Is reacting to racial remarks lacking a sense of humor?
Some people in interracial relationships have openly voiced their discomfort and the hurt they feel when racist comments are directed towards them. I understand where they are coming from. But when Dr. Laura Schlessinger took a call from African American woman (Jade), who voiced her dissatisfaction about racist remarks made by friends and family members against her white husband, this is what Dr. Schlessinger’s advice was: "If you're that hypersensitive about color and don't have a sense of humor, don't marry out of your race.”
Dr. Schlessinger had asked Jade to give an example of what she considered racist. She talked about a neighbor who keeps asking questions like ... "Oh, well, how do you black people like doing this?" "Do black people really like doing that?" But the ‘good’ doc felt that wasn’t racist. She said: “If you're going to marry out of your race, people are going to say, "OK, what do blacks think? What do whites think? What do Jews think? What do Catholics think?""
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Needless to say, their discussion was out of control. It spun from racist remarks about an interracial relationship, to use of the ‘N’ word, to Obama being in office. (Read the transcript of their discussion here)
That aside, Dr. Schlessinger thought Jade was being hypersensitive. And her conclusion spelled it out too clearly:
"Need a sense of humor, sense of humor -- and answer the question. When somebody says, "What do blacks think?" say, "This is what I think. This is what I read that if you take a poll the majority of blacks think this." Answer the question and discuss the issue. It's like we can't discuss anything without saying there's -isms?
We have to be able to discuss these things. We're people -- goodness gracious me. Ah -- hypersensitivity, OK, which is being bred by black activists. I really thought that once we had a black president, the attempt to demonize whites hating blacks would stop, but it seems to have grown, and I don't get it…"
Most of us have had to encounter similar experiences with friends and family for dating interracially. Trust me, when it comes to some things people say, it’s very hard to wear a smile on your face. It’s very hard to ignore some remarks. It’s even harder to give someone the benefit of doubt – that maybe, just maybe, the comments weren’t meant sound stereotypical.
Do you really think Jade is hypersensitive?
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Godfather454 says:Posted: 20 Sep 10No my friend...you see that's one of the problems. There are colonial religions that want to deny, destroy or modify the truth in their favor (some believe that mankind is only 6000 years old). Careful in accepting religious beliefs as fact my friend, but look into what's being discovered as it pre-dates religion. Yes, the Wise Men chronicled life and left us books to read as the "Word of God", and we should never fall from this word. However, science is discovering lost cities that the Romans didn't destroyed, clothed human remains some 350 thousand years old, and yes they were discoverd in Africa (Negritia). Its hard form some to accept that the philosophies of life, science, mathmatics, medicine, engineering, and government were taught to the colonials versus being their discovery. i.e. The original calendar was changed to 12 months not based on science or from some recently discovered rotation around the Sun (or the Roman's got a upgraded Sun Dial), but to simply honor Julius and Augusta Caesar (July/August). Thank you for your comment.
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Anthony2012 says:Posted: 17 Oct 10
Mann you over qualified to answer this wuestion because you see but may not understand Goshfather or whoever ITs not that we as youthful blacks Say the N-Word because that was the slave who helped us free from the slave master no! nice rhetoric though,but insufficient ! MAn we call each other ni@$$$ because Its deep rooted to the soul We are just that.TO take the ugly in something and make it beautiful !.. ITS the over dosing Power it HAs But even More When we Rverse the Hurt And Feeling OF IT, TO describe like an associste that is in an elite club! already automaticly just by the color of his natural born skin makez him a member already..We as youth in inner cities have taken that word and flipped the hate attached to it and made it great ..made it Kool to be apart of ..But its was the white mans instintative personality to conqour with the tools of hate and inferriority that he saw our physical statue and caveman like animalistic Dominant warrior ways that alerted him to imprison and sell a whole race of extrodinary species, To begin the downgrading process of classifying us in a negative light .but we use it as a deep effectinate envelope of love and closeness Almost solidifying you in some way.For example for all you old timerz who aint in the street and just using some geographical text, for an excuse or stepping stone for your own personal assessment or assumption , that aint Good enough..It is how we express ourselves in the most certified way !!slang is so strong that other races say it amongst themselves too after observing the way black people who use it say it, and like everything else we do,america thinks e erything we cum up with and reverse is kool and anthentic to say, I hear alot of other races say it , Like mainly hispanuc And middle eastern indian and even sum asian and whites who feel there allowed to because they have friends that are black so thsts their getaway ticket to do so?...Even though they do not mean it in an derogotory way when other races do say it to describe a friend or foe , its just that they picked it up from hearing us say it ,and how we apply it when we use it
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serenity33 says:Posted: 19 Sep 10I am glad you agree that she was wrong for doing this and being on air saying the N word. But be careful about your history that goes really far back because I think that there are many religions that would disagree with your earliest assumptions.;-) You have to be careful what you state as fact and what you state as your opinion especially in something as controversial as humankind's origin. Virtually every religion would disagree with you on your earliest historical statement. Safer to stick with more modern history that can be more easily verified by others especially when it is folklore passed down from one individual.
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Godfather454 says:Posted: 14 Sep 10
I love blogging! I'm going to start my response by apologizing because I need to spin some knowledge... Racism is an illness that has been left truly unstudied since Queen Europa (a black woman/ruled over Europe) ruled over the Garden of Eden on the day Adam and Eve walked into this valley from the Caucasion Mountains (in what's now called Bosnia). Oh sure its talked about and there are sensitivity classes you can attend, but there's no pill you can take to make it all better. You see, racism is a form of "negative" bombardment created to make one feel less about who they are, with the hope of being someone other than they should be...(I'll explain later) Let's talk about the "N" word, which is a slave term for those of you not sure where it came from, and I'll get back to this... Negro is derived from the true name of Africa (named in 160BC), which is Negritia. Africia was named after a great city that was looted and destroyed named Afric. By the way the remnants of Afric are still here today including its language of Kiswahili. Rome (moved just 20 miles from the original location) is its name and Kiswahili is the basis of the Italian language. Anyway back to the "N" word; during "American slavery" there were 2 "N" words created to keep slaves who wanted out of slavery unhappy of who or what they could become if they left the Plantation (negative bombardment). I guess I can say the other "N" word as it never took off and was virtually dropped from the English language. "Negris", which is the female version of the "N" word... "Go figure" :-) Many slave owners and sympathizers were killed by slaves so you had the hard approach by Jim Crow, Willie Lynch, the KKK, and the Confederate Army to stop this insurrection and of course The Civil War stopped them from killing the 20+ million slaves that were here, but did very little to stop the negative bombardment as it was used to tell the slave being free was bad; and they should want to be like or love their slave master. So what has happened is that this type of negative bombardment hasn't stopped and has perpetuated to modern times in subliminal messages by "Talking heads", the Tea Party Movement, and the Republicans etc. The funny thing is that you can't blaim these groups because they can't see the errors of their way. You see, Dr. Laura in her infinite wisdom was actually unqualified to respond to her caller and took the only way out she knew by trying to deflect the caller's destress, but she failed. Dr. laura didn't know and I would imagine that alot of people don't know that when a black person calls another black person the "N" word, its a good thing because the "N" word that they're referring to is the one who helped free them from the Slave Master. So since the black folk meaning of the "N" word has deminished like the use of Negris, we need to stop its use today, and figure out a way to be "one-people" under God. Oh and for the "Na-sayers", I was taught the "N" word story by a former slave born into slavery in the 1860's and was a Dentist until just a few months before he passed away in 1968. Again I apologize, but that's my two cents.
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Chriss89 says:Posted: 11 Sep 10Yeah, this lady was just being plain antagonistic when it comes down to it. With my first BF I found that many of his friends thought it was "cool" to joke around about us being interracial. Some of it was funny, some of it wasn't, but it seemed a lot of the time people wanted us to take it because it sort of "defused" what we were: interracial. And many people can't take that, so they hide behind jokes and humor. In the caller's case, that's what her neighbors seemed to think: that because she's with a white man, she should have no problem dealing with criticism. People need to stop using race as an issue for everything. IT'S A SOCIAL CONSTRUCT. Species-wise, we are all humans. Nothing is stopping an Asian man and a Mexican women from having children. For people to entertain a notion that skin color has anything to do with one race being superior over another...it's ridiculous. You should develop a sense of humor if you're going to be married to someone of another race? That's BS. So you should always be willing to laugh at the fact that your with someone you love even though they're a different color, because society can't handle it? Dr. Laura is sadly misguided and she would do well to stop trying to find some loophole for her bigoted cynicism.
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Cynamyn82 says:Posted: 09 Sep 10I find nothing humorous in what Dr. Laura did....NOTHING!
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shotgun007 says:Posted: 04 Sep 10
Dr.Laura..........if that's what she prefers to call herself these days, whatever. But she is completely wrong and so out of line in her response to that caller. And she along with so many "public" figures in the entertainment/radio communications industry are always somewhere trying to tell everyone else that "we" (afro-americans) call ourselves the N-Word. She doesn't know what she's talking about and I'm just plain sick and tired of the madness. Shotgun007
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serenity33 says:Posted: 04 Sep 10
I am glad to read your post selahvie. It has what I have been saying all along but it is great to have it come from an African American woman rather than me, white guy because no one seemed to listen coming from me. And you posted much more eloquently than I did. I encourage you to post on other things as well that you feel you may have knowledge about for I am curious to hear what else you have to say.:-)
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selahvie says:Posted: 01 Sep 10I am a black woman and have never used the "N" word, never will, and my friends or associates don't use that word, "affectionately" or otherwise. A lot of black people do not use nor condone the use of the "N" word. By Dr. Laura using it, and justifying her use of it by the fact that a relatively small (but very visible) segment of the black community (namely, comedians and rappers) use it publicly, Dr. Laura was basically doing the same thing that Jade was calling about. Jade's issue was not only that her husband's friends were making racist remarks, but also that she was expected to speak on behalf of all black people, because in their minds, black people think, act, and speak alike. Dr. Laura's actions showed the same ignorance. Since she heard "black guys on HBO" use the "N' word, Jade and all other black people must be OK with the word. Dr. Laura couldn't even accept that Jade was saying that she felt it was never OK to sue that word....for Dr. Laura, the opinion of those "black guys on HBO" was more important than the opinion of the caller that had reached out to her for help. So, to return to the original question, in my opinion, reacting to racism is not hypersensitive nor lacking a sense of humor. Because of the history of race in this country in particular, and in most of the Western-colonized world, issues of race and racial remarks often create very emotionally-charged and serious situations. These remarks are not made in a vacuum...there is a HUGE history behind them. And I'm sorry, but people groups who have not suffered under this history do not have the right to tell people groups who have suffered under this history what should be funny and/or when they are being hypersensitive. I'm sure that just having a successful interracial relationship requires a great deal of graciousness and forgiveness on both people's parts; someone who is "hypersensitive" probably would not have made it as far as Jade and her husband have. Telling Jade to have a sense of humor about something that is hurtful is completely inappropriate and showed very poor judgment on Dr. Laura's part.
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Newawlunzguy says:Posted: 30 Aug 10
Address that with the culture that throws it around as a common phrase of speech.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 30 Aug 10
She should have known better being a professional and there is never an excuse to use the N word no matter how it is used. It only serves to put African Americans down and one should be careful with what one says at all times. Divorces sometimes happen because of people not being careful about what they say to each other. Even wars!! Does anyone who is a minority have any stories about how people were insensitive to them verbally and are willing to share it? I would like to hear from someone who has experience in that matter.
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Anthony2012 says:Posted: 17 Oct 10
OF course serenity !!. But I tell you this My friend pete owned a pizza shop one time and I say it , in terms of makin fun of the ignorance showing it has no bearing or holds or even links to me ,.So this coutomer lady walks in .and made a comment about the N word and how she feels insulted by hearing it ...So I figure well she is caucasion so how in the hell is she offended by it !.. it was like reverse uncle tom ness, but on the white ladys Behavior cause Im thinkin ....Ok ..um.last time I remember her race were calling African Americans that who look like me that ..not her so..never her..she was never hosed down and chased and called n@@$$.. Im gussing she spoke up because she hears it enough at home alot and now here's her one and only chance to vindicate her precious ears right ?....Man I was insulted , Look dont cater to me or try to disassocite yourselves from ignorance by telling me not to say it !!. where was she when king was marchin, where was she when rosa parks had to give up her seat and refused ?.. better where was she at before she walked in the store and realized that word "suddenly" she was all of a sudden tired of hearingthat ?.. her husbands ?.. her parents family gathering ?... her best friends ?.....It was phony simple because the desription isnt an demeaning degrading weapon to acheive white but black in humanalization.and character...... White people were never chased down by blacks , hosed , stripped naked, humiliated, murdered ,rape Church bombed, Hung by trees , castrated , not allowed to vote or denounced equal rights to white folks or segragated themselves etc etc all at the same time calling them ni##$#$ simotameously ..So how the Hell is aby white oerson ever offended by that word is beyond Any socialy logic comphrehention !!. Stop feeling sorry for yourselves and as an individual seperate your self from the crowd ...its not offense whites may fell but GUILT and Embarrassment of their forefathers , lincoln , Washington.Etc Etc Who sculpted a patternized society of white supremisy disguised in a well dressed, well worn tailor made laws, rights and rebellion of human kindness.....Funny how Black people took and take everything that was used aganist us and now made it Kool to be and do So much that most of the slang , mannerisms , approach and swagger is very much if not all adopted from the african american culture, thats where music comes into play bevause you can lesrn about the world thru black music , pain and pleasure ,thats how little timmy and tyler or zack no about what goes on in the innet city without ever passing thru, Every thing black oriented has been exploited by mainstream media for profit and gain as well of the over whelming fascination and curiousity of the African Culture past And Especially present ....Man I could go on forever about racists experiences !.. something caucations dont want to fess up to !....And I still hear in 2010, when I ask white people when they get around alot of family and friends do they hear it , Do other white people around you Say the N -Word .AND THEY CHUCKLE, PAUSE AND SAY....YEAH AT TIMES THEY ANSWER A LITTLE RELUCTANTLY BUT THEY BE HONEST AND ADMIT IT......SOME THINGS JUST WONT EVER CHANGE AND I ACCEPT IT...I DONT AGREE WITH IT BUT I ACCEPT IT...BESIDES 85% OF WHAT MOST NON BLACKS DO AND SAY WHETHER THERE AROUND BLACK PEOPLE ARE NOT ..IS BLACK ORIENTED SOMEWAY INTO THE WAY THEY COMMUNICATE WITH OTHER AND ACT.EVERYONE WANTS TO BE "KOOL" SO THEY CHECK AND SEE HOW WERE DOIN IT ,THEN THEY ADD IT IN ,AND MOLD IT INTO THEIR OWN PERSONA ...........Most Of the eorlds most influential artists , musicians Especially Elvis , Have Admitted They way they steal , sound , beat , blues and Rythm from Black people been going on before My time And today they are still doing it..
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Newawlunzguy says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
The "Doc" definitely could have handled the matter in a much more professional manner. However, the response, while improerly phrased, was a valid argument. Odd how within a certain circles, names, phrases or slang is considered acceptable talk; but don't cross the border or it's viewed as discriminatory or improper.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
Thank you for your support, zeboo and you bring up a very good point as well. How does one black person know what all black people do when asked especially without stereotyping? She should have known better in her line of work. I sure don't speak for all white men when I give my opinion. Far from it!! That's why a lot of times I will quote statistical studies I have read on subjects rather than say my own opinion because I trust the studies more than my own opinion since they take a wide number of people in account when the do the studies. Thanks again for bringing those points up. It really makes one think.
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babydiva says:Posted: 30 Aug 10Serenity33 You seem to be an open minded man. FYI many statistical studies are altered. As you know, anyone can be prejudice. As you know, an objective point of view is required when conducting any form of research.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 19 Sep 10
There is no such thing as an objective point of view when conducting research. The only thing that can be objective is the data you collect and they work that into a proper study or else it won't get posted in the Psych abstracts or the Soc abstracts. The Scientific community is very hard on each other. It is only when you try and make conclusions from your data that you end up worrying about your data being too subjective. One should take courses on Statistics to see what I am talking about because it gets incredibly complicated with the type one and type two variables, all the different type of studies you could do, disproving your null hypothesis in the 95 percentile range and the Mean, Medium and Mode and that is just the tip of the iceberg. That is why I had to take over six different statistic courses and I still wouldn't want to have to do one because the safeguards built in are so extensive. But again, the conclusion is where people will skew things which is why I stick with the raw statistical data over their conclusions because that's how we get up biased blogs and studies themselves end up losing credibility. But they are still better than personal experience alone which is way too subjective and has too many confounding variables to be accurate on its own. They are fine as long as you use the disclaimer that this is my experience and don't try and say it is fact.
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zeboo says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
“Oh, well, how do you black people like doing this?” “Do black people really like doing that?” Is that a honest question or stereo-typing a group of people? How was the caller to know what all "black people" do or don't do? As a professional the doctor failed to act professionally. That's why she lost her job. She acted and answered from a personal point of view, which is different from the role she took on the show.
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zeboo says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
Was the person who asked the person the question honest or looking down on her. It is how she phrased the question that gave it a racial slant. Further, the Doctor lost her job because it was point that her. I am on this site to meet and date people of diverse ethnicity, culture, sex and religion. I may be ignorant about some practices but in that vein I should be aware that what I may do, say or suggest maybe offensive to others. While this country is built on the notion of higher values, those that make majority of the population think their views are the only views. America and the "globe" world is a melting pot. There is room for everyone and it is important to be considerate not matter how those view maybe different. Bravo Serenity!!
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serenity33 says:Posted: 29 Aug 10
I disagree. You should be allowed to date whomever you want without fear of being racially slurred for it. This woman was totally insensitive about that especially by using the N word which downplays the historical and present day discrimination and prejudice against African Americans in today's society especially those who want to date outside of their race. If they wish to marry a white guy that has the personality they want, they should be allowed as long as it is the personality they care for and not some shallow stereotype about white men. White men and Black men are equally good.
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Newawlunzguy says:Posted: 28 Aug 10
I think the caller received good advice, "If you’re that hypersensitive about color and/or cultural differences, then perhaps you might want to avoid dating or marrying outside your race.”
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serenity33 says:Posted: 28 Aug 10
I think this lady was totally insensitive to the plight of the African American and I am glad she got fired for using the N word. It should be taken out of our vocabulary.
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serenity33 says:Posted: 24 Aug 10
Yes and no. If there wasn't slavery for the Blacks from the Whites, then maybe we could be looser with what we say but there are still too many closet racists left over from slave days that just bite their tongue and use other means to discriminate against Blacks. Let's face it, the white supremacists still hate the fact that we have a black president. They use political reasons to attack him but it really boils down to hidden racism. Obama hasn't done anything wrong compared to Clinton and Clinton only got attacked when his marital indiscretions came out. If Obama had done the same thing as Clinton, he would have been impeached by now because of the racial prejudice looking for any excuse to oust him. That''s why they question his birth, call him Muslim, and make up stuff about him that are ridiculous. A white Democrat wouldn't get half the crap no matter what they do. Of course Republicans and Democrats would be always fighting but it is the most vicious and personal I have ever seen it and it is almost totally white people that hate Obama except for a few diehard Republicans. You can tell when it is prejudice when the poor people that are white hate Obama because Republicans are all about big money and Democrats are all about the poor. Why shouldn't everyone who is poor support the repealing of the taxcut for people who make 250,000 dollars or more a year that is coming up? That will only benefit them. Well it is because Obama is black which is the same reason why the poor white people who didn't have slaves in the civil war fought to keep slavery. Even if they were worse off than some well pampered slaves, they could always claim to be superior and white and that mentality goes on today. So I don't agree with this Doctor's using the N word because she went too far. Other races that weren't slaves in the United States should get used to being asked what their race thinks on certain things. Of course, there is still prejudice against Latinos because of the entire border thing in some states which leads to racial profiling as they ask them for their birth papers to make sure they aren't living here illegally. And Muslims are still be stereotyped and racially profiled. I guess the name of the game is darkness for these political racists. I think they are all hiding behind their political reasons to be racist. You don't see them giving Asians a hard time because of the positive stereotypes of Asians being smart and industrious. I don't know. I am all for a good sense of humor but I think this new wave of racism should have us all worried that we are taking steps backwards in our development towards racial equality and racial tolerance. So at another time, I might be for her joking around but lately, I wonder if it isn't better to be on the safe side and curtail our humor unless it is about white people. White people have benefited the most in this country so they should be able to take a joke the best I would think and I am white. Joseph Moyer
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djstime says:Posted: 26 Aug 10serenity33, I know that we many disagree on some other things, but this on I have to agree with you completely on...thumbs up! Good post...
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00seven says:Posted: 04 Oct 10I’m here to officially, set the record straight. The reason the white men are attracted to the dark part of the chicken, is because they originate from us. White men will always and forever be attracted to us, the African American true blooded black women. Allow me to get a little deeper with our history. No, we are not conservative nor are we promiscuous, we just know innately how to love PROPERLY. No one on the face of this earth can EVER compare to the black woman. Did you know that our origins are of GREATNESS? Why wouldn’t you be attracted to that. I know I would. White men are attracted to us in the most elusive way. We are the Mother of all civilization, therefore cementing our birth to what you mere mortals call LIFE.
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IS REACTING TO RACIAL REMARKS LACKING A SENSE OF HUMOR!!!! I think Laura is just a typical caucasian radio talk show host just like racist rush limbau that apparently don't take the african american culture serious... She stated she has a bodyguard and a friend that are both males that are african american and play basketball she said whitemen can't jump which is a name of a classic basketball game hustle movie with westly snipes, and he was the one who made that comment in the movie!!! But it was a joke to Laura, knowing that she was around bruthaz... What i've been saying the whole time, this discussion gave more of an insight to what exactly I meant.. And that is how us bruthaz are a threat to caucasian males and the african american women are not! "HEAR ME OUT NOW BEFORE YOU GIVE ME A THUMBS DOWN"... Caucasian males love to be around our women for the satisfaction to fulfill his sexual fantasies. So in the working world i've noticed how the caucasian male which normally be the boss that runs the show, he tends to sepperate us from working around her by putting us in another section away from her as far away as he can, or just fire us and keep the sista so he can get close as he can.. That being said, he feels that by us bruthaz not being around we wont be able to protect are sistaz from being harassed by him. My point is, just like jade said on the phone call, it's been many times where her boyfriends friends and family have disrespected her by using racial words ignoring the fact that she's right there in front of them while using those words. And the boy friend did'nt take up for her what so ever!!!! She so brainwashed that i thought it was a white woman that was calling buy the tone of her voice also accent. A real straight up sista would've checked the ones using the racial words and then cussed her white boyfriend out by not being a man and allow people to disrespect her... Us blackmen don't go through that at all, when it comes to being around family or friends of our different ethnicity of womans family because they know we'll cut loose and do some chin checking. So they figure wtf will a woman do if I say this???? And that's the difference between what blackwomen go through compared to what blackmen go through when being married or in a relationship with different ethnicities. Only the ones that will lie and say they don't get disrespected like that tend not to claim their black culture and ignore and allow it to happend.. just like jade said, sometimes the jokes be funny and even more so they don't be funny!!! I bet alot of those jokes have been about blackmen and alot of other foolish jokes, and she sitting back laughing like a fool forgetting that her brothers, father, grandfather, etc are black!!!! But in reality, out here in california!!! many blackwomen use the"N"word towards us bruthaz also it's used in conversation don't matter where it's at or who it's around.. I find it to be very sad that alot of us fail to realize that we're watched and listened to. So we have to pay attention to what we say and who we say it around so that we don't fall into that stereo type as being ignorant, all together just stop using the word.. True fact I use to say it when I was out being wild, but i soon realized how many young other ethnicities was starting to say it to their friends"WUZ UP MY N@*#%"yes I was angry hearing it, but how can I get mad at them if i'm going around using it towards my bruthaz? So all together I stopped the usage of the word and acknowledge my bruthaz as my brutha!! And"WUZ UP BLACK", especially knowing that we're the only ones that use that "N:" word towards each other that the whiteman used while torturing us raping are women etc while using that"n"word.. To think of it, I never heard another race of people use a term towards one another that disrespects their people... But on the recording I noticed how Laura kept cutting Jade off and try to make it seem as if Jade was stupid by saying nonono it's not that, how is she going to say what's offensive towards african americans when she's not black and actually know what we go through??. The idea of interracial relationships for me is for any non african american woman to know my culture and most of all know all about me.. When we get married, she will take up on my last name and if we were to have kids they will also have my last name... Not at all am I saying that I would keep her away from her family and culture but by us getting aquainted the first day we meet, I would have to know that she is for me and not just for what i'm packing inside my boxers... Now as for african american women, they also would have to change their last name and by having kids with a whiteman they also would have to give their kids the fathers last name, so she would have to try to fit in with their culture... NOW FOR THE TOPIC: I think reacting to a racial remark depends on how the person reacts. A person can laugh at a racists remark, a person can get very offended by a racist remark, In fact I think someone should be very offended by using a racial remark especially if it's about your people/culture so in noo way you should want to have a sense of humor to let it go like, hahaha it's just a joke!!! bs... It's only obvious that people are going to be heated when a race of people that has a history of stealing wealth and raping women and deviding and conquering people that are struggling in poverty, shouldn't have a sense of humor when using racist slurs or even joking about their culture"WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE"Come to the hood and find out our sense of humor when using a racial remark and or joke.... see what happends!!!!