We eventually worked it out
Some say not every man is incapable of being faithful and yet day in day out, there goes another cheater. Its kinda worrying coz we have reached the point where nothing surprises us anymore.
So he says he's going on business at some coastal state. And when she runs into his business partner, he looks surprised when asked why he didn’t join her hubby for the trip. And since men are quick to cover up their pals a**es, he recovers quickly with “Oh yeah! The Hawaii trip? I couldn’t make it.᾿
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The wife decides it is time to bust someone’s behind. So she gangs up with her pal and the pal calls her husband playing the receptionist of the hotel he’s been staying in; “The lady who accompanied you forgot a bracelet in the room. Should we forward it to you?᾿ And the hubby answers in the affirmative. FRIED!!!
So the wiffy sets off screams, curses, threats … Mhh. I think they will work things out. Well all that passion and hateful fury could only be set off by someone we care about. It’s a vicious cycle: Anger – Love making (for a few weeks) + disdainful looks + her spending a whole load of the man’s cash = FORGIVENESS.
So the pal calls her to do some follow up. And there started the we-eventually-worked-it-out story. So before tell tells, she takes her pal to some posh restaurant in order to blow more of the hubby’s cash. “I no longer save my husbands money,᾿ says the wife, looking every inch like a pampered princess. “Why should I? So he can take his whores on holiday?᾿
And as she summons the waiter, her pal gets a glimpse of one humongous rock on her finger. Well after the pal compliments her on her newly acquired piece of jewelry, she tells her she quit her job for a better one – a woman of leisure.
Just to understand the story, the pal asks “Do you still love him?᾿ Startled she asks incredulously “Love him?᾿ Then she lets out a sigh. “Girl, what has love ever had to do with it?᾿
So why all the emotional outburst when she busted his cheating a** :roll: “Honey, I’m all decked out in diamonds. Do you think I’d have pulled this off without all that emotional drama?᾿ And as if to make her point much clearer, she says she married her husband for many reasons … loves wasn’t one of them. “And besides, what he can do, I can do better. Men aren’t the only beings that cheat you know.᾿
Well, that I didn’t see coming when I was told the ‘we-eventually-worked-it-out’ story.
Seriously, is this how we work things out these days? Well, according to this woman, diamonds do buy happiness. :roll: I resign!
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espanolcocoa says:Posted: 18 Jun 08
Unfortunane, but it happens more often then spoke about
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kenyanito says:Posted: 09 May 08blkbeauty31, its discouraging but many of us even on this site i believe must have undergone this at one time or the other.
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blkbeauty31 says:Posted: 27 Apr 08Sorry guys, this one was rather discouraging for me. I know it is a reality, but I am sooo an idealist. ; (
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Majestic_one says:Posted: 22 Apr 08ok, i thought i was the only one thinking this way. like i have said i say again. we have become a disposable society. we replace rather than work it out. and now we use emotional games to get our point across. i must be a dinosaur. i thought u married for love not convience. i thought u married for companionship, not a business deal. i thought two people come together because they want to spend the rest of their lives together... not because they want to make the other pay for hurting them. like i said, i must be a dinosaur. if this is true for how people are gearing themselves these days, then something must be wrong with me...not them.
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lilo4love says:Posted: 16 Apr 08
We all have different ways of dealing with cheating partners. Lol
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Snazzybella says:Posted: 09 Apr 08this is the crazy! but it happens sooo often in life.
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girlsixdiva says:Posted: 08 Apr 08LOL..yeah that might have been a reason he cheated on her!
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fkoi says:Posted: 07 Apr 08girlsixdiva and Cloe27 were really the most on point with this one. Michael Jackson in elevator shoes sporting criminally negligent baggys. If your spouse cheats, you are married to a cheater and that needs some readjustment. It can be done by divorce, therapy or diamonds but "It was only once" or "It will never happen again" don't feed the bulldog. And if that part of the marriage vows can so easily be discarded, of what other moral and ethical shortcuts is your spouse capable? The prognosis isn't good. Trying to work it out should be happening long before a tryst in Maui (if he had taken his wife there instead, we probably wouldn't have this blog to comment on).
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Cloe27 says:Posted: 07 Apr 08Girlsixdiva, "she" does look like Michael Jackson from behind. And what's up with those pants! I don't care if that's a man or woman, those saggy khakis is the crime. Back on topic here, its a shame when women can let their hearts be bought by a few trinkets. At this point her man has a free pass to loan his crotch out to whoever he chooses. As long as he's willing to pay for it and I'm not talking about paying the other woman. I'm referring to wifey.
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mosche says:Posted: 06 Apr 08
I agree with HereIamBaby! AND get to know the person before you get involve (date, live together, and/or marry). Too many times, people want the "instant" relationship and rush to marry. They don't even know this person and they didn't ask all the hard questions to find out about them. I am a firm believer that people tell you how they are in the beginning of any relationship. It is up to you to LISTEN and HEAR what they are telling you. It is not that they are 'not getting what they need at home', they basically told you in the beginning how they are and what they will do. They (cheaters) give clues with their actions and their words. Ask all the hard questions up front and really listen to the answers! :) mosche
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HereIamBaby says:Posted: 05 Apr 08WOW lots of pro's and con's on this one...bottom line...men and women are apples and oranges...just try to pick a good one and one that knows what loyality and honor mean. And that they realize what their vows are. I don't know if infidelity are the crimes of the century...but the possibilites of bringing home a STD are! I have never understood why people don't use all of that energy of an affair towards their marriage! Just think of how it would further cement your marriage. OH well, never let the sun go down withyour anger. Southern smiles and world peace, Sharon
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oscarwilde says:Posted: 05 Apr 08thats quite a nice stereotype listing standard situation which is valid as long as men and women are living together.In earlier times only both kept quiet and ignored it as long as there was not outing in public which derived the women of her status. I dont say that was honest and even but it was a way to deal with it. Nowadays we have relationships and marriages having to last 2 generations basically, but i know of many occasions where one or may be both still love their partner because it is still the person they are accustomed to for very long time and still share a lot together but do not want to end up with letting live go with many wishes and dreams unfullfilled. Since men are said to be the more sex driven gender and still the main money maker in the family they probably have the greater appetite for someone younger, spicier and newer that fires them up again and they have the cash to do so. I find it quite naive to reduce things in such a simple way like cheaper - faithfull one. Every relationship is kind of special in its desires and fabric esp. when you have modern enlightened couples which do not have so many traditional hang ups. Later in live a relationship can as well be a friendship with some sexual connection, but its a tough job to get there because its always two involved to work out the individual basis you stand on and that touches so many aspects of intimacy, trust and faith which kind whatever. I believe our societies have to learn to overcome these role models to give people space to breath without putting someone automatically into the good guy bad guy mold.
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Bronx347 says:Posted: 05 Apr 08
Bottom line is women are the choosers and you have to look at what they're choosing in a mate. This woman probably nexted and bypassed and ignored a lot of "good men" to get with the dog she ended up with. Since it seems that men are being generalized as cheaters, it's only fair for some comeback generalizations: women tend to choose men based on PRIMARILY what the dude can provide her. IT'S ALL ABOUT THE DOUGH! The problem is this wealth potential is absolutely no indicator of compatibility or whether he's a solid person, in terms of relationships. But hey, women will still gamble because, let's face it, the odds in marriage are tipped in their favor anyway. Whether he OR SHE cheats, she's gonna get paid one way or the other (even in spite of a prenupt, which we all know can be overturned with the right judge). So, somebody wanna explain again how she's the victim?
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outpass35 says:Posted: 04 Apr 08I agre if you don't love a person why have sex with them why use them, I always put myself in someone elses shoes when it comes to things like this How would I feel if someone did this to me?
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girlsixdiva says:Posted: 04 Apr 08
Does anyone else think that "woman" in that picture looks like Michael Jackson from behind?
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secsibiotch says:Posted: 03 Apr 08
I've heard the "whats love got to do with it?" from women on this site, more often than not. Appears to be a sign of the times.
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redwoodswede says:Posted: 02 Apr 08
“Girl, what has love ever had to do with it?᾿ And there's the basic problem right there. This woman sounds like a gold-digger to me. Some guys cheat because they're assholes. But it also happens that otherwise decent men cheat because they're not getting what they want/need out of their relationship. Contrary to popular culture, us men want love too; we're not just in it for the sex. Stories like this are the reason I sometimes think a pre-nuptial agreement should be mandatory, or that couples should be put through trials before they get married. It boils down to this: if you don't really love somebody, don't have sex with them. And don't even think about marrying them.
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