asian men don’t want. that’s the true!
cut the how we should not be racist crap, it’s racist
Comment by Not A Bro on 13 November 2008:
I don’t know what part of the country this trend appears in but I know that one Asian guy is actively looking for Caucasian women and yet not getting any.
Comment by Not A Bro on 13 November 2008:
Maybe Caucasian women know where the money is: Asian Men (not Tommy Vu).
Comment by Peter on 13 November 2008:
You know you like us. We sexy as hell. Strong…Silent…Manly…
Azn Guy / NYC
P.S. If you got game, you got game.
Comment by g on 28 November 2008:
Asian men aren’t seen as sex symbols (NO THANKS TO WILLIAM HUNG) except in asia and the ones who are built like body builders.
What we need right now is someone like Bruce Lee, there’s Tiger Woods but it would be nice to see someone like Bruce Lee that dealt with fundamentals.
Comment by Fortune Teller on 20 December 2008:
The reason why white men don’t like white women and go out with other women is because all white women are fat as hell. And you ask the question why Asian men are not going out with them ??? Name one person who would wants a fat slob walking around with them ??? Not me. I am not saying all are fat but the majority of them are !!!! about 90 %
Comment by Fortune Teller on 20 December 2008:
So don’t put the white women on a high platiform. It’s quite obvious a white person is writing about them. Look around guy look at how many out of shape fat white women there really is in the USA. And the funny thing is some white women like being fat. lol
Comment by NotABro on 20 December 2008:
I hear the brothers like the extra chunky phat white women. Us Asians will take the other White women. Thanks for the leftovers! They are hot!
Comment by Fortune Teller on 20 December 2008:
I am a Asian American - my preference and who I can see myself marrying and feel comfortable with is a asian women. Back in the day when I was younger I did date all nationality. So I have gotten my share of p_ _ _ Y. :] After experiencing different nationality I prefer to be with my own. Due to being aware of who I am and being proud of who I am. I will never consider marrying outside of my race. The asian women and men who judge asian in a negative way they are lost and dumb as hell. Because they are only talking negatively about themselves IDIOTS. And forget about the ones who prefer only white, spanish or whatever. They are either lost in their minds or white washed. And for the one’s who marry ameican or soldier. Their is no love in there. How do they communicated ? By pointing and hand gestures ? That really funny on how dumb the americans are they are only after American citizenship or they are from a really poor family situations. To be able to use an american in that way is funny. American think they prefer them over asian men lol. But to all my asian peeps out there who are proud. Represent by doing the right thing.
Comment by Fortune Teller on 20 December 2008:
To all asian out there let break this
f_ _ked up sterotype about us in America. I heard enough crap from these f_ _Ked up whites, blacks and spanish IDIOTS. Let get crazy and do everything opposite of what these people think. Let’s prove that we are better than them. In what they can ever hope to be. That all I have to say.
Comment by Asiandude on 22 December 2008:
Face the fact :
Asians are on average smarter than caucasians, and they make better husbands and parents ( less divorce rates). Asians are more responsible.
Girls( asian/caucasian) that choose caucasian boys are dumb. Prolly breakup/divorce within 5 years. Period.
Comment by SAVLuvAsianDudes on 24 December 2008:
Call it what ya want!!! I have been told I have yellow fever! I have dated my …well more than my fair share of asian guys. Some were born and raised here, some just raised here. To me its like this, if ya got it, ya got it! I am mexican 100% but looking at me you would never know it, I look white. My best girlfriends are moslty asian (chinese or viet) or south asian as in Indian from India. I have dated asian and white guys. No difference same kind of guys, except some of the asian guys were just more attractive to me. (Rick Yun of the Fast and The Furious and Andy Lau of House of Flying Daggers are freakin HOTT!!!) I am with an Asian guy now and he is agressive hot fun and the sex is awesome, as has been the case with alot of the asian guys I have been with. And I do not know about the older generation, but the ones my age and younger know how to throw it out there, and if they want to hollar at a girl… they will!! Some it worked out for, some it did not and it had nothing to do with them being asian or me mexican or white as some see me. Sometimes you also have to learn to be comfortable around their setting especially if they hang out with all asians. It was no big deal for me as I have always hung out in large asian circles. Oh and dont believe the hype that all asians are good little smart math genius who stay home and read books all day and night!!! There are some thugged out asian dudes out there who are losers with a bunch of baby mama drama. Cheaters liars, sex addicts and with criminal records and bad credit. Not that I have dated any, but I have GF’s who have!! Some also have alotta of cash big ballin rides, hella tat’s, and no job!!! And some have 9 to 5’s with college degrees and still have a lot of drama and multiple girls white, black, latin and asian. But it’s all good to me!!!
Comment by NotABro on 24 December 2008:
Hey SAVLuvAsianDudes, have any White or Latina GF who want to go out with a Filipino/Chinese/Spanish mix? Great in the sack, have a job and degree and have a bad side at times.
Comment by SAVLuvAsianDudes on 29 December 2008:
LOL!!! All my girls are asian and hooked up right now! But I will keep ya in mind!;)
Comment by SAVLuvAsianDudes on 29 December 2008:
If I get one for ya I will hollar!!!;)LOL!
Comment by Keito on 30 December 2008:
Here’s my 2 cents; that is if anyone is interested to know a viewpoint from a person born, bred and living in Asia.
I’m a Chinese (not from China) and from another part of the world. I’ve dated many Chinese men .. and 2 serious relationships previously; before I met my partner and we’re about to be engaged
Coming from a mostly Chinese population, I don’t blame those women for wanting White men more. My partner happens to be
Chinese too, but he’s very different as he has been to, live and grew up in Australia for much of his life. His viewpoint in terms of relationship and respect for women is what attracts me in the first place.
My experience with Chinese men before my partner has been sadly … lacking. I’ve dated a guy who loves women wearing pink and requested I do the same on our next date. Another guy’s viewpoint of a woman in life is to sit at home and provide him babies .. lots of babies .. like a baby machine. I was really digusted of course and went the other way. A friend introduced me this man who earns very little and yet does not agree that his partner should work too to help with expenses. One of the major problems with the men I’ve known and seen in other people’s relationships (which broke down or ended in divorce) are either the men is very much a
mummy’s boy and needs his partner as his ‘mom’; lets his parents control the girl’s life, her job and their marriage; or money issues which the wife is not allowed to be out and working. All this happened to my relatives and cousin sisters by the way.
My first relationship went down the drain when he left me by the roadside at 10pm … in a secluded area … after we had a fight. My second one had no respect for me whatsoever, hung up my calls whenever a ‘discusssion’ it not to his liking and had a affair with his ex. I was scarred from this experiences and it took more than 2 years to finally accept the love of my new partner .. which he stood by me in through this times and for that I’m very grateful.
That is to say, not all relationships are bad. Not all women want a ‘worldly’ man, it depends on their own ideals of a family life. I know of female friends who does not like White men and prefers Asians more due to same cultural background, beliefs and most importantly able to communicate with their families. They typically marries into a very traditional family, where the parents-in-law helps them make most of the couple’s decisions; from where to live, what food to cook for their husband to how many grandchild they want.
But for me, I do not want to marry into a family and to be told by my mother-in-law I have to quit my job and be a housewife, even though I have a Masters degree in Science and earning well; and worse of all my partner doesn’t stand by me. I do not want to put my life in the hands of my husband or his family. I just want to be … me.
Comment by Keito on 30 December 2008:
Maybe it’s just my luck .. who knows. But my previous experiences and 2 bad relationships made me a very sceptical person, untrustworthy towards men in general and my current partner had a really tough time dealing with me in the first 3 years of our relationship. I find it very hard to trust men. But he was very stubborn, he stood by me, he believed in me and because of the good he has shown me (even though he does not deserve being given such a hard time for other people’s mistakes), I’m a much better person now. I learned to trust and love again. It’s too good to be true … sometimes I’m so afraid it’ll all be taken away from me.
Comment by homesteader on 30 December 2008:
remember Pearl Harbor
Comment by NYC asian on 31 December 2008:
Keito, I don’t understand what asian guys you know, but all of the ones I know don’t really care if their gfs or wives work. In reality it’s the asian (especially Korean girl) who doesn’t want to work and leech off their bfs and husbands. Look at their expensive clothes, jewlery, cars, shoes, etc. and then ask them what they do for a living. 95% of the time, you’d realize that they can’t afford the lifestyle they are living but rather are getting all these lavish goods from their bfs or husbands.
Comment by Keito on 4 January 2009:
I don’t know about Korean girls, I’m not living in Korea to understand their culture. I’m speaking from experience as a Chinese in a population where most are Chinese. I earn quite well and can afford my own ‘lifesytle’. The men I’ve dated earns a lot less than me. My female relatives who got a divorce earns very well, and yet they are being forced to ’submit’ to their parents-in-law and husband. This is about society’s expectation. You seem to be living in US, right? I’m not in the US, I was born on the other side of the world and I’ve seen it all. Even my mother who has a masters, earning 5 digits and is a regional manager for DHL South Asia is subject to this ‘expectations’. She wakes up 6am every morning to prepare lunch for my dad (who’s retired). She goes to work, comes back from work and cooks dinner for him, then wash the pots, pans and plates. And that’s not the end, she irons clothes before she retires to bed at 11pm. My sister and I helps her with laundry and floor cleaning. She’s always advised us to do things right, to please our future husbands, to make sure the husband and kids are well fed, that we are expected to be able to cook; so that we can ‘keep’ our husbands close to us. She was brought up that way and she’s passing along this advise that was given to her by her mother to us.
Comment by Arcangel on 5 January 2009:
Im an asian male (not mandarin/chinese, more to the south). Im dark (naturaly), and standing 182cm/ 6′0ft tall. My penis size is just over 7 inches (BORNED OUT/ I NEVER TOOK ENLARGMENT PILLS). and i work as a professional racing driver. Those stereotypes of asian male are “less” are wrong.
I never had problems attracting girls. I tend to lean towards white girls more from my experiences simply because white girls have that “mindset” that i wish to find in a woman rather than most other female from other races.
I want to give all asian men who aiming for white women(there is nothing wrong with that) some advice:
knowing myself as an asian, our biggest hindrance are not because we are less better from other male race. Actualy its because we feel more SUPERIOR. It may sound contradictive but from years and years of introspections and retrospections, my problems in relation with white women, always because they said that i DEMANDS TOO MUCH from them. I expected them to show me respect and stuff which i have realized later to be “absurd”. Because they actually HAVE respected me enough in their own ways(white female ways). Then when i compare my self to other males from other races, the issue is obvious, it turns out that i was far more DOMINEERING AND EGOMANIAC than white males or blacks. Its like that old “Samurai” sindrome. Like women must bow before me sort of thing.
And it came from asian heritage itself. If you see the history of asia, Japan with their samurai, mongols with their Genghiz Khan, China with their dinasties, and the southern asian impenetrable (to these days) territorals, these kingdoms are far more FEUDAL than the northern and european monarchs history. ASIAN MEN ARE NATURALY MORE FEUDAL. Thats why we have this little quirks(HUGE PRIDE AND EGO). These things that made the frictions with white females.
Just forget the “Samurai” thing. Be a fun easy going guy. Dont be too uptight and too selfrighteouss( you know we do). Wear your heart on your sleeves not your war banners (asian guys tendencies). Forget we are korean or japanese or chinese or thailanders, or indonese, we are citizen of the globe, be great for your self not your race. Cultures must be preserved but EGO are not. And dont have too much prejudice. THE REASON WHY ASIAN GUYS ARE BEING MISTAKEN AS “SHY” IS BECAUSE OF OUR PREJUDICES TOWARDS WHITE FEMALES. So we kind of acting TOO CAREFUL. Avoid that. thats all.
Comment by Fortune Teller on 6 January 2009:
Keito here is my 2 cent about your type, you don’t judge a race and especially your own race in a bad image based on a few bad apples. If you haven’t learn or don’t know. There are good and bad in all races. I grew up in the US and I have seen so many white couples get divorced. The white man treats you good in the beginning, but at the end treat you like shit and beat you, I have heard this from so many white women that I have known. So for you to judge asian men in that makes you an idiot and makes me sick. You are the problem with the asian women who are lost and don’t know who the f_ _ k you are going out with these whitey. Look in the mirror and good luck to your future dumb ass.
Comment by Fortune Teller on 6 January 2009:
And for all who responded and said time has changed and racism is gone. What world are you living in. Racism is alive and what makes the world go. That why we still have wars, KKK, black panthers, asian gang, spanish gangs etc… Wake up time have not change people just hide it now. In the southern part of the US there is still is separatism between the blacks and whites. With separate restaurants, schools and communities. So how can you even say racism doesn’t exist ?????
Comment by Fortune Teller on 6 January 2009:
Oh and by the way I am asian, do I speak like the stereotype the American hollywood portraits me to speak like. lol
Comment by Fortune Teller on 7 January 2009:
Keito check out the article below you are no different than white women
White men how come you guys got the highest divorce rate?
Didnt want to make it a race thing..BUT CNN did a report saying that white men are (10x) most likely to get divorced…why is this?
I think this is a bit of a crisis. Why cant you keep a family together? Other cultures can…mexican men ..to name one are sometimes cheats ..but they never leave their wives and families…black men are cheats too and can be baby makers..but white guys can be this too…
whats up?
This may be related reason but -correct me if i am wrong-(which is possible): White males are less likely to date outside their race..do you think this is the reason?..are you marrying women of your same race for appearences while deep inside you have a thing for another race? Why hurt your wives? your families? just marry who you want..regardless of race..is this possible?
1 year ago
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There is no ARGUMENT ..just a question as to how white males feel about the story that CNN ran..
Dont attack me for what i have and im sure you guys see around you everyday thats happening.
The truth is the truth…and i was just wondering what the reasoning is behind it…i did say “correct me if i am wrong” if its not race…which is a bit surface ..maybe its something deeper.
Everyone is calling black men baby makers..while i will admit they do cheat..white men can be baby makers to..we just dont see all of the babies because 60% of white women have abortions compared to 35% of black females (this is a substantial difference of numbers):
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,880,…
Comment by arcangel on 7 January 2009:
for fortune teller:
who ever says racism dont exist?
If you kept looking things like that then yeah, those problems like in the middle east right now will go beyond parrenial. are you a racist??
you acting like a fascist with that 1960s mentality.
My personal experiences proves that white girls dont actually care if im an asian, some of them(supermodels) find me a “big plus” with my dark skin and my unordinary look.
Well if there were a few girls that HAPPENED to be “white” and treating you unfairly, maybe its because they are just happened to be nasty girls. Not necessarily all white girls have the same opinion. Believe me i know a lot of beautiful white girls who are so open minded about interracial relationships. And they arent just ordinary girls, these are the supermodels. BELIEVE ME, i know. Dont be so “apartheid”.
And those people you mentioned with their racial gang wars, neo nazi and stuff, they dont have a place anymore in this planet. Go and shoot me.
Your apartheid attitude makes things worse.
Comment by Fortune Teller on 7 January 2009:
For arcangel
You are part of the problem why asians get treated the way they do. For one you are not understanding what I am talking about, try going to southern US and see if they don’t treat you different. (Mississippi, Georgia and Texas) I don’t care if you are ok with someone thinking you are unordinary looking and dark, if you like being called that then that your problem. I am not saying all white women are racist. But if you are telling me that you are asian and never had a racist momentS in your life, that means you are a LIAR. Every minority has experience it. Would you like to be married to it NO. Have a nice day.
Comment by Fortune Teller on 8 January 2009:
This is why white women like asian men instead of white men
White men how come you guys got the highest divorce rate?
Didnt want to make it a race thing..BUT CNN did a report saying that white men are (10x) most likely to get divorced…why is this?
I think this is a bit of a crisis. Why cant you keep a family together? Other cultures can…mexican men ..to name one are sometimes cheats ..but they never leave their wives and families…black men are cheats too and can be baby makers..but white guys can be this too…
whats up?
This may be related reason but -correct me if i am wrong-(which is possible): White males are less likely to date outside their race..do you think this is the reason?..are you marrying women of your same race for appearences while deep inside you have a thing for another race? Why hurt your wives? your families? just marry who you want..regardless of race..is this possible?
1 year ago
Additional Details
1 year ago
There is no ARGUMENT ..just a question as to how white males feel about the story that CNN ran..
Dont attack me for what i have and im sure you guys see around you everyday thats happening.
The truth is the truth…and i was just wondering what the reasoning is behind it…i did say “correct me if i am wrong” if its not race…which is a bit surface ..maybe its something deeper.
Everyone is calling black men baby makers..while i will admit they do cheat..white men can be baby makers to..we just dont see all of the babies because 60% of white women have abortions compared to 35% of black females (this is a substantial difference of numbers):
Comment by Fortune Teller on 8 January 2009:
Keito here is something to think about American marriages. What make you think that the white man will treat you better than their own white women.
Article I found.
The Effects of Divorce on America
by Patrick F. Fagan and Robert E. Rector
Backgrounder #1373
Each year, over 1 million American children suffer the divorce of their parents; moreover, half of the children born this year to parents who are married will see their parents divorce before they turn 18. Mounting evidence in social science journals demonstrates that the devastating physical, emotional, and financial effects that divorce is having on these children will last well into adulthood and affect future generations. Among these broad and damaging effects are the following:
Children whose parents have divorced are increasingly the victims of abuse. They exhibit more health, behavioral, and emotional problems, are involved more frequently in crime and drug abuse, and have higher rates of suicide.
Children of divorced parents perform more poorly in reading, spelling, and math. They also are more likely to repeat a grade and to have higher drop-out rates and lower rates of college graduation.
Families with children that were not poor before the divorce see their income drop as much as 50 percent. Almost 50 percent of the parents with children that are going through a divorce move into poverty after the divorce.
Religious worship, which has been linked to better health, longer marriages, and better family life, drops after the parents divorce.
Comment by Marcel on 10 January 2009:
Just find the right girl, that’s all. I don’t think races has to do anything with love. Every race has crap people and superior ones. Asians, blacks, whites… the difference is like a black or a yellow labrador retriever.
Comment by Fortune Teller on 12 January 2009:
Why Asian American females in interracial relationships are worthy of the “sell out” moniker.?
This concerns Asian Female/white male hypocrisy:
Asian American females often assert that Asian males are intolerant of Asian female/white male interracial relationships yet the truth is that any intolerance with Asian interracial relationships exists with white males who support Asian female/White male relationships yet denounce Asian male/white female relationships or any relationship involving white females and nonwhite males in general. Not only do white males have a history of violence and prohibition against these kinds of relationships but they have shown their discontent of these relationships through violence, laws that inhibit these relationships and in modern times divergent depictions of support for white males in interracial relationships and disapproval of Asian males in relationships with white females and any relationships of nonwhite males with white females in general.
Asian females do not have the right to question Asian male tolerance towards Asian female interracial relationships with white males as Asian males have been more than tolerant with these kinds of relationships probably to a fault. The fact that there aren’t news stories about Asian males acting disapprovingly towards Af/WM relationships by spitting, punching, verbally abusing or trying to physically or socially inhibit these relationships prove that Asian males are more decent guys than white guys when it comes to these kinds of relationships. White males have had a history of inhibiting their women from having relationships with nonwhite males even to this day through violence, passing of laws, social and media conditioning and other despicable acts of intolerance.
In modern times, white males are prevented from committing racist and hypocritical actions to prevent nonwhite male unions with white females by law, yet these racist and hypocritical sentiments are shown through social disapproval and media disapproval of nonwhite males with white females and support for white male/nonwhite female relationships. This includes violent and threatening actions shown to relationships between nonwhite males and white women.
If white males were given the power, they would make every effort to inhibit relationships between white women and nonwhite males. In modern times, the only real way the white male can control interracial relationships is to manipulate images in the media hoping that these images would shield white women from interracial relationships with nonwhite males and if possible promote nonwhite female relationships with white males.
It’s difficult for white males to manipulate the black and Hispanic community in this regard because their population sizes are too large and because they have political and social influence that Asians do not have. Blacks in this country have the NAACP, Nation of Islam, Bloods and Crips street gangs to defend against white media denigration and manipulation of their people. If they can’t influence the media to control their image through politics, they can thug their way to make sure that their images are portrayed correctly. Hispanic groups have a huge population base with bordering nations which minimizes them from the negative effects of the American media. A majority of them keep true to their identity which makes it hard for the media to control their social patterns.
Asian people neither have a large population size in this country nor do they have any prominent social or political groups that can defend against the negative manipulation of the white media which allows whites to divide and manipulate Asian Americans. They have made Asian female interracial relationships with white males acceptable yet denounce any unions between Asian males and white females. Though this hasn’t stopped Asian male interracial relationships with white females, they are doing their best to make sure that Asian males have a hard time with these relationships.
Asian women are deserving of the “sell out” moniker not because they’re in interracial relationship with white males but because even though they know that white males have a history of racist hypocritical patterns when it comes to Asian interracial relationships, they see no reason to question this hypocrisy yet finds it easy to blame Asian males to boaster their hypocritical behavior.
Asian females do not have the right to question Asian guys for questioning their interracial relationships when white males have had a history of making it illegal and in the present time denouncing Asian male relationships with white females. It is because of the Asian female’s unquestionable acceptance of white male hypocrisy and racist pattern which includes constant deriding of Asian males to support their relationships that they are worthy of the sell out moniker from Asian males and everybody else who’s familiar the meaning of word “decency.”
Comment by guy on 14 January 2009:
For all those people who believe in the stereotype of Asian men have small penises check out Hung Lo who is Chinese the first Asian porn star in America at shelovesasiancock.com. He is endowed and does deliver with the white women he has sex with. I believe for many white people in America the thought of an Asian man having sex with a white women is so taboo, so unacceptable and so abnormal.
Asian men have been neutered by the white media for so many years with the stereotype of being sexless, duds, having small dicks, unromantic, not good looking and can never be jocks. As the Asian population increases and more Asian men are involved in the entertainment field like actor John Cho, director Justin Lin and professional sports like Yao Ming in the NBA and Hung Lo in the porn industry more white women will date Asian men and the myth of a small penis is not related to a race but to an individual. Some White, Black, Hispanic, Native American and Middle Eastern guys have small penises. Hung Lo has shown that you can’t judge a man’s size by his race…
Comment by SAVLuvAsianDudes on 30 January 2009:
Thanks Guy!!!! I am going to check him (Hung Lo) out right now!!! And as for ArcAngel!!! Love your post!!! Let me know when ya single and I am so there!!!lol!!!
Comment by SAVLuvAsianDudes on 30 January 2009:
Fortune Teller I am from Texas and I am friends with bunch of different Asian Guys that would totally disagree with you! In fact a whole huge community! They do not get treated different, unless you are talking about getting treated with the upmost repsect. Now, I dont know about the smaller hick towns, but in the big cities like Houston, Austin and Dallas. LOL! They own some of the hottest spots, they have connections in other big cities too, like LA,San Fran, NYC, New Orleans and MIA. If there are anyone with a problem with any of these men being Asian they hide it very very well. I know racism still exists and unfortunately there are always going to be sick, ignorant people and they are everywhere. And so what I dont care as long as they stay out of my way and out of my face!
Comment by jude on 3 February 2009:
asian men are weird looking. some call it ugly but i call it off-human. that’s why their women come to us, be it white, black or other. simple truth. we represent the beauty they lack and can’t see in “their” men. you asian men need to man yourselves up in an american society. we don’t idolize femininity in men as the asian/chinese culture does as in the wen-wu relationship stressed there. men and women have specific gender roles to play once you recognize your sexual preference. stop looking for a handout! get your respect by earning it! you just have to overcome more than others so good luck.
Comment by Asian Guy on 3 February 2009:
Hey Jude,
The only off-human here is YOU my man. You must be delusional if you think ONLY Asian women date other races. Just because you don’t see Asian men in the movies and tv shows in the states don’t mean we don’t represent. Please do not pass outdated judgment based on the Asian fetish porn we both know you spend too much time on.
And the femininity part, it has been imposed on us since the first Asians started representing in the U.S.
Trust, my friend, if we weren’t representing, they wouldn’t cater to us ballers in Las Vegas.
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/06/13/business/13vegas.html?_r=2&pagewanted=1&adxnnl=1&ref=business&adxnnlx=1181765111-kQcb6PY7YZlotqsliOCMMA
You wouldn’t see all these ballers putting Asian ink on their skin
http://www.eviltattoo.com/sp.html
If we don’t rep, who the heck invented the book on F*cking, my man. Kama Sutra, ever hear of it? Its Asian.
Or are you too busy eating FLIED LICE? Ain’t it funny how Chinese eat dog and cat but then you STILL order from Golden Wok? Or Happy Panda?
Oh, it must be the FEAR that permeates your entire being to want to hold the Chinaman down. No matter how you try to denigrate me, oppress me, force me to take up jobs that aren’t masculine (cooking, cleaning, beauty) we will STILL SURVIVE. Its been happening since we built the railroads. It’s the year 4097 and because of “off-humans” much like yourself, it still happens.
Trust me playboy, you will be working for me someday.
Now, GO BACK TO WHERE YOU CAME FROM.
Comment by guy on 5 February 2009:
Check out Hung Lo the first Chinese male porn star fucking white women at shelovesasiancock.com. I hope this website will bring awareness to white, black, hispanic, jewish, arab and native indian people in America that many asian men do have large penis size like Hung Lo and are not always shorter than white men. Look at Yao Ming he is the tallest basketball player in the NBA. Yao has better skills than any basketball player in the history of the NBA that was taller than 7′ 5″ that includes the likes of Mark Eaton, Shawn Bradley and Manute Bol.
There was this fear in the early 20th century in america by white men that asian men were animals, beasts and barbaric because they have large families, very horny and must fuck a lot. The white man then made a concerted effort to dehumanize the asian man to be sexless, unappealing, skinny with buck teeth, short in height with a small penis size so as to protect the white women from cross breeding and having mixed race kids. This disinformation has been constantly circulated in the media (movies, tv, radio, books, newspapers, and magazines) for the last 80 years.
How can so many white people believe these stereotypes for so many years. The late Bruce Lee the martial arts expert and actor is so macho, robust, masculine and is a stud with no buck teeth. Are we to believe that he is uglier than Kelsey Grammer, unappealing, feminine like all asian men, too soft, can’t fuck white women because he is asian, by the way his wife is white. Are we to believe that Yao Ming who is asian has a penis size smaller than Mini Me who is white from the Austin Powers movies. For all those asian men haters out there, wake up and smell the coffee, Porn star Hung Lo is not the only asian man in America fucking white women. Face the facts asian men haters, times have changed and an asian man/white woman couple will no longer be perceived as taboo, odd, a rarity or an aberration but will be seen as mainstream and ubiquitous. A black man is now the president of the U.S. and an asian president will happen in the future.
Keep it up Hung Lo at shelovesasiancock.com
Comment by Arcangel on 8 February 2009:
hahahah! yeah. Asian US president should happen really soon. Im running for it. No really. LOL. Look at the United Nation guy, Ban Ki Moon.
Hey Jude(LOL), have you ever seen southeastern asian hunks? like moi?LOL.
you dont stand a chance against me dude. =) .
You’ll wish you have my skin, its honey brown natural you know, go cook yourself under the sun still thats the best thing you can ever do to get the same result and still thats not close enough, hahahahah!!. And i have a big eyes too. LOL.
We southeastern guys looked good naked. You dont even look like you have a skin,…pinky.
Comment by arcangel on 2 March 2009:
What the..?
someone using my screenname??
Comment by NotABro on 3 March 2009:
While we are on the topic of racial sensitivity, why not protest against Miley Cyrus and her insensitive portrayal of Asians. What’s next? She’s paints her faces black and does a “Jazz Singer” routine?
Comment by nysgirl on 12 March 2009:
I am a black female married to an Asian male(Southeastern). I don’t think Asian men look funny. The sex is great. They work more at pleasing you rather than just satisfying themselves and are great to be around. It shouldn’t matter who someone else is with just as long as they are not trying to have sex with your spouse or significant other. MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS.
P.S. I think Asian guys are very sexy!!!
Comment by homesteader on 12 March 2009:
nysgirl , Well Said
Comment by NOPLAYER on 12 March 2009:
nysgirl, thats right !
Who has time to worry about who shares a pillow with who? I’m trying to make sure mine doesn’t end up with her head on someone elses pillow! LOL
Comment by Nkiyomi on 17 March 2009:
I see alot of truths and some untruths in these postings. I grew up here in So Cal, the O.C. to be specific. Mixed couples are very common, as well as same race couples. It has to do with demographics, the larger the population, the more variety of people living many lifestyles and different reasons for getting together. Here in So Cal, most mixed couples don’t even get a second look from people (Californians tend to also mind their own business more as well). Living in any large city in the U.S. will have mixed couples- like the man from Austin Tx stated.
There was also a young Asian man on here that said that he had some problems with women in the U.K.- that is completely understandable. I have a friend who is half Hispanic and lives in a small village in England. She said that the British are very cliquish, and are not that open to foreigners like Americans are.
Americans are used to immigrants more than other peoples, so its easier to date outside one’s race, especially since people pick their own mates, and family and religious considerations are not as important as say in the Middle East or India.
So overall, whether it be the U.S or large modern metropolitan areas in the world, mixed couples are more common, and not frowned upon as much.
So I think that Asian men, for example, dating outside their race has become more common.
One interesting thing I want to mention is that while I was stating earlier that since many people live in large cities- like in the U.S for example, and how that makes it easier to intermarry, there is another trend going on simultaneously that might slightly offset that trend. Since we are having a global economic crisis that of course has hit the U.S on a large scale, people are moving out of the cities and back out to smaller towns or even rural areas where the price of living is lower, the neighborhoods better, etc.
If this trend continues, then even though there is the trend of of intermarriage, people moving into small towns may cause more of a tendency to marry one’s own kind more often. However, it should be taken into consideration that the people moving out of the cities are not only whites- they are also other races, especially some Asians who are moving out as well. So even in the small towns there might still be intermarriage because of the theory of familiarity and not race, I’m taking a guess.
Comment by sweetie on 23 April 2009:
im an asian.All my life i have been living in asia and of course dated asians men.Coming from a family who are intolerant bout other races somehow makes it difficult for me to date others who has different beliefs from me.There was time when my family incite fear in me when they found out im dating a chinese man.While another time i was nearly been chased out of home.That happened when was in my mid 20’s.one of the chinese guy i dated for many years somehow dint appreciate me. i was being cheated over and over again.Because of the love i had for him i stayed and forgive and trying to convince my ex that im willing to let go everything behind just to be with him.Somehow he never changed and in fact he even had the cheek to accused me that im the cause of his “hypogonadism” as he believed i sucked his “chi” out of his body.After years of hurt and pain he dump me and ever since that i never looked back.i have lost faith in asian men from what i been through in the past.Mostly asian men that i dated are cunning,never appreciates or respect me as a woman and egoist.Shortly after that i met my current bf who is a caucasian.i had never dreamt of dating caucasian before and since this is my first time i was truly surprised how different he is from the type of men i been used to.He has all the admirable qualities that im looking for and what important is that he truly loves me and sincerely wanted to marry me.He also doesnt have any issues when it comes to my background which is coming from a conservative family as well as different beliefs.I cried tears of joy knowing i finally found my soulmate.I dont know bout asian women dating caucasian all because of the physical aspects and asian women being submissive.For me i wouldnt mind dating anyone as long as he loves me and accepts me for who i am.Its just so happened i found love in a white male who loves me as much as i love him.And im also not saying all asian men are undesirable or bad.Its just me that unlucky in the past.
Comment by kris20003 on 7 June 2009:
I’ve dated men of all races, including Asian men, and have had both positive and negative experiences. At the end of the day, I was the common denominator in each of the relationships and the quality of the relationship mostly depended upon how much I loved myself, my willingness to communicate my boundaries and to respect his, and how I would allow myself to be treated.
Some people seem to think they show some degree of “intelligence” in their ability to gauge the actions, worth, and value of an individual based upon stereotypes. And don’t get me wrong, as I respect that each individual has had some bad experiences with some racial and cultural groups and better experiences with others. But, those experiences can and should not be used to justify typecasting an entire group of people. Not only is it ignorant and unfair, but it becomes hypocritical when you complain about others projecting their prejudices onto you. And trust me, in this world, someone is always manifesting their prejudices on someone. The reality is that stereotypes, whether positive or negative, are MYTHS and fear-based. And they’re generally wielded by people too lazy or cowardly to step outside of their comfort zone to find out the universal truth that within us all exists the ability to do good or evil, to be dignified or degenerate. Rather, they rely upon accounts from others, far-away observances, and experiences with maybe 10, or even 100 out of over 10 million of a group of people, to validate their ignorance.
As much as people want to cling to their stereotypes about one group being better or worse than the other, human behavior TRANSCENDS race and some more “enlightened” people here spoke to that in earlier posts. Look at world history and both the atrocities, compassion, and courage committed by EVERY single racial group on this planet. Some within the same “racial” groups still bear grudges against each other. Do you think all of that somehow dissolves just because you have a preference for one group and a prejudice against another? There is NOTHING new under the sun each individual makes a choice to exercise their free will, regardless of the influences or pressure upon them. But, an entire race or culture of people should not have to bear the responsibility for the wrong or take credit for the positive actions displayed by someone of that same group.
We are ALL linked and interdependent, whether you like it or not. And another universal law is that what goes around comes around. And the issues you have with others are ultimately issues that you have with yourself. After all, the prejudices you have are coming from within YOUR heart. And what you speak reflects more upon YOU than it ever will about who you speak about. Change your pattern of thinking and stop looking at people based upon stereotypes and symbols. Be BRAVE enough to look beyond the stereotypes to the humanity and the DIGNITY of that person, regardless of race, ethnicity, and religion. You’ll be surprised at the wealth of love reciprocated when you extend it. As the quote goes, “Be the change you want to see in the world.”
Comment by Joie on 8 June 2009:
I am a Filipina. I have never dated anyone since I am more focused in empowering myself as a woman and in knowing my responsibilities in my society. Besides, I have never experienced any peer pressure to engage in a relationship when I was a teen.
Most of the people of different cultural orientations think of Asian women as submissive and inferior. In the Philippines, there have been a huge progress in the social and political status of women. In truth, before the Spanish colonization of the Philippines, Filipino women were already playing important political roles.
I have friends who are very dedicated to success; they know what they want from life, and they also know how to achieve them. I have noticed, however, that we all have one thing in common. Our definition of success goes hand in hand with our capabilities to sustain our families. This is due to the fact that the concept of family ties is deeply embedded in the Filipino psyche.
Our concept of marriage is also influenced by our religion. It is in the Christian doctrines that “wives should respect their husbands and in return, husbands should love their respective wives.” As for me, relationship will not work without respect. Besides, respect is one of the ingredients of love. I grew up seeing my mother asserting her own ideas to my father when she thinks she is right. This is possible because they communicated well and respect is still there. I also grew up making my own choices because our father encourages us to do so. (My father was an ex-soldier).
Comment by Kelli on 16 June 2009:
I am a white female involved with a Thai man. These rumors floating around about asian men are unfounded. My fiance stands 6′2, 175 pounds and is very well endowed (8.5 inches in length and 6 inches in width)a fabulous lover! He is always respectful and treats me like a queen. People need to get over these pejudices. When I look at him I see the man I love, not an Asian person.
Comment by Sterlingbros on 18 June 2009:
THERE IS NOT A RISE IN THE ASIAN MAN-CAUCASIAN WOMAN INTERRACIAL COMBO! Where is this nonsense coming from? It seems like you see more of this combo, but really, aren’t there a rise in general with interracial dating of all races (some interracial couples more than others particularly between white man with asian woman and black man with white woman). Asian men are still not seen as sexy compared to other races, especially in the entertainment industry (i.e. movies like “21″ and the recent Dragonball Evolution), because asian men aren’t considered bankable. Just for fun (don’t take this seriously), asian women in the U.S. = SEXY! but asian men in the U.S. = TECH SUPPORT!
Comment by Jimmy on 18 June 2009:
I think a lot of asian men find white women beautiful… it is no longer that asian men only date asian women. There are a lot of better fish in the sea.. why stick with the same old stuff?
Comment by 46&2 on 22 June 2009:
People are attracted to attractive people no matter what race. If a white girl finds a specific Asian man attractive, then so be it. Everyone has their own taste in what they consider “beauty”.
Comment by TleighQ on 5 July 2009:
Hold on guys… I am a white female and i am engaged to an Asian man from Indonesia. this is what he tells me… He comes from a country where all the woman look the same (no offense to anyone) its hard to find “white people” in any asian country. he also says lots of asian girls are fakes and after money and nothing else (this is what HE says, and he’s actually from an asian country. so nobody bitch at me!!)Asian girls (guys as well) are VERY materialistic, and dont want to think about anyone else but themselves. When he came to america almost 3 years ago, he said people here are so much nicer then there. how we met is a long story, but like i said, white people to them are different in looks, culture, and life. we have our troubles because of culture difference, but we love each other. Sure im lost when he is at work speaking Chinese (hes knows 5 languages O.o) but there again its a different expireance. like here in the US, lots of guys have asian fetishes…. because its hard to find here! look at any porn site and i promiss 9 times out of 10 they have an “Asian Fetish” section… the same concept goes for asian countrys about white people. he tells me its actually a privledge and an honor to be with a caucasian because all his friends want “white girlfriends” and his family is very happy that he is with an american girl. I never dreamed that i would marry a man from asia, but it just happens. we are different from one another and thats why we also love one another.
Comment by Kisselda on 18 July 2009:
I’m an Asian girl, who is currently having a sweet wonderful relationship with a caucasian guy (Finnish). There are so many obstacles…but we are working on it. e.g. currently long-distant but gonna meet soon.
Being with someone out of your own race, would give you another perspective of life to look from. I have learnt alot more things from him than i have ever learnt from people of my own race.
To TleighQ, im definitely not bitching at you…but i dont want you to think that all asian women are…quoted….”VERY materialistic, and dont want to think about anyone else but themselves”. I have been knowing this Finnish guy for 7 months but i have never asked him what kind of car he drives. Or how much money he makes a month, a year. Or how big is his house. Or if he has any insurance policies. All im asking from him is his sincere love.
Im praying for everyone’s happiness and joy, no matter who you are with
Comment by John on 21 July 2009:
King,
Do not stereotype Asian women as easy to pull,they aren’t. Some are just as hard.And Asian men spend too much time practicing Kung Fu. And you have been affected by the western media in terms of racial stereotyping. How would you like it if someone said “Black men cant be good husbands because they end up in jail before they reach 25″. That would be mean, right. Please don’t generalize people of race.
Comment by Danielle on 26 July 2009:
I am a white woman and recently began dating an Indonesian man. For the first time in many years I can see myself getting married again. He is sweet, considerate, loving and fun. He is not rich and sends money home regularly. My friends see this as a financial burden and would be a source of tension in their relationships. I find it refreshing to be with somebody so caring and responsible. If for some unforeseeable reason this relationship does not work out I will date other Asian men.
Since we have been seeing each other I have noticed several Asian male and white female couples. I’m not the only one … just search sexy Asian men on facebook.
Comment by Excalibur on 27 July 2009:
White women are more attracted to men with long and big penis that they always have fantasy about. I’ve noticed the majority of White women like to date bad guys that enjoyed lying and blinding their women
Comment by Excalibur on 27 July 2009:
Ok, i was walking and there is about 4 white girls walking together, then they saw me and started bursting our with disgusting laughs and waited for me to go near them, then when i got close to them because they happened to block where i was heading towards my home, all they do is shouted out and ran away (also some giggling) and started accusing me.
I was sitting at the bus stop and suddenly a Cambodian dude walked past me, stared at me and gave me the glare with one part of his lip all pumped up and looked down on me. Then he walked away and walked back again with a White girl on his hand. LOL, i noticed that white people like bad and evil dudes don’t they? they always go for racist liars lol, i will never date one crazy bitch like that. EVER
Comment by London Eugene on 1 August 2009:
Within a country you’ve got similar numbers of men and women of all races. If things are fair there should be just as many Asian men-Caucasian women relationships. But there aren’t. So are Asian women loose or are Caucasian women prejudiced in a nasty way ? There has to be something going on here. As regards Asian men being “defeatist” lets be clear; surrounded by the majority race and stereotyped at each turn since very young children, what the hell do you expect ! They’re hardly likely to behave in a way that might culminate in them feeling bad about themselves. Often it’s far better in the short-term at least to retreat into a shell, than risk it and be presumed by others as a chauvinist who want’s to bag/hump a white girl. As if this isn’t the mindset of Caucasian men, and the initial basis of all relationships, ie. sexual attraction. Digressing, I agree with Lisa’s sentiments entirely; I always use my tongue - it’s a far more dextrous appendage.
Comment by Darling2 on 2 August 2009:
Comment by Jude.Did you ever see a 23 year old white bald man?did you ever come across the druggies with no teeth with tattoes from face to toe. Piercings from eye to the toe? Young white fat girls who cannot walk but limp?thats is weird so please be nice stop attacking Asian men.Every race have their own kind of GIMPS.Stop blowing your own trumpet :-)Let us be kind to everyone while posting funny stuff here.My apologies lol
Comment by omondieu on 3 August 2009:
A very interesting thread indeed. I just thought I’d throw in my two cents.
I’m a third generation Canadian of Ukrainian descent, and I’ve recently developed a preference for East Asian men (I’m particularly fond of Korean men, myself). Working at an establishment that caters specifically to Korean families has fostered my admiration and respect for the culture and language (so much so that I’m now trying to learn Korean!). Not that I ever had any lack of respect for any Asian community: most of my friends in highschool were East or Southeast Asian.
My white friends and family poke fun at my soft spot for Asian men. They insist that I will never find a life partner in one, due to culture clashing.
Well, both of my parents are of Ukrainian descent, both born in Canada. However, they could not be more different. My mother is more “traditional” (being family oriented, stressing the importance of keeping one’s cultural language alive, being a devout Christian), whereas my father is the exact opposite (has no desire whatsoever to spend time with family, is ignorant of Ukrainian culture and the language, and is totally indifferent to religion). Their differences (among other things) ultimately drove them to separate and divorce. The funny thing is that my mother’s parents forced her to marry a Ukrainian (she was madly in love with an Irish guy at the time), convinced that the union would be more harmonious. Her brothers however, both married non-Ukrainians, and are still happily married.
My point is that sticking to “one’s own kind” does not always guarantee smooth sailing. We may find ourselves to be more compatible with people far outside our own cultures than with people within them. Let’s stop letting skin colours and cultural practices govern our relationships.
Comment by miri2008 on 8 August 2009:
I am a Caribbean woman, and for sure no main stream American media has told my story. For this reason, I have a heightened awareness that anyone wanting to know anything real about any cultural group who has recently immigrated to the U.S. would have to see those people’s story being authentically told by themselves within the context of their own culture. This is why I enjoy watching foreign films, where often sub-titles are required, as people tell their own stories about their own realities within a relevant context.
The term ‘Asian’ is as much a misnomer as the term ‘Black’, ‘Hispanic’, or ‘White’ as these are categories meant to facilitate generalizations and foster stereotyping. I have watched many Koreans tell their stories in their own cultural context, and it is a different story than the ones told by the Japanese. Obviously the Taiwanese story is far different from the Philippino story and so on. When you take the time to listen and learn about someone’s culture and outlook from their own perspective, it really permanently erases the caricatures and demeaning misrepresentations perpetrated by some ‘other’ who wants to caste themselves as superior.
Anyone not blinded by bigotry will readily admit that there are stunningly gorgeous males and females in every ethnicity that there is. There are gifted intellectuals in every ethnicity that there is. There are amazing artisans and artists in every ethnicity that there is, etc… Just the same, there are average and homely looking people in every ethnicity, as well as people who just do regular things and hold regular jobs without much fanfare. Every social ill known to mankind afflicts us cross-culturally, and we are all susceptible to physical illnesses and ailments. And, yes, we all bleed red.
Maybe it is time for more people to consider freeing themselves from being bullied and oppressed into making a political statement in their selection of a life partner. It’s really bad when someone else attempts to put restrictions and limits on what you should expect to be able to achieve, who you should consider dating and marrying, where you can go etc… But, you what’s infinitely worse? When you are trapped to the extent that you put those limits on yourself!
For those who are sticking to tradition in their selection of a life partner more power to you. For those whose capacity to love does not see other ethnicities and cultures as boundary markers more power to you. To have someone at your side to share mutual respect, caring, camaraderie, friendship, companionship and passion is a life blessing that has eluded many – if you’ve found that, enjoy your blessing! You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone who is not paying your rent/mortgage or feeing you.
Comment by rka on 12 August 2009:
I’m an AM from Malaysia and had my fair moments with interracial dating, but never date with WF yet, so far.
I always found WF as an attractive, smart, highly independence and fun to be with. Maybe these conclusions are derived from limited samples from much wider population - I worked in finance, and now Oil&Gas, and just moderately traveled to Europe/US. And… Oh yes, I got a few friends and relatives with IR relationship to WF/WM.
FYI. For those who haven’t been here in Malaysia, it a normal thing to have interracial relationship. (Of course the percentage is much smaller, but it is well accepted). We got Malays, Chinese, Indian, Sikh, aborigines, and a small US/Europe community etc) I guess the same goes to Singapore. The public policy goes along the way over here.
I was asking myself why I never considering dating WF before? Then the answer appeared was simple and clear: it’s easier to date women from your own background. It is never about being racist or prejudice.
Its takes a lots of open minded, tolerance and patience for any IR to work out. Sometime you might exhaust along the way. It’s like you are swimming against the tidal wave. With my demanding work, the least I want to have is a problematic relationship.
I give the highest respect for those succeeded in interracial marriage /relationship. It takes lots of sacrifices for both parties to make it. And I believe they are handsomely rewarded by being happy, if not more than the same-race couples.
And for me, I never rejected the idea of dating WF. In fact, I’m seriously considering it right now. You never know where your soul mate is……..And when you found one, all those so called problems and issues will be damn worth it to be wrestled down with.
Comment by Victoria on 12 August 2009:
When white women started dating/marrying black men most white men were furious but you never really hear white women complain about white men going off and dating/marrying asian women.
Comment by Shotgun007 on 16 August 2009:
To “Sterlingbros’….the last statement of your comment on 06/18 was very funny. I think the media and other industry help perpetuate some of these unfortunate instances of stereotypes and continue to give life to them in one way or another.
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Anyways, I’m a black female and while in college, I’ve always felt that Asian Men were attractive. As I look around in my community, I can’t help but realize how driven- -family oriented- and well spoken the Asian Men are. I don’t believe any of the stereotypes that I’ve heard.
But I can’t say that I’ve witnessed a lot of Asian men/white women couples though. I think I saw one on Wife Swap once, but that’s it.
I’m looking to see more African American women and Asian men couples, which is a rarity but times are really changing.
I’m out everybody… Take Care…
Comment by NBGchick on 26 August 2009:
Some of you all are sooo ignorant! I am an 18 year old beautiful brunette white girl..I’m not fat..actually I find it odd that someone would say most white women are fat because where I’m from white women are always insulted because they are “too skinny”..but both of those statements are just idiotic steriotypes..I have been attracted to men of many different ethnicities and would date a man of any race if we were compatible.. Just seriously ppl need to open their eyes and realize that we are all children of God and we are all beautiful..and I don’t care how corny that sounds..anyone who feels the need to argue with my comment..kiss my white ass!!hahahaha. P.S. Asian guys are sexy! (=
Comment by NBGchick on 26 August 2009:
Some of you all are sooo ignorant! I am an 18 year old beautiful brunette “white” girl [german,french,Cherokee,blah blah blah>>I’m actually a natuarlly tan female if we want to be specific..anywho]..I’m not fat..actually I find it odd that someone would say most white women are fat because where I’m from white women are always insulted because they are “too skinny”..but both of those statements are just idiotic steriotypes..I have been attracted to men of many different ethnicities and would date a man of any race if we were compatible.. Just seriously ppl need to open their eyes and realize that we are all children of God and we are all beautiful..and I don’t care how corny that sounds..anyone who feels the need to argue with my comment..kiss my white ass!!hahahaha. P.S. Asian guys are sexy! (=
Comment by NBGchick on 26 August 2009:
Also I have lived across the street from a Japanese female/Caucasian male couple my whole life..they are wonderful people..they met while he was in the military..by the way they are an older middle aged couple…he is not rich from where I can see so she is not a “gold digger” as some of these comments have made it seem..and the thought that asian women are submissive is just a big generalization because she is anything but that and actually most of the asian women that I have met are very strong minded and confident..I think that maybe their kindness is mistaken as them being doormats..anyways that’s how I feel..who agrees?
Comment by I_Am_Asian_I_Love_HAPPAS on 2 September 2009:
The types of women chosen here are all of the same type who desire the same characteristics in a dream man. Lets be honest though, if there was a guy who crossed their eyes and was good looking, despite the expectations of super high intelligence, the girls would fuck it..
Im asian.. I love Women… A white chick would be cool
but i also settle for better overall choice..
HAPPAS!- I love hot happas.
Comment by I_Am_Asian_I_Love_HAPPAS on 2 September 2009:
And i dont like these girls……..
Comment by xolang on 2 September 2009:
I’m Asian, and all of my relationships so far have been with white women.
I personally have always found Mediterranean (Turkish, Balkan, Italian, Portuguese, etc.) women more attractive than most of Chinese women anyway.
Comment by Robert Castillo on 6 September 2009:
cute
Comment by awsome on 9 September 2009:
Asian men and caucasian women are more common in certain parts of the U.S. but it’s not as common as white men and asian women couples like in the west coast for some reason. I see white men with asian women all the time in Seattle.
One reason why we see more asian men dating white women in some parts of the U.S. is because it’s easier to be attracted to someone from similar background like education, culture, class, etc. Many asian men are highly educated to be doctors, businessmen, engineers, etc and so naturally, any woman regardless of race will be attracted to that especially white women since there are more of them. Even though we may be seeing asian and white interracial couples, there’s still some obstacles for asians especially in the media. For whatever reason, the media tends to be very one dimensional towards asian men (not so much for asian women though there are stereotypes for them too). Also, asians living in the U.S. are kind of invisible and they are referred to as “the silent race.” Asian Americans don’t really get credit for anything whether it’s good or bad and are usually left out.
BTW, that youtube video is lame and irritating to watch but thanks for pointing that out, people can really judge for themselves to see how ignorant and narrow minded some people are (disappointing there were even asian women on there stereotyping).
Comment by tabs on 11 September 2009:
So, I am a white woman dating an asian man. We get looks out in public and even some rude comments are made toward him, but not me. Most of the time he just shrugs it off, but if I see that it hurts him, I stand up for him/us. I think it’s more that people think it’s like a circus act, “And now in the center ring…”; So “uncommon” that it needs a show of it’s own. No one knows HOW to react so they make asses of themselves by throwing on a sloppy accent or references to famous Asians (ex: Bruce Lee, Jackie Chan, Jet Li).
However, none of this has hurt our relationship. If anything, it’s made it stronger.
Comment by Andrew on 19 September 2009:
Kudos to the dude that blogged this.
But you’re ‘hypothesis’ as to why Asian men seek white chicks, are so bullshit.
I’m an Australian born Asian, but I’m barely Asian at all – Slim but very toned and muscular, extremely sport, not a nerd – hate math but I’m in the top English class haha – I don’t limit myself to the Asian cuisine although I love it and I have quite big eyes.
Personally, I’ve had a white girl attracted to me a while ago, but didn’t get the chance (or even the guts) to talk to her because she moved out. It just seems so hard to find any white girls interested in Asians, or maybe it’s just me because I’m shy and timid…
See that’s the thing, the majority of Asians are shy, but this goes hand in hand with their respect and love. I’m stereotyping here, but white guys treat their girls like a simple asset, or something they show off, whereas Asians take love seriously, and love their girlfriends with all their emotions.
Asians are so underrated and they’re the target of satire in the media, and that pisses me off.
I’m sure I could start a relationship with a white girl because I’ve been given that bright smile or that wink from a white chick many times… it’s just that I’m way too damn shy, and that irritates me. I guess I still have time tho, I’m only 16.
But a big message to all you white girls out there – Seriously, go try out an Asian, they usually create long lasting and loving relationships NOT TO MENTION, the gorgeous, gorgeous children that are made from an Interracial relationship, take for example – Misa Campo or Leah Dizion. They’re HOT.
AMWF (Asian Male, White Female) relationships are just usually so cute and last for quite a while or even forever, simply they look right together.
Here’s a video I posted up on YouTube talking about interracial relationships/ AMWF.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PcFni-uv3r4
God bless for reading my whole post and keep these comments rolling!
Comment by FASIANWOMEN on 19 September 2009:
I am an asian man that likes only Western women. I’ve dated only White, Black and Latin women who I find more attractive than asian women because they are more feminine. Western women are more voluptuous, have bigger breasts, butt, hips and longer legs. They are also more beautiful. Their faces, their hair…to me there is nothing more beautiful than a White, Black or Latin woman. But beyond that is their personality. They’re fun to be around because they are lively and passionate. A lot of Asian women try to act that way, but deep down inside they are critical, cold, insecure and just plain boring. Worst, their kids come out that way. My wife is a White woman and I couldn’t be happier. We have five beautiful children who are very popular and make me proud to be their father. They have my respectful and hard working ways and the charming personality and looks of my wife. I have found happiness and it is NOT with an asian woman. White, Black and Latin women are definitely the best.
Comment by Jade on 22 September 2009:
I find it really petty that some people on here have to get at other races because they are insecure about their own! Saying that white women are fat just is a way to make yourself feel better! I am not in any way racist and fully support the comments on here that express love excluding race. I am of chinese and (majority) caucasian descent with a chinese guy and couldnt be happier! I do think that asian women are very beautiful and friendly but I think its out of order when they feel they have to be rude about caucasian women. (if you notice way above, its not caucasian women hating on your race so dont hate back!)
Comment by nicole_marie on 23 September 2009:
hey,
i’m a white Canadian female who is currently involved with a wonderful Chinese guy. I don’t understand why everyone wants to make this about race? I love my boyfriend, he’s a great guy who is super nice and I think he’s really sexy. I know he loves me and also finds me attractive. He’s not the tallest guy in the world(about the same as me 5′6″) and he’s super thin, way smaller than I can ever hope of being, but to me he’s perfect. He’s incredibly funny, sweet, nice and intelligent. I just spent 4 months in China and thats is when we met. Currently we’re doing the long distance thing as I’m home in Canada and he lives in China. He comes from a traditional family, and a very small town even though he has been attending college in Shanghai. His family has accepted me. I spend time trying to learn about Chinese traditions and cultures and am also trying to learn chinese. He is also asking me about canadian culture and is constantly working on his english. We do this because we love each other and want to make our relationship work. We respect each other. Of course sometimes we have cultural misunderstandings, but we know that doesn’t mean either of us is wrong, its just different views. So I think you should be with the person you love, and who loves you, regardless of race. It doesn’t matter. People are people. Acceptance is key.
Comment by AMLuvsWF on 23 September 2009:
I am an Asian male who was born in Hong Kong, grew up and university educated as an American citizen in the United States. I have been living on the west coast cities both on the U.S. and Canadian borders for over one third of a decade now. I have seen many changes in interracial relationships, especially Asian and non-Asian dating and marriages. I have friends and relatives who are interracial married (Asian and Caucasian). I have seen sucessful interracial marriages and not so successful interracial marriage who ended up in divorce. Among those sucessful interracial couples, they are happy families with beautiful and intelligent half-half mixed children. I embrace those who have overcome styero typed and cultural barriers and make their interracial relationship worked.
I personally attracted to middle class white women who are brought up in the west coast cities, like in the Pacific Northwest, such as Seattle, Portland and Vancouver, B.C. White women who have lived among a multi-cultural mixed society are tend to readily and openly accept the other races who are different that the main stream.
I am a better than average look, handsome Asian male, 5′10″ tall and weight 168 lb, light brown eyes and dark brown-black hair. I am an average body, fair skin, tanned and have hairy muscular arms and legs. I am always mistaken by Asians (Phillipino, Chinese, Korean, and others Asians), as well as Caucasians that I have Asian-Caucasian mixed parents. They always asked me, “Does any of your parents a “White” person?”. Both of my parents are Chinese descent. I have not dated too many races other than my own and Cacasian girls. I am attracted to Cacausian girls who are cheerful, passionate, intelligent, open-minded, and who like and accept the other cultures, (especially mine-the Asian- Chinese cultures). My first girlfriend was a blonde hair Cacasian girl. Then, I had many dates with Asian and Cacausian girls with European origin nationalities, (blondes, burnettes, raven hair, red heads). I am specially fond of dating strawberry blondes. I found them very passionate, irresisible and sexually arousing when it comes to an intimacy relationship.
There are a trend of interracial dating and marriages lately. I have seen many Asian girls going for Cacausian and non-Asian guys, and many of Asian guys dating and marrying Cacasian and non-Asian girls. I would encourage people accept and marrying other races, Asian, Cacausian, Latina and Blacks. The next ten, twenty to thirty years, you’ll see more mixed race marriages. The mixed race marriage children will rise up to be the next generation of America’s elits and future leaders.
Comment by ugh on 23 September 2009:
Isn’t it painfully obvious? There are more white women dating Asian men because Asian women are taking all the white men.
Also, I can tell you that being an Asian man today is equivalent to being a black men 50 years ago, minus the institutional racism.
Comment by Too Bad on 24 September 2009:
Too bad Asian men don’t like black women. They seem to be in the same boat. For the Asian man “lucky” enough to score a white woman, he must be feeling the same joy as black men have been enjoying since the white man made it legal for black men and white women to walk around together in public.
Comment by asiansensation on 24 September 2009:
I believe this video was shot by undergraduate college students - which was well done - except they did not interview any white women. If you are going to do a video on something like this, it isn’t effective to exclude a group from it, especially if they are a part of the research! Additionally, some of the comments were made on a superficial level (what these girls individually find attractive, which is entirely subjective) and really very unimportant in establishing a long term relationship. What matters is within, not height, penis size, etc. And I am sure someone has mentioned the stereotype about Asian men and small penis size - a huge myth, let me tell you.
And then to shyness: isn’t this a universal truth with men interested in women? Few are able to just waltz over to a love interest and confess their adoration and desire for them. It is human to be shy or nervous, not a ethnic characteristic to blanket entire groups with. This is a shame because we are just creating barriers with these stereotypes. Also, for every metro sexual Asian dude, there are five metro sexual white dudes, so go figure!
I just felt like I needed to represent the white females out there: I am a white woman dating a handsome Filipino man and have been exceptionally satisfied in all situations and from every angle. I am tall, much taller than him, and this has not been a problem in anyway. My attraction to him is strong, not just physical (he is gorgeous) but emotional and intellectual as well. He is protective and attentive, and just wants to please me. I am loved like I have never been before, and it is beautiful.
Like others have mentioned, we need to get past this “oh my god, he is dating someone outside his race!!!???” drama. It really isn’t a “race” issue as it is a willingness to move past stereotypes, embrace the very very small differences between people and enjoy the huge commonalities that we all ultimately possess.
Comment by mariqueta on 27 September 2009:
well. most asian men tend to go for white women than their own kind. asian men needs a white girl instead of stupid asian women!! a white girl will treat an asian man with more love and have a more sexual side than an asian girl. a white women will love them more. and mostly all the time asian men tend to go for blonde hair girls. like me. of course!!! but all i can say is asian girl are fucked up and they have to suck it up!! asian girls date white men and asian guys date white girls. it looks much better. asian guys are just really sexy and do it for me, they are my type.
Comment by MKIM72 on 29 September 2009:
I am a white female that loves Asian men too…
Most of my boyfriends have been Korean (an nyeong ha seyo!) But my current sweetie is Chinese.
I just never found white men to be attractive at all… maybe its wrong to have an Asian fetish but I cant help it if I find Asian men to be sexy
I prefer men that are shorter than me… Im 5ft 8
Yes Asian men are more feminine looking than white guys (lack of body hair in general) But I like that..
Korean men are the tallest its true but they are so beautiful with those Korean bunny rabbit cheeks
I love Asian culture because its complex and has depth . American culture lacks that… IMO Asian men are superior to white american males… (plus Asian guys have better sexual stamina LOL)
Asian men tend to be a bit more possessive with their women but they treat their women better….
More white women need to hook up with Asian guys… you just don’t know what you are missing out on…
As I like to say… aint no finer fellow than one thats yellow!!
Comment by Nguyen on 9 October 2009:
I am an Chinese female who was born in American with a more traditional family background. Currently, I’m dating an Italian guy who seems like a sweet guy and has every good quality a person should have. On a personal level I don’t have a problem dating Asians or Caucasian guys since I’ve found both attractive.
However, with my past experience I have always have been hit on/sexually harassed on by Caucasian males, usually by older men who are one step away from looking like a homeless person *shiver down the spine*. I have also joined dating sites and end up getting messages from guys who have no problems discussing their young Asian girl fetish *again shiver*.
So I’m a bit of a sceptic as to what is going on in this guy’s head, since he is always saying that I’m beautiful and sexy. But if I’m all those things then how come I have never had an Asian guy ask me out? Is it really because Asian guys are shy? I kind of don’t believe in the whole Asian guy being shy thing. I honestly think that is an excuse, since most Asian guys are very ambitious and goal oriented. So why couldn’t they focus some of that ambition on a girl. Honestly, the worst that could happen is the girl is not interested, it wouldn’t determine your life.
The guy I’m dating is both a Caucasian and older then me by at least ten years old. So this could just me being paranoid but none the less I would still like to hear you opinions. Particularly, the other Asian girls and you’re experience on this subject. I would truly like to believe that Caucasian guys are not marriage/dating Asian girls for their exotic looks but more for their compatibility and personality.
Comment by minnesota man on 14 October 2009:
Its nice to know that there’s a website like this.I live in a area where I’m like the only asian around within two hundred mile ya in the middle of nowhere.I’m adopted raised by my white parents.at the beginning it was hard for me to get a girl but now I’m 26 yrs old and it seems like I’ve became a commodity in this area with the girls especially with the older hot ones I love it.But I do wish I could find someone to settle down with not like I wasn’t giving any of them a chance for something real.And oh ya with the guys in my area where I live there is lot of hostility at me when I do have a white woman with me,but I don’t care.well try to not let it bother me.Like I have any choice there’s nothing but white women and that’s all there is.
Comment by ImAwesome on 27 October 2009:
im a asian male who grew up in a white and black community. my first Girlfriend was black and now she’s a model for source and king magazine. Also for all those sterotypes out there that were all number crunching nerds that’s completely false. Because i suck so bad at math it’s not even funny. Im 5′11 which is pretty average but im bigger then your average American muscle wise. I just wanted to erase that scrawny asian sterotype out completly
Im attractrated to all races mainly any chick with dark hair,tan, and light eyes. but i have not once dated a asian chick. It’s not that i wouldn’t but i havn’t had the chance to. Right now im dating a italian girl i’ve noticed that our cultures are pretty similar, like that were pretty family oriented. Her family seems to like me and my family feels the same about her but when we do go out we do get them funny stares.
All im saying don’t belive all them sterotypes and if your do your just a ignorant fuck that deserves to get shit on simple as that