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She uploaded a new profile picture and madness began!

Posted by Ria, 22 Jun

great profile pictureShe never altered the words on her profile. All she did was just upload a new profile photo and the madness began. In a few hours after that... she had received an insane number of hits on her dating profile, more than she had ever thought possible given that time frame. Even those she had tried to contact – those who had written her off before - were on that list. It’s like in a matter of seconds... she had become someone new on the site.

“Have they even read my profile?” she wondered. Clearly, those she had contacted before never even bothered looking beyond this new hot picture … otherwise, they would have noticed they had made contact with her in the past.

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I guess this is what they mean when they say a picture is worth 1000 words. And a hot pic can boost your online success. And much as it all seems superficial, one of the guys that contacted her seemed interesting enough for her. So she replied his mail, they went on their first date and they are meeting for a second date soon. Were it not for her profile picture makeover, would this guy have contacted her? Lets be honest with ourselves - probably NOT!

Does this mean no one pays attention to what we write on our profiles? Clearly, going by the above testimony, a great picture attracts more hits and widens your dating pool and options. A great picture will give you more mileage in the online dating world. The profile you write is only there to back that great picture up.

So does this make online dating vain? I don't think so. Even when you meet someone at a bar, you approach them based on how they look first. Substance follows later. Its what we see that makes us make that first move of talking to a stranger. So put up your best picture on your profile. Get people wondering who the person behind that great picture is. Draw interest on yourself with a great profile picture.

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  1.   lin41 says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 11

    some of these men on here are a joke. I don't know if most of them are really on here for a real relationship or if they are on here just because? I don't know what they are on. Iv'e been on here a couple of days. And nothing good?

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  2.   bamboo58 says:
    Posted: 17 Jul 11

    Those who depend on pictures/photos to decide whether or not they should talk to the person really show how shallow, immature, and naive they are. Why? Because, like everything else, a picture can be very deceiving in every way possible. Often, people post pictures they took decades ago, or their high school pictures. If anyone would take the time to pay a closer attention, they would find a lot of times the pictures don't match the people's ages. As a man, I have met quite a few women, who posted their pictures online with an extremely appealing body description, but when we met in person it was always a big dissappointment. Personally, I don't really care about pictures nor rely on pictures people posts online. I always prefer face-to-face meetings to decide whether or not I should go on a second date with that person. Relying on a picture posted online can cause anyone to miss the dream man/woman of their life.

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  3.   dani0203 says:
    Posted: 16 Jul 11

    While I understand the importance of a picture, there are some that can't post due to their occupation. Your profile has much information about you along with your picture. I am a social worker who has worked in the mental health field. I made the mistake of posting my pic and some of my clients found me! Not good. So what is my best option?

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  4.   Lovin43 says:
    Posted: 09 Jul 11

    Yes, under normal circumstances it is impossible talking to someone whose photo is hidden. However, all that glitters is not gold. You may fall for a photo but when you read the profile for example this phrase of "find out later" is a bit tricky. If someone hides their photo there may be various reasons, one of them being that, such persons may not be serious and just playing hide and seek.

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  5.   bigeyes31 says:
    Posted: 08 Jul 11

    It's ok to be visually attracted to someone but it should never stop there. I automatically feel that a man is hiding something or lazy if he doesn't load a picture and at least two. I skip over profiles that don't have adequate descriptions about who they are or what they are looking for. It's just lazy and signifies that guy isn't serious and probably out for a fling. Sidebar: Does anyone else feel that some of these men on here are just plain WEIRD AND SEX CRAZED???? I don't mean ecclectic or different, those I like....LOL

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  6.   xwhitebunnyx says:
    Posted: 06 Jul 11

    Put up a cute picture, not for a guy, but because you want everyone to know that "that's me, and yea I look good!"

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  7.   lips03 says:
    Posted: 05 Jul 11

    I have noticed that some men seem to get upset when women admit to being visual beings just as they are. While I know the physical will not sustain a relationship in the beginning its all you have to go on. I tell men all the time no man ever approached a woman he didnt know because of her great personality. Its was something about her physical that drew him to her. I have also noticed that some men seem to think because they find you attractive that is all that matters, like you should immediately go for them because they like your looks. They dont seem to get that attraction must be mutual. Some tend to get offended when you tell them politely your not interested.

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  8.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 03 Jul 11

    I agree, pictures are important to getting the initial intrest. Especially from men because they are so visual. However, I think that it is important to portray the you that can be maintained after the date. I have been drawn by the picture and the good conversation only to find out that I was not attracted to the person when I actually met them. But there is no doubt that pictures on a dating site definitely make a difference in getting interest.

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  9.   lillymay says:
    Posted: 29 Jun 11

    I think apart from the looks, and the image of some one on the picture , they speak volumes. Not hundred percent would it tell you about a person, but it tells alot. Coz when u look at aphoto we instantly experience something about it. So they are important coz they play a role. Dont u think so

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  10.   ladylyric9 says:
    Posted: 29 Jun 11

    I read the profiles also. Personality, lifestyle and back ground are very important things to know about a person. A good looking face and body does not mean anything if the person is difficult to get along with and acts like a Monster! or their way of living is totaly unacceptable for you to be comfortable with.

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  11.   coco4urcream says:
    Posted: 26 Jun 11

    I agree with what everyone is saying the only way you're going to contact someone based on how they look but there personality should make you interested in contacting them as well because looks can be decieving.

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  12.   EvaSpring says:
    Posted: 24 Jun 11

    I agree that photos are important as I myself don't even as much as read any contact from anyone without a photo. However, no matter how cute you look, am only gonna contact you or respond to your contact if am impressed by what you've written on your profile! Cute, yes; substance much more!!

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    • sexyred45 says:
      Posted: 25 Jun 11

      DITTO, if they don't have a photo, I don't read it...I don't know why they have to hide if they are trying to meet someone...really...and I too read profiles and if they hit me up I also asked them if they read mine, that way I don't have to repeat myself.

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  13.   naturalrocks says:
    Posted: 22 Jun 11

    For me i read profiles.Some dudes here are cute but there profiles are blank have too much find later or blank really????.However i don,t read profiles without pics common now!

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