How can getting married on Valentine's day be a bad idea?

Posted by Ria, 13 Feb 13

The day of love and romance is here again. And for me, it’s the day I have to attend my best friends wedding. For some reason, she seems to think that getting married on Valentine’s day will save her relationship with his cheating baby daddy with whom she has two kids and OOPS!!! Yes OOPS! Another oops!! one on the way.

When she was pregnant with her second baby, his baby daddy hooked up with this other woman, got her pregnant and gave birth 3 months after their baby was born. And you know with anger comes ditching the pill or any form of contraception because you think you are done having sex with him and then one day, a bottle of wine, rage and insults, then that kiss, then the insanely incredible angry sex and OOPS... Number 3 on the way. And being a day of love and romance, I guess my dear friend feels that for some reason, her Valentine’s day wedding will wash all that away, or maybe she will wake up from that bad dream she thinks her relationship has been.

For me her Valentine’s wedding is a super bad idea … the whole wedding is a bad idea. Apparently, over 2.2 million people get married on Valentine’s day in America and this time my pal is on that list. Much as I have my reasons against her wedding, YourTango have their own reasons for saying NAY to Valentine’s weddings.

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1. You'll have the same wedding anniversary as everyone else. Come Valentine's Day each year, millions of couples will prepare to wed or celebrate however many years they've been together. Wouldn't it be more fun to have an anniversary on some random day in August when it could be celebrated privately and without the overbearing influence of greeting card companies?

This second one is for me and the rest of us having to attend weddings.

2. If your friends get married on Valentine's Day, guess what you’ll be doing as a guest? Yep, attending the wedding. This means your plans for a boy-bashing night with your girls or a romantic dinner with your own man are totally ruined. It seems especially unfair to invite V-Day haters to your wedding on the day they dread most.

4. It's expected. No need to hype up the overly dramatic holiday more than it already is. Getting married on Valentines Day is the ultimate cliché and is sure to illicit dozens of comments and questions over the years due to the controversial nature of the hearts n' huns holiday.

Well my friend truly has defined cliché for us. And whatever she’s going for, let’s hope she gets it. And all I am hoping is that the dude is on board – as in all heart and mind – with this whole shebang and is willing to change because if that aint the case, Valentine’s day is gonna be her worst day ever… a day reminding her of a sham wedding that she should never have had!

3 responses to "How can getting married on Valentine's day be a bad idea?"

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  1.   jod212 says:
    Posted: 24 Feb 13

    Well talk about blowing the holiday for the rest of your life if the relationship ever goes south. I know many people think V-day is just a commercial holiday but holiday's are important markers throughout the year. Studies have been shown that individuals who partIcipate in holiday's and group social ocassions have better overall mental health. BTW, if the companion your with is looking for an expensive gift and you can't get that person the pricey item maybe you two are not equally matched. Tootles 8o)

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  2.   jod212 says:
    Posted: 24 Feb 13

    Well talk about blowing the holiday for the rest of your life if therelationship goes south. I know many people think V-day is just a commercial holiday but holiday's are important markers throughout the year. Studies have been shown that individuals who partIcipate in holiday's and group social ocassions have better overall mental health. BTW, if the companion your with is looking for an expensive gift and you can't

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  3.   Silverdante says:
    Posted: 19 Feb 13

    Or you can just not give a rats ass about Valentines, because it is a commercial holiday..

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