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Sex for resources – Is it genetic?

Posted by Ria, 12 May

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Biology says it's not about bling, it's about surviving

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Ever watched relations between penguins on National Geographic or something? The females ONLY mate with the males that bring pebbles to build their nests. I mean, we are higher species … So why does it come as a surprise when we humans, trade sex for resources?

According to new research from the University of Michigan, when it comes to trading sex and resources we are like penguins. Evolution is why ladies not aint messin with no broke a**es! The abstract goes:

Adults in many species exhibit exchanges in reproductively relevant currencies, where males trade resources for sexual relations with females, and females have sex with males in exchange for provisioning.

500 undergraduate students at the University of Michigan who participated in the study admitted to having entertained the thought of what they could offer in exchange for sex or what they could gain from banging someone.

Studies about sex for resources in other species, kinda gives credibility to the description of prostitution as “the world’s oldest profession.᾿ Forget prostitution even … think of the bride price that a man pays the father in law to be to secure the woman. And in more western countries … the diamond ring proposals. These arrangements entail a long-term commitment to the monopolization of reproductive currencies by each partner.

Much as transactional approach is no longer effective especially in first world societies, just the thought of the exchange proved that the biological urge for females to mate with the most eligible providers still persists. And male are still And males are still motivated to offer potential mates stuff … be it funds, food, diamonds, pebbles, just to secure the female’s affection and approval.

So is gold digging some biological or genetic thing?

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  1.   homesteader says:
    Posted: 09 Mar 09

    In the Beginning of my younger years / My first jobs in Life were ; washing dishes , serving food on a steamtable line and Learning to Cook . Being Blessed as an Honest Man , I also learned to do laundry , change diapers and Teach My children Well . Are not Resources the things a Man can do for a Woman / Without her having to ask ? Many things come to the table in Life as not having to be told that which a Man or that which a Woman brings with themselves to a Loving Relationship . These are what We Learned bye watching our parents as we grew older in everyday Life . I saw my Mother and Father equally do the chores to raise me and my brother . To be Happy , Responsible Adults . Were these actions missing in Your early years or is it that nobody Learned from Example ?

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  2.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 23 May 08

    Well said MissJamaica.

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  3.   fkoi says:
    Posted: 21 May 08

    As the economic paradigm has shifted from pebbles to dollars so has the requirements for survival. For species survival we don't need same things we did when the ability to bring home the mastodon bacon determined whether or not we would get through the winter. The larger issue is whether or not an individual has "evolved" enough to take of his or her business. If I take up with someone who does not know how to be self-supporting, I have to accept the consequences of that. Gold-digging is a way of life for some, both diggers and diggees. It is one way of defining a relationship but to me is one of the many shallow definitions. I'd have to talk to those penguins though. Maybe she really digs him because he looks so good in a tux.

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  4.   TheVisionary says:
    Posted: 18 May 08

    And Thank you, MissJ!

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  5.   MissJamaica says:
    Posted: 18 May 08

    Thanks fala! :)

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  6.   lexipie says:
    Posted: 18 May 08

    I resent that anyman would think I was a gold digger. I have an IQ of 145 and can get my own gold and platinum too! However, what I do resent is that someone would think that I was stupid enough to begin anything more than a very casual friendship with someone who was unemployed, by choice, with no assets, little or no education, no trade, no card, no money and bad credit. I understand that everyone needs a helping hand and I can give that hand to a man or woman without having give any money or material support. Your life is what you make it and you have to make it on your own.

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  7.   fala says:
    Posted: 18 May 08

    That sounds about right.

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  8.   MissJamaica says:
    Posted: 18 May 08

    I am with Kanzan and visionary 200 PERCENT! And i find it so restrictive and ridiculous that in these types of discussions, people only look at extremes. "a woman who's only with me for material things"... Reality is it's not just about material things...what if she's looking at you for your skills in bed, your religious compatibility, your similar level of education, AND your material things? what then? I can tell you right now I am working on a college degree and have already been through the "let's try to build and both start with nothing much" story...I don't have the kind of life that will allow me to pick up someone who can't even help me with the babysitter fees it costs to date him, or must have me pick him up in my car for a date (and don't get it twisted, i am perfectly fine with meeting a guy at the destination for a date, so i can leave when i am good and ready and not a moment later)...if we get married and both of us trying to get kids to school and daycare, then to our separate jobs, on one car...that will not work. One car per household only works with a stay at home mom. A man trying to talk to me needs to have at least as much as I have. That means independent transportation, and either be working fulltime in a sustainable career field, or be in school getting qualified for it. If i am between jobs, not in school, and my car is in the shop or whatever...i don't feel that is a right time to be meeting any guys. And it's not even expected of me to pay a guy's way, but i just don't feel anyone should be dating with no money in their pocket, no matter who is paying. All relationships should be one where both add value in every way possible to the other person's life. I would hope guys use the same common sense i try to have and don't try to talk to me with their own life out of order. Only if they are pursuing higher education (and not in a b.s. major either) do i make exceptions.

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  9.   lovely2see says:
    Posted: 17 May 08

    It would be nice if people could live on love alone but in reality our world simple doesnt spin that way.

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  10.   blkbeauty31 says:
    Posted: 17 May 08

    Yeh Kanzan!...cuz luvin dont payda rent!

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  11.   pam776 says:
    Posted: 15 May 08

    Sorry, people I didn't answer the question did I? No, golddigging is not genetic it is a choice.

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  12.   pam776 says:
    Posted: 15 May 08

    There are goldiggers and they are male and female. I say: Take care of youself and if someone buys you things that's good but if the don't that's cool too. Because if there is something you want or need you as a man or women should be able to obtain it for yourself. I love for men to buy me things, what woman doesn't but, I don't need men to buy me things!!! My Momma taught me well!

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  13.   TheVisionary says:
    Posted: 15 May 08

    BTW, I work out, but that doesn't mean I'm broke, ladies! LOL

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  14.   TheVisionary says:
    Posted: 15 May 08

    Hang on a bit- there is something everyone seems to be overlooking here- there are plenty of broke guys getting action because they look good. They work out, or work hard and build muscle, but "ain't got no money in tha bank" so to speak. The common thread is all woman are subconsciously (but of course many consciously) attracted to good "breeding stock". A man who looks healthy and strong means strong children. A man who is not physically strong has to have some money, that means good security, so the kids (and herself) are not hungry or without shelter and so forth. The important thing to realize here is not that a woman should be considered a gold digger or 'ho because of these, but that any man who does not get this concept and has nothing to offer a woman for breeding is the runt of the litter. Man up and quit hatin' on the ladies! Of course, there are people who are just stupid or careless... they are not included in this bit.

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  15.   cocokisses says:
    Posted: 14 May 08

    Takinitall, I could not have said it better! Thank you for expressing my sentiments...EXACTLY!

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  16.   lilo4love says:
    Posted: 14 May 08

    I could not have said it better Kanzan. :-D

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  17.   Kanzan says:
    Posted: 14 May 08

    This may come as a shock being that Im a man, but I think that more women SHOULD be making better decisions about the man they are choosing to sleep with and YES that includes his resources. Too many women end up on welfare because they chose to be impregnated by some unaccomplished dead-beat who has no qualms about alienating himself from paternal responsibilities and couldnt do any thing even if he was around. Currently though, we expect women to be just as accomplished or at least she can be just as accomplished as a man, so our culture has surpassed the biological aspects of the penguin. Then again, there are alot of women in America who could still learn alot from a Penguin.~@@!

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  18.   Takinitall says:
    Posted: 14 May 08

    Let's be realistic, nobody wants to be used or abused. It's not that we are goldiggers, because we want a financially secure man. Remember the article posted here a while back on STD's (Sexually Transdmitted Debt's), I definitely am not trying to catch one of those. Guys stop thinking a woman is using you, because she asks you to do something for her. Relationships should be a two way street. Most women are naturally nuturing, but we tend to repress it to avoid being used or attracting a looser man. As for me, I am financially secure and value my credit and things I have worked hard for. I have no problem sharing with my partner but he has to bring something to the table as well. No woman wants a broke, insecure or selfish man. Therefore, if you are not prepared to share and care for your woman then you shouldn't have one. My mother allways said "what one won't do another one will". So take care of what's yours and cherish it, if not don't be surprised when it's gone. Like most women I need to be spoiled and have no problem doing the same. The problem is finding a partner who is ready to get in the trenches and work hard to make life better for each other. Well good luck in your search everyone!

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  19.   sharon says:
    Posted: 14 May 08

    GOLDDIGGING...has nothing to do with love, sex, or marriage...it is about greed and selfiness. If there is a barter and it is acceptable then that is between those two people...but it won't last and one side is not going to feel good! I say be up front then all are comfortable. IF that is what you are looking for. Southern smiles, Sharon

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  20.   ethereal99 says:
    Posted: 13 May 08

    Goldigging? I blame it all on TV. (As in television, not tranvestites). People see things & think that's how it should be. It is more natural for couples to work together to accomplish things.

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  21.   lovely2see says:
    Posted: 13 May 08

    Its a survival thing. It has been from the beginning of time. As love and monogamy continue to plummit in relationships, I believe woman continue to weight the balances in regards to social exchange.

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  22.   warmguyinfl says:
    Posted: 12 May 08

    In my opinion it's neither, I'll explain why. A women's body is a resource. So in essence we are talking about exchanging resources. Exchanging resources happens continually, we all exchange resources every day of our lives. In this case we are focusing on one type of exchange, a body used for sexual purposes and some form of currency, valuable object, or favor. The fact that one resource is a body used for sexual purposes is only an issue because of societies view of it. Society as a whole generally thinks it's wrong for people to exchange certain types of resources such as money for sex. Let's not forget that there are men that accept money from women in exchange for sexual favors. Is that a genetic trait or biological characteristic of women? I say no, it's primarily the economic law of supply and demand just as exchanging money for food is. Take away societies view of this and we have a simple transaction. We each have something the other is lacking. To me the term gold digger is synonymous with scammer. A women or man pretends to be in love with someone but in reality all he/she is interested in is material gains. How people can do that is beyond me, to me that's just evil. It's not evil because they want material things, it's evil because they don't care what the impact is on another human being. Now if you are talking about mating, material resources can be a major or minor factor in the selection process. To me this depends on a persons values, what is important to a person, and a persons own ability to provide material resources for themselves.

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  23.   SxyWhtTiger says:
    Posted: 12 May 08

    I don't think gold digging is biological or a genetic thing. I think gold digging is all about the persons upbringing and their outlook on life. Any relationship with a person should be about the person not what the person can offer. I personally won't date or have any kind of relationship with somebody if they are only after me for just materialistic wants and needs. Just because I can't buy you something or be your bank doesn't mean that I don't have something to offer you. Also I won't say that I will not buy something for somebody but that I won't buy for personal gain or a hidden agenda.

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