Have you noticed a recent surge in Asian men and white women being together lately? Bruce Lee and Linda Lee Caldwell were one of Hollywood’s first Asian man/Caucasian women celebrity couples … and that was in the 60s! So what’s changed?
The question is, why is this interracial combo not as widespread as other interracial combos?
There is definitely a higher percentage of Asian women with white men than ever before. Why?
The above video was taken by video crew who asked random and predominantly Asian guys and girls “Why Asian girls are attracted to white guys”. Stereotype… stereotype and more stereotype!
According to this video, most respondents described Asian men as being too shy or unassertive. The woman also stated Asian men were too effeminate and even too short! Apparently this is turning Asian women away and they are beginning to look elsewhere.
Asian stereotypes have been created by society in general. Enough articles have been written about what I would like to call stereotypical racism in the Asian community – for instance, how Caucasian men actively seek an Asian woman because of their exotic looks and supposed submissivenes?. How many have this so called Asian fetish or yellow fever?
Asian females, on the other hand, have constantly been disgraced and labeled “white-washed” women busy trying to climb the social ladder by their own communities and are finding more acceptance with races other than their own.
So what about the rise of interracial relationships between the Asian man and Caucasian woman? Is it that Asian men are fed up with their female counterparts and that they take revenge by dating Caucasian women? (just a thought) Or just that there are fewer Asian females in their dating pool so they are expanding their own horizons?
My conclusion is that maybe it’s not that at all. I think people should be intelligent enough not to allow trivial stereotypes to conform to their preferences on who to date. Why do you think there is a rise in the Asian man-Caucasian woman interracial combo?
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Comment by be honest on 14 February 2008:
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Comment by T-bone on 26 February 2008:
As a Chinese-American man married to a Jewish girl(Israeli no less), I’ll be the first to tell you that Asian men are generally not desirable by women, especially women of non-Asian race. These women who wrote how they are attracted to Asian men. Good for you but you are a minority.
My wife and I live in New York City, and we get stares all the time. People just assume we are not together or maybe just friends. Some will even go as far as avoid talking to me and speak her only. Let me tell you, I’ve seen it all. From neighbours to waiters…Very rarely I’ve encounter people who don’t approach us with some type of reaction.
Sometimes I see a fellow Asian men with a non-Asian woman, I feel like going over there to give him a high five. But I have even more respect for the woman. Because deep down I know, it takes an open-minded, mature and kind woman of non Asian background to go out with an Asian men.
I can’t say the same for Non-Asian men who go out with Asian woman. Sorry guys, it just doesn’t work this way.
Comment by SonicForge on 27 February 2008:
OK, now your guys are generalizing. This may be true in some cases but I think there is more to it then that. Anyways if you guys think that all Caucasian men date Asian women for the same reasons you are sadly mistaken. You know have you ever thought that maybe the culture itself or society has something to do with it. I don’t think it is so much as why Asian girls go for Caucasian guys.
I think it is why white guys have lost interest in white women. It has nothing to do with Asian women being more submissive as some people think as well.
It is more about respect and admiration for each other. Trust and companionship as well as being ones equal. I feel for some time now there has been a disconnect with Caucasian women. It always seems to be more about them then about each other. It is almost like they feel we owe them something. It is our responsibility to keep her happy and win her love. Why is it always the women’s feelings and never the feelings of the man.
I think Asian women tend to be more respectful and not as demanding. Not care as much about appearance as well as making the perfect man, enzyte anyone! Accepting him as he is!! Now I am not saying this is of all Caucasian women but I think there is a very large majority that do think this way. Society is somewhat to blame for this although. Men are supposed to be, well a MAN! We don’t have feelings and should just take it. We are all are just testosterone after all right? What possibility can a man have what a women can’t provide? This has typically been an American thing I think though as through my travels I didn’t find this to be the case as much elsewhere.
Anyways just because you see a Asian women with a Caucasian man don’t assume you know the reasons behind it. It would like be saying seeing a black guy with a white girl or a latin girl with a white guy. The ratio is really not all the different then other mixed relationships. Although we do tend to focus on that for various reasons. I have been dating an Asian girl for like 6 years now. You might find it surprising that we have never been in a fight and against popular belief she is HER OWN WOMEN!
Now you can call me yellow all you want. I have gone down the other path, believe me. I had spent over the last 31 years of my life doing so. I have dated many Caucasian women but none had worked out. Why is that that everyone automatically thinks that: Oh you are with an Asian girl! What’s wrong with you? What, we aren’t good enough for you? Hey, does she do your laundry? What does she have that I don’t, etc etc. They automatically get on the defensive without knowing the story behind it. We have demoralized so much as a society that nothing is treasured anymore. Reality TV clogging the airways. Polluting our minds and tearing apart everything that we were taught to respect. Yea, you can say it is only TV but is it?
The point is I don’t judge people by who they date or by first appearances. If someone is fat I don’t assume was because of overeating. If you are a nerd doesn’t mean your wear glasses and are unattractive. I am better then you just because I am rich. I will stab you in the back just because I can and misguide and disrespect you. If you give me enough money I will divorce my wife and take all the money!! Family is not important and I will make sure everyone else knows this as well. I can go on all day with this. This is Reality TV not reality.
So in closing in this first part. Whatever peoples reasons are for not accepting mixed relationships doesn’t really matter. Racism, indifference, acceptance, tolerance,tradition, religion, experience etc. Whatever you reasons may be not everything is in Black & White. Yea, so maybe i do date a Asian women and so what! I can’t think of a time I have been happier or enjoyed life so much. We respect each other and accept our differences. If the world is ever gonna chance for the better. We are going to need to get over our stupid differences. Otherwise the future likely won’t be a good one.
In part 2 I will cover what my experiences has been while living in Japan. This might partly explain why Asians go for Caucasian men at least from a foreign perspective. I look forward to it and I hope you guys don’t mind as it will make for an interesting read. I can’t really speak for Asian American women but likely are some similarities. ^_^
Comment by SonicForge on 27 February 2008:
Sorry for the long post I likely will just do in sections next time as will be easier to follow. Sorry bout that!
Comment by Anonymous on 29 February 2008:
I think the tide is changing due to increased media presence- offline (more asians in Survivor, Heroes, Lost, etc.) and online (Youtube- kevjumba, lipsynching chinese boys, winekone, etc.) of smart, funny, attractive, sexy, popular, successful Asian boys.
Comment by mary on 1 March 2008:
I’m all in favor of interracial dating, being a product of a healthy and happy multicultural home I consider diversity in relationships a good thing. I hope that both Asian men and women are finding partners who are right for them, regardless of race. The only thing that does give me pause is that there’s this tendency for minorities in all cultures to buy into the aesthetic ideal of the population amongst whom they live. I sincerely hope that this is not what’s happening and causing this phenomenon.
Comment by mary on 1 March 2008:
I meant to also add that I’ve met Asian men that I’m extremely attracted to. I don’t have racial preferences because I genuinely do look for what’s inside. The Asian men I’ve encountered have been extremely bright, well educated and well brought up. What’s not to like with that.
Comment by she is fly too on 11 March 2008:
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Comment by sheisflytoo on 11 March 2008:
if you all knew how fly The Realest was you guys wouldn’t talk mess about him period. a Legendary guy! A bit cocky but, theres just something special about him and his entire crew!
Comment by eastcoastgal on 16 March 2008:
I was beginning to give up on dating until a sweet young mediclal resident convinced me to go out with him. He is Asian and I am an Italian/white girl. At first, I have to admit I had reservations. However, he certainly seems to have his act together. I hope things work out, he seems like someone I would like in my life. He is well dressed, well mannered and has an excellent work ethic. Good luck finding that these days. Esp when you are dating in your early 40’s.
Comment by mossimo36 on 16 March 2008:
I just want to come out and admit the I am pro-interracial dating. Just for the record
Comment by harmony on 20 March 2008:
I am also a white american girl dating an asian man. Just as eastcoastgal posted - so many reasons why I hope this works out. He is more “together”, respectful, romantic, well dressed, and with an excellent work ethic… more than ANY American I have dated. It just seems that I have found a very rare amount of character that I have had such a hard time finding before. We do get a lot of looks. It is not pleasant. I hope people will get over differences and just look at how great it is that two people found love. And btw- He is very sexy - inside and out. Shy, short, etc… not my man.
Comment by RedRose on 21 March 2008:
I must say I hadn’t noticed any Asian male/White
female combinations rather a lot of White male/Asian
female combos. Guess that’s the way of the world -
is it important ?
Comment by onthethruway on 22 March 2008:
I am a wf married to a wm. The funny thing is, he is very attracted to Asian women and I am very attracted to Asian men! I’ve dated a few Asian men. They were very handsome, very nice and all together great to be with. My husband and I are very open to all people and all cultures. I have a Masters Degree in Asian Studies, speak some Chinese and Japanese and I have worked at a Korean company. My husband has studied various Asian martial arts and loves to read tradition Chinese and Japanese literature. What is my point? That we are all human beings. We need to grow up, get rid of our stereotypical views and get on with our lives. Who cares where you are from and what you look like. If things had become serious between me and the Korean guy I dated, I would have married him if he asked me. And believe me, lots of white guys I dated just wanted to date and not get married because of religious differences. I’ve never said “I won’t date a guy because he’s black, hispanic, etc.” That is an ignorant attitude that too many people have.
Good luck to everyone. I hope everybody finds their true love, no matter who they are.
Comment by Asian on 26 March 2008:
I am an east Asian. Let me say something that is very true, and that many Asians may not want to say.
Most Asians (excluding most Indians and Muslims) treat whites much better than they treat their own folks in their own countries. They have inferior complexity. They generally look down at blacks. They want their skin whiter. If given a choice, they would wish to be born white. Being white is a status to them.
A lot of those are carried over into America.
What I just said is the single most important cause of so many Asian females improportionally dating or being married to whites (but not to others).
Back in China, tens of thousands of Shanghai females have married to whites, even though the Chinese men there are much educated, civil, and less traditional (or less demanding on women to be more specifically). Shanghai people are the most westernized in China. Their foods have great influence from European cooking because of its semi-colonial history. In old times, many Shanghai people tended to use broken English to show off how much better they were than other Chinese. Many Asians just don’t love their own kinds (or even themselves) very much.
On the other hand, the West had viewed China (and most of Asia) as very backward. And much of the West’s racist or colonial history still has some significant effects in the western societies. Take US for an example, it was still a racist country officially 50 years ago. It wouldn’t be too hard for a white guy to sexually posses a female slave, 250 years ago. It wouldn’t be too hard for a white guy to have sexual contacts with black women. Then it wouldn’t be too hard for a white guy to get Asian girls. But if you switch the positions of white and the non-whites, it would be almost impossible even 40 years ago, in most places in US. Even today, many places are still very much racist or racially polarized. In many other places, racism can be more veiled.
Both sides decide the very unbalanced situations or outcomes.
So, I personally think that female whites who are married to non-whites are generally more respectable than many (if not most of) Asian females who are married to whites.
Comment by midnight shadow on 27 March 2008:
asian guys are not that short. they are pretty tall, if not as tall as northern european. it is so untrue that all white guys are tall. look at the greek, italian, spanish, etc. they are not tall.
asian guys are getting taller and taller due to better access to healthcare and nutrition. look at those chinese guys in shanghai and beijing. they are tall. some of them as taller than white american guys. i was in china, japan, thailand, india, and pakistan and i see tall asian guys everywhere. they are more moderninze nowaday. in the past, asian guys usually paid attention more into education and economic success and less on physical appearance. however, all these are changing today. they are more into good body fitnesse today. if you go to asia today, you will see nice and sexy muscular asian guys everywhere.
asian guys are not tall. the average height for japanese is 5′8″ and for chinese guys is 5′10″,. the average height for american is only 5′10″ which is the same as chinese. if we look at all the facts, we will see that there in nothing much in difference between asian guys and white guys.
in the future, i believe asian guys will get taller and bigger due to better access to healthcare, nutrition, and environmental changes.
Comment by midnight shadow on 27 March 2008:
this is in response to those asian girls who think asian guys are less masculine. i have to tell you that white guys in europe are alot more feminine than asian guys. they carry pauses and wear sissy clothing color. go to europe and you will find out the true. america is the only place on earth where guys try to be “macho man.” white guys in europe are just as feminine as asian guys from many parts of asia. don’t generalize every thing when you don’t know the truth. for example, guys in barcelona, spain, and berlin, germany are just as feminine as everybody else.
Comment by Janie on 27 March 2008:
What an interesting debate. I myself am the product, in a way, of a mixed-race family. My grandparents were Hispano/British, and when my grandmother came to live in Britain after the 2nd World War she was a rarity as a Spanish woman in England. Thankfully times have changed and hopefully happy and successful relationships can occur between any race. The world is becoming smaller! For the record I think what’s on the inside counts, but I don’t see why Asian men should be at a disadvantage, or that women of any race should prefer Caucasian men.
Comment by el on 3 April 2008:
bottom line-asian females see “white men” “running things”, so asian women have a burning desire to be with “those” who are running thing.
asian men SHOULD be upset.
all these asian females that date and marry white men are displaying just what whores they really are.
asian females should really be ashamed.
asian women are like the modern day “bed wench” for white men.
just sad.
Comment by Elearis on 7 April 2008:
I think the most important thing in any relationship is for two people to like each other. Perspectives differ from individual to individual depending on experience.
Personally, being a chinese guy, I was surprised at how I was first received by non-asian girls: Europeans and Americans, that is to say, many times better than how I have always been received by my “own-kind”. I dare say that I’m not ugly, and am fairly good looking. I’ve never met any whites aside from my relatives (yes, my family is happily married to western and northern Europeans, whose marriages/families seem to be doing better than my family married to locals) Whether this was mere coincidence or not, it’s true that there are jerks and nice people everywhere.
But then again, while there are asian girls (I will and can only speak about chinese Southeast Asian girls) who are happily married to white men (who in turn have settled down in Asia), most local girls prefer to date local, chinese men. IMO, it is a matter of culture - and differing ideals - that determine attraction. Physical appearances only play a secondary role when it comes to real relationships. In fact most of these whites men/asian women couples I’ve seen are short being physically attractive by any standard. Don’t get me wrong I’d take a pretty girl over an ugly one if I could help it! XD
Also IMO, the West tends to hold onto ideals that is traditionally perceived as illogical and/or impractical by Asians. Someone in this thread makes a point that Asian girls are more respectful and are more willing to “accept the man for who he is”. Which is true - because they respect the man who can provide for them and their families, as well as sexual contentment. About 90% of the males I know here expect their girls to be completely submissive to them. I’ve heard many remarks that reinforces this “ideal”: girls having too much freedom in the west, girls being both intellectually and physically inferior to men (and thus they should submit to the man by natural order), women-drivers being dangerous because of incompetence, women who speak their minds as being rude, how all men should have the right to have a wife and mistress(es), etc, etc… Atypical anti-machismo, contrary to the Youtube comments regarding their assertiveness
Whatever the case, if things continue the way it is, sadly the only happy outcome of my life in sight for me is to find, date and eventually marry a white girl. It’s not that I don’t want an Asian [Chinese] girlfriend, but only if they gave me a chance. The idea of inter-racial marriage, like trade, opens up opportunities and commodities to the world in hope that we find what suits us best.
Comment by kcrash on 24 April 2008:
I’m a Caucasian girl and am currently dating an Asian(Taiwanese) guy. The reason I’m dating him has nothing to do with his race. It’s his personality, his humor, his heart and our compatablity that makes me like him as much as I do. So far my boyfriend is the only guy I’ve ever met that has even come remotely close to the standards I set. I didn’t even think about the racial difference between us until about a month after we started dating. I guess I just don’t get why anybody would make a deal out of race.
The two people I get along with best, the two people that I have the most in common with are my best friend and my boyfriend. My best friend is African American and my boyfriend is Asian. It’s a mixture of races and until someone pointed it out to me, I didn’t even realize that it is an unusual mixture. It never even occurred to me that our race could be a problem or annoyance to anyone. I was just enjoying my time with two wonderful and diverse individuals who happen to bring a lot of knowledge, intelligence, culture and fun into my life. I think I would be very unhappy and at a serious loss if I had cut them out of my life based solely on their race. I learn a lot from both of them every day and would regret never having the opportunity to know them. I just don’t get why race is such a big deal with anyone.
Comment by 2ute4u on 24 April 2008:
kcrash, i absolutely adore you for not seeing color, but you must realize that America and some of Europe had enslaved African people for their free labour in order to make America what it is today;it was called “The Peculiar Institution” for a no. of reasons: black folks were relegated to chattel status,the women were raped and bred for their off springs, when they tried to escape, a medical term was coined for them, etc. it is peculiar because of the inherent contradictions in the system.American racism is unique because it is always purporting differences based on superficiality, because when a black and white person get together, a beautiful human comes out of the union, now say if two different cats get together and mate ,like a lion and a tiger, which actually did happen not too long ago,still produced a cat/feline. My point is at the heart of it all, the offspring is still a feline,with 50/50 DNA of each parent.Please remember too that the so called RACE/RACISM is a profitable commodity.IT garners a lot of moment the media resurrects it. If you can shirk off what the outside world thinks ,you’ll be okay,and when you close your door at night ,remember ,it isn’t anyone of them you are coming home to,but the one whose opinion matters to you the most. One last thing, when we die our bodies all return to dust,the same color. I hope this will help ,I know it was too long.
Comment by kcrash on 25 April 2008:
I do realize that there was slavery and there are a no. of reasons for racism, I’m not an idiot. I do understand why racism exists and why some people can’t look past the looks or culture of an individual. I’m just saying, “Can’t we all just get along?” I know it’s not possible and with the given histories of the world we live in, race is still and will be a major issue for years if not centuries to come. I’m just saying I personally don’t have a problem with it, and I wish other people would be the same. It would make the world a much better place if they could.
Comment by AA Patriot on 3 May 2008:
Growing up in an immigrant East Asian family, I agree with Asian’s comment dated March 26: “Most Asians (excluding most Indians and Muslims) treat whites much better than they treat their own folks in their own countries. They have inferior complexity. They generally look down at blacks. They want their skin whiter. If given a choice, they would wish to be born white. Being white is a status to them.”
I think most children of non-white, non-European immigrant parents can relate to this. For example, how do their parents typically refer to white folks? They call them “Americans” and they call their own ethnicities per the country of origin (i.e. Chinese, Indian, etc.), implying they are foreigners…it’s very subtle. This holds true even after they’ve lived here for decades! For many of these US immigrants, “America” is synonymous with the ideal life and white folks (caucasians) are synonymous with “America.” Therefore, to these immigrants, they subconsciously draw the conclusion that American whiteness embodies the ideal that they should strive to achieve.
Yes, many immigrant Asians do have an inferiority complex. What’s sad is that they do not take political and cultural ownership of their newly adopted homelands as non-whites, which becomes their right as American citizens, and work to define a new America. And it’s really the first and second generation children that suffer. In the home, these children grow up with the message that they’re [fill in the blank] ethnicity, inferior to white society. All the while they’re developing a very American identity outside the home. Let this simmer into early adulthood and you end up with an identity crisis or conflict once that person enters the world as an independent adult.
Some come to terms with it and move on with life. Unfortunately, there are also others who won’t acknowledge this internal conflict and never find peace. They continue seeing their non-white skin color as a curse and go through life seeking this false idyllic vision of the perfect life embodied in the fictional/idealized/romanticized white America, and Hollywood. (I’m not implying that associating with caucasians means self-loathing.)
Anyway, I hope this sheds some light on 1, 1.5, and 2 generation AA psychology.
If an AF married a WM for his character/personality/intelligence/etc., that’s fine. But I think it would be VERY naive to think race is never a factor in these arrangements. I think many of these AF have unresolved identity issues as mentioned above.
I find it amusing when young Asian and Asian AMERICAN females flock to and fawn over an average WM with an average education, average looks, is slightly overweight, etc. Especially when there are highly educated, handsome, athletic, assertive, successful, kind, considerate, and MASCULINE (not American hyper macho) AA men they won’t even give the time of day to associate with.
Maybe one reason you’re seeing more AMs marrying outside their own ethnicity is because they’re being shunned by AFs. And the lack of available AFs since so many are marrying WMs.
I think intelligent and educated black men and women have it worse, though.
A little background on me. Immigrant Asian parents, spent early years here in near poverty, grew up in a black neighborhood, went to a prestigious military academy, commissioned as an officer, served/continue to serve in the US military with several overseas tours including Iraq, two master’s degrees and a good job. Experienced prejudice and discrimination during my assignments outside California but mostly in the civilian communities and not the military. Dealt with stupid questions like “Are you in the Chinese military?” when my uniform is in English with a big U.S. on it and being asked by my military co-workers when I was going “home” to Asia. Some of the best people I’ve served with in the military were black.
One of the women I had the most respect for was white. She came from a poor family but was very hard working. And she had inner beauty in addition to being physically beautiful. She died in a car accident. I have met few women in life like her, regardless of ethnicity. Yes, I would consider marrying a white woman like her.
Comment by josh on 3 May 2008:
I’m Asian, and I only date Asian women. White women are unstable, and immature. I’ve been with three good-looking white women, and now that I look back at it, I wish I hadn’t.
Comment by elearis on 3 May 2008:
kcrash: You read my mind. Unfortunately simple logic seems to be the most perplexing thing to understand in the universe lol.
Comment by thatchinaboi on 6 May 2008:
For me, physical attraction at the most basic level comes down to genetic selection and dna pairings. Naturally, people tend to be less attracted to people that look like they could be their brother or sister! At another level, attraction is ruled by culture and society. Asian men in America have always gotten the shortest end of the stick, so-to-speak. From prejudices, to laws, to media; we have been beaten down and belittled. For instance, the very popular myth about Asian men having small penises. If you believe this blindly, you are truely ignorant, ’nuff said.
Comment by Nick on 14 May 2008:
I’m a Japanese Filipino guy and I’m 5′9″ 19 years old and I am not a push over at all. Though I do have troubles finding a girl and I am almost definitely sure it is because of two things: I can’t pull the courage to ask a girl out and I’m usually with a group of friends, making it harder for me to approach women and vice versa. I see all my asian friends, all of which have different personalities and physical features, and how they are in relationships and in all honesty I believe they make excellent boyfriends. They take their girlfriends out, spend lots of time with them, they are intimate with them. Their girlfriends, who are of various races, are happy with them. I am in no way saying that Caucasians or African Americans or Hispanic men treat their partner with disrespect or with negligence, all I am saying is that Asian men aren’t always the cold hearted and timid people that they are said to be.
Also you can’t just say that women don’t like us because we all have small penises because I know that it would be extremely dumb for women to assume that we are small and instantly reject us riiiiiight??? Unless women have x-ray vision how would they know? I mean if they slept with over ten asian guys every year and measured them all and they all came up short then I would understand. Also I have a 7.25 inch penis and I never thought it was small just got upset when people would assume that it was small.
In the end, I just say that some women like asians, some don’t… It’s not wrong for them to choose who they like better. But maybe we should show them that we are worth the time huh? Screw the nervousness crap and go out there and find someone because a lot of women like men with initiative. We can do both right? Be kind but take initiative and if you don’t succeed try and try again because once we find the person we love and we sit and talk with them or do anything with them, they don’t see us as just a stereotype, but as the one they love back. And no matter what race, if they are happy, then so can anyone else because there are far too many people in the world to all follow a trend.
I don’t believe race has a whole lot to do with it; however, it might be personality, we all should ignore all the negative things being said and not let it affect our confidence.
Comment by DK on 27 May 2008:
this is such bullshit
i am asian, specifically korean
i’m not trying to be cocky, i’m just stating the facts
first of all, i’m 6′1” and i’m 16
and i have broad shoulders (not to forget my pecks and abs), even to compared
to my black, white, hispanic classmates
i play varsity football, hockey, and baseball
and lastly, i have a 7 inch dick, no lie
basically i contradict everything that the
fat ass ugly asian bitch (there’s only one in the vid) said about asian men.
and you know what, there are more and more asians
who are considered big and tall nowadays (6′0” +)
the stereotype that asians are small used to be true not only because of genetics, but also because of
nutrition and habits (such as playing sports)
and what’s more is as much as there are small asian
penises, there are as many small white penises
the averages of white men and asian men are actually similar; however, asian men don’t diverge from the average that much as white men do.
Actually i don’t have a problem with any of the things the other girls in the vid said, but what the only ugly fatass bitch really pissed me off,
because before she makes such statements, i personally think she could reflect on herself and her standards in relation to herself, because i really don’t think any man of any race
would consider her attractive.
long story short, i may be asian but i’m a boss because i get girls of any race, whether they be white, black, hispanic, or asian.
Comment by jewel65 on 28 May 2008:
I’m a English wf and my husband is Japanese. We were physically attracted to each other and we got on really well, like best friends. I learnt Japanese, so I could speak with his family, and understand more of the whole culture which I knew nothing about before. We had great sex nearly every night, (the stereotype of Asian men being small down there is bullshit!) We had two beautiful intelligent mixed-race children, and I put all my effort in to being a great wife, lover and mother. And then, after 10 very happy years, he left me for some other white bitch who happened to have a lot more money than me. This just goes to show that race has absolutely nothing to do with anything, all humans have the potential to fall in love, fall out of love, betray the person closest to them.
In the words of Paul Robeson, “Beneath the accident of race and culture lies the soul of man”….
Comment by Pebbles on 9 June 2008:
I an dating a Asian-American guy and I am a white female. We’re together because of how very compatible we are, and I love him for being such a wonderful person. We’re better for each other than anyone else I’ve ever dated. It’s hard sometimes not fitting in with his family like I’d like to- not being a part of their Chinese culture and standing out in family photos- but we’re working on that together. Being white, I’ve never had to deal with race on a personal level until now. Sometimes I detect stares and disapproval, or just mild curiosity that’s still hard to deal with sometimes. Now I understand better what minorities deal with in American society. When I see another interracial couple walk by, I feel accepted and want to give them a high five. Thinking about race and being conscious of it is a real head trip for me. It’s hard being so aware of it and I wish I could be as strong about ignoring it as some of the other people in this forum seem to be. I’m trying to learn how. I worry that our kids will struggle more than they would if they could easily fit into a category, but I’m hoping we could give them the kind of foundation they’d need so that they wouldn’t be bothered. He’s an incredible man and treats me better than anyone else ever has, and I’m sure every Asian girl with any smarts secretly thinks he shouldn’t be with me but with an Asian girl. Heck, I think most girls would wish they could be with him, race aside. There’s no way I could ever stereotype him. He breaks all molds. He deals with race like a pro, but I’m more of a novice. Don’t hate me for my “white privilege” of not having to deal with race much until now… just being honest.
Comment by mossimo36 on 10 June 2008:
Interesting thread so far.
Comment by Nandi on 10 June 2008:
Wow, too funny to take seriously or honestly…However, I think Asian women do not think or wish it at all….Afterall, they tend to date and marry outside their race moreso than their male counterparts..
Perhaps it is something else….
Comment by King on 11 June 2008:
this is all rubbish i think that asain woman are hot and easy to pull whereas asian males are too busy practising ther kung foo i have a dream that one day we will all get along
Comment by George Chell on 23 June 2008:
You people might like these stories…
http://newsblogs.chicagotribune.com/race/2008/06/interracial-mar.html
http://www.canada.com/vancouversun/news/story.html?id=82eef069-9da1-4953-943a-a51c6613d0aa
Strange most of the white women/Asian men couples seem to have only daughters…and many of them tend to be super smart!
Comment by John on 26 June 2008:
I can’t speak for every asian race, but I know that in Korean society, Korean women look for money. Since I live in New York, where many investment bankers and lawyers live, many Korean girls date these men. I’ve seen many facets of Korean women. They go out with a guy for the money and cheat on him with some other guy she’s interested in. I have many Caucasian friends to which this has happened. Also, there are a huge amount of Korean women who work in the escort service industry in New York. Since they refuse to “service” a Korean guy, which can be easily seen by the last name of the caller, they end up meeting mostly Caucasian men. I frequent bars and clubs, both Korean and American, and recognize that a vast majority of the Korean women who hang out there are “room salon” girls. Room Salon girls are not prostitutes but they are subjected to being handled and fondled by their clients. They shy away from the Korean community because they are afraid that someone will recognize them as such and don’t want to be involved in the Korean scene.
Also, there is an unwritten prejudice against Asian men in the night life scene in New York. They let Asian women into the clubs and lounges but unless the asian man is willing to buy a table for around $1000-$2000 they are denied access. I’m lucky since I know many promoters in the scene so I can get into these clubs but I still get hassled by hosts and bouncers with the announcement of the private party routine, even if I’m with 2-4 girls and I’m the only guy with them. I even had a friend who knows a big party promoter at one the hottest spots in Manhattan and the guy told my friend (who later told me), next time don’t bring the asian guy or send him home now and you can get in.
Because of these types of situations asian men don’t have the same opportunities of meeting caucasian women unless it’s at the local bar. Since asian women are admitted readily into these types of places, obviously they meet all caucasian men and the odd 1 or 2 asian man. But since these asian men come with women, it’s hard for them to venture out and meet other women in these clubs. Try going to a New York club as 2 or more asian men and you’d most likely be denied entry unless you are willing to cough up that grand or two.
Comment by Ramen on 14 July 2008:
I am an east Asian. Let me say something that is very true, and that many Asians may not want to say.
Most Asians (excluding most Indians and Muslims) treat whites much better than they treat their own folks in their own countries. They have inferior complexity.
Please,speak for yourself. Maybe this is true in Chinese culture but certainly NOT true in Korean culture. Among Asians Koreans are perhaps most nationalistic.
We don’t hold whites on a pedestal. Japanese are famous for that.No offense but most self loathing Asians tends to be Chinese. I’ve come across more ChineseAmericans with such low self esteem here.
Most Korean parents wouldn’t want their sons to marry non Korean girls. But this is changing as well. I’ve noticed more Asian American men dating and married to white women here on the east coast (New York, Philly,DC)I tend to pay attention to such things since I’ve been married.
Matter of fact, at one point in a small park in Philly my wife and I counted no less than three couples like us with kids. I was really surprised,usually its WM/AF couple.
I think more and more younger Asian American guys realize they shouldn’t be bound by their cultural traditions anymore.
Comment by kazy on 27 July 2008:
Im a asian dude living in nyc and let me tell you alot of white chix check me out.. its obvious they do double takes and smile at me and all that but honestly i only date asian women.. i have big azz eyes and chizled face and nice nose.. sometimes people say i look mixed but im 100% taiwanese.. i guess my point is if you look like a fob you aint gonna get no attention from non-asians.. and dont grow your hear out.. clean cut that thing…
Comment by Patti on 31 July 2008:
I happened upon this site researching a related topic and found the comments interesting. I gather that I am WAY older than most of you so I can say with ease that I’ve “been there and done that” long before many of you were born.
I have never thought that the color of one’s skin determined the way of the heart .. and in saying that if you truly love someone you make it work — I have for 29 years and counting! Love (and in my case) does conquer all — and trust me I’ve been on the receiving end of some nasty racist comments in the early years of our marriage (I’m White and my husband is Filipino).
As a point of interest, if you aren’t familiar with the story of Mr. & Mrs. Loving perhaps you might enjoy this link:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loving_v._Virginia
Comment by Nandi on 31 July 2008:
Patti…Great Post!!!, and you are right in a nutshell you can make anything work, if the love and commitment to each other is there…You can become an example, rather than a failed statistic or giving into racism of any kind..Much like the Lovings, who certainly had more issues to deal with than any interracial couple of today will ever face.
Thanks for your post!!
Comment by Patti on 2 August 2008:
Thanks Nandi!
It was 1967 (the “summer of love”) when the Supreme Court ruled that the Miscegenation Laws (which were instituted in the 1600’s) were unconstitutional .. 12 years later when my husband and I married it was still a subject that enraged many.
Time revolves s-l-o-w-l-y and, more often than not, it takes years to come to terms with change. Worldwide, however, interracial relationships (other than the main topic of this blog) have quite a long history. Prior to Loving v. Virginia (1967) there was Pace v. Alabama (1893) and McLaughlin v. Florida (1964). In another part of the world, miscegenation was just one of several charges leveled against Jose P. Rizal which ultimately led to his execution in 1896 in the Philippines (re: Josephine Bracken). Other interracial relationships predominate in history include the marriage of John Rolfe to Pocahontas, Thomas Jefferson and Sally Hemmings, and, centuries before them, the relationship between Caesar, Cleopatra and Mark Antony just to name a few!
Comment by Asianman on 24 August 2008:
I am an Asian guy, and I find that stereotypes fuel the interracial disparity more often so from the Asian girl-white guy side.
I’ve met Asian guys dating white girls and they actually talk like normal people. But when I meet Asian girls dating white guys, seems like 80% of the time the Asian girl is putting on some kind of front. like they can’t just chill.
I find talking to both American Asian and white girls different than talking to European girls. Often talking to girls in the US, I find that you can get the “nice conversation” with white and Asian girls in the US, but often it’s as far as you’ll get. However, in Europe, I find the girls a lot warmer to Asian guys in general because there are no prejudices there. Plus, European women are a lot more fit. So, if you Asian guys aren’t happy with your dating life in the US/Canada/anglophone country, try the rest of Europe. Avoid Portugal, Spain and Greece, girls don’t dig us there much.
Try France, Germany, Eastern Europe and you’ll be amazed.
Comment by Another P*ssd off Asian man on 24 August 2008:
I am from Europe! No way man! As you can tell i am a asian male living in the UK! I can tell you there is no mixing go on in the UK! Buts its the same story with White men and Asian women! Too many and it never stops! They like you because you are an American which is exotic to european, even english women have a Americanphile fetish! If you lived in Europe or in the UK long enough the local whites stay away from the asian population or BBC(British Born Chinese) males population!! If i moved to America with a British accent, do you think i have a better chance of success! Its because i wud be exotic!
Comment by The Olympic Games: Postive Media Representation on 24 August 2008:
Postive Media of Asian/Chinese People in the Olympics, which can have a added benefit to both portral of both sexes and all asian races. Moreover, an additional reason may be that there has been predication that in the forseeable future of china being the next economic and miltary superpower highlighted in the media, which means more attention have been paid to the imminent threat of the yellow perils by whites, and its ability to match that or even destroy America.
Comment by Real Deal on 27 August 2008:
It is the media and entertainment industry. Years ago Jewish men were considered to be very ugly, but they keep trying to paint themselves in a very good light (such as pairing guys like Adam Sandler, Woody Allen, and Jerry Seinfeld with good looking women). This then influences the public.
Comment by Its all gravy on 31 August 2008:
Hey Real Deal,
Jews been running Hollywood since its birth. Who founded these movie studios in Hollywood,such as, Warner Bros, Goldwyn Meyer,Fox, etc. How else can you explain such dorky swarmy actors like Adam Sandler and Ben Stiller becoming leading actors?? Of course, they’re going to paint themselves in very positive light while sterotying minorities. Hollywood has the greatest impact around the world than any other external factor when shaping ones’ perception. Unfortunately, many self loathing Asian women believe these sterotypes as well they cling on to any white guy they see. These women can’t stand the sight of their reflection staring right back at them. Sadly these women tend to be nocturnal and rid of themselves with any mirror in their homes as well
Thus, in order to deflect their “asianess” they chim in on Asian male bashing as well, in their delusion minds that way they’ll be more accepted by their Asianphile white admirers.
So I think we Asian American brethen should look more and more outside of our race or ethnicities to find quality life partners,as I did. LOL!
I myself, a son of an old fashion Korean parents, have always marched to a different drum so I never had any problems dating women of different races as more Asian American men are doing as well. According to 2006 US Census, 40% Korean American men either born or raised in US since early age are married to white women. And they say we can’t get laid :p Its usually the recent immigrants who don’t date out.
And availability of European women as someone mentioned, moi being a social butterfly and globtrotting (on a budget) single male, used to dated many European women ,here and abroad, in general I find European women to be more cultured and less materialistic compared to their American counterparts. If you’re an Asian guy in Europe born or raised and can’t hook up, you’re hopeless and should consider mail order brides.
Bon chance.
Comment by lord of the flies on 4 September 2008:
Asia? thats a big continent, you people have left out the interesting
cultures of the north, like Turkey, Kazakh, Mongolia.which have asian white mixed people from hundreds of yrs ago, since Genghis Khan,or further back! NOT NEW CONCEPT “THIS WHITE ASIAN THING” MOST TRIBE FROM FROM COLUMBIA AND NORTH AMERICAN INDIAN ARE KNOWN TO HAVE MONGOLIAN GENES.
Comment by pathfound on 22 September 2008:
Chinese men are sexy…
I’m married to one (and he’s from China too). He’s dynamic and he’s a firecracker.
I’m caucasian.
It’s beautiful.
And he’ll be a great father– I know.
and btw, Chinese men don’t have tiny penises. Why do non-Chinese men always say that? I’d like to ask them one question:
How do you know?
Comment by drew on 27 September 2008:
This is normally taboo but there are practical reasons why “some” asians marry white males. To have a more better lookings kids. Some filipinos do that, to have that meztiso look. It is rather superficial. Of course nobody wants to admit it. But luckily for asian men, not all are supercificially picky. I do admire mostly Latinas dont stoop down like this. There is nothing wrong with hooking up with white men. I don’t blame them, but I blame directly when a filipina strictly say to herself I only want a white guy, and no other race, that is very close minded in this century, ( u know who u are ), I dated a white woman, black, asian, latin coz there is a reason nature created different races, for variety. And it must be welcomed.
Comment by Latina on 29 September 2008:
I’m latin, not mexican but from South America.
I’ve heard caucasian men dates Asians because they are obedient….is that true? I also heard caucasian men date Latinas because we take crap that caucasian women don’t.
I’m not putting anyone down….I just want to know if this is how you guys really feel?
Comment by crutin on 10 October 2008:
CRUISINS WATCHING TOO MANY HOLLYWOOD MOVIES. KARATE KID IS FICTION GET OVER IT. ASIAN WOMEN PREFER ASIAN MEN LOL.
I think Latina is correct. In various internet sites, Latinas and Asian women are advertised as meek.
Comment by lazy on 11 October 2008:
since when did the word asian mean “yellow?” lol did the asian continent get hit by a jaundice epidemic that i missed? good thing i didn’t get infected otherwise i’d be “yellow” too. whew.. the question asked was: why are asian men & white women couples more common lately. the answer simply is the ppl’s increased sex drives or ppl being more horny now than ever(to simplify for the wannabe gangstas here.) with the invention of the interweb and the proliferation of affordable high-speed online services and the ubiquitous porn materials it’s inevitable. we all know that even kids as young as 7 or 8yrs old can watch porn w/o much effort if left unsupervised nowadays. when ppl get horny they wanna hook up w/more women no matter their race to satisfy their urges: simple as that. i go out w/white chix coz they’re around, many of them whom i’ve met, @least where i live and work, fit my standard of beauty and fitness and i just wanna have sex some more. i don’t care if they’re dumb or not funny or any of that crap like most ppl who try to project a false sense of humanistic character trait or to be politically correct bullshite like that. i don’t do that crap. i go out w/women if they’re attractive and not fat w/o regards to their character and intellect coz i wanna have sex w/them. it’s that simple. that’s just to give a different perspective on why another non-”yellow” asian guy like me going out w/a white chic. if i have to use the word prefer then i’d prefer to go out w/an asian chic preferable not “yellow” but if she happens to be one then hopefully she tans easily, maintains the tan for a long time and doesn’t peel when they lose the tan. oh ya she has to be no less than 5′4 w/an appropriate BMI, no less than a B cup, have light brown or even pinkish hued nipples, non-roast beef looking vag, not flat footed, don’t have webbed feet/hands, narrow and tiny navel, no paunch, have a good waistline, no tats, no xtra piercings besides the ears, short jet-black-shiny-good bodied hair, no unibrow, porcelain complexion (meaning impervious to pimples, zits & acnes coz i’ll take care of that part haha), not buck-toothed fairly even white teeth, soft skinned, multi-orgasmic, can squirt or willing to be able to do so, can match my horniness, doesn’t talke like a valley girl or a wannabe gansta yo, and of course rich–preferably filthy rich but just rich would be good enough. btw b4 ye call bullshite on me, my ex whom i parted with 3mos ago is a gorgeous blonde who’s dad is a highly respected brain surgeon in beverly hills who also gave her a porsche carrera gt when she got accepted into stanford med school. so bullshite on me, a lazy non-”yellow” asian bum who drives a beat up pick-up truck and wear flip flops all the time that i got a damn thong tan lines on my feet fool. fob all the way i always say. i guess there’s no inferiority complex here or maybe there’s too much that women like my ex became disoriented and took pity on me trying to make me into a human @least americanized; or maybe she wants to make herself feel better by thinking that she’s doing something good for some1 else besides herself. i digress…
gotdamn insomnia. made me waste time getting carpal tunnel for this shite. fooken eh
Comment by yo on 14 October 2008:
I think it all has to do with how you perceive in the world. If you grew up with a lot of mixed races, you will be comfortable dating someone outside your race. Unfortunately, there are still some places in the U.S. where racial prejudice is very high!
Comment by ansitruda on 18 October 2008:
I am a white woman, and I have always had a soft spot in my heart for men from the Far East (China, Japan, Korea). I love the smooth skin, jet black hair, the dark, almond eyes the high cheek bones and those beautiful, full lips….it is sad that my white co-workers think I’m crazy. I don’t like working for haters and bigots, but it pays the bills. I just wish the rest of the world would wake up and smell the coffee. We are all humans. Sometimes we forget that.
Comment by harold on 30 October 2008:
I’ve dated, white, black, Hispanics, and middle easterners. I don’t date asian women because I’ve heard men who are married to asian women have higher risks of heart attack/stroke by 20%. Have you heard an asian woman scream, finding out how you bought an engagement ring from Wal-Mart? I can imagine it sounds something like a pig burning alive in rubber tires being drowned under water at the same time.
peace out.
Comment by Buddie on 4 November 2008:
Yeah… it does not matter how the couples should look like and we are live in the modern world now. The racism period had gone. We should live in peace. Anyone can be with anyone! Black with White, White with Black, Asian with Black, Black with Asian, Brown with Black, Brown with Asian, who cares???
all i know it is the look of love
Comment by April Ann on 6 November 2008:
It would be hard if my one of my Parents married an American man or women. It’s hard for me to be mixed race but I don’t look Spanish Chinese Filipino. I should be proud of my heritage even though I don’t have an American Mother.
Comment by Beo on 12 November 2008:
white dudes end up with ugly asian women that asian men don’t want. that’s the true!
Comment by Beo on 12 November 2008:
white dudes end up with ugly asian women that asian men don’t want. that’s the true!
cut the how we should not be racist crap, it’s racist
Comment by Not A Bro on 13 November 2008:
I don’t know what part of the country this trend appears in but I know that one Asian guy is actively looking for Caucasian women and yet not getting any.
Comment by Not A Bro on 13 November 2008:
Maybe Caucasian women know where the money is: Asian Men (not Tommy Vu).
Comment by Peter on 13 November 2008:
You know you like us. We sexy as hell. Strong…Silent…Manly…
Azn Guy / NYC
P.S. If you got game, you got game.
Comment by g on 28 November 2008:
Asian men aren’t seen as sex symbols (NO THANKS TO WILLIAM HUNG) except in asia and the ones who are built like body builders.
What we need right now is someone like Bruce Lee, there’s Tiger Woods but it would be nice to see someone like Bruce Lee that dealt with fundamentals.
Comment by Fortune Teller on 20 December 2008:
The reason why white men don’t like white women and go out with other women is because all white women are fat as hell. And you ask the question why Asian men are not going out with them ??? Name one person who would wants a fat slob walking around with them ??? Not me. I am not saying all are fat but the majority of them are !!!! about 90 %
Comment by Fortune Teller on 20 December 2008:
So don’t put the white women on a high platiform. It’s quite obvious a white person is writing about them. Look around guy look at how many out of shape fat white women there really is in the USA. And the funny thing is some white women like being fat. lol
Comment by NotABro on 20 December 2008:
I hear the brothers like the extra chunky phat white women. Us Asians will take the other White women. Thanks for the leftovers! They are hot!
Comment by Fortune Teller on 20 December 2008:
I am a Asian American - my preference and who I can see myself marrying and feel comfortable with is a asian women. Back in the day when I was younger I did date all nationality. So I have gotten my share of p_ _ _ Y. :] After experiencing different nationality I prefer to be with my own. Due to being aware of who I am and being proud of who I am. I will never consider marrying outside of my race. The asian women and men who judge asian in a negative way they are lost and dumb as hell. Because they are only talking negatively about themselves IDIOTS. And forget about the ones who prefer only white, spanish or whatever. They are either lost in their minds or white washed. And for the one’s who marry ameican or soldier. Their is no love in there. How do they communicated ? By pointing and hand gestures ? That really funny on how dumb the americans are they are only after American citizenship or they are from a really poor family situations. To be able to use an american in that way is funny. American think they prefer them over asian men lol. But to all my asian peeps out there who are proud. Represent by doing the right thing.
Comment by Fortune Teller on 20 December 2008:
To all asian out there let break this
f_ _ked up sterotype about us in America. I heard enough crap from these f_ _Ked up whites, blacks and spanish IDIOTS. Let get crazy and do everything opposite of what these people think. Let’s prove that we are better than them. In what they can ever hope to be. That all I have to say.
Comment by Asiandude on 22 December 2008:
Face the fact :
Asians are on average smarter than caucasians, and they make better husbands and parents ( less divorce rates). Asians are more responsible.
Girls( asian/caucasian) that choose caucasian boys are dumb. Prolly breakup/divorce within 5 years. Period.
Comment by SAVLuvAsianDudes on 24 December 2008:
Call it what ya want!!! I have been told I have yellow fever! I have dated my …well more than my fair share of asian guys. Some were born and raised here, some just raised here. To me its like this, if ya got it, ya got it! I am mexican 100% but looking at me you would never know it, I look white. My best girlfriends are moslty asian (chinese or viet) or south asian as in Indian from India. I have dated asian and white guys. No difference same kind of guys, except some of the asian guys were just more attractive to me. (Rick Yun of the Fast and The Furious and Andy Lau of House of Flying Daggers are freakin HOTT!!!) I am with an Asian guy now and he is agressive hot fun and the sex is awesome, as has been the case with alot of the asian guys I have been with. And I do not know about the older generation, but the ones my age and younger know how to throw it out there, and if they want to hollar at a girl… they will!! Some it worked out for, some it did not and it had nothing to do with them being asian or me mexican or white as some see me. Sometimes you also have to learn to be comfortable around their setting especially if they hang out with all asians. It was no big deal for me as I have always hung out in large asian circles. Oh and dont believe the hype that all asians are good little smart math genius who stay home and read books all day and night!!! There are some thugged out asian dudes out there who are losers with a bunch of baby mama drama. Cheaters liars, sex addicts and with criminal records and bad credit. Not that I have dated any, but I have GF’s who have!! Some also have alotta of cash big ballin rides, hella tat’s, and no job!!! And some have 9 to 5’s with college degrees and still have a lot of drama and multiple girls white, black, latin and asian. But it’s all good to me!!!
Comment by NotABro on 24 December 2008:
Hey SAVLuvAsianDudes, have any White or Latina GF who want to go out with a Filipino/Chinese/Spanish mix? Great in the sack, have a job and degree and have a bad side at times.
Comment by SAVLuvAsianDudes on 29 December 2008:
LOL!!! All my girls are asian and hooked up right now! But I will keep ya in mind!;)
Comment by SAVLuvAsianDudes on 29 December 2008:
If I get one for ya I will hollar!!!;)LOL!
Comment by Keito on 30 December 2008:
Here’s my 2 cents; that is if anyone is interested to know a viewpoint from a person born, bred and living in Asia.
I’m a Chinese (not from China) and from another part of the world. I’ve dated many Chinese men .. and 2 serious relationships previously; before I met my partner and we’re about to be engaged
Coming from a mostly Chinese population, I don’t blame those women for wanting White men more. My partner happens to be
Chinese too, but he’s very different as he has been to, live and grew up in Australia for much of his life. His viewpoint in terms of relationship and respect for women is what attracts me in the first place.
My experience with Chinese men before my partner has been sadly … lacking. I’ve dated a guy who loves women wearing pink and requested I do the same on our next date. Another guy’s viewpoint of a woman in life is to sit at home and provide him babies .. lots of babies .. like a baby machine. I was really digusted of course and went the other way. A friend introduced me this man who earns very little and yet does not agree that his partner should work too to help with expenses. One of the major problems with the men I’ve known and seen in other people’s relationships (which broke down or ended in divorce) are either the men is very much a
mummy’s boy and needs his partner as his ‘mom’; lets his parents control the girl’s life, her job and their marriage; or money issues which the wife is not allowed to be out and working. All this happened to my relatives and cousin sisters by the way.
My first relationship went down the drain when he left me by the roadside at 10pm … in a secluded area … after we had a fight. My second one had no respect for me whatsoever, hung up my calls whenever a ‘discusssion’ it not to his liking and had a affair with his ex. I was scarred from this experiences and it took more than 2 years to finally accept the love of my new partner .. which he stood by me in through this times and for that I’m very grateful.
That is to say, not all relationships are bad. Not all women want a ‘worldly’ man, it depends on their own ideals of a family life. I know of female friends who does not like White men and prefers Asians more due to same cultural background, beliefs and most importantly able to communicate with their families. They typically marries into a very traditional family, where the parents-in-law helps them make most of the couple’s decisions; from where to live, what food to cook for their husband to how many grandchild they want.
But for me, I do not want to marry into a family and to be told by my mother-in-law I have to quit my job and be a housewife, even though I have a Masters degree in Science and earning well; and worse of all my partner doesn’t stand by me. I do not want to put my life in the hands of my husband or his family. I just want to be … me.
Comment by Keito on 30 December 2008:
Maybe it’s just my luck .. who knows. But my previous experiences and 2 bad relationships made me a very sceptical person, untrustworthy towards men in general and my current partner had a really tough time dealing with me in the first 3 years of our relationship. I find it very hard to trust men. But he was very stubborn, he stood by me, he believed in me and because of the good he has shown me (even though he does not deserve being given such a hard time for other people’s mistakes), I’m a much better person now. I learned to trust and love again. It’s too good to be true … sometimes I’m so afraid it’ll all be taken away from me.
Comment by homesteader on 30 December 2008:
remember Pearl Harbor
Comment by NYC asian on 31 December 2008:
Keito, I don’t understand what asian guys you know, but all of the ones I know don’t really care if their gfs or wives work. In reality it’s the asian (especially Korean girl) who doesn’t want to work and leech off their bfs and husbands. Look at their expensive clothes, jewlery, cars, shoes, etc. and then ask them what they do for a living. 95% of the time, you’d realize that they can’t afford the lifestyle they are living but rather are getting all these lavish goods from their bfs or husbands.
Comment by Keito on 4 January 2009:
I don’t know about Korean girls, I’m not living in Korea to understand their culture. I’m speaking from experience as a Chinese in a population where most are Chinese. I earn quite well and can afford my own ‘lifesytle’. The men I’ve dated earns a lot less than me. My female relatives who got a divorce earns very well, and yet they are being forced to ’submit’ to their parents-in-law and husband. This is about society’s expectation. You seem to be living in US, right? I’m not in the US, I was born on the other side of the world and I’ve seen it all. Even my mother who has a masters, earning 5 digits and is a regional manager for DHL South Asia is subject to this ‘expectations’. She wakes up 6am every morning to prepare lunch for my dad (who’s retired). She goes to work, comes back from work and cooks dinner for him, then wash the pots, pans and plates. And that’s not the end, she irons clothes before she retires to bed at 11pm. My sister and I helps her with laundry and floor cleaning. She’s always advised us to do things right, to please our future husbands, to make sure the husband and kids are well fed, that we are expected to be able to cook; so that we can ‘keep’ our husbands close to us. She was brought up that way and she’s passing along this advise that was given to her by her mother to us.
Comment by Arcangel on 5 January 2009:
Im an asian male (not mandarin/chinese, more to the south). Im dark (naturaly), and standing 182cm/ 6′0ft tall. My penis size is just over 7 inches (BORNED OUT/ I NEVER TOOK ENLARGMENT PILLS). and i work as a professional racing driver. Those stereotypes of asian male are “less” are wrong.
I never had problems attracting girls. I tend to lean towards white girls more from my experiences simply because white girls have that “mindset” that i wish to find in a woman rather than most other female from other races.
I want to give all asian men who aiming for white women(there is nothing wrong with that) some advice:
knowing myself as an asian, our biggest hindrance are not because we are less better from other male race. Actualy its because we feel more SUPERIOR. It may sound contradictive but from years and years of introspections and retrospections, my problems in relation with white women, always because they said that i DEMANDS TOO MUCH from them. I expected them to show me respect and stuff which i have realized later to be “absurd”. Because they actually HAVE respected me enough in their own ways(white female ways). Then when i compare my self to other males from other races, the issue is obvious, it turns out that i was far more DOMINEERING AND EGOMANIAC than white males or blacks. Its like that old “Samurai” sindrome. Like women must bow before me sort of thing.
And it came from asian heritage itself. If you see the history of asia, Japan with their samurai, mongols with their Genghiz Khan, China with their dinasties, and the southern asian impenetrable (to these days) territorals, these kingdoms are far more FEUDAL than the northern and european monarchs history. ASIAN MEN ARE NATURALY MORE FEUDAL. Thats why we have this little quirks(HUGE PRIDE AND EGO). These things that made the frictions with white females.
Just forget the “Samurai” thing. Be a fun easy going guy. Dont be too uptight and too selfrighteouss( you know we do). Wear your heart on your sleeves not your war banners (asian guys tendencies). Forget we are korean or japanese or chinese or thailanders, or indonese, we are citizen of the globe, be great for your self not your race. Cultures must be preserved but EGO are not. And dont have too much prejudice. THE REASON WHY ASIAN GUYS ARE BEING MISTAKEN AS “SHY” IS BECAUSE OF OUR PREJUDICES TOWARDS WHITE FEMALES. So we kind of acting TOO CAREFUL. Avoid that. thats all.
Comment by Fortune Teller on 6 January 2009:
Keito here is my 2 cent about your type, you don’t judge a race and especially your own race in a bad image based on a few bad apples. If you haven’t learn or don’t know. There are good and bad in all races. I grew up in the US and I have seen so many white couples get divorced. The white man treats you good in the beginning, but at the end treat you like shit and beat you, I have heard this from so many white women that I have known. So for you to judge asian men in that makes you an idiot and makes me sick. You are the problem with the asian women who are lost and don’t know who the f_ _ k you are going out with these whitey. Look in the mirror and good luck to your future dumb ass.
Comment by Fortune Teller on 6 January 2009:
And for all who responded and said time has changed and racism is gone. What world are you living in. Racism is alive and what makes the world go. That why we still have wars, KKK, black panthers, asian gang, spanish gangs etc… Wake up time have not change people just hide it now. In the southern part of the US there is still is separatism between the blacks and whites. With separate restaurants, schools and communities. So how can you even say racism doesn’t exist ?????
Comment by Fortune Teller on 6 January 2009:
Oh and by the way I am asian, do I speak like the stereotype the American hollywood portraits me to speak like. lol
Comment by Fortune Teller on 7 January 2009:
Keito check out the article below you are no different than white women
White men how come you guys got the highest divorce rate?
Didnt want to make it a race thing..BUT CNN did a report saying that white men are (10x) most likely to get divorced…why is this?
I think this is a bit of a crisis. Why cant you keep a family together? Other cultures can…mexican men ..to name one are sometimes cheats ..but they never leave their wives and families…black men are cheats too and can be baby makers..but white guys can be this too…
whats up?
This may be related reason but -correct me if i am wrong-(which is possible): White males are less likely to date outside their race..do you think this is the reason?..are you marrying women of your same race for appearences while deep inside you have a thing for another race? Why hurt your wives? your families? just marry who you want..regardless of race..is this possible?
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There is no ARGUMENT ..just a question as to how white males feel about the story that CNN ran..
Dont attack me for what i have and im sure you guys see around you everyday thats happening.
The truth is the truth…and i was just wondering what the reasoning is behind it…i did say “correct me if i am wrong” if its not race…which is a bit surface ..maybe its something deeper.
Everyone is calling black men baby makers..while i will admit they do cheat..white men can be baby makers to..we just dont see all of the babies because 60% of white women have abortions compared to 35% of black females (this is a substantial difference of numbers):
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,880,…
Comment by arcangel on 7 January 2009:
for fortune teller:
who ever says racism dont exist?
If you kept looking things like that then yeah, those problems like in the middle east right now will go beyond parrenial. are you a racist??
you acting like a fascist with that 1960s mentality.
My personal experiences proves that white girls dont actually care if im an asian, some of them(supermodels) find me a “big plus” with my dark skin and my unordinary look.
Well if there were a few girls that HAPPENED to be “white” and treating you unfairly, maybe its because they are just happened to be nasty girls. Not necessarily all white girls have the same opinion. Believe me i know a lot of beautiful white girls who are so open minded about interracial relationships. And they arent just ordinary girls, these are the supermodels. BELIEVE ME, i know. Dont be so “apartheid”.
And those people you mentioned with their racial gang wars, neo nazi and stuff, they dont have a place anymore in this planet. Go and shoot me.
Your apartheid attitude makes things worse.
Comment by Fortune Teller on 7 January 2009:
For arcangel
You are part of the problem why asians get treated the way they do. For one you are not understanding what I am talking about, try going to southern US and see if they don’t treat you different. (Mississippi, Georgia and Texas) I don’t care if you are ok with someone thinking you are unordinary looking and dark, if you like being called that then that your problem. I am not saying all white women are racist. But if you are telling me that you are asian and never had a racist momentS in your life, that means you are a LIAR. Every minority has experience it. Would you like to be married to it NO. Have a nice day.
Comment by Fortune Teller on 8 January 2009:
This is why white women like asian men instead of white men
White men how come you guys got the highest divorce rate?
Didnt want to make it a race thing..BUT CNN did a report saying that white men are (10x) most likely to get divorced…why is this?
I think this is a bit of a crisis. Why cant you keep a family together? Other cultures can…mexican men ..to name one are sometimes cheats ..but they never leave their wives and families…black men are cheats too and can be baby makers..but white guys can be this too…
whats up?
This may be related reason but -correct me if i am wrong-(which is possible): White males are less likely to date outside their race..do you think this is the reason?..are you marrying women of your same race for appearences while deep inside you have a thing for another race? Why hurt your wives? your families? just marry who you want..regardless of race..is this possible?
1 year ago
Additional Details
1 year ago
There is no ARGUMENT ..just a question as to how white males feel about the story that CNN ran..
Dont attack me for what i have and im sure you guys see around you everyday thats happening.
The truth is the truth…and i was just wondering what the reasoning is behind it…i did say “correct me if i am wrong” if its not race…which is a bit surface ..maybe its something deeper.
Everyone is calling black men baby makers..while i will admit they do cheat..white men can be baby makers to..we just dont see all of the babies because 60% of white women have abortions compared to 35% of black females (this is a substantial difference of numbers):
Comment by Fortune Teller on 8 January 2009:
Keito here is something to think about American marriages. What make you think that the white man will treat you better than their own white women.
Article I found.
The Effects of Divorce on America
by Patrick F. Fagan and Robert E. Rector
Backgrounder #1373
Each year, over 1 million American children suffer the divorce of their parents; moreover, half of the children born this year to parents who are married will see their parents divorce before they turn 18. Mounting evidence in social science journals demonstrates that the devastating physical, emotional, and financial effects that divorce is having on these children will last well into adulthood and affect future generations. Among these broad and damaging effects are the following:
Children whose parents have divorced are increasingly the victims of abuse. They exhibit more health, behavioral, and emotional problems, are involved more frequently in crime and drug abuse, and have higher rates of suicide.
Children of divorced parents perform more poorly in reading, spelling, and math. They also are more likely to repeat a grade and to have higher drop-out rates and lower rates of college graduation.
Families with children that were not poor before the divorce see their income drop as much as 50 percent. Almost 50 percent of the parents with children that are going through a divorce move into poverty after the divorce.
Religious worship, which has been linked to better health, longer marriages, and better family life, drops after the parents divorce.
Comment by Marcel on 10 January 2009:
Just find the right girl, that’s all. I don’t think races has to do anything with love. Every race has crap people and superior ones. Asians, blacks, whites… the difference is like a black or a yellow labrador retriever.
Comment by Fortune Teller on 12 January 2009:
Why Asian American females in interracial relationships are worthy of the “sell out” moniker.?
This concerns Asian Female/white male hypocrisy:
Asian American females often assert that Asian males are intolerant of Asian female/white male interracial relationships yet the truth is that any intolerance with Asian interracial relationships exists with white males who support Asian female/White male relationships yet denounce Asian male/white female relationships or any relationship involving white females and nonwhite males in general. Not only do white males have a history of violence and prohibition against these kinds of relationships but they have shown their discontent of these relationships through violence, laws that inhibit these relationships and in modern times divergent depictions of support for white males in interracial relationships and disapproval of Asian males in relationships with white females and any relationships of nonwhite males with white females in general.
Asian females do not have the right to question Asian male tolerance towards Asian female interracial relationships with white males as Asian males have been more than tolerant with these kinds of relationships probably to a fault. The fact that there aren’t news stories about Asian males acting disapprovingly towards Af/WM relationships by spitting, punching, verbally abusing or trying to physically or socially inhibit these relationships prove that Asian males are more decent guys than white guys when it comes to these kinds of relationships. White males have had a history of inhibiting their women from having relationships with nonwhite males even to this day through violence, passing of laws, social and media conditioning and other despicable acts of intolerance.
In modern times, white males are prevented from committing racist and hypocritical actions to prevent nonwhite male unions with white females by law, yet these racist and hypocritical sentiments are shown through social disapproval and media disapproval of nonwhite males with white females and support for white male/nonwhite female relationships. This includes violent and threatening actions shown to relationships between nonwhite males and white women.
If white males were given the power, they would make every effort to inhibit relationships between white women and nonwhite males. In modern times, the only real way the white male can control interracial relationships is to manipulate images in the media hoping that these images would shield white women from interracial relationships with nonwhite males and if possible promote nonwhite female relationships with white males.
It’s difficult for white males to manipulate the black and Hispanic community in this regard because their population sizes are too large and because they have political and social influence that Asians do not have. Blacks in this country have the NAACP, Nation of Islam, Bloods and Crips street gangs to defend against white media denigration and manipulation of their people. If they can’t influence the media to control their image through politics, they can thug their way to make sure that their images are portrayed correctly. Hispanic groups have a huge population base with bordering nations which minimizes them from the negative effects of the American media. A majority of them keep true to their identity which makes it hard for the media to control their social patterns.
Asian people neither have a large population size in this country nor do they have any prominent social or political groups that can defend against the negative manipulation of the white media which allows whites to divide and manipulate Asian Americans. They have made Asian female interracial relationships with white males acceptable yet denounce any unions between Asian males and white females. Though this hasn’t stopped Asian male interracial relationships with white females, they are doing their best to make sure that Asian males have a hard time with these relationships.
Asian women are deserving of the “sell out” moniker not because they’re in interracial relationship with white males but because even though they know that white males have a history of racist hypocritical patterns when it comes to Asian interracial relationships, they see no reason to question this hypocrisy yet finds it easy to blame Asian males to boaster their hypocritical behavior.
Asian females do not have the right to question Asian guys for questioning their interracial relationships when white males have had a history of making it illegal and in the present time denouncing Asian male relationships with white females. It is because of the Asian female’s unquestionable acceptance of white male hypocrisy and racist pattern which includes constant deriding of Asian males to support their relationships that they are worthy of the sell out moniker from Asian males and everybody else who’s familiar the meaning of word “decency.”
Comment by guy on 14 January 2009:
For all those people who believe in the stereotype of Asian men have small penises check out Hung Lo who is Chinese the first Asian porn star in America at shelovesasiancock.com. He is endowed and does deliver with the white women he has sex with. I believe for many white people in America the thought of an Asian man having sex with a white women is so taboo, so unacceptable and so abnormal.
Asian men have been neutered by the white media for so many years with the stereotype of being sexless, duds, having small dicks, unromantic, not good looking and can never be jocks. As the Asian population increases and more Asian men are involved in the entertainment field like actor John Cho, director Justin Lin and professional sports like Yao Ming in the NBA and Hung Lo in the porn industry more white women will date Asian men and the myth of a small penis is not related to a race but to an individual. Some White, Black, Hispanic, Native American and Middle Eastern guys have small penises. Hung Lo has shown that you can’t judge a man’s size by his race…
Comment by SAVLuvAsianDudes on 30 January 2009:
Thanks Guy!!!! I am going to check him (Hung Lo) out right now!!! And as for ArcAngel!!! Love your post!!! Let me know when ya single and I am so there!!!lol!!!
Comment by SAVLuvAsianDudes on 30 January 2009:
Fortune Teller I am from Texas and I am friends with bunch of different Asian Guys that would totally disagree with you! In fact a whole huge community! They do not get treated different, unless you are talking about getting treated with the upmost repsect. Now, I dont know about the smaller hick towns, but in the big cities like Houston, Austin and Dallas. LOL! They own some of the hottest spots, they have connections in other big cities too, like LA,San Fran, NYC, New Orleans and MIA. If there are anyone with a problem with any of these men being Asian they hide it very very well. I know racism still exists and unfortunately there are always going to be sick, ignorant people and they are everywhere. And so what I dont care as long as they stay out of my way and out of my face!
Comment by jude on 3 February 2009:
asian men are weird looking. some call it ugly but i call it off-human. that’s why their women come to us, be it white, black or other. simple truth. we represent the beauty they lack and can’t see in “their” men. you asian men need to man yourselves up in an american society. we don’t idolize femininity in men as the asian/chinese culture does as in the wen-wu relationship stressed there. men and women have specific gender roles to play once you recognize your sexual preference. stop looking for a handout! get your respect by earning it! you just have to overcome more than others so good luck.
Comment by Asian Guy on 3 February 2009:
Hey Jude,
The only off-human here is YOU my man. You must be delusional if you think ONLY Asian women date other races. Just because you don’t see Asian men in the movies and tv shows in the states don’t mean we don’t represent. Please do not pass outdated judgment based on the Asian fetish porn we both know you spend too much time on.
And the femininity part, it has been imposed on us since the first Asians started representing in the U.S.
Trust, my friend, if we weren’t representing, they wouldn’t cater to us ballers in Las Vegas.
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/06/13/business/13vegas.html?_r=2&pagewanted=1&adxnnl=1&ref=business&adxnnlx=1181765111-kQcb6PY7YZlotqsliOCMMA
You wouldn’t see all these ballers putting Asian ink on their skin
http://www.eviltattoo.com/sp.html
If we don’t rep, who the heck invented the book on F*cking, my man. Kama Sutra, ever hear of it? Its Asian.
Or are you too busy eating FLIED LICE? Ain’t it funny how Chinese eat dog and cat but then you STILL order from Golden Wok? Or Happy Panda?
Oh, it must be the FEAR that permeates your entire being to want to hold the Chinaman down. No matter how you try to denigrate me, oppress me, force me to take up jobs that aren’t masculine (cooking, cleaning, beauty) we will STILL SURVIVE. Its been happening since we built the railroads. It’s the year 4097 and because of “off-humans” much like yourself, it still happens.
Trust me playboy, you will be working for me someday.
Now, GO BACK TO WHERE YOU CAME FROM.
Comment by guy on 5 February 2009:
Check out Hung Lo the first Chinese male porn star fucking white women at shelovesasiancock.com. I hope this website will bring awareness to white, black, hispanic, jewish, arab and native indian people in America that many asian men do have large penis size like Hung Lo and are not always shorter than white men. Look at Yao Ming he is the tallest basketball player in the NBA. Yao has better skills than any basketball player in the history of the NBA that was taller than 7′ 5″ that includes the likes of Mark Eaton, Shawn Bradley and Manute Bol.
There was this fear in the early 20th century in america by white men that asian men were animals, beasts and barbaric because they have large families, very horny and must fuck a lot. The white man then made a concerted effort to dehumanize the asian man to be sexless, unappealing, skinny with buck teeth, short in height with a small penis size so as to protect the white women from cross breeding and having mixed race kids. This disinformation has been constantly circulated in the media (movies, tv, radio, books, newspapers, and magazines) for the last 80 years.
How can so many white people believe these stereotypes for so many years. The late Bruce Lee the martial arts expert and actor is so macho, robust, masculine and is a stud with no buck teeth. Are we to believe that he is uglier than Kelsey Grammer, unappealing, feminine like all asian men, too soft, can’t fuck white women because he is asian, by the way his wife is white. Are we to believe that Yao Ming who is asian has a penis size smaller than Mini Me who is white from the Austin Powers movies. For all those asian men haters out there, wake up and smell the coffee, Porn star Hung Lo is not the only asian man in America fucking white women. Face the facts asian men haters, times have changed and an asian man/white woman couple will no longer be perceived as taboo, odd, a rarity or an aberration but will be seen as mainstream and ubiquitous. A black man is now the president of the U.S. and an asian president will happen in the future.
Keep it up Hung Lo at shelovesasiancock.com
Comment by Arcangel on 8 February 2009:
hahahah! yeah. Asian US president should happen really soon. Im running for it. No really. LOL. Look at the United Nation guy, Ban Ki Moon.
Hey Jude(LOL), have you ever seen southeastern asian hunks? like moi?LOL.
you dont stand a chance against me dude. =) .
You’ll wish you have my skin, its honey brown natural you know, go cook yourself under the sun still thats the best thing you can ever do to get the same result and still thats not close enough, hahahahah!!. And i have a big eyes too. LOL.
We southeastern guys looked good naked. You dont even look like you have a skin,…pinky.
Comment by arcangel on 2 March 2009:
What the..?
someone using my screenname??
Comment by NotABro on 3 March 2009:
While we are on the topic of racial sensitivity, why not protest against Miley Cyrus and her insensitive portrayal of Asians. What’s next? She’s paints her faces black and does a “Jazz Singer” routine?
Comment by nysgirl on 12 March 2009:
I am a black female married to an Asian male(Southeastern). I don’t think Asian men look funny. The sex is great. They work more at pleasing you rather than just satisfying themselves and are great to be around. It shouldn’t matter who someone else is with just as long as they are not trying to have sex with your spouse or significant other. MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS.
P.S. I think Asian guys are very sexy!!!
Comment by homesteader on 12 March 2009:
nysgirl , Well Said
Comment by NOPLAYER on 12 March 2009:
nysgirl, thats right !
Who has time to worry about who shares a pillow with who? I’m trying to make sure mine doesn’t end up with her head on someone elses pillow! LOL
Comment by Nkiyomi on 17 March 2009:
I see alot of truths and some untruths in these postings. I grew up here in So Cal, the O.C. to be specific. Mixed couples are very common, as well as same race couples. It has to do with demographics, the larger the population, the more variety of people living many lifestyles and different reasons for getting together. Here in So Cal, most mixed couples don’t even get a second look from people (Californians tend to also mind their own business more as well). Living in any large city in the U.S. will have mixed couples- like the man from Austin Tx stated.
There was also a young Asian man on here that said that he had some problems with women in the U.K.- that is completely understandable. I have a friend who is half Hispanic and lives in a small village in England. She said that the British are very cliquish, and are not that open to foreigners like Americans are.
Americans are used to immigrants more than other peoples, so its easier to date outside one’s race, especially since people pick their own mates, and family and religious considerations are not as important as say in the Middle East or India.
So overall, whether it be the U.S or large modern metropolitan areas in the world, mixed couples are more common, and not frowned upon as much.
So I think that Asian men, for example, dating outside their race has become more common.
One interesting thing I want to mention is that while I was stating earlier that since many people live in large cities- like in the U.S for example, and how that makes it easier to intermarry, there is another trend going on simultaneously that might slightly offset that trend. Since we are having a global economic crisis that of course has hit the U.S on a large scale, people are moving out of the cities and back out to smaller towns or even rural areas where the price of living is lower, the neighborhoods better, etc.
If this trend continues, then even though there is the trend of of intermarriage, people moving into small towns may cause more of a tendency to marry one’s own kind more often. However, it should be taken into consideration that the people moving out of the cities are not only whites- they are also other races, especially some Asians who are moving out as well. So even in the small towns there might still be intermarriage because of the theory of familiarity and not race, I’m taking a guess.
Comment by sweetie on 23 April 2009:
im an asian.All my life i have been living in asia and of course dated asians men.Coming from a family who are intolerant bout other races somehow makes it difficult for me to date others who has different beliefs from me.There was time when my family incite fear in me when they found out im dating a chinese man.While another time i was nearly been chased out of home.That happened when was in my mid 20’s.one of the chinese guy i dated for many years somehow dint appreciate me. i was being cheated over and over again.Because of the love i had for him i stayed and forgive and trying to convince my ex that im willing to let go everything behind just to be with him.Somehow he never changed and in fact he even had the cheek to accused me that im the cause of his “hypogonadism” as he believed i sucked his “chi” out of his body.After years of hurt and pain he dump me and ever since that i never looked back.i have lost faith in asian men from what i been through in the past.Mostly asian men that i dated are cunning,never appreciates or respect me as a woman and egoist.Shortly after that i met my current bf who is a caucasian.i had never dreamt of dating caucasian before and since this is my first time i was truly surprised how different he is from the type of men i been used to.He has all the admirable qualities that im looking for and what important is that he truly loves me and sincerely wanted to marry me.He also doesnt have any issues when it comes to my background which is coming from a conservative family as well as different beliefs.I cried tears of joy knowing i finally found my soulmate.I dont know bout asian women dating caucasian all because of the physical aspects and asian women being submissive.For me i wouldnt mind dating anyone as long as he loves me and accepts me for who i am.Its just so happened i found love in a white male who loves me as much as i love him.And im also not saying all asian men are undesirable or bad.Its just me that unlucky in the past.
Comment by kris20003 on 7 June 2009:
I’ve dated men of all races, including Asian men, and have had both positive and negative experiences. At the end of the day, I was the common denominator in each of the relationships and the quality of the relationship mostly depended upon how much I loved myself, my willingness to communicate my boundaries and to respect his, and how I would allow myself to be treated.
Some people seem to think they show some degree of “intelligence” in their ability to gauge the actions, worth, and value of an individual based upon stereotypes. And don’t get me wrong, as I respect that each individual has had some bad experiences with some racial and cultural groups and better experiences with others. But, those experiences can and should not be used to justify typecasting an entire group of people. Not only is it ignorant and unfair, but it becomes hypocritical when you complain about others projecting their prejudices onto you. And trust me, in this world, someone is always manifesting their prejudices on someone. The reality is that stereotypes, whether positive or negative, are MYTHS and fear-based. And they’re generally wielded by people too lazy or cowardly to step outside of their comfort zone to find out the universal truth that within us all exists the ability to do good or evil, to be dignified or degenerate. Rather, they rely upon accounts from others, far-away observances, and experiences with maybe 10, or even 100 out of over 10 million of a group of people, to validate their ignorance.
As much as people want to cling to their stereotypes about one group being better or worse than the other, human behavior TRANSCENDS race and some more “enlightened” people here spoke to that in earlier posts. Look at world history and both the atrocities, compassion, and courage committed by EVERY single racial group on this planet. Some within the same “racial” groups still bear grudges against each other. Do you think all of that somehow dissolves just because you have a preference for one group and a prejudice against another? There is NOTHING new under the sun each individual makes a choice to exercise their free will, regardless of the influences or pressure upon them. But, an entire race or culture of people should not have to bear the responsibility for the wrong or take credit for the positive actions displayed by someone of that same group.
We are ALL linked and interdependent, whether you like it or not. And another universal law is that what goes around comes around. And the issues you have with others are ultimately issues that you have with yourself. After all, the prejudices you have are coming from within YOUR heart. And what you speak reflects more upon YOU than it ever will about who you speak about. Change your pattern of thinking and stop looking at people based upon stereotypes and symbols. Be BRAVE enough to look beyond the stereotypes to the humanity and the DIGNITY of that person, regardless of race, ethnicity, and religion. You’ll be surprised at the wealth of love reciprocated when you extend it. As the quote goes, “Be the change you want to see in the world.”
Comment by Joie on 8 June 2009:
I am a Filipina. I have never dated anyone since I am more focused in empowering myself as a woman and in knowing my responsibilities in my society. Besides, I have never experienced any peer pressure to engage in a relationship when I was a teen.
Most of the people of different cultural orientations think of Asian women as submissive and inferior. In the Philippines, there have been a huge progress in the social and political status of women. In truth, before the Spanish colonization of the Philippines, Filipino women were already playing important political roles.
I have friends who are very dedicated to success; they know what they want from life, and they also know how to achieve them. I have noticed, however, that we all have one thing in common. Our definition of success goes hand in hand with our capabilities to sustain our families. This is due to the fact that the concept of family ties is deeply embedded in the Filipino psyche.
Our concept of marriage is also influenced by our religion. It is in the Christian doctrines that “wives should respect their husbands and in return, husbands should love their respective wives.” As for me, relationship will not work without respect. Besides, respect is one of the ingredients of love. I grew up seeing my mother asserting her own ideas to my father when she thinks she is right. This is possible because they communicated well and respect is still there. I also grew up making my own choices because our father encourages us to do so. (My father was an ex-soldier).
Comment by Kelli on 16 June 2009:
I am a white female involved with a Thai man. These rumors floating around about asian men are unfounded. My fiance stands 6′2, 175 pounds and is very well endowed (8.5 inches in length and 6 inches in width)a fabulous lover! He is always respectful and treats me like a queen. People need to get over these pejudices. When I look at him I see the man I love, not an Asian person.
Comment by Sterlingbros on 18 June 2009:
THERE IS NOT A RISE IN THE ASIAN MAN-CAUCASIAN WOMAN INTERRACIAL COMBO! Where is this nonsense coming from? It seems like you see more of this combo, but really, aren’t there a rise in general with interracial dating of all races (some interracial couples more than others particularly between white man with asian woman and black man with white woman). Asian men are still not seen as sexy compared to other races, especially in the entertainment industry (i.e. movies like “21″ and the recent Dragonball Evolution), because asian men aren’t considered bankable. Just for fun (don’t take this seriously), asian women in the U.S. = SEXY! but asian men in the U.S. = TECH SUPPORT!
Comment by Jimmy on 18 June 2009:
I think a lot of asian men find white women beautiful… it is no longer that asian men only date asian women. There are a lot of better fish in the sea.. why stick with the same old stuff?
Comment by 46&2 on 22 June 2009:
People are attracted to attractive people no matter what race. If a white girl finds a specific Asian man attractive, then so be it. Everyone has their own taste in what they consider “beauty”.
Comment by TleighQ on 5 July 2009:
Hold on guys… I am a white female and i am engaged to an Asian man from Indonesia. this is what he tells me… He comes from a country where all the woman look the same (no offense to anyone) its hard to find “white people” in any asian country. he also says lots of asian girls are fakes and after money and nothing else (this is what HE says, and he’s actually from an asian country. so nobody bitch at me!!)Asian girls (guys as well) are VERY materialistic, and dont want to think about anyone else but themselves. When he came to america almost 3 years ago, he said people here are so much nicer then there. how we met is a long story, but like i said, white people to them are different in looks, culture, and life. we have our troubles because of culture difference, but we love each other. Sure im lost when he is at work speaking Chinese (hes knows 5 languages O.o) but there again its a different expireance. like here in the US, lots of guys have asian fetishes…. because its hard to find here! look at any porn site and i promiss 9 times out of 10 they have an “Asian Fetish” section… the same concept goes for asian countrys about white people. he tells me its actually a privledge and an honor to be with a caucasian because all his friends want “white girlfriends” and his family is very happy that he is with an american girl. I never dreamed that i would marry a man from asia, but it just happens. we are different from one another and thats why we also love one another.
Comment by Kisselda on 18 July 2009:
I’m an Asian girl, who is currently having a sweet wonderful relationship with a caucasian guy (Finnish). There are so many obstacles…but we are working on it. e.g. currently long-distant but gonna meet soon.
Being with someone out of your own race, would give you another perspective of life to look from. I have learnt alot more things from him than i have ever learnt from people of my own race.
To TleighQ, im definitely not bitching at you…but i dont want you to think that all asian women are…quoted….”VERY materialistic, and dont want to think about anyone else but themselves”. I have been knowing this Finnish guy for 7 months but i have never asked him what kind of car he drives. Or how much money he makes a month, a year. Or how big is his house. Or if he has any insurance policies. All im asking from him is his sincere love.
Im praying for everyone’s happiness and joy, no matter who you are with
Comment by John on 21 July 2009:
King,
Do not stereotype Asian women as easy to pull,they aren’t. Some are just as hard.And Asian men spend too much time practicing Kung Fu. And you have been affected by the western media in terms of racial stereotyping. How would you like it if someone said “Black men cant be good husbands because they end up in jail before they reach 25″. That would be mean, right. Please don’t generalize people of race.
Comment by Danielle on 26 July 2009:
I am a white woman and recently began dating an Indonesian man. For the first time in many years I can see myself getting married again. He is sweet, considerate, loving and fun. He is not rich and sends money home regularly. My friends see this as a financial burden and would be a source of tension in their relationships. I find it refreshing to be with somebody so caring and responsible. If for some unforeseeable reason this relationship does not work out I will date other Asian men.
Since we have been seeing each other I have noticed several Asian male and white female couples. I’m not the only one … just search sexy Asian men on facebook.
Comment by Excalibur on 27 July 2009:
White women are more attracted to men with long and big penis that they always have fantasy about. I’ve noticed the majority of White women like to date bad guys that enjoyed lying and blinding their women
Comment by Excalibur on 27 July 2009:
Ok, i was walking and there is about 4 white girls walking together, then they saw me and started bursting our with disgusting laughs and waited for me to go near them, then when i got close to them because they happened to block where i was heading towards my home, all they do is shouted out and ran away (also some giggling) and started accusing me.
I was sitting at the bus stop and suddenly a Cambodian dude walked past me, stared at me and gave me the glare with one part of his lip all pumped up and looked down on me. Then he walked away and walked back again with a White girl on his hand. LOL, i noticed that white people like bad and evil dudes don’t they? they always go for racist liars lol, i will never date one crazy bitch like that. EVER
Comment by London Eugene on 1 August 2009:
Within a country you’ve got similar numbers of men and women of all races. If things are fair there should be just as many Asian men-Caucasian women relationships. But there aren’t. So are Asian women loose or are Caucasian women prejudiced in a nasty way ? There has to be something going on here. As regards Asian men being “defeatist” lets be clear; surrounded by the majority race and stereotyped at each turn since very young children, what the hell do you expect ! They’re hardly likely to behave in a way that might culminate in them feeling bad about themselves. Often it’s far better in the short-term at least to retreat into a shell, than risk it and be presumed by others as a chauvinist who want’s to bag/hump a white girl. As if this isn’t the mindset of Caucasian men, and the initial basis of all relationships, ie. sexual attraction. Digressing, I agree with Lisa’s sentiments entirely; I always use my tongue - it’s a far more dextrous appendage.
Comment by Darling2 on 2 August 2009:
Comment by Jude.Did you ever see a 23 year old white bald man?did you ever come across the druggies with no teeth with tattoes from face to toe. Piercings from eye to the toe? Young white fat girls who cannot walk but limp?thats is weird so please be nice stop attacking Asian men.Every race have their own kind of GIMPS.Stop blowing your own trumpet :-)Let us be kind to everyone while posting funny stuff here.My apologies lol
Comment by omondieu on 3 August 2009:
A very interesting thread indeed. I just thought I’d throw in my two cents.
I’m a third generation Canadian of Ukrainian descent, and I’ve recently developed a preference for East Asian men (I’m particularly fond of Korean men, myself). Working at an establishment that caters specifically to Korean families has fostered my admiration and respect for the culture and language (so much so that I’m now trying to learn Korean!). Not that I ever had any lack of respect for any Asian community: most of my friends in highschool were East or Southeast Asian.
My white friends and family poke fun at my soft spot for Asian men. They insist that I will never find a life partner in one, due to culture clashing.
Well, both of my parents are of Ukrainian descent, both born in Canada. However, they could not be more different. My mother is more “traditional” (being family oriented, stressing the importance of keeping one’s cultural language alive, being a devout Christian), whereas my father is the exact opposite (has no desire whatsoever to spend time with family, is ignorant of Ukrainian culture and the language, and is totally indifferent to religion). Their differences (among other things) ultimately drove them to separate and divorce. The funny thing is that my mother’s parents forced her to marry a Ukrainian (she was madly in love with an Irish guy at the time), convinced that the union would be more harmonious. Her brothers however, both married non-Ukrainians, and are still happily married.
My point is that sticking to “one’s own kind” does not always guarantee smooth sailing. We may find ourselves to be more compatible with people far outside our own cultures than with people within them. Let’s stop letting skin colours and cultural practices govern our relationships.
Comment by miri2008 on 8 August 2009:
I am a Caribbean woman, and for sure no main stream American media has told my story. For this reason, I have a heightened awareness that anyone wanting to know anything real about any cultural group who has recently immigrated to the U.S. would have to see those people’s story being authentically told by themselves within the context of their own culture. This is why I enjoy watching foreign films, where often sub-titles are required, as people tell their own stories about their own realities within a relevant context.
The term ‘Asian’ is as much a misnomer as the term ‘Black’, ‘Hispanic’, or ‘White’ as these are categories meant to facilitate generalizations and foster stereotyping. I have watched many Koreans tell their stories in their own cultural context, and it is a different story than the ones told by the Japanese. Obviously the Taiwanese story is far different from the Philippino story and so on. When you take the time to listen and learn about someone’s culture and outlook from their own perspective, it really permanently erases the caricatures and demeaning misrepresentations perpetrated by some ‘other’ who wants to caste themselves as superior.
Anyone not blinded by bigotry will readily admit that there are stunningly gorgeous males and females in every ethnicity that there is. There are gifted intellectuals in every ethnicity that there is. There are amazing artisans and artists in every ethnicity that there is, etc… Just the same, there are average and homely looking people in every ethnicity, as well as people who just do regular things and hold regular jobs without much fanfare. Every social ill known to mankind afflicts us cross-culturally, and we are all susceptible to physical illnesses and ailments. And, yes, we all bleed red.
Maybe it is time for more people to consider freeing themselves from being bullied and oppressed into making a political statement in their selection of a life partner. It’s really bad when someone else attempts to put restrictions and limits on what you should expect to be able to achieve, who you should consider dating and marrying, where you can go etc… But, you what’s infinitely worse? When you are trapped to the extent that you put those limits on yourself!
For those who are sticking to tradition in their selection of a life partner more power to you. For those whose capacity to love does not see other ethnicities and cultures as boundary markers more power to you. To have someone at your side to share mutual respect, caring, camaraderie, friendship, companionship and passion is a life blessing that has eluded many – if you’ve found that, enjoy your blessing! You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone who is not paying your rent/mortgage or feeing you.
Comment by rka on 12 August 2009:
I’m an AM from Malaysia and had my fair moments with interracial dating, but never date with WF yet, so far.
I always found WF as an attractive, smart, highly independence and fun to be with. Maybe these conclusions are derived from limited samples from much wider population - I worked in finance, and now Oil&Gas, and just moderately traveled to Europe/US. And… Oh yes, I got a few friends and relatives with IR relationship to WF/WM.
FYI. For those who haven’t been here in Malaysia, it a normal thing to have interracial relationship. (Of course the percentage is much smaller, but it is well accepted). We got Malays, Chinese, Indian, Sikh, aborigines, and a small US/Europe community etc) I guess the same goes to Singapore. The public policy goes along the way over here.
I was asking myself why I never considering dating WF before? Then the answer appeared was simple and clear: it’s easier to date women from your own background. It is never about being racist or prejudice.
Its takes a lots of open minded, tolerance and patience for any IR to work out. Sometime you might exhaust along the way. It’s like you are swimming against the tidal wave. With my demanding work, the least I want to have is a problematic relationship.
I give the highest respect for those succeeded in interracial marriage /relationship. It takes lots of sacrifices for both parties to make it. And I believe they are handsomely rewarded by being happy, if not more than the same-race couples.
And for me, I never rejected the idea of dating WF. In fact, I’m seriously considering it right now. You never know where your soul mate is……..And when you found one, all those so called problems and issues will be damn worth it to be wrestled down with.
Comment by Victoria on 12 August 2009:
When white women started dating/marrying black men most white men were furious but you never really hear white women complain about white men going off and dating/marrying asian women.
Comment by Shotgun007 on 16 August 2009:
To “Sterlingbros’….the last statement of your comment on 06/18 was very funny. I think the media and other industry help perpetuate some of these unfortunate instances of stereotypes and continue to give life to them in one way or another.
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About the Blog Article:
Anyways, I’m a black female and while in college, I’ve always felt that Asian Men were attractive. As I look around in my community, I can’t help but realize how driven- -family oriented- and well spoken the Asian Men are. I don’t believe any of the stereotypes that I’ve heard.
But I can’t say that I’ve witnessed a lot of Asian men/white women couples though. I think I saw one on Wife Swap once, but that’s it.
I’m looking to see more African American women and Asian men couples, which is a rarity but times are really changing.
I’m out everybody… Take Care…
Comment by NBGchick on 26 August 2009:
Some of you all are sooo ignorant! I am an 18 year old beautiful brunette white girl..I’m not fat..actually I find it odd that someone would say most white women are fat because where I’m from white women are always insulted because they are “too skinny”..but both of those statements are just idiotic steriotypes..I have been attracted to men of many different ethnicities and would date a man of any race if we were compatible.. Just seriously ppl need to open their eyes and realize that we are all children of God and we are all beautiful..and I don’t care how corny that sounds..anyone who feels the need to argue with my comment..kiss my white ass!!hahahaha. P.S. Asian guys are sexy! (=
Comment by NBGchick on 26 August 2009:
Some of you all are sooo ignorant! I am an 18 year old beautiful brunette “white” girl [german,french,Cherokee,blah blah blah>>I’m actually a natuarlly tan female if we want to be specific..anywho]..I’m not fat..actually I find it odd that someone would say most white women are fat because where I’m from white women are always insulted because they are “too skinny”..but both of those statements are just idiotic steriotypes..I have been attracted to men of many different ethnicities and would date a man of any race if we were compatible.. Just seriously ppl need to open their eyes and realize that we are all children of God and we are all beautiful..and I don’t care how corny that sounds..anyone who feels the need to argue with my comment..kiss my white ass!!hahahaha. P.S. Asian guys are sexy! (=
Comment by NBGchick on 26 August 2009:
Also I have lived across the street from a Japanese female/Caucasian male couple my whole life..they are wonderful people..they met while he was in the military..by the way they are an older middle aged couple…he is not rich from where I can see so she is not a “gold digger” as some of these comments have made it seem..and the thought that asian women are submissive is just a big generalization because she is anything but that and actually most of the asian women that I have met are very strong minded and confident..I think that maybe their kindness is mistaken as them being doormats..anyways that’s how I feel..who agrees?
Comment by I_Am_Asian_I_Love_HAPPAS on 2 September 2009:
The types of women chosen here are all of the same type who desire the same characteristics in a dream man. Lets be honest though, if there was a guy who crossed their eyes and was good looking, despite the expectations of super high intelligence, the girls would fuck it..
Im asian.. I love Women… A white chick would be cool
but i also settle for better overall choice..
HAPPAS!- I love hot happas.
Comment by I_Am_Asian_I_Love_HAPPAS on 2 September 2009:
And i dont like these girls……..
Comment by xolang on 2 September 2009:
I’m Asian, and all of my relationships so far have been with white women.
I personally have always found Mediterranean (Turkish, Balkan, Italian, Portuguese, etc.) women more attractive than most of Chinese women anyway.
Comment by Robert Castillo on 6 September 2009:
cute
Comment by awsome on 9 September 2009:
Asian men and caucasian women are more common in certain parts of the U.S. but it’s not as common as white men and asian women couples like in the west coast for some reason. I see white men with asian women all the time in Seattle.
One reason why we see more asian men dating white women in some parts of the U.S. is because it’s easier to be attracted to someone from similar background like education, culture, class, etc. Many asian men are highly educated to be doctors, businessmen, engineers, etc and so naturally, any woman regardless of race will be attracted to that especially white women since there are more of them. Even though we may be seeing asian and white interracial couples, there’s still some obstacles for asians especially in the media. For whatever reason, the media tends to be very one dimensional towards asian men (not so much for asian women though there are stereotypes for them too). Also, asians living in the U.S. are kind of invisible and they are referred to as “the silent race.” Asian Americans don’t really get credit for anything whether it’s good or bad and are usually left out.
BTW, that youtube video is lame and irritating to watch but thanks for pointing that out, people can really judge for themselves to see how ignorant and narrow minded some people are (disappointing there were even asian women on there stereotyping).
Comment by tabs on 11 September 2009:
So, I am a white woman dating an asian man. We get looks out in public and even some rude comments are made toward him, but not me. Most of the time he just shrugs it off, but if I see that it hurts him, I stand up for him/us. I think it’s more that people think it’s like a circus act, “And now in the center ring…”; So “uncommon” that it needs a show of it’s own. No one knows HOW to react so they make asses of themselves by throwing on a sloppy accent or references to famous Asians (ex: Bruce Lee, Jackie Chan, Jet Li).
However, none of this has hurt our relationship. If anything, it’s made it stronger.
Comment by Andrew on 19 September 2009:
Kudos to the dude that blogged this.
But you’re ‘hypothesis’ as to why Asian men seek white chicks, are so bullshit.
I’m an Australian born Asian, but I’m barely Asian at all – Slim but very toned and muscular, extremely sport, not a nerd – hate math but I’m in the top English class haha – I don’t limit myself to the Asian cuisine although I love it and I have quite big eyes.
Personally, I’ve had a white girl attracted to me a while ago, but didn’t get the chance (or even the guts) to talk to her because she moved out. It just seems so hard to find any white girls interested in Asians, or maybe it’s just me because I’m shy and timid…
See that’s the thing, the majority of Asians are shy, but this goes hand in hand with their respect and love. I’m stereotyping here, but white guys treat their girls like a simple asset, or something they show off, whereas Asians take love seriously, and love their girlfriends with all their emotions.
Asians are so underrated and they’re the target of satire in the media, and that pisses me off.
I’m sure I could start a relationship with a white girl because I’ve been given that bright smile or that wink from a white chick many times… it’s just that I’m way too damn shy, and that irritates me. I guess I still have time tho, I’m only 16.
But a big message to all you white girls out there – Seriously, go try out an Asian, they usually create long lasting and loving relationships NOT TO MENTION, the gorgeous, gorgeous children that are made from an Interracial relationship, take for example – Misa Campo or Leah Dizion. They’re HOT.
AMWF (Asian Male, White Female) relationships are just usually so cute and last for quite a while or even forever, simply they look right together.
Here’s a video I posted up on YouTube talking about interracial relationships/ AMWF.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PcFni-uv3r4
God bless for reading my whole post and keep these comments rolling!
Comment by FASIANWOMEN on 19 September 2009:
I am an asian man that likes only Western women. I’ve dated only White, Black and Latin women who I find more attractive than asian women because they are more feminine. Western women are more voluptuous, have bigger breasts, butt, hips and longer legs. They are also more beautiful. Their faces, their hair…to me there is nothing more beautiful than a White, Black or Latin woman. But beyond that is their personality. They’re fun to be around because they are lively and passionate. A lot of Asian women try to act that way, but deep down inside they are critical, cold, insecure and just plain boring. Worst, their kids come out that way. My wife is a White woman and I couldn’t be happier. We have five beautiful children who are very popular and make me proud to be their father. They have my respectful and hard working ways and the charming personality and looks of my wife. I have found happiness and it is NOT with an asian woman. White, Black and Latin women are definitely the best.
Comment by Jade on 22 September 2009:
I find it really petty that some people on here have to get at other races because they are insecure about their own! Saying that white women are fat just is a way to make yourself feel better! I am not in any way racist and fully support the comments on here that express love excluding race. I am of chinese and (majority) caucasian descent with a chinese guy and couldnt be happier! I do think that asian women are very beautiful and friendly but I think its out of order when they feel they have to be rude about caucasian women. (if you notice way above, its not caucasian women hating on your race so dont hate back!)
Comment by nicole_marie on 23 September 2009:
hey,
i’m a white Canadian female who is currently involved with a wonderful Chinese guy. I don’t understand why everyone wants to make this about race? I love my boyfriend, he’s a great guy who is super nice and I think he’s really sexy. I know he loves me and also finds me attractive. He’s not the tallest guy in the world(about the same as me 5′6″) and he’s super thin, way smaller than I can ever hope of being, but to me he’s perfect. He’s incredibly funny, sweet, nice and intelligent. I just spent 4 months in China and thats is when we met. Currently we’re doing the long distance thing as I’m home in Canada and he lives in China. He comes from a traditional family, and a very small town even though he has been attending college in Shanghai. His family has accepted me. I spend time trying to learn about Chinese traditions and cultures and am also trying to learn chinese. He is also asking me about canadian culture and is constantly working on his english. We do this because we love each other and want to make our relationship work. We respect each other. Of course sometimes we have cultural misunderstandings, but we know that doesn’t mean either of us is wrong, its just different views. So I think you should be with the person you love, and who loves you, regardless of race. It doesn’t matter. People are people. Acceptance is key.
Comment by AMLuvsWF on 23 September 2009:
I am an Asian male who was born in Hong Kong, grew up and university educated as an American citizen in the United States. I have been living on the west coast cities both on the U.S. and Canadian borders for over one third of a decade now. I have seen many changes in interracial relationships, especially Asian and non-Asian dating and marriages. I have friends and relatives who are interracial married (Asian and Caucasian). I have seen sucessful interracial marriages and not so successful interracial marriage who ended up in divorce. Among those sucessful interracial couples, they are happy families with beautiful and intelligent half-half mixed children. I embrace those who have overcome styero typed and cultural barriers and make their interracial relationship worked.
I personally attracted to middle class white women who are brought up in the west coast cities, like in the Pacific Northwest, such as Seattle, Portland and Vancouver, B.C. White women who have lived among a multi-cultural mixed society are tend to readily and openly accept the other races who are different that the main stream.
I am a better than average look, handsome Asian male, 5′10″ tall and weight 168 lb, light brown eyes and dark brown-black hair. I am an average body, fair skin, tanned and have hairy muscular arms and legs. I am always mistaken by Asians (Phillipino, Chinese, Korean, and others Asians), as well as Caucasians that I have Asian-Caucasian mixed parents. They always asked me, “Does any of your parents a “White” person?”. Both of my parents are Chinese descent. I have not dated too many races other than my own and Cacasian girls. I am attracted to Cacausian girls who are cheerful, passionate, intelligent, open-minded, and who like and accept the other cultures, (especially mine-the Asian- Chinese cultures). My first girlfriend was a blonde hair Cacasian girl. Then, I had many dates with Asian and Cacausian girls with European origin nationalities, (blondes, burnettes, raven hair, red heads). I am specially fond of dating strawberry blondes. I found them very passionate, irresisible and sexually arousing when it comes to an intimacy relationship.
There are a trend of interracial dating and marriages lately. I have seen many Asian girls going for Cacausian and non-Asian guys, and many of Asian guys dating and marrying Cacasian and non-Asian girls. I would encourage people accept and marrying other races, Asian, Cacausian, Latina and Blacks. The next ten, twenty to thirty years, you’ll see more mixed race marriages. The mixed race marriage children will rise up to be the next generation of America’s elits and future leaders.
Comment by ugh on 23 September 2009:
Isn’t it painfully obvious? There are more white women dating Asian men because Asian women are taking all the white men.
Also, I can tell you that being an Asian man today is equivalent to being a black men 50 years ago, minus the institutional racism.
Comment by Too Bad on 24 September 2009:
Too bad Asian men don’t like black women. They seem to be in the same boat. For the Asian man “lucky” enough to score a white woman, he must be feeling the same joy as black men have been enjoying since the white man made it legal for black men and white women to walk around together in public.
Comment by asiansensation on 24 September 2009:
I believe this video was shot by undergraduate college students - which was well done - except they did not interview any white women. If you are going to do a video on something like this, it isn’t effective to exclude a group from it, especially if they are a part of the research! Additionally, some of the comments were made on a superficial level (what these girls individually find attractive, which is entirely subjective) and really very unimportant in establishing a long term relationship. What matters is within, not height, penis size, etc. And I am sure someone has mentioned the stereotype about Asian men and small penis size - a huge myth, let me tell you.
And then to shyness: isn’t this a universal truth with men interested in women? Few are able to just waltz over to a love interest and confess their adoration and desire for them. It is human to be shy or nervous, not a ethnic characteristic to blanket entire groups with. This is a shame because we are just creating barriers with these stereotypes. Also, for every metro sexual Asian dude, there are five metro sexual white dudes, so go figure!
I just felt like I needed to represent the white females out there: I am a white woman dating a handsome Filipino man and have been exceptionally satisfied in all situations and from every angle. I am tall, much taller than him, and this has not been a problem in anyway. My attraction to him is strong, not just physical (he is gorgeous) but emotional and intellectual as well. He is protective and attentive, and just wants to please me. I am loved like I have never been before, and it is beautiful.
Like others have mentioned, we need to get past this “oh my god, he is dating someone outside his race!!!???” drama. It really isn’t a “race” issue as it is a willingness to move past stereotypes, embrace the very very small differences between people and enjoy the huge commonalities that we all ultimately possess.
Comment by mariqueta on 27 September 2009:
well. most asian men tend to go for white women than their own kind. asian men needs a white girl instead of stupid asian women!! a white girl will treat an asian man with more love and have a more sexual side than an asian girl. a white women will love them more. and mostly all the time asian men tend to go for blonde hair girls. like me. of course!!! but all i can say is asian girl are fucked up and they have to suck it up!! asian girls date white men and asian guys date white girls. it looks much better. asian guys are just really sexy and do it for me, they are my type.
Comment by MKIM72 on 29 September 2009:
I am a white female that loves Asian men too…
Most of my boyfriends have been Korean (an nyeong ha seyo!) But my current sweetie is Chinese.
I just never found white men to be attractive at all… maybe its wrong to have an Asian fetish but I cant help it if I find Asian men to be sexy
I prefer men that are shorter than me… Im 5ft 8
Yes Asian men are more feminine looking than white guys (lack of body hair in general) But I like that..
Korean men are the tallest its true but they are so beautiful with those Korean bunny rabbit cheeks
I love Asian culture because its complex and has depth . American culture lacks that… IMO Asian men are superior to white american males… (plus Asian guys have better sexual stamina LOL)
Asian men tend to be a bit more possessive with their women but they treat their women better….
More white women need to hook up with Asian guys… you just don’t know what you are missing out on…
As I like to say… aint no finer fellow than one thats yellow!!
Comment by Nguyen on 9 October 2009:
I am an Chinese female who was born in American with a more traditional family background. Currently, I’m dating an Italian guy who seems like a sweet guy and has every good quality a person should have. On a personal level I don’t have a problem dating Asians or Caucasian guys since I’ve found both attractive.
However, with my past experience I have always have been hit on/sexually harassed on by Caucasian males, usually by older men who are one step away from looking like a homeless person *shiver down the spine*. I have also joined dating sites and end up getting messages from guys who have no problems discussing their young Asian girl fetish *again shiver*.
So I’m a bit of a sceptic as to what is going on in this guy’s head, since he is always saying that I’m beautiful and sexy. But if I’m all those things then how come I have never had an Asian guy ask me out? Is it really because Asian guys are shy? I kind of don’t believe in the whole Asian guy being shy thing. I honestly think that is an excuse, since most Asian guys are very ambitious and goal oriented. So why couldn’t they focus some of that ambition on a girl. Honestly, the worst that could happen is the girl is not interested, it wouldn’t determine your life.
The guy I’m dating is both a Caucasian and older then me by at least ten years old. So this could just me being paranoid but none the less I would still like to hear you opinions. Particularly, the other Asian girls and you’re experience on this subject. I would truly like to believe that Caucasian guys are not marriage/dating Asian girls for their exotic looks but more for their compatibility and personality.
Comment by minnesota man on 14 October 2009:
Its nice to know that there’s a website like this.I live in a area where I’m like the only asian around within two hundred mile ya in the middle of nowhere.I’m adopted raised by my white parents.at the beginning it was hard for me to get a girl but now I’m 26 yrs old and it seems like I’ve became a commodity in this area with the girls especially with the older hot ones I love it.But I do wish I could find someone to settle down with not like I wasn’t giving any of them a chance for something real.And oh ya with the guys in my area where I live there is lot of hostility at me when I do have a white woman with me,but I don’t care.well try to not let it bother me.Like I have any choice there’s nothing but white women and that’s all there is.
Comment by ImAwesome on 27 October 2009:
im a asian male who grew up in a white and black community. my first Girlfriend was black and now she’s a model for source and king magazine. Also for all those sterotypes out there that were all number crunching nerds that’s completely false. Because i suck so bad at math it’s not even funny. Im 5′11 which is pretty average but im bigger then your average American muscle wise. I just wanted to erase that scrawny asian sterotype out completly
Im attractrated to all races mainly any chick with dark hair,tan, and light eyes. but i have not once dated a asian chick. It’s not that i wouldn’t but i havn’t had the chance to. Right now im dating a italian girl i’ve noticed that our cultures are pretty similar, like that were pretty family oriented. Her family seems to like me and my family feels the same about her but when we do go out we do get them funny stares.
All im saying don’t belive all them sterotypes and if your do your just a ignorant fuck that deserves to get shit on simple as that
Comment by petroxg on 10 November 2009:
This is all stereotype. Only 1 thing is true, inter-racial relationship/marriage is more common now. Other than that, everything else are stereotypes. They are just as commom. My best friend, white guy is engage to a japanese girl, marrying soon. However, my other good buddy, chinese guy, have been in relationship with just about any race other than his own kind (chinese), he has been with white, brazilian, latino, japanese…and so on. So both are equally common. I am a chinese guy married a cambodian wife. We are both asian. Still exist. I know a lot of young asian couples these days still. So the point is? All type of relationship are just as common. There is one thing though, I do find that the difference in culture actually make the couple trying to understand each other better. Even within the same race, there are still differences in cultures. Versus if u r chinese to a chinese opposite sex, both will insist what they know about chinese culture and more right and will never work out. My wife and I even though we are both asian, we have different culture, chinese/cambodian. To make it worse, our family have different religion, Buddhist and Catholic. You have no idea the kind of craps and drama we went through just to get marry officially and make everyone happy. But our faith and love to each other were strong, and pulled it through still. Now we are 1 big happy family.
Comment by BlondeGuy on 11 November 2009:
From my own personal experiences of dating white,
black and asian women, ive found asian women come out top just above black women. Black women maybe make better girlfriends but Asian women better wives, hence im now engaged to one. Both ive found better than white women.
Sex:
Black - +9
Asian - +7
White - +6
Fun to be with:
Black - +8
Asian - +7
White - +4
Caringness:
Asian - +9
Black - +7
White - +5
Easiness to offend:
Black - -6
White - -4
Asian - -2
So total scores are
Asian - 21
Black - 18
White - 13
As I said that’s just from personal experience.
Comment by Moviefan on 12 November 2009:
Hello Everybody,
I have found this site in response to my own confused googling:
I am an American white woman ,1st generation Northern Italian on one side, and northern European decent on the other. I am in a troubled marriage ; I’m married to a white guy who is very controlling and domineering. Within the past few weeks, I have been blatantly “hit on” by two East Asian guys. I was struck with how romantic, intelligent and funny both of these guys were; particularly the latter. They both made me feel like a Princess,…. at a time when I was feeling particularly low about myself.
Incidentally, I get hit on a lot by white guys, too. But they make me just want to roll my eyes. If I go through with a divorce, I would love to hook up with a nice Asian man, partiularly the last one that flirted with me. He actually walked into a door because he was staring at me. I couldn’t help laughing. What earned him lots of points was that he laughed, too. I felt an instant connection on a spiritual level with this man.
I would be worried about an Asian guy’s intentions. Both guys who flirted with me were prominent upper class, higher income males. Were they just flirting with me because I am white and therefore a status trophy of sorts? ( I’m a tiny, slender petite (5′2″), feminine woman: fit but with curves, blonde with big greenish blue eyes). Would an Asian man consider me for a serious relationship, or is that just reserved for other Asians?
I must say that it is tremendously flattering to be hit on by two east Asian men in a few weeks, more so than when white guys hit on me: after all, Asian women are so beautiful, it made me feel special to gain attention from their men . : )
Comment by Krystal on 13 November 2009:
There are a lot of am/wf couples in Los Angeles and I’m half of one of them. I’m very small and I look young for my age… like a lot of other white girls I know who have these same traits… we have been getting more and more attention from asian guys. None of us are complaining. White guys used to tell me I had a pretty face but I was too tiny, now I’m with a wonderful (and ridiculously hot) asian guy who treats me like gold. I came out the winner, to be honest.
I’m seeing a lot of jealous and catty comments about white and asian women, which leads me to believe that many people are seething with jealousy. That’s their own problem.
And I don’t know if you guys have read the news about this lately, but there have been several studies showing that white american men do NOT have a preference for asian women, but asian women choose not to discriminate against white men. There are a handful of asiaphile white men just like there are a handful of europhile asian men (I have had the displeasure of running into these guys and once they start fawning over my hair and eyes I run for the hills).
To the jealous, racist fool who said that white american men are “sick of” white american, I highly recommend that you educate yourself and look at the US census which clearly shows that more than 95% of those men are marrying white american women.
Comment by shawna on 15 November 2009:
i’m a white woman who dates mostly asian men. i have always been more physically attracted to asians. i don’t know why. i’m 5′9″ and don’t have any trouble running into plenty of asian men taller than me. that myth about the size of their goodies is just that: a myth. i didn’t read all the posts, but i skimmed one that mentioned not wanting to date people who look like they could be your bro/sis. that might be it for me. asian men are as different looking from me as it gets. soooooo sexyyyyyyyy =)
Comment by Bellara on 18 November 2009:
in my psychology class we had a similar discussion like this and one guy said “am into asian chicks because u can’t control a black girl, white girls are too whiny and has her family all up in ur buisness but asian girls can be controlled and even abused and nobody will care because the families are against divorce and strong believers of “for better or for worse”, and they will rather cover the situation up than speak out about it. he was hi5ed by some of his buddied… this guy is obviously a pure bred fool, but his perspective has me thinking.
Comment by mariqueta on 18 November 2009:
WHAT THE HELL DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE WHAT RACE! AS LONG AS YOU LOVE EACH OTHER, THAT IS ALL THAT MATTERS, FOR PETE SAKE!
Comment by petroxg on 18 November 2009:
Bellara, those asian guys you are talking about make me sick. I m a chinese guy, but those kind of asian guy u r talking about don’t deserve any wife at all. I agree with u.
Wow, didn’t know that white women like asian men that much. I am already married to an asian wife, and I love my wife very much. But if I would known about white women actually interested in asian men 10 years ago, I would of ask one out and the outcome might of been different. What can I say, I am a nerd and was too chicken to ask out any other race of women other than asian.
Now for men that get jealous of any interacial relationship/marriage. I think those men need to get a life and move on. There are plenty of men or women out there single looking for a relationship. Why do they have to be so short-sighted and can’t look past a few of those interacial relationship they run across.
Comment by NOPLAYER on 20 November 2009:
@ Bellara - as far as the guys comments and the Hi Fives from his buddies, tell me what does his persspective have you thinking?
Men who need to be in control will seek out women that they can control. For him to state that, “you cant control BW”, implies that she needs to be controlled.
What man in his right mind wants a woman that he has to control? You control children not grown women!
You right this guy is not the brightest!
Comment by Cassie on 29 November 2009:
i personally am very attracted to asian men…to me it doesn’t really come down to the fact that they are asian it comes down to what i’m physically attracted to…i’m a sucker for a guy who has black hair and brown eyes…i have green-blue eyes that change color and red hair(no it’s not natural) and i love men who look different than me…and yes that mean that i’m attracted to asian, latino and black men…does that mean i will only date them no i have dated white men but it’s just what i’m attracted to…because lets face it no relationship with work if your not physically attracted to someone…
Comment by BlondeGuy on 1 December 2009:
Well, it seems to me that there is a lot of paranoia about Whites marrying non-Whites and that Whites are going to end up disappearing from the face of the Planet. Well, in my family, there is just me and a white female cousin living with a black man, who has got a couple of kids. The rest of my family are all married to Whites, pumping out a lot of white kids. The fact remains that 95% of Whites marry Whites, those of us who date and marry outside of our race are still a very small minority.
Even though I think my fiancee is a godess, most white guys arent interested in non-White women (more fool them !)and so those of us who prefer non-Whites will always be a small minority.
Comment by joe on 3 December 2009:
To be honest, I have been physically attracted to every race I was exposed to so far: Caucasian, African American, Asian (includes Eastern Asia too). I don’t have any skin preference, don’t have a type of eye, hair, or skin color I prefer - you may call be desperate but wait . . . I do PREFER a nice smile (straight teeth, not yellow either), and to be somewhat in shape. Love is love isn’t it? I love all, if they love me for me (and I like to better myself everyday, so it’s not like I don’t care of myself).
Comment by Lisa on 4 December 2009:
Alright so I think White girls like asains because well.. Look at them~ They are so cute. They are pretty different. its no different if its black and asian or latino and asian. And well If you like there background there culture, You will probably fall in love with people in the background. I mean Im with a viet. And he is the sweetest thing ever! -planning to get married-. Its just A adventure for us. Somthing else to explore. I know NO one that does not like there background even if they like it alittle. But really I fall for there smile <3 Im so happy its like this now. White guys though like asian girls because they are pretty cute as well. They are like little dolls, that just lures them in. Or somthing..uh.. well there..private area. I dont think alot of guys knows this so mostly just there look but they have it well..”tight” so yah.. But for asains there “thing” is small , Well for some. But really its all in love. You cant help it if you fall in love with somone thats different. I think its pretty Magical.
Comment by thecurious on 10 December 2009:
Are east indain guys with white girl couples common in America? I heard that east indian guys have the worst here in the dating scene, that true?
Comment by whateva on 10 December 2009:
i guess Asian women see white men as a premium breed. They are the most superficial species on earth..Not all Asian women are like but fake, ugly chink women are the worthless sort… they think they are the worthy and feel the need to be validated when seeing walking hand in hand with with a white dick.. They cannot see beyond skin color cos to them white represents status and they will be treated as white superiority….. Lame but true .. I dont make this one up.. i have encountered and seen all same chinese women.. same ol, same ol pretentious fakeness.. dont get me wrong, I have nothing against interracial dating but not for wrong reasons
Comment by vixfix on 10 December 2009:
I’m first generation Chinese-American. Went to Thailand on vacation a few years back. Many beautiful Thai women who ONLY dated white men. Actually, they only TALKED white men. It was nuts. At the clubs, they just threw themselves that them. But funny thing was, I met a waitress at a restaurant, and she fell in love with me. But only because I was “American”. Crazy stuff. What does this say? Here in the States, (especially on the coasts), the whole AW/WM phenom has been happening for quite some time. Remember the movie China Girl in the ’80’s? That was the harbinger of the phenom. Then came the “Lover”, set in 1930’s French Indochina (now Vietnam) about a rich Chinese man and his teenage French girlfriend. Personally, I’ve dated both Asian (Chinese, Korean, and Japanese) women, as well as white (Irish/German, Danish/French Canadian, and Romanian/Israeli) and latina (Mexican, Salvadorian) women. No preference as to race, but found I got along better with non-asian chicas. Anyway, I’m just rambling at this point, but I think all of this inter-racial dating is analogous to people being tired of eating the same type of food. For example, if one eat hamburgers all of the time, and was introduced to a delicious pizza, one would then be fascinated by that pizza. And if one ate pizza all off of the time, and was introduced to a delicious pulled-pork sandwich, one would love that pulled-pork sandwich. Similarly, if one was dating people of the same race all of the time, and was introduced to an attractive and receptive someone of another race, one would feel an attraction for that “other food”.
Comment by TheTruth on 11 December 2009:
White men have a higher risk of balding than asian men. African american men have the least likelihood of balding. Once you go black, you will end up in a wheel chair.
Comment by TheTruth on 11 December 2009:
Also, no one wants white girls anymore because of their bad atittudes
Comment by ugh on 13 December 2009:
Vixfix: knowing Thailand, those women threw themselves at white men because the women see them as sugar daddies who will bring them to the US where they can have good lives. This has been thoroughly documented and I`m not saying it to bring anyone down.
Comment by homesteader on 13 December 2009:
Truth ; Is boxers shave their heads to keep sweat from Clouding their eyes in the Heat of Battle .
Women treat Men as Men treat them / Did you ever feel Lightheaded after spreading all this unrelated Manure .
My hair is Full and far longer than just past my Shoulders .
Title of topic - ” Why are Asian men and Caucasion women , more common lately ? ”
First sentence - ” Why Asian girls go for White guys . ”
Is this a Riddle ? or just Confusion on Authors part ?
Comment by kayman on 16 December 2009:
I think it’s because Asian women tend to put whiteness and white men on a pedastal. The desire to be like white women and dating white men in their mind is the key to getting there.
Comment by Mason on 16 December 2009:
Nguyen is an idiot. You cannot equate AM/WF with AF/WM because there is a class differential. Men will screw anything that moves. Every man knows this. So does every woman. Asian women only want White men. And Asian men do not approach them because it has been too long that AF’s shrink away at the sight of ANY other Asian, whether it be male or female.
When a White man can get White women, he will go for nothing else. When he is over the hill and single, with no prospects for White women, he will go for younger Asian women.
AF’s are sacrificing their diginity and standing in the world just for social camouflage, which is only an illusion–everyone knows what’s going on.
Comment by JCheng on 17 December 2009:
I’m an Asian guy and I’ve had white girlfriends and so has my friends. You know I think a lot of it is mostly in our heads. There’s so many Asian guys who go around thinking that a white girl won’t have him and they have these limiting beliefs even before they go over and just say hi. So guys just react in two ways. The first way is to just resign to that thinking and never approaching (and staying dateless) and the other reaction is to get angry about it and it shows when they talk to white women - like they have something to prove.
I mean, some of it is definitely also about how the media has portrayed Asian males as either Kung Fu masters with heavy Chinese accents or geek, computer nerd types and it’s inexcusable really, but how you react to that is entirely up to you.
In the end, women are attracted to confident men and if you are comfortable with who you are, then it’s going to show and you will be attractive to women. I worked hard on getting over my negative thinking. I also took the advice of some Asian guys who were very succesful with white women. I made friends with them and went out with them. I also bought a product called Asian Dating Superstars (http://asiandatingsuperstars.org), that was really good at motivating me. My current girlfriend is Chinese, but it’s not because I couldn’t date white women, she is just a great girl!
Comment by Morgan on 18 December 2009:
I have only recently begun to think of finding a partner (I’m 22 but was busy with school and stuff and didn’t want distractions) so now I started to explore who I am attracted to and somehow I have realize that there is nothing cuter than a dark haired Asian guy with nice eyes. I think it must be the culture too, I’ve never been the typical american girl and find most white guys intensely annoying. And like Krystal above I look very young for my age and the white guys seem to look right over me and think I’m 16 because of my shyness, young face and bellow average bust. I even took a silly facebook quiz the other day and was laughing too hard cause it told me I was really Japanese lol. I’m of course still open to the right guy of any race but so far there has been nothing about the white or black guys that I really want. Asian is just my preference. I even prefer the food, growing up I wouldn’t eat a hamburger, sooo unamaerican of me haha, and yet I’d eat all kinds of other stuff that would turn my friends green. One thing that is baffling to me still is that I keep offering my favorite candy to white friends, which is crystalyzed candied ginger, and they all think it’s gross. Wierdos
Comment by John on 19 December 2009:
Im an Asian man. I only get into relationship with Asian females. Not putting down any other type of females. Many asian females should be damn ashame of themselves for their self hate. You’re disgusting. Treating yourself like a whores for some white guy with a fetish.
For white guys that puts down their own sisters. You need some real ass kicking by some white females. What they aren’t good enough for you??? For the white guys that respects their own women..how can you sit back and watch these asshole put your own women down like that??
Comment by homesteader on 19 December 2009:
Morgan ;
Stay on the Blogs and it openly shows your pretty Picture / More people will see you Daily .
Best of Luck / AfroRomance worked for Us .
Comment by Rick on 23 December 2009:
I’m an Asian guy in California and maybe 90% of the women I have dated have been white. I’ve dated Asian, Black, Latinas as well. Asian women who choose non-Asian men should do it if they don’t feel the attraction for AM’s. Just means more non-Asian women available to us anyway.
Comment by marguerita lopez-jimenez on 23 December 2009:
well i think its da person inside. who da h* cares bout da race.. dats wat stupid ppl go by is da race! da only ding dat matters is the person inside ppl! but dink wat ur want! but im rite! i really luv asian men esp. da 1’s dat r short wit a ponytail n really squinted eyez! so dam sexy!!
Comment by denawong on 27 December 2009:
Hey Ramen
“Please,speak for yourself. Maybe this is true in Chinese culture but certainly NOT true in Korean culture. Among Asians Koreans are perhaps most nationalistic.
We don’t hold whites on a pedestal. Japanese are famous for that.No offense but most self loathing Asians tends to be Chinese. I’ve come across more ChineseAmericans with such low self esteem here.”
WRONG:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXJpq99Xoxs
Comment by jl on 29 December 2009:
asian guys are usually hopless because they’re simply idiots who spike their hair.
Im an asian dude with a hot south african (caucasian) gf. She’s 5′10” and I’m 6′6”. My height is probably what got me in. Ha
Comment by CG on 1 January 2010:
The whole discussion is funny. I just ended a ended a relationship with a Caucasian. It was great when it lasted. Sometimes she never understands why I am emotional. I turned out to see things better after it ended. At the end it does not matter. You get what you deserve. Cuz it does not matter who you marry, just treat and respect each other properly. All is well. jl good for you dude.
Comment by RycherX on 6 January 2010:
Basically, if you’re an asian guy in the United States, you have to be an above average asian guy in terms of looks and/or money. Not only do you have to be above average, you have to be socially assimilated. All of the asian guys I’ve met who’ve been tall good looking and popular growing up in their respective cities hold their own. They have no trouble getting their fair share of white/brown/other girls. Granted, they may not own the show as as white male who looks like Brad Pitt but will still get their fair share poontang. If you’re the average run-of-the-mill asian guy, you’re at a huge disadvantage.
Comment by zachMac1985 on 6 January 2010:
I’m a caucasian male and not racist. However, I simply do not find oriental women attractive (facially). An ethnicity I find attractive that are non-Caucasian (I consider latinas caucasian so I’m not counting them here) are South Asian women (e.g. Indian, Sri Lankan, etc)
Comment by Korean BBQ on 7 January 2010:
I also have noticed more Asian American guys with white women in recent years.
I think its just simple fact that many Asian Americans guys have come of age. Most have grown up in America and have assimilated to the white dominated culture.
I’ve dated mostly white women all my life. These are the women who are most abundant in my life from work to dating circles. In my case, it doesn’t hurt that I’m 6′ 1″.
According to US Census, 1 out of 3 East Asian American guys who were born in US or raised here are married to white women. With surprisingly Korean American guys with the highest outmarriage ratio. There goes that KPride theory. Didn’t know that did ya?
Comment by Alan on 7 January 2010:
i’m british chinese and all my exs are white and a couple of blacks. My current gf is italian. She loves me to bits and beg me never to leave her.
Certainly i get lots of attention from white girls all around so i don’t see any fuss.
I fink ppl jus try to put ppl down or stereotype.
Eitherway i’m havin a great time wif my woman.
Comment by Distain on 8 January 2010:
I have always found Chinese, Japanese and all other types of Asian men to be very attractive! Im a white women so I guess we don’t all buy the stereo type.
Comment by blork on 9 January 2010:
white men want feminine = long hair, pretty, soft voice, respectful, dresses, etc women
asian women want masculine = independent, adventure, provide, protect
Comment by SGBoy on 13 January 2010:
Wow Yap i dont buy this race-mixing crap. I want my kids to look Chinese.
Comment by Erica on 15 January 2010:
I am mainly attracted to asian men only, and im currently dating a vietnamese guy. I perfer asian guys only because they are clean, Very sweet, and respectful.
Comment by Cookiejack on 17 January 2010:
I guess no one in this world can speak for their own ethnic, is not like if you’re asian, u are speaking for the whole Asian race. This is wrong, we are all Americans, how come we treat each other so different just because of our look. I’m an Asian, and I always thought of myself as just some kind of stupid second class citizen that can’t take charge. It’s like I was born to be treated that way. And i think we should all see each other not as asian, black, hispanic, caucasian or any other ethnic. We’re all Americans, and that’s what we should treat each other as. (lol , it’s not like anyone will read the last comment, whoever that read it good for you have seeing my will.
Comment by OC on 18 January 2010:
You know the saying once you go Asian you don’t go Caucasian?
I’m white and I proved that saying to be true (at least about myself) by dating a Korean guy for awhile, then dating a white for a very short period of time. Dating my own race felt wrong and now I am back with my Korean boyfriend.
Maybe I just find him more intriguing than white guys because he’s from the other side of the globe.
Comment by Peter on 20 January 2010:
Hi, just gota say im am a 17 yearold British white guy living in Canada (moved here 2 years ago). My girl friend is asian (chinese) and recently moved here too, i have to make it clear the reason i am with her is becouse i love her and thats it.
Comment by Rabbitz on 21 January 2010:
I don’t know where people are getting the idea that AMWF couples are on the rise? I live in the San Francisco bay area where we have one of the highest Asian American populations in the country. In all of 2009, I saw fewer than 5 AMWF couples. So I don’t think this is a growing trend.
But I wanted to say something about our Asian females dating Caucasian men. This is ultimately a good thing. We as Asians are in our infancy as far as our integration into American society. Just as African Americans gained acceptance into the US through music and sports among other things, Asian people will gain acceptance through our women. It will mostly be AA women who will reap the benefits of this, but some AA men might catch some spill off. So to all of you Asian American women out there, you are our ambassadors to mainstream American society - do your best to represent us and foster acceptance.
Comment by quant on 21 January 2010:
I am a Chinese guy from The Netherlands and have been living in Switzerland for the past 10 years. My current girlfriend of 3 years is a Swiss blonde. My last two relationships were with a Tunisian/Greek woman and an incredibly sexy (if I may say so) Sri Lankan woman. You could kind of say that I am an equal opportunity guy when it comes to dating women.
Personally, I happen to know of a string of Asian man-western woman combos among my acquaintances. For example, one of my Swiss girlfriend’s work colleagues is married to a Japanese guy. My barber, who just so happens to be a Japanese guy, was married to a Swiss woman, just a like a couple of his own Japanese friends. Then there is the daughter of my girlfriend’s private flute teacher who married a Japanese guy.
Just in case you were thinking that we are dealing with some kind of local phenomenon mainly limited to Japanese guys, I am befriended with a Chinese opera singer whose 19 year old son is being romantically pursued by a number of his Swiss girl classmates in school (he is a good-looking, and a very outgoing and confident chap). Last but not least, a Chinese friend of mine has been pursued by a Swiss lady, asking him to date her. However, he stubbornly wants to date Chinese women only. I have been trying hard to convince him to go for European women, but so far without any luck – I may have to resort to putting (ground) hallucinogenic mushrooms in his drink one day….
In addition, lately I have started to actively pay attention to interracial couples on the streets, and so far I have sighted an increasing number of such couples involving Asian guys. As one example, last Sunday, as I was strolling in the park, I came across a Chinese guy walking arm in arm with a Swiss woman, probably married judging from the two young mixed looking boys who were with them.
It is undeniable that many decades of racist and demeaning stereotyping perpetuated by Hollywood have had a severe toll on the dating chances of (East) Asian men. With this in mind, one could discount my personal observations as just anecdotal “evidence”; nevertheless I believe that things are finally changing for the better for Asian guys in the dating scene. In the latest release of marriage and co-habitation data by the European census and marriage registry bureau for the year 2008, analysts have discovered a significant trend toward greatly increasing numbers of European women marrying and living with Asian men residing in European Union member countries.
Globalization and the gradual shift of economic and political power to East Asia have also led to an increase in more balanced, positive and truthful images of Asian men. Even Hollywood is realizing this and catching up. On a personal level, what also helps a lot is to be confident when approaching women (especially western ones) and be able to hold an intelligent conversation interlaced with humor (I believe these are one of the reasons why I have been hit on by numerous white women, mostly in corporate environments).
Comment by mikeyboy on 23 January 2010:
I find the contraidiction. I see a lot of complaining from asian men about a supposed disparity between asian male, white female/white male, asian female relationships, and yet most of these same people are mentioning having been in relationships with white women. the fact is one third of all AMERICAN born asian men are marry white women. when one factors in the relationships which don’t end in marriage, the vast majority of asian men have “access” to white women. of course an off the boat asian guy is not going to stand as good as a chance, just as an off the boat russian, mexican or whatever who is not assimiliated into the majority culture. i would go so far as to say that asians actually have a distinct advantage over white men in meeting white women for a number of reasons.
Comment by mikeyboy on 23 January 2010:
asians here in new york city have a distinct advantage in that white men have been crowded out of the job market, particular in finance industries, leaving mostly asian males and white women working together. the asians, not fearing sexual harassment laws due to having a patriarchal, malecentric culture, are extremely aggressive in pursuing white women at their workplace. the white women, now from the generation who have been taught in school k-12 that to deny a minority anything is tantamount to racism, usually give in to dates.
Comment by redakt on 23 January 2010:
I love asian girls, im white and I much prefer them over stuffy white women. much prettier better behaved (most of the time) very submissive and accomodating especially phillipino and japanese ones, just stunning
Comment by ugh on 25 January 2010:
I wish Asian girls and White men would date each other more; this would just mean more white women for Asian guys like me.
You have self-hating Asian girls who are the only women in the world racist against their own men on one hand, and white men who wants a submissive Asian girl to take their abuse and be a passive, no-sense of indepedent sex slave on the other hand. I would say the two deserve each other.
Comment by turtle on 26 January 2010:
I am a white (southern) female, and I have been in a relationship with my Chinese boyfriend for about two years. I never dated around very much before meeting him, mostly because I never found anyone very interesting. He is, in fact, my first love, my first boyfriend, and the first Asian man I’ve dated.
I would certainly be lying if I didn’t say that looks played a part. He’s very handsome, and I am wildly attracted to him. I love running my fingers through his dark hair, and along his smooth, baby-soft skin. I love that his lips are so full and a pleasure to kiss, and I love his long, slender (but masculine) build. I’m sure he has a similar list of things that he admires about me.
His personality is wonderful. I love that he is a thoughtful, well-spoken man. I love that he is intelligent and confident in the things he speaks about. I love that he is always looking for ways to be sweet to me, if only to see me smile. I love that he teaches me about things he knows, and seems to truly enjoy it. I also love that he can appreciate me, flaws included, and rationally say that we can conquer any problem in our relationship without ending it. I love that he’s a gentleman, polite and gentle at every turn, and that he actually cares about what our families think about us and our relationship. There are a lot of things that many men of all races could learn from him.
Being from the southern part of the US, racism is a bit more widespread that in other places, such as the Northeast or Pacific areas. I have actually only seem ONE other AM/WF couple in passing since I’ve started looking, and he and I get a lot of strange looks from asian and white folks alike. This generally doesn’t bother us, but it is rather intriguing that we are more of a rarity in the world of interracial dating.
Comment by omondieu on 27 January 2010:
You sound like a real catch, redakt…
Comment by Jocelyn on 28 January 2010:
This is a great topic — one that I hold dear to my heart, as a Euro-American married to a Chinese man. I did a post about the rarity of foreign women and Chinese men together:
http://www.speakingofchina.com/china-articles/foreign-women-chinese-boyfriend-chinese-husband/
But you pose a good question, in asking the opposite — as in, why Asian men and Caucasian women couples are becoming more common. I’m not sure I can speak for all Asian men, but I can take a guess for Chinese men — as China has opened, Chinese men are opening their minds too. There are more and more unconventional Chinese men willing to imagine a future with a Caucasian woman.
Still, we will remain a minority because, in general, single women under 40 who go to China are still a huge minority, so Chinese men have a very very small pool to choose from.
Comment by a on 1 February 2010:
@ugh
I don’t think asian women are racist of their own, it has more to do with preference. I’m an asian guy and have met with a lot of nice asian women. I know there are more asian women dating white men, but the fact of the matter is, in america, we live in a male dominated society and there are troubling stereotypes in the media with asians. I’m not saying the media is the only to blame (one has to have confidence, positive attitude, be outgoing etc), but it doesn’t help because I know some people who believe it (sometimes Hollywood makes asians look bad for some reason).
Comment by Rizal on 2 February 2010:
I personally believe that people must learn to look beyond race and culture to the heart of the person. I never choose my friends based upon their culture nor upon their race. I find other cultures to be interesting and I’m always looking forward to learning something new. I am currently taking International Developmental studies, my third language is Chinese and I am also working on Tagalog. I am also very much head over heals for a Filipino boy and I am a white female. Maybe we should just realize the truth of it all, we are all human beings and if we keep generalizing and looking at the world through our narrow stereotype gaze than we might as well try to stare down a straw for the rest of our lives.
The most that matters is loving the person you are with.
I also love to see mixed relationships because it really does show people that this world does work, people can live peacefully and lovingly with each other.
Comment by Pink chick on 2 February 2010:
Hi i am a 23 year old white model and i just like to say how can u even compare a white guy to any other race?
And white people are the only race that have different colour eyes different colour hair there just so much choice like look at celebs aswell brad pitt jhon travolter david beckham etc etc wers the asians no wer cause there not as popular in society simple as. as for fitness not one asian guy hav every one a mr olympia and they completely set up the olympic games and brought disgrace to the sport.
Asian girls want white men cause there just better simples.:)
Comment by holm on 6 February 2010:
There are many short sighted Asian men here who miss the end of the tunnel in regards to white women. White women can only possibly look good when they are young. White women have no melanin to protect their skin from sun damage. This causes their skin to accumulate sun damage over the course of their life times. Whereas colored women will still be looking good mid age, white women will have wrinkly, dry, leathery and blotchy skin. In the long run, non-white women are a better choice due to their melanin.