How does one become a divorced virgin?

Posted by James, 17 Sep

divorced virginI have heard of sexless marriages but I had never thought it was humanly possible to end up divorced and a virgin.

She was a virgin who kept telling every man who was interested in her that she wanted to wait. She met a guy who wanted to wait until they got married. And after two years of dating they got married. Then the wedding night came…

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So she adorned herself in some lingerie, planted herself on the bed and waited for the magic to happen. Only it didn't. Apparently, the husband had no clue whatsoever about sex so he planted himself on top of her and started kissing her gawkily. The whole thing was so forced and unromantic that she had to make him stop.

They tried for weeks, months, for years … the two amateurs failed. The dude just couldn’t stay hard enough to get inside of her. And she never got wet enough for him to. She even equated her hymen to the Great Wall of China – impenetrable. They never got to consummate their marriage. Nothing seemed to work … massage oils, lingerie, couples counseling! So they broke it off after five years of marriage. The combination of premature ejaculation and her tight-a** virgin mentality made her a divorced virgin.

After her divorce, she has had sex with men she is not married to. Was the wait really worth it?

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  1.   serenity33 says:
    Posted: 21 Sep 10

    Also, the issue with the hymen almost is non-existent nowadays. It used to be an issue before women's sports and the invention of the tampon. Most when break their own hymen by rough sports or tampons when they are younger. But for those of you who have managed to keep yours intact, do not have sex with it intact because it can lead to a bad and painful sexual experience as it breaks and bleeds and hurts from first intercourse. It is better for a married couple to have the female with the hymen go to a gynecologist and have it simply snipped and let it heal before intercourse. That is the least painful way to have it done and then it won't be a problem in the marriage relationship. That is what they used to do in the old days before rough sports and tampons if they really loved their wives. It sure hurts a lot less to have it snipped carefully with a sharp instrument and heals quicker than if ripped open during intercourse.

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    • serenity33 says:
      Posted: 18 Oct 10

      Also, the issue with the hymen almost is non-existent nowadays. It used to be an issue before women’s sports and the invention of the tampon. Most when break their own hymen by rough sports or tampons when they are younger. But for those of you who have managed to keep yours intact, do not have sex with it intact because it can lead to a bad and painful sexual experience as it breaks and bleeds and hurts from first intercourse. It is better for a married couple to have the female with the hymen go to a gynecologist and have it simply snipped and let it heal before intercourse. That is the least painful way to have it done and then it won’t be a problem in the marriage relationship. That is what they used to do in the old days before rough sports and tampons if they really loved their wives. It sure hurts a lot less to have it snipped carefully with a sharp instrument and heals quicker than if ripped open during intercourse.

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  2.   serenity33 says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 10

    Just some quick tips for someone who is like this couple which I still believe is virtually no one.;-) I don't believe in sex before marriage but I do believe in kissing a lot before marriage. Kiss for hours if you can and don't go any further because it builds self-discipline that will help guys from being premature and it will help women like this warm up. This is a good practice for couples even after they get married to help women warm up since often they take longer than men. Clothes should be on with both and his goal shouldn't be in getting off but pleasing the woman first. Keep touching above the neck so as not to provide distractions of wanting to do more. If the man is intent on pleasing the woman first, he should kiss a lot and spend a lot of time stroking her hair gently and touching her face(without poking her in the eye) and it should be all a gentle caress at all times. Women like gentle touches almost feathery in lightness along their hair, face, lips, ears, and neck. Little kisses along the face and nibbling on the ear is nice as well, lightly, and caresses on all those areas with the tip of the man's tongue to tease and tantalize is good. And things should be done slowly and lovingly with no hurry to move to any other actions. The woman will usually indicate when she wants to go further and if you as man are in tune with her body, you will sense motion on her part as she warms up and heavier breathing. But most of all, take your time and keep your clothes on. If you can keep this up until she is all warmed up and ready for further activity no matter how long this takes, then you will be doing a good job. Don't be in a hurry to rush her into sex because if she is a virgin and not use to these touches, it will take some time for her to get used to it and you need to take time to get into the rhythm of her body because every woman is different and unique. And even from one time to the next, the woman will feel differently about things and touches and that is why you, as a male, should always be in tune with their body each time. So if you can manage this, then other things will come easier but you have to acclimate to her body and she has to get used to you touching her. But this is probably all old news to 99 percent of the people out there because sexual inhibition is rarely a problem any more. Promiscuity is more the problem. But for that one percent, this can be helpful.

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    • serenity33 says:
      Posted: 18 Oct 10

      Just some quick tips for someone who is like this couple which I still believe is virtually no one.;-) I don’t believe in sex before marriage but I do believe in kissing a lot before marriage. Kiss for hours if you can and don’t go any further because it builds self-discipline that will help guys from being premature and it will help women like this warm up. This is a good practice for couples even after they get married to help women warm up since often they take longer than men. Clothes should be on with both and his goal shouldn’t be in getting off but pleasing the woman first. Keep touching above the neck so as not to provide distractions of wanting to do more. If the man is intent on pleasing the woman first, he should kiss a lot and spend a lot of time stroking her hair gently and touching her face(without poking her in the eye) and it should be all a gentle caress at all times. Women like gentle touches almost feathery in lightness along their hair, face, lips, ears, and neck. Little kisses along the face and nibbling on the ear is nice as well, lightly, and caresses on all those areas with the tip of the man’s tongue to tease and tantalize is good. And things should be done slowly and lovingly with no hurry to move to any other actions. The woman will usually indicate when she wants to go further and if you as man are in tune with her body, you will sense motion on her part as she warms up and heavier breathing. But most of all, take your time and keep your clothes on. If you can keep this up until she is all warmed up and ready for further activity no matter how long this takes, then you will be doing a good job. Don’t be in a hurry to rush her into sex because if she is a virgin and not use to these touches, it will take some time for her to get used to it and you need to take time to get into the rhythm of her body because every woman is different and unique. And even from one time to the next, the woman will feel differently about things and touches and that is why you, as a male, should always be in tune with their body each time. So if you can manage this, then other things will come easier but you have to acclimate to her body and she has to get used to you touching her. But this is probably all old news to 99 percent of the people out there because sexual inhibition is rarely a problem any more. Promiscuity is more the problem. But for that one percent, this can be helpful.

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  3.   serenity33 says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 10

    Sex a problem? That is a load of crap. Sex is the easiest thing for a marriage and if they had gone to a good marriage counselor like me, they would have consummated the marriage a long time ago. Sex is so rampant in our society, that virtually everyone knows about it and all good marriage counselors know it really well and all the intimate details to make it work for the few that don't know. Plus who says sex has to be limited to intercourse all the time. Sex involves so much more. If she had truly loved her husband and vice versa they would have stayed married and gone to a good counselor. He obviously had troubles with premature ejaculation and didn't know a thing about foreplay or pleasuring her other ways. And she obviously was frigid with him. It is always better to wait until marriage for sex because sex is supposed to be the physical expression between a couple that expresses their love, commitment and intimacy towards each other. This is such an isolated case that it is hard to believe!! I never see couples break up from sexual incompatibility unless one of them wants to get freaky and is into S and M or bondage or some sick fetish and it usually is another underlying problem that needs treatment that causes deviant sexual desires. Psychological incompatibility and selfishness is usually the major reason for divorce, not silly nonsense like this. So she turned into a ho as a counterreaction to her earlier frigidity. I can't believe couples like this exist. And I personally feel like they need to be smacked and told to grow up because they are acting like children divorcing over this and the counselors they went to should be smacked as well for not being able to handle such a routine problem that is common in marriage counseling. Where did they get their list of counselors from? A cracker jack box? Disgusting the level of counselors, and this couple. And disgusting to try and rationalize sex outside of marriage by such a flimsy case such as this. People don't need any more excuses to be promiscuous any more. They need excuses to wait until marriage because that is getting rarer and rarer for people to wait for marriage, not cases like this. What a joke.

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    • serenity33 says:
      Posted: 18 Oct 10

      Sex a problem? That is a load of crap. Sex is the easiest thing for a marriage and if they had gone to a good marriage counselor like me, they would have consummated the marriage a long time ago. Sex is so rampant in our society, that virtually everyone knows about it and all good marriage counselors know it really well and all the intimate details to make it work for the few that don’t know. Plus who says sex has to be limited to intercourse all the time. Sex involves so much more. If she had truly loved her husband and vice versa they would have stayed married and gone to a good counselor. He obviously had troubles with premature ejaculation and didn’t know a thing about foreplay or pleasuring her other ways. And she obviously was frigid with him. It is always better to wait until marriage for sex because sex is supposed to be the physical expression between a couple that expresses their love, commitment and intimacy towards each other. This is such an isolated case that it is hard to believe!! I never see couples break up from sexual incompatibility unless one of them wants to get freaky and is into S and M or bondage or some sick fetish and it usually is another underlying problem that needs treatment that causes deviant sexual desires. Psychological incompatibility and selfishness is usually the major reason for divorce, not silly nonsense like this. So she turned into a ho as a counterreaction to her earlier frigidity. I can’t believe couples like this exist. And I personally feel like they need to be smacked and told to grow up because they are acting like children divorcing over this and the counselors they went to should be smacked as well for not being able to handle such a routine problem that is common in marriage counseling. Where did they get their list of counselors from? A cracker jack box? Disgusting the level of counselors, and this couple. And disgusting to try and rationalize sex outside of marriage by such a flimsy case such as this. People don’t need any more excuses to be promiscuous any more. They need excuses to wait until marriage because that is getting rarer and rarer for people to wait for marriage, not cases like this. What a joke.

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