What's the big deal about foreplay?

Posted by Ria, 05 Sep

sexy.jpgA dude once joked: “Foreplay aint all that when a woman says ‘yes’᾿. Is this dude for real?

Many men have never been taught and don't know the secrets of foreplay… what makes her sizzle? When it comes to most women, foreplay is better than sex… better than the orgasm even. So if you get it right then you are already there. You will have earned youself the title of fantastic lover.

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The thing about foreplay that most people don’t understand is that it builds tension… desire and excitement… all of which create anticipation and readiness for you-know-what. And this is where all the fun begins.

A woman can go from very moist to dry with the mere lift of an eyebrow. This is how unpredictable a woman’s response is. While men are fully cocked and ready to fire after every three minutes of sexual mêlée, women take much longer to get inflamed. For women it’s about slowing down and arriving at the finish line right.

The brain is one crucial sex organ for a woman. So if you were planning on flashing your naked body and counting to ten hoping to get her in bed, then you better start counting your days of celibacy.

Word play is very important for a woman. It equals fantastic foreplay. As much as women may not be visual when it comes to sex, we usually have very explosive sexual imaginations. There is a dude who used to ask the girlfriend to get him a glass of water from the fridge and whenever she went there, she would find some poetic line… from “you are the center of my heart᾿ to “I want you sooo naked… kneeling!᾿... and she never felt hotter.

So, is foreplay a natural appetizer to sex or have we human’s developed it over time? Apparently, animals also stimulate erroneous zones before penetration with licks, squeezes, bites to the body and genital regions.

And why do men ignore foreplay and rush to penetration? Why do you just rip her underwear before the touching, licking and nibbling? Much as you may be tapping your inner beast by doing so...just think about your dog and how he acts when he meets your neighbor’s poodle. Isn’t all that ass-whiffing just a prelude to some good ol’ hanky panky?

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  1.   kissime says:
    Posted: 29 May 10

    Foreplay is a must! it definitely enhances my sexual desires. Sexual role-playing, stimulation of erogenous zones keeps a smile on my face...you want to keep me happy? Make me climb walls (literally) And I believe in karma. And there is nothing wrong with sexual self-stimulation.

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  2.   lala2qa says:
    Posted: 20 Oct 08

    really lilo? I dunno it drives me to intense feelings of pleasure and wanting, I LOVE it.... maybe its never been done right to you. maybe....

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  3.   lilo4love says:
    Posted: 09 May 08

    Hehehehe CanadianGC I must be the exception to the foreplay rule. I find that i don't quite need it. If it goes more than 5mins i am officially bored and thinking about work.

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  4.   CanadianGC says:
    Posted: 17 Oct 07

    Dayum.. here I got all excited with the topic heading , then realized it was foreplay not fourplay.

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  5.   lovemyjeans says:
    Posted: 24 Sep 07

    Foreplay is required!! I need the mental, physical, and emotional stimulation for US to really have a good time. Again, the maturity of the man makes a difference too, and that is not a reference about age. It is about wanting to experience sex with me, instead of using me for his on satisfaction.

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  6.   manzoor says:
    Posted: 24 Sep 07

    i agree to all

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  7.   Sensual42 says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 07

    Well for me - the mood would not be set without the foreplay. Firstly we need to light the fire and feel the warm heat glow. Then fire rages wih such passion and such heat - it's then and only then, the doors for the Garden of Eden is opened. So before one make a connection - foreplay is important. My experience and my view.

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  8.   TriChique says:
    Posted: 18 Sep 07

    oh mwm - so right, so right!! :)

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  9.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 12 Sep 07

    Right MWM, I totally agree. Nothing like building up to the fireworks ;)

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  10.   vt33 says:
    Posted: 10 Sep 07

    OH so I am the only one who falls asleep sometimes during the act of forplay..lol pfft..lol

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  11.   mwm says:
    Posted: 10 Sep 07

    Skipping the foreplay is like going directly to the grand finale without watching the fireworks.

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  12.   fala says:
    Posted: 09 Sep 07

    I totally agree CC. ;-)

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  13.   CleverChaos says:
    Posted: 07 Sep 07

    lol@vt..if u get the right guy, u wont ever have to fake it, trust me! lol@dude rationing..it's not our fault God gave us the ability to orgasm multiple times-3 for me, 1 for u! fair is fair lol

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  14.   Starthai says:
    Posted: 07 Sep 07

    Lol@Cocokisses :)

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  15.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 07 Sep 07

    I am not faking an orgasm. Why do all that work and get NOTHING out of it??? My rule is, if I don't get MINE, you aren't getting YOURS! LOL!

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  16.   fala says:
    Posted: 07 Sep 07

    lol@VT awwww come on. Go easy on The Dude. He doesn't know any better.

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  17.   chriso72 says:
    Posted: 06 Sep 07

    Foreplay is like the icying on a cake, it awakens all the senses. How best can you use all your senses of touch, smell, taste other than in foreplay.

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  18.   Starthai says:
    Posted: 06 Sep 07

    Kevin I agree it applies to females also:)

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  19.   vt33 says:
    Posted: 06 Sep 07

    Uh Dude, hate to be the one to tell you, a lot of those orgams are fake just to boost your ego. It's sort of like..HELLO you're not doing it right let me give you one more chance. Indeed who ever heard of rationing out orgasms. Dude you bumped your head again against the screen.

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  20.   The_Dude says:
    Posted: 06 Sep 07

    I think it's so unfair that you girl's get multiple orgasms whilst I have to wait and wait and wait before I get mine off. I now have a 3 orgasm rule, sorry but I have to ration these out.

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  21.   Kevin says:
    Posted: 06 Sep 07

    Star you are right. That is what seperates the men from the boys. If you make love to a womans mind before her body she will climb the walls for you. Of course the foreplay goes both ways ladies.

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  22.   Starthai says:
    Posted: 05 Sep 07

    I do believe foreplay is a natural appetizer for a woman I believe this because it takes us a little longer to be worked up to that moment and it is such a shame that a good portion of men don't do this.My advice to the ladies if a male just wants to rip off your underwear instead of foreplay first, this indeed seperates the boys from the real men. :)

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