People usually have different views when it comes to interracial dating. I’m sure you too have your own. How does seeing people of the opposite race and opposite sex holding hands on the streets make you feel? Angry, happy, envious?
I was once having lunch with my truly black girls at a restaurant when a black woman and a white man walked on by. One of them went,“Let other people do it but personally, I cannot date a white man. White men date black women because they look down upon them. I’m not about to kiss some pink assâ€? 
Yeah… I almost chocked on hearing those words.
According to studies carried out recently, black women are less likely to engage in interracial relationships as opposed to their male counterparts. John Tierney, the author of the survey concluded, “It’s not that white men are more reluctant to date non-whites, it’s that black women are less willing to date someone of another race.” Well the video makes us see why.
Men are generally willing to date someone of another race, but women are more reluctant, especially African-American women. The researcher also found that women of different races generally agreed with one another in rating the various men’s attractiveness. However they were less willing to date a man of another race even when he was just as attractive as a man of their own race.
So, does this make interracial dating acceptance somewhat a gender issue? Will I be right to conclude as per this study that it’s not just black women who are reluctant to date interracially but all women in general? And if so, what factors influence this reluctance in women then?
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Comment by Ryan on 29 July 2007:
that because its not the building that makes up the body of believers you can have church at your own home. Jesus said where there are two or three gathered together in my name there am i in the midst of them. A lot of people go to church for the wrong reasons. I’ve met more worldly women at church then other places. Were living in the last days as the bible says a time where they will be lovers of self more than god and in this generation it is hard to find someone that is real. I’m not conceited im just telling you what others say about me. I preach on the streets and feed the hungry as well as give studies wherever god’s spirit leads me. A lot of women run when they see me preach or pray for the sick or take out my oil and pray over the sick. A lot of people claim to be christian but are they really going out and doing what jesus did?? The church isnt what is going to save you it is jesus thats why it is written work out your own salvation with much fear and trembling. It’s once apppointed to all men to die then the judgement. God Bless.
Comment by RayneDelay on 29 July 2007:
Ryan would you consider a Buddhist Black woman? How about one that is both a Buddhist and a Christian?
Comment by Ryan on 29 July 2007:
no, I could only date a black women that believes in the same doctrine that I believe. A christian can’t be both buddhist and christian the beliefs aren’t the same. I don’t believe in reincarnation or karma. I believe in god’s judgement and sanctification as well as the God head. 1john 5:7 for there are three that bear record in heaven the Father, the Word, and the Holy Ghost and these three are one. I also believe that we are all sinners in need of a saviour and only jesus can save us from our sins. I couldnt be with a buddhist women cause I could never serve buddha nor believe in any of the teaching. Maybe friends but nothing more.
Comment by lhb on 30 July 2007:
I am a married white male. But, as a lot of men stuck in a rut with my wife, I have started dating outside my marriage. I tried dating a black woman and discovered that I really am attracted to them. Now, I only look at black women and flirt and go out with black women. I wish now I had married a black woman instead, but that’s something I can’t change. But, I have learned that black women seem to know better what they want and just seem to be more fun to be with in general. Not to mention, they are built better, in general, than white women.
Comment by mike on 2 August 2007:
I’m a WM who married a beautiful African American Women. I love her inside and out. Her skin color and hair are extremely atractive to me.
We live in Mississippi so sometimes we run in to bigots and idiots from both races, but God has blessed us and our children.
As far as WM being followers… pure trash. Are WM attracted to BW? Good, strong men are attracted to good, strong women. I’m telling you race has zero to do with it. I was raised with the ideas of european beauty but when I fell in love with a woman who happened to be African American she became my standard of beauty. Gold standard.
God has blessed me!
Comment by Jade74 on 2 August 2007:
WOW!!!! Great comment Mike.
Comment by Dan on 3 August 2007:
I have lived here in Columbus Ohio all my 31 years of life. I was brought up to not date out of my race, my Dad seemed to hate black people in general. He was a very successful man in the business sense and an attractive man to boot, had a lot of white color friends and such. I inherited many of my fathers traits except for one. The first girl I ever went on a date with was black. I was 15 at the time and when my Dad found out he said he would chop of my &^#* if I continued to date her. As the love life story goes, I dated only white women until something amazing happened. A women called my house by mistake, and she had a beautiful voice… sounded white to me and she never told me her color. We developed a relationship on the phone and the entire time I thought she was white. We finally met and I was shook by her beauty. She has got to be the most beautiful women I have ever seen in all my life. I knew that my family circle would hate me dating her, but by this time, I was in love with her. In all my life I have never loved a women such as her. We never fought, always respected each other, had the best sexual relationship in all my experiences. I married that women and against my family’s wishes in doing so. We were married for less then one year before disaster struck and she was killed by a drunk driver. It’s been nearly two years since she was killed, and yet every night my eyes swell thinking about her…My point is this… Love has no limit, it’s real as flesh is real, and when your in it, nothing matters but to keep it alive. Color has very little to do with it because I loved that dark beautiful black women. And for the black women out their who think that white men are soft, you’re mistaken. We are the most power hungry type of man there is.
Comment by Kyla on 16 October 2007:
Oh man Dan, when you said that about your wife being killed, my eyes literally starting getting watery. It is always the good people in life that get taken away from us. May God Bless you.
Comment by mossimo on 16 October 2007:
Some very thought provoking posts going on here. I wish I had fought my parents when I was younger as well. Perhaps things would be much different today.
Comment by Jan on 27 October 2007:
I saw this webiste and it writes in a frank refreshing way about her experiences as a BW married to a white man. I love her blog. Its a lot better than most out there.
http://blackwomenwhomarrywhitemen.wordpress.com/
Comment by latty on 27 October 2007:
I must say that there is very interesting writing here, but the last love story written by Dan really touched my heart. I am glad that he got the chance to marry and love the person he wanted even through it was short lived. I will pray for him and his loss.I have done grief counseling over the years and if Dan needs any counseling I will be happy to assist. My prayers to him.
Comment by kostenlose Kontaktanzeigen on 5 November 2007:
That’s an interesting finding. I really have no idea why black women would be more reluctant to date interracially. Maybe it has something to do with society allowing men more freedoms and choices in general. I don’t know. It’ll be interesting to see what others think.
Comment by Nick Carter on 5 November 2007:
Wow! What a hornet’s nest this topic stirred up. That’s good to see in some ways. I don’t see a value in argument for argument’s sake (save it for the debating society, nor do I find blanket statements based on race, gender, etc. to be particularly illuminating. Neither lend themselves to communication and understanding. In fact they tend to inhibit free exchange. Personal opinon, when expressed as that, can. Here’s mine.
I completely understand why a Black woman in America and in many other countries would be hesitant to date a White man. White men, as a stereotypical class have historically been the oppressor.
There is also the factor of fear of the unknown. In the States, our version of apartheid was in place, enforced and largely accepted until the middle of the last century. It still exists in the physical layout of our cities and in the attitudes of some of our people. There are still a lot of people who have never had any real, meaningful and open exchanges with someone of another race. When people who carry that fear of the unknown raise families the fear is passed on actively or passively.
I have been the victim of subtle and not so subtle racism as I walk arm-in-arm with a woman. Stares, comments and mutterings are not uncommon. It is unfair, hurtful and a little scary even in NYC where I live.
As long as we are making dating determinations based on race, there are going to be problems. Some people are not attracted to blondes (and of course that doesn’t carry the same historic weight) but as long as we make our choices based on political and/or racial lines, we carry on the ugly tradition. When it becomes purely aethetics, as I truly believe it has for me, we have come a long way.
Comment by Adnan on 15 November 2007:
I the eyes of God the Creator we are all equal
true Love has no color but the color of love. Black is beautifulin my eyes so My Black woman’s love is a gift from God who created Balck and white and all that is in between.
Comment by X on 4 January 2008:
I WILL BE YOUR OPPONENT
I am a young African American male. I have never dated out of my race. I have no interested in it. It’s not because I’m small minded. It’s because I know who I am unlike most blacks in America. Love who I am and know that it is he that have made us and no we ourselves.
I had to get that off my chest.Now here is my thoughts on Black women interracial dating. My Mother always told me when I was a little boy. Respect black women, love black women and so forth. Black women are strong and intelligent. That’s true but what my poor Mother failed to mention is that there are black women who hate black men and black people who look just like them.
They use any excuse to down play black men. that’s wrong. It’s very wrong. In fact it’s down right disgusting. There is some myth that white men and black women are just getting together. That’s not true. Whit men have been having their way with black women for centuries. That’s a long a long time. White men had black women in slavery then. Their having black women now. So instead of going forward were going back. That’s pathetic.
I have had to listen to ignorance pollute the minds of young black children. Like having a different race solves your problems. It only creates more in a since that our loyalty to each other is basically non existent.
Black Women
Black women you need to know your history. You need to know how and what your role was in slavery. It was to fulfill the white man sexually when white women would not. White women were never at the mercy of their husbands sexually because they had black women. White women stayed quiet while black women were being raped and told their daughters a white man still loves a white women more that the black slave girl. So white men still saved face amongst white women yet kept black women around while they were in heat.
Black women are sexual tools to a white man and that’s the way they made it not me. If you choose a white man. Except that reality about white men. Stop making up lies because you don’t want a black man.
Except that they only want you for sex and your bodies nothing else.
Also know they are not equipped to support you emotionally because they can’t help you with the problems and the traps they set for you in the first place.
Also I have a few questions concerning black women.
Question #1
Why do all black women believe a white man who separated black women from every other nationality of women sexually believe a white man is so great.
What has he done for Black women as a whole.
Question #2
Now that black women are dating outside their race. Can black me write books, get on talk show and complain about how black women are no good. KEEP IN MIND THE DAMAGE DONE TO BLACK MEN. Who did not partake (SUCH AS MYSELF). IT’S ONLY FAIR.
QUESTION #3
Looks wise how come other races of men get to choose the prettiest black women.
Question #4
Why do black women down grade. They get upset when a black athlete doesn’t want a black women. Then they say they should go out of their race and they get a regular making the same as them or less.
Question #5
Some black women think they can say very negative things about black men publicly. Then build up the confidence of a white man by saying positive things that aren’t true. Why???
Question #6
Why do you think a white man will choose you over a white woman.
Question #7
Why do black women keep quiet when white men use and abuse them. Rape and murder them. Then still keep talking negatively about about black men.
Someone please answer all the questions to the best of your ability. I am not saying all black women, just the ones who believe and practice this way of thinking.
Comment by outpass35 on 4 January 2008:
I have dated outside my race Since High School and I don’t let what other people think effect me
Comment by DDan1967 on 9 January 2008:
A very interesting thread in general. I came here to learn more about the subject in an effort to find out how racist attitudes affected interracial couples.
I’m a white man that is recently engaged to marry a Beautiful black woman. (Now I will agree that beauty is in the eye of the beholder)
I agree with many here that it’s about the person not the appearance. As our relationship grew she repeatedly questioned me with worries about the color issue.
I’m from a college town in Wisconsin and have served over 20 years in the military. I was raised to believe and have always believed that it’s about who a person is, not what they look like. And through my service I have worked with and had friendships with many people of different races and beliefs.
I could care less if she was white, black, yellow, green or purple; slim, athletic or overweight; etc.
I care about who she is and what she means to me. The fact that she is an attractive and fit woman is a pleasant bonus, but I wouldn’t be with her if she wasn’t a wonderful person that filled my heart with joy.
Now I have to respond to X above. Specifically his Question #7:
I believe the true question is; Why does any anyone keep quiet and allow another person to use and abuse them?
Now a general response to X. Try living in the present not the past. It’s true that terrible things have been done by many people in the past. We can’t change history, we will hopefully learn from it though.
Just my 2 cents worth.
Doug
Comment by gulltfontaine on 9 January 2008:
I’m a white dude in east london, & i’m in love with a girl, who happens to be black…BUT WHO GIVES A FU€K!!! SHE’S HOT!!!!
BOMCHICKA-WA-WA!!!!
HOORAY FOR LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!
Comment by blackchickUK on 17 January 2008:
As a young Birtish black woman born and living in the UK, I would like to add my opinion and what I have observed on interracial relationships between White men and Black women. I believe that a large number white men in the UK percieve black women as hard work, unattractive, not beautiful etc. These stereotypes are born out of racism and ignorance. The UK wants to prentend that racism doesn’t exists and that everybody is open minded but from the comments and feelings expressed by British white men towards black women in general- the UK has a long way to go in terms of race. Another dimension to white men’s view of black women not being attractive is the beauty standard. Just like the States, the British also have their ideal beauty, which is the English rose. The Englsih rose is usually blonde hair, blue eyes and rosy cheek. This leaves many black women excluded from this ideal. I also notice that white American are more open about their attraction to black American women whereas the British are reserved and are more concern about what society thinks and if their partner fits into the ‘beauty ideal’. I would like to ask the UK white men - why so many white men are not attract to black women and their resons?
Comment by renee on 31 January 2008:
ok, in response to X, why is it when a black woman and white man get together slavery is introduced into the conversation?? we can not blame all current white people for what their ancestors did.!!! the truth is black woman have better natural bodies than white women.. black women have natural curves and a natural sexuality that cant be duplicated..the white female body in a natural state is without form, without curves.. so of course white men are attracted to us sexually, even during slavery times..
i love black men, but they can be very selfish.. its ok if black men date outside their race, but if a beautiful black woman do the same thing, its wrong and slavery this and slavery that, all because you want us to yourselves and have all the women of other races too.
Comment by DDan1967 on 2 February 2008:
Well said Renee,
I wanted to address that subject, your first 3 lines. But didn’t know how to bring it up that couldn’t be misinterpreted. Bravo and thank you for doing it for me.
Doug
Comment by Delali on 2 February 2008:
Hello,
I just noted that when I click on RayneDelay the link leads to my profile which is ‘Delali’!!!!
PLEASE NOTE: RayneDelay IS NOT Delali!!! It is two different profiles but somehow Afro has messed the link up!!! Thank you everybody!
AGAIN: RayneDelay is not Delali
Thank you
Comment by Gen on 2 February 2008:
To respond to X’s comments.. Brother, I feel your pain, but here this from a strong black woman..Maybe you are not one of the guilty black men out there, but you need to listen to your brothers comments and see how they hurt the black woman. I grew in a society that have black men degrading raping and disrespecting their own..(just like whites..it makes no difference in terms of race). At 36 years old, the nicest men to me have been white.. And to add insult to injury, my own black men have told me that my skin is too dark for them, that I cant give them a light skin baby. Yet these men go around preaching black consciousness, about sticking to your race.. I did that and didnt get an ounce of happiness from my own. I dated two different black men who at the end of the day dated me because I am intelligent, keeps a good house , educated and make them look good with their business colleagues since I can hold a conversation. While dating me they look for their “brown or light skin black women” and “yes” the white ones too.Its nice for their other peers to see them with a “browning” because it make them look good.. A black guy told me that the only way I get a committment from a black guy is to “lighten” my complexion. I say, I know myself and proud of my rich chocolate color. Take me as I am or leave me alone.
Now my whiteboyfriends seem to be first attracted to the color of my skin. They absolutely love it. That is the first sign of accepting me.. I turned down my first proposal from a white mean 10 years ago because I allowed my people to tell me that it is wrong to marry interacial. Now, I know better, its whats best for me. My current white boyfriend shows me off to all his friends, so proud of me. We have a good thing going and I will not let racism come between us especially from a black man who is only noticing me because I am on the arms of a a white man!
Comment by Sxybrwnsuga on 12 March 2008:
I think most black women prefer to date, marry and have kids with black men. There is nothing wrong with people not wanting to date outside their race. Just like I believe most asian, white, and hispanic women prefer to date, marry, and have kids with their perspective men.
Comment by 2ute4u on 13 March 2008:
Wow, Dan, I’m sorry for your loss,and the brother who says that black women are combative towards him…I want to say to you that, this may be the stereotypical black female and I resent your comments…half of you brothers don’t even have enough confidence to approach a fine, intelligent, strong black female… because most of us is more educated than most black male…on account of this behaviour, when white males approach us,then the brothers are up in arms about it.
Comment by mysticman58 on 13 March 2008:
Me id rather date a black lady then a white because black women seem to know what they want , there are not into the games white ladies like to play .This is just me and what ive gone through dating in my own race .I come from a family where most of my nephews and nieces are all mixed , black,indian, mexican .My nephews have found better women outside there race then in it.I was married to a white lady who left me not only for another man but also had a girlfriend.
Comment by Chrissy on 19 March 2008:
I have dated outside of my race my entire adult life, and I am unsure if I will continue to do so. I am ready to get married and start a family. In the past my most serious relationship was with a Southern WM and I never really felt valued by this man. Though I cannot say that this was because of my race, I certainly felt that it played a part. I dated an Indian man who was madly in love with me and very attentive and generous towards me, but he was very controlling and quite insecure. I would like to become involved in a serious relationship, but Black men avoid me like the plague and I am not sure I want to marry outside of my race as I beleive my being AA may present problems in future. I still find WM attractive but as I get older it gets harder for me to ignore my AA heritage, something I used to do with ease. That’s probably why my WM boyfirends disrespected that aspect of my being. Just a little confused and weary. It’s weird I used to be so open minded, now I just feel jaded.
Comment by Cali on 23 March 2008:
Comment by cecil on 10 June 2007:
I’ve found in my experience that black women seem to be more insecure about themselves, because of beauty images in the media. It seems like no one except black women these days will vocally, openly oppose interracial marriage. They seem to feel as though white women are ’stealing’ their men. Yet at the same time, black women will launch into tirades on how the black man is no good, unreliable, and a dog. This creates a morass of hostility that I as a black male find highly unattractive, and I just don’t want to get involved with people that are so negative. I’m always more at ease with white women who (generally) are non-hostile and are more likely to have their lives together.
Well, reading your comments and looking at your photo makes me feel that Black women won’t be missing much
Comment by tmiller on 6 April 2008:
IM WHITE, MARRIED TO A BLACK WOMAN, A HAVE A LITLE GIRL BY HER, I DONT SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH INTERRACIAL DATING OR WHATEVER
Comment by nyctechie on 6 April 2008:
Gen - I can relate to your post. I’ve always been attracted to white men (first crush was a Jewish boy in 7th grade). However, I dated black men because it was accepted and more convenient. My experiences with them were constant put-downs because of my nose, my hair or my skin color (by BLACK men mind you). I’m not even going to go into the socio-economic issues. Either black men were with me, but didn’t value me or weren’t interested in black women at all.
My experiences with white men have been the opposite. They liked the brown skin, natural hair etc. and were much more attentive. My only complaint is that it is difficult to find white men in NYC who are obviously open to dating black women (which is why I’m here on this site). I know they exist because I see whitemen/blackwomen interracial couples all the time. Sometimes I want to ask them how/where they met. My personal experience has been that white men are not interested or if they seem interested (looks etc), they’re shy and don’t say anything (happened to me again today in the supermarket). I know I can make the first move, but I don’t know what to say and I’m afraid of rejection - so, I don’t. As a result, they probably assume I’m not interested - when I am.
Comment by arquaid1 on 10 April 2008:
Wow ive noticed a lot of individual dogma/generational hatred toward a new generation of peoples(Black Women) in particular. iam an Islander, borne free ,native of the Good ol Soup Bowl USA. let me give you my break down of it. my favoriteQueen of all time that i aspire too/emulate is Haphshepsut. my origins well maternalside.GrandPa:Egyptian(Alexandria,Near Benha N. of Cairo.Gramma:Monastiraki,near Anafiotika District,Athens Greece.Fraternalside.Grandpa:WestGate Hills/FairField Area of Montego bay Jamaica.Gramma:Creole,La. native with roots,in louga region of Senegal near a town called Lingue’re/Dara i my self and my children are raise a proud peoples with a lovely diversity/ rare DNA Gods Blue print.Oh almost forgot Iam Married to Russian Man 1st generation Born here in’71′ his family never owned slaves but my ancestors did. so now what. What im trying to say is Learning from the past can help us all,liftup out our shells of past hatred.BlackWomen are thee first Eve, stay strong love hard Show the world by action love is stronger than Hate,Love is eternal,love breaks through all barriers,even color lines. and Black men please stop hateing,ive given birth to BeautifulLittle angels 3 sons 1 daughter. they are a wonderful reflextion,highly educated future scholars. i tell my babes”unselfish love never makes you weak. real loves makes you stronger.Iron Sharpens Iron.I know its Hard but with Gods Guidance We Can(black women) make a huge difference. i have no time for grudges or thee,ignorance spoken by others. its poison,hatred is poison to the soul,i stay a lot to myself,iam very family/career orientated. i have no time for regrets,we as human beings have no time on this earth to sweat the small stuff, Just pray,aknowledge,God.then Ask”Great IAM Show me Who Iam. amen Black men Please get over yourselves,i met my husband in college,he was thee only one who helped me achieve my goal to become a Nurse Practioner. And believe me i’m clockin thanks be to THe Lord Of Hosts, Amen
Comment by salsera77 on 12 April 2008:
Ok. So the original question was:
Why are women (not just African-American) more reluctant to date outside of their race?
I’ve never, ever been reluctant! So that study is not refering to me. It’s the white men who are reluctant.
Thomas, you posted a bfinterracial marriage link that led me to the following blog that is very helpful. I read the whole thing. Thanks.
http://blackgirlshaven.blogspot.com/
Comment by salsera77 on 12 April 2008:
Addendum:
…. and I read all 75 comments which had the best parts.
Comment by redwoodswede on 13 April 2008:
Based on what I’ve read and experienced, here’s my take on this:
1) Black women are probably less willing to date outside their race due to social pressures. See also: nearly every movie ever made about black women.
2) White men know about the above, and don’t want to get rejected on that basis, because let’s face it, rejection sucks. So often, we just don’t try. That’s the way most men are.
3) White men also feel guilty about dating non-white women, again due to social pressures. When I was in college, white man/Asian woman pairings were VERY common, and Asian men would constantly complain about “yellow fever.” Never mind the fact that the men who complained most were a bunch of assholes; no, the reason for their romantic troubles was white men stealing all the Asian women. Yep, and where’s the line of white women at your door?
We do get some pushback from our own race, but more from the men of other races. The difference is, we can dismiss the white people who object without even having to hear them out. And the accusations are ridiculous. If we like black women, people accuse us of having a “slave master” complex. If we like Asian women, they say we just want a submissive woman. If we like Hispanic women…well that one I don’t know, maybe we’re trying to learn to dance?
How about a much simpler explanation: I get along better with black/Latin/Asian women, and I like dark hair and brown skin.
My point is this. Black women, know that us white guys like you just fine. Chances are we’ve been checking you out and wishing we had the stones to talk to you. You might need to help us along at first, but we’d love to get together with you.
Comment by julybaby on 20 April 2008:
WOW!! this was an interesting thread. Who the h^ll cares why you are attracted to someone? I wouldn’t care what color his skin was… the hard part is getting to that introduction stage with a dude, black OR white! The rest is gravy!
Comment by JESSICA on 24 April 2008:
am a black girl from birmingham eunited kingdom,and i get hit by men of all race easily.but only dated black men whom were nice to me but not always. I have been approached by white men but i always turn down offer beacause i was not attracted to white (when i was younger but not now) men and felt they only want sex.Guess am wrong!!my friends then were rascist and hate white guy.the black men especially told me they only after sex…
Until i break up with my last boyfriend 3 year ago whom treated me so badly that i almost committed sucide I end up in hospital.he married someone else why am still dating him.I left him when i found out.
am only 25 now and am ready to date.Have decided to give white men the chance and i think these got to do with maturity as am no more rascist toward men of other race.I know my family and friend would not approve me dating white but i know i have to(it my choice).afterall i gave black men chance and why not white men..
I put an ad on online looking for white boyfriend,i was amazed by the amount of response i recieved.these were mostly university garduate and guy age 24- 33.I met up with three guy and the communication were good.that was 3 months ago.At the moment am dating a scottish guy,he lived in share accomodation,does not earn much.which is okay with me because am only looking for a guy to love. Also i do not expect because he is white he would be better than my exes.But just the fact am dating a white man make me realize white dude are cool just as black men are…yeah!! the sex is great, he suck me allover,i just cannot get enough.if we break-up tomorow,i would still date a white guy.
Also most black guy date white women for many reason rather for love.Belive most black women date white men because they actually love him because is not easily as a black lady to be brave to date men of other races.If we do;then the ‘love is blind’ nto even if our parent dis-approve
Comment by Shuny22 on 22 May 2008:
I am very new to this site, and I have never even kissed a man outside my race. I’ve always been attracted to white men, and men outside my race. However, I was raised and (until recently) stayed in an entirely Black neighborhood. I really haven’t had a chance to meet a white man. Plus, I’m in the South, things are still slow down here. However since I’ve been on this site I’m seeing all these handsome men of all races wanting Black women. I’m like a kid in a candy store!!!! I think women in general are cautious, so please stop attacking black women for our god given wisdom to examine a situation before jumping in.
Comment by Hairybear on 23 June 2008:
I love and have only dated black women in the reason that they have unlimitied strength and the beauty they possess leaves me speechless. I have encountered some unplesantness from both races but I would die with a black woman on my arm that any ohter woman on this planet.
Comment by Pat on 29 June 2008:
To NYCtechie -I’m white but I think I can somehow relate to your experience.
I don’t tan very easily and every summer men (mostly construction workers) comment on my pale skin. Black and asian man never do, only whites make nasty remarks. It’s really annoying though, because there is very little I can do about it. Except for maybe quitting my job and tanning 24/7…… ;-).
Comment by Francis on 10 July 2008:
Black is beautiful. Nobody is her/his skin. We are all what we have inside. Your brain and your heart. Lets all stop that racism issue. It is backward.
Comment by ebonedoll on 11 July 2008:
Yes!!!
Being a mother, it is my responsibility to instill self esteem in my children.
Having also been brought up in a home where my father only bought me black dolls, I do the same with my daughters. I don’t believe in television or magazine images running anything.
I am amazed, Cecil, at your description of how black women are. Perhaps you should hang around a different group of black females.
If black women fit the stereotypes you have described, then white women should be very nervous about the reasons black men date them. I always wonder when black men speak such nonesense if they see the same qualities in their mothers?
Never considered a white woman dating a black man “stealing one of mine”.
If expressing my opinions on things makes me unattracive, so be it. I’d rather folks tell me what they think of something than talk behind my back. That is nothing but weakness. More women need to do the same and perhaps men wouldn’t show their behinds like they do. “Women” put up with lots of things because they don’t wanna rock the boat in relationships. Our fault.
I have never been intimidated by other women regardless of race, but feel that in the scheme of things black women are given very little respect when it comes to television image, because it is acceptable, and quite frankly…some black men feed into it. The features that we are born with, are admired on everyone else, but us!!
If I date someone it is because, they have the qualities I am looking for in a man. I want a man to behave with strength and integrity and to speak his mind. They need to be this way because that is what they will get with me.
Comment by salsera77 on 13 July 2008:
OMG Ebonedoll, “The features that we are born with, are admired on everyone else, but us!!” Tell it! It’s sooooo true. Angelina Jolie, Jaylo, Bo Derek…the list goes on. Why is this?
Comment by Steph on 24 July 2008:
Says who? When I look at a guy, I don’t look at his color. I look at his heart. I could care less of his race. I can date outside of my race. No problem. Big deal.
Comment by atieno on 27 July 2008:
im a black woman whith nothing against black men.
i had a wonderful encounter with one a while ago
but, went our separate ways and i dont hold any bitternss against him.
i have scince met a wonderful man. a white man.
i just find he express him self better than most black men. he is sensitive and willing to let me have my way plus he has lesser insecurities about his masculinity unlike a lot of black men.
if we last it will be a blast
if we dont then that will be another wonderful encounter with another wonderful man.
Comment by Dave on 2 August 2008:
I am a White guy and find black women very attractive but I don’t know any. I must admit I do love looking at the curvy, full butt that many black ladies have. I bet you that may surprise some black ladies but I think many guys really like their feminine shape. I have had asian and latino ladies flirt with me in the past but never a black lady. I cannot fathom why. As a professional white male, I am concerned that I may be assumed to be some kind of white authority figure and disregarded as a potential boyfriend/partner. I dated an asian girl and no white guys I knew noticed but I got alot of angry looks in the street from asian males and this upset my girl.
Comment by salsera77 on 2 August 2008:
Maybe black ladies don’t flirt with you because you don’t flirt with them. Instead of being assertive you wait for them to “flirt” with you.
Go over and read mine and some of the other last comments on the blog called, “What’s with Men and the Chase.”
http://www.afroromance.com/blog/whats-with-men-and-the-chase.htm
It might be a cultural difference but black men tend to be more traditional in their approach in regards to showing interest/pursuing. They don’t let a no with one person stop them with another either.
Maybe black women think you are just not interested because YOU don’t flirt with THEM and don’t
like them.
I know that’s what I tend to think about most (not all) white men. You being or not being an authority figure has nothing to do with it.
Comment by Dave on 2 August 2008:
To Salsera 77-Thanks for the reply.Valid point. And by the way…you are seriously pretty-I spotted you earlier! How’s that for direct honest flirting.
Comment by salsera77 on 2 August 2008:
Why Thanks, Dave.
Now, That’s what I’m talkin’ about! Lol.
Wink!
Keep that up.
Comment by k.d on 4 September 2008:
After reading all of the comments on this whole “dating outside of ones race thing”. I find it very interesting. I can’t speak for other people. I can only speak for myself. I don’t have a problem with dating people whose pigmentation happens to differ from mine. I think people make too big of a deal out of non-issues. There will always be problems in every relationship regardless of skin color. I think it is sad that people choose to forgo their own personal happiness to please society but so many do. What is dating outside of ones race? I thought we were all color variations of the HUMAN RACE. When did ET (an alien) start dating human women or men for that matter? LOL. This is ridiculous, the things that people in society choose to harp on. There are bigger issues in the world to worry about (aids, cancer, health care, homelessness) so why make dating one of them. It is this simple - boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boy ask girl out, girl either accepts or declines, boy is happy or boy moves on, end of story. Where does race play a part in this? It is simply about a man and a woman. I am not blind to the fact that the race thing will always be an issue in society. I just choose not to let it define me or dictate whom I happen to date. We are all beautiful, complex,diverse,endearing people regardless of race. I wish that society would choose to focus on our many similarties instead of our differences. I know I have been a bit long winded but the point I want to make is this - date whom you like - pick with your head and your heart - the hell with what others think - you will be happier. Color doesn’t make the man, CHARACTER does. I happen to like them (men) in all shades and I am a black woman and I will date a man of ligher pigmentation. I don’t want to come across as having it all together because I don’t. I just know that in this world happiness of oftentimes fleeting and I will grasp mine were I find it, pray for the best, and not think twice about the package that it is wrapped in bc the end, as my mama is so fond of saying, “all of Gods creatures just want to be loved”.
Thanks for letting me have my say. I hope that my comments were helpful to someone having problems bc of the “race issues”.
Comment by Yolanda on 5 September 2008:
I am a biracial women. My looks are very mixed up and everyone thinks that I am spanish but I am black and white. Growing up my parents made sure that I didn’t pick sides. But I am more attracted to white guys. Trust me I have no problems getting them to talk to me. But most of the guys that I have dated said that they were scared of rejection because of my race.
Comment by girlsixdiva on 8 September 2008:
hmm what happened to the video??
Comment by jadediamond on 15 September 2008:
Why do black women have to limit themselves to a “black man” as if they are not go enough for any other race? White, Asian, Hispanic womem (Just to nama a few)don’t limit themselves to one race. Black men defintely don’t limit themselves when it comes to interracial dating. In fact MANY black men find if preferable to date interracially for whatever reason!
If race was an issue during creation than God would have created another “HUMAN RACE,” or “Species” but instead he created only ONE RACE “Human,” and whether or not Adam and Eve was of the same color wasn’t an issue. The only concern was that they were the same “HUMAN.”
We have allowed society to dictate to us who we should an shouldn’t date instead of following our heart…..So many miss there “Soul Mate” because they are looking in one direction. (Think outside the box) If we look at the person and not the color we might find that special someone who we couldn’t imagine life without. And that person just might happen to be of a different color or “RACE.”
I’m from the south so interracial dating is defintely looked upon as if it is a terrible SIN. Some people would rather find that their loved one is gay than to find they are dating someone of another color. I consider myself a rebel with a cause…LOL
Comment by jadediamond on 15 September 2008:
Why do black women have to limit themselves to a “black man” as if they are not go enough for any other race? White, Asian, Hispanic womem (Just to nama a few)don’t limit themselves to one race. Black men defintely don’t limit themselves when it comes to interracial dating. In fact MANY black men find if preferable to date interracially for whatever reason!
If race was an issue during creation than God would have created another “HUMAN RACE,” or “Species” but instead he created only ONE RACE “Human,” and whether or not Adam and Eve was of the same color wasn’t an issue. The only concern was that they were the same “HUMAN.”
We have allowed society to dictate to us who we should an shouldn’t date instead of following our heart…..So many miss there “Soul Mate” because they are looking in one direction. (Think outside the box) If we look at the person and not the color we might find that special someone who we couldn’t imagine life without. And that person just might happen to be of a different color or “RACE.”
I’m from the south so interracial dating is defintely looked upon as if it is a terrible SIN. Some people would rather find that their loved one is gay than to find they are dating someone of another color. I consider myself a rebel with a cause…LOL Life is to short….live it!
Comment by f3ralanarchy on 16 September 2008:
to me it all comes down to choice. i guess one thing alot of black women new to IR dating dont understand is that men of all races loveeeee flirting from women from any race. you have to just put it out there. what it comes down to is if you live in a area where its rare will you be able to handle the stares and whispers?
Comment by travelgirlx6 on 23 October 2008:
I really do not get why race is such an issue in this country. I am a black women do not let my race define me. I think its important to date and marry who you are compatible with. I am more attracted to white men but this is likely more an issue of my profession and my interests and simply preferences. I am going to date someone I have something in common with. I feel quite a few black women date outside of their race. Especially because more and more black women are educated and likely surrounded by less people of color. I am a doctor and quite often most of the places I have worked it has been quite unusual to meet other black doctors. Now that I am moving to NYC next week my hope is that my hospital likely will have more doctors of color. I do not agree with the fact that people may think that a white man is dated down by going with a black women. Most white men I date would actually feel they were dated up if anything. Most people would not believe that issue at all after meeting me. I think most black women are strong and much more secure about who they are and what they look like. Its is interesting but you dont almost ever see a black women getting plastic surgery or developing anorexia nervosa. Black women are much more confident about self image and body image much more compared to white women. I do not see white men as timid at all. I agree with one of the commmentors who said that black men quite often will act confident but psychologically more often than not they are insecure. I do not see all the fuss is. No matter what small town I have lived in white men have been open about dating any women they found attractive. Its not hard meeting someone outside of my race just hard to find someone I am compatible with. I have travelled the world and find most of the rest of the world less defined my race and ethnicity. Also some of the typical american attitudes I see are not appealing. Because of this I find I am much more compatible with a European or Australian man instead of an American man. I do not care who people marry just be open minded, get out of your comfort zone and be happy!
Comment by mistaken on 29 October 2008:
Ive noticed that A LOT with black girls my age, A LOT, to the point where it just disgusts them…. its for quite a few reasons. But its usually only a small handful of blacks girls in a school that like white guys, or admit to it at least, but it seems ingrained in some that ‘white guy=ewww, and i quote “hell no, I’d throw up”‘.
Seriously, it goes both ways without a doubt. Rayne makes a GOOD point, very true, a large number of white guys are followers. one person judges or doesnt approve and its over because some are just weak like that. and its not stereotyping, just true… notice how i didnt say all.
However, someone like myself, I would not ever be that simple minded to just give up on something that I KNOW is not wrong that easily because people tell me bs.
When I lived in Florida, and I saw that weakness demonstrated through a happening to Daniel, cry her eyes out because Zack broke up with her only a day after they officially let it be known they were together, its just like… wow.. some white guys here have no balls. No balls at all. Not even the balls to like what they like, its sad really. At least the true reason behind a few black girls i know acting the way they do is simply because some are a bit ignorant, something about penises ,they think theyre betraying black people, or they internally have negative feelings towards white men in general and dont feel they look at a black girl the same as any other person simply because of her skin, or thinks she’d be disrespecting herself to demean herself to the derogatory views of the ‘white man’. but with white guys, some are just quite cowardly.
Comment by Juce on 13 November 2008:
I for one love men of all races,just never dated nothing but black men.I am very open minded and I don’t have a problem with any.
Comment by Artbunker on 17 November 2008:
LOVE WHO YOU LOVE NO MATTER THE COLOR. As long as you’ll are happy together who cares who you love and are with . Im not saying its always gonna be easy, but be with whom your attracted to mentally and physically.
This is comming from a black male on the forum. Too much hate in this world. If folks find love with each otheer and can weather storms who cares what others think .
Comment by trail_hiker on 25 November 2008:
A black woman from Jamaica or Trinidad or Africa has no problem dating white man. She doesn’t have this racial thing ingrained in her mind. She considers herself equal to the white guy. And that is how it should be.
I love the soft golden skin, the luscious lips and the better attitude to life in general.
Comment by salsera77 on 27 November 2008:
Ya know, it really peeves me off….this mentally that some white men have towards black women. I don’t care if this ruffles some feathers, I’m just gonna say it and I won’t mince words.
Trail_hiker, you and many white men like you, ASSUME that black women in the USA as you say “have this racial thing ingrained in her mind.”
Let me tell you something, your superiority complex is not attractive.
Many black women in the USA don’t consider ourselves UNEQUAL to white men…it’s some of YOU who PRESUME that we think of ourselves that way.
I know because I’ve run into the kind of mentality you display from white men occasionally and you guys psyche your ownselves out. I know because I have intelligent educated friends who would like to date white men.
The comment by Dave on August 2nd has the same overtones. He said: - “I am concerned that I may be assumed to be some kind of white authority figure and disregarded as a potential boyfriend/partner.”
Oh Pa-lease….
Wake up!!!
This is 2008.
Black women are educated and confident!
We know who and what we are in the USA!
Plainly put: White men that think black women have it in our minds that you are somehow BETTER THAN WE ARE and therefore won’t consider you as a partner need to come off your high horses!!!!!
Comment by jade74 on 28 November 2008:
Thank you Salsera.You spoke and wrote exactly what I was feeling too..Speak my sister.Thanks for keeping it real.
I couldn’t have said it any better.Thanks
Comment by salsera77 on 29 November 2008:
Anytime. Absolutely!
Comment by exceltae1 on 1 December 2008:
I date a woman cause I like her and want a relationship with her and I don’t care what color she is.
I think that part of the problem here is that people are trying to project personal views on society and vice-versa. I am not here to date a black woman, or woman of any other race, to better society. I am here to find someone that is happy with me as I am with her. My views on someone are based on what I know about them, not about the group of people they may be a part of. The sad thing is, I think some people will play into what others think about them, because they know no different…. no matter which group of others they are trying to appease. That is really self-demeaning to the individual. How could you ever make yourself happy, if you are only doing things to please others? Sometimes you have to fight for your own happiness. Remember our founding documents?
I am specifically looking for an inter-racial relationship, cause I have never had one before. I have never been against it, just never really had the opportunity to have one before, and have really been wanting one more as of late.
To me it is all about better my odds at finding someone. Love is hard enough to find, so why would I want to lessen my choices and reduce my chances based on someone’s skin color and ethnicity? That would be counterproductive to the main goal.
If I find happiness with a black woman and others don’t like it, then they can go to h3ll!…
I sure hope that there are enough black women out there who realize this….
Comment by STRONG BLACKMAN on 5 December 2008:
Race will always be a issue in the US. Remember the US still had slaves 100 years after UK stopped having slaves.Yes I am a Black Men over 50 and well educated. I have traveled the world for business and pleasure. I was raise in a black family, mother and father. I live up North in a white community with only two black families at that time. My mother is a doctor and father a engineer and strong Christian family. I will only date inside my race and that is it. I see many black man date white women that the white man would not date. And the sister that may date white men are sharp. I believe one can date whoever they want to date. To say brothers treat women bad is wrong. One can be bad in all colors. I see whites and blacks many times acting the same. Now I am about to get into trouble. Black women in the US seem to be stronger and will not relax even if they have a strong working good man. A white women seem to allow more bad action in their lives. I know many black good business men that love dating black but not black women in the US. I have allot of sports friends that will dated and marry white women. Reason given to me is that white women will allow the cheating just to keep the image up for the outside world. Yes I have many problems dating black women because many refuse to relax. I am a black man that loves the fine things in life. I have a villa in Spain and a home in the US. I drive a Lamborghini, Corvette, Porsche, 1969 Malibu and a Range Rover with money in investments and bank. I am a strong christian man that walks as a good man and not just talk. But sister seem to want war at time. I date women in the higher income because it is my surrounding. I try to date a ghetto girl and one may state. But she what me to walk in her world and shun my world. I would lesson as she talked about the killing down the street but refuse to even hear about my day, as she called white. But I still Love my sisters. I was around to see the King days and the hate people had for blacks. I have also seem the hate of light blacks have for dark black in the US. In the UK things are different. Someone stated why we are talking about black and white and not others. Let me put it this way. One can be a white Russian, German or any UK person. And one will not know if it is not stated. I travel the world and I wear my color. And I have to work and be better in business to make it happen for me. In business a black woman can move up the chair faster then a black man. Blacks in business must be three times better to make it. So sister yes we all have our points in the way life looks at blacks dating outside there race. But to state black men treat there women bad sometimes; So do white man,sometimes. Sister, yes you have the right to date white, black or whoever. There are still places in the US were blacks better not go at night. And I see many things that the older blacks had to fight for are being given back. Education is free if you want it to happen. So yes it will always be around the color. I hear whites refusing to vote for Bbama, (The coming President) Not because of the issues, but the color of his skin. I travel thou the UK and they love the change and hope it will make a differences in the world. Give the man a chance. The US, do I have to stated the words I here. I have business man that are marry to black women and they hate other blacks. I had to fired 3 of them for statement that they had made in public. And the bad think about these people is that many did not know there wives were black. A black man will let everyone know he has a white wife. And white woman will let everyone know she has a black husband. A white man I see many times hide it from others if possible. So again COLOR will always be a issue in the US. But no matter what happens in my life, I will always date in my race. For the US still sees color. I if you do not believe me travel to many of our states. Try to poor white area and see how you are welcome. Black communities are different in welcoming people.
Comment by wendylove002 on 3 January 2009:
i just thought i could throw in my 2 cents. I like white guys.. always have and probably always will. so i signed up for match.com and just to try it out i put up my picture of my face [ i’ve been told im pretty lol] and i got TONNNS of winks/messages/ ect.. then i put one up of my body.. and nothing
i know im big.. [working on it lol] and my gf keeps telling me “girl you need to date blk guys.. they r more into big girls” she has white guys figured out [or so she thinks] ‘they like skinny white girls’ but ive dated white guys that i was attracted to and them to me…but why is it that online..there is like no one? and do white guys feel that way?
Comment by boudreaux75 on 3 January 2009:
Well this post has definitely been interesting reading. I remember when I was beginning to date my parents suggested that I only date white girls so that I wouldn’t have to go through the problems they did (step dad is black). Then when I was 16 I met the most beautiful girl (who just happened to be black) and we dated for 2 years then I joined the Air Force and we got married. We were married for 13 1/2 years when we split up/divorced but we remain best of friends. I never cared what anyone else thought of our relationship, only that we were happy together. That’s all that really matters in the end, not what color you or your partner are, but do you make each other happy. Now that I’m single again I just want to find that special lady that’s gonna make me happy and allow me the privilage of loving her with all my heart…and I don’t care what color she is, just so long as we are happy together.
Comment by Salsassin on 7 January 2009:
Trail Hiker you truly made me laugh. You are the classic stereotype of a fetish dater.
You have no clue of the people you are attracted to obviously.
If anything, Black women in the US are very assertive on average. It probably pisses them off more when less capable White males get better paychecks. Stop worrying about what golden skin a woman has and try exploring her mind for a change. Black women in the US are dealing with a history that just ended 40 something years ago. Jim Crow. Remember that? So they have many family members and friends who have fresh memories or retellings, and there is a lot more cultural added pressure. And don’t act like the racism has just vanished. The AfroDiaspora in the rest of the Americas has not had this experience. It will also vary by the African American community the woman was raised in. Some areas of the US are more prone to date across lines than others.
And let’s be honest, it is not just Black women who have been hesitant to date across lines. White men have been reluctant as well. If a culture sells stereotypes for long enough people start buying their own stories. White males have over sexualized the Black Female so much, many men don’t look at Black women seriously as partners, but instead follow fetishes. And Black women see through these attempts at sexual exploitation vs relationship seeking.
White men have also cuckolded themselves in many cases in relationship to the Black male oversexualizing them as well. So they fear to compete in the sexual arena with Black men. How many times have I heard a fool, not want to date a White woman because she slept with a Black male. So why would it be different with a Black female?
It’s easy to point the finger and just say they are unwilling to date, but the problem comes from both sides of the fence. Until people stop believing the stereotypes and either avoiding or dating based on such beliefs, the sense of guardedness in dating will be perpetuated.
Having said that, I do hope Black women start dating outside their group more often to level the playing field for themselves. There already is a surplus of Black women compared to Black males, and that surplus exists in almost every other group as well. So they are not only competing with other Black women, but women in general. If they don’t date all pools, their dating pool will be that much more limited.
It’s basic economics of supply and demand translated to the dating scene.
Comment by deeann on 25 January 2009:
@ Salsera77…You are so right!
LOL…Trail_hiker you do think highly of yourself.
Maybe those women were simply not into you. And, maybe some of those other women you spoke of were simply looking at what you could do for them.
Comment by jussee on 30 January 2009:
Reading all that everyone is saying from white men to black women,Wow unbeliveable.Me as the black women that I am.I have to say I have been dating white men for 20 years now.And love it.I have learn in dateing outside my race that the black female is treated 100%
better then dateing her own race.Very true statement.
The only hang up I have ran into in dateing a white guy is that it depends on where you are living at the time.Some places can be harder on white men to approach the black women,And yes those places the white man can be a follower among friends rather he wants to or not.I feel the black women excepts more of a black man with a white lady then the black man will except her with a white male.Same with the white ladie she also do not want to except the the bi-racial relationship.But we as black women really do not give a rats butt about any of it so why should it bother anyone else when they see us with a man of a diffrent color.But I will say this also black women also makes it harder for a white man to approach her we are very diffrent in many ways in attitude wise so for him to just walk up to a black women for confersation be careful because you really do not know which attitude you may get.And I really feel sorry for the average white male who really want to give it a try.I do not blame you because yes there are a lot of black women out there who”s mouth is off the chain and can be disrepectful.But do not let that stop you I feel you should stand up as the man you are and take a chance you may be looseing out on your future wife if you do not at least give it a try.Everyone knows that black women are out spoken and that we are not afraid to hold anything back.So there for if thats what you like and want in a women then batters up.You may get a winner in heart.
Comment by Salsassin on 30 January 2009:
Uh, nothing wrong with a woman that is outspoken or with extra attitude. It is a taste that many men like. Each to his own taste. But just wanted to say I have met many Black women who are not like that at all. Not only in the African American community, but also in the Afro Latino, African, Afro Caribbean etc. Not shooting down the prior comment, just adding that those men that might not be attracted to the specific type of woman described earlier, still would loose out if they ignore a woman because of what they think she will be like. I have met every type of woman in the Afro-Diaspora (and I forget there are Pacific Ocean Blacks on this boards as well so in the Black populations in general) that I have met in the European diasporas. Men who don’t speak to Black women because of preconceptions are fools. You really won’t know how that woman is until you actually interact with them or at least stick around to see how they act in public. The exact same thing you do when you consider dating any other woman.
Comment by jussee on 31 January 2009:
Comment back to Salsassin,Do not get me wrong when I say how loud and out spoken a black women can be.And yes I am not saying we all are like that.Because I am no where near that type I am describeing.And I am only basing this on the black american women herself,not an african lady from a tribe or island some where theres a big diffrence.So I am mainly talking about the american black women and the american white man.If anyone do not know the diffrence between an american black female and an african lady from the islands I will say.An african lady in some way show you more curtious because in her back ground she is to follow the man and not to speak out.And on the other hand a black american women “sisters” as we call ourselves we do not follow no ones foot steps we make our own because thats who we are.I can not say it no better then that.But I will say like a lady said in her profile you will see more black women and white men dating in the near future.And I will love the heck out of seeing this I feel its awesome I like when I see it it makes me stare but only in a good appreciating way.So for all the white guys who are hiding in a shadow of love for us please come out because we want you too.
Comment by deeann on 31 January 2009:
jussee speaks for herself.
Comment by Bre on 31 January 2009:
I am a professional American black woman age 34. I have dated in and out of my race. I like men, and I have dated predominately Italians. I think love has no color.
Comment by Salsassin on 31 January 2009:
“If anyone do not know the diffrence between an american black female and an african lady from the islands I will say.An african lady in some way show you more curtious because in her back ground she is to follow the man and not to speak out.And on the other hand a black american women “sisters” as we call ourselves we do not follow no ones foot steps we make our own because thats who we are.”
LOL. Who fed you that stereotype. You see all kinds in both groups. Yesterday I watched Wife Swap, and saw an African American woman who had been indoctrinated and was indoctrinating her children to be servants to the men. The little boy did nothing around the house and the little girls washed everything, cleaned everything. It was an African American family, not African.
On the same token, I have met African women in my law school classes that were following no man’s footsteps. What is different, is something that is different in Americans and British, in general as well. On average (not always and varies by country and social level) they tend to speak in a more proper form of English and tend not to project their voice as much and maintain the same pitch of voice more.
Afro-Latina women tend to be closer to the mainstream of Latino culture and act in similar ways to any other Latinos. Afro-Caribbean vary by island and class and some express themselves in similar fashion to African American women while others have the trends similar to Africans of not projecting their voice as much.
In general, I have noticed the extended family culture is stronger in the larger diaspora than in the African American community. I would say the strongest in the US is in the South.
Comment by Salsassin on 31 January 2009:
Just a note, most women from the island nations are not African. Not unless they are from Cape Verde, the Seychelles, my ancestral wonderland Madagascar, the Canary Islands, Mauritius, SĂŁo TomĂ©, Reunion or Comoros. Caribbean women may be Afro-Caribbean, but they aren’t African.
Comment by Salsassin on 31 January 2009:
While we are on the topic of labels, this is a question for many African American women.
Why, on your profile, do many of you check “Black, Not of African Descent?” I notice that a lot.
That is not a question to differentiate Africans from African Americans. African Americans are still of African descent. Blacks that are not of African descent (Not speaking of Out of Africa, 50,000 ya when all humanity migrated out of Africa) are people like New Guineans, Fijians, Australians, etc. In other words they identify as Black but they are not people that descend from people who migrated out of Africa in the last couple of thousand years.
Shoot, I am not Black and I still am Afrodescendant because my great great gram was brought over from Madagascar same as many other Africans.
That is like Chinese Americans going around saying they are not of Asian descent. Of course they are.
Comment by Bre on 31 January 2009:
I would like to submit my photo, and how did you submit your photo.
Comment by Salsassin on 31 January 2009:
Bre go here:
http://www.chellaul.com/help/desk/ar/index.php?action=kb&category=4
They will help you in the process.
Or just go to home on the main page of the site, click on edit profile, then click on update your photos. Form there on it’s self explanatory.
Comment by salsera77 on 1 February 2009:
To Wendylove002
I’m sure you’re looking for answers from white guys but since they’re not answering you, may I just put my 1 cent in. In my experience the majority want thinner women. The other minority don’t mine a little bit of weight on but not much. If they don’t mind then they’re interested in the booty and I’m not talking about the Pirate’s of the Carribean kind.
Comment by NOPLAYER on 6 February 2009:
Wendylove002, unlike many WHT guys in the U.S., European guys have an appreciation for the ” Extra Body Woman”.
Many have told me they love the self confidence that many EBW have and they’re not as upight about an extra pound like their thin counter parts.
There’s a realness about a woman thats comfortable in her own skin.
Good luck !
Comment by Salsassin on 6 February 2009:
NOPLAYER,
WHat is WHT? DO you mean White? OR should I talk of BLK guys versus African guys? Obesity indexes in Europe are a lot lower. In Europe they are not as image obsessed as say California, but in general, the US still is much more open to big looks than Europe.
I would be cautious in trying to expand such a claim to most Europeans in the US over American Whites.
Also, while I want all women to find their significant other, I do what to make a point that Black women, should not get too comfortable with obesity in their population. For too long have I heard the excuse that Black women just hold their weight different and the BMI doesn’t apply to them, etc.
This is like the Latino American smoker claiming he doesn’t have a problem. It’s cultural. It’s acceptable. It also gives them a much higher index of lung cancer.
In the US, the Latino male (specifically Mexican Americans) and the Black female are the two populations with the highest index of obesity in the nation.
Now I have heard that excuse, I see White Obese people all the time. It’s racist to focus on us, etc. But that is still just excusism that is dodging the the health issues that are affecting these two groups today.
In fact, a recent study has shown that only gender an ethnic group that has not grown in height, but actually shrunken as a whole. is the Black female. And this is a recent trend which has been directly related to a few factors, one being obesity.
http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/nationworld/chi-black-women-shrinkingdec25,0,2562107.story
“In an age when the adult populations of most industrialized nations have grown significantly taller, the average height of black women in the U.S. has been receding, beginning with those born in the late 1960s.
The difference in stature between white women and black women has now stretched to three-quarters of an inch and appears to be increasing, according to newly released data from the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey (NHANES) conducted by the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
The main culprit appears to be diet.”
“Komlos’ latest findings, based on the NHANES data, suggest that after nearly 25 years of stagnation, the average height of adult Americans born from 1975 to 1986 has edged up again—with the exception of black women, whose height is moving in the opposite direction.
The reason this matters, according to Komlos, is because “height is a very good overall indicator of how well the human organism thrives in its socioeconomic environment.”
His argument is bolstered by another discovery: While the heights of low- and middle-income black women are plummeting, upper-income black women are growing taller and rapidly closing the gap with their white counterparts.
“The only reasonable explanation we can come up with is diet and the obesity epidemic among [middle- and low-income] black women,” said Komlos.
Over the last three decades, the prevalence of obesity among white Americans has tripled, while among blacks it has increased fivefold.
Black females were hardest hit: Almost 80 percent of black females are overweight or obese, compared with 62 percent of the total female population, according to the CDC.
The problem develops early. Twenty-one percent of black females ages 2 to 19 are overweight or obese, compared with 12 percent of white girls.
Another oddity, according to Komlos, is that black children, both male and female, grow faster and taller than their white counterparts in early childhood, but whites catch up and pass them during the teen years.
Pediatric growth experts offer one possible explanation. High caloric intake from an unhealthy diet fuels an early growth spurt among black children, plus it speeds the onset of puberty, especially for black girls, who now begin menstruating 81/2 months ahead of white girls. This early onset of puberty reduces the duration of the critical pre-adolescent growth spurt, resulting in a lower adult height.
People who are short or overweight tend to be more susceptible to health problems than their taller, thinner counterparts. They also tend to produce offspring susceptible to the same problems, thus making the cycle hard to break.”
As the son of one of the top dietitians and doctors of Peru, I grew up raised very conscious of the problems of obesity, so I want to remind all BBW women out there, that it is good to be comfortable with ones looks to a degree, but when trends start having such drastic effects on the population, it is time to think about reversing some of the trends by looking at some of the factors that are leading to this excess growth of obesity in the community specific to the Black female.
Comment by homesteader on 6 February 2009:
Fat people need Love Also , We continue to turn the lights out We go to sleep at night . We do not see color or size in the Dark of night . We see Love in our bed together . This is a Date Ting site to spread Love at . Look to the Bright side as the sun still comes up on the Eastern windows . Laugh and the world laughs with you . Complain and you may end up alone .
Comment by homesteader on 6 February 2009:
P.S. My wife is Proud to have found me here .
Comment by martha54 on 8 February 2009:
wow just look at the different comments this article
drew.I’m going to speak for me and me only I’m not about to debate this.I’ve been married to a black man and was lucky enough to have the please of dating a man outside of my race.It now becaomes a choice for me which do I prefer and I choose dating a caucasian man. I’m more at ease with them I feel safe around then and they don’t take me for granted. I saw a lot of comments by caucasian men who say they would date a black women well I say to those men check out my profile if you choose to because here is one black women that won’t date anyone but you. While vacationing in Paris France I was there ten days and several men ask me out was that because I was American I don’t know. On the plane a caucasian man sat next to me going home to Switzerland we talked the whole way to Zurich,by the time our plane landed he wanted me to stay in Switzerland was it because I’m an American women don’t know.The point I’m trying to make is this. If I go to Europe the caucasian are all over me come back to the states see them every day and no one says a thing.Are you telling me not one caucasian American man is willing to say hi my name is ? and I’d like to know you better.I’ve been home a year now not one man has open his mouth it must be time to go back to Europe where the men are not afraid to say what they mean and mean what they say lot’s of love to all of you.
Comment by homesteader on 8 February 2009:
Is Switzerland Pretty from the air ?
Comment by salsera77 on 8 February 2009:
martha54
I have a very wise girlfriend who only dates foreign caucasian men due to the history of this country and the attitudes that have been obtained by many but not all. She/We spoke of the very thing you’re addressing above which is another reason that I was encouraged to get more specific in my profile. Yes, they will approach you over there with no problem that’s for darn sure. I’m due for a trip.
Comment by DeAn on 9 February 2009:
“On the same token, I have met African women in my law school classes that were following no man’s footsteps. What is different, is something that is different in Americans and British, in general as well. On average (not always and varies by country and social level) they tend to speak in a more proper form of English and tend not to project their voice as much and maintain the same pitch of voice more.”
@ Salsassin…I work with an African born woman who is very “clever” with her “same pitch voice.”
Comment by jussee on 13 February 2009:
Well for martha and whom ever else take me too.I really would love and enjoy the trip.Maybe my true husband awaits for me there (smile)..If the white men are like that over there I wanna go too…
Comment by Ianadr on 19 February 2009:
Are we just talking about American Women here? I am a white male living in the UK and have dated mostly women of other races often black. It isn’t uncommon here and I feel there are no hang-ups about it. You would be less likely to see a black woman with an asian man or vice versa, and I think religion plays a part in that. My choice is certainly nothing to do with looking down on black women.. my God!! It is just who I feel most attracted to.
Comment by homesteader on 19 February 2009:
Full size Ladies are Pretty , small in nice , adverage good and athletic fine , but Love comes from the Mind
Comment by VA_SongBird on 19 February 2009:
Martha54… I fully agree with your comments. After having years of a dry spell with black men in particular… the guy I’m dating is german.. There is a remarkable difference in my opinion. I honestly think it has to do with living in a different environment and good ole’ home training. Some men just know how to treat a lady, like a lady. I personally can kick myself for limiting myself. There are some real jewels out there. We just have to free our minds and follow our hearts.
Comment by BlakManRising on 2 March 2009:
Black man here.
I notice how Black women ONLY think IR means white guy.
That tells me more than I need to know…most are doing it to try and make BM mad. Truth is, it only shows your true colors and makes it easier for me to see an ass kisser from a mile away.
If I was a white dude, there’s no way I would be with a Black woman who only thinks IR is Black and white…especially if she’s constantly talking about Black men…this “fad” is so see-through, it’s laughable at best.
Be in a relationship because of love…don’t be a bitter black woman…because you’ll end up an old bitter black woman…there are ALOT of you around.
I see alot of grown black women on this site claim that they are the 100% angel…and it’s all BM’s faults. In that case, white guys can have your type, lol…I pray that more of your type does breed out of the race. You are a cancer to the AA community, no matter what state we are in. Weak insecure people take the easy road out…only the Strong black man and woman can work through it. I don’t know of too many IR black and white couples…the married black folks I see are very much happy indeed. The black women, who are very successful by the way, don’t feel the need to kiss up to massa.
Which brings me to another point…it’s well known that some Black folks change their behavior patterns when dealing with white people. So it’s safe to say that when you get with that white dude…you bow down. Whereas if he were Black, no matter how good he is, you wouldn’t treat him the same.
So it all boils down to one thing…self-hatred. Not ALL IR people, but most Black folks in those situations…and as I said before…you NEED to breed yourself out of the Black race…quickly.
Comment by BlakManRising on 2 March 2009:
@ 2ute4u…
…just read your comment.
Here’s some stats for you.
Even thoug more black women are in college, black men on average STILL make more money that black women. Education has not a damn thing to do with it. There are so many of you that are educated but dumb as the day is long.
And education has NOTHING to do whatsoever with approaching a woman. Your response was probably THE MOST childish response on this site…and that’s saying alot. And if anybody needs a damn degree to actually learn how to step up to a woman, that woman has got to be the most boring woman you could meet. This is a big problem with SOME black women…you think it’s a competition…you have low-self esteem and a degree will clear that up, so you think.
Imma gonna say this and hopefully EVERYBODY reads it. The problem is self esteem…beauty issues. To me, the Black woman is the most beautiful…hands down.
But some of you women on this site are about as nutty as they come. You all blame BM for your low self esteem. BM did not create the beauty standard over here in the U.S. Truth be told, majority of us, 90+ prefer Black women. But ya’ll need to get your minds right and stop gettin’ brainwashed by society. You see the images on TV and get mad that they are mostly white…then you wanna pin it on BM.
But everybody on this site looks a little older to me…I guess time is running out and some of you missed the boat, and want to put the blame on anybody that you can…preferably the black male because we’re easy targets.
It won’t get you anywhere. If you get involved in IR for the RIGHT reason, you’ll be fine. But if you’re an irresponsible Black woman, degree or not, and you just can’t seem to find faults with yourself…you’ll be miserable regardless. But for those that missed the boat…i’ll speak on behalf of the bookworms.
Remember that Brotha you passed by when you were younger…the one who had his face in a book…the one who collected model cars and was interested in how technology works…or the one who seemed to play just a littl too much B-ball? Yeah, the one you passed by for the hustla, pimp, or thug. Then when that dude made something of himself, THEN you notice…but it’s too late.
You missed the bus. NOW all of a sudden your left with Pookie down the street…and want to catergorize all black men as a Pookie figure. Your getting old…clock is ticking…and it would just murder you to find fault in ANYTHING you did…you as a “strong” black woman can’t do that. But unbeknowest to you, the STRONG BW can point out faults in her man AS WELL AS HERSELF.
Don’t get mad that you MAY have missed the boat and want to blame the BM…just take the whoopin’ that life has given you, as it does us all, and be happy that you actually found somebody…and stop making it a Black and White issue…because frankly, coming from a bunch of so called educated Black folk…you sound pretty ignorant to me.
And creating sites about it is even worse…No other race of women have to broadcast who they date…they are not that insecure. Boy, some of you Black women are REALLY pissed, lol. Make better choices in men next time. You can’t make me believe that you had NO idea who you got involved with when choosing these INDIVIDUALS…and that’s in caps for a reason…let it marinate, you’ll figure it out.
Stop being little black girls and grow up…you can’t blame all of your problems on your brother anymore…that right has been used up.
Comment by BlakManRising on 2 March 2009:
Sites like this send red flags to anybody with sense. No wonder I was seeing all those videos with ALL races of people pointing to the Black woman having problems. You look very desperate Black woman…really, you do. The teeny tiny population that act like the ones on this blog just make the BW as a whole look bad.
The BW who don’t feel the need to try and make people feel sorry for them are at home right now…gettin’ all the LOVE they can handle from that Black man.
Comment by teacup on 11 March 2009:
I have dated white men most of my life. It all started by default. I’ve been asked out mostly by white men rather than any other race including the black race. To me it’s normal as apple pie. I’ve never felt uncomfortable, have always been welcomed into their families with open arms. I like all races. However, i will admit that I don’t care what the race is as long as their american bred. Hopefully i am not being discriminatory.
Comment by homesteader on 11 March 2009:
Teacup , It is Your Life / Enjoy it .
Comment by salsera77 on 11 March 2009:
Teacup, why do you think as you say, you’ve been asked out mostly by white men rather than any other race including black race? …just curious because you don’t have a pic or profile up.
Comment by tropic79 on 21 March 2009:
I was adopted by white parents and grew up around very few black people. The African American/black culture is a little foreign to me so I am most comfortable dating white men. It is just what I am used to and I live in a town in Idaho which is probably 99% white. However, if I meet a man who is compatible and who is a good man it really doesn’t matter what race he is.
Comment by fergie.baby on 21 March 2009:
from another black sister to you, you go girl!!! black men are dating “other” quite a bit. it is time for the sister to expand her horizons as well. if dating white men is what you are accustomed to, continue doing so. i don’t see an issue here. the issue is when black people hate themselves to such a degree that they actively seek relationships with “other” and refuse to give their own a chance. that is called self-hatred.
Comment by Glock on 22 March 2009:
BlakManRising, sounds like you are rather bitter about something? I have yet to see any black woman on here blame her self esteem on black men. And judging by your post, it looks as though you are upset that black women date white men. Is that it?
Comment by homesteader on 22 March 2009:
stats are the numbers others have collected from the Past . In the more recent past the Red flag / Sign for us here said ” Stop in the Name of Love .” Now in the Present day time 1 is Our number signifing Our joining as a couple . This is AfroRomance a place for Women to meet Men who Desire another for Date Ting , Love and Long Term Relationships . Soon enough within a couple weeks We shall celebrate Two years of Marriage , This is an Inter-Racial Dating Site and all We ever read is complaints about Colors / Like a Bunch of school children . We members here ; should have by now started to Realize , Complaining about color is what started all these Problems in years Past / Let it Go - Look to the Future . The World is Changing for the Betterment of Man as a Whole , Please people Allow Man as a Whole Community to Enjoy these Changes that have already been made .
Comment by homesteader on 22 March 2009:
Yesterday is Gone , never to Return / Live for Today and Look Forward for the Joys of Tomorrow . We call this Growth .
Comment by homesteader on 22 March 2009:
When I say ” We ” , I talk about my Wife and I as We have Totally no idea as to the Intelligence / Education of others - with the exception of a self proclaimed preacher at another Blog , who cannot even spell at an Elementary level . This being Sunday , Please feel free to pass the Plate after your Generous Donation . Amen , Hahaha
Comment by kurok on 24 March 2009:
I think in someway our unfortunate past of racism and the lack of equality between men and women playes a big role. Sorry but the black women gets a double negative their black so they delt/deal with the pains of racism and also get slapped with the you belong in the kitchen bullshit line. In many ways im old fashioned so some tell me but they are surprised when this subject comes up. I have 9 sisters so in my mind they can do anything i can and somethings better. I willfully put down any notion that women are inferior to anybody that starts that sh!t. I read one womens comment above and say to black women everywhere you are beautiful, you deserve to be loved, and dont be affraid to look beyond your own race to find that love. White men do find black women very attractive and do find themselves quite affraid to say so out of fear. Its black womens strenght that can and has scared the white man away. Black women have no problem getting very loud which can be mistaken as hostility. the last thing a white guy want is to be put on the spot for the sins of another generation especially when hes attracted to a female of that race.(before you start saying he dont know what hes talking about im talking about me) I have always dated outside my race only dating maybe 3 white women in my life. Having so many white sisters I was attracted to the fact that black women are different. They look different, smell different, taste different and act different. All of these things and more is what i fell in love with. As a kid growing up it was hard to state this for fear that i would be tormented. I’ve found my strength and black women of the world go for it!! We are different, we do things differently, Love differently and taste differently so lets enjoy each other. Barriers can be broken down with education, understanding, respect, love and laughter.
Regards,
White Man from Jersey who love dating women of different races!
Comment by BlakManRising on 24 March 2009:
@ Glock…
…plz…there aren’t enough Black Women to date white guys for me to be worried. When Black People marriy, 94% it’s to their own. Do you seriously think i’m mad because a few white guys actually feel like men because they got a BW?
Lol…if you want me to be mad, okay…for your sake, i’m mad. Truth of the matter is, is that whenever a BW goes with a white guy, you are second option most of the time. It’s because she feels neglected, vulnerable, or betrayed by her own men…judging only from a few knuckleheads she’s dated. To be honest, if I was a white dude, i’ll be damned if I was gonna be a second option…but hey, alot of you guys like to play on a woman’s insecurities or when she feels vulnerable…sounds like desperation to me, but I wouldn’t know about that because I have no need to play on a woman’s insecurities.
I have nothing to worry about, because there are SEVERAL good BM out here who represent us and are treating their BW like they should. And there are several BW who take accountability and don’t look to blame the “Black Man” for everything wrong in their life. Be a woman and look in the mirror.
As a matter of fact there are several of us, BM and BW, who are starting to come to the defense of each other against the so called IR daters, the ones who want to blame and look down on their race because they themselves are filled with self hate and need to be validated by other races to feel self-worth. Date who you want…but to look at a BM or BW and say that’s the reason you date IR shows you lack of personal accountability and you will be called out for that. Your realities are your own…the people you CHOOSE to date, that’s on you.
The deflection tactic of SOME Black People is worn out and it won’t fly anymore…it’s 2009, and alot of us are waking up to the BS…we don’t feed into the media, the 70% single BW BullCrap,etc…none of that do we entertain. For some of you Black people claiming to be “educated”, I find that hard to believe…well, book smart, you might be…but common sense, you’re lacking it.
Back to Glock…
…majority of the Black Women that white guys do get, are usually brainwashed and will do no Black Man any good…she’s already programmed to think her race is weaker and that she can only be validated by a white guy. So in actuality, i’m not upset…it’s a relief to have someone filled with self hate NOT be apart of the Black Community…you are a cancer, and we don’t need your negative notions about the Black community affecting anybody else. So have at it Glock…just know, that the REAL BW that alot of you want, don’t want you…they want nothing but a Black Man…and they get the love and support that they need…because they are REAL BW. Why would I respect a BW who doesn’t respect who she is? If she doesn’t respect and love herself, how can she do that for me?
So have at it…just know that if that one Black Man would’ve treated her right, you wouldn’t stand a chance = second choice.
Comment by Glock on 24 March 2009:
Blakmanrising, you’re more ignorant than I gave you credit for. If ever there were a reason for black women to date outside their race, you’re it!
Do you think it’s because a black woman makes us “feel like a man” the reason we date them? Are you really this stupid or are you just trolling?
I could care less if you’re mad or not. But the truth is, I can tell it really does bother you to see a white man and a black woman together. And heaven forbid if they actually are having fun being with each other. I have delt with people like you all my life, black men who hate to see a white man with a black woman. All the time trying to tell the BW she’s taking a “step down”, or “she’s only with him cuz he’s got money”. Yeah I’ve heard it all before. There are many women here that could tell you that often times the black guys on this site trying to talk to white women, will see a black woman they want to get with only to be turned down. When she turns you down, the black guys lambaste her by calling her “white mans whore” or “sell out”.
It’s totally foreign for you to acknowledge that a black woman can enjoy the company of a white man.
As far as you saying that “us guys” playing on a womens insecurities, maybe you want to check with your “own guys” too on that. I have no idea how many black women I’ve heard say that black men are nothing but players. Yeah of course you wouldn’t know nothing about that, after all your BlakManRising!!
I notice that you often refer to black women as “our women”. So, are you saying that you own them? Maybe that’s why they don’t want to date someone like you because you feel like you own them.
If black women have men like YOU to choose from I certainly can understand why they would look elsewhere. You don’t give them credit for having the capability of choosing for themselves, you call them brainwashed instead. More and more black women are dating outside their race, and not just with white men. But one big reason is they want something solid, stable and mature. With men like you and your mindset I can understand why they would leave.
So why would a black supremist even be on a interracial website anyway?
Comment by kurok on 24 March 2009:
Wow I have to agree with Glock and disagree at the same time. Blackmanrising doesnt like black women dating white men. I however think its due to racism and nothing else. This is gods world and no man has the right to say who should date who. Its a free for all if you dont like it stand aside for change is progress and progress is a good thing. Damn blackmanrising why dont you say they should get back in the kitchen and shut up because thats how it sounds. When you point to stats that comes off as a desporate attempt to prove your right when your not. As for the second choice thing i read an article that was done at a university many years in the making and the reasons black women chose to date white men was this: they are educated, have better jobs, are family orientated, dont cheat, are very respectful and aspire to be better than they currently are. They said black men were to involved with hanging with the boys, acting like a pimp, cheating, not growing up, and not trying to better themselves. you kind of did it to yourselves and you expect black women to settle for less than what they want?? Everybody has their wants and needs, so if a women finds those needs in someone outside of her race you say shes jaded or brain washed. I say she was looking at the male race as a whole finding what she wanted and your eyes blind you from the truth. Look at your hand with your fingers stretched out. Cut off all but your thumb thus you have limited your options to only one and the best you can get from it. Keep all your fingers and your chances of finding quality have increased by 4. And where i come from quality is better than quanity. Love comes in all shapes, sizes and colors only the ignorant cant see that.
Comment by BlakManRising on 24 March 2009:
LOL…
…sorry, but that deflection tactic that you white guys like to use don’t work here. Why am I ignorant…because the white guy says i’m ignorant? Please, I have MANY BW who adore me as a FRIEND first, and many have adored me as much more. Please, BM like me are more of a reason BW love BM.
You haven’t dealt with BM like me, i’m one in a lifetime…there will be another. I don’t hate on anybody’s choice if it’s legit…but from my understanding, since you want to be the “good ol” white guy, is that there are alot of Black PEOPLE, not just women, who are filled with self hate.
If you read my post, you would see I SAID PEOPLE many times…but once again, you’re trying to be the “goody goody” white guy to save the BW, lol. Please, majority of the sistas see that underhanded tactic…some still fall for it…it is what it is. You date a few BW and you think you can tell ME what I am as a BM…I see the apple hasn’t fallen far from the tree…just like your forefathers that used similar tactics on other people to decieve them…it’s 2009, you might want to switch that tactic up.
LOL…ME, jealous of a white guy begging for a BW…on the WEB???? Are you serious? Are people that desperate…lol. This is good…my day was already going well, but this is icing on the cake.
Let me let you in on a little secret…if I go to Bejieng, and live for 5 years…that doesn’t mean I can tell the Chinese about there relationships…I don’t care how many Chinese women I date…you white guys need to learn that lesson. You are bad for dealing with a couple of Black people and think you know the whole lot…step back, because one of these days, you WILL run into a BW and you’ll get your feelings hurt…if it hasnt happened already. I’ve seen plenty of white guys get checked, by BW on this topic.
I myself have dated BW who dated a few white guys…so when I tell you something, know that it also comes from some womens’ point of view about you. THAT is where I get the vulnerability issue from…PLENTY of Black Women have told me that, and as a result, see right through you and warn other Black Women about it. So I don’t spout anything withoug rhyme nor reason.
Oh yeah…I don’t date white women…so you bringing up BM who down BW in IR while they themselves are in it, has absolutely nothing to do with me. Trust me, if I were dating white women, I wouldn’t need to be on the web and seek validation, nor play on her insecurities to do so. Do SOME BM play on BW’s insecurities…of course they do, and I don’t tolerate it from them either. So if I don’t really care for it from one of us, what makes you think i’ll let it slide from a white guy?
And don’t even talk about having issues with IR…as RACIST as white people are…plz, don’t even make me jump on that subject. I don’t even have to go to the past…all I have to do is look at the aftershock…there is such a thing you know. But I can tell by your “tone” that the good ol white guy, who thinks he knows all about Black People, that you still have that complex about you. You want to mention Black men do this wrong, and they do that wrong…
…when white guys stop committing suicide at high rates, talk to me then. When white guys stop slaughtering millions for the resources and their lands…talk to me then. When white guys stop killing their own families at high rates…talk to me then. Just because it doesn’t air on National TV, like you put our laundry out, doesn’t mean that it doesn’t happen.
So before you try and tell the Black Man what to do, clean up your own back yard…you think you have a clue, and you really don’t. Sistas talk to us WAY more than you think…and i’m talkin’ about those in IR…trust me. We all know about the saying “You ain’t a man, until you sleep with a Black Woman.”, which still goes on today.
And how did I find this site? I didn’t FIND this site…this site was being passed around by BM and BW who were calling out self-hating Black PEOPLE…let me type that in all caps, because I speak of men and women.
Don’t let it get to your head, I hold nothing against TRUE love…I just know how white guys can be…courtesy of BW who have been involved with you, lol. Just keep BM out of your mouth and out of your relationship…a REAL man doesn’t need to bring up another to boost his ego in a relationship…that is a sign of weakness and desperation.
Comment by BlakManRising on 24 March 2009:
@ kurok…
…you have no idea what you’re talking about.
First of all, that philosophy of white guy’s having better jobs…if Black Men enslaved white guy’s, it would be the same story…let’s not go there, your argument doesn’t hold up.
As far as white men not cheating…being family men…HA…propaganda at it’s best. Once again, if Black Men owned the media, it could easily be the other way around. REAL Black Women recognize the game…they are conscious to the fact that white guys’ who own the media outlets, will do whatever they can to paint a negative pic about us. Don’t get mad at me for saying it…talk to them about doing it.
And to address your issue as far as me telling them to get into the kitchen…once again, nice tactic of putting words in my mouth and creating sentences for me. That’s not my stance when it comes to women…but if you want to believe that, then you go ahead…as i’ve said to Glock, you don’t know me. So i’ll let you build your perception of me from the TV you watch.
When I speak, I speak of the self-hating Black people, which are men AND women…not just Black women. Once again, and this WILL be the LAST time I say this here…I hate on NO ONE for TRUE love…but me and other Black people know better when we see it. Once again, I get my information from women…so it’s almost as if i’m in the situation…and I speak of BW who’ve dated white guy’s. There’s a whole lot more I could say about what i’ve was told, but i’m not going to say it in this reply to you.
Oh yeah…and Glock wanted to know about my phrase, “Our Women”…when I say that, I speak of BW who actually love BM. Whether you want to belive it or not…majority of the time, you are a second option…all you have to do is pay attention to the comments, they speak for themselves.
“Black men didn’t like me, so I might as well open up my options.” = Let me try my second or third choices.
And the Black Women who say this are probably not going after the men that they should. I hear all the time how Black Women think we dont like dark skin…FAR from the truth…again, too much TV. But when a Black Woman starts her sentence “Black men didn’t/don’t…might as well go to another race…”, that don’t sound all that assuring to me. Some are indeed attracted to white guys…cool, but most couldn’t care less, they don’t need validation.
Comment by jussee on 25 March 2009:
Geeezzzz can we get back to the nice polite talk and stop all the negative crazy talk.I mean its getting kind of boring to keep reading this sh..t.Lets get back to what the very first person had to say.And thats waaayyy at the top of the page for some who do not really get it.LOL……..Sorry to try to cut the negative talk but I wanna read the good stuff.So back to interracial dateing can we.The good stuff(smile) hehehe…
Comment by kurok on 25 March 2009:
Ignorant doesnt imply stupid in any way. You say that women told you how we are?? I say make some white friends and find out for yourself. There are good and bad in all races. I hope you dont think in any way that i was talking about you, it wasnt meant that way. All those things i was saying were quoted from black women in an article i read not my views or opinion. I was not touching on the racism within a race either.
Sometimes when you write things they just come out sounding wrong, not that that was your intent. i wont even debate you of how the white man has destroyed, butchered and so on thing in this world. I know it to be true but what you need to understand it was done by whomever was in power.
Oh yeah im irish and we were slaves as was every race on gods green earth at one time or another. I thin i agree with the lady (Jussee) we have gotten so far off the subject. Back to interracial dating i think its hot!
Comment by kurok on 25 March 2009:
I agree with the lady onto the subject we fell off of. I think interracial dating is hot!!!!!!!!
Comment by Glock on 25 March 2009:
Call it “deflection” if you want, you know what I said was right in your face. I don’t deflect. I address whatever point, opinion, or assertion you’ve got.
Based on your posts, you spend you time dating black women so that you can ask them if they dated a white guy before and what is was like….LOL you’re pathetic. Are you really that paraniod that you have to ask your DATES about their..lol..experiences with a white man? LOL That must have been a fun date.
“Please, BM like me are more of a reason BW love BM.”
That’s right, keep telling yourself that.
[If you read my post, you would see I SAID PEOPLE many times…but once again, you’re trying to be the “goody goody” white guy to save the BW, lol.]
Exactly WHO said anything about “saving” black women? From your statements, it really sounds like the only person here who has self hate, is you! Maybe you had a girlfriend one time who dumped you then started dating a white man, is that why you are so hateful to whites?
[You date a few BW and you think you can tell ME what I am as a BM…I see the apple hasn’t fallen far from the tree…just like your forefathers that used similar tactics on other people to decieve them…it’s 2009, you might want to switch that tactic up.]
So now you know how many black women I’ve dated huh? So how many is that? How many black women do I have to date in order to be an authority such as yourself on black women?
And what about my forefathers? You know them? Oh, you want to talk slavery huh?? Hmmmm. Interesting. So what about your forefathers? Shhhhh, don’t tell anybody, but did you know your forefathers sold slaves to my forfathers?? Did you know that? Do you know that your forefathers still have slavery? Yeah! Let’s bring that issue up “Blakmanrising”
…[when white guys stop committing suicide at high rates, talk to me then. When white guys stop slaughtering millions for the resources and their lands…talk to me then. When white guys stop killing their own families at high rates…talk to me then. Just because it doesn’t air on National TV, like you put our laundry out, doesn’t mean that it doesn’t happen.]
You’re right, I see absolutely no violence within the black community. When the number one threat to blacks is a black man “talk to me then” Everyone in the black community knows it but are unwilling to speak in publicly. Blacks die at the hand of other blacks across this country AND Africa in DROVES!! It’s not the white man doing it it’s blacks. Interracial crime? Again blacks have a higher percentage of crime in this catagory again (specifically black men) and no, you will not see that on the evening news. Look at the FBI crime reports. And when you read the catagory about whites, keep in mind the FBI adds hispanic interracial crime to the white catagory or else it would be even lower. Of course the media won’t volunteer THAT information either.
I can read you like a book. Another black guy down on his luck, dead end job and wants to blame someone. Who to blame? Who else always blame the white man.
I’ve delt with people like you all my life, a person always looking to blame someone for their own faults, and deficiencies. I’m sure you learned at a young age to do that and to hate whites for everything. Undoubtedly you learned that when ever you have a stumble or obstacle in life, that it was put there by the evil blue eyed devil. Hell you probably have a Farrhakan poster in your living room. LOL.
Good luck in your life, hope you get out of your rut and stop blaming people for your inadequacies. Some day you’ll grow up. Be a man, hell be a “BlakManRising” LOL
Comment by BlakManRising on 25 March 2009:
LOL…
…down on my luck? Yeaaaaaaaaaahhhh…okay, you wouldn’t have a clue.
Another “white guy” moment…thinks he knows it all, lol. Not nearly down on my luck…2 websites to my credit, which were created by yours truly, getting my 2nd degree, and just moved into a new house…down on my luck…womp, womp…try again.
Your pathetic attempts at “calling me out” and mocking the screen name are laughable at best. Keep telling yourself that i’m “down on my luck” if it makes you feel better…which is about the only way somebody like you can feel better…it can’t come from within because you have no self worth.
And just to let you know about Afrika…since you obviously live there know-it-all, once again, the Afrikans that are being killed are the sell-outs…trying to get Afrika to give up her resources to white people…kinda like Harriet Tubman who shot slaves that were a threat to her movement. And since i’m telling you this…might as well tell you that your people are once again behind it…corporations planted over there so they can rob Afrika of all it’s resources. I know you don’t want to believe it…being as how you’re so pure, LOL.
I LOVE, just LOVE guys like you…know it alls, especially when it comes to different races. Stick to your history and people when it comes to this subject matter…you’re only good at fabricating.
You have no room whatsoever to speak on the matter…there isn’t enough forgivness in the world for what your people have done worldwide…and it still continues today…smh, but you want to critique somebody elses life…lol.
I’m sure the FBI adds Latino crime to that of whites…dilution, who can’t see that?
It’s been entertaining guy, but I don’t think you can make me laugh any harder than I have. You know, since all the white guys are taking all of the Black Women…*sniff, sniff* oh woe is me, what am I to do? I guess I should change my name to BlakManSinking…LOL…because the white guy said i’m not good enough, it MUST be true…LOL. Gotcha…dude. Big guy putting the Black Man in his place in front of Black Women…my o my how macho are we? Such an e-Badass…lol, must really turn the ladies on huh? *wink, wink*
Wow…i’ve stooped to your level…they always told me to never argue with a fool…you can’t tell whos who from a distance. I guess i’ll leave with my tail between my legs…boy, you sure told me off. What do I know…i’m just a Black guy down on his luck…and Black Women won’t talk to me…LOL.
It’s kinda hard blaming somebody for my “inadequacies” when I feel o so wonderful about myself. If I was inadequate, I would be on a website like this with a pic up engaging in some type of e-romance with women I lust over, LOL…LAME! From the looks of it…you’re what, in your 40s? On the net, trying to get some e-booty???? WOOOOOOWWWWW…now I know i’m talking to an inadequate guy. Dont get mad at me that your marriages didn’t work out…maybe it’s not for you…unless you can get a woman that’s vulnerable…if you have to be a buzzard to get a woman, then so be it. In that case…you’re at the end of your rope…last round…final call for alcohol…last lap…last chance at love…what a shame. Wow, a young guy can learn something from you after all…don’t end up a lame old man sitting on a computer trying to find e-booty. Your like that last guy in the bar, right before it closes, trying to pick up on the left over women, lol.
You’re sleep…never had problems getting a Black Woman, never will have problems getting one…i’m always around Black Women. They LOVE Black Men…LOVE us to death, lol…don’t like hearing that do ya? Guess what else…I LOVE ‘EM right back…double DAMN…you definately don’t like hearing that.
Like I said…it’s been fun here on the site for people who need validation…but I have to run folks. Have fun blaming other people for your miserable relationships. Maybe you’ll finally find some self worth…somewhere out here…I just know it! You can do it!
Just keep in mind…whatever goes wrong…it’s the Black Mans’ fault, LOL.
Comment by jussee on 31 March 2009:
This is for GLOCK,I have a kiss on the lips for you,a pat on the back for you and to say thanks for giving you know who those kind words.What a f…ing idiot.He is.Sorry but titt-for tatt what a looser he is.And a looser always got something to say never an ending story.And thats all they have that comes out there mouths are stories to tell faceless.Statement we love guys like him to death yes once there in there grave thats when our true love kicks in lol sh…less in real life pretty much thats all that comes out there mouth.Leaving like a dog with his tail between his legs yeah tail so far between it legs its going straight through there mouths.And the last man in the bar to get left overs no jerk weed the last to walk out are the party people the first to go will be the looser who could not even pick up someones grandmom.And if you leave way before then there was no help for you before you even walked in.If you have to bragg about what you have in life a house,car new wife or what ever, good for you but hell pat yourself on the back but always remember what a looser that you feel you have to share that with us does that make you a man I hope not. Who gives a rats ass.Do everyone a favor stay off this site we really do not need your 2 cents because thats all your words are worth.I just gave you credit lol….And belive me I am no hater to the BM just the ones who talk like BMR I will spell it like that since he can not show his FACE.Anyone can talk a good talk.But an idiot have a story to tell.
Comment by oh good greif! on 31 March 2009:
Are these two still at it??? Glock your in the right this guys an old school hater nothing else. Dont grant it an audience it and hate will go away fight it and it feels stronger for some reason. Its like a fire deny it oxygen and it will fade away. Hey news flash i’m white and my family came to this country in 1920 wow they had nothing to do with slavery what a surprise! That is unless a racist paints everyone with the same brush and says all white people are responsible. The interracial dating thing is great it shows that people on both side have had enough of the hate bred from both sides. Now the healing starts. Oh and the love making
for bmr lol.
Comment by jimbo on 4 April 2009:
” why so many white men are not attract to black women and their resons? ”
Girl I’m English from London and what you said is what you THINK and nothing eles. Who are you to say White English men don’t like/love Black women, have you talked to any of these men you have in your mind???? I’m white ( 18 going on 19 ) and have always from when I frist can remember LOVED black felmales light/dark BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!! Black women are just my personal preference and always will be ( its strong lol ). You are right when it comes to the ” beauty standard “, but do you really think ppl all over the world working in the media are out to show black women has ulgy ( for so reason ) or that they just perfer white women or orther women. For ppl reading this England is more open minded then she thinks!! WE ALL HAVE ARE PREFERENCE’S!!!!!!!! 2009 LOVE is that LOVE !!!!
Comment by homesteader on 4 April 2009:
” England Swings Like a Pendulum Do ” , Being older All I got to say is ” Never Met a Ladie , I did not Think was Beautiful in her Stride . Madam You sure nuff got a Pretty Pair on Bluejeans /Hehe “
Comment by homesteader on 4 April 2009:
correction ; ” Madam You sure nuff got a Pretty Pair of Bluejeans on , LOL ” Yes , the Mind is the First thing to go , Hehe .
Comment by salsera77 on 4 April 2009:
Jimbo, way back many many paragraphs and statements ago, Martha and I agreed with you that what you’re saying is quite common in England/Europe.
Glock, Thank You. I don’t always agree with you in every topic but on this one I couldn’t have defended black women /white men interracial relationships better. I do have to add an addendum that there are black men that have careers, are doing right by their families and are working their butts off.
It’s not fair how the crappy black men somehow seem to cast a bad reflection on the good ones who are not the cause of ills in black society. I hope that with President Obama in the spotlight the tide will turn on many different levels.
People are going to date who they want to date regardless of how many million word essays someone writes to show disapproval of their preference. That’s fine. It won’t stop the Passion and Desire that has been attracting black women/white men relationships since Solomon & Bathsheba, Thomas Jefferson & Sally Hemings,etc. etc…Lololololol!
Snappy Comebacks to Envious Persons of BW/WM Relationships:
(good also when someone sees you with your date and just has to open their mouth to you):
Opposites Attract, Don’t you know that.
Birds of a feather flock together, Don’t you know that. (They will become confused)
What’s Good for the Goose is Good for the Gander. - (especially for a bw said to a bm)
You don’t own me you own that sick puppy look on your face
Black men like you are the reason I date white men.
Go tell it all to Reggie Bush & Kim Kardashian.
Go b*tch and complain to OJ Simpson & Gil Turner.
Go tell it all to Montel Williams and his wife.
Comment by btw on 4 April 2009:
People of any race whether its male or female who dont date within a race are actually people of great power. They have reached a level of spirit and education that they have advanced to the level of inlightenment that they see people for who they are and not what color they are. They see so well that their eyes dont blind them and they are strong enough to not let anyone tell them different. This creates fear within those who hold on to the past with both hands. This is on all sides of the table as hate and racism arent exclussive. We who have seen beyond the mere colors of the flesh can never go back to the way things were. With the races getting together more and more means that the end is near for those who believe in the old outdated ways. Its in the old outdated ways that the chains which have held back true freedom are rusting away. We are getting closer and closer to becoming a world of one race the human race instead of a bunch of races put together. Its the way god planned it and man has stood in the way for too long. So in other words let go and let god.
Peace to all my brothers and sisters in this world.
Comment by homesteader on 5 April 2009:
God being tired from all his Duties said to St. Peter ” I need a vacation , where should I go ? ” St. Peter suggested Jupiter . God said ” With the high gravity , it bothers my back . ” Maybe Mercury . No Too Hot . Earth would be good . God said ” Them people talk too much , 2,000 years ago , I went there and had an affair with a sweet Jewish girl and they are still Talking about it . ” LOL Hehe , Enjoy it’s Sunday and We made another week .
Comment by salsera77 on 5 April 2009:
To BTW:
So yeah, to echo what you’ve said
and as I’ve stated before
it’s about Evolving.
And I will talk as much
as I want, Homesteader.
Like I said before you
certainly blab enough
on every topic for all
of us.
Comment by Glock on 5 April 2009:
I just came back to see some of the responses. Blakmanrising has SERIOUS issues. He make George Wallace look like a civil rights leader.
Blakmanrising….have at it.
Comment by Glock on 5 April 2009:
Salsera77 I agree with you. Homesteader certainly does BLAB, QUITE a bit. 90% of the time, I have no clue of what it is he’s trying to say. Often times when I come to the blogs it’s filled with his postings of meaningless drival. I’m glad I wasn’t the only one that noticed it.
Comment by salsera77 on 5 April 2009:
Yes, my sentiments exactly.
I think we’ve all been very polite
because we know everyone has their right to
speak but Geeze this is the 2nd time he’s crossed the line trying to offend me and so I’ve had to call him out on it.
On a positive note:
Happy Palm Sunday, Everyone!
Comment by homesteader on 5 April 2009:
Evolution of the fittest , is nice that I got your attension / Happiness is just another Way to Live . I learned many years ago to cross the line , if anything will ever be done . Passive statements , History Lessons and argumentative statements at a Date Ting site / We became Happy when We met here . Thank you for being Polite , My opinions are just that - My Opinions . I shall honor Yours .
Comment by homesteader on 5 April 2009:
Thank you
Comment by homesteader on 5 April 2009:
btw the greatest power is that We are of the Human race and Like it like that .
Comment by homesteader on 5 April 2009:
glock , My Drivel / when you had me confused as to who the President was with conversation at another time ? Had to go to town to purchase a newspaper in order to make sure . This White Man married a Black Woman that he was Fortunate enough to find at AfroRomance . The Greatest Power in the World is how Marvelous she makes Me feel . I Never asked anyone not to voice their Opinions as often as they Please [ salsera77 ] and Blakmanrising / thank you for bringing Knowledge as you see it to Light of all others .
Comment by homesteader on 5 April 2009:
Our woodlands in East Texas are knot filled with Dislike for all others . I Paid my way with Hard Work all my Life . After following the Clues found by talking to others everyday in these United States of America . I have to Agree ; you get what you pay for in life . We Earned Ours by not being Judgemental of others . Don’t Blame me / Just reread some of the Harsh words you have used in Past comments and the Clues are easy to Learn . My Wife did not marry me because of Color , she Married me because I am Honest in my Opinions and carry Myself Well in Public , she talked to my ex-co-driver who was Female as to my Credentuals . When We learn to Understand that We are All equal , we will not feel Offended by others opinions .
Comment by BlackManRising on 5 April 2009:
@ jussee
LOL…another bitter BW…LOL.
I laugh everytime I see one of you.
Comment by BlackManRising on 5 April 2009:
And not to mention…I really wouldn’t feel comfortable talking all that ISH if I had a face like that…and you had the nerve to post it on the internet…your nose seems to be the “most brown” of your whole face…
…let it marinate, i know you’re a little slow.
And to imply that I “ran with my tail between my legs”…from an internet forum???? You people are delirious…not to mention so “darn” funny, LOL.
To the “girl” who mentioned “Solomon & Bethsheba”…wow…the fable from that “holy bible”…LOL. Not even gonna explain that…if you STILL believe the fables in the “holy bible” and take them LITERALLY…you’re lost.
And you mentioned 2 couples in history…LOL.
But on a serious not, most of that shit was rape…even Thomas Jefferson…so you going back in history like that and actually taking it as a “relationship” is disgusting to say the least…I hope each and every one of you, who hates yourself, breeds yourself out of the Black Race…for real. You are an embarrassment…especially women like “jussee”…you are a disgrace of who the Black Woman truly is…really you are. But then again, I don’t consider you to be a REAL Black Woman anyway…so keep on keepin’ on, lol.
Anyway folks, gotta run…I see i’ve livened up this thread…no wonder, you people are perfect for each other…no SOUL or passion in this thread at all…except MY posts, lol. The new generation of REAL Black People is here…you’ll see us on the web VERY soon…half of us are already big here.
And thanks for continuously posting my name in your comments…just can’t stay away from that word BLACK. Even on an IR site, you’re STILL obsessed with the Black Man, LOL. We ain’t goin’ nowhere…bigger, stronger, and better. Sorry I couldn’t sit in on all this “wonderful” discussion you have going on. Just tell me “jussee”, when is your next trip to your motherland…Europe? LOL…god forbid you would go to Afraka right? LOL…
…”I’s can’t go to no Afica…”massa” don’t like when i’s talks ’bout Africa. “Massa” told me to keeps my be-hind in the chuuuurch.” lol
“I’s sho need “massa” to take care of me. Evra sense i’s gots kicked off tha plantation, i’s ain’t a been right. I needs “massa” to holds my hand out here…and keeps goin’ to my motherland…Eurip.”
LOL…I get too much of a kick out of Sambos and Black Mammies…sorry, can’t help it…this sh*t cracks me up.
Hey “jussee”, let me know when you’re done breastfeeding your “massa’s” babies…my cousin needs a babysitter soon, LOL.
Comment by BrownB09 on 5 April 2009:
Blackmanrising, so a Black woman who decides to date any White man for whatever reason doesn’t deserve respect? Shame on you! Although your remarks are quite upsetting, Im not mad at you brother! I just remembered Im going out this weekend with a fine, intelligent man (who happens to be white)I recently met!
Comment by BrownB09 on 5 April 2009:
Blackmanrising,so you think that any Black woman who dates outside her race doesn’t deserve respect? Shame on you! Although your remarks are upsetting and distasteful, Im not mad at you brother!
Comment by salsera77 on 5 April 2009:
Homesteader, you didn’t Get Anything Done with regards to me. You don’t work here and you don’t get paid for your countless nonsense postings on this site. It just looks like you stay on this site all day with nothing else to do. How sad.
The fact that you feel you need to post all the time and now cross the line while you’re safe behind you’re computer shows me that you are someone to be pitied.
This is what I told you before on the Online-dating-couples-success-stories blog when you tried this before. Maybe you didn’t read it. Here it is:
It’s a free country. …. you are free to post endless ramblings that make no sense most of which I usually skip over. …. Maybe YOU should stop your endless countless blogging and go out into the real world.
And Please don’t even speak of me in the same sentence as BMR.
BMR, I’m not even going to bother reading your post.
Ewwwwwwwwwww. Yuck!!!!!
Oh, my phone is ringing. Lookie there. It’s my HUNK of a White Man Lover. Lololololol!!!!
Comment by Glock on 5 April 2009:
Blakmanrising, my sincerest apologies. I had no idea how serious of a problem you have. In all seriousness, you should seek some professional psychological help for whatever mental instabilities you are suffering. It’s clear that a serious debate about issues is not what you seek. You are only here to vent your personal hatred towards others. It’s also clear that you hate black women who are involved with a white man as much as you hate whites in general. It’s hard to understand how a black woman (or any woman) would want to be with a person such as yourself who are so possessed by their hatred of others. I pity you for whatever has caused you to have such negative feelings. I pity anyone who has to come in contact with you.
Yeah you’re right about one thing, I may not be the best looking guy on this site. I except the way God made me (yeah I’m one of those people that actually believe the Bible). But at least I’m not a coward and posted a picture.
Homesteader, I echo everything Salsera77 said. Get a life.
Comment by BlackManRising on 5 April 2009:
Glock
If I didn’t know any better, i’d swear you were on the wrong site. I’m not gay…so stop responding to me, lol.
Salserra77
You’re not even Black…are you confused or something?
Comment by BrownB09 on 5 April 2009:
I hear ya Salsera77, after reading some of BMR’s remarks, I was quite nauseated!
Comment by homesteader on 5 April 2009:
I have lived in the real world 42 years of my adult life , I do not realize what you refer to when you say ” you tried this before . ” I have seen the names that you call others , when you tell me that you do not understand what I say . I was not talking to you salsera77 to start with . Blab in my dictionary is to reveal without discretion . I have never spoke to you in any way personally . If you feel that BMR IS TO BE USED IN A CONVERSATION WITH you , WHY DO YOU ACT the same IN RETURN ? The statements that , I write on topics make sense in my world , Sorry if I confused you and others , Speaking Generally to the forum about my feelings in Life / has brought forth confussion to a few . Thank you for not understanding what I talk about , like your friend who tried to convince me that the Best Man did not win . President Obama did win therefore he is the Best Man in the last Presidential Race for office . BMR has every right to speak his mind as this is the Land of the free and his opinions may be agreed upon by others . Sad to say what you consider Nonsense / Is how I feel about Life . Hope that was your Man on the phone and he makes your day . Please do not try to Judge Me as I really Enjoy what I say .
Comment by Glock on 5 April 2009:
Whatever coward. Get some help.
Comment by BrownB09 on 5 April 2009:
It is too hot on here!
Comment by homesteader on 5 April 2009:
Thank you glock ; I made my Life here at AfroRomance when I found my wife , We wish you luck in your search .
Comment by homesteader on 5 April 2009:
Name calling shows Adult status , be Proud .
Comment by homesteader on 5 April 2009:
When you call a Disabled Man Coward , sure nuff shows your Bravery . I sometimes wonder why I even bother to reply to people with No respect for others .
Comment by Glock on 5 April 2009:
Homesteader, believe it or not, but people actually reply to comments made by OTHER PEOPLE!!!! Ok, lets try a different approach….my “coward” comment was meant for Blakmanrising…not for Homesteader!! Ok???
For future reference, when you see a post made by someone other than YOU, keep in mind that two or more people might be engaging in some type of dialogue and not the typical ramblings we see SO OFTEN HERE ANYMORE. Ok? Did I confuse you??
Really Homesteader, I know people like to keep track of hot discussions on the blogs, but is it really necessary to post so many obviously meaningless comments here? Couldn’t you just write them down on a piece of paper until you have a paragraph or more then just make on or two posts instead of the hundreds you normally make?
Comment by jussee on 5 April 2009:
Black Man Rising you are very sick at the moment please go get help.You just sit there hurting deep inside trying to hurt others which is not really working at all.Stop saiying that your not gay you already clearfied that part,why keep repeating it,just keep repeating to us that your not sick okay that really would help us out on not to comment on anything you say (DOLL) lol….Who is the bitter one let us all not point the fingure at one time at BLACK MAN RISING….or should I say black man talking down..No one seems or look black to you.So look put a photo on here or something I am starting to think your color do not even exsist,what I”m trying to say there is no such color for ignorance.Just a word called dumb ass.So stop all your trying to talk out of your way to hurt someone because the only person that is hurting is yourself and belive it or not the world will still go on without you.No matter who you may call out of there race,your words are so out of touch with the real world.We will always be the color you may think that we are not …like I say you may think that we are not but in gods eye we all are who he made us to be in whatever race we are so stop hateing his work of ART rather its black,white or whatever.Chill breath in and breath out its almost like you can not wait to get on here and call someone of anyrace out there name.You need prayer I and others as I can see really feel you are a rascisit and if you feel that your not you need to take a step back and instead of trying to call names to others in so many words reread what you have written.I feel your not really hurting anyone on here like you are trying to do. Stop trying to disrespect others and try to respect and accept the choices (black women) we may make in life out of our love for white men.Nothing else but love thats all it is. Take off the mask we all know who you really are.And accept the choices others make in life.No matter how you see it DEER a blackwomen is always gonna be a black women no matter who or what race she may choose in life.Sorry to say but YES MICHAEL JACKSON is still considered a black man and he is still rising no matter of what comment shall be cast upon him.No one can change that so to say we are and always will be black women rather we are bitter sweet,sour,tasteless, judgemental or just need to go whever you think we need to go.Its all just words coming out your mouth.Love is love no matter who you choose in life.Just try to be happy for the black and white couples who are in love true love.Belive me we us black women have no problem being happy for who ever the black man choose.I feel thats what the world need more of an open eye to what ever makes you happy in life and feel good about it.So for me to run my hand through a white mans hair and look into his eyes makes me happy then you should be happy for us too.PEACE to black man rising try to take it with a grain of salt.Love is love and like its said love has no color.
Comment by BlackManRising on 5 April 2009:
@ jussee
If you can’t take it stay out of the kitchen.
YOU responded to me…okay?? Got it?? Good? Don’t think that you can respond to somebody and not get it back…doesn’t work that way.
Now all of a sudden you want to play the victim…as if I singled you out first…once again, you put MY name in your post trying to win brownie points with your “massa”…but it didn’t work. Plantation days are over…skip along into the 09 please.
You keep mentioning the word hurt…which it seems you are. I don’t try to do anything…you could simply…ignore my posts. It’s just that simple…but YOU chose to put MY name in your post…YOU did. I didn’t make you do that…YOU did it. So, the next time YOU decide to respond to somebody who didn’t even mention your name, be prepared to get your feelings “hurt”…lol.
Sad…just sad excuse for a woman.
Not even gonna put Black in the same sentence…it’s not deserved here.
Comment by BrownB09 on 5 April 2009:
Blackmandeclining, brother you are a sad sad case! If you dont like anybody here, why are you wasting your time? You could have ignored the responses that were directed to you as well! I wasn’t going to respond but you are seriously disturbed, what is your problem?
Comment by homesteader on 6 April 2009:
Not being a typist and Afro not showing my responses { quick enough }, I tend to retype often . glock , I apologize as never have I never been perfect . At this topic , I see the real world in others opinions .
Comment by homesteader on 6 April 2009:
Black man bent over , when you start to disrespect Ladies online . your handle needs to be changed to who you Really are . Opinions are similiar to assholes everyone has one regardless of color . But now you have put yours out on display for all intelligent people to see . Purchase some creme so it doesn’t Hurt so badly . I am easy going , alas you put your open butt in Public . Your color does not Exclude you from being Respectful to all Ladies . Maybe your brothers will DATE YOU AT ANOTHER INSTITUTION if they haven’t Already .
Comment by homesteader on 6 April 2009:
glock ; I apologize for being in the wrong thought pattern .
Comment by homesteader on 6 April 2009:
black boy bent over , you live in the past . You insult Ladies online . I feel this name matches your attitude far Better . What I am saying is that you have showed your backside to the world . I will honor your opinions / I will not honor Disrespect for a Ladie .
Comment by BlackManRising on 6 April 2009:
@ homesteader
What is this…a gay blog? “black boy bent over”…
…not even gonna address that…that’s YOUR fantasy.
I really don’t care what YOU honor…I speak my mind on certain issues…take it or leave it.
And stop fantasizing about Black Men…aren’t farm animals enough for you people?
Comment by homesteader on 6 April 2009:
Only the Truth Hurts , leave my animals alone if you Please
Comment by BlackManRising on 6 April 2009:
zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
…oh, did somebody else say something to me.
Oh yeah…BownB09…
…I can always tell an insecure, attention craving, sad exuse of a woman…
…again, I can’t put Black in there, because it would be disrespect to REAL Black Women.
Know how I can tell? Because they always talk about an “imaginary” guy who’s on the phone, or that’s suppose to “pick them up for a date”…LOL.
You know what…I just realized that you guys are doing REAL Black people a favor…LOL. Some of these women in here are in DESPERATE need of attention…and are not strong enough to be Black…I do realize that now.
LOL…well, have fun on your “date”…*wink, wink*…LOL.
SAD I tell you, lol…ANOTHER sad excuse of a woman.
Comment by Salsassin on 6 April 2009:
“you people?”
Last I read bestiality occurs in isolated areas in ALL continents.
http://www.iol.co.za/general/news/newsprint.php?art_id=qw1125563401691K555&sf=
Comment by Salsassin on 6 April 2009:
LOL I see Dumb fool rising keeps on showing his ignorance and just keeps on showing he is a living stereotype.
But hey, let him keep on dancing for our entertainment.
Comment by BlackManRising on 6 April 2009:
LOL…there aren’t enough people reading this for it to be called “entertainment”.
I’m the reason this post is hot…a Black Man…LOL.
Comment by PrettyGurl on 6 April 2009:
Ive always been attracted to white men since I came to the age that boys existed… I didnt care then and I dont care now what people think.. A thought alot of black women wont talk about but I have friends (black women) who thinks basically that you have to “deserve” a white man.. ugggh.. This society is sooo screwed up… Anyway, thats my 2 cents
Comment by BrownGirlLDN on 6 April 2009:
Wow. So much hate on a site meant for finding love…
Many opinions expressed here. Some I agree with, mainly the comments made back in ‘07 but then I see the conversation was taken over by… someone with issues.
Essentially, I think we all have the right to choose. The right to choose our friends, what clothes to wear, what we do for work, what to eat for dinner and who to date.
I think it’s incredibly arrogant for anyone and I do mean ANYONE to presume they know me better than I know myself. How bloody dare you.
Antagonistic arrogant anger-inducing statements do nothing but piss people off. Especially when they’re based on half truths.
Just like sweeping statements & generalisations do nothing to help anyone’s understanding.
By all means, share your experiences and thoughts but please don’t put them out into the world and expect them to be accepted as fact.
Entertain the possibility that you could not only be wrong but… you might also be talking out of your rectum.
I’ve spoken to loads of my black female friends. Some date outside of their race but many don’t.
I asked why the ones that don’t didn’t and many just thought it wasn’t a possibility for them. Either they thought that they wouldn’t be anyone other than a black man’s cup of tea or they were just “mmm black man!!”. So, to all intelligent respectful hot guys, if you see a beautiful black woman on your travels, feel free to smile at her. Maybe even flirt with her. You never know, she might just smile right back
xx
Comment by salsera77 on 6 April 2009:
Jussee: Beautiful post! As you know some people post just to stir things up and just to ego trip. Though they refuse to hear your words maybe a seed will be planted.
…maybe.
Homesteader: I already talked about free speech for all. All you did was repeat what I said only to use it in favor of yourself and Bmr. So now you have a double standard.
You’re the one who initiated the put downs with me on this and another blog not the other way around
so this makes YOU and Bmr the same in identity.
Initially I put an addendum to Glock’s post where I wanted to try to balance out a point he made about black society. I talked about the crappy black men (referring to crime) bringing down the reputations of the good black men which is not fair. This was important to me and nothing to do with YOU, Homesteader. Then I said people are going to date whomever they want to date anyway.
If this bothers you, go tend to the wife YOU SAY you have or go to another blog.
You don’t remember what you wrote before, you say?
I wrote it out for you and still you don’t remember.
That means it’s time for you to see a doctor and/or take up a hobby. I’m serious. If you’re disabled, there are better ways to occupy your mind than to be spiteful to people. You like people and the computer, do you? Take a digital art class.
Take other online classes.
However, If you are disrespectful to people, don’t
expect them to tolerate that.
God knows there was another person on Afrorom you had words with that didn’t tolerate you.
I usually respect my elders but from now on with whatever you say, I’ll consider the source and laugh …OR do what I usually do……
skip it.
Bmr, Lololololololol, That’s funny. My nationality? Believe what you want..
I don’t care.
What you really need to concern yourself with is the following:
Click on the two below:
http://www.tangle.com/view_video.php?viewkey=dfd8fde4cec5bddc9184
and
http://www.tangle.com/view_video.php?viewkey=7e18e50b58eb7e0c6ccb
Comment by salsera77 on 6 April 2009:
Oh and..
Put the sound on when you click on those videos.
Comment by BlackManRising on 6 April 2009:
Sorry…i don’t click on suspicious links by people I don’t know…maybe you can shoot that to somebody else.
And hey, don’t get made at me you lack melanin…ain’t my fault, LOL.
Comment by Salsassin on 6 April 2009:
Get “made” at you? you? Que pendejo. So homesteader is senile. What is your excuse?
Comment by salsera77 on 6 April 2009:
That’s right, Salsassin.
and “ain’t” isn’t a word.
Go get an education, Bmr.
Melanin? Who cares?
Like I said.
Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.
Yuckkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk!
Comment by oh good greif!!!! on 6 April 2009:
wow this so became another monster. you know what would make this site better is if you can vote to boot someone from a conversation and for them to be forever blocked from it. Now im a firm believer in freedom of speech but this is a forum for educated people who are interested in meeting someone of a different race. somehow this conversation got highjacked into something perverse. You can say what you want but your on the wrong site for soapbox preaching. I joined this site to talk with like minded individuals not someone who joined to throw a wrench in our work. I vote all haters off. Take your freedom of speech to someone who cares what you say. salsera77 theirs a hottie in the house if i wasnt in a relationship i would be knocking on your door:)
Comment by BlackManRising on 7 April 2009:
Que pendejo…yo quiero taco bell…taco and beans and burritos to you too…Jose.
“Ewwwww” and “yuck”…you obviously are in high school…I mean, that is like, so lame “dude”…LOL.
And if “ain’t” isn’t a word, why is it in the dictionary? LOL…Salsera you are another pendejo.
And just to let you “scholars” know…English is a bastardized language.
Comment by homesteader on 7 April 2009:
I wish You all , the Best of Life . Birds of a Feather flock together . I see the same as the rest . The only difference being , I had only asked prermission to be heard out of Politeness to the Forum . salsera77 ; Thank you for allowing me to speak here . You THINK you are TOTALLY CORRECT when you say turn it around / yes - you have just witnessed a mirror image of what you say AND you have Repeated yourself . I shall leave you and BMR WHO OPENLY STATES THAT HE DOES NOT WANT A BLACK WOMAN HERE [ HE SPEAKS SPANISH - WOW ] Enjoy him as he is at a Date Ting site admitting that he does not seek a woman , alas speaks alot about his Gay thoughts repeatedly . Court T.V. IS EXACTLY what I had refered to as to Creditability . Yes you and your friends can have this Blog as I see similiar mindsets here / by all of you . Enjoy . Senile ; My right to life . I Earned it . Saw my Doctors / for annual testing . They informed Me that for the Shape I was in that I was in Good shape . Improved from last years tests .
Comment by sexymami1 on 7 April 2009:
It’s getting hot in here!!!!!!!!!!!! But anywayz I noticed this site is suppose to be a interracial site but never have I once heard anyone mention other than black and white. Black and white couples are not the only races out there as far as relationship wise. I am a african american female and who have been happily married to a mexican man for a longtime now and we have 2 beautiful children together. White and black couples are not the only thing existing and whats hot. Every person have a right to choose who they want to be with. A person should not get labled because they choose to be with a person in another race. Change is a good thing. But unfortunately you got some people that stay stuck in there selfish and ignorant old time ways. I happened to be a bi racial female who’s mother is black and dad is puerto rican. To the angry men above who is crushing his black sisters because they want different. Thats f***ed up. You should be supporting ya sisters and wanting the bw to be happy. Does that make my mother a bad person because she chose to have me by a puerto rican verses a black man? Or does that make me a bad person because i choose Latino men? I see black and white men that are attractive all the time but i choose to stay with my latino papi. Blackmanrising you need prayer. I love my husband and we keep latino pride on the ups. LOL
Comment by jimbo on 7 April 2009:
” heard anyone mention other than black and white. Black and white couples are not the only races out there ” What does that show ppl, throw all the hate ( and there’s alot of HATE ), there’s still that LOVE there for one another!!! That can only be a good thing, and I was talking about white and black ppl. thats my 44 cents lol………
Comment by sexymami1 on 7 April 2009:
Try looking up info on interracial dating. It doesn’t just pertain to black and white couples
Comment by jimbo on 7 April 2009:
No but there are black and white ppl that have love for one another, there can’t be any bad in that and if you see any then thats your hate. That goes to anyone. And just cause I love black women does’t mean I love white women anyless. Thats so ppl’s way of thinking.
Comment by sexymami1 on 7 April 2009:
I never said it’s bad. I am just saying that all I am seeing in the blog is some of the debates reguarding blacks and whites from the idiot above. I am saying there are other couples as well that don’t fall in the black and white category that needs to be recognized as well because all across the country there are other races mixing as well.
Comment by salsera77 on 7 April 2009:
Bmr, No, it’s not high schoolish.
It’s a justified gut reaction to a repulsion, You.
But You do NEED high school.
Obviously you didn’t graduate.
You are a nasty person, Bmr / Buckwheat,
to use that kind of language.
So I’ll just say what
I wasn’t going to say before….You won’t post a picture
because you’re a short, fat, balding, Buckwheat.
It’s one of the many reason’s you’re so angry at black women.
It’s very difficult for you to get one.
As you can see, ANYTHING you write
holds no credence with anyone.
You have built up nothing but a foolish reputation here
and I’m glad I haven’t read most of your rubbish.
Whatever other moaning and whining you do,
I’ll consider the source and
just SKIP OVER it altogether.
Oh and don’t bother to post a picture now,
no one will believe it’s you unless it’s a TROLL.
Oh,…it’s the doorbell, my Arian, Anglo-Saxon,
Caucasian, Beefcake, Lover, said he would come over tonight.
Try not to loose any sleep over it!
Comment by salsera77 on 7 April 2009:
To Oh Good Grief:
Thank You for the sweet compliment.
I couldn’t post this with the above.
Comment by jussee on 18 April 2009:
Salsera77….
Thanx…
Comment by jussee on 18 April 2009:
To Sexymami1….
Feel free to talk about any race you like its just at the moment the subject was pretty much base on black and white couples.I myself dated a spanish guy from quatemala for 3 years.And he was a very,very nice guy
even though he had issues about his friends being around me.That was his hang up that he brought into the relationship.I”ve learn that some not all spanish guys are very jealous.We depart on good grounds,But we have not seen each in over 12 years but a friendship still remains.I also want to say that I have a daughter by a mexican.So really its what ever the comment is base on.Hopefully we can get back on the interracial “LOVE” that we have for each other…
Comment by missthing88 on 20 April 2009:
Black women need to realise that we are beautiful, we don’t have to put up with being disrespect and degraded, there are plenty of good men out there who come in many different colours, shapes and sizes. We just need to look past the initial “oh he’s green what will my family/friends say,” If they truly love you it shouldn’t matter.
Comment by rose_thorne on 4 May 2009:
“Blakmanrising, you’re more ignorant than I gave you credit for. If ever there were a reason for black women to date outside their race, you’re it!” So true…
After reading a few of his post, I came to the conclusion that he is a certifiable mental health case. Without a doubt has personality disorder.
Comment by TOYOTACAMRY on 4 May 2009:
the ugliest black woman is 300% better looking than the ugliest white woman. At least they have titties and ass
Comment by Calla_Llla on 23 May 2009:
I ill date a man because he’s kind and considerate and compassionate and treats me well. The truth of the matter is there are different types of people wrapped in diferent skin tones. I find that Black men are less accepting of blacks of other races and have this rigid, pre-conceived notion of what it means to be black. I once had a man I thought was in love with me (a black man) call me an Oreo. I like what I like (back to my first statement). It has nothing to do with color. All I want is a man who will love me and receive the love I give.
Comment by Girlstar7 on 31 May 2009:
Black women have probably always glanced at other
men of other colors. But the thing in the black
community is that a black women must uphold the
family even if her man is going other places to
find love. I found myself to the point at this
late stage in my life, to say I don’t give a
blank what anyone thinks about my personal
choice.I realize taking this interrace thing
very serious, simply to finding joy and love
and really good treatment. If black men can
date outside than why can’t I?.I am not betraying
my people no more than the sterotype that he is too.
I like what I like period!!!
Comment by Girlstar7 on 31 May 2009:
To Briteyes227: I was just like you, worried about
my loyalty to the black community and the stares
and talk when you leave the room.I too am a newbie
to the interrace thing like yourself..lol. But?
seriously I prefer good treatment and respect.If
a black man is not going to do that, than I am
to find love, respect and consistencty from a
child of God, regardless of his color. I want
something new and good for me this time around.
I love, love. God Blessings on your search for
love..
Comment by Girlstar7 on 31 May 2009:
To Toyotacamry: OMG! your comment is so very funny.
That is crazy!. Do you really believe that? woww!
I think a good white man who’s a cutie pie and God fearing is better than the finest black man in my case, who can treat a black women like crap and are
together for the soul purpose because they are of the same race.Every body black probably should not
be together for the sake of the same racial type
if it’s going to be a bad joke and bad treatment.
And on that note, everybody white applys to the same thing. Love is colorless if it comes from God.
Love, is love plain and simple…
Comment by susie1011 on 8 July 2009:
I believe that when people stop worrying about what other people think about interracial dating then they will be a lot happier. You need to be fearless and stand up for what you want and desire. I think a lot of time is spent overanalysing situations; concepts and history. Enough with the history; psychology and sociology books, which were designed just to stir up debate and create categories–stand up for yourself and the person you fall in love with irrespective of race. It s outrageous that in this day and age people are still scared to date whoever they are attracted to because of their fear. Tragic.
On a personal level, I have dated the most gorgeous sweetest kindest intelligent men who have been white.Dating white men is a personal choice–i have always fancied white boys since my first crush at 7. They have always fancied me too–i got chatted up by white men more times than i had ever been chatted up by black men.Some of you females from the states will go on about skin tone but i am not light skinned and neither do i wear a weave. If your interested then make eye contact, when a man smiles at you smile back! The same rules apply. Where an earth do black women get the idea a white man is a walkover?If you want to date interracially just because all the black men you ve dated have cheated on you then your doing it for the wrong reason, because white men cheat too!
I fancy white men-end of! I do not need to explain myself to anybody or anything. Besides, if you all are scared what on earth are you doing on an interracial dating site! Lose your hang ups; fears; despairs; prejudices and focus on learning to love; to meet that person that you will and can love without shame!
Comment by Balance38 on 9 July 2009:
White men who share the thought process as” Mossimo “are not the type of white men that black women should even consider to date or have a lasting relationship with.As in dating anyone despite his/her race you should always consider their agenda/motive. Mossimo wording clearly indicates that although he may be attractive to black women, his emotional avaiblity is limited in having a postive(healthy) relationship with one.In fact,he would only damage their self-esteem.White men such as “Glock” are emotional avaiblable for black women.I suggested that “Mossimo” read research material, and he can start with the white author”Adam White” and become more “knowledgeable” which indicates his lack cultural diverse, but do indicate his bias and ignorance to society as a whole. For the sister who are intrested in dating white men please……. read Adam White book “The Interracial Dating Book For Black Women Who Want To Date White Men.” He also wrote a book for White Men who are Intrested in dating black women.There are alot of proproganda out there but if you want to base things on facts…. READ, AND RESEARCH….. Have a postive week…………
Comment by dsims on 13 July 2009:
I am a black woman who has dated men who were black, white, asian and etc. My first boyfirend was white and very handsome. I have never dealt with any harrassment other than a very, very, very FEW funny looks from black men (one who was with a white woman) and one elderly white woman. if you can call a glance harrassment which i dont. this is 2009 people its a new day and it’s okay so relax!
Interracial dating is not rocket science: Either two people like each other or they dont. I just want a good guy who will treat me right, regardless of race. And I am not afriad to hug an asian man or kiss a white boy in public or hold hands etc.
I have a bone to pick with SOME of you fellas though:
For those of you living in the USA it is bad enough that african american women have put up with so much negative stero types like we only want black men, thugs, or we’re all bitter, damaged phyco baby mamas etc. It is NOT encouraging to now be compared to black women from other countries and being told I am not as open minded as them because i’m an american. PLZZZZ; I seriously doubt you fellas talked to every black woman in america and that is simply not a true statement. Plus that’s like saying “OH i love black women but not american ones because they have too many issues” what am I now a second class black woman?
I live in OC and every 9 out of 10 black women i see here is with a white, asian, or hispanic man. I am not kidding interracial couples are big here, and black women in american ARE dating out side their race. just because it not TELEVISED in the media, and some black women claim black man only doesnt mean ALL OR MAJORITY feel the same way. So stop saying that. We are not ALL closed minded damaged women. We’re good people who like to laugh and enjoy ourselves just like any other person.
Bottom line is if you find us attractive, dont allow that lie to keep you from approaching us. so the next time that thought comes into your head, ignore it and go talk to that sista who smiled at you from across the room. Chances are, SHE LIKES YOU and WANTS TO TALK TO YOU
I know that CA is more liberal than some other states but that is what i see going on around me.
Comment by icis445 on 21 July 2009:
First of all i would like to say i can appreciate everyone’s honesty while reading the posted comments. I too am an african american woman and consider myself blessed and lucky to be born the way that i am. By no means does race or any other superficial aspect determine my love for another human being. And although i don’t prefer to date black men the majority of the time its not because i have a predjudice or unrealistic stereotype toward them. Although it may sound a little cleche “WE WERE ALL CREATED EQUAL” And American would be alot better off if they start realizing it. Racism is so ridiculous it doesnt deserve all the attention it recieves. To all the black women out there scared to date outside their race. “Who gives a d** what society or other blacks feel is accepted. Look what the hell others do. And as for men “BLACK OR WHITE” who this subject makes you uncomfortable get over it and dont expect to control everything. I am a beautiful, confident,intelligent individual inside and out. Oh and i just so happen to be black. I have no problem finding men outside my race who are interested. Take this on for size maybe your close-minded views block true love. “All black women are ignorant,trashy, money hungry, insecure” PLEASE!
Comment by icis445 on 21 July 2009:
I would like to agree with the individuals who stated that “Im sure these people havent met all the Black in America”. All black women dont have an insecurity or identity problem. I have been raised in a two parent home and grew up very educated. I do agree there are alot of uneducated people of all races, Blacks having one highest percentages. But one cannot assume that “ALL” people of that race fit any stereotype. I can proudly say that i love my skin and my rich culture. I take pride in my heritage as well as education and great family. I’m not coming down on anyone for their opinion to which their entitled. I just want to make it clear their are positive,beautiful, intelligent, open-minded black women out their. So dont be shy. You might run into me!! DONT JUDGE PEOPLE BASED ON SKIN ALONE THIS IS 2009 NOT 1904 CHILL!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Comment by cara on 22 July 2009:
To much race issues in America in Europe men will be all over a beautiful black women.Most white American men are cowards and influence by their family and society .I prefer white European men i like a man from Germany and he likes me too i am happy.
Comment by Shotgun007 on 22 July 2009:
Off the subject…can we all agree that “GLOCK” is the sexiest man alive!!..
But seriously speaking and I realize this topic is dead and over, since it started back in March 2009.
Part of this whole issue goes back to “mutual connections”..which are colorblind. The reality though, is that in a lot fo cases, racial background does have an impact on who we “selectively” choose to date.
Final note,.. I am actually glad to see more black females date outside their race, no one should limit their possibilities.
Shotgun007
Comment by jsjm on 27 July 2009:
To each is it’s own..
I am certainly not reluctant to date a white man.. I love white guys!
but it doesn’t make me or anyone else less their own race because they prefer to date outside their race…
All that matters to me is when and if I date you how much respect, honesty, and love will I receive from my relationships.
What others think or say is not my concern, I will not be romantically involve with them. so screw them lol
Comment by Darling2 on 2 August 2009:
Oh My God…Excuse me for that.What is this post all about? Men and women should date whatever race they feel comfortable with.I know so many African girls married to Asians,Middle east guys,whites and blacks.Many are happy to marry Black men and will not go beyond that.Others love white men and some are either happy in their marriages others unhappy.Those who are happy with Asians sure lets be it.I would only say that a man is man not matter what colour they are absolutely all the same.Most would cheat behind their women back.So what?
Comment by Inez01 on 9 October 2009:
I agree with an earlier post about black women not being sure if their interests will be reciprocated. I’ve had crushes on men of other races for years growing up but was always afraid and told in one way or another that they wouldn’t like me because I was black. After dating nothing but black men, I figured it was time for me to indulge in my curiosity finally. I’m hoping for good luck on this site, becasue goodness knows I could use some…lol.
Comment by swiggie58 on 5 November 2009:
I am a middle-aged white guy who absolutely adores black women. I think that they/you ladies are absolutely the sexiest things on earth; much of which stems from a level of emotional and intellectual honesty that a majority of white women just do not seem to possess. But I grew up up in the South; still living here with a lot of communal and family ties; and I know that a majority of these people do no accept interracial dating. These are decent people. They would never be rude to your face or seek to hurt you in any way…But there would be a social backlash. You’d be shunned socially and and talked about “after you left the room”, as one young lady put it. I’ve struggled with this for a while; as I have come, over the past few years, to realize that with very vew exceptions…black women are the ONLY women that I am seriously attracted to. I have seriously considered, once my children are a bit older (don’t want to uproot them just now) just moving to another part of the country, or maybe the World…where things are more relaxed and open. (I have other reasons besides women to desire relocating.) But you have to consider family as well. Both of my parents are over 80; and frequently need some help. The thought of moving away just now seems terribly selfish on my part. Just wanted to see what some of ya’ll have to say about this.
Comment by swiggie58 on 5 November 2009:
Oh yeah! To girl6diva, I gotta say: You’re right! Brainy girls DO rule!!!
Question to some of you ladies. Why did/would you hide your profile?
If it is hidden; why have it up at all?
Last…one guy accused another of being a “coward” for not posting a photo. I personally haven’t had a photo up because I lacked the tech know how; and wasn’t in a hurry to meet anyone, anyway. Just looking around; enjoying the scenery….thinking things over. In MY case at least, cowardice has nothing to do with it. I’m about ready to start dating again though; so getting a pic up is approaching priority status.
Comment by rai on 14 November 2009:
ive read alot of this and this is my opinon which is actually rather simple.
For interacial couples if you think your doing something wrong people will most likely lookat you as if your doing something wrong, and for black single women. Lets not lie to ourselves we all have a tude’ (attitude) which for some only comes out once in a while, the point is white men or any other race probably have the idea that if they adress us we’re going to give them the tude’ and reject them. im young and im not even in my twenties yet and i know this, and X i understand where your coming from but it isnt right to punish people for something their ancestors have done
Comment by shotgun007 on 15 November 2009:
Not sure what region you live in rai, but I’m also a black female, born and raised in TN. I don’t have this “stereotypical attitude” that the Mass Media, some black men, and others tend to label black women with.
Maybe it was how I was raised, I don’t know.