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Online dating for the hotties

Posted by Ria, 26 Mar

“If you're so hot, why are you online dating?᾿

Didn’t come up with that one! Well that was a come back at some website for the ‘hot’ - Online dating for beautiful people. And it went, “Sick of dating websites filled with ugly, unattractive, desperate fatsos? We are.᾿

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And this article in protest felt that the dating website for the beautiful should have used some motto like “For people so hot they can only date online᾿. And the winner was “Wasting your weekend outdoors? The truly hot people are home on their computers carefully positioning themselves for a web cam close up!᾿ - Now that is some comeback :lol:

One thing I have realized is that suddenly dating sites are now taking a turn to the superficial. Suddenly, its all about the looks … and money. Online dating is kinda moving to the bang! bang! world of today.

Anyhow, one thing I must admit is that dating websites are out to satisfy people’s desires … barbaric or otherwise. So I cannot complain much when I come across a website for the beautiful, married women, interracial daters … it’s all the same thing. They are all identifying a niche and giving the people what they want.

And this website even has some rules area. And in this they have a list of things you shouldn’t be ‘suffering from’ e.g. sagging boobs, large hips for men e.t.c. Suffering from? Since when did one’s physical appearance become some sickness one wished upon themselves? And then the have photos of the bottom hottest people . Its like telling someone “Don’t you dare send that ugly photo of yours or you will be on this list.᾿ And who decides whether you luscious or loathsome? Some vote! :roll:

Should we just resign to the fact that online dating has taken a superficial turn? Is it ok to be prejudicial against the fatsos as they put it? Well, all we gotta do is just wait for their ‘Success Story’ page! :lol:

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  1.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 31 Oct 09

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  2.   girlsixdiva says:
    Posted: 07 Sep 08

    RIGHT ON, ANATURALGIRL!!!

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  3.   anaturalgirl says:
    Posted: 07 Sep 08

    I submitted a photo to a site like that, just to see if I would be accepted. After getting the green light from the owners, my photo was submitted for voting by the members. I was eventually turned down. I chalked it up to the membership not being open to my kind of beauty (the site needed a little "color"). This didn't change my view of myself, I still think I'm hot. Self esteem is everything sisters. We have to celebrate our beauty everyday, because the mainstream world will not. I must say, you are all HOT!! I'm not opposed to sites that cater to a specific niche. These sites are only doing what we do everyday in our daily lives. If I'm approached at the grocery store by someone who is not my type (someone overweight for example) I'm going to politely turn him down. The internet just makes the rejection easier. We've all been rejected, you just can't take it personally or let it effect your self worth. There's a match out there for everyone.

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  4.   rickie70 says:
    Posted: 14 May 08

    Amen VT! Many men think Kate Moss is hot.For me she isn't. So what is the definition of "HOTNESS" ??

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  5.   Starthai says:
    Posted: 09 May 08

    Mistersuave1, what a great response! Blkbeauty31 I do not question that, because as you can see there are alot of goodlooking men and women on this site, people date online for many reasons. 2ute4, I like your response. I do not like superficial people and I try to avoid them by all means, such as not responding are being interested in men from the CA area I'm not into the mentalities from there. However; I do feel there is a fine line between superficial and wanting somone that believes in taking care of themselves. For instance I'm not opposed to dating someone who may smoke or not excercise as much, because sometimes we as people can have a positive effect on another person. I don't get the exercise like I used to, due to being busy but if I meet someone that like to jog and felt I should come along sometimes I would. I think the problem is when someone doesn't have the will to do better for themselves, inspite of what their significant other, etal, sees in them. I could not date someone morbidly obese either, due to the health issues involved I want someone who can last and protect, etc. Interestingly, I saw a show where the men wanted morbidly obesed woman for reasons of liking to be smashed and stepped on, they called themselves "in the closet FA's-fat admirers". The only thing I could say is good for them, there is someone out here for everyone. I could not imagine being with a guy who did not want me to be healthy or even motivating me to be even if they liked me for who I presently am. Vt33 always nice to read your comments:)

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  6.   ethereal99 says:
    Posted: 09 May 08

    To the question: "If you are so hot, how come you're online dating?" Well, some of us are broadminded & like to meet people from all over the world, some of us like the excitement of online dating & some of us are just insatiable !

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  7.   Member says:
    Posted: 09 May 08

    Hmm such a wonderful site.Well am erick new to this whole thing.thought it could be nice for me to come on here and say a little about myself and if it interest any pretty Lady,she can always buzz or drop me a message at erick_Scott412@yahoo.com I live all alone here in England,A Computer engineer.love to dance and Listen to music, 5'9 fit tall average in shape and smile often.i like to meet some one caring and Loving for some thing serious as a very gentle and Honest caring man.well dont have much to say.but any lady this might interest can drop me an e-mail on the address above. Erick scott xx

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  8.   casualmg says:
    Posted: 08 May 08

    hot babe...u know many users on ^^_casualloving.com_^^ just said so smart g would take them breath rite away and you know that alreadi..LOL..........

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  9.   FreakNSheets says:
    Posted: 07 May 08

    Mistersuave1.......I was thinking the same thing. It might be fun to join up and see if a person really did have what it takes to be accepted. Worse things can happen then being put on a "Fugly" list. The way I see it, it's a good laugh waiting to happen. The idea of "Intellectual Pioneers Only", might not be a bad dating site. Maybe if we were all accepted to that, we would not be here wasting our words over a fugly list.

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  10.   Mistersuave1 says:
    Posted: 02 May 08

    Guess there should be a warning on this site: Caveat Emptor ... if you feel insulted or irritated by the site's mission statement (as many reasonably well-adjuested people are likely to be), don't join! Any who consider themselves 'hot enough' but worry about being put on the fugly list, maybe your egos are too fragile to risk joining. However, I can have a grudging respect for someone who takes the risk, gets voted fugly and has a good laugh at themselves as a result. The bottom line is, just like any site, it's not for everyone. And consider this: Would you find a site with the tag line "Intellectual pioneers only: if you can't pass the MENSA test, you're on the 'Cretin List'" equally as insulting? My guess is that you would probably laugh and walk on by. That's what you should do with this site. In my humble opinion, anyway.

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  11.   Lady18 says:
    Posted: 02 May 08

    This site is kinda sad and wrong. But according to the rules I can join the site lol. But blondguy26 it seems like it.

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  12.   xpokalu says:
    Posted: 30 Apr 08

    love is secrifies. if you r not willing to give dont expecting any thing back.

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  13.   vt33 says:
    Posted: 23 Apr 08

    phew...all these hot online hook ups..making my big toe itch.. Come on folks..really hot people, do porn. Real people live in reality and are happy. Lets say this all together now. "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". Ciao

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  14.   blkbeauty31 says:
    Posted: 20 Apr 08

    I often wondering about this too? Is on-line hooking up for less attractive people? Does this scene imply desperation?

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  15.   lilo4love says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 08

    Nesha86 it is called choice which is a part of life. We may not like it but.... People have different standards. There will never be a time when human beings are similar. We are different races, different languages, different religions etc. If their choice is only the beautiful can join, then we must respect their choice just as we would expect them to respect our choices.

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  16.   2ute4u says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 08

    i totally agree that we're all attracted to someone that is phsically beautiful at first glance- this is all subjective, we all have a standard of ideal beauty and our own level of attractiveness...however,it is chemistry that determines what will hold our interest. And for the record, I am not personally gonna date a fat man on the verge of morbid obesity, they usually want a hot woman clearly out of their league and I am not about to compromise unless he is willing to go to the gym w/ me

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  17.   Thandii25 says:
    Posted: 13 Apr 08

    Although beauty comes from within , It starts from outside. Physical attraction is what initially draws most if not all of us to talk to someone, both in the real world or online.A good heart, excellent character, great personality and all those good human qualities is what keeps us in touch with that person and eventually fall in love with them.But there is no need to be prejudice towards anyone because they are over weight...Having said that its always good to maintain a healthy weight.Always remember, "Image is not EVERYTHING but it still is the beginning of EVERYTHING".

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  18.   girlsixdiva says:
    Posted: 09 Apr 08

    I agree nesha.

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  19.   nesha86 says:
    Posted: 08 Apr 08

    Wow, I can't believe this site is for real lol. Looks matter but they're not everything. They would actually turn people down for membership based on their looks? That's outrageous!

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  20.   mosche says:
    Posted: 02 Apr 08

    I agree with blondguy96! It does seem to be all about looks and money. Everyone seems to be looking for the RIGHT accessory to compliment themselves as if people were purses and shoes. All the profiles seem to sport false descriptions of what people think they should post to get replies. Just a reminder for all those who are using the online venues: this should be just ONE source of many to attract the right person in your life. Love and commitment is out there for everyone whether you're Hot or Not! Peace to All!

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  21.   blondguy96 says:
    Posted: 02 Apr 08

    "One thing I have realized is that suddenly dating sites are now taking a turn to the superficial. Suddenly, its all about the looks … and money." So it's pretty much like regular dating...

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  22.   kimelodi says:
    Posted: 01 Apr 08

    I agree that you definitely must be attracted to someone in order to date them. How important that attraction is to you compared to the person's values should be a concern. I would much rather date a fatso as they called it than a person who is dishonest. Everyone has faults no matter what you look like. People deserve to be loved and I believe that there is someone out there for everyone. I also believe that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. No one person does it for everyone, we are all unique and different. I can only be the best me and that will be good enough for the person who wants a genuine person who is beautiful outwardly as well as inwardly.

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  23.   zinc22 says:
    Posted: 01 Apr 08

    JUST WANT TO SAY THAT I LIKE THE COMMENT THAT WAS POSTED BY EBONEGIRL. JUST BECAUSE A PERSON HAS MESSED UP CREDIT DON'T MEAN THEY ARE IRRESPONSIBLE AND ACCOUNTABLE. EXACTLY FOR THE REASONS SHE LISTED. I DO AGREE THAT IF YOU PREFER TO DATE ONLY PPL WHO PHYSICALLY ATTRACT YOU THAT IS YOUR OPTION TO DO..HOWEVER, YOU MAY ACTUALLY LOSE OUT ON THE BEST PERSON EVER AND THE BEST RELATIONSHIP EVER. I DO CONSIDER IT SHALLOW..JUST MY OPINION. ALSO AS SXYBRWNSUGA SAID, IT IS POSSIBLE TO GET BOTH, INNER AND OUTER BEAUTY.

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  24.   emmce says:
    Posted: 01 Apr 08

    Hey Revolver..If you do not care about/have a problem interracial dating or more specifically black women dating white men, why then did would you take all the man-hours necessary to post something like that online, take the time needed to gather the information that you spewed (whether factual not not)? The way I see it is; the fact that you would invest so much time and effort into talking about black women means that we obviously are IMPORTANT to you or you would not have given us the time of day. Way to go!!! Frankly, when it comes to love and finding love, what you have to say really DOES NOT MATTER!!

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  25.   Todd77 says:
    Posted: 31 Mar 08

    Thanks for telling everyone we dated LGand2gh but i didnt want them to know i was a Millionaire lol just teaseing you

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  26.   girlsixdiva says:
    Posted: 31 Mar 08

    To the comment made by "Revolver"; why do racist people like you keep trolling these blogs? You obviously have been rejected or gotten your feelings hurt really badly by a Black woman to post something like that and say it's a good video.

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  27.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 31 Mar 08

    I think attraction is important. Chemistry very much as well. To me the true beauty is on the inside. Someone can be a model on the outside, but an ugly inside makes them ugly all over.

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  28.   ebonegirl says:
    Posted: 31 Mar 08

    Well...about the credit score thing. Not necessarily true that irresponsibility and a low credit score go hand in hand. Sometimes it's the result of things that happen beyond one's control, i.e. divorce, medical issues. loss of job, etc. and I agree that it's not a conversation for just dating. Anyway, I am beautiful inside and out TO ME and I'm not even mad when another doesn't find me attractive.

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  29.   Revolver says:
    Posted: 31 Mar 08

    http://youtube.com/watch?v=1S8SyCwg5_E Here's a great video about interracial dating.

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  30.   girlsixdiva says:
    Posted: 31 Mar 08

    Hey I like that empty coat rack metaphor fadedsuede!

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  31.   Fadedsuede says:
    Posted: 31 Mar 08

    In response to those that criticized my opinion, you need to take into consideration that a "credit score" is usually a good indicator of someone's ability to be accountable for their spending habits AND their choices in life in general; it has nothing to do with how much money you make. Irresponsible people and bad credit usually go hand in hand. Give me someone who has put on a few extra pounds (in all the right places), has her life/profession/finances in order and Im hooked. I generally turn away from the Cosmo magazine girls just like I turn away from an empty coat rack - without a nice coat its nothing more than a hangar!

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  32.   sassylass says:
    Posted: 31 Mar 08

    The problem that I see with a site like this I think we have all been around people that we don't think resemble anything close to hot that think they are.Or the person with a lot of men/women chasing them and you can't figure out why...

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  33.   skyprincess1 says:
    Posted: 30 Mar 08

    I completely agree with Sxybrwnsuga. I don't care what anyone says, we are drawn to physical attributes that appeal to us. When I'm looking for someone to enter into a relationship with, I don't think that standard of being beautiful on the inside applies at all if I can't get past the outer wrapping. I know what I want and if I'm not physically attracted to someone, it's just not going to work out for me and there is no sense wasting my time and fooling myself into believing it will. Anyhow, my grandmother used to always say there's someone for everyone.....

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  34.   Sxybrwnsuga says:
    Posted: 29 Mar 08

    I keep hearing people comment how beauty comes from within. You can be physically beautiful and still be beautiful on the inside. So are you saying only ugly people are beautiful on the inside????? For me I have to be physically atttracted to you point blank. I'm sorry I'm not settling for the sake of saying I have someone. If that makes me a bad person then oh well.

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  35.   Sean01 says:
    Posted: 29 Mar 08

    Am I hot or not? :'( You be the judge, jojo, I trust you...

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  36.   fkoi says:
    Posted: 29 Mar 08

    I think there is a much better chance for "chemistry" to take effect in the real world than online. There is a very limited window to make your pitch online. And I have seen right here on this site where a particular picture didn't appeal to me but another of the same woman was quite lovely. The whole concept of an intriguing gesture or a voice that immediately gets your attention (for better or for worse) is lost on the Web. I think we all narrow our choices down to some degree based on looks but if that is our only criteria we'll miss a lot of gems. The web sit highlighted (or lowlighted) above goes too far when they post photos in the bottom 20 category. It is one thing for the regulators of the sit to reject someone for how they look but to add that sort of embarrassment can't be justified. I'm with Erinj22, I'd hate to get the boot but I'd hate worse to be posted as a UUUUUUUgly! But then I'm not going to give them the chance. P.S. Erinj22, I don't think you have to worry ;-).

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  37.   fala says:
    Posted: 29 Mar 08

    I'm definitely not hot enough - ask me in August though.

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  38.   Erinj22 says:
    Posted: 29 Mar 08

    lol How do you know if you're hot "enough" for the this website? I don't want to be booted for non-hotness lol...ouch

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  39.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 28 Mar 08

    WOW!!! So well spoken LGand2gh..This is dating.Its not about your credit score.Be for real about yourself and the person you are attracted to.If its just dating,why go on about your credit score and what you have.

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  40.   LGand2gh says:
    Posted: 28 Mar 08

    There has to be a physical attraction, its called chemistry.I dated a millionaire and he was very nice,I did not feel phsically attracted to him.We became friends.Not everyone is superficial,men and women alike.Greed,selfishness will eventually come and bite them back.Think with your heart and mind not what is between your legs.Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.Think of it this way,would you still be attracted to the one you LOVE if they became disfigured?Dating someone w/ bad credit will only bring you down if you allow it to happen.Why are you even talking about credit scores if you do not plan or have not discussed marriage?You are just DATING.Keep your income to yourself until there is a committment.Stop giving your power away MEN and WOMEN.LG

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  41.   Kanzan says:
    Posted: 28 Mar 08

    If a man says he will not date someone he isnt attracted to, he will be called "Shallow Al" among some other more choice names (eg: jerk, a**hole, etc). If a woman says or suggests that she will not date someone she isnt attracted to, its far less of a reprehensible thing to say. Same thing can be said about money. I have said more than once that I will date an unattracted woman before I date a woman with bad credit. Ugliness doesnt rub off but dating someone with bad credit will drag you into the mud with them. I will keep my 820 credit index rating and you can keep your "bling-bling" on credit. TYVM!

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  42.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 28 Mar 08

    Beauty fades.Love is forever.

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  43.   girlsixdiva says:
    Posted: 28 Mar 08

    I agree with you 100% Free of drama! When we all get old and feeble our looks will be the last thing that will matter! I had a boyfriend in college that had lost one of his legs to cancer when he was in high school. When he first tried to talk to me I wasn't immediately attracted to him but I eventually grew to love and adore him inspite of his handicap. And it's over 10 years later and we're still friends. My first boyfriend in high school also wasn't the hottest guy in school but I grew to fall for him too and I even still think of him from time to time and wonder if he's married! LOL Whenever someone compliments me on my looks I never really dwell on it because I know those good looks can be gone in an instant.

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  44.   Freeofdrama says:
    Posted: 27 Mar 08

    Yes it's ok to want a certain "type" but a lot of these sites put down physical characteristics that they do not desire. I like to use things like green eyes, tall, white, etc as a guideline and not the "rule." A short, black guy with brown eyes can turn my head just as fast as my "desired" type if he is a good person. Did I see him as a love interest from jump? Most likely not, but the door would not have been shut to him either. And by no means would his lack of height be a negative. Beauty has to be inside and out. So many "attractive" people are so rotten on the inside it's a no wonder they sometimes have trouble holding onto that person that picked up with little effort. Perky breast and a slim waist can only do so much for you....just my opinion.

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  45.   sexy1ady says:
    Posted: 27 Mar 08

    I have to agree with Eathan and jojolove. I must be physically attracted to someone before I can commit to learning about someone. Or else that person has to be someone that you have known for a while so that you've already had the chance to get to know them from the inside. Another thing, physically fit is in no way negative, being fit is healthy for you and prolongs your life. Eathan did not say curves, with booty and slim waist (even if thats what he meant) I don't think its a crime to want someone who will be able to do things with you, and spend the rest of your life with as well. But that's just my opinion. ^_^ Paz around the world...

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  46.   jojolove says:
    Posted: 27 Mar 08

    We are all attracted to a certain type of person physcially. I dont see anything wrong with a person who wants to find someone they are physically attracted to. If Im not physically attracted to a man I know I will not be 100% happy. I know what turns me on and if he doesnt have it I will not lead him on. I really dont want a man who pretends to be physically attracted to me because he will eventually become unhappy unsatisfied and leave me or cheat anyway. We are physical creatures by nature the first thing most notice about a person is their appearance. Being honest and upfront and keeping it real is always best instead of playing with someone's emotions. Yes looks do fade with time but if you are in a loving and caring relationship that person will always be beautiful to you no matter what.

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  47.   HereIamBaby says:
    Posted: 27 Mar 08

    So the world has lots of superficial people in it...what's new... There is someone out there for everyone. Maybe two if you look hard enough! Southern smiles, Sharon

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  48.   girlsixdiva says:
    Posted: 27 Mar 08

    "Eathan", you ought to be ashamed of yourself. One day you will learn the hard way how looks don't last and true beauty comes from within.

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  49.   girlsixdiva says:
    Posted: 27 Mar 08

    At first when I looked at that site I thought it was a joke, but then I thought about it and figured it's not much different than sites like sugardaddy.com, onlinebootycall.com, or My ForeignBride.com.

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  50.   Eathan says:
    Posted: 26 Mar 08

    I'm going to have to find that site. I have disclosed on my dating profile some must have's - physically fit is one of them.

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