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Reaction of whites to interracial unions between colored people (revised)

Posted by Ria, 03 Sep

interracial1.jpgSorry about the earlier mix up in this post.

Many people react negatively when they see a member of their culture/ethnic group with a member of another ethnic group. “What are our men/women doing with outsiders?᾿ This is a reaction that is almost the expected reaction.

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Well am not against interracial unions so before you start with the cursing, hold them horses. However you will agree with me (those who will) that I am merely stating something that is not inconceivable… most people might feel that they should stick with their own kind.

According to an article I read the other say, strange as it may look, for some whites, this negative reaction to interracial unions goes way past white/non-white couples. There have been a few incidents I may have encountered that made this register with me. For example one day, a black man walked by holding an Asian woman. Then a white dude next to me said "It is strange to see a black man with an Asian woman". So why is it not weird when a white man is with an Asian woman?

I may be overreacting and if so, then let me know. But has anyone ever noticed this? So what is the difference between white men dating Asians and black men who date Asians? Both are interracial unions.

My pal was telling me black-Asian couples encounter more explicit forms of white disapproval. This, I am trying to swallow. If we go by the normal excuse of disapproval - “purity being at stake᾿ – then what does a black-Asian couple got to do with the white community’s purity being threatened? Clearly, that cannot apply to this case. So what is the reasoning behind it then?

In an article The Art of War the author tried explaining this reaction. "the yellow woman is considered the white man's exclusive toy, and he is not willing to share this toy with other men of any color". Does this mean that whites only approve of interracial unions they are involved in? Do they feel the same resentment when it’s a white women dating Asian men or are they ok with it.

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  1.   luckeyone says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 08

    Ne'er took it .When i said to her that is racist ,she turned around and with strait face said ;i am not racist.;

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  2.   luckeyone says:
    Posted: 23 Jan 08

    I think we react against interracial unions out of jealousy's, envys fears of changes period .I came from Europe when i was 30 years old .I didn't find melthing pot evryone was talking about .It does not exists ,same as for democracy, American politicians and media chirp about .Europe is not better .When i lived there we didn't have many blacks, Asians ,or Arabs ,but we directed our intolerance to people with different ,laguage ,dialect, stile of dress, religion., lack of suntan or to much of it. We all carry our prejudices wherever we go .Our children learn from it and so on .On recent visit to Atlanta my friend misplaced her expensive necklace and right of way she taught her made took it. During lunch hour ,after telling coworker about it ,her coworker ,who is white said ;N

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  3.   Member says:
    Posted: 22 Jan 08

    For all you Black people who support interracial relationships with whites: http://www.blackwallstreet.freeservers.com/ Have a good think about what has been done to your people and also what you are doing to your own people. -Are you making us stronger or weaker?

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  4.   paul says:
    Posted: 23 Sep 07

    cocobunni that was amoving story as a white english guy ive always dated black females just my preference ive never had what youve been through maybe i was lucky my heart goes out to you girl x

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  5.   Starthai says:
    Posted: 21 Sep 07

    Thanks realdeal :)

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  6.   needrealdeal says:
    Posted: 21 Sep 07

    I've tossed all these blogs around a bit and allthough I'm not a deciding factor of anyones mind just by adding a piece of mine might help the littlest bit.Hopefully to bring aware ONE individule and enlighten them.If this occurs then once more knowledgable they will slowly "PASS IT ON" I've had good and bad experiences with black woman.My openness to loving another human being unconditionally isn't predudicial.WE are all HUMAN and the more people who realize the simplicity of that the better. I believe through experience knowledge is key and ignorance is no where near bliss.Who the hell wrote that anyway,we she smack'm. Women are women,mem are men.Some good some bad and some really great and extremely bad.Color shouldn't play a role.Unfortunatly in society it does due to steriotypeing.I feel upbringing has the most to do with a good connection when looking for a partner.The realation,understanding,moral code, instilled values,lingo,etc. have the biggest effect on how a match is made.The understanding of that bieng able to relate to each other forms a union. Two people who have grown to love,truely love one another becoming ONE in a strong union for a life commitment to each other is "TO EACH HIS/HER OWN" In time predudice of color will be gone with the little input of each individual spreads in a possitive way. There will always be some form of hate.Personally I can't stand people with the talent and/or abilities to move ahead in general.It's a waste of exsistance no matter who or what you are. I'm no overachiever but I do what I can to do right for me and mine. I've coming to you with all of this because I've been in a serious relationship with the most amazing woman I've ever had the pleasure of meeting. I'm a 37yr old white male,she a 43(just turned.)black woman.As a union we unfold each other and continuously feed of each other about real stuff,real to us and not having hit on racial issues as much as some might have to.WHY? Mostly because we have already proven our self worth within our families and environment to be trusted enough to make this decision and remain respected. The open mindedness and acceptance of our families (not to say there aren't ANY issues) but gaining all this from them,friends and co-workers is accepted for "who we are,not what we are." The world should see what we see.

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  7.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 07

    Cocobunni,Thank you so much for your personal story of interracial love. It was very touching to read it and feel your pain.Thanks again for sharing.

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  8.   cocobunni says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 07

    Thanks Jade, It was a memory from the past, while reading all of the comments here, it just hit me. I'm in the process of searching once again for a love and I am going to make it a deliberate point of searching for exactly what I want. When you go to interracial dating sites, what do you all see the most? BLACK MEN, looking for non-black women. They sometimes will even send a nice breaker or what ever it's called to a sista. But their profile will say they are looking for non-black, and then all ethnicities. As if they will choose a black sista LAST. Women say they are looking for love, men say they are looking for a certain color or preference, right up front. Why is it that women don't state their preference up front? Will that hurt us or help us?

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  9.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 18 Sep 07

    Thank you so much Cocokisses.I know the feeling of Black women being devalued.Your personal experience of young innocent love,wow what a story.Im sure many others have simular stories to tell.Thank you for sharing it with us.Love you Sis.

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  10.   Cocobunni says:
    Posted: 18 Sep 07

    Let me jump in here: I love all men, I am though tired of not feeling good enough for a black man. I am also tired of sitting at church watching all the black men walk in and have babies and white women on their laps and beside them. While black women are devalued. The black men don't speak, nor do the white women they are with. Even when the parents of the white women accept the man, they still look at a nearby BW as if she is going to try and take this man away. WE DON"T CARE. We want to be respected and loved for who we are. I wanted to date a white boy in 5th grade, mother said no" black girls don't date white boys". So I went back to school and gave him his ring back and told him that. " I can't be your girlfriend because your white." So sad, years later, freshman in high school, the only guy to send me flowers in school was a white boy, a year older, from England. We snoke around for quite a while. My black friends and family didn't know and his friends and family didn't know for a long time. One day after school, my brothers ( white) best friend seen us kissing good bye on a rainy day. My brother went home, told my parents and I got in trouble. My brother threatened him, but he didn't care. My white girl friends were more accepting at that time, them my black girlfriends. They thought I was a sell out. At night on the phone my brother would give me 15 min. to talk to him. During that time, his family finally figured out I was black, (because of my deeper sexier voice) of which I have always had. Well, anyway, then they began to give him a really hard time, began calling me a Ngr. ALL THE TIME, it was HARD for me to stay on the phone. He actually ran away. I talked him into going back home. This guy would bike 5+ miles to see me for 10 min, at night just to kiss, for 10 min. We were not sexually active. Very innocent love we had. He respected me. Well, guess what his friends finally figured it out, and his younger brother tried to run me over one day after school with his car. I couldn't take it, so I told him it was over. He knew why, and was pissed off. We NEVER spoke again in High School, until the day of graduation. Years later I was married to an abusive men, living on base, where his mother worked and I got the chance to confront her. I did it respectfully. She didn't know who I was, as she complimented by beautiful baby girl. I told her, and she said, she had messed up bad, and apologized. She said that her son was really upset about how they had treated me and that she knew that he loved me. He had since married the white girl, who was the next female he dated when we broke up. They are still married, he now lives back in our small town, when I see them, she is still so VERY insecure with my presence. He still looks at me the same. The look in his eyes, I have NEVER seen from another man, not even a black man, not even my husband. The look of desire and admiration. I don't ever talk about this, EVER, but today I wanted to tell you a story. I've never even posted here before. What I would not give to go back and do this again. I would tell my parents how I feel about him, and I would tell my boyfriends parents together with him, to just allow us a chance to be together, to let it be our choice. We would have been careful in every way. The punch line is this: His brother who tried to run me done with the vehicle, is married to a BW and has 4 kids. That happened about 4 years after HS. I was MAD when I heard that. Another punch: My brother has been married twice, both white women, has 6 children by them, 3 by each. He feels that black women should stay alone, if they can't find, get or keep a black man. I DISAGREE. The words we use and the insecurities we have are causing alot of pain for those we say we care for. Black women are so devalued it is sad. We have endowered through SO MUCH, and it's sad that even when our men were taken during the slave times, we stood strong for the family and never complained. Yet, they have forgotten how much we have done to keep them alive.

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  11.   Darklicious says:
    Posted: 11 Sep 07

    I have read some very good comments on this topic so I hope to add something that's good. ai am a black woman,that's right look at my nome, anyway I am from North Carolina and I see quite a few black females here with white men. I'm glad to see this because it gives me hope that maybe one day I'll be in a relationship like that. I am attracted to white men and any chance that I can get a little flirt in,I do.The reaction to my flirting is just like any man,they like it. I have found that when I am in need of help, car trouble or whatever,I can always depend on getting help from a white man,they are very polite and helpful.Usually a black man will go right by but the minute a white man steps in to help,they come back to help. I guess it shows just how little they think of black women. black women will always be better off if there is a white man around because I have never seen one that's not polite to us. Maybe things are changing and the white male is starting to realize that he does have an attraction to us and they are trying to see where it can go. Oh yeah white women do have a look that they give them when they see them with a black woman,yet white women will have a black man and think it's okay. I guess they want their cake and eat too. Darklicious

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  12.   vette says:
    Posted: 07 Sep 07

    i read the blogs one thing i didnt see anyone talk about is when article say "most people might feel that they should stick with their own kind". What I'm a dog and your a cat? We are all one kind, the human kind and until we embrace this notion we are all going to parish. vette

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  13.   latty says:
    Posted: 07 Sep 07

    The person or whoever lion king is, it isn't necessary to say the first thing that clouds your head. The race of a person has nothing to do with intelligents or abilities to learn. Perhaps a class in socialogy and history will help you with knowledge of different raced and cultures accomplishmentd and than you can come back and write something more intelligent

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  14.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 05 Sep 07

    Thank you King Lion for the information and the reminder of The Song of Solomon.It is a Book of love and how deep the love was.Keep the comments coming.Thanks Cocokisses,Fala, Vt and Laugh Sailor.Each of you have much to cotribute to the blog.

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  15.   MsMackey says:
    Posted: 05 Sep 07

    thank you King Lion I forgot about that, my mom and I was reading it after I saw your comment.. once again thank you M

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  16.   fala says:
    Posted: 05 Sep 07

    VT as a guest blogger - she's got my vote!

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  17.   vt33 says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 07

    My apologies to giving the wrong name Lawrence Parker, is the name not Chris.

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  18.   vt33 says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 07

    Hmm.. I am still a bit lost, people have now went to quoting the good book and calling children who aren't of two different hues...whats the word I am looking for....I will let you all fill in the blank. I will say that statement does takes me back to when children of lighter hues were considered better than children of darker hues. One could also associate that with the slave factor. The darkest were in the field, and the lightest worked in the house and were chosen favorites over the dark. Check the scrolls of the National Honor Society you will see equally a number of children of african americn descent on that roll. They are not all off spring of two different backgrounds. A lot of them are from single parent homes, and their parents are blue collar workers with high school diplomas. Folks lets not put down each other with this topic. Also lets not offend those parents who blog on this site, about their children and their backgrounds and their lack of education. It appears, there are still some social problems within our community. To justify it by putting scientifically in front just, cuts like a knife. Lion with all do respect, Booker a Rhodes Scholar, Barack a well educated man, both his parents were scholars and of different hues, that does not make either of the two smarter than Professor West or Chris Parker. Chris Parker is a perfect example of a scholar, he came from a so so background, made his mark on the world, became socially aware, got educated, has been homeless, and has been a speaker at Columbia Universit all in his lifetime. Ria, I think even with the revised issue of this blog, and the current statements posted. Society will never accept couples of different hues. William Melvin Kelly wrote a short story The Only Man on Liberty Street, I received the book from a woman who was cleaning out her attic, and was told this will guide you from no one to someone. At first I was insulted by her statment. I open the book and it was written right in the front cover of the book, by her I am not sure! The woman died a few years later, a man came around to sell the house. I went to return the book really to be nosey. I was in awe, this pretty dark lady came to the door with a white man. He was my neighboors son and his wife, and the book was his, he told me keep it and pass it on to another mind eager to understand. Thing is I never knew she had a son. That book taught me humility and that it is okay to be different, and that we can live together in society and not be so judgemental. It takes character and heart to do so, somthing that you don't need intellect to acheive. You want a topic Ria here you go, Why can't we get past the different hues of black issue, and how it plays a role in our choices in our life, whether it be, romance, education, lifestyle, and why do some black think that being of two cultural backgrounds make you superior to others. You not gonna get to many more of these out of me Ria, unless we got a job offer on the table..lol.

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  19.   STARTHAI says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 07

    I agree Cocokisses.

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  20.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 07

    King Lion, thanks for a very enlightening post.

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  21.   SuntanMan says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 07

    In the words of the dub poet Mutabaruka. "Anyone don't like it, can bite it." Ms Mackey, all I will say on the matter is that earth is black or dark, so man being formed from the earth must have been dark as well. In Ethiopia, the nobility is of a light complexion. They see themselves as neither black or white, but a race unto themselves. They are known as Amhara. Their roots come from the love of King Solomon for the Queen of Sheba and is outlined and documented in the bible as the Song Of Songs. Magnificent prose that inspires love for all the world to share. Check it out! It is also proven scentifically that mixed-race children of black-white descent are intellectually smarter on average than the general non-mixed populace. To further support this is the knowledge that most ppl involved in interracial marriage are usually found to be better educated having post secondary degrees. On the surface it appears that sex plays a big part in ppls reactions. So true, but so what? Any negative reaction is indicative of the insecurity and ignorance of outsiders, neither of which is attractive. Positive reaction on the other hand is indicative of open minded understanding or genuine love and appreciation of all our brothers and sisters regardless of class, race or skin color.

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  22.   MsMackey says:
    Posted: 04 Sep 07

    was Adam and Eve an Interracial couple? Gen 1:27-ch 5 GOD created MAN in HIS OWN IMAGE Gen 1:26- 2:7 he (Adam) was placed after his creation in the garden of EDEN the LORD caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and took one of his ribs and made woman Adam said this is now bone of my bone flesh of my flesh Gen 3:20 and Adam called his WIFE the name Eve;because she was the mother of all living... thus all living human being are descendants of the first women and which her name describes her physical appearance and the lord made bodies of water to THE GARDEN OF EDEN and from thence it was parted into four heads = four different ends of the river THE FIRST Pison meaning= sandy land = EGYPT in africa the white nile and where desert and gold is THE SECOND Gihon meaning= the one that winds through the whole land of cush= CUSH is the brother of EGYPT =Nubia this day in age = NILOTIC SUDAN the WHITE and the BLUE river join at Khortoum to form the mightiest river in AFRICA then it empties into the Mediterranean Sea then goes off to the north west side of Ethiopia the BLUE NILE and then from SUDAN it goes down the end in UGANDA Gen 4:1 , 2 Adam and Eve conceived and bared a son name CAIN and she said I have gotten a man from the Lord. and then she bared his brother Abel Gen 5: 3 and Adam lived a hundred and thirty years and begot a son in HIS OWN LIKENESS after HIS IMAGE and called his name SETH so with that said how many of you feel the same after reading that? and people should not look at a black woman and a white man being together differently but they do that is one of the man reasons why my son's father and I are not together this day.... M

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  23.   Ria says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 07

    Haha... nice one vt33. At this rate, I will have to invite you to be a guest blogger. Why not pick a topic of choice and I'll post it. You have really kept me on toes.

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  24.   vt33 says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 07

    I will say I don't know what to think of this "revised" blog. What you are saying this is about the white reaction to Asian and white relationships. Sorry Ria, no offense but asian women and black and white men have been hooking up for years. No reaction to it, it is deemed exotic. When it is white women black men,or white men and white men it gets the reaction. Perhaps you should have took this one as Are Asians considered exotic, and more acceptable in society than black and white relations. Bottomline no matter how you change it, you are still boasting one race and to a certain degree putting down another. Just a thought.

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  25.   Ria says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 07

    Hi guys, I apologize for the mix up in this post. Kindly find the correct post. Must have been high on some s*** :lol: Sorry for the confusion and keep reading.

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  26.   soleil24 says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 07

    Im so glad there are people out there willing to address this "adversity" that we as black women face...like many others i agree with VT, its all about the stereotype thats bein spread about us.where i come from (Botswana)its particularly hard to find a decent white guy who isnt just out for an experiment.most of the black girls who date outside their race usually date much much older white men who are financially well off, and it gives a bad name to other black ladies who are just plain attracted to white men, and not out for 'Sugardaddies'..the stereotype isnt just being fueled by the white women but also by women of our own kind who play up to it. but when u do find that sincere man its often quite difficuklt to maintain the r/ship simply because of the pressure u face as an interracial couple.ever since i can remember i have had an intrinsic attraction for white men, and prefer them over black men but because of the prejudice that we face for dating caucasian men, iv buckled under the pressure and many a time passed up some really wonderful men because i was just sick and tired of the stares and whispers when we were out together..but perhaps i should rethink all of this and follow juanita's example and just forget about the negative stuff.

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  27.   Nikki68 says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 07

    Very good topic! VT, you have pretty good insight. I am a BW and sadly, we are so very devalued in the USA especially. I have experienced WM being very kind and helpful or flirtatious, only to see WW giving them "the look", I think that we all know "the look" -- the look that says, "Why on Earth are you talking to her?" -- It is worse if you are a cute BW (LOL)! I still think that WM face a social penalty of sorts for dating/marrying BW, but for those who live their lives to make themselves and their partners happy -- high five to those guys! Nikki68

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  28.   Sammy says:
    Posted: 03 Sep 07

    VT you are so deep-I for one feel like it is me as a white man thats not good enough for the black woman at times,because of what they have endured over so many years ,and yet come out so strong,confident and intellegent. That to me is pure beauty in amd of itself. But I know what many others think and have had said to me.But they can all go jump as far as i'm concerned. As another said Love and attraction is in the eye of the beholder, so I for one don't give a rats azz what others think,if they only knew the truth and could handle it - minds would change. As far as other interracial dating or marriages-again there is nothing that should stand in your way,only you know what makes you happy and race shouldn't stand in your way. Enough people see others realy happy and just maybe a few will change their thinking-1+1 makes 2 and so on.It all starts with, 1 in time it makes millions and on and on. Oh and I know my spelling sucks. lol

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  29.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 07

    Good job Juanita. Sometimes you have to turn your back on the negativity and do what's best for you. Kudos to you for doing just that.

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  30.   fala says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 07

    That's all you need to do Juanita. To hell with everyone else.

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  31.   JUANITA says:
    Posted: 01 Sep 07

    My first love and I came from a small town in south carolina and everyone knew everyone we were together as girlfriend and boyfriend from the time we were in 6th grade until he graduate 1989 and I 1990 when we got maried in 1991 alot of people had problems with it we just decided we were the only one who matters and that ended that.

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  32.   vt33 says:
    Posted: 01 Sep 07

    Yes Fala I did and as soon as it was out and give or take a month it was on DVD and Cable also Fala, check out ALFIE,with Jude Law and Nia Long, the critics dubbed it bad you know why don't you? Go Figure! Starhai, I think you missed my point. This really isn't about color, this is about the behavior and then the sterotype that follows the behavior. Which is where the "they aren't good enough" looks come from when you are walking down the street with a man of a different hue. Naomi and Inga do not represent strong role models, they reflect negative role models. Since when have you known a black women to act a fool when she has on 500.00 dollar shoes. They reflect the sterotype of aggressive, violent and childish. The ideal of it points to black women in a negative light hence "they all are aggressive, violent and childish". Look at Nicole Richie, she is a hot mess in a pot of poo poo. She is accepted only because she has blond hair "now". Plus the fact that Lionel Richies daughter isn't so much tagged to her name. Yet she is hispanic, and able to comeback into good graces. She is "good enough", and by the way she is having a relationship and baby with Joel Madden, and last I checked he is white. Yet you see photos of her and Joel all over the tabloids. You following me here folks!!!! "She is good enough"! Lena Horne, Diahann Carroll, Ester Rolle(RIP), Isabella Sandford (RIP), Phylicia Rashaad, Debbie Allen, Hattie McDaniels(RIP), Judith Jameson, Roxie Rocker(RIP) Leoyotne Price, Aisha Tyler, Dana Owens(hush now), your grandmother, your mother your aunts. These women before you have grace and dignity. These women are classified as ladies. When you see these names, this is where you want to be placed. In high graces, with respect. Not with a social standard and sterotype. Stay with me folks, this is where the "reaction" comes from. I'm trying to fix Ria's blog, and get people socially aware of the way we as black women are thought of. I was lucky to be passed on from some pretty graceful women, before me. I am a descendent of southern gentility, and carribbean wisdom. I need to be seen as I am, a person of substance and worthy of acceptance. I am not going to beg for it YOU ARE GOING TO GIVE IT. There will be no more frowns, and stares, and whispers. I am me and you are you hate or love it I am here! RESPECT THAT. Typing to much stuff, crazy...Getting my life colleagues aware of who we are....Priceless.

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  33.   fala says:
    Posted: 01 Sep 07

    I agree with your follow up comments VT. Did anybody see Something New with Sanaa Lathan and Simon Baker. That was a good movie and one of the few that showed a black woman involved with a white man.

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  34.   STARTHAI says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 07

    VT your are correct in your come back. I feel Naomi is a strong woman (no matter what the media plays), who takes no s### from anyone and I do not blame her aggressiveness I can only imagine what the dark beauty has went through, because she is dark(becasue I'm dark to)who wants to be a doormat I sure won't be either, but let's not get it twisted I don't condone violence(depending on the situation) there are better ways to put people in there place and still be aggressive. i think most of Hollywood women act a fool from time to time, (their so royal, yeah right) but your right the black women are the only ones making the headlines with this and looked at as a disgrace. I think it will only make us sharper, because we have to watch our backs.

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  35.   STARTHAI says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 07

    John Lindsey I like the adversity comment that should be included to, so true:)

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  36.   STARTHAI says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 07

    Laugh_Sailor or just inquiring?

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  37.   STARTHAI says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 07

    Laugh_Sailor help me understand, are you experimenting with black women? Oglalady you have a point who is colored in 2007 lol....

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  38.   STARTHAI says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 07

    Right on Dave, VT your right I also think even if the view is changed in our community towards black women, the subtle hatred a lot of other women (and some men) from different cultures possess for us will still not allow us to be looked at as worhty, so until people's heart and minds towards the black women there will be no change.

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  39.   vt33 says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 07

    I'm back, I was hoping someone would point this out by the time this thread got a day old. To support my point. Notice how when they put this blog up and celebrity couples to emulate, they didn't use a white male and black female up for the photo. There are plenty of celebrity couples, besides Eva and Tony, and Chritina and Preston Burke (Sandra OH and Isaih Washington). This supports my view, on how people no matter the color have a "reaction" to seeing the black female and white male together it's not somthing I think people are ready to see. Somthing as small as this blog, the writer should feel free to explore the reaction of people seeing a real life couple, who isn't afraid to be seen or heard. That photo should bring a meeting of the minds. Explore the blogs, and hopefully take something rich and inspiring from someones blog. Sure they have "one", but I think reality is key here. How else do we get the world to change, if the world doesn't see the reality. It's so easy to believe a video, and the negative press we recieve (Inga, Naomi,Kanye, Nelly for their videos, thanks your.......pfft) and run with it and make quick assumptions about us, and poof we aren't "good enough". Kim Kardishan has a video sexin it up with Ray J and she's now a celebrity for no reason. Lauryn Hill falls off and all of a sudden shes a box of mixed nuts. Lindsay Lohans a lush,junkie, and god knows what else, she's still in the good graces of "making a comback" and getting a second chance. Vivica Fox gets caught DWI, and Cadillac, rips the floor mats for her she's not "Wholesome" enough now to pimp their Escalades, and CTS. My reaction well, I think its pretty clear, my points, well brought out. Spreading knowledge to my colleagues in life "Priceless". Damn over did it again. Till the next episode I'm out.

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  40.   Dave says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 07

    Well, I just tend to think that black women are more attractive. Personal preference I guess and Im not saying that all black women are more attractive as there are very pretty white women but taken as a whole I find them more attractive. Also there is a bit of a taboo about it and I love that. I am a total sucker for a aggressive black woman.

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  41.   Beau says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 07

    I have absolutely no problem with a man of another race dating white women.... the way I see it that is just one less man to compete with! I would love to see a more indepth artical on this topic... this only scratched the surface.

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  42.   JordanMardan says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 07

    "We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great diversity…᾿" "Diversity?!" Shouldn't that be "adversity?" "White males just marry at high rates." Hmmmm. That's an economic issue...not biology. I agree with the majority: very poorly worded and "all over the place."

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  43.   Oglalady says:
    Posted: 31 Aug 07

    Who is colored in 2007?!?!?!

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  44.   laugh_sailor says:
    Posted: 30 Aug 07

    I like your views, vt. I think there's a process of opening yourself that tends to continue beyond the initial consideration of dating another ethnicity, that often makes those of us who do, more accepting, inquisitive and basically more interesting people. The kind of woman I am looking for is a liberal thinker, educated and eager to explore our world and the wonderful diversitites in it. A telltale for this openness is her interest in my culture, as a cruising sailor. I have much to learn about black culture but almost any woman has more to learn about the life I lead, with an amazing acceptance in a deep and genuine society of fascinating people and more rich and worthwhile experiences in a few months than most have in a life. The freedom to sail with whales inches away is only possible when you open yourself to that experience fully and go for it. As a result, we lead a more considered, evolved life that is frightening to many because it necessitates questioning fundamental assumptions about what a happy, worthwhile life actually is, that we've grown up with. The parallels between finding a love interracially and for cruising are quite strong. They both require someone who thinks outside of the box and is brave enough to make their dreams come true. Those are the elusive, fundamental characteristics I'm looking for, in addition to being a good woman and the rest I've mentioned in my profile.

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  45.   Cindie says:
    Posted: 30 Aug 07

    VT, I didn't "get" this post, either.....

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  46.   naptrlbti says:
    Posted: 30 Aug 07

    Excellent points VT. You hit it out the park!!

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  47.   CleverChaos says:
    Posted: 30 Aug 07

    Stronjay vt!!! Stronjay!! I can't follow up--you hit the nail on the head...

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  48.   fala says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 07

    I agree VT. This one seemed to be all the place to me too.

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  49.   vt33 says:
    Posted: 29 Aug 07

    I don't get this thread at all! It appears they are trying to drag somthing out of the world that cannot be explained. Love can't be explained, reaction is a human trait. The two can't really be explained. How people perceive couples of different hues, well that goes to their upbringing. "We love black womens confidence, tenacity, undeniable achievements in the face of great diversity. That sounds like some dude trying to butter up a woman to get some! Black women are those things and more. First and formost she is a woman. People have a problem seeing black women with anyone outside of her race. This really isn't about the outsiders because the outsiders are the same. In case any of you haven't been clued in yet.. Black Men and Black Women right long with White Men and White Women, have a problem with seeing black women and white men , and any other couple of a different hue. I think what this blog fails to touch on is that, the majority of folks who have a opinion on couples who are different is the social standard. Lets be real here, black women have a sterotype that follows them around. Hoochie Mamas, Gold Diggers, Sex Addicts, Tricks, and what ever grand name they have given us over the past 20 years..oh wait the ever loving b word. That is not who we are. Lets anaylze this for a second. People hate to admit it but, it is happening all over the place, men will go to a country or island, and pay a woman for sexual fantasy. Men pay to go countries where having sex with minors are legal. Yet men don't carry titles of being perverts. Also with that said, those women who perform these favors for men aren't classified as tricks, hoochie mamas, gold diggers, and B. Just the opossite, they are glorified as sexy, and beautiful. Men tend to want to marry these women. So the question isn't really, how whites react to interracial couples. The question is, the standard that black women are held to in this country, because of a lifesytle which does exists, lets not be foolish, there are women of all colors who live these lifestyles. Yet with black women the entertainment industry, and I mean all shapes and forms of it. Plugs us as bad people, so it gives off the reaction it does when people see us with men of a different color. It almost gives the airs of a black woman not being good enough for that guy, doesn't he know what they are all about. That is the reaction of whites when they see a different color hue with against their own skin. This is not a fresh concept this is just food for thought. In a perfect world we would all, do somthing about the black and white factor. I always believed that people have become more accepting of black men and white women relations over the past 20 years. Analyze this Seal, Quincy Jones, Cuba Gooding Jr, James Earl Jones, Donald Faison, Ice Tea, Rick James(R.I.P), Michael Strahan, Kobe Bryant, Sydney Poiter, have all chosen brides of different hues. All are respected in their own right. Justin Chamberlan, Robert Deniro, or Diana Ross husband not one but both , one of Jewish decent and one of Greek descent. The Grimialdils son, Albert, he had an affair with a african woman, and a child was produced. Quick media coverage and quietly swept under the rug. How come! Any answers? No reaction just looks and stares right. Again, I really dont' think this blog is hitting the ball across the plate. This is about reaction yes, but the reaction, comes because of the social standard black women are held to. To me it lingers on the good old "you're not good enough to be with him" deal. America should be ashamed for how they treat couples of different hues. They will gladly show pics of a white woman and black man, but you have to dig deeper to find it in the reverse. The person who thought of this topic has the right idea but the wrong insight. I think as a black women in this modern day. We aren't respected within our own communitys anymore. Doors being open, a gentlemen taking his hat off when he enters a building or structure, a gentlemen giving up his seat for a lady on the bus, coming out parties for our young ladies. A young man showing up for afternoon lemondae in a sport coat and slacks, and showing fear for his intended father. Gone! Look into other cultures there young women are glorified and treated as so, Spanish girls have a coming out party, not just a sweet sixteen. Those who live in certain social circles have coming out party's as well. Black girls....! I think once people start looking into their communites and start changing how they treat the young, and as they grow they will have a better respect of themselves and also the world will view them differently as well. There won't be so much "reaction" when a lady chooses a man. Over did it again. Till the next epidose..I'm out!

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  50.   Kevin says:
    Posted: 28 Aug 07

    Let's see I am 35 now so I have been dating black women for 21 years now. The lips, curves and skin are nice, but a woman is more than that. The beauty of a woman is the overall woman. What makes her the woman she is combines physical beauty and mental beauty. I have some some gorgeous women became critter ugly once they opened their mouth. As for others involved in interracial unions; that doesn't bother me in the least. If someone makes you feel good and warm inside then be with them.

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