Are some black women more compatible with white men?

Posted by Ria, 25 Jan 08

Warning: The question below may be offensive to some readers. This is not the objective. The question is in no way meant to defame or inflame any parties, groups or persons. It is simply meant to find out why people make the choices they make when it comes to interracial dating.

Is it possible that some black women share certain qualities and interests with white men that black men simply lack?

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  1. Posted: 19 Jun 09

    Of course,some black women relate MUCH better to handsome Ken doll sort of white dudes rather than the thugs and gangstas far too many black men seem to emulate. As for this classically handsome,muscular,beefy-I'm 5-9,218 lb.-life-size Brad doll,as a hot-blooded black lad,OF COURSE I relate FAR BETTER to buxom blonde babes between 25 and 39 than fat black broads,because these white lasses want me to stud them on our very first couples' night.

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  2.   Girlstar7 says:
    Posted: 31 May 09

    To Mungo: My brotha, all white men don't have a pocket full of money. Every black woman that are interest in dating white men are not after money. I have dated black men and I was never after their money either!.I choose a man based on attraction, intelligence, character, spiritual beliefs. And is he a fun guy to be with?. Not his money!. But he does have to have direction and a plan and a job. Black women want to be respected, loved, so very needed and allowed to be strong without the backlash that some black men lay on us. A black women would love to support a positive black man with direction and strength. But? not when he's so blind and can not reconize her hand of help, and not looking at it like she's trying to play the roll of a man because she's independent and honestly provides for the family , a little more than a majority of you guys. Black women my brotha need love too. And we are so tired of the "Drama". I have a 4 year old black son, whom I will teach to truly respect balck women highly and all women. He will be the one that will not allow the stero type to run his entire life.A strong, intelligent good, cultural and faithful man is what I shall raise him. He will know all black women are not gold diggers and cheaters. And all women period need love and respect.

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  3.   Girlstar7 says:
    Posted: 31 May 09

    I would have to say it is an indiviual choice. I have dated black men in my life and I have found the very few men that I have dated in my dating exsistence. They have been intelligent, very nice looking, succesful. But? honestly not very good treatment. I mean no physical abuse, just play boyish, irresponsiable, mentally abusive, self serving and not really understanding this black woman's simple need to be respected and loved. I was the kinf of black woman who was very,very supportive of the black man, patient, loving, even loved his children like my own 2 children. And I felt that I deserve good treatment that I gave to him (them). I stayed away from being in a relationship for over 4 years because of heart break from a black man. I'm not saying all black men are this way. I have girlfriends who are not gold diggers as myself who also tried to support a black man and they are tried of the games. I choose to try something new (white guys) for no other reason than I heard that can treat you better. With respect, love, if you need something their on it!. I also have a friend who has been with her white guy for seven years and she is very happy. She dated black guys for years and got tried of the drama.Why is it ok for black men to date white women and non black women. But? a black women is labeled a back stabber if she does the same thing? I will never hate my black brotha's,but? I won't date them anymore. I know that every white guy is not nice or consistent with their women all the time either. I just want a good guy with no BS or games who happens to be a nice looking white man.

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  4.   Mamacita says:
    Posted: 02 May 09

    Dating and marriage is all about preference and compatibility. I am so fortunate, because I have had the opportunity to date black men, white men, middle eastern men, hispanic men, european men, etc. Do you know that I found more similarities than differences? If a man has a similar family background, economic status, and moral code as you, then you will click. It is quite unfortunate that many people can only see the differences. Most black americans (and others) have a mixed background. On my mom's side we have black and native american (cherokee) and on my dad's side we have black and irish american. So, I like learning about other cultures and appreciating the handsome men of various cultures. So, what@! In fact, I think that I would personally have more obstacles in a relationship if the man and I disagreed over moral issues. I am a deeply spiritual person and I have just been praying to God to please help me connect with the right man. I didn't say a black, white, hispanic man, but I just desire a relationship with a single, non-attached, caring man. I am a college educated professional and I just want to find love. Love does not have a color attached to it. Plain and simple!!

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  5.   D.L.S. says:
    Posted: 16 Apr 09

    Heres the deal:If you are gonna date outta your race don't disrespect your race.If you are a black female don't look upon a black man like he is scum just because you are dating out of your race, same goes for the black man:if you date out of your race don't look down on the black woman like she is scum.

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  6.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 13 Mar 09

    Today being Friday the 13 th , I believe Life is controled bye the roll of the Dice . Sometimes a Man will get Lucky , sometimes all seems not to go as wanted but if you keep with the program / Details will soon enough all come together to finish this puzzle called Life . The Beauty of the chase is in crossing the Finish line , no matter what number you are . My Father taught me ; Anything worth doing is worth doing well . We got Blessed when We met here and in the real World We were just a Male and a Female looking for Love . Soon to be Our Second Anniversary / We plan to celebrate with Chocolate cake n ' Vanilla ice cream . Color has not one thing to do with two people Love ing one another . Enjoy the Day / We intend to . Amen

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  7.   Member says:
    Posted: 13 Mar 09

    Check out this video and post your comments on youtube. Type in (Why Do Black Men Prefer White Or Lightskin Women?)

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  8. Posted: 02 Feb 09

    As much as I dislike the way this question is worded, I will try to answer it without going into a racial debate on stereotyping White men to be a certain way. However I will say that I don't find myself more compatible with White men (as there are many White men who fit the stereotype of having the same interests/attitudes/behaviors/etc. of Black men), but I am more compatible with a "type" of man to which the group of men who are that "type" are usually White. What I mean is that there are also Black men, as well as other men of color, that are that "type," and I am not any less compatible with them than I am with the White men in that group. So, to answer your question, no. I don't think that some Black women are more compatible to White men themselves, but some women are more compatible with a "type" that attributes White men more than others. So if all of those Black women met Black men that fit that type, this question would never be asked. Basically, when dealing with pure compatibility, and not taking attraction or preference into consideration, NO [gender-race] is more compatible to ANY [other gender-race] than to their own. It's only when you add those other factors that people choose to date other races rather than their own...because of preference and/or attraction NOT compatibility.

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  9.   Mahogoney09 says:
    Posted: 31 Jan 09

    Hey all, I have to say, I am totally in line with the women on this site. Initially when I started dating back in college, it never really occured to me to date one man over the other based on race. For me, I was approached more by non-black men. When I really started thinking about it was when a Algerian man asked me why I didn't have the same features he was so used to seeing in most black women: Lips weren't really full(?), my back side wasn't big, and I didn't use the typical slang? My answer then as it still is was, Because I wasn't raised that way. I have no idea what you consider typical Black women should look like or act, with all the man, many shades of women of color, you have the audacity to ask me such a small minded and very limited question?" Growing up with a career military father we moved constantly, and always lived amongst officers in the Military on the bases. I attended school where the student population was predominately White; with very few people of color. I look in the mirror every morning seeing the same face every day. I am African American and it shows in the color of my skin. I don't however limit that concept to the person I truly am. People grow towards those they closely resemble or have similar qualities. For me it isn't one against the other. Black or white. I just have a lot for in common with most white men. Mahogoney09

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  10.   lala2qz says:
    Posted: 19 Nov 08

    polyglot's answer was the correct one. that's a silly question. some people are more suited for certain people regardless of color, not all people of any ethnicity are the same. I know very well I'm not compatible with all white men. Geez, how about these questions, "Are some Asian women more compatible for black men?" "Are some Asian women more compatible with white men" "Are some Asian women more compatible with Asian men?" "Are some Asian men more compatible with hispanics or latinos?" regard these as the one above, silly silly questions

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  11. Posted: 17 Nov 08

    Ok, I suppose I can sum my feelings on the matter up by saying I can only comment on my compatibility with people I have personally met. To comment on my compatibility with an entire race is almost meaningless since I will not encounter an entire race all at once. I just deal with individuals, one at a time ... the operative word being 'individuals'. Everyone's different, has different experiences and expectations, so when dealing with an individual, racial and social stereotypes are pretty much useless as a guide. Hope this helps.

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  12.   lindasy says:
    Posted: 13 Nov 08

    Daammn Mantronix! What the hell are you trying to say??? I'm more confused!

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  13.   ebonedoll says:
    Posted: 11 Jul 08

    I don't think I am more compatible with white men. I was raised by a black man,raised with 2 brothers and a cousin that are black, have two mixed raced boys that call themselves black. I would sound silly to say such a thing, and it would make it so that I would really need to take a look at how I see myself. A black woman that says she is only attracted to white men and has the nerve to list the reasons,sounds as bad as a black man that is only attracted to white or other women and does the same. When I was growing up,I was told more than once how "proper" I speak, and how mannered I was, by my own aunties and uncles.I grew up a military environment, so other black kids sounded like me. Black men will look all day long...sometimes go out on a limb and say something. But as a rule, white guys will step up and start talking. I live in Tx. so hispanics are the same way. Do I date outside of my race...yes. But does that make them better than black men...of course not.

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  14.   Enjoem02 says:
    Posted: 11 Jul 08

    I love white man. I have nothing against black men. I just have always been attracted to white men. Why can't people just be attracted to the people that they attracted to and that be the end of it? Oh yeah cause socitiy thinks otherwise...

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  15.   Rayne says:
    Posted: 03 Jun 08

    I have posted on another site, involved in a relationship with a White man. We are both growing together. I have dated white men before and he has dated black women before. So, color is not a problem in our relationship. I guess time will answer if we are compatible or not. I am looking forward to lots of communication between us and so is he. When we do not communicate then I believe there will be problems.

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  16.   Itsirie says:
    Posted: 26 Apr 08

    I've been reading the posts and I find the opinions fascinating because it can be difficult to get honest feedback on the subject since no one wants to offend anyone. I'm not sure how I reached this site and will probably never return so feel free to share your thoughts with me darby_trenton@hotmail.com. I am a black woman married to a white man and I must admit I've never given any serious thought to my previous dating choices. As a child I grew up in a predominantly black neighborhood, but I clearly remember having a crush on Peter Brady from the Brady Bunch. This leads me to believe that my heart is fairly pure. I wasn't drawn to him because he appeared to have money, or because anyone had done me harm. I simply thought he was cute. That simple logic has set the stage for most of my dating. If I saw someone that I found attractive, I wanted to get to know him. There are choices that I have made in my life that have placed me more in the company of white men than black men; attending a predominantly white university, living in a predominantly white neighborhood and taking a corporate job with few black men. For many years however, I was still able to cross paths with black men, many of whom I subsequently dated. As I got older and began to look toward marriage and family I must admit that I saw very few educated black men with whom I could hope to build a future. Now I'll admit I didn't 'search' for a black guy that fit this bill. I didn't 'search' for a white guy that fit the bill either. I simply began to notice that there was an abundance of one and not the other. Both white men and black men would approach me, but as I might meet 2 black guys in a month I'd meet 10 white guys. So for some it just may be how it all plays out based on availability. Now that I am married and in love, my opinions are totally biased. I love my husband and he is now the ruler with which I measure every other man. The more positive experiences you have, the more situations you will seek that 'may' bring about a similar result. Likewise, if you have had negative experiences, you will attempt to avoid those situations. This is a natural response to life (from birth) don't let anyone convince you otherwise. If you are able to find a wonderful man that loves you of any race, you are already ahead of the game.

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  17.   Delphine says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 08

    I am a black American woman who is the child of a black mother and father. My father is a physician, my mother a scientist. Both are now in their 70's. Talk about feeling out of place. My mother was born in Mississippi, my father in Virginia. My mother is fluent in French, and my father has worked with Doctors Without Borders for 20 years, and also hold a private practice. Both are well traveled. I have always dated outside of my race due to my parents influence. Even though both of my parents are black they always encouraged me and my two sisters to travel, experience other cultures, and make friends of all races. I am currently married to a white american man, but dated only black men for many years. After almost constantly being told that I was "weird", "tried to act white", or was "not black enough" by black american men I decided that the majority black american are not cultured or into learning about other ways of the world, and are quick to judge people . It got to be frustrating. I am a product of my environment. My parents raised us part time in the suburbs and part-time in our summer house which was on the East coast. My parents were definitely not the norm for their time, and extremely progressive. To make a long story short. I have more in common with black men from European countries or white american men. I asked my father why black american men have strayed away from what it meant to be black in america when he was coming up. He said that dignity, integrity, the importance of education and family,self worth, and the importance of speaking proper english have all been thrown to the wayside. He can't believe how bad it has gotten. He told me that he and my mother raised my sisters and I to be chameleons, to be able to ace a job interview at IBM or hang out with inner city kids and feel comfortable. He says that the black youth of the last 10 -15 years don't think it is important to better themselves. That it is more important to become a ball player or rap star (even though only 1% of the population will ever have the opportunity) I think he has a point. What it really comes down to is...I have more in common with educated foreign men or educated white american men than I do with black educated or uneducated men in America.

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  18.   Member says:
    Posted: 17 Apr 08

    ok ok ok. hi all of yall doing? weel im e im a white male 19 years of age. i grew around black ppl all my life hell all my friends are even black. also at the same time i grew up around my family who are all white. now the queston at hand here is what, are black women more compatible with white men? well let me set this straight okay from a first hand point of view. what i have learned over the years while dating mostly all black females and white females is that point blank it doesn't matter what so ever what color you are. i have dated so many black women and i have come to realize and always knew women, no matter waht the race are all the same. so are families. what this situation comes down to ultimately is how a person was raised. i have been to some females houses who parents were down right racist i thought when first meeting them but after talking them and showing respect toward them and their daughter it all went well. all that is, is most african american families are taught to hate white ppl bcuz thats waht their grandparents were and it is just passsed down through generations. other then that we are all the same its just a matter of respect

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  19.   Member says:
    Posted: 17 Apr 08

    ok ok ok. hi all of yall doing? weel im e im a white male 19 years of age. i grew around black ppl all my life hell all my friends are even black. also at the same time i grew up around my family who are all white. now the queston at hand here is what, are black women more compatible with white men? well let me set this straight okay from a first hand point of view. what i have learned over the years while dating mostly all black females and white females is that point blank it doesn't matter what so ever what color you are.

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  20.   diamondrose says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 08

    most white males have a lot in common with blk females when it comes to romantic ideas. they act more rational, but as has been rightly said it all boils down to prefernce of the individual in question

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  21.   Girlychica says:
    Posted: 12 Apr 08

    To Jada B. who said "I am a 21 college student, African-American college student who is attracted to men of other ethnicities. I am skeptical of dating them however, because I see that society is not as accepting to these relationships as they are of BM/WW." Why do you care what "society" thinks? Did you know at one time "society" thought you were only good enough to be a slave and you couldn't read or write? What if you end up having a child with down syndrome, or is overweight or something? "Society" won't accept the child, so will you give it up for adoption? If you want to date other races, then do it, for yourself. There are always people who won't like me, but you don't see me trying to commit suicide. If you're black and don't like white guys b/c they don't do anything for you fine, but don't be afraid to date someone because of what a racist (who doesn't like you no matter who you date) says about the relationship. Just realize, not everyone is ignorant. And everytime you're out with your white bf, there may be another girl who will now think "it's ok" because you're doing it. And there are always trashy white people like cat lady because the most they've traveled is to the trailer next door. Remember that race and class are exclusive. And ignore the ignoramuses, don't feed their hate. If God didn't want us to mix, then it wouldn't be possible.

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  22.   Teacherlady says:
    Posted: 09 Apr 08

    To all my beautiful brothers and sisters (i.e. "black" and "white"), may we all live to exemplify the truth - that "We are all members of ONE race, the HUMAN one; everything else is just cultural." And to Cat woman, please go back to your lair et. al cave because you've obviously been living among the rocks (or maybe you're on some rocks). Do us all a favor and disappear from all future posts - we don't need you taking up space.

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  23.   buba says:
    Posted: 05 Apr 08

    my name is john.i have my best times hang out with black ladys.white lady ack like you need to get on your knees and pry to them.so any one up for a date with a good old boy??

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  24.   Girlychica says:
    Posted: 04 Apr 08

    I echo what "yourluvjewel" is saying. Regardless of who you choose to date, it's a cop-out when people say I like white (or black) men/women because they like rock (or hip-hop) music. You can find any race of people listening to any type of music. And a relationship is built on more important matters than musical taste. Having said that, I am a black female that likes white guys. Yes, I am college-educated, like all types of music, speak proper English, and work in a corporate environment, and I don't think those are things that should be considered "white" per-se although more white men do fit that category than black men. Although there are more black female college grads than black males, the reason I choose to date white guys is because I'm simply more attracted to them. If I really wanted to find a black guy that acted "white", yes, it would take a bit longer to do, but I could do it. And it's not about money either, I've dated broke white and black guys. I'm not looking for a sugar daddy, lawyer, doctor, or whatever, just a guy as ambitious as I am! After all, if I didn't value education and hard work for myself, wouldn't I be flipping burgers at Mickey D's?

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  25.   blkdiamond says:
    Posted: 03 Apr 08

    So many people on here talk about color this, color that and he treated me like this so now he treats me like that, blk this white that, im educated this and that. Who cares,love who you love,I mean seriously do we go out and say well, I am going to see if I can find any white guys to date today because a black man has hurt me or has gold teeth? Do white guys say well I am gonna find me a blk woman because my ex had such a flat ass, that I could not stand it? Gold diggers, flat asses, gold teeth who cares. I see so many women blk and white who say that they are happy with themselves and they want to find a person of another race, but yet we are going to the store to purchase some hair, nails, ass implants,breasts and get lipinjections, whats up with that? Then you have white guys that love blk women so much but they want them to have white woman hair and nails or bigger boobs, Blackmen want their white women to have a blk girl ass and full lips. This is stupid, and plainly ignorant, we love who we love because they make us feel special, not because they can buy us anything or wants us to be who we truly arent, race and color is that, humans is what we are and I date humans, not the color of their skin?

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  26.   JennyJenJen says:
    Posted: 02 Apr 08

    My mother(white, a nurse) was happiest when married to her her second husband (my father,black) who was a Doctor. I was lucky enough as their daughter, to have been brought up in Wales at a time when the likes of 50 Cents had not been heard of. Your role models were your parents,brothers and sisters. I've lived in an environment where 99% of the population is white. Yes, I am more so attracted to white men and so what? There is so much more to someone than the colour of their skin. The only black man's views and opinions I respect are my father's and he wouldn't care who I was with as long as they were worthy of me....think on it.

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  27.   nahasi says:
    Posted: 01 Apr 08

    sometimes i have had more in common with white people, because of some of the music that i like, which is older alternative, and the broad range of topics that i like. not to say there are not black people who are like that, but i think for whatever reason, black people tend to qualify you a certain way if you are into "different" things. and the same can be said for many whites, its as if who you are and what you like should be determined by your color. i have had white people give me a hard time for liking this or that and the same goes for blacks. i feel that any man i meet who can appreciate me for who i am, he will get the very best of me in return. i have ocassionaly had white boyfriends, and in terms of our likes, i can probably say that yes we had more to talk about than i have with some black dates.. im not saying this is better or worse or that the black men were not interesting.i have told myself in this age of greed and false pride, if i am fortunate enough to find anyone who gets me and who can just love me for who i am, ill be blessed! whatever his background will be secondary

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  28. Posted: 21 Mar 08

    Jada..you should not care what society thinks. You do what your heart tells you. You are always going to run into people like catlady, but she is entitled to her opinion and has every right to express it no matter how ignorant it may be. You could quite possibly miss your chance at finding the love of your life because you fear what society thinks. Life is short and it goes by quickly...just live, laugh and love.

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  29.   Member says:
    Posted: 19 Mar 08

    No. its not possible to have more in common with a person of another color. You just like to show people that you will do it. I don't have anything in common with black people, you worship different, talk different, have different kinds of friends, eat different, etc. I could go on and on. There is a separation between the races and always will be and should be. Be proud of who you are, but do not mix as you do not belong. I would not belong in a black or asian community and you do not either. You do it for the shock effect on people. There is always a certain low class of people that will date or marry one of another race, but look around and see them for what they are, no one else would have them.

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  30.   Member says:
    Posted: 17 Mar 08

    I am a 21 college student, African-American college student who is attracted to men of other ethnicities. I am skeptical of dating them however, because I see that society is not as accepting to these relationships as they are of BM/WW. For black women who are dating men of other ethnicities, how do you keep your relationship focused on the two of you and not what society thinks of you two? Thanks. Once again, I do not mean to offend anyone, I just want some advice :-) Thanks and God bless!!

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  31.   brownliu says:
    Posted: 13 Mar 08

    WHAT A GOOD QUESTION, IT A CHOICE NOT A COLOR THING. IT ABOUT THAT SWEET FEELING. EYES MET HE SMILE YOU SMILE AND IT FEELS RIGHT.NO MATTER WHAT RACE OR SKIN TONE. WHEN IT FEELS RIGHT YOU KNOW ITS NOT HIS COLOR, IT'S JUST SOMETHING THAT SAY IT IS O.K. BUT I HAVE SO MUCH IN COMMON WITH WHITE MEN. HIKING, BOATING,R0DEO'S LOVE THE BEACH. MOST BLACK MENT HAT I DATED HATED THE OCEAN.I THINK WHITE MEN IS MORE OPEN.EASIER TO CUDDLE WITH-LOL.

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  32.   2ute4u says:
    Posted: 13 Mar 08

    I personally agree with the lady who said there are certain activities that she pursues which places her in contact with white male and thus, she is around them more. Also, in the post secondary institution I attended at the time, there were few black males to black females. So it was normal to pair up with a study buddy who was non-white. The fact that the black population in Canada is not a tremendous size,so, it 's not unusual to "hook" up across the ethnic lines -our government declared usa muticultural nation. thank God, slavery was abolished on this shore in 1789. I am so tired of white males in the U.S.,asking me if I've dated a white man b/4, it is so weird to hear that. I choose to date white men because I grew up with them,went to school with them. I don't have to justify liking rock music or why I play the guitar. I do not dislike my black brothers,(I hear a few white male telling me that they do not like black males,but you know what, my father is black my bio-brothers are black,and I love them deeply. This does not mean that I've abandoned my ethnicity.I am educated about our African history and it's not limited to slavery, because we have been more than that)but the few that I know are not the ones I want to partner up with,for the simple fact that they don't measure up as my intellectual equal. I don't believe in hating my beautiful black self or my people. Onlyin Americais this so called racial differences is so pronounced and I'm bloody well sick of it. You know, the media truly keeps it alive because race/ racism is a commodity and we fall for it all the time,what a shame!! Is is not time to divest ourselves from the enslavement of xenophobia?

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  33.   chmpgne says:
    Posted: 10 Mar 08

    Wow! How do I keep this short and precise? I am just excited to find out that there are other black women who have had the same experiences as I have had. I have also mostly been approached by caucasian men. I will admit that I have also had some really bad experiences caucasian men. However, I have found myself being alot freer to express who I am in interracial relationships. No apologies to those who don’t want to hear this, but I've been able to get a far deeper connection with white men. In terms of interests: They range from activities “I should like as a black woman᾿ to those “I’m not supposed to be involved in because black women don’t do that᾿. I am an adventurous woman and for the most part have had that embraced by men outside my race. It is not very endearing if you are called a "freak" because your interests and goals in life don't line up with the race that you were born into. I don't know where it is or who created the “racometer᾿ for how black I should be. But don’t contact me if you find it. I’m happy being me. I love that I am can be trendy, change my hair style as much as I want, but I’m also a geek at heart. I am also thrilled that the friends around me are different from me regardless of their skin color. That’s what makes life exciting. On that note, I will date and marry the man that sweeps me off my feet regardless of where society’s standard lie. All in all, it is foolish and impossible to confine or try to derail our hearts desires just because society says so. The heart wants what it wants.

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  34.   rahman says:
    Posted: 09 Mar 08

    My first love was a bi-racial (white/indian) girl. It just happned. It didn't have an ending I like to share, but led me to believe that you cannot control who you fall for. If a BW is attracted to a WM.. kismet...

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  35.   kanuquabea says:
    Posted: 05 Mar 08

    WOW I have never been so speechless!!! Kanu

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  36.   raregem7 says:
    Posted: 02 Mar 08

    If the truth would really be told, most people are attracted to "other races." If you research history, for generations men, white men, have been drawn to women of color. It's the excitement, the differences, the myths. You know. It's the forbidden fruit that you want to taste to see if the rumor is true after all...you want to satisfy your curosity. For the most part, love is deeper than color. We hear that all the time, but when two people truly fall "in love" not lust with each other, color is unimportant. All they know is that they want to spend their lives together and what ever it cost them, they are willing to pay the price. After all, whatever you really have to pay for you appreciate more than something you get for free.

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  37.   raregem7 says:
    Posted: 02 Mar 08

    Hi, I am a very successful Black Woman. I am very attractive, intelligent, romantic. The whole package. With regard to the question. It't not a matter of being more compatibel to white men over black men, it's a matter of preferance. I really enjoy being with WHITE MEN. I have since I was a teenager. It's just something about being with a man of another race...the differences...the excitement...the mystery. I am a person that loves romance and passion, and I have found this with white men. Every single one that I have ever dated are very romantic. They go the extra mile to please you and satisfy you. Once again, it's not a "race thing," it's an "individual thing." All men are different. It's like black men that are attracted to white women. I enjoy seeing them together. In fact when I see a brother with a white woman, I go out of my way to say hi to the lady, because too often they get a lot of negative responses from sisters and it should not be that way. People should be able to be with whoever they are attracted to. I am so attracted to white men. Especially attractive, professional men. Men with class, strength and vision. It's just a preferance. It's like vanilla ice cream over chocolate. Some people like chocolate and some like vanilla. It's just a matter of taste.

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  38.   Alex says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 08

    What's up everybody I have been reading the blogs and comments left on the page, and i have some agreements and disagreements. FIRST and FOREMOST to all my black women, I love you all, and honestly I really have a hard time being attracted to another race. Being a black man is the hardest thing to do in life. There are several brothers out there looking for a strong woman to be by their side, but what I have noticed is that we are being judged for what we lack instead of what we have. Every person in life is a work in progress, and no one person is complete. I am 25 and most black women I come in contact with believe that what you have in you posession makes you what you are. A lot of you say that you have more in common with white men that a black man, that maybe true. But me myself I cant talk to a woman, that would have had me killed just by lookin at her. I know this might sound like a broken record but my parents told me a long time ago you have one strike against you because you are a black man, and no matter how you spin it that is true. If we dont fit the quota we are considered shiftless, lazy, and uneducated because of a piece of paper with our name on it saying we completed this study or we have a check with a a certain amount of zeros attached to it. I myself am tired of the stereotypes that we have been put in. My father and grandfather fought to make our lives better as black people, and thats something I never forget, so before you think all black men are the same stop looking at the obvious when you looking for a man, cuz we all have dicks and that means no matter what race we all can be dickheads. You might think that man can treat you better cuz he isnt black, but remember this some of the greatest so-called pioneers to walk the face of the earth took their ideas from a black man, and no matter what we are the backbone for what this country was built on. No I am not a racist, but when you get stopped at routine traffic stop numerous times and you wasnt speeding, reckless driving, or using drugs, they just wanted to "check the car out" even though you can run the tag from ya squad car, you can't bypass that. Another thing if you judging ya man on how intelligent he is, wrong, allow that intelligence to be shown in action not necessarily to be shown on a piece of paper. That's to me all my so called intelliegent college graduates out there.

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  39.   Chris says:
    Posted: 19 Feb 08

    vt33. Yawnnnnn.

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  40.   rubono says:
    Posted: 18 Feb 08

    wow! just stumbled into this war zone and need time to read all the very (emotional ) responses.the short ans. is yes!. but i feel much more than that. before i go "I'll be back" can the question be reversed "Is it possible that some black men share certain qualities and interests with white women that white men simply lack?" so are some black brothers more able to relate with white woman? there's a slue of them together and for a long time and happy. and discount the curious one nite stands please. fortunately i have never entered into a one nighter with any the several fantastic loving black woman i have known and currently know and love.

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  41.   outpass35 says:
    Posted: 18 Feb 08

    I have always dated outside my race since I was younger I remember when I was 7th grade and a brought a free home that was in 8th grade my dad was not shock but my mom was who would say this was my futue husband yes he was white my mom and dad had a heated arguement over it and years later got over it. But I had always been attracted to white men and most of them would ask me out, So as my dad said years earlier love is color blind.

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  42.   vt33 says:
    Posted: 18 Feb 08

    Wow it got ugly on this one. I am reading we are dating white men for the money, and folks spitting on others, because of the choice they choose, and spell check, right down to bragging about who we are. I am still a firm beleiver in life, and we have the right to love the person who fits us like a glove. Note to you all, you don't choose your mate, the man above sends you your mate, those of you who are strong enough to handle relationships, with other colors survive the storm. Silly me always thinking love is blind. It is clear by a lot of the blogs here, the whole black women and white man thing, still isn't being accepted. Sad to say I don't think it ever will. Truth be told it is a shame, because in the year of Obama vs Hilliary. Black man vs White woman, that is more accpeted than, this simple blog, you would expect the name calling and the rest to rear it's ugly head in this race, yet it is accepted. Say black woman and white man, all the negative comes out, from the root to the tooth. Strange what people are willing to "accept" and what they "say" they believe. NO JIBBERISH INSULTS PLEASE! IT'S JUST A THOUGHT!

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  43.   Nayomi25 says:
    Posted: 18 Feb 08

    Sitting behind the computer screen everyday... hoping that this time round... the white man you met has at least 87 percent of the qualities that you are looking for... and then Bang! he starts comparing you all the other black women on the site..... funny.. but truth is men will always be men .. black.. or white you might get alot of similarities betwen white men and black men... i guesss point is to just find a man that shares qualities that you desire,, just a Man kikikiki

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  44.   fala says:
    Posted: 18 Feb 08

    Gotta say I agree with Eva.

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  45.   Fkoi says:
    Posted: 17 Feb 08

    As general as the stated question is (Is it POSSIBLE that SOME Black women...), such that the answer is almost certainly, yes, I would suggest even more generality to get to the heart of the matter. SOME Black women share certain qualities and interests with SOME white men that SOME black men simply lack. As has been said, it is all about the qualities of the individual. All "White men" are no more the same than all "Black women" or ALL of any other group. I would guess that there are few Black women who would find that they share "qualities and interests" David Duke mor than they do with George Duke.

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  46.   Jeff says:
    Posted: 17 Feb 08

    It seems to me...and this is just in general, very general, but...black women-at least American-seem to appreciate a man for what he is, as a man and a person, as compared with white women. Seems to me that white women-again, just in general, seem too interested in their own vanity and the size of a man's paycheck and material holdings. Not to say that this doesn't hold some valid importance, after all, who wants to marry a pauper and live like one. But it's my experience that black women-and women of color in general-seem to have their priorities and values a little more straight as compared with ww. White women today are like little kids let loose in a candy store, imo. Somewhere along the line they got it in their heads that because they breathe they are deserving of everything their hearts desire. Sorry if that second paragraph sounds mean, but I'd be lying if I said otherwise.

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  47.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Feb 08

    Oh, I forgot my "signature" --"Beauty, grace, character and charm are the jewels in the crown of The Natural Woman."

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  48.   Member says:
    Posted: 16 Feb 08

    I'm going to marry a wonderful man (who happens to be white) in April. I am his rock, his strength, his port in a storm, his better half, his contemporary and his partner in the journey called "life". He knows how to be a man. We spoil each other rotten. We mean the world to each other. We could care less how society views us. Five years of being with him is only the beginning. I am most appreciative of having such a wonderful man and I will NEVER leave his side. I never dreamed that a blind date could lead to this. We've been together ever since. I'm not saying that only white man can "save" black women. I have nothing against black men whatsoever. I'm only saying that I'm happy (ecstatically happy!) with the man I have!

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  49.   crystied says:
    Posted: 15 Feb 08

    The question is loaded with presumptions....it assumes that all white men have the same or a compareable personality type, yet there are variances in black women... a disscusion based on a false premise...comments are interestimg however.

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  50. Posted: 13 Feb 08

    Well speaking as a white male who has only ever dated black woman. I can say that I love how black woman look, but beyond that there has to be an ideological connection otherwise you not being with the whole person. I really don't think all white/black men are stuck in their 'image' of ‘identity’ - what I mean is that I have seen very good black/white guys who treat their woman with great respect and their opposite who don't. But to answer you question I think that in order to meet someone who is moving in the same direction as you then you should be willing to look both inside and outside of your own race (I really don't like the term race, but save that for another day). Do white guys really have more in common? If you're an educated, ambitious and loving you might find men who happen to be white who have these attributes, so these attributes are what you find in common. So is it a numbers game where there are more white guys who have this attitude, then black and if so why? I think that are some sad individuals (black and white) in the world who really don't see the beauty of a woman. Two last points or thoughts - race is an ideological concept there is no fixed position in terms of personality of individuals, yes culture shapes the mind. So what does this say about the lack of good black men or is it just the case that in looking at white men you have found that there is more good men in the world? Ow and why do I only date black woman – truth is I don’t know I just don’t fight it. I found them attractive when I was young and I am very happy with it. I don’t talk rubbish about white girls nor do I only sleep with woman because they are black I need, like you seem to be saying a connection that can hold my attention beyond the bedroom or where ever you do your thing! Take care of you Anthony x

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