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Men universally want their women to change

Posted by Ria, 29 Mar

For a long time, it has been common knowledge that women universally want to change their men. But I have had enough women complaining about their drama full boyfriends who want them to change. To any woman out there who loves partying till she drops, you probably understand what I am talking about. He’s fine with you being a party animal when he meets you but the moment he decides to take the relationship to the next level, he expects the partying to stop at the snap of his fingers.

If you meet a woman in a club, please don’t expect her to snap out of it just because you are now going steady. I think we should change Albert Einstein’s quote from: "Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed" because as it is, a man will only propose once you stop the partying. And if he marries you all he expects from you is to sit in the house and play mom to him and the kids. And who says women who love their drinks and clubbing aren’t ‘wife material’?

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A dear friend has been having trouble with the men she has dated after her separation – they want her to change at some point. In fact, the reason why she is separated is because the partying never stopped even after marriage and two kids. Initially she had warned the current boyfriend that men try to change her after being with her for a while, and at the moment he didn’t think he would ever be that guy. Now he is; constantly pushing for her to act more like a girlfriend (wonder what that means).

Most men struggle to find a fun loving woman. What happens when they finally get her though? Well, typically... after a while, they start getting a little restless and realize she needs to be tamed. They realize being passed out half the time isn’t as much a dream-come-true as they thought it would be… the bad girl excitement gets tiring and the man starts to long for some tranquility, reliability, responsibility. Problem is: a man will tame a woman, marry her, get bored with watching T.V. in suburbia and start going for the same party girl types he made the woman change from.

Ladies, never, ever change for man or anyone else, for that matter, besides yourself. The only time you ought to change is when you are changing into something that YOU, in and of yourself, want to become.

Yes, most times men manage to change women. But the outcome is almost universally bad... for both parties. So before you decide to date a party girl in the hopes that you will change her into wife material when the time comes, DON’T! She might change now just to get that ring on her finger. So if you don’t have the stomach for a wife who drinks into a stupor, get one who doesn’t to avoid great heartache in the future for you both.