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Online dating vs Real dating

Posted by Ria, 03 Mar

Most people give lots of reasons when it comes to dating preferences. And with online dating at its peak these days, it comes as no surprise. Most people who prefer online dating give reasons like:

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- It’s easier to filter candidates - It saves time and effort - Online dating acts as a barrier – as in, you get to meet your date in person only when you are dating

Question is: Is online dating better that real dating?

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  1.   imtheone78 says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 13

    Online dating is a good tool. It's helpful to meet people you very much likely would not have met in your day to day life. It is a good filter because you can pick and choose, which can also be a negative. You may come across someone on the street, on the train, at a party or wherever, and even if they're not someone you initially wouldn't be attracted to, because they're in your face and you're getting a taste of their personality, it may make you look at them a bit differently. Online you don't have that and you can be a lot more selective. So if that same person you met at that party had come across you online instead of in the real world, chances are more likely you'll dismiss them.

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  2.   inuri says:
    Posted: 14 Jan 13

    online dating is just a method, by no means would i use it to replace meeting someone in person, cuz having a man walk up to me and ask me out and flirt is exciting! Though it takes much more time to find out if they are right for you, by the time you find out they arent, your heart is invested and it's harder. But i think online dating is just another way of getting to know a person, as well as in person meeting. I do both. It maximizes my options. It has its limits, by know means are you going to learn a fraction about a person from a profile, but through conversation, you can learn alot, and its not like once you meet your online date, the process is over, then you continue dating and learning about them in person. It's important to remember that once meeting them in person is when most of the learning happens, you can feel their presence, see their body language, watch them respond to certain things etc. You cannot know a person fully until the in person meetings happen. But before then it is just another method of saying hey whats up, we should talk.

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  3.   statician says:
    Posted: 13 Jan 13

    So many people don't believe in online dating but i do.Honestly i wonder why people don't try it.You can chat with some one your willing to date one time but you can find your self falling in love and then later meet.How do you want to talk to some one who is 9000 miles away?.Online dating is the way to go.Personally am 23 looking for a honest white man to love and cherish.The best way people to make online dating safe,DONT EVER SEND MONEY TO ANY ONE YOU HAVE NOT MET IN PERSON PLEASE.

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  4.   Rudy says:
    Posted: 20 Mar 10

    Genealogy: Where you confuse the dead and irritate the living.

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  5.   oldschool56 says:
    Posted: 02 Dec 09

    @2ute4u..How right you are..that is why when people say they are DATING online I want to laugh..I dont date online, I chat online to someone I would like to date, but until we are face to face and actually dating...its just online chatter.

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  6.   oldschool56 says:
    Posted: 02 Dec 09

    My feelings are online you can only know so much. I mean how do you tell the true feelings of someone. Yes online you can say anything and everything to make a person want you but then when you meet in person..they turn out to be idiots for real, SOME not all. I do agree that online is good to start out a basic friendship..maybe. But to call it dating? Seriously doesnt dating require some kind of motion (like going out to a movie or restaurant?) You tell me sitting on your butt in front of a computer is dating? Why meet anyone..why not just date, fall in love and get married online? You meet up everyday and discuss the virtual household chores..she pretends she is doing dishes while he pretenda he walks up behind her at the sink and gives her a hello kiss..lololol oh man..makes me really want to rethink my membership...I do want to meet someone but Im not going to call a few emails or IMs dating. Okay after a couple emails, phone calls, IMs, you say to him....."You know darling I really do love you with all my heart. I want you to be my man"....then he says..."Oh baby, I love you too lets get married (as he holds out a beautiful 24k diamond engagement ring and dropping to one knee)..will you marry me and be mine forever"? See how easy that is to write? I mean add in your own online lingo (the LOL's and MUAH's and using the words c*m instead of the real word, *&%$ that replace letters,descriptive actions) And you have a relationship?..Am I missing something? Many of you and there are many of you..will be chatting online to more than one person at the same time. When you go out on a date, are you with more than one person on that date at the same time? Do you have one person sitting in the theatre in one area and you bounce back and forth between them and someone else? Online dating while great to BREAK DOWN BARRIERS, they say, cant be taken too seriously or you end up..."Your honor what had happen was..he need 165,000 dollars to buy this house".."No your honor I havent met him yet...we are just DATING"!And yet there are people who would believe it?......WOW!!

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  7.   CupidMarket says:
    Posted: 02 Oct 09

    Once we eliminated these barriers, the real work of having a serious relationship began, and our future unfolded before us. Now she proudly announces that we are back as a couple, and wants us to be that way for the rest of her life.

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  8.   ogo2k5 says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 09

    is a good thing known well that,online dating is one of the greatest thing that can ever happeen to anyone,it all depend on the man or the woman,but the important thing is that,you have meet someone,ever human known what he or she wants,if want good you see one,if is the other of it then you also fine one,undrerstand onething,life is all about risk,if you must leave life,you must take risk,that is the meaning of love.

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  9.   fidelis says:
    Posted: 01 Apr 09

    am a young man of thrity years of age, i like to meet a good and lovely woman.hw will love me and care for me.

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  10.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 02 Mar 09

    Rainbows only happen when it's raining , We were Lucky on this site because Our Dreams were the same . Early today ,I received a message from someone in the Big Apple . Who knew my wifes first name , We also have two daughters with the same first name . We married till death do us part and personally , I have gotten way too old to go thru all the tease that I experienced in the past . Some of my new friends here . Have found the time to consult me with things that I never learned in the past . For sure it rains alot here in the semi-tropic zone and We hope to see many Rainbows together . Between the Hurricanes , that We have Enjoyed Laughing through . Life goes on forever if you can Learn to Enjoy even the Harder times Together .

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  11.   VA_SongBird says:
    Posted: 22 Feb 09

    I think there are advantages and disadvantages to various forms of dating. I think online dating has provided the means for me to meet a variety of people from all walks of life, that traditional dating would have never permitted. I think online dating is great for screening people. Also, I've learned a great deal about myself through online dating due to the fact, I had the opportunity to meet alot of different people. I was better able to define specifically what I was looking for. Yes.. I've met some not so honest people and I've also met some great people. That's life and the risk you to take to find love.

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  12.   Esmayali says:
    Posted: 21 Feb 09

    I recently joined this dating service. Like anything in life there’s going to be risks involved. On this site I have met a few people with great potentials to be considered friends on the long run. On any dating site you are going to find men or women that just want to “hook up”. Statistic shows that the best way to meet a man for a woman is through friends. Online men will tell you anything to gain advantage. They will tell you that they are music producers, singes, bankers, movie stars, Donald Trump’s nephew, etc. They will tell you that they have houses in places they never visited and live in 5 different countries at the same time. However, try to get an address. The truth is that many of them are liars. You will also notice, that these are the same people who joined the website several years ago, has had countless encounters with women, men or both and still can’t find “that special one” So, as with anything else use lots of caution.

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  13.   morningflower says:
    Posted: 07 Jul 08

    Although relatively new to the online dating scene, I can say that it has been pretty dissapointing but that doesn't mean that the potential to meet great guys is not there. Main thing I have encountered is the lack of honesty. You can be anyone you want to be behind a keyboard and a mouse but again that is filed away under "lessons learned". I also agree with blkbeauty31 - distance can be a bit of an issue but even that can be overcome if the two parties are committed. (easier said than done) but I am enjoying the flexibility of being able to decide who is serious and who is out to play games. The upside is that I have met some incredibly, wonderful people that I would not have otherwise met at my local starbucks :)

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  14.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 08

    I think its great to date outside one's neighborhood, village, or tribe, if you will. Even today some tribal groups are prohibited from marrying within the tribe, so its only natural to me that people date from outside their village.

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  15.   blkbeauty31 says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 08

    I think on-line dating has made things more complicated rather than simple. The worst things is that most people I'm interested in live much to far to be taken seriously.

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  16.   alexander says:
    Posted: 19 Apr 08

    Online dating : Even when Internet dating was in its infancy, I understood the advantage and disadvantages of the computer as cupid - in a word, dramatically increasing the pool of potential dates, as well as offering options, which is never a bad thing. It gives people an opportunity to "meet" people from different social circles, creating the delightful sense that somebody wonderful is just around the corner (as long as one is able to resist endless corner peering). Then as now, it's important to online date for a minimum amount of time before going in-life. My basic rule of thumb is that you should have no more than a couple of e-mail chats and phone calls over a couple of weeks before you meet somebody face to face. ----------------- www.datingsecret.org

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  17.   lilo4love says:
    Posted: 12 Apr 08

    I think both a great. Online dating however has one benefit over 'real' dating. You know everyone (well almost) is actually looking to meet someone and you can immediately look at their profiles and see the i like and totally don't like. And yes it is easier to take things slower and not succumb to the throes of passion. Really dating on the other hand you find out things that you cannot compromise on much later because you took a number of steps too quickly (giving him your phone number, hanging out too much, getting to first second possible third base).

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  18.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 05 Apr 08

    I can certainly believe that there are fake profiles. Especially from a new site to entice people to join. The comment about membership and prostitution is way off base. Sounds like a troll to me

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  19.   lovemyjeans says:
    Posted: 31 Mar 08

    Online dating provides more opportunity. I meet more people online, than I could ever physically hope to meet in "real" life. That's basically its purpose. Now, is it better??? It's a toss up. There are some real nut cases in both realms. And if you meet someone online, and it does not transcend to "real life" you basically have a chat buddy. So use online dating as a tool.

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  20.   salsera77 says:
    Posted: 14 Mar 08

    Omg... that university study comment is soooooo way off the mark I'm rOTfL...and I've not had the misfortune of running into fake profiles, thank goodness. Use good judgement.

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  21.   2ute4u says:
    Posted: 13 Mar 08

    I personally do not believe the internet dating is all that it sets out to be...there are positives, i n that yo u get to filter people; however,one may seeminly get along with someone ,but it's not until one actually meets the other person up close then one can actaully assess if there is real chemistry between parties. There are people misrepresenting themselves all the time whether it is in their occupation or their body weight. This kind of duplitious behaviour should be illegal...but such is human nature-right?

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  22.   sleepliznbk says:
    Posted: 12 Mar 08

    Research conducted by many universities has consistently shown that people who pay for memberships on Internet dating sites have a much higher probability of paying for sex with a prostitute. To each their own. Also, it was recently discovered that many of the top-rank online dating sites have used "fake" profiles to further entice people to join. It's no wonder, therefore, that people who pay for memberships to such sites in many cases "pay" into a scam artist or con's game.

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  23.   Salsera77 says:
    Posted: 06 Mar 08

    Well if you long to date interracially, in particular the black women/white men connection you'll increase your chances if you go online. If you'll don't go online for that, what you'll definitely have is a mexican standoff!!!!

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  24.   pedalforlife says:
    Posted: 06 Mar 08

    On line dating has provided a way for me to meet people with similar interests and values that I would not have had the chance to meet otherwise. I don't drink, I'm not into the bar scene, and between taking care of my kids, work, and church, I don't have a lot of free time. So I must use the time I do have carefully, and having the opportunity to chat via e mail, and view people's profiles, is very helpful. In my experience, the women that I've met in person through on line dating have been honest and I've met some really fine women. I wouldn't say on line dating is better or worse than real dating, for me it is all part of the process of getting to know someone. Hopefully someday I will find a person that I can inspire and be inspired by, and we can share our lives in a positive and supportive way.

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  25.   kathugga says:
    Posted: 05 Mar 08

    I don't go out to clubs (I look like a beheaded chicken when I dance, I think), or to bars very often. The ratio of black people to white in my city is, umm, pretty small (last census there are about 2500 black people in a city of about 90000 people), so the chance of my meeting an available woman of the race I prefer are pretty slim. There is one black lady at my church so maybe there is a possibility there. My best chance is to meet people online. yes, it doesn't always work, especially if you want someone local. But, I prefer to chat with people for a while anyway, talk on the phone, and somewhere down the road possibly meet. It depends on how things go with chatting and all. Sometimes you find that you really don't have much in common at all, and sometimes you realize that you are much better off being friends. I've had both happen, and those who have become friends, I consider good friends, albeit some hundreds of miles away. So, really, it depends on your own situation as to whether online dating is good or not. For people like me, it's great :)! for those who aren't, it's not so great.

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  26.   shabtr813 says:
    Posted: 05 Mar 08

    It's like a coin toss. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. Either way it is hard. Yes you get to screen people prior to meeting them; it can make rejection a little easier to take since it is not face to face; I think you have to try just a little bit harder online to sell yourself...without making yourself seem to vulnerable. I've tried lots of different methods... singles clubs, matchmakers, even the old fashion way. I can't say that one is definately better than the other.

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  27.   lele75 says:
    Posted: 05 Mar 08

    I think that it's actually easier to be honest and say exactly what you are looking for online. You also get to meet....and screen more people in a short period of time. With a few emails, you can tell alot about a person's personality...which is where any relationship starts. If he's a jerk online, you don't have to waste the time of meeting.

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  28.   KAOS2007 says:
    Posted: 05 Mar 08

    What sucks is the ratio of REAL people to the liars, fakes, phonies, etc. who seem to get some sense of happiness out of playing with other people's emotions.

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  29.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 08

    I think the internet is a good filter, but too many people hide behind the keyboard and just waste one's time. A combination of both is good.

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  30.   Hmm says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 08

    I had dated a guy once who I first met on the internet. We had lasted 3 months, but I stopped dating him because he didn't ask many questions. Although some may say it was too early to get too deep, he should have been a bit more curious about my family and friends. I mean we were really close. We were with each other like 3 days out of the week. He lived an 1 1/2 away from me in another city, but we were really liking each other. I think it could have worked if he tried a bit harder to want to get to know my past.

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  31.   jade74 says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 08

    Very good comments about dating online and offline LGand2gh and Kimeloi.

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  32.   kimelodi says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 08

    I believe that people are the same whether they are are online or not. A dishonest person will be dishonest no matter what. With that being said, I feel that it's a little easier for people to be dishonest on the net, after all, you're not face to face with them. I continue to hope that because I'm involved in an online dating site, that there are others like me who are honest, attractive and looking for friendship who out there as well using various means to achieve the same result. I wouldn't close myself off to either online or dating in person. I like online dating because you can get to know more about someone before you meet them face to face. Each means of dating has it's pros and cons. I wish everyone the best.

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  33.   LGand2gh says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 08

    I think it sucks.Whatever happened to old fashioned dating,I know it's a new century,I have been disappointed,too much emphasis on libido, they are interrested,then not,are toxic.I agree,toxic and scam artists.So far I have been lucky,I went thru this w/ someone I met in person,and now he is on this site,go figure,it's his M.O.I wish I could warn you ladies on who it is.PLEASE BE CAREFUL,especially of foreigners.

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  34.   outpass35 says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 08

    I like the internet better when you work a lot and don't have time this is a good way to meet people and take your time and get to know then.

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  35.   earat8d says:
    Posted: 04 Mar 08

    Not at all, speaking from my own experiences with online dating, I have only met dysfunctional head cases and scam artists. Could be why they're hiding behind a keyboard, video and mouse.

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  36.   nemo says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 08

    I wish that online dating was more like the real world, but it is so unrealistic I have a hard time with online dating. I have heard of this new site my friend told me about virtulove.com he says that it is virtual reality and its going to be very much like real dating and mingleing has anybody heard about it or know anything about it. If so I would like to know!!

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  37.   HereIamBaby says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 08

    I think that both systems work. But, I prefer the internet...it is a good filter...and you get to know the person before you meet them. Southern smiles, Sharon

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  38.   ethereal99 says:
    Posted: 03 Mar 08

    Online dating can narrow things down & save time & effort, that's true. Still, when you meet your online date in person, there will still be unexpected surprises. If you are really looking for someone, then you have to try both dating systems & give it time.

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