Casual encounters online
Are you looking for a steamy, no-strings-attached date? There are many places you can do this. You can either check out the bar scene or do it the convenient way – the internet.
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The internet has made things easy for most of us. And if used well, it can improve your love life and sex life – not only through the streaming of porn, but also getting random hookups. In addition to finding potential mates, more people are now looking for casual encounters online.
Besides the reason of being too busy to check out the bar scene, some people feel that approaching someone in a bar with the purpose of a one-night stand is almost always a losing prospect. Some feel you have to use all seduction techniques known in the book and deal with the consequences of your one-night-only attitude when the other party expects a relationship the next morning.
Does this mean the internet is a godsend if you are looking for something purely physical? Between the bar scene and online, which is the better place to find the right person for your sexual rendezvous. Does it make it any easier to come right out and say that you’re looking for sex and nothing but sex when it’s an online setting? What about safety issues?
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mds1914 says:Posted: 28 Aug 09No matter what the venue of the encounters, there are always going to be the same disparities. 1) Hunters vs lambs 2) The beautiful vs the not so beautiful 3) The wealthy vs the poor We as human beings cannot help but perpetuate these groups no matter where we are. Looks are, for the most of us, going to be the attracting factor; after which we may start delving into the deeper side of the people we meet. If this were not the case, 90% of these sites would not design their sites as meat markets with pictures on the profile dominating the profiles. I see all these women's profiles proclaiming to be on the look for a "real man", intelligent man, a family oriented man etc. If this is what you are truly looking for, you would not be having to depend on this site. It is because you are part of this new generation wanting, fast, quick solutions, that you are on this site. By the way, I consider myself in the same boat. My excuse is that as geophysicist going to work at 5:30 am, working until 4:30 - 5:30, I don't have the time or patience to look for the "right woman", and the not so pretty ones/crazy ones that approach are not good enough; so here I am... So to act as if internet dating is not exactly as we want it, is to lie to one's self. Remember these sites are businesses, if we didn't buy their product, they would no longer be in business... Just a thought
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IKARE711 says:Posted: 30 Jun 09rarestgold - I have had the same experience - and feel the same as you do.
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rarestgold says:Posted: 28 Jun 09
It may not be a proper place but, that's how it's used. I have been approached online by more men looking for just sex (but they don't often say thats all they want right away). For those who are forward about what they want (just sex) I actually appreciate it - that way we don't waste each others time. I don't judge, just not my thing. I know folks don't want to hear it but, we're all grown and if that's what works for you, then hey - but, be careful and wear a rubber okay.
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fkoi says:Posted: 25 Jun 09I'm not sure the Internet is the ideal place to find a purely physical relationship. I mean people here sometimes hide their identity, characteristics, sometimes even their sex. Besides, a laptop is no replacement for someone on top of my lap. I think the most important element missing is chemistry. It is a little hard to determine if their is chemistry without a face-to-face meeting. I'm thinking that the Internet can be a good way to get to know some basics about someone before meeting but if you are prowling just "to get you a little bit" bars might be a better bet. I'll bet I get prettier at closing time! LOL
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homesteader says:Posted: 24 Jun 09
The internet worked for us . The drinking establishment thing , ego trip in youth . Spent more time playing Billiards than looking for Ladies . Being Sober sitting at home was a God given Miracle for Me . Persons under the influence of Too many hours of Leasure time sitting on a stool , would knot seem Reliable . You get what you pay for in Life . Some only came to play / others with a Purpose in mind came to Stay . God Bless this site and what it has accomplished for Us
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IKARE711 says:Posted: 24 Jun 09
I think the internet is a godsend for those looking for physical relationships but a nightmare for those looking for serious relationships - Just think, you don't even have to leave your house - it's like pizza delivery - You can't tell the difference between who is serious and who just wants a sexual encounter - As with the bar scene, people know the right thing to say to get what they want - but then sometimes they have tell signs - Patience is key - I do wish, in my case, a man would say what they want - if it is just sex, say so - The problem is they run the risk of getting over looked by women who want a serious relationship - I think the're are enough who don't want any strings to keep it going for a while but people want what they want - Anyway, it is unsafe to go from partner to partner - After all the same little buggers are out there and HIV is no joke - Many will say "I cover up"; however, as with pregnancy, accidents happen - No matter what you're looking for folks - BE SAFE.
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Well spoken or written mds1914, It is unfortunate that we have become the Nation from a visual prospective, at least some of us..I choose to select (like cattle) the opposite sex by our conversation, how well we vibe and how well he can communicate with me on a mature, educated level. Yes, not many guys (unfortunately) can bring it as I am accustomed too, but that does deter me. I often find pleasure in just chatting with guys but often times their only interest is on a sexual level, and there is nothing wrong with that! However, this is not my sole purpose for being on sites such as this....