Are women drawn to men who play hard to get?

Posted by Ria, 21 Nov

Is playing hard-to-get the key to a woman’s heart?

Well, according to a Facebook study... YES! Women love it when “It’s Complicated”. And the more a man keep a woman guessing about how much he likes her [or not], the more alluring the man becomes.

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The research was conducted on 47 women who looked at "fake" profiles of some hot guys. The ladies were told one of three things. 1) That the guy gave them a good rating, 2) That the guy gave them an average rating 3) That the researchers couldn't reveal what the guy rated her as for the purpose of the relationship.

Guess what! The last category seemed to lure the women. Turns out, the women rated the guys higher.

To an extent, I think this study is true. I remember I almost turned into a stalker once. I met this guy whom I thought we hit it off pretty well. But days went by without him calling. I ended up being the one calling like twice or thrice a day. And when he gave me a second date, I felt like heavens had opened for me… HOW-EVER, there was still, no clear indication of whether he liked me that way or just wanted to play around. Luckily, after depending on all willpower available to man, I managed to draw the line between being into a guy and being a stalker. Sadly, I never got the guy. But to this day, whenever I bump into him, I still get butterflies. ;-)

Much as the study was done on women though, lead author Erin Whitchurch, of the University of Virginia's psychology department believes he would get similar results from men. So does this mean everyone should put their feelings under wraps to win someone’s heart?

Witchurch feels we need to think about what we want in the long-run. “… a little discomfort on [your] end, not being quite so open about [your] intentions and creating a little uncertainty will pay off tenfold.”

But if everyone plays hard-to-get, how do two people who really want each other strike a balance? Just a thought.

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