Interracial dating stories #2
Part #2 everyone ;)
The history of slavery and segregation can affect -- and in some cases dictate -- attitudes on interracial dating, particularly for blacks and whites.
As late as 1967, some states had anti-miscegenation laws preventing interracial marriages. That year, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled such laws unconstitutional.
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Since then, the number of racially mixed marriages has gone up dramatically among Latinos, Asians and whites -- numbering more than 2 percent of the U.S. population, according to ``Interracial'' magazine. Even so, black- white unions remain much less common.
"It seems like interracial relationships between Latinos and whites are OK, but not with blacks and whites,'' said 16-year-old Jessica Navarro, a 10th-grader at Oakland Technical High School, which is predominantly black. ``One girl got called an Oreo for dating a white guy.''
Bateen Browning said he could never date a white woman because his mother would "disown me'', but the 20-year-old, black rap artist said he could date a woman of Asian descent. "I could date a Filipina because my grandmother is Filipina'', Browning said as he strolled through Richmond's Hilltop shopping mall with a friend.
The reason that blacks and whites remain the most controversial of the mixed matches is that America's history of slavery, segregation and bans on interracial marriages has made it difficult for many to forgive and forget, said San Rafael marriage counselor Joel Crohn.
"The trajectory of the browning of America is different for blacks,'' said Crohn, author of 'Mixed Marriages'. "They were forced over here by slavery, most stigmatized by society. It's really black-and-white relationships that are most difficult and most complicated.''
However, pressure from families, peers and society are not the only reasons things fall apart. Sometimes the couples simply can't handle the strains that interracial relationships must endure.
Yaa Asantewa 'Taunya'' Vonfeldt, an African American who grew up in the predominantly white town of Santa Rosa, broke through the black-white barrier six years ago when she fell in love with a white man and had a child with him.
At the time, Vonfeldt, 25 and a junior at San Francisco State University, thought love could conquer all. But after their son arrived, race began to divide the couple.
"My ex-boyfriend never really had to deal with (racial) discrimination until we had our son,'' Vonfeldt said. "He couldn't believe that people would say bad things.'' Things got worse, she said, when her blue-eyed, curly haired son, Avery, started identifying himself only as African American. "I tried to explain to my ex it's because he was never around,'' she said. The two have since broken up.
That experience is among the reasons Vonfeldt has become somewhat politically militant in her view that blacks should not date outside their own people.
"I have too much respect for African men now,'' she said. "Before, race was never an issue. Now I see the deterioration of the African community. For our community to be strong and proud, we need to stick together.''
Interracial couples often find that their own families can present some of the biggest obstacles to their relationships. Chuck Warren, a soft-spoken African American student at San Francisco State University, has been dating Mary, who is Korean American, for nearly two years.
Although Chuck's family in the working-class town of Vallejo has no qualms about the relationship, Mary said it is hard for her parents to see beyond the media-fueled stereotypes of blacks as drug dealers, thieves or gang members. "I'm pretty open about it,'' said the 22-year-old Mary. "But I have a lot of problems with my parents. They don't really deal with it well.''
Tune in for the last part tomorrow, and please.. Don't try to drive after you start asking if its the room spinning:P
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