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Attitudes towards Valentine’s day

Posted by James, 11 Feb

Valentine’s day is here again… a day that can make or break your relationship. Most men have been found guilty of either forgetting or even ignoring this day while some have sent Valentines to women who had no idea the men had crushes on them. So, how should you start this day?

2 in 5 men feel it’s quite ok to start the romance with a Valentine’s Day card. I believe most women think this is how the day should start; some delivery with a bouquet of flowers, chocolate, fine wine and a V’s Day card with some very thoughtful and romantic message.

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Sad thing is not everyone get’s to celebrate this day. And the attitude of your spouse toward this day plays a very important role. The average guy’s attitude toward Valentine’s day is “I CAN TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT.” And some feel “ITS FOR HER NOT ME.” Others feel this day was made for women to torture men. Such attitudes have left many women heartbroken on this day. Some even hate this day because of past experiences. And yet, 32% of men wish their spouses would do something for them on V Day.

I think a man’s beliefs in V Day are insignificant. Taking one day and making it special just because your significant other finds it significant shows how unselfish your love for her is. So what counts is not a man's attitude but a woman's. And if you are lucky, she probably thinks its bull. What do you think of Valentine’s Day? What makes this day special (or not) for you?

Have a great one!

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  1.   wonka says:
    Posted: 02 Mar 10

    Bottomline I can talk for hours about this subject, but,I'll keep it short and to the point!.I HATE Valentines Day,what's the freakin' point.Honestly, if your a person who cares about Valentines day,YOUR BORED...and you probably need a life!. Boooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!,Valentines Day SUCKS!!...WHO CARES?!.

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  2.   Fire321 says:
    Posted: 30 May 09

    I agree with kholbito. Valentine's Day is a joke and those who participate in it is a joke as well. Anyone who needs a "special" day to show their loved one that they care is ridiculous but to each his own. You shouldn't need a "special" day for your significant to show you they love you or care for you.

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  3.   khoibito says:
    Posted: 21 Feb 09

    Valentine's Day is utter nonsense. And as was mentioned by one Relationship Specialist, if either partner feels "obliged" to do some chore, then the relevance of the day is meaningless. I've been around guys who take their wives out every week, yet she still expects a gift on Valentine's Day, and Mother's Day, and her Birthday, and her Wedding Day. Sad reality is that American women (at least here in the northeast US) have become so accustomed to receiving gifts for special occasionals as well as no-occasions, that it is built into their psyches. Many guys simply perform a chore to go-along and get along.

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  4.   ftwtxblonde says:
    Posted: 16 Feb 09

    If I say I don't give a flip about Vday, then someone is bound to call me unromantic, or better yet, bitter. If I start drooling at the thought of Vday, someone is bound to call me greedy or shallow for wanting all those "goodies" that the jewelry, floral and greeting card industry insists that men buy in order to have a peaceful home life (...whatever!). If I say Vday is unimportant, trust me, I'm not lying. If I say it's important, I'm not lying either! LOL it's a free country, people. Do whatcha like. Also, check out this article I saw on CNN.com on the same subject: http://www.cnn.com/2009/POLITICS/02/11/martin.valentine/index.html

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  5.   Cloe27 says:
    Posted: 14 Feb 09

    Amen to that What?!. Maybe he should have went to Jared's. Today I spoke to a few married men about V-day and they aren't opposed but they aren't celebrating like it's 1999 either. Essentially, they care about making their wives feel EXTRA special even when she says its not a big deal and I think that's awesome. I think the older we women get we do tend to see it as just another day especially if we're making honest efforts the other 364 days of the year. For those who like to make it a big deal, do. For those who don't, well...don't.

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  6.   What?! says:
    Posted: 14 Feb 09

    What in the world does this post on Valentine's Day have to do with "sellout" Black women?! Man, you've got issues. You just want to start drama where drama needn't be.

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  7.   Member says:
    Posted: 12 Feb 09

    I think Valentine's day is extremely important. Some women downplay it because they got "anybody" to share that day with. Especially sellout black women. I bought my fiancee a ring at "Zales". Bottom line if a woman says Valentine day is not important she is lying! http://mrlaureltonqueens.blogspot.com/

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