Most people who date interracially claim to have moved “beyond race”. However, more often than not, our decisions of who to date have and still are highly influenced by race. And the question of whether to date or not to date interracially seems to raise eyebrows – depending on how you look at it.
When in college, an male Asian friend of mine once told me he makes it a point NOT TO date Asian women so as to avoid being dubbed the ‘stereotypical Asian guy who only hooks up with Asian women’. Is this prejudicial?
What do you think of people who exclusively date interracially or within their race? Most people who consciously choose to date members of a specific race, usually site attraction to particular physical features of that race.
Stereotypes about the sexuality of different races have influenced people’s perceptions of those ethnicities’ sexual desirability – or availability even. So, one can’t help but wonder whether the choosing to date members of a particular race is just a simple case of attraction or racial prejudice.
The automatic elimination of a racial group in one’s dating pool on the basis of physical appearance or features is generalization. And given that in reality there are diversities within every race, such dating discrimination is unjustified to say the least. It clearly proves that racial stereotypes feed into fetishization or exotification of certain racial groups. If you ask me, this is where it stops being about personal taste.
Well, looking deeper into preference, one could truly be attracted to light-skinned individuals. But what are the motives behind this attraction? Could it be that we are trying to conform to (or reject) beauty standards set by the media, all the while trying to convince ourselves that our dating preferences are not about race but mere personal attraction?
Do you think making the conscious choice TO date or NOT TO date someone from your own race is somewhat racist? What about making the conscious choice TO interracially date members of a particular race? Is this a different kind of discrimination?
Jake, I agree with you on most points you’ve mentioned. But I think most will disagree or ignore your statements because thinking is not a skill people possess these days.
The statement “I like what I like and I don’t need to justify it” is a cop out to me. If you can’t think critically of why you pefer what you prefer, and give substantial evidence then I can’t you seriously. You think you are weeding out those who don’t meet your standards – and the issue of self entitlement in America is outstanding – when in reality you are weeding yourself out due to narrow mindness and stupidity.
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My wife and I met here / it was a Female and a Male who Desired Lifelong Companionship – A meeting of the Minds ; after all Love in your Heart comes from Mutual Thought Patterns .
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