My pal divorced her husband and left her kids to try ‘something new’ - dating black men. Much as I am pro-interracial dating, I kind of got pissed at her. Why would she do such a thing? Why doesn’t she want anything to do with her kids?
Is it ok to act on your mid-life crisis, pack up and just follow your heart? Am I the one who is selfish here or is she?
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Comment by whitehope23 on 12 March 2008:
thats just crazy, it really shows that she is very confused and that she wasnt a very good person or mother. How can somebody turn there back on there kids, the other guy should just remember she did it once she might do it to him being a new experiance she might find a mandigo
Comment by sweetb43 on 12 March 2008:
it is very sad when a mother or a dad abandon there kids . some is deeply disturbe about this woman mabey she did not experience true love from her mother or dad . mabey she too have been abandon as a child or cannot deal with life a husband or kids and always run away from life problem finding her next fix in another person . she done her kids great favor because who knows they mabey just raise up as confuse as her which is sad . if were her husband i will go to court to take her parental rights away . people who abandon there kids nothing good come of them. and for the men that will walk in her life they too will have to deal with her nightmares.
Comment by lovinlife7 on 12 March 2008:
I could not believe what I read. As a woman, there is no man that would cause me to leave my children, if I had any. It is crazy that she would see that dating a man would be a choice between him and her children. The man himself should be ashamed for dating a woman who could do this to her children. If she could leave her own children I don’t know what he expects from her. Wow, the poor kids and her husband. I will say a prayer for them. Seems as though they maybe better off without her in their lives.
Comment by kimelodi on 12 March 2008:
What mother would leave her kids for any reason, much less to try something new with dating. I personally think that it’s an extremely stupid and selfish act on her part. I pray that the kids are not emotionally damaged as a result of her ignorant and unexcusable actions. I personally think that the excuse of leaving her kids to date black men is a lie and a cover up for her real motive. No decent person would ask you to leave your kids for them, if they did, you need to show them the door and lose their number.
Comment by outpass35 on 12 March 2008:
I could never leave my kids for any reason she was just thinking of herself any man I date I let them know up front I have 3 sons and we are a package deal and so is his kids because if he turn his back on this kids I could not be with him and that wa stupid what she did those kids will be there when her relationship goes south and that what she needs to think about and any man who would let a woman run out on her kids the is not a man at all that is sick.
Comment by the1tobe on 12 March 2008:
I don’t know did she leave or did her husband tell her she could not take the kids because she was leaving him for a black man or any man? There is no reason on earth to leave your children, but sometimes if you don’t know the whole story it is easy to assume she is selfish and uncaring. I find it hard to believe once hubby knew she was leaving to seek out another relationship–he was going to make it easy for her and unfortunately, sometimes the kids are used as pawns. If you are a true friend you would be discussing this with her and not use the situation as public discussion.
Comment by boerne on 12 March 2008:
My Uncle had three children with a white women, who in turn gave them up to one of my Aunts when the relationship ended because she had a new interest a white man. She didn”t want my cousins and neither did that new man. The three children all turned out very well and are professionals. The white man not too much later left their mother with his child. Who can say why people do what they do. We all should keep the children in our prayers.
Comment by rissa62 on 12 March 2008:
This is a very sad and unfortunate circumstance. However, I, too, agree with “the1tobe”. This is an improper forum to discuss your “friend’s” situation. Nonetheless, I’m confident there is much more to this story. However, no matter what, the children will remain in my daily prayers as they are the true victims here. And, if you are a true “friend”, you would help them through this horrific situation.
Comment by nandi on 12 March 2008:
Personally, It shouldn’t matter what race the guy was that she left her children behind for….Don’t get that part..However, whose to say she was a good mother and perhaps the children are better off with out her?
Perhaps she had her reasons? Whose to really say that this “black man” was the deciding factor to leaving her children behind…
Comment by WalrusOfLove on 12 March 2008:
Give Me Strength…..I agree with alot of the posts before this one….but come on does it matter the this guy is black?…..No…..whats matters is that she has left her flesh & blood for someone who cannot have much respect for himself let alone this women if he has agreed with her to do this…please…feel free to disagree :0)
Comment by Sxybrwnsuga on 12 March 2008:
Does it really matter that the man was black? I mean would people respond differently if he was white???????
Comment by nandi on 12 March 2008:
Personally, no one knows whether or not she left her children for this man…I sure her “girlfriend” doesn’t knows all the working of this woman’s relationship with her spouse…There our a whole of folks that are single parents because of an ineffective one…No one knows why, not even the friend that posted this blog..
I give this woman the benefit of the doubt, since we haven’t heard her side of the story….I wish we had more people who knew their limitations as a parent and atleast give their children to someone capable of being a parent…
That would atleast solve the nation’s problem of foster care and abused children.
Comment by deeann on 12 March 2008:
Those who post those type of articles wish for the worst to come out in people. And, it usually is a negative toward a bw or bm. AfroRomance you should stop this type of posting.
Comment by no name no blame on 12 March 2008:
Those who post those type of articles wish for the worst to come out in people. And, it usually is a negative toward a bw or bm. AfroRomance you should stop this type of posting.
Comment by no name no blame on 12 March 2008:
Those who post those type of articles wish for the worst to come out in people. And, it usually is a negative toward a bw or bm.
Comment by girlsixdiva on 12 March 2008:
What a dumb broad!
Comment by mysticman58 on 13 March 2008:
It shouldnt matter what color the guy is .What matters is she left her kids , look at the scars they are going to have to bare thinking there mother doesnt love them anymore .What decent guy would want a woman like this ?This lady really needs some help.
Comment by Emmce on 13 March 2008:
It should not matter the color of skin. It’s unfortunate for the kids, however, men do it all the time and the women have to deal with the struggle that comes along with that.
Comment by mossimo36 on 13 March 2008:
What a sad tale! Its very unfortunate, but I am sure she is not the first to want something new. Whether its an interracial relationship or perhaps to experiment with lesbianism. Bottom line is I don’t think the racial aspect is the focus here.
Comment by nandi on 13 March 2008:
EMMCE, Exactly…My now deceased husband and I had one child and raised his son (from a previous marriage) because the mother could not deal…Both my sons are in college now, never had any problems..While the son she had with her new husband ended up in juvenile home and never graduated high school…You cannot tell me that her son raised by my husband and I was not a good ideal…
There is alot of women that are just not parent material and best to know ones limitations in life…
We just never know what the real reasons and or issues was…
I applaud her husband for stepping up and if this was the best decision and more beneficial for the children…I can respect that in her.
Comment by graduate2be on 13 March 2008:
This isn’t, or it shouldn’t be, about your friend dating a black man. This is about your friend being very selfish and immature. She left her children and walked away from her marriage. I hope that the children don’t grow up bitter for their mothers sake. There will be a day when she will need them and I hope that they will be more kind, loving, charitable and giving that she has shown herself to be.
Comment by 1apollo1 on 13 March 2008:
I don’t buy it. It smacks of racism. I think it was posted, just to get comments. Not saying this does not happen, if college kids are slaughtered in a lecture hall, anything is possible. But some of these “articles” sound made up, like old Penthouse Forum letters
Comment by HereIamBaby on 14 March 2008:
It doesn’t matter what color men she was dating…but it did matter that she left her children…if it is a true story, we are still only getting part of the story.
There are so many reasons why people act the way they do.
And what goes on behind closed doors is not what we see.
I could never throw the first stone…could you????
Southern sm,iles and world peace,
Sharon
Comment by Earat8d on 14 March 2008:
This couple made the wrong decision on so many levels. It doesn’t have anything to do with race, gender or a mid-life crisis for that matter. The whole situation could have been handled differently, if indeed things really went down as presented in this article.
Comment by traceeeee on 14 March 2008:
who can say what the circumstances were im sure she had her reasons to do such a thing, me myself as well give her the benefit of the doubt and would think her side of the story would be different maybe she depressed and this was her only way out im sure she cant sleep thinking of what she done i dont think it was because of this guy regardless of the race i hope she works things out and gets in contact with her children i wish her all the luck and me to will pray she finds her way in life we all make mistakes and pay the price
Comment by tigerlilies on 14 March 2008:
Anyone who leaves their children for sex is selfish. Kids are forever boy/girl friends come and go.
Comment by kenyanito on 14 March 2008:
It doesn’t matter whatever race this lady left her children for if she did do that!What her friend needs to know is what problems was she going thro…thats what true friends do not vilify
Comment by kenyanito on 14 March 2008:
What her friend needs to know is what problems this lady’s suffering from or was she going thro…thats what true friends do not vilify
Comment by sweeteyes on 14 March 2008:
It is one thing to fall out of love and “try out something new” but another thing to leave your kids behind. Being a mother myself, I cannot understand how you can do that to your children. I personally don’t think that she left the kids because of trying out with a black man, there must diferent reasons for that. Having had a difficult childhood myself, I can only pray that she will realize what she’s doing and come to her senses before her kids suffer from being rejected their whole life.
Comment by Sepla on 14 March 2008:
Maybe she felt as most men do when they leave their wives. I’ve already given my life to this man and these children, now I need to start taking care of myself while being selfish once in my life.
If you are a friend of hers, let her know that you disagree with her actions, but don’t judge her. She is your friend, not your wife. She didn’t betray you. Your job as, HER FRIEND, is to be there for her when she needs you.
Comment by iyke79 on 14 March 2008:
this crazy. more harm will come upon the man that accepts this woman…….cos the woman is already cursed. what is the world turning into………….this is sick
Comment by Darkalicious on 14 March 2008:
First of all it’s not the man’s fault that she left her children, it’s a decision she made. It doesn’t matter what color the man is, a mother is either a good mother or a bad mother, she wants to be a mother or she doesn’t want to be one. This woman made this choice and she’s not the only woman that has done this black or white. I noticed that a lot of women don’t take motherhood as serious as they should and they put their children last.
I am 52 years old and my mother had 6 children and she did the same thing except there was no husband just my grandmother and me. My mother has never been a real mother to any of her children, in fact every other child she gave up or tried to give away. Me being the oldest I was left to take care of her children when she left home believe me everytime she came back she had a baby and then she dumped that one on me to care for. I don’t know the whole story but I can say from my life that the children are blessed that they have a father to care for them and to hell with her. One day she will be just like my mother, a woman that sacrificed her own children for the man she has now who by the way she use to babysit his children. My siblings don’t have any kind of relationship with her and are always telling me how she tried them after I got married and left home. I became a good mother to my 3 children because I don’t want my children to ever say that I didn’t want them or left them for a man. Would you believe she once tried to tell me how to do with my children when she has never raised any of hers. you just pray for your friend and be there for the children and one day they will love you more than their mother and always respect you. she isn’t fit to be a mother and neither was mine, they are worser than a dog that has a litter because at least a dog cares for it’s pups. They are better off without her and one day she will have to face that she was not there for them and don’t look for them to be there for her like they will be for their father. God was with me and my siblings because we were exposed to all kinds of men and could have been raped or even killed. “LEAVE HER ALONE AND SHE WHAT HAPPENS WHEN SHE IS LEFT BY HERSELF BECAUSE IT WILL HAPPEN”.
Comment by lovey on 14 March 2008:
Well it’s said, “Once you go Black…” However in this case it seems the friend is not really a friend. To be putting her friends problems out in an open forum for discussion and ridicule is just not right.
None of us know the true situation. I just hope that at some point the woman starts to realize how important it is to rear her OWN children. Many of todays youths are damaged simply because their parents either neglected them or discarded them. I am sure at some point this woman will mend her relationship with her children. I pray for the children. We ALL need to stop being so judgemental and hope for the best.
Lovey
Comment by lovey on 14 March 2008:
Oh, and another thing, why is it always a Black male who is depicted in some negativity? White men can do/be a part of some disgusting situations, they leave their children, they do not pay child support. No one has a monopoly on being a jerk! There is room for everyone. Why do white men feel so threatened/inferior, or in some cases superior to Black men? I would really like to know? Why is there always some unspoken tension between white women and black woman? Why can’t we all just get along and be sincere?
Lovey
Comment by fala on 14 March 2008:
I think there was more going on with this woman. She wasn’t happy with her family and she used black men as an excuse to get out of it.
Comment by stx2008 on 14 March 2008:
Now c’mon - all she was doing was following her heart. Her kids will be fine - kids are very resilient and bounce back remarkably well - similar to Charmin tissue paper.
I say horray for her!
Comment by hackshaw on 15 March 2008:
Forget about the person’s color-any woman especially that leaves a kid behind is truly repulsive…
Comment by BCM062 on 15 March 2008:
I have been doing work as a paralegal for the past 16 years dealing in family law. I’ve found that there are a lots of reason a woman leave her chid or children behind. Sometimes the relationship (marriage or dating) is in peril for the mother and the best recourse is to leave the children until you are safe or, financialy able to provide for them.
Comment by misslady1970 on 15 March 2008:
A woman should never choose anyone over her children,i don’t care what color the man/person is…all i know once i read the story it sadden me..deep down .Them poor children will now wonder where she is,and ask themselves why she left.She has alot to deal with ….
Comment by Emmce on 15 March 2008:
Hackshaw…I guess it is fair to say based upon your observation of the situation that men who leave their children are repulsive then!
As a woman and mother, and having known other women and mothers, I have come to the conclusion that it is not easy for a woman to leave her children, we were created as nurturers, and also having known someone who also left her kids with their dad..(she came back) I can say, THEIR IS MORE TO WHAT IS BEING SAID…we don’t know what is going on behind closed doors, we don’t know how her husband is treating her, maybe she is depressed, however, WHATEVER it is, it is allot for her to handle and that is probably WHY she left.
We still don’t know her side of the story, so bloggers…DON”T JUDGE HER UNLESS YOU HAVE WALKED IN HER SHOES; and best-friend GIVE US THE FULL STORY!!!
Comment by Vanillaforme on 15 March 2008:
Now in the Animal kingdom, this would not be an issue. As Human Beings we want to hold ourselves to a higher and clearer standard of living. In this great big world interracial relationships are fast becoming the normal and accepted part of culture. But leaving your husband (or wife) for another partner in this fashion; has to put a damper on faith. Sometimes the only thing you need to do is think - if that was me doing it or on the other end of it. We all have choices; the children did not ask to be here, so if you had them deal with it!!! Unless your are getting abused. But if she left her husband for another man - then 5 years later she would likely cheat again. Trust is not about only into sight, but for 24 hours a day wherever you are…
Comment by Brazilian2 on 15 March 2008:
I am not trying to be rude or trying to offend anyone here when I say this . . . .
But something doesn’t sound so clear in this story . . as a friend your telling yout outside view of the story and its sounds half ass no offense .
There could have been more than one reason why a person . . .male or female . . leaves a family behind .
you don’t know if her husband is keeping them from her or not .
or if there was a situation that happened that was unstable at that time .
There could be many cases I am just naming a few . Its sad to think that as her friend you are so busy judging her instead of helping her . Your anger can be put to the side .
A friend would help her see where a mistake was made . especially with her children and you would find a way to comfort and help her children .
I do go by the old saying . you have to want to help yourself in order for someone to help you . . . but sometimes people have been crying for help and attention and it has been ignored and when a big bang happens your shocked and upset by the actions that were taken . . .
It might have been a long stretch of hardship .
I would rather hear the whole story then what your short version of non truth is . NO offense .
Comment by Cloe27 on 15 March 2008:
Frankly, the race of the man she left her family for isn’t relevant. If the guy were purple the fact that remains is that she decided that she no longer wanted to be married. Hopefully, you’re mistaken and she didn’t leave her children behind. Perhaps its for the best that they stay with their father right now.
Comment by jade74 on 15 March 2008:
Very good point you made The1tobe..there is more to it sometimes when mothers leave the husband and children.Some just leave,are threaten not to take the children.There’s more to it when a mother walks out on the children.Race have nothing to do with it.
Comment by tigerlilies on 16 March 2008:
Emmce, Brazilian2, 1Apollo1, the1tobe, rissa62 all thought the same thing I did… how odd.
This article just really seems made up or in the least, full of holes. If you were telling the whole story, it might be more believable.
I think it’s messed up to a certain degree to allow someone who’s a blogger, but acting in the capacity as a ‘journalist’, to ‘report’ half-truths and lies. Shouldn’t bloggers be held to the same standards as any other reporter?
What happened to the days of when there was integrity and truth in journalism??
Comment by outpass35 on 16 March 2008:
You know what tigerlilies it is not a care it the world to what is printed these days people print things without a care in the world to what arguement it cause or the conflict it stir up. And that is so wrong.
Comment by Rob1962 on 16 March 2008:
The fact that the original peron that posted this put black into this equation makes this topic suspect. The idea of a woman leaving her husband for another man regardless of color is sad to say the least. However, there must be more to the story. They probably had troubles within the marriage before she entered into the new relationship. Loving mothers do not just leave there children behind!
Comment by Mantronix on 16 March 2008:
Some very confused people out there, not a good sign for a black person. To run to a white partner knowing she has black children, very sad not the first time this has happened.
There has to be a reason other than selfishness, and complete un-wllingness to solve the relationship. Seen to many mixed relationship break up the children suffer, more than most people rearlise there must be a good reason for this?
Comment by pdask on 17 March 2008:
Hi everybody
W e will never know why people do what they do,i have a workmate who had a girl who left her children with him and of she went,i don’t think anyone will get a reasonable answer if you asked her ,i’m living alone i know my kids are safe with their mother but i could never abandon them.
But if you search for peoples motives ,where shal we begin,how can people be so cruel to their children,not just abandon them but a lot of other evil stuff we all read the papers,this is going nowhere,just to participate,and show that i feel as you
pdask
Comment by pdask on 17 March 2008:
Hi everybody
We will never know why people do what they do,i have a workmate who had a girl who left her children with him and of she went,i don’t think anyone will get a reasonable answer if you asked her ,i’m living alone i know my kids are safe with their mother but i could never abandon them.
But if you search for peoples motives ,where shal we begin,how can people be so cruel to their children,not just abandon them but a lot of other evil stuff we all read the papers,this is going nowhere,just to participate,and show that i feel as you
pdask
Comment by pdask on 17 March 2008:
Hi everybody
We will never know why people do what they do,i have a workmate who had a girl who left her children with him and off she went,i don’t think anyone will get a reasonable answer if you asked her ,i’m living alone i know my kids are safe with their mother but i could never abandon them.
But if you search for peoples motives ,where shall we begin,how can people be so cruel to their children,not just to abandon them but to do a lot of other evil stuff we all read the papers,this is going nowhere,just to participate,and show that i feel as you
pdask
Comment by xtangiex on 17 March 2008:
It does not matter the color of a man! What is the problem is the fact she left her CHILDREN! Any woman that does this and the man that accepts it have many underlying issues and sounds like unfortunatly the children are better off! I left my husband (white) after 13 years because I was beyond unhappy! I took my kids with me!! Any man I find would have to accept them too they are a part of me and my blessing and responsibility in life!! Any man that can not accept them is NOT a true man!! Now I do date Black men not as a true prefrence but simply because they have an intrest in me and I have been blessing with wonderful men that have remained my friends and always respected me as a mother and were kind to my children!
Comment by leesah on 17 March 2008:
what kind of women would leave her kids. for any reason.and what kind of man would have a women that would do such a thing. I would have to think twice about him as well. if she can do something this down and dirty she’s able to do anything.and is it the fact that the man is black that the friend has a problem with, or would she feel as bad about if he were white.my child is and always will be number 1, and if a man cant handle that then he knows what he can do. this is a package deal. and although my daughter is 23 years old i still will not let a man turn me against from dhild. under no circumstances. when it’s all said and done when that man is no more who she gonna look for. those very same kids she left behind. a man come’s and go. your kids thats a part of you.
Comment by leesah on 18 March 2008:
I dont care what the situation was within the household you still do not leave your kids.if it were me my kids would have been right their with me. if i leave my kids leave with me. I cant see myself without my kids. plain and simple.
Comment by zulugoddess on 18 March 2008:
Hi everyone all the way from South Africa. Talking about my country we are still struggling away from the demons of apartheid but I thought the US was far ahead from us. The person who posted this story is the one with a big problem. For her to come onto this medium with this article and these labels clearly shows what kind of a person she is. Your friend is better off without you and I hope she realises what a stir you have caused at her expense. I don’t think you are capable of being a friend and offer support to those close to you.
Comment by leessa on 18 March 2008:
If your friend was not happy with her husband then by all means she should leave him. Does she visit with her children? If not then she is wrong and selfish. Was there a logical reason for leaving the children in the house they are used to? Can her husband give them a better life? If she has left them because they will be better off where they are and visits them on a regular basis and takes them on weekends it is no different than when a man does it. If she has totally cut the children from her life than she is being very selfish. I wonder if the responses would have been the same if it were a man who did this.
Comment by rocky99 on 18 March 2008:
I dont understand any mother who could give up
her children for a “MAN” its utterly shameful
maybe this woman has necer experienced love in her life but thats no reason….Disgraceful
Comment by party1 on 19 March 2008:
I am incapabable of judging her!!BUT, losing custody of children or walking away would be devastating . Beyond comprehension as that has been my life dream and a part of me that I could not and would not let go.
Comment by Eathan on 19 March 2008:
I don’t think it matters if the other man is black or any other color. Evidently her heart wasn’t in her relationship and there were other issues that needed to be dealt with. I’m a firm believer that children are better off in a happy situation, than to be with 2 parents who are unhappy. You don’t say if her marriage was a good one or a bad one. But it couldn’t be that good if she decided to leave. Maybe there is more than we all know.
Comment by ethereal99 on 3 April 2008:
I agree with sxybrwnsuga on this one. What’s the difference? Just a shock value question. She left her kids for another man, not a good thing. We need more info: what was her husband like? Was he an abuser? a sensational headline to make us all go GRRRRRRR!!!!!
Tigerlillies, where are you on this one?
Comment by Jarobie Anderson on 8 April 2008:
When you say left I hope you do not mean completely because the kids still need her in their life. You also got to question a man that would be down with that.
http://blacksinglesblacksingles.spaces.live.com/blog/
Comment by concerned citizen on 8 April 2008:
She has to have a low self esteem to stoop that low.I guess a white guy didnt want her either.
Well, more black women for me then.
Brother…heres a note;
please take all the white women!
Comment by fkoi on 12 April 2008:
This is one where not knowing all of the facts puts me at a disadvantage, but I’ll try not to let that interfere with expressing my opinion.
The article didn’t say that she left her family for a man, “but to try something new”. If that’s the only thing, that is one selfish woman. When you decide to have a child, it is a lifelong decision. It’s not a ballroom dancing class that you can decide to drop after a few sessions or even years.
Leaving a spouse? Well that seems to be a popular decision these days. Part of that is the cavalier attitude towards marriage and giving one’s word (those pesky vows [”a solemn promise or assertion; specifically : one by which a person is bound to an act, service, or condition.” - Merriam-Webster]) Part of it is a refusal to “work” on one’s marriage. And then people grow apart and are better off apart, even if they weren’t from the start.
Maybe the father should be the primary child rearer. At least she isn’t using the children as a weapon (or is she?). To not want to have anything to do with them is unnatural and at least a little unbalanced.
The “something new” being dating Black men is also disturbing. Making decisions based on race is racism (”Discrimination or prejudice based on race.” - American Heritage). Of course you can’t tell your heart who attracts you, but the somethings new she dates sound like experiments that she will likely abandon as easily as she has marriage, children, salsa classes and her good sense.
Comment by joeb0y519 on 15 April 2008:
thats jus wrong,has nothing 2 do with him being black but she was selfish cuz of her family should come 1st!
Comment by love4youanme on 17 April 2008:
there was only one person that made a lot of since and that was the1tobe that business is between them and most importantly God that stuff should’nt have never got put online. its easy to call her selfish this and that BUT WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE anothers actions when we don’t know what the real deal was she might of been getting her ass kick on a day to day bases who know it messed up but there are Boy I cant call them men when they put down brake down a woman self asteam and self warth its SAD
Comment by love4youanme on 17 April 2008:
there was only one person that made a lot of since and that was the1tobe that business is between them and most importantly God that stuff should’nt have never got put online. its easy to call her selfish this and that BUT WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE anothers actions when we don’t know what the real deal was she might of been getting her ass kick on a day to day bases who know it messed up but there are Boy I cant call them men when they put down brake down a woman self asteam and self warth its SAD Black white for every man woman its more then we really know
Comment by love4youanme on 17 April 2008:
there was only one person that made a lot of since and that was the1tobe that business is between them and most importantly God that stuff should’nt have never got put online. its easy to call her selfish this and that BUT WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE anothers actions when we don’t know what the real deal was she might of been getting her ass kick on a day to day bases who know it messed up but there are Boy I cant call them men when they put down brake down a woman self asteam and self warth its SAD Black white what every man woman its more then we really know
Comment by wallkaz on 21 April 2008:
It does what I have a friend who just did th esame thing.My friend still goes and see her children but it not th esame she still left them. Is she there when they have bad dreams and her and her son were close I heard her son will not even speak to his mom. We need to remember how we always saw Jesus with children.This or any women who does this no matter waht the race needs help.
Comment by Sepla on 21 April 2008:
To me, it is wrong to leave one’s children… But why is everyone putting her down about it, when men do it all the time. There doesn’t seem to be such as grand of out cry when a man leaves his children and wife. Instead, there are excuses made for him or he just needs counseling. This is ridiculous. It’s completely her decision to leave her husband and children to try to make a new life for herself, so leave her alone about it. Only she can live her life. When you walk in another person’s shoes you may understand things better from their perspective.
Women are people and we all as people make mistakes. Throwing judgments at anyone so that they can bind to our individual will doesn’t make any of us any better then the situations that certain people get themselves into. NOT one of us is better then the next. No one is perfect. WE need to look at our own lives and judge ourselves with the same strict guidelines we enforce on others.
Maybe a little more love and understand and a little less pointing of the finger will help all of us open our hearts and broaden our minds.
Thanks for reading.
Comment by wallkaz on 23 April 2008:
I am back I am a white man and I would take my friend back any day. I have told her no matter what she has done.
Comment by MikeInKorea on 25 April 2008:
A woman who leaves her children will leave a man just as easily. Big red flag on this girl.
Comment by Afro_Queen on 18 May 2008:
who cares? this is her on decision :S
Comment by reality on 15 July 2008:
Purely a hypothetical situation here….
It seems that no one has picked up on the fact that this woman, who left her children behind to pursue interracial relationships, may indeed be a racist. I have heard of this kind of person. Using “black men” for her pleasure? Not the woman that I would want in a relationship.
I wonder. Would she have taken her children with her if she was seeking a new white lover?
Comment by wallkaz on 26 July 2008:
I have and update on my friend who did this. She is back dating black men now some background she told me one day how can anybody white date a black. She went to court years ago for be a racist.She has not been near her kids in two weeks. I think your right she sounds like a racist. She calls everybody names and liars I have tried to help.her son wants nothing to do with her.
Comment by wallkaz on 26 July 2008:
To also answer the question of my friend her family out of state wants nothing to do with her. She parks her car and men pick her up. I have seen her with 15 different men in the past year. She told people this was why she got divorced so she could date black men. She has a friend that loves her and she pushes him away because he is white.
Comment by Pia65 on 2 September 2008:
I think its rather sad that this woman would walk away from her children……….Children are a beautiful expression of the love shared between spouses……But in this case they are the ultimate victims in the wreck of her marriage. Its also sad to say, but those kids may very well be scared emotionally for a long time to come.
Comment by wallkaz on 16 September 2008:
My friend is back with her husband and her kids she told everybody she was divorced but was not. Things I wrote on how I saw her kids and her husband all having a good time and the only thing that was missing was her.
Comment by Cindie on 30 September 2008:
This woman sounds mentally ill….
Comment by lala2qz on 9 December 2008:
everyone can have their opinion, but everything isnt black and white, and you dont know the entirety of this situation.
From what I can read of this; OBVIOUSLY, she wasnt happy with her husband, her decision to leave him is simply because of that. Yes, sad that she has children with him and the effect it has on them, but how right is it to say she abandoned them when you don’t really know that? This silly posting says “My pal divorced her husband and left her kids to try ‘something new’”
ANYONE, who divorces, WANTS SOMETHING NEW. cause, apparently, they dont want the one they are with and they are UNHAPPY….. Rather she be unhappy right? Rather her have affairs to be contempt maybe?
With our society, how can you really be so quick to past judgement? This posting, to me, sounds like bitter ramblings. AND why the emphasis on him being black?
I mean, I really can’t go along with this post simply stating that she wants black men, so she leaves her children. Could you elaborate in the “abandoned her children” area particularly, because you’re using it as a striking point with nothing to back it up. For all I know, she simply divorced him and he wouldnt let her have custody. Mid-life crisis? her children could be young adults. or maybe he or they, just do not approve of her with a black man. Her husband couldve made it very hard for her to see them.
I dont know the whole story, and the writer sounds uninformed and biased. sorry, im not gonna bite.
People with children divorce all of the time(and yea it sucks), but they do it because its not working, they’re sad, husband could be abusive, any number of reasons. why the need for this article? What kind of friend are you to even write this?
Comment by BlakManRising on 4 March 2009:
Something tells me if she was Black and the dude was white, there would be alot of sympathy for the woman. Seeing as how he’s Black, it’s a huge problem…typical.
Comment by Glock on 4 March 2009:
Typical of what?
Comment by homesteader on 4 March 2009:
I would have Totally no Remorse , for a Woman who would leave her child / A True Mother would not do such and so . Irresponsable comes to mind . You will Reap what you sow .
Comment by southernmoca on 18 April 2009:
Color is not the issue here. The situation has been put on this site to stir conversation. I have known women who have place the lust for a boyfriend over there children and I do not care what the circumstances are..they are not real woman in my opinion. A person to say that it is her decision to make is the pathetic excuse alot of people use for tolerating unethical and immoral things people do. pffft. When you have children you have responsibilities and if you decide to leave them, I could care less if it is for a black man or a pink goat or white chipmunk..its wrong
Comment by BrownB09 on 18 April 2009:
I think she is wrong for abandoning her kids. Whatever reason she left her husband for is her own buisness.Cmon people lets look at what’s really important she abandoned her children! That is way more important than her leaving her husband for a black man!
Comment by tonydevin on 3 May 2009:
well she done fell and bumped her head …anytime a woman leaves her kids for anyman back, white , yellow, red, green. She must have reall been hittng the pipe…………….drug aint your friend I always say
Comment by Shotgun007 on 28 July 2009:
Lots of pieces to this story aren’t being told.
Ridiculous!!
Shotgun007